The Arsenio Buck Foundation Official Launch!

There are foundations that I won’t name that do more taking than giving. There are too many “non profit” organizations that ask for money, but then those givers have no idea where there money actually goes. Over the course of so many years of seeing blood donation centers asking for blood and NGO’s asking for money, I decided to do this on my own.

Throughout my life, and having been born in a country is very high (yes, America….and poverty harbours within the mind), I’ve seen what poverty leads too. It’s generational. From the African Americans who sit on generational welfare, to the trailer parks where Caucasian Americans get inundated with drugs like heroin and cocaine, I can make a change.

Having lived in Thailand for five years and seeing the things I have for the last 5 years, my life-work/assignment has always been to give back — to do more than what I’m paid to do just so I can build upon the amazing person I already am.

My Four Pillars

So, The Arsenio Buck Foundation, which has now launched, has four pillars.

Schools, companies, and organizations wishing to book my services (and I do this for free) will have an opportunity to get in contact with me (I do two of these volunteering projects a year — 2020 may change to a handful, though) at ArsenioBuck@icloud.com.

English Language Training

This isn’t your basic, dumb down, open a book and teach. This is for all language learner levels and for people all over the world. This is a very intensive/interactive 2-3 day language/confidence building pillar that will enable students to break away from their shyness, make mistakes while speaking, and develop confidence within a short amount of time. It will also have implements of personal development, too.

Technology

Because I know how important the internet is today, people don’t understand how they’re a profile/click away from being HUGE. Creating an Instagram and finding the correct hashtags is the quickest way to building notoriety. Making pages, communicating with people on LinkedIn (if you’re a business professional) and other grounds, is what this dimension brings to the table.

Personal Development

Because I train business clients all over Thailand in terms of personal development, this is another area that will be accessible for schools/organizations. Leadership, finding your purpose, passion, self control, pleasing personality, etc are available — among so many others.

Victim – Victor

This is the most intense project. This is a lot of in-your-face, being held accountable, and digging deep into the minds of a lot of people who seemingly can’t except the fact about what’s happening around them. The goal for this one is to have everyone alleviate themselves from negative self-talk, physical environment issues, overcoming hardships, bad neighborhoods, horrible friends/workmates/family, and more.

So with these four pillars now intact, please follow my facebook page 

If you have any questions, please let me know!

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Listen to “The Arsenio Buck Foundation Introduction” on Spreaker.

Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Special – IELTS – Improving Fluency & Coherence

Welcome back, my students of the world! It’s time to go over two criteria that the examiner will assess you on in terms of speaking: Coherence & Fluency.

The notes that I recently showed you in the last live coaching will help you organize your ideas in a logical way.

One way to link your ideas is by using words and phrases like after, that, because of this, but, also, etc. We can also connect ideas using pronouns.

Tactic: It is important to use a variety of language.  Don’t REPEAT! I can’t stress this enough.

  • Think about the topic
  • Organize your ideas (improve your coherence).
  • Keep going during your talk (improve your fluency).

Task 2

Describe a person who has been an important influence in your life.

You should say…..

  • who this person is and how long you have known him or her for
  • why you chose this person
  • how this person has influenced your life

and explain how you feel about him or her.

Typical Notes

Who and how long? Les Brown/70 years old/speaker and transformational coach/lives in America/never met him.

Why I chose him: inspired me to get out of my rut in Thailand, made goals, learned about personal development, transformed my life completely.

How he has influenced my life taught me how to keep going/ stop becoming a victim/ don’t give up/ passion in what I do.

My feelings grateful/admiration/proud

Some things to think about. 

When you make notes, how do you write them? List? Scattered? Mindmap? Do you write single words? Long phrases? Whole sentences?

Idea connecting phrases

  • I’ve decided to talk about….
  • I’ve known him/her…
  • I chose him/her because/……
  • I think she/he has influenced my life by…..
  • When I think of him/her, I feel…….

Podcast

IELTS Live Coaching PDF – Episode 003

YouTube – Coming Soon

Lewis Howes’ Masks of Masculinity Book Review: Stoic & Athlete Mask – Episode 3

I decided to break these down in increments of two (1/4) because I feel it would me too much material to handle in one go.  So, here’s a breakdown of the STOIC and Athlete masks.

The STOIC mask somewhat relates to the Alpha Mask in a way that men AREN’T SUPPOSED to show their emotions.  Every man dreams of being the hero, but the amount of pain that lies within him, is killing him — literally.

There was a substitute teacher I had back in the 6th grade that told us a story about her brother.  With every hardship, he stayed quiet.  He didn’t want to express his feelings, because apparently that would make him less of a man.  One day he had a heart attack, dying right before his family.  She went on the ask us, “why do you think he died?”  We, of course at a very young age, were scratching our heads.  The reason for the heart attack was because he held all those feelings of greed, grief, hate, and all other negative feelings with him; rather than having someone on the receiving end, listen.

What Can You Do?

A weight off your shoulders
Deeper relationships with men and women
Healing
A healthy heart
Vulnerability
The permission to feel
Acceptance and belonging

Step 1: Make a list of the five most painful moments of your life. Note what happened, and how you felt in each moment. Journal about it and go into detail. (An example could be: My dad was my best friend growing up, but he abandoned me when I was 6, and it left me devastated.)
Step 2: Once you’ve journaled about these painful moments, read them out loud to yourself. Give yourself permission to feel or to cry about them when you hear your own words. Play soft instrumental music during this process to facilitate your ability to reach your emotions as you allow your feelings to awaken.

Step 3: Share them. When you have accepted the truth of this pain and all these emotions, tell a friend, partner, or family member whom you trust. Part of removing the Stoic Mask is allowing other people to support you. The only way they can do that is if they know what’s going on. I’m a big believer that anyone who has experienced trauma in their past (and hasn’t ever discussed it with someone) will allow the trauma to grow in negative ways. You won’t be able to heal until you begin to share your story.
Step 4: Look into hiring a coach, therapist, or someone who is a specialist. Once you’ve shared your pain, you need to find someone who has experience with helping people understand their emotions and get comfortable with them. For those who really struggle behind the Stoic Mask, this is serious work and it requires a serious approach. But it is work that can start today, right now, with a piece of paper and a pencil.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

Athlete Masks

From the Tommy Hearns and Marvin Hagler, to the battles of NFL players trying to prove rights over others by delivering the most vicious, bone-crushing hits.

“Gilbert Arenas, the ultra-talented point guard for the Golden State Warriors and Washington Wizards? Not only was he a prolific scorer and a back-to-back-to-back NBA All-Star who led the entire league in minutes played during the 2005–06 season, but he and his Wizards teammate Javaris Crittenton threatened each other with handguns in the team locker room. Is that what men do? Threaten each other with dangerous weapons over a $1,100 gambling debt? This move cost Arenas $7.5 million in salary. Crittenton is currently serving a 23-year prison sentence on an unrelated 2015 manslaughter charge.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

“Think about all the incredible athletes out there whose prowess on the field doesn’t line up with the way they conduct their personal lives. Take Antonio Cromartie, a four-time Pro Bowler who led the entire NFL in interceptions in 2007 and holds the record for the longest play in NFL history. He is mind-bogglingly talented. But you forget all of that when you watch him in a 2010 episode of HBO’s Hard Knocks, a sports documentary series, where he struggles to remember and recite the names of his eight children (from seven mothers), three of whom are the same age. Cromartie now has 10 children with twins on the way, and reportedly pays close to $340,000 a year in child support.” – Lewis Howes

So, you can see these two masks are what 95% of men in the world suffer from.  Let’s take them off once and for all!

What can you do now?

Five core areas…

1.Health: mental, physical, emotional
2.Relationships: intimate, family, friends
3.Wealth: finances, career, education, business
4.Contribution: making an impact in the world and other people’s lives, being of service
5.Spiritual: connecting to a higher power or your spiritual beliefs”

Podcast

Rising Above The Madness

A series of these blogs could potentially coming out over the next several months until I agree upon my next destination.

The term “rise above it” came from a comical character I used to work with.  This was a 70-year-old Anglo man in one of the most anglo countries on planet Earth (Thailand).  I would tell him about my situations, and even what had happened last year and he shrugged it off like it was nothing.

How come is it that men, of all colors, just cannot show empathy and sympathy for their fellow men, regardless of creed, color, ethnicity, and cultural backgrounds?  On the other hand, if this many would’ve stood up for me when the going got going, the outcome could’ve potentially been much different.

It’s like the story I told sometime last year about the African American woman and Anglo woman in the store.  The Anglo woman had been going to this particular store for two weeks.  The African American had been going there for more than two years.  When both women approached the counter, the clerk greeted the Anglo woman with a big smile: and that same smile was changed right upside down when the African American woman approached the camera.  Yes, the African American woman greeted her with a big smile, just as the Anglo woman did.

This clerk went on to give the African American woman a very hard time, checking the check to see if it was real.  Thankfully, the Anglo woman spoke up and said, “ummm, excuse me. Why are you doing this to this woman?”

The clerk responded, “because I don’t know her…and I know you?”

“You’ve only known me for two weeks.  This lady has been coming here for over two years.”

That little difference means everything in the world.  If people can just speak up in the wake of a racially influenced situation, the world can rise above the world.

That particular gentleman, who I still have to see everyday of my life, just needed to hear my story and show empathy.  Instead, he deflected, like one of the world leaders, and told me to simply “rise above it.”

Easy for you to say.

But I will rise above it.  I have risen above it.  Looking back on the last five years of my life in Thailand, I’ve risen against pure insanity.  The comments I’ve gotten from everyone — to the failed job interviews because of the color of my skin — I am enough.

So many people around the world, including a singer by the name of Lil Kim, chose and still chooses to bleach their skin to make themselves more “fair.”  And because of the events where sympathy and empathy lacked, these individuals ultimately altered their skin tone because they were tired of being made fun of.

I’m challenging everyone to stand up for your fellow samaritan by your side in situations such as this.

Lisa Nichols – Leave The Legacy

“How will you live every day, and how will you impact people for the better—improving the world for others who’ll (hopefully) take up your work when you are compelled to pass the torch?” – Lisa Nichols

If you look at some of the most iconic figures in the 20th century in America, to the late 20th century in South Africa.  Those who made an unbelievable sacrifice to better the lives for the next generations to come.

 

On the other hand, our individual accolades is all we can control.  First, we have to be the difference we want to see in the world.  It’s kind of like the colleague that complains endlessly about everything but doesn’t provide any solutions.  The “circle of influence” is all we can control.  If we start taking those micro win steps that ultimately lead to small goals, which then leads to the macro win goals….it will give us long-term momentum to the point we want to achieve goals ALL THE TIME because of the feeling.

I love using the reference about the two school students at an International School who provided a small village in Cambodia clean water, food, and a school to learn English. These two unique individuals have made a loud entrance to creating a legacy, and they will continue supporting and improving the lives of others who seemingly can’t create anything given their situations.

“What does it mean to live your legacy? It requires amassing financial wealth, of course. But it also suggests that you should fill your life with a passionate career, rewarding experiences, nurturing relationships, supportive friendships, a beautiful home where you and family can renew and restore, hobbies and shared opportunities that bring you together with evolved and aware people, philanthropies and charities that you establish or support, traditions that you start—the sum total of a rich and rewarding lifestyle that you enjoy and that provides countless opportunities to bring others along with you.

When you complete this life, how will people view the mission, the activities, and the connections that you pursued? How will those you’ve carried along with you use these assets after you are gone to further your work and adopt your dreams as their own?

Have you ever thought about it?

What, if anything, is holding you back from doing so?” – Lisa Nichols

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11373698