The Penalty of Leadership

Since living here in Thailand, teachers have said: I’m black, too loud, too funny, not strict enough, too much charisma, gets all the work, brown noses, shouldn’t be a teacher, can’t write, bad at presenting.  In addition to that, students have said: we want a white teacher, we want a handsome teacher, you’re too funny, we want to go page-by-page, we want that 150 year old traditional style teaching whereas a teacher writes a bunch of shenanigans on the board and we copy it.

Is this part of leadership? Well, just know in every field of human endeavour, you’re going to get that white light of publicity.  When you start doing good and start making a name for yourself, the envy will be there waiting for you.  The reward of the publicity and recognition; the punishment, fierce denial and detraction.  It could become a target for the envious few or envious many.  When you do something mediocre, they’ll leave you alone.  When you achieve a masterpiece, it will set a million tongues a-wagging.

You’re never going to get the “seal of genius” stamp in what you do.  I’ve had people who said my writing was appalling; conversely, my college professors would give me straight A’s on my papers.  The one who said I couldn’t write to save my life never majored in English….get the drift? There are parasites and bacteria out there that are trying to find a way to harvest anywhere on your body…and I’m not speaking literally.  The comments and negative opinions of others are just that….parasites and bacteria.

The Penalty of Leadership is monstrous.  The moment I created a curriculum that enabled others to get a lot more work, there wasn’t a ‘thank you’ anywhere in the vicinity.   The pessimism grew even larger because the fact and matter is that my image is being created in a way that will alter the trajectory of colored people worldwide.  If you’re not ready to strap on your helmet and barrel through the cynicism, criticism, haughty and antagonists, I suggest you stick to the 9-5 job.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11947419

Initiative & Leadership Creed

Copy the following formula and place it conspicuously in your room where you will see it as you retire at night and as you arise in the morning.

First: You must master the habit of procrastination and eliminate it from your make=up.  This habit of putting off until tomorrow that which you should have done last week or last year or a score of years ago is gnawing at the very vitals of your being, and you can accomplish nothing until you throw it off.

The method through which you eliminate procrastination is based upon a well known and scientifically tested principle of psychology which has been referred to in the two preceding lessons of this course as Auto-Suggestion.

Having chosen a definite chief aim as my life-work I now understand it to be my duty to transform this purpose into reality.

Therefore, I will form the habit of taking some definite action each day that will carry me one step nearer the attainment of my definite chief aim.

I know that procrastination is a deadly enemy of all who would become leaders in any undertaking, and I will eliminate this habit from my make-up by:

a. Doing some one definite thing each day, that ought to be done, without anyone telling me to do it.

b. Looking around until I find at least one thing that I can do each day, that i have not been in the habit of doing, and that will be of value to others, without expectation of pay.

c. Telling at least one other person, each day, of the value of practicing this habit of doing something that ought to be done without being told to do it.

I can see that the muscles of the body become strong in proportion to the extent to which they are used, therefore I understand that the habit of initiative also becomes fixed in proportion to the extent that it is practiced.

I realized that the place to begin developing the habit of initiative is in the small, common-place things connected with my daily work, therefore I will go at my work each day as if I were doing it solely for the purpose of developing this necessary habit of initiative.

I understand that by practicing this habit of taking the initiative in connection with my daily work I will be not only developing that habit, but i will also be attraction the attention of those who will place greater value on my services as a result of this practice.

Signed………………………………………………………..

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11902735

 

What’s That One Habit You Can Do In The Morning? Time To Create It!

It’s that one thing that will help you in the morning and fuel that burning desire (or lack thereof).  Creating a routine in the morning is difficult, but after trying a variety of things in 2016, I have a morning routine as follows.

  • Initial wake-up into meditation.
  • After meditation, count the things that I’m grateful for in my professional and social life.
  • Prime in the shower which consists of burning hot water – to freezing cold.
  • Vitamins then off to doing my podcast + blog.
  • Head to the gym, shower at the gym, then I’m ready for work by 10am.

On the days that I’m off, I fall completely out of my routine (bad habit that I’m still trying to destroy) if I don’t write anything on my to-do list.

So, in addition to what I’ve said above, here’s a video (Tony Robbins – I’m Not Your Guru) that has an excellent morning routine that a lot of people can adopt.  Recounting the three things you’re most grateful for, going back to your earliest childhood memory, and feeling everything about those moments of pure joy.  It starts at 1:43:00 and finishes at about 1:49:00-1:50.  You need to view this video from a desktop/notebook.

Bomb Those Distractions

On one of the most important days of my professional life, I woke up at 3am and couldn’t go back to sleep because I glanced at my phone.  This is one of the problems I have with leaving my phone inside my bedroom.  GET IT OUT!

Also, you should NOT tune into the news for the first 1 hour of the day because I can tell you right now that it will leave a very lasting impression on you compared to looking at it later in the morning.  You will see yourself bitching much faster and sending that bitchy information to other people who bitch so you can bitch together and have a bitch breakfast and bitch morning.  Get the drift?

Social Networking – I’m Not talking about FB, Twitter and Co

I never….EVER….EVER….EVER have a problem with the main social networking sites out there controlling my habits.  I will admit one malicious habit is social chat apps, which in actuality drops my defences because the amount of racist that’s dished out at me.  Yet, I still get on them? Foolish.

However, I bombed them all AGAIN just two days ago and the productivity not only went up 200%, but I also regained control of my happiness.  I love to ask myself “what’s 80% of my unhappiness right now?”  There’s one particular individual who I will never talk to again for as long as I live, and there are the social chatting apps such as horrendous Tinder, Skout, Badoo, etc.  In my personal opinion, I think this is probably the worst of them all because it’s not only time-consuming, but the headaches you get involved with where again….you go out and bitch about these men seeking women as objects to your friends and that 1 hour later you’re talking about why there aren’t any good men in the world.  STEER CLEAR!

Those are my distractors.  I’ve recently taken them out….and now I have control.

What are yours?

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11853811

 

Napoleon Hill – How To Overcome The Fear of Poverty

First, scissor up those plastic cards that lay either idle, or accessible in your wallets and purses.  It’s time to pay virtually cash for everything.  Oh, and this comment is specifically for my Thais here in Thailand – DON’T PAY OFF DEBT WITH CREDIT CARDS! Makes zero sense.

When you start doing this, the sigh of relief will be an overwhelming feeling of joy.  Breaking away from the worrisome and indebtedness so that you’re ready to revamp the habits in your mind and re-direct your course toward prosperity is going to be one of the best achievements of your life.

Remember, when you discontinue an undesirable habit, know that their will be a void or space in the mind that will need some accompanying.  If you don’t occupy that free-space, what will come back?

You guessed right!

The destructive habit that you kicked before.

I’ve talked about a couple of formulas which I told you to copy, paste, print, and recite aloud. There are more formulas approaching very soon…and these formulas will become a part of your mental machinery.

I’m assuming that because you’re reading this…you’re somewhat striving for financial independence.  No, I’m not talking about those ridiculous “how to become a millionaire and billionaire” over-the-top videos you see on YouTube.  I’m talking about the accumulation of money to where you don’t worry about your finances – period.  It’s not difficult to do after you master the Fear of Poverty and developed in its place the Habit of Saving.

The fact and matter is that the cold, cruel, relentless truth is that we’re in the age of materialism.  We’re in the age that showing cars, houses, and everything materialistic gives you an upper hand over other people.  Just look at it this way, if you see a man wearing a suit jut waltzing down the street, you would ask yourself “how much money does he have,” right? However, if you see a man walking down the street with his clothes unpressed, his collar is dirty, shoes scuffed up, and not clean-shaved…you’re probably thinking that he shows signs of impoverished finances.

This tendency to judge people by the money they have, or their power to control money, is not confined to any one class of people.  We all have a touch of it, whether we recognize the fact or not.  Egoism, which I’ll be going over extensively in the coming weeks, is closely related to materialism.  We have to learn to break away from the “I’m better than you because I have more money” bs so we can uplift humanity.

And before I close this out, a lot of men stumble and fall, never again to rise, because of lack of money in times of emergency.  Reserve Funds are essential in the success operation of business! These are all the topics and things I discussed in my podcast down below.  Enjoy!

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11814036

Napoleon Hill – The Slavery of Debt

Paying for something you can’t afford.  Ring a bell? You dig into your wallet and pullout that flashy master card, which has “debt-ridden” all over it.  You slide that card or insert it into the machine – little do you know what you’ve just done.

Debt, which is a merciless master, is a fatal enemy of the savings habit.

Poverty, alone, is sufficient to kill off ambition, destroy self-confidence and destroy hope. If we look at it from a realistic perspective, imagine a man.  His name is Joe and he makes $12,000 a year.  His wife, on the other hand, has terrible spending habits and lives a $20,000 year lifestyle.  Therefore, the poor fellow is about $8,000 dollars in debt a year. He has two girls and one boy who wants to go to college, but now that’s impossible because of the father’s debts.  The result makes the entire family miserable.

It’s a terrible thing to go through life like a prisoner in chains, bound down like you’re in solitary confinement.  The accumulation of debts is a habit.  It starts in a small way and grows into enormous proportions slowly over time.

Most men and women develop that notorious habit of spending and unfortunately they never come to their senses in time to save themselves, because spending is like quicksand.  It’s slow, but once it grabs hold of your legs, you have no way out.  You sink deeper and deeper until you’re way in over your head before suffocating.  Good metaphor, ey?

The Fear of Poverty is one of the most destructive of the six basic fears I’ve mentioned in my previous podcasts because it destroys self-confidence, ambition, and sinks you straight into oblivion.  On top of that, this particular fear can attract The Fear of Ill Health, and then that can attract The Fear of Old Age.  Before you know it, your hair is full of grey by the age of 40.  Does any of this ring a bell for you guys? Here, I’ll throw in a story how attaching identity to money is the absolute worst thing you can do.

A young man worked for National Bank of New York City long ago.  Because he had that destructive habit of spending, the debtors/creditors would follow him around like a rat nipping at your heels to embarrass and humiliate him.  Kind of like in America where the debtors start calling your job? It gets worse.  They followed him from city-to-city when he was trying to just escape them until he had accumulated enough money to pay off his indebtedness.  Sure enough, they found him again…..and one cold night he leaped off one of the top building on Broadway straight to his demise.

Debt had claimed another victim.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11794402

Napoleon Hill – The Habit of Saving

Saving money is only a matter of habit.  So, we need to have a brief analysis of the Law of Habit.

Through repetition, any act indulged in a few times becomes a habit, and the mind appears to be nothing more than a mass of motivating forces catering to that habit.

When you have any thought fixed in the mind, a habit is formed and impels action.  For example, think about your daily route to work everyday or some place you frequently visit.  You had to implement the idea in mind that you had or have to go to this place based on obligation everyday; just as we brush our teeth, take a shower, comb our hair, and even and most destructively – turn on the news.

Millions of people go through life in poverty because they made destructive use of the Law of Habit.  Not understanding the Law of Habit or the Law of Attraction….you will remain in poverty  and not even realize what you’re attracting into your life.

Fix in your mind the thought that your ability is limited to a given earning capacity and you will never earn more than that.  The law will set up in your mind the definite limitation you’re calling into existence.  Your subconscious will accept that limitation and then you’ll feel yourself slipping.

How can you get ride of this?

First, through the law of Definite Chief Aim, set up, in your mind, and accurate and definite description of that which you want; including the amount of money you intend to earn.

Your subconscious mind takes over this picture which you have created and uses it as a blueprint, destroying the other blueprints that probably control your perception of money.

You can then start charting, mapping, and holding your thoughts and actions into practical plans for attaining the object of your Chief Aim, or purpose.  Through the Law of Habit you keep the object fixed in your mind and it permanently becomes implanted there.

This practice alone will destroy the poverty consciousness and set up, in its place, a prosperity consciousness.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11785866

Napoleon Hill: Lesson Three – The Habit of Saving – Pre Course

Saving – a word that’s unfamiliar and often completely disregarded in households across America.

According to a 2016 GOBankingRates survey, 69% of Americans have less than $1,000 in their savings accounts.  Less than $1,000! Is that even possible? We’re not even counting what mutual funds, 401k’s or anything; however, if there isn’t any money in a basic savings, the chances of having anything else lingering around is next to none.

You can ask me if money was what destroyed the relationship between my family and I.  Go ahead, ask!

Somewhat.  I’ll be honest.

Back in 2007, I was an aggressive saver.  I kept next-to-nothing in my checking account and threw everything in my savings.  Was I saving for a rainy day? Not necessarily.  I didn’t have a clue what my intentions were, but I would much rather be ready for an opportunity with money, rather than being broke and seeing the opportunity pass me right by.

I woke up just after 12am one May morning and had enough money in the bank to book a spontaneous trip to Australia, changing my life forever.  Would that have happened if I didn’t have money?

Before moving to Thailand, I went on trips to Sedona, Arizona and Honolulu, Hawaii.  The amount of jealousy and envy was boiling over so much that it was damn near the boiling point because my brother thought I was remarkably selfish for not handing over my funds to my mother.

Some of you are probably asking yourself, “how can I do it?”

Saving money is solely a matter of habit.  So, we need to talk about what habit is…..

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11769872

Napoleon Hill – The Power of Habit

Just four months ago, I had destructive habits in the morning.  I would literally get on social networking sites engaging in useless conversations that ended in a racial rant (towards me).  This would be from 6am-8am in the morning, completely throwing off my day before it even began – squandering out of bed with a frown on my face before putting my victim shirt on again.

Then, one day I was watching Tony Robbins ‘I’m not your guru’ and I saw that he would sit in front of the sea of his beachside resort in Florida while listening to a guided meditation.  He would do breathing exercises and also would jump in extremely hot water (manhole at his home) before jumping in the frigid cold (another manhole right beside it).

This is called habit.  When he does this, it shocks the body and stimulates the immune system immediately.  This man would have a ton of energy throughout the day and that’s without taking supplements.

See, I had a lack of understanding of applying this particular principle we call ‘habit.’ Habit ultimately grows out of environment; out of doing the same thing, thinking the same thing, and saying the same words repeatedly.

Just like affirmations, habit is created by literally reciting a statement to yourself or any desire.  This will eventually seek expression through physical, outward bodily efforts.

Henry Ford is the prime example of how it’s done.  Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company, was just a labourer in a machine shop with little to no schooling and without capital.  He use to work around people who he deemed smarter and more fit than him until he threw off the poverty consciousness and developed confidence within himself.  He’s still amassing millions of dollars each year because he believed he can transform that belief….the belief of confidence…into a definite purpose and backed that purpose with a plan.

Oh, and guess what – the other machinists? All they did was vision nothing but a weekly pay envelop that never got him anywhere.  They demanded nothing out of the ordinary of themselves.

If you want to get more, demand more of yourself.  Notice that this demand is to be made on yourself!

I’ll leave you with a poem written in Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success.

If you think you are beats, you are;

If you think you dare not, you don’t;

If you like to win, but you think you can’t,

It is almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose you’ve lost,

For out of the world we find

Success begins with a fellow’s will –

Its all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclasses, you are –

You’ve got to think high to rise.

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before you can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go

To the strong or faster man;

But soon or later the man who wins

Is the man who thinks he can.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11719416

 

Napoleon Hill – The Law of Success – Revamped Lessons

I’m bringing to everyone the book that seemingly began to change my life at the beginning of 2016.

Having already read the secret, my life still wasn’t changing.  The change ultimately happened after a completely failed trip to Singapore for New Years Eve in 2015 (last time I will ever travel with friends), and the lightbulb went off in my head, “what is it that’s trying to emerge in my life right now?”

Something guided me to one of the biggest book stores in Bangkok at Siam Paragon and there it was: Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success sitting on a shelf, untouched, and still wrapped.

I bought the book  which ultimately lead to my first ever podcasts which aren’t available on YouTube, so I decided to make blogs, remake the podcasts, and launch this.

If you’re looking for a starting point in your life, here it is.  I’m going to go lesson by less, including podcasts alongside each one, about the fifteen Laws of Success.  Here they are as followed…

  1. A Definite Chief Aim will teach you how to save wasted effort which the majority of people expend in trying to find their life-work.  This lesson will show you how to do away forever with aimlessness and fix your heart and hand upon some definite, well conceived purpose as a life-work.
  2. Self-Confidence will help you master the six basic fears with which every person is cursed – the fear of Poverty, the fear of Ill Health, the fear of Old Age, the fear of Criticism, the fear of Loss of Love of Someone and the fear of Death.  It will teach you the difference between egotism and real self-confidence which is based upon definite, usable knowledge.
  3. The Habit of Saving will teach you how to distribute your income systematically so that a definite percentage of it will steadily accumulate, thus forming one of the greatest known sources of personal power.  No one may succeed in life without saving money.  There is no exception to this rule, and no one may escape it.
  4. Initiative and Leadership will show you how to become a leader instead of a follower in your chosen field of endeavour.  It will develop in you the instinct for leadership which will cause you gradually to gravitate to the top in all undertakings in which you participate.
  5. Imagination will stimulate your mind so that you will conceive new ideas and develop new plans which will help you in attaining the object of your Definite Chief Aim.  This lesson will teach you how to “build new houses out of old stones,” so to speak.  It will show you how to create new ideas out of old, well know concepts, and how to put old ideas to new uses.  This one lesson, alone, is the equivalent of a ver practical course in salesmanship, and it is sure to prove a veritable gold mind of knowledge to the person who is in earnest.
  6. Enthusiasm will enable you to “saturate” all with whom you come in contact with interest in you and in your ideas.  Enthusiasm is the foundation of a Pleasing Personality and you must have such a personality in order to influence others to co-operate with you.
  7. Self-Control is the “balance wheel” with which you control your enthusiasm and direct it where you wish it to carry you.  This lesson will teach you, in a most practical manner, to become “the master of your fate, the Captain of your Soul.”
  8. The Habit of Doing More Than Paid For is one of the most important lessons in the Law of Success course.  It will teach you how to make advantage of the Law of Increasing Returns, which will eventually insure you a return in money far out of proportion to the service you render.  No one may become a real leader in any walk of life without practicing the habit of doing more work and better work than that for which he/she is paid.
  9. Pleasing Personality is the “fulcrum” on which you must place the “crow-bar” of your efforts, and when so placed, with intelligence, it will enable you to remove mountains of obstacles.  This one lesson, alone, has made scores of Master Salesmen.  It has developed leaders over night.  It will teach you how to transform your personality so that you may adapt yourself to any environment, or to any other personality, in such a manner that you may easily dominate.
  10. Accurate Thought is one of the important foundation stones of all enduring success.  This lesson teaches you how to separate “facts” from mere “information.”  It teaches you how to organise known facts into two classes: the “important” and the “unimportant.”  It reaches you how to determine what is an “important” fact.  It teaches you how to build definite working plans, in the pursuit of any calling, out of FACTS.
  11. Concentration teaches you how to focus your attention upon one subject at a time until you have worked out practical loans for mastering that subject.  It will teach you how to ally yourself with others in such a manner that you may have the use of their entire knowledge to back you up in your own plans and purposes.  It will give you a practical working knowledge of the forces around you, and show you how to harness and use there forces in furthering your own interests.
  12. Co-Operation will teach you the value of team-work in all you do.  In this lesson, you will be taught how to apply the law of the “mastermind” described in this Introduction and in Lesson One of this course.  This lesson will show you how to co-ordinate your own efforts with those of others, in such a manner that friction, jealousy, strife, envy, and cupidity will be eliminated.  You will learn how to make use of all that other people have learned about the work in which you are engaged.
  13. Profiting by FAILURE will teach you how to make stepping stones out of all of your past and future mistakes and failures.  It will teach you the difference between “failure” and “temporary defeat,” a difference which is very great and very important.  It will teach you how to profit by your own failures and by the failures of other people.
  14. Tolerance will teach you how to avoid the disastrous effects of racial and religious prejudices which mean defeat for millions of people who permit themselves to become entangled in foolish argument over these subjects, thereby poisoning their now minds and closing the door to reason and investigation.  This lesson is the twin sister of one on Accurate Thoughts, for the reason that no one may become an Accurate Thinker without practicing tolerance.  Intolerance closes the book of Knowledge and writes the cover, “Finis! I have learned it all!” Intolerance makes enemies of those who should be friends.  It destroys opportunity and fills the mind with doubt, mistrust, and prejudice.
  15. Practicing The Golden Rule will teach you how to make use of this great Universal Law of human conduct in such a manner that you may easily get harmonious co-operation from any individual or group of individuals.  Lack of understanding of the law upon which the Golden Rule philosophy is based is one of the major causes of failure of millions of people who remain in misery, poverty and want all their lives. This lesson has nothing whatsoever to do with religion in any form, nor with sectarianism, nor have any of the other lessons of this course on the Law of Success.

When you have mastered these Fifteen Laws and made them your own, as you may do within a period of from fifteen to thirty weeks, you will be ready to develop sufficient personal power to insure the attainment of your Definite Chief Aim.

With all of these being said, and how this has drastically changed the outcome over a one year period, join me on this journey.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11122199

A Morning Ritual That Helped Me Win The Day (#1)

Here are is one thing that I attempt to do every morning. Realistically, if I hit three out of five (which I will cover more over the coming days), I consider myself having won the morning. And if you win the morning, you win the day. I’m probably not the first person to say this, but it’s how I frame the importance of the first 60 to 90 minutes of the day.

These will probably seem like small things, but just remember: The small things are the big things…kind of like what I talked on my podcast this morning. https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10768288

#1—Make Your Bed (<3 minutes)

If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter.

  • I tried this yesterday, making my bed, doing my mindfulness meditation practice, and my “Tony Robbins” prime. What ultimately happened is I had one of the most productive days of the year just by creating momentum.

What is “making your bed” to me? I use the sweep-it-under-the-rug approach. The goal is visual tidiness, not Four Seasons. I don’t tuck in the sheets. I have a large blanket or duvet, and I’ll use that to cover the sheets, smoothing it out. Then, I place the pillows symmetrically underneath or on top of the blanket, and I’m done. That’s it. It’s very simple. If you work from home, this serves double duty, especially if you work in or near your bedroom. If you see an external distraction (speaking personally), you end up creating an internally distracted state.

These external distractions, especially after a long working day, could doom your evening before it even begins.  You could end up getting home and getting on your phone….an hour later, you realise you need to hurry up and unpack your gym bag, jump in the shower, and you miss out on 4 practices towards the end of the day that you could’ve done to retire for the night.

See, this is just one simple, easy exercise that can create lots of momentum.  I have plenty more coming, so stay tuned for them.  I’d rather not give you 5-10 in bulk, or else you’d just put it off.  So this is number one.

Number two is coming tomorrow! In the meantime, if you’re interested in other personal development books and ideas, tune into my podcast which has over 300 episodes down below.