Wheel of Life: August 2019 – Stardom Begins!

I was watching TD Jakes recently and he said, “I never meant to be famous; I just wanted to make an impact.” Shortly after, notorious Washington Post (vile) wrote an article about him, completely defacing him of everything he represented (welcome to America — the House of Pain). See, I knew it was going to get to this point. When I was making my personal development podcasts in 2017, to the explosion of my ESL podcast in 2018/2019…..when I took the stage at the Bangkok International Digital Content Festival, I knew my life would change forever. As I was pacing, and using a variety of language to captivate onlookers, I didn’t know (and still don’t know today) how impactful my presentation was, but in my mind, I created that eventful Friday at Marriott Marquis Queens Park, a day in which I met app developers from all over the world. Here’s to the BIG ONE!

If you guys don’t already know, I was recently talking to another female entrepreneur (age of 19) who also spoke about the Wheel of Life. If it’s your first time viewing this blog, it’s time to begin and assess your life in the following categories and from number 1-10.

Personal Development – 10

Couldn’t be grateful enough. Those moments of struggle have paid off. I now value myself on such a level I KNEW I would achieve, but it was a struggle.

Physical Environment – In Podcast

Health – In Podcast

Wealth – In Podcast

Career – In Podcast

Fun & Hobbies – In Podcast

Romantic Relationships – 0

Friends & Family – In Podcast

Wheel of Life: January 2019 Edition – The Calm Before Freedom

Boy, for a moment, I was scared as hell. After a huge scare at a job where a woman no longer wanted me to buy lunch, I overanalyzed the situation and scampered off without using their Grab taxi service, it taking 2-hours to get home…and it was a very good two hours because I was able to think things through.

On the train I reapplied for some jobs that I used to work for. After seeing one of the best jobs (a place where there were a number of mentors) advertising in the same area as my primary job, I quickly sent an email to the director, who I hadn’t spoken to in ages, and he responded in 10 minutes, completely ecstatic.

See, if you place all your eggs in one basket, such as what Americans do and have done for a long time, you could be in trouble. If I relied on the big job opportunity in February, only for it to not work, then what? I would’ve been defeated.

Don’t wait!

Wealth – 6

My goal this month was to create bigger opportunities. I was recently talking to a friend of mine and we chatted about having to work long hours to achieve so much, but now an achieve the same price in just an hour or two.

That was my motto this year. Stop chasing SHORT-TERM MONEY. I’m done making small money. I was willing to shove aside potential job suitors, extra jobs, and focused solely on one thing — the big opportunity.

Business cards made, powerpoint ready, enthusiasm checked, and if I land this, I’ll be able to go back to small money and say (here’s your alternative…16 hours a week or I walk).

Health – 8.5

It’s very flattering for women to approach me and say “omg, you have a six-pack!” Ok, that happens primarily in the gym when I’m gasping for air, but you get the point. Never have I EVER had anyone approach me or tell me that my physique was on par. I know exactly who I am so I don’t need the compliments, but I’m really starting to push myself.

Mental Health? I still have those moments where I become immerse into a very toxic society where women grip their purses firmly while walking by. Resets must take place. What did I do? Lisa Nichols’ Abundance Now AUDIOBOOK. That’s right. I found it and I’ve been listening to it for four days already…this quickly turned off that negative frequency and I’ve officially overcome THAT world.

Career – 10

I finished my first project of the year — creating the TOEFL project that pushed me to making my first revenue online.

Motivational Mentors is coming together.

Delivered all my material for luke Burrow’s Grow2Gether Academy.

Now doing live interviews on my English Language page to rack in more views. But if we talking about the bigger picture, I’ve actually delegated two mundane tasks that I simply didn’t want to touch. While listening to a Pat Flynn podcast during my commute last Friday, it dawned on me that I should probably delegate more things to my content writer, Jiun, so I don’t have to worry so much about the rest. This would improve my ebook process and give me more time to focus on other things.

Since I did that, I had her create a Trello account, which is great to put all of our tasks on and in one place so we know what’s next, rather than messages that get pushed down on a routine basis. Since then, efficiency has gone up significantly.

Find things that work better for you, people!

Personal Development – 10

I’ve not only been reading a lot, but now that I realize audiobooks are more of my thing, I don’t waste ANY TIME. Personal Development, as always, is pure fire.

Physical Environment – 9.5

Home life and work life. How are they? Where I live is never a problem, and my working environment, which is about 4 places, is fine. I could be dumping off another environment real soon to make it even better. If I start to travel while coaching and training, this could be the biggest transformation in my life EVER.

Romantic Relationships – DISASTER

At the beginning of this year, a relationship fell apart. In the last three years, three relationships have fallen apart, but all of them have taught me something. Other than that, this is going to be a “relationship free year” for me.

Fun and Hobbies – 8

YES! Now that I’m not teaching erroneous hours anymore that give me little pay, I’ve injected “play-time” into my schedule. Please, check this out on next Thursday’s podcast.

  • What are you doing for fun?
  • Do you have “me” time? Or are you constantly hustling?
  • What hobbies do you have?
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Family and Friends/CIRCLE of friends – 8

I’ve created my own category called “the circle of friends” and this is because I don’t have family or friends. I have acquaintances on my outer circle and everyone else who’s of higher stature is in the inside because they’ve cemented their reliability.

All in all, people. I love doing this because it gives me so much awareness and I understand so much about myself in general — just because I’m able to to figure out what areas are hurting me. You should do the same, too!

Listen to “Wheel of Life: January 2019 Edition – The Calm Before Freedom” on Spreaker.

Romantic/Human Relationships: Goals for 2019!

Oh, yes! How can I become a better boyfriend!

I can’t. Lol.  I’m single and I’ll remain this way for a very long-time.  However, looking back on my past relationships, there were some areas of improvement. 

This is what relationships are about. Jack Canfield would ask his wife “how did I do today on a scale 1-10?”  She would give him a number and he would then ask, “how can I improve?” 

However, that’s a bad technique because you will always aim for perfection….but no one is perfect, right?  Although asking for feedback in very important, you might develop the “everything I do is still not enough” attitude towards someone. 

Another great technique I would implore to all of you would be what Darren Hardy does.  He actually sets an alarm for Friday at 6pm and then it goes off 48 hours later.  During these hours, he dedicates it entirely to his family.  That’s something that everyone is more than capable of doing, regardless of the workload. 

I’m more sided with the Vishen Lakhiani quote.  He said, “there’s a bullshit myth that life revolves around hardwork and hustling.  I think this is dangerous as hell to accept because it’s crushing families and lives all around the globe.”

Yeah, I’m not with the Gary Vee bullshit.  His book “crushing it” has toppled charts and helped me alot, but the majority of the things he says right now his so self-loathing and ignorant that I no longer follow him.  Not that his 10 million followers would care, but I’ve graduated from Gary Vee for the simple fact that he’s too “work and money centered” whereas if people with marriages actually believe the shit that comes out of his mouth, their marriage will ultimately end. 

For all of you out there who are in marriages/relationships…consider the following. 

  1. Are we growing or are we dying? (JUST BE HONEST.  Do you see yourself going anywhere? Or is it just the same s*** year after year? Are you fully content? Is this relationship you’re in holding you back from doing great things? Just ask yourself).
  2. What can I do differently? How can I be more loving, caring, and build more of an intimate relationship? 
  3. What messes have I not cleaned up? What did I repeat all year that she didn’t like (habits) and what should I do away with?
  4. What two things did I do everyday for the other half without being told to do it?

Me, relationships are a foregone conclusion.  I’m super content with my life right now, but maybe in the future someone will come about. 

Ask yourself these questions and see what’s happening and where you can improve. 

Listen to “Romantic/Human Relationships: Goals for 2019!” on Spreaker.

Fun & Hobbies: Goals for 2019!

Here we go! This is the first of the 8-part series that I’m launching in conjunction with what I did towards the end of last year.  I’m super excited with what’s happening and what has already happened, but I first need to go back to the beginning of the year and see what I said back in my previous blog post (one year ago).

What I said at the end of last year….

For Sures 

  1. Indonesia
  2. Malaysia (possibly this month
  3. Kazakhstan + Kyrgyzstan

Potentials

  1. Australia (high chance)
  2. Hong Kong
  3. Taiwan
  4. Morocco (Tedx)

On-The-Ropes

  1. American Samoa
  2. Japan

Well, i got to Hong Kong, but not sure why I thought about going to Japan.  Australia was a high chance, but then with the visa problems and having to leave all the time this year, everything was completely destroyed.

  • Malaysia
  • Singapore
  • Laos
  • Malaysia
  • Hong Kong
  • Singapore
  • Laos

To be honest, 7 countries in a year was phenomenal.  However, were these real holidays? No.  Aside from the forgettable Hong Kong trip, Malaysia (both times) were the only legitimate holidays.  Singapore was fun both times, but I still didn’t venture out and do activities like I wanted to.  Was it because of budget problems? No, I simply didn’t want to treat it like a holiday at that time.  I was scared because I wasn’t sure where my income was coming from when I got back.

Now with 2019 on the horizon, I know not to overshoot what I plan on doing.

One of my goals, that coordinates with my career, is making more money in less time, and I’m establishing that at this moment in my life.  Building the connections and having big bankers all around Bangkok, on top of ex-teachers getting in contact with me in regards to big money work, will be game-changing.

I want to really dedicate more time to me. I’m sick of working past 6pm at a regular job, unless I’m getting paid over 100$ an hour to do so.  I don’t want to work long hours on weekend anymore, only to make a wage I’ve been making the last three years ON THE SAME WEEKEND.  I would much rather focus on my projects and FUN TIME.

New Activities? No Way! Spartans!

Aside from going to the zoo in Melbourne, Australia in late February (very close to booking this trip) and a few other things, Spartan races are still my fun and hobbies, although related to health.  Yes, I would love to do whitewater rafting and still go snowboarding in the snowfields of Hokkaido, but right now, that’s a bit on hold.  Mongolia/Egypt is surely on board.  I would like to take 2-3 massive trips this year and of course, my inaugural mini trips to Singapore, Malaysia, and the small resort island Bali, which is in Indonesia.

Listen to “Fun & Hobbies: Goals for 2019!” on Spreaker.

Wheel of Life: September 2018 Edition – Grateful!

Period! Need I say more? Man, just looking back on some things that have happened at the beginning of this year and last year.  You know, some time around December, I remember going to a fitness class in the heart of Bangkok and seeing two Australian Air Force personnel and meeting them.  They were so happy and content, and the first time I met them, I opened up about moving to Bangkok and sharing them my story in terms of dealing with all the shenanigans of my last job.

I recall sharing other stories with the likes of personal trainers and I was under such distressed, completely unaware of what was going to happen in the future.  After contacting Chilean teaching headhunters and other corporations, I decided to possibly venture out and get out of Thailand.  Going back and forth with a place that was barely giving me any work because the vindictive revenge that they had in mind, I needed to get the hell outa there.

I got some part-time jobs here and there.  Two women, who were nice at the beginning of the year, helped me with March-May because of teaching TOEFL iTP at their small testing center.  I accepted a contract that I thought was steep (initially but it ended up being complete bullshit) and worked way outside Bangkok with another guy that looks 89 years old.  I had another side gig at a place that I found quite enjoyable (teaching a doctor) in an area that was just beautiful (but takes 1.5 hours to get home).  You guys understand, now.  The beginning of this year was tough.  It was bleak.  I got two jobs through emails and then turned down because the students wanted a “white” teacher.  I began applying for jobs in Malaysia, Tunisia, France, Spain, etc.  Lots of different offers were coming in, but I kept at it and stayed strong here.  Guess what? It all paid off.

Nonetheless, I just want to review the hardships because that’s where the primary growth takes place.  I never learn from seemingly non-stop success.  So to see myself on what looks like the pillar of success, is the greatest thing that has ever happened.  I’m humble, but here’s my Wheel of Life.

Podcast

 

Pre-Workout: Amino Energy Review

You guys don’t know, but two days ago had to be the most terrifying moment of my life.  After sucking down two cups of coffee (1pm and 4pm), I decided to “test” out my new pre-workout, Amino Energy, at 6pm.

Yeah.  Bonehead move.  There was no effects at the moment, but I while I was walking to my bus stop after work, I got super lightheaded.  Why? Maybe too much of a surplus in caffeine.

I tried sleeping around 9:30, and everytime I closed my eyes and went into a stage of sleep before I actually fell asleep, everything felt like it was moving and I would get a jolt of warm energy from my elbows to my hands.  This ensued to 11pm, 1am, 3am….I had enough.  I was down near on a 24-hour stint and I headed to the clinic to get some medication to fall asleep.  Disclaimer: do this only during worse case scenarios…never on a regular basis because these drugs are terrible and they can affect your kidney.

I went to sleep around 4:30 am, woke up once to call in sick, and slept again until 11:30 am.  I felt so groggy and completely fatigue, but it was because of the excess caffeine.

Judgement Day

So, I was scared when I woke up.  I looked at my pre-workout and it looked at me.  I said, “should I, “and ‘it’ said, “should.”  I took only a half-a-scoop and off I went to the gym.  Now, there were no tingling effects or anything, but what I felt was an extreme amount of focus.  In this class had 4 other women and a guy.  The women I like to call “fair-weather” because some days they say good morning, other days they completely ignore you.  Didn’t matter, but it was motivation on top of the focus.

When the workout started, I was zoned it COMPLETELY.  This reminded me of the day I took Jack 3D back in 2012 and my energy was bouncing off the walls.  I didn’t give up once.  I kept it rolling for a full hour, which is unheard of.  Even during breaks, I kneeled and remained focus….normally I would chat it up or try throwing some conversation gambits out there for bait (lol).

Now, is this as good as Stimul, my absolute favorite pre-workout? Well, Stimul never gave me insomnia.  All will tell later on tonight if I can sleep or not.

Nonetheless, the ingredients, reviews and everything I saw online made me purchase this two days ago, and it surely didn’t disappoint.

  • Strength – Check
  • Quality – Check
  • Consistency – Check

 

Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 7 – Attract Wealth — Don’t Repel It – Part II – Goal-setting

Everyone has to understand that goal-setting is the most important aspect of attracting wealth.  When I got complacent in 2015, I was just “content” with making the same salary I had already been making the previous x amount of months.  I no longer had goals.

It wasn’t until one day I saw Jack Canfield’s book ‘how to use the law of attraction’ on a bookshelf in a shopping plaza that I started setting goals for myself.

101 Goals was initiated — 70 have been claimed.

There was an exercise in that book that encouraged readers to write down their 101 goals….so I did (spoke about it in my podcast).  Since then, I’ve achieved more than 70 of those goals, pushing me to the brink of a new list.  When you throw goals on the paper and commit to action, those goals will be achieved, unconsciously.  That’s what happened one afternoon while glancing over the page.  I realized I achieved 10 of those goals a year after writing them down and I didn’t even know it.

Napoleon Hill’s Way of Setting Goals

“(a) Write down your goal. You will then begin to crystallize your thinking. The very act of thinking as you write will have a tendency to create an indelible impression in your memory.

(b) Give yourself a deadline. Specify a time for achieving your objective. This is important in motivating you: set out in the direction of your goal and keep moving toward it.

(c) Set your standards high. Now there seems to be a direct relationship between ease in achieving a goal and the strength of your motives. You have discovered for yourself in Chapter Nine how to motivate yourself at will and in Chapter Ten how to motivate others.”

And the higher you set your major goal, generally speaking, the more concentrated will be the effort you make to achieve it. The reason: logic will make it mandatory that you at least aim at an intermediate objective as well as an immediate one. So aim higher. And then have immediate and intermediate steps leading toward its achievement.

The following question should stimulate your thinking: Where will you be and what will you be doing ten years from today if you keep doing what you are doing now?

(d) Aim high. It is a peculiar thing that no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand prosperity and abundance, than is required to accept misery and poverty.”

The excuses such as “I had an idea but didn’t have money,” are a done-deal.  Let those excuses go….because the internet doesn’t care what your circumstances are, it just wants action.

 

 

Wheel of Life: July Edition – Thrusters Are On!

Wow, from last month’s Wheel of Life podcast, to today, has seen a significant amount of change.  Yes, the Malaysia trip, meeting my main man Hakeem Khan while doing an amazing podcaster interview, and setting myself up for another magnificent month, has helped.

However, I think where I excelled tremendously was in being efficient.  With the little amount of time I had over the past month, I was still able to reach out to a lot of people and set myself up for success.

When I went to Malaysia, I met up with my main man Hakeem, who ended up showing me how to use Veme.ly, an app that I can make bite-sized videos for Instagram with an animated progress bar and other features.  Since that day, I’ve connected with a guy from Guinea, a country in Western Africa.  On top of that, an ecommerce brander in Alabama agreed to come on after seeing one of my one-minute spurts.  Also, Malaysians, British and others (and a little failure in the midst) topped off a magnificent month!

For those of you tuning in for the first time, this is an excellent exercise to see if you where you’re at in categories.  Do you have balance? What areas are you neglecting? What are you traditional strengths?

  • Personal Development
  • Physical Environment
  • Romantic Relationships
  • Family & Friends
  • Fun & Hobbies
  • Wealth
  • Career
  • Health

Here are my categories and explanations.

Personal Development – 10

Learning constantly about myself, my mind, and what I do in tense situations.  It’s like I learn something new about myself everything that was always inside of me, but a video or text brings it out of me.   I consistently go to work on ME! How can I become a better teacher? Friend? Son? Influencer? Mentor? Coach?

How can I give?

Where can I grow?

How can I celebrate?

Some questions you should ask yourself every morning.

Physical Environment – 10

Physical environment is comprised of your home and work life.  Are you truly happy about both areas?  For me, it feels ridiculously good knowing that everyday I go to work, there isn’t some ancient foreigner tell me ridiculous comments about “hear-say she-said” bs, and especially front desk girls complaining about other dumb shit.  My job now, which I love….is simple.  Go in, say hello to the girls, go to my room, do my job and that’s it.  It’s ridiculously simple and simply the best job I’ve ever had.

Home life, as always, is amazing.

Romantic Relationships – X

I don’t need someone outside to make me feel fulfilled.  That’s simple a fact.

Family & Friends – 7

After my mom commented and gave me some motivation, I felt on top of the world ever since.  That was the first comment, of any kind from her, in 5 years.  She said, “stand up for your rights,” and coming from my mother….that meant everything in the world to me.

Friends come and go a dime or dozen.  I honestly just dropped a long-time friend recently because she’s an absolute CLOWN.  Do I feel better? Absolutely!  With holiday approaching next week, I’m feeling really good about where I’m heading with family and friends.

Fun & Hobbies – 8

This one was hard to grade, given the fact that I had just gone to Malaysia.  However, I’m fitting in “me” time early in the morning, but haven’t been able to meet so many people over the last month.  Nonetheless, it’s still a very solid 8.

Wealth – 9.5

Last month was atrocious, this month was in a massive surplus.  Regardless of a pricey trip to Hong Kong looming large, I still have an insane amount saved up.  Always SAVE!

Career – 10

Some notes from my book

Podcast interview with an ecommerce podcaster from Alabama, fitness guy and podcaster from Guinea but living in KL, entrepreneur from KL, another guy from England, two fitness guys in BKK.

That’s for podcast interviews only.  Of course it’s the landing pages, ebook, ESL courses, pronunciation courses and other things that are even more exciting.  The amount of feedback and attention I’m drawing in right now is EXCITING to say the very LEAST.

Health – 10

Ok, I would like to get a little more defined, but the tremendous amount of strength I have at this juncture in my life, is INSANE.  I’m just so grateful that I signed up for this gym I go to in the morning on a 1-year contract.  Overall, from eating…to everything else — this is definitely the healthiest I’ve ever been.

 

Spartan Beast Malaysia = Cancelled; Now What? Spartan Beast Australia!

I went from booking a ticket, thinking that my Spartan Beast in Malaysia was on a Saturday, to cancelling a plane ticket and realizing that plane tickets on other days were at extortionate prices.  YIKES!

What a disaster.  What seemed like a sure Spartan Beast and trifecta claiming weekend turned into a nightmare whereas I almost lost out on $167 dollars.

So, Arsenio….your health goals of 2018 have suffered a minor hiccup.  What are you going to do now?

Well, there were three options.  First, I’m grateful I don’t have to fly back to Malaysia at this point because I’m so sick of the garbage airlines (Malindo Air & Air Asia) that are ALWAYS late.  I’m sick of almost getting in mid-air collisions (on Malindo) and Air Asia) and terrible service — along with cardboard box seats.

So, got it.  “It’s a low-budget airline.”  Well, no more!

I’d much rather take some time off from these low-budget airlines than deal with lunacy of them always being late.

Well, I’m first very grateful for having experiences both airlines, but it’s time to spend a tad more and fly reputable airlines from a better airline that’s connected to the rail link, which is connected to the city.

Anywho, let’s focus on the matter…my Spartan Beast has been stopped, momentarily, and now it’s either the Beast in Thailand, Australia, or Malaysia (lol) in December (in the Malaysian/Singaporean border town of Johor Bahru). What will I choose?

 

The Ramble of Positivity: Episode XXV – That’s Number Three!

My morning list…..

I’m so happy and grateful now that I have possession of the driver seat in my life.

I’m so grateful that I have the opportunity to travel when I want, where I want, and still be able to save as much as I do.

I’m truly grateful for how the first part of the year has been: character building to say the very least!

With all my heart, I’m truly grateful for having developed the intuition to guide me through difficult decisions, one being the removal of a potential job while accepting another one.

I’m thankful this day because when I walked into my new full-time job, with surrounding windows, staff and students full of smiles….I felt at home.

I’m happy for the majority of my viewers of this blog that are coming in from all over the world.

I’m truly grateful for fulfilling my needs of traveling, given the fact that after I came back from Singapore, I wanted to travel again.

With all my heart, I have to be grateful and thankful for the development of my personal being while resuscitating some wonderful friends and nurturing the ones I already have.

This is how your grateful list should look.  If you want to do it through affirmations, go ahead. As long as you’re putting your thoughts out there to the universe.

It’s been a crazy and turbulent first half of the year.  Trips to Malaysia, Singapore and now Laos (super plus side), but searching for a new job and trying to decide what’s best for me has been nothing short of chaos.  I had a bad feeling about a previous job, dumped them, and found a perfect job in a perfect setting that’s suitable for me.  How did I get through all of this? Knowing that with PMA, I would be guided to by my intuition.

I was recently talking to one of my students and I told her, “you know, this job, also known as New Education World (for Thai students to avoid be solicited by sex/wife tourists), made me have anxiety.  After I worked out, or even when I woke up, I had a bad feeling about what could’ve happened at work: “your students said this, we don’t have work, the student wants a white teacher.”  From the anxiety, I developed chest pain.  In February and March, my chest would get heavy when I arrived north of Bangkok, knowing not only that I was going to an openly racist company (just for the remainder months), but the people had been openly racist in the area (all of Pathumthani) for years.”

When I moved to Bangkok, away from all the madness, I was able to breathe.  Seriously, I didn’t have those feelings anymore.  See, if I had stayed there longer, it could’ve developed into depression — a condition that had a stronghold on at least half the sex/wife tourists “teachers” there.  I didn’t want to become a statistic.  Guys had died of heart failure, depression, and other things from this company, so it was best for me to GTFO of their and never look back.

And after this week, I now know that I’ll never have to travel to that area again for as long as I live.

See, when it comes to this thing called “depression,” there’s always an underlying problem.  Most actors/actresses are saturated with dollar signs, but they have an underlying problem that they’re not addressing.  I was heading for the “I hate everything about Thailand” phase of my life until I made a conscious decision to pursue the things I was doing well at.

When I did, life was never the same.  Now here I am, sitting down just hours before my flight (third country in just two months), smiling away, knowing that I’ve attracted and continue to attract to me the most beautiful opportunities.  I suggest you do this, too!

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/the-ramble-of-positivity-episode-xxv-tha