Gary Vee: Video Optimization

Grrr! While I was reading this, I smacked the couch that I’m sitting on and face-palmed myself.  I realized that the reason why I’m probably not getting returning listeners is because I’m not optimizing to the full effect that I should be.


“DESCRIPTIONS: Are the top two lines of the description keyword optimized? Are there links to other similar videos or playlists in the description? Is there a subscribe link? Are there links to your other social-media accounts? Are all of the links clickable and trackable?”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

Ahhh! My links are not clickable or trackable, that’s why my content writer told me, “you really need tabs on your website and put everything in one place.”

Because I hadn’t been doing that as of late, I haven’t been getting 100% of what YouTube has to offer.  Sure, I put the key words, but I’m still trying to figure out the keyword optimization.

Is there a subscription link? Nope! However, I did find out how to make it on YouTube.  So, within the last twenty minutes, I’ve made links for practically everything.  From my blogs, to my ESL podcasts.  They’re ready to go on “NOTES” in my Mac and ready for the copy and pasting.  This is a very important part, people.

“TAGS: Are there at least ten tags in the description? Are both one-word and phrase tags included? Do the tags accurately reflect the video’s content? Are the tags valuable, that is, do they have high search volumes but low competition? You can find this out by using tools like VidIQ, Google Adwords Keyword Planner, and” – Gary Vee

So, with my podcasts I have to put the tags separately from what I get on YouTube.  Because I haven’t been putting that many tags on my YouTube, my viewership minute shave been slashed in HALF. Yes, half! It could be because I’m not posting anymore videos, but I’m honestly focusing more on my FB page and ESL podcast because this is what’s getting a lot of attention anyways.

Anywho, do your tags have high search volumes? Example, for the pessimists out there that make videos about Kim Jong Un, they’re more than likely to have a video go viral than someone who’s radiating positivity.  Nonetheless, video tags are just as important.

“YOUTUBE CARDS: To extend watch time on your channel, are you including YouTube cards within your video to drive traffic to other relevant videos you’ve posted?”

BANNER: Does the banner accurately reflect the channel’s content and genre? Does the graphic transfer well to all devices?
ABOUT SECTION/CHANNEL DESCRIPTION: Are the top two lines keyword optimized? Is the first paragraph an overview of the channel? Have you included the upload schedule? Are all of the social-media links clickable? (They don’t have to be trackable.)
PLAYLISTS: Does the channel have custom playlists? Do the playlists have keyword-optimized descriptions? Are the playlists featured on the landing page of the channel?
CHANNEL TRAILER: Is a channel trailer displayed on the landing page? Does the channel trailer accurately reflect the channel’s content and genre? Is the channel trailer telling the best story in the shortest amount of time?”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

Now, it’s time to hop to it!

Facebook 201: For My International Audience, Consider This!

Gary Vee goes in with praising FB live.  I have to admit, it is much better than Twitter live, which attracts trolls from left to right.  FB live gives you the chance to develop your personality, self-confidence, and show case your speaking skills.  You don’t have to be in front of a 100 person live audience.  You can do it on FB and be in front of a small camera.  This is great for the development of confidence, especially for the newer generation which has become confidently challenged.

Facebook live can also be used as a vimeo.  For business owners out there, including one of my most recent interview with Wodbudsuds, they can utilize it and show the foundation or how everything is created.  This is a great marketing tool.

A lot of you can also see those LinkedIn pages and Instagrammers that put outlandish titles in their description, claiming they’re the best of their respective field.  However, you don’t see them showcasing themselves in videos? It’s like the 100k followers on Instagram, Twitter and other platforms….but no videos? I can’t google your name? Not even one search comes up? Yeah….not good.

If you’re a mentor or coach like me, you will want to get in front of fans and show them who you are.  It’s like someone who creates test preparation courses, but has no videos on HOW they teach them? Doesn’t make any sense, right? If you’re a dog trainer, create dog training videos.  If you’re a mentor, create videos of you giving 1 on 1’s.  Have a show of some sort and show people what type of feedback you would give them, such as what I’m doing every Sunday pretty soon with my British sidekick.

Whatever it is you do, show people you do it and show them that you’re not all talk. You’re not just a “founder” or “CEO” of something that doesn’t exist.

“Collaborate. If you are building a brand based on jokes, cooking, bikes, extreme sports, or bathing suits—anything—go to the top of Facebook and do searches on terms that are relevant to your business. Find the fan pages with the most followers, message them, and make them an incredible offer that makes it worth their while to share your original content on their platform or to work with you in other ways. For example, if you’re a biker and you get a viral hit on your post about how a motorcycle helmet saved your life, the best thing you could do would be to spend hours getting in touch with every single popular motorcycle fan page and offering them a brilliantly funny PSA about helmets to share on their page. Collaborating through Facebook is a strategic move that has enormous potential to quickly build your audience.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

For my internationals….

Seriously, if you’re living in Burundi, Madagascar, Mauritius, Malta, Estonia, Jersey or places unknown to the ear, you can be putting out pillars of content of your country.  Here’s Gary Vee.

“You start by creating a pillar piece of content. In this case, your ideal pillar would be a weekly audio podcast that people can listen to as they drive around town scoping out neighborhoods. Biweekly would be OK, and monthly would be better than nothing, but you know that the more content you put out, the more opportunities you can create. (Stay with me here—you’ll see, Facebook is the star in this story.)
Your podcast explores the minutiae of daily living in and around Sacramento and establishes you as the “virtual-content mayor” of the city. Local residents tune in to hear your take on their beloved city. One day you might review restaurants and local dishes, on another you’ll dig into the history of the city, and on another you’ll interview local influencers. From then on, whenever anyone wants to know more about Sacramento or its future, everyone knows you’re the person to contact, because you’ve made it clear that no one knows the city better or loves it more than you.

As you’re doing your stories about the people, places, or things that make Sacramento a unique, vibrant place to live, you take notes and highlight details from each podcast that can be turned into ancillary pieces of content. For example, if you interview the superintendent of the school district and he mentions that five of its teachers recently received prestigious national awards, you’ve found another piece of content. Track down those five teachers, take their picture, and create a Facebook post that asks, “Did you know that five Sacramento School District teachers have been nationally recognized for excellence in education?” You include a link to your podcast interview with the school superintendent. More and more Sacramentans learn who you are and become regular listeners. When one of them finds out that his friend’s family is moving to town because his wife got a job transfer, he forwards the podcast link so they can learn more about the school district. Suddenly, a family who will need to buy a home has your voice in their ear and your contact information at their fingertips. That cycle repeats over and over until, within five years, you’re so established as the primo real estate expert of Sacramento that your new business comes in almost exclusively by referral.

Then you make more content. You go out and film or photograph the places you talk about in each podcast and post the files to Facebook. You link your podcast to the images, so that now people who don’t already live in the city can see for themselves what these areas look like without having to go anywhere else on the Internet.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

Gary Vee: Vlogging & Online Trolls

Gary Vee explained his early days of Wine Library TV such as the evolution of my podcast.

In his very early stages, he was very timid and acted, I guess you can say, in a professional manner.  Dozens of episodes down the line, you can see a picture of Joe Frazier and Ali fighting in the background.  He was later caught on TV, cheering for the Jets selection of an offensive lineman in 2006.  It extended to something much more than just wine.

So, if you hear my early podcast episodes, you can hear how terrified I was.  My voice, introduction, and the way I carried myself just wasn’t normal whatsoever because the audience at that time were sex/wife tourists here in Thailand just ACHING to hear me say something negative.

Nonetheless, when I began evolving, I started laying alot of things out there in terms of my primary job at the time.  I still won’t admit to this day what I said, but yes, the fools fit the description. I worked with a bunch of old men who complained about every single detail possible about Thailand and I used them as an example to why you should drop out of the “ain’t it awful/bitch party.”

I later got in “trouble” and I continued on by making references to older jobs but talking about the same men. LOL!!! Smart, right?

Anywho, in present day, I talked very openly about some things that could be deemed as controversial.  Yes, I kind of cuss just a tad more, but I still apologize after using the profanity.  I use it only as a point of emphasis.

“As you can see, the delivery, quality, and content of Wine Library TV changed over time. I gave the show time to evolve. I gave myself time to get comfortable and relax into the format. I gave myself time to get to know my audience and listen to what it was saying. It has been pointed out to me that my first video was ten times better than some people’s hundredth in terms of quality and content. Maybe, but again, quality is subjective; some people are successful despite being complete idiots because the public loves to watch them be idiots. For sure I’m coherent and you can tell I know my shit. That was definitely a good start, but remember, there is no way I could have known that I’d be good on video at the time. If I had sat on my idea of starting a wine show and worried and second-guessed myself, I could have probably found a hundred reasons not to do it. Thank God I didn’t stop to do any of that but went with my gut. YouTube isn’t going to make you charismatic and interesting, but it will expose you if you are.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

And then….

“Listen to your audience. Ultimately, it all boils down to this: don’t let perfection be your enemy. Do not be another dreamer who puts up ten episodes, gets trolled or ignored, gets discouraged, and takes the channel down. For God’s sake, give yourself a fair chance to succeed.”

BOOM! Please, for all of you out there, listen to these words.

My main man from LETSGETMADETV recently made a video about this.  Don’t let someone come on your channel and start trying to take over.  It’s like those Instagrammers who post “one word” on famous celebs just so someone can click their bio and follow them.

Trolls, which come in herds, will always be out there.  Have I attracted any trolls to my channel? Well, I made a survey last week and I had American trolls giving my ESL podcast bad ratings and left an email that said “”  This is simply an insecure rat trying to gain attention that his parents never gave him.  It’s a shoulder shrug.  They don’t exist and they probably live in the most rural/isolated towns of the world, completely ostricized and shunned out of society because they’re socially inept.

People in present day are still posting on Gary Vee’s channel saying this….

“This guy got all his money from his daddy, and didn’t do any of the stuff he is selling to you. I guess watch the videos for free, but don’t give this guy any of your money.” – Attention Seeker WITH A KID.

Yes, this man has a KID and he unwittingly posts disgraceful comments on social media, completely misrepresenting himself as a father.  If you click on his bio and scroll down, he’s an NRA supporter and shrugs off gun violence in America.

Need I say more?

Don’t get thrown off my faceless human beings who are in complete shambles in their world!

“Every single thing that has ever happened on television can happen on YouTube. You can break out as a pop star. You can be a filmmaker. You can become Billy Mays, the infomercial pitchman. You want to become a morning TV star? Start a morning TV show on YouTube. You want to be the next Dr. Drew? Start a Q&A show. You want to be the next Rachael Ray, Oprah, Tavis Smiley, or Chris Hardwick? Then start cooking, mentoring, interviewing, or talking pop culture on YouTube. Tomorrow.” – Gary Vee


Gary Vee: YouTube

Oh, yes! Shall I give the story again before we get into the Gary Vee details? Fine.

Yes, this was the video that started EVERYTHING!

So, it goes a little something like this.

Back in 2015, something told me to make a YouTube video.  Not sure what it was, but I think it was an influence from a prior Irish teacher who told me to “utilize all my skills.”  I did.  I paid, also, for some views and tried getting people to notice my vide.  Well, after 100 views later and a couple weeks, I completely forgot about it.

Not only that, but my “boss” told me I couldn’t use this for intents and purposes outside the classroom (and I should’ve quit right there on the spot, too).  I kept it up and forgot about it.

Well, last year I told my students, “hey, I got a couple videos on YouTube!”  My students at Toshiba, a place where the managers were complete d*** heads (excuse my language), told me to put it on the projector.  I did.  I super imposed it before my jaw DROPPED.

Viewership was at 2.5k views for this specific video. Yeah, not much for those millionaire viewers out there, but I was amazed.  I began checking the analytics and saw that Indonesia was the highest on there, followed by USA and dozens of other countries.  I hadn’t had an idea up to that point on how I can check such analytics, either.  That was October last year.

Today, the video above topped 7k views, but since I recorded it a long time ago, I can’t put end screen annotations to attract more of them to my channel (frustrating). Nonetheless, I got serious again making videos.  All of my podcasts get uploaded to the same channel along with other health & wellness videos.  I then began to attach blogs and all links below in the descriptions and downloaded an app to make the thumbnails.

Since then, minutes, countries and everything together have gone up about 400%.

Am I getting paid? Absolutely not. YouTube put up regulations whereas only the top earners can make money while shitting on everyone else.  That’s fair.  I use it as a platform.

“Please, even if you don’t think you’re video material, give the platform a try. So many people don’t think of themselves as cameraworthy, but vlogging and documenting doesn’t demand that you be glamorous or beautiful or really superficially special at all. Have you looked at what’s out there? Aside from the beauty bloggers, the bodybuilders, and the rising pop idols—in other words, aside from everyone in an industry where your looks really matter—everyone on YouTube looks pretty damned ordinary. There are vloggers with disfiguring tumors, vloggers with disabilities, vloggers of all ages and shapes. Vlogging is a terrific way to document instead of create, which means that literally anyone can do it. You don’t need to be accomplished (at least not in the way 99 percent of you reading this define accomplishment) to break out on this platform because, remember, when you’re documenting and not creating, you’re allowed to learn as you go. You don’t have to be an expert (yet). You don’t have to be successful (yet). The only thing you really do have to do is make the road to getting there interesting.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

Gary Vee: “Quit Your Bulls*** Job Because You Can Always Get Another One”

Posters comments on Gary Vee’s LinkedIn page.

“I disagree, why I didn’t like my jobs last ten years it don’t fit my needs.  So i quit for another low paying job so on due to lack of skills.  One time it took me two month to get a job.  Yes I was out there 40 hr week looking for a job.  So no cant quit my job which i would love to unless miracle happens.” – Anonymous Poster

I’m not sure if English is this particular individuals native tongue, but you can probably see why it’s so difficult for him to find a job.  No offence.  He said he “lacks skills,” well I would definitely get an academic writing book and giddy up on the skills I don’t have.  I think it’s necessary to write at least decent English as a native speaker.  Sure, Gary Vee is one of those who doesn’t write (and he has admitted it), so he gets someone else to write and he does what he’s amazing at.

I don’t like the excuses, bottomline.  You can see where this particular individuals mindset is.  Low paying job, lack of skills, can’t quit my job….but yet there’s nothing he’s doing about not “having” skills.  It’s like the hard-labor workers who work in slave heat in Dubai (and are from Bangladesh).  It’s like the Cambodians and Burmese who work here in Thailand for 10$ a day (and many people say that they’re actually better workers than most Thai men)…..countries outsource for cheaper labor….got it….but don’t be that person who’s working for the cheap labor.

“What’s a bs job though?”  -Anonymous User

Basically it’s a job where the CEO has billions and you make an hourly wage.  It’s a job that machines will have within 25 years.  Autonomous cars, banking tellers, McDonalds (and ALL fast-food restaurants), and everything you get paid an hourly wage for.  Working is the worst possible way to earn money — period.

“Not sure who this guy is but why would anyone be asking him permission to do anything.

Many people don’t quit their jobs because they have bills to pay.  Some people enjoy their jobs and many people cannot find good jobs that will pay to keep the standard of living they are accustomed to.

People like this think that it is simple to just quit and move on.  Newsflash, there may not be any opportunities or opening.

There are many history major graduates who work as cooks.

So go ahead and quit but if you think you are going to just be able to find exactly what you want at the pay you need at the drop of a hat then you are sadly mistaken.

My explanation of this is in my podcast, because this man needs great help.

“Please if you do see this post know that it’s the message inside about taking barriers out of your life not the title of the post itself that I was interested in.

My current job is not bullshit and I respect myself and employment enough that I wouldn’t post things online that would offend my employer.”

You, sir, have a bullshit job.


Gary Vee: Twitter

Listen, I was never — AND I MEAN NEVER — a fan of twitter.  Everyday back in 2010, when I was YOUNG, I would see one of the TV (that thing they call television) anchors always make remarks about Twitter (in a funny and joyful way).  I kept saying, “psshhh I’m not using that!”  Well, because I created a podcast and a blog (this one) that’s connected to it, Twitter became my THING.  I never really connected with anyone, nor did I came about following any of those “hollywood actors,” but the beautiful part about it is you can communicate with others through comments they post on someone else’s tweet.

For instance, Lewis Howes, who’s very well-known, posts amazing questions in the morning (evening my time).  The questions allows people to communicate their thoughts through his tweet feed, ultimately gets quite a few likes, and then you bring traffic into you.  I’m not exactly sure when, but there was one time that someone liked my tweet. It was either from my podcast or blog.  Nonetheless, her name was Lisa Cypers, a lady who runs HH Harvesting Happiness radio, which is a daily/weekly show about emanating positivity.  I linked up with her and if it stands, she’ll be coming on my podcast for the first time next week.

That’s right.  That’s the power of Twitter.

However, do I send direct messages often on Twitter? No.  I don’t.  That comes more with Instagram.

Gary Vee’s Twitter Advantages

It’s a complete and trustworthy directory. The platform has been around long enough to have perfected its verification system, which gives it a better search function. You can still spend a lot of time guessing whether the Instagram account you’re targeting is real or not.

Its retweet feature offers a remarkable opportunity to create instant awareness. Let’s say you make a YouTube mash-up of the rapper Logic’s music videos. It’s unlikely he’s going to see it, even if he’s tagged. Share the mash-up on Twitter, however, and the retweets can propel your video to dramatic virality, the kind that even the biggest influencers notice. This kind of word of mouth does not exist on Instagram or Snapchat and is enormously beneficial to content creators.

Not only that, you can try to spark that word of mouth many, many more times on Twitter than on other platforms. I post three, maybe four times per day on Instagram, but there are days when I could post forty-seven times on Twitter. The fact that it’s as welcoming to the written word as to pictures gives content creators the flexibility and leeway to increase the volume of their storytelling.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

Remember, you’re just a comment away from being big, literally.  If you follow some of the big names, you can potentially still the show.  I do the same thing with Instagram, but if there are 5k comments on “The Rock’s” Instagram photo, more than likely I won’t get noticed.  Twitter is far more personal.


Gary Vee: Get Discovered

“You need to understand something: when you’re starting with nothing, you will find that your absolute breakthrough opportunities will be developed in two ways:

By the smart use of hashtags, a strategy that requires an unbelievably long grind.

By direct-messaging, i.e., reaching out directly to people and offering something of value in return for their attention, a strategy that requires an unbelievably long grind.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

I told you the story about Nattakul, my student who’s now studying in New Zealand.

Hashtags are incredibly important, but so are collaborations.

“It’s the second one that I believe holds the most promise, which is why, whenever possible, I’ve included instructions on how to collaborate and business-develop within each platform we discuss in this book. Collaborations are the absolutely most tried-and-true way to grow a fan base quickly—quickly being a relative term. In most cases, you should count on this process taking years, not months. If that bothers you, close the book.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

So, when I first started doing my podcasts, I never did collaborations until one day I got a message on Instagram from a stylist in Texas.  That’s been a year.  After that, I had another entrepreneur who was making her own facial cream come onto my podcast and then my main man Mike, who’s another podcaster.

The very compelling podcasts had to be Wodbudsuds, which is a start-up business that makes soap; and Bioquark, a cell-regenerative company.  Teemaree and I had the most heart-felt podcast and I can feel her energy just radiating through my ears.  I’ve interviewed some interesting trainers/CEO’s here in BKK…..but none of them really stuck with me in terms of bringing in their listeners.

HOWEVER, I then made an oath to bring in as many accents as humanly possible onto my ESL podcast.  Now, this is what happened!

I had a 20-year-old student from Libya come on and talk about learning English and traveling to New York.  She wanted her identity to be disclosed because of a few different reasons, but it was a relatively short 15 minute podcast with no sparks.

The first day I had 23 plays.  No big deal.  My Vietnamese friend had a whopping 63 clicks.  However, I remember just yesterday it went up to 40.  No big deal again, right? However, I was teaching one of my students and then it shot up to 78.  I said, “oh, wow! Well that’s interesting! WHy? Who? How?”  Another hour past and it was at 120.  I woke up and it was standing at 220 and now at 260.  Within a day it went up about 240 plays.

Keep in mind that it was just a female student from Libya, but the majority of the world is compelled about it.  Just imagine when I get people on my podcast from Georgia, Slovenia, Cyprus, Macedonia, Mauritius, Tanzania and other places? This is my ULTIMATE GOAL!

So, back to collaborations – THEY’RE IMPERATIVELY IMPORTANT!

“Online, social-media platforms are the mutual friends connecting you to millions of people that share your interest in interior design. Your job is to do the research and find out which would find the most value in your offer and then make your case. I’ll share with you the specific details on how to do this in upcoming chapters, but the general process is essentially the same on each platform: reach out, make an offer they can’t refuse, and get to work producing something that doesn’t make them regret giving you a chance.”

Find Yourself & Be Yourself: Part II – Negative Comments Towards Gary Vee

“Omg, you cuss too much.”

“Simmer down a little.”

“I don’t understand why you continue to use vulgar language.”

“Those are kids. Don’t speak like that in front of them.”

Honestly, I can keep going on, but it’s just going to make other people angry, too.

Gary Vee, who has grossed over 100 million in one calendar year, gets these insane comments from “banking execs, managers, CEO’s, etc” labeled Americans on LinkedIn who insult him about using profanity.

Look, this isn’t elementary school.  You’re not 6th grade English teachers at a public school who says, “NO CUSSING!” at a blaring voice to your students, nor does your comment pack any punch to sway Gary Vee from stopping the profanity-filled rants….which actually hit home.

I love the profanity.  I’ve gotten accustom to it, and I too, use profanity from time-to-time, but it means nothing.  It’s English.

Ok, Napoleon Hill says, “profanity shows ignorance,” but Gary Vee isn’t a gangster out of south central who uses profanity every two words.  He’s not.  He’s a CEO and five-time best selling author who runs a multi-million dollar agency.  If you look at a lot of the boring speakers on TedX, especially the English (sorry – still got love for you guys) who speak in monotone and can’t get any points across, I tune them out immediately.  I mean, don’t you?

The point is, you’re wasting time complaining about what a millionaire is doing rather than using that energy constructively towards something else. That’s the absolute bottomline.

Gary Vee: Fear of Failure, Wasting Time, & Seeming Vain

Nothing is worse than having friends laugh at you, point at you, and telling you repeatedly “you suck! We know you would fail!”  I’ve gotten last place in my cross country races back in 2005, but I knew it would build up a considerable amount of endurance for my 300m intermediate hurdle races in the spring.  Look, in the first three hundred meter hurdle race at Liberty High School in Southern Las Vegas, I hit the last hurdle, tripping and falling on the track and seeing a couple of runners pass me by.  In an instant, I crawled pass the finish line, qualifying for the Sunrise Regional Championships.  This all happened in front of a girl named Riza who I liked.  The worst part about this is when I went to say hello to her, she was so embarrassed to be by me and blew me off because I was known as the “tripper.”

If we fast-forward this to all the Spartan Races and Tough Mudder’s I’ve done, I took all that psychological pain and used it constructively toward these races, succeeding in all of them.

You have to realize that failure is where the growth is.

Fear of Wasting Time

“People are so scared they’ll be wasting time if they try to build a business, even when their time isn’t valuable. If you’re sacrificing time you could have spent with loved ones or doing something that brings value to your life—or hell, $50K—then I can see how that might cause you some regrets. But if you’re giving up only your downtime—time you would have otherwise spent with Game of Thrones or some video games—how can you say it was wasted? You’re literally giving up empty hours in favor of doing something that could fill your life with joy, and you’re worried about wasting time? That’s bullshit. If you’re not 100 percent happy with your life today, it is never a waste of time to try something that could get you there.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

Ok, this is true.  Very true.

However, I felt like I was wasting valuable time for the last 2 years at my old job.  I wasn’t getting new opportunities, new courses, and I was still working salary by salary.  Yes, I saved up and had some wonderful travels, but none of the money I saved was being compounded, nor were they giving me anymore amazing gigs to teach corporate.  This last year (2017), a year that was beyond stagnant, was when I started realizing that it was too time-wasting for me.  My salary was taking a hit, ignorance was boiling over, and the opportunities were finished.

So, I left.  Hell with the garbage job. I’m about to turn 30, and the last thing I need is getting a girlfriend with no goals and being trapped in the same abyss that lots of sex/wife white tourists are in….in that same area.

Fear of Seeming Vain

“When I wrote Crush It! in 2009, I got a good amount of grief from critics who accused me of glorifying narcissism. I don’t hear much from them anymore, because I’ve been proven right by the consumer, aka the market: developing a strong personal brand leads to business success. Don’t worry about seeming vain. Embrace it. Everybody else who is crushing it did. Remember, smart entrepreneurs don’t care what other people think. You’ll look like an ass for a while if you walk around with a camera constantly pointed at your face, but everyone looks like an ass when trying something new. Reality TV was once a joke, remember? Now you can’t turn around without seeing a reality star on a magazine cover, a makeup counter, some exercise equipment, or a frozen-food package. Everyone’s an ass until they’re a pioneer.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

An entrepreneur from Singapore once asked Gary about being filmed.  He wrote in a YouTube comment that people would just stare.

Well, I look at it this way.  After a good amount of conversations, I realized that even if I wore a perfect suit and possessed a clean shave, I would still be labeled as “black” or a “Nigerian scammer.”  So, I told my friend that when I run out on the streets, I go F***ING CRAZY! I’m shouting lyrics from DMX and telling people to get the f*** out my way.  Yes, vein and ugly….but I can’t destroy an image that I already have, right? Boom….I win.

“As you gather your ideas and put your strategies in motion, set yourself up emotionally to succeed. Find your courage and strengthen your self-esteem until you feel brave enough to make some noise and invite people’s attention. Then show them that you care deeply about keeping it.” – Gary Vee

Gary Vee: What’s Stopping You?

I talked about the PMA on my recent podcast, but what’s really stopping you from achieving against all odds?  Look, at the end of 2015, I had no purpose and my life was upside down.  I would constantly complain and not doing anything about it.  I was around the whiney bitch party who would also complain about things that they have zero control over.

“I made the decision,” replying to a brilliant question a student had asked me.  “Enough is enough.  I’m not going anywhere with this mindset and I won’t be able to attract a damn thing.”

In 2015, I would often listen to “the secret” as if it had all the answers.  Sure, it had good techniques and ways to snap out of funks, but my mindset wasn’t changing whatsoever.  I then said, “ok, it’s time to learn about yourself, Arsenio.”

I dove into books.  I bought The Alchemist, Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success, Jack Canfield’s Success Principles, Lisa Nichols’ Abundance Now.

Slowly but surely, my mind began to change.  Sure, thoughts of “altered and perceptual reality” were still there, but I was able to control it.

What was stopping ME for so long was I became attached to negativity, such as what the majority of the planet is used to.  I believe American society is one of the worst.  So much negativity and pessimism and negativity is emanated out of that country that people would much rather spew hateful rhetoric on Donald Trumps’ Twitter and not use that passion in a more constructive way.

So, here are some of the excuses people have.

I have a full-time job.
I don’t have any money.
I have kids.
I don’t have time.
My industry has too many strict rules.
I have an idea for an app, but I don’t know how to code.
My parents don’t get it.
My family is holding me back.
I’m afraid my friends will get ahead of me.
I still haven’t finished the books assigned by my life coach.
No one was watching.
Only a few people were reading.
I don’t know which idea to pursue.
I don’t have the right equipment.
I don’t know where to start.
I’m too old.
I’m an artist, not a businessperson.
I’m not into anything monetizable.
I’m afraid I’ll get hate comments.”

Other than the hateful comments, Gary Vee wrote in his book, “Are you f***ing kidding me?”  A lot of people who’ve been crushing it had little to no money, serving jail time, wasn’t able to feed their kids, etc.

The hate email could be tough.  At this particular juncture, I have no hate email.  I haven’t got an ignorant comment on my channel EVER (three years going) except some foolish clown commenting on Napoleon Hill’s Golden Rule video saying – “Golden Shower.”  There were instances that I engaged in senseless arguments with rotten scoundrels back 2016, but those are no more.  I’m very happy about overcoming all of that.  However, because I’m in Thailand, I think most Americans feel intimidated.  I feel that they can’t have a say because I’ve been living overseas for 20% of my life and have seen things that most Americans haven’t.  I’m not saying I’m the ultra-repellent of ignorance from around the world, but I speak too many true words for anyone to say otherwise.

I’m thankful that I haven’t received any hateful mail, but that’s no reason to stop going after what’s truly yours.

None of the reasons above, including hate mail, is not the reason why you’re not crushing it right now.

You’re the reason why you’re not crushing it.

Transform the ignorance of what you’ve endured, such as the ignorance, pedaphiles, sex offenders and nasty teachers I’ve had to work with, into phenomenal content for those out there in the world to learn from.