Personal Development & Physical Environment Goals For 2018

I combined the both together because there’s not much to report.  There are specific areas of my life that can certainly use some work – so let’s zero in on them.

Personal Development

Fear kind of gets to me still.  The fear of not getting a job.  The fear of leaving Thailand for Santiago, Chile.  It’s an exciting fear, but I do believe that I’m resisting a lot from happening because I wait anxiously and think too much (as most of us do).  In that case, I need to find a book that can help with fear.  The worrying book by Dale Carnegie was absolutely STELLAR; and I still use it to this day, but I need something that digs deep into my mind and can tell me, “um, Arsenio…what the hell are you scared for?”

I’ve done some extraordinary podcasts, gone through some books, and read hundreds of pages in 2017 for my blog and podcast that lead to not only me instilling lots of prized information, but changing the lives of so many people around the world.  That’s such an accomplishment.

So what’s the plan for this year? I need to keep learning.  Hell, I believe I can improve my writing style.  Different complex sentence structures and need to vary my vocabulary much more – especially in my book.

Spanish, which I haven’t listened to since Wednesday, is something I’m preparing and practicing for (potential move to Chile is becoming larger).

How can I become a better teacher, student, lover, and so many other things?  This is all part of personal development.

Physical Environment

My place, which I just moved into two weeks ago, is marvellous.  I’m literally sitting on my bed overlooking traffic, a Sky Train system, sun is setting, skies are somewhat blue, and I’m eight floors up.  Everything from the air condition, to my kitchen is just SOUND! I’m in love! This is a big part of what could be my last months here in Thailand. What’s interesting is I was thinking a few days ago about living in my other condo.  If I was there for five days doing nothing during the holidays, I could’ve lost my mind, given the fact there’s nothing in that area except ignorance, and a shopping plaza full of ignorance (lol).  I’m just so grateful to be living in Bangkok because it’s just active.  Hell, I just went running recently down the streets and these office women were looking at me, biting their lip.  My physical environment is at a 10 at home. However, work is work…and until I have an interview next week on Skype with a potential employer in Santiago, it will remain a source of income.

Goals for the year is definitely to live in a place where there isn’t any music (if I move), and have a job that I can make money on top of money.  I want to have projects like I have here in Thailand…but in Chile.  Only time will tell.

Podcast

Wheel of Life: A Change Is Needed!

Another monthly wheel of life update!  For those of you tuning into my blog for the first time, this is an excellent way of evaluating your life and figuring out what areas of your life need work and which areas you’ve been neglecting.  You have to be brutally honest with yourself about this process.  When you face the truth, you’re more prone to making proactive decisions towards making your life better.  If you give yourself high marks in the very beginning, I can tell that you’re not being honest with yourself.

Here are my scores for the month….

Family & Friends – 8

Romantic Relationships – 3?

Career – 7

Personal Development – 9

Health – 6

Fun & Hobbies – 7

Physical Environment – 7

Wealth – 8

Eight categories need grading on a scale 1-10.

Here’s my podcast down below for more of an explanation.

Podcast

Some Ways To Complete Clutter Before Moving Forward

I want to ask all of you how many things do you need to complete, dump, or delegate before you can move on and bring new activity, abundance, relationships, and excitement into your life?

Make a list and choose four items from the list to kick off the completion.  I would suggest choosing the one that would immediately free up th most time, energy, or space for you – whether it’s mental space or physical space.

Clean up the major ones, and do this at least once every three months.  I’ll write down a list that Jack Canfield compiled.

  1. Former business activities that need completion.
  2. Promises not kept, not acknowledge, or not renegotiated.
  3. Unpaid debts or financial commitments (money owed to others or to you)
  4. Closets overflowing with clothing never worn.
  5. A disorganised garage.
  6. “Junk drawers” full of unusable items.
  7. A car trunk or backseat full of trash.
  8. Computer files not backed up.
  9. Desk surface cluttered or disorganised.
  10. Family pictures never put into an album.
  11. Deferred household maintenance.
  12. Personal relationships with unstated requests, resentments, or appreciations.
  13. People you need to forgive.
  14. Time not spent with people you’ve been meaning to spend time with.
  15. Incomplete projects or projects delivered without closure or feedback.
  16. Acknowledgements that need to be given or asked for.

What’s irritating you at home? Is it the insects that keep coming in underneath the door? The neighbors bad habits? Uncleaned kitchen floor? Super dusty patio?  One of the best things you can do to move further and faster along your success path is to fix, replace, mend, or get rid of those annoying irritants that annoy you and stay in your mind.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9121061

Lisa Nichols – Leave The Legacy

“How will you live every day, and how will you impact people for the better—improving the world for others who’ll (hopefully) take up your work when you are compelled to pass the torch?” – Lisa Nichols

If you look at some of the most iconic figures in the 20th century in America, to the late 20th century in South Africa.  Those who made an unbelievable sacrifice to better the lives for the next generations to come.

 

On the other hand, our individual accolades is all we can control.  First, we have to be the difference we want to see in the world.  It’s kind of like the colleague that complains endlessly about everything but doesn’t provide any solutions.  The “circle of influence” is all we can control.  If we start taking those micro win steps that ultimately lead to small goals, which then leads to the macro win goals….it will give us long-term momentum to the point we want to achieve goals ALL THE TIME because of the feeling.

I love using the reference about the two school students at an International School who provided a small village in Cambodia clean water, food, and a school to learn English. These two unique individuals have made a loud entrance to creating a legacy, and they will continue supporting and improving the lives of others who seemingly can’t create anything given their situations.

“What does it mean to live your legacy? It requires amassing financial wealth, of course. But it also suggests that you should fill your life with a passionate career, rewarding experiences, nurturing relationships, supportive friendships, a beautiful home where you and family can renew and restore, hobbies and shared opportunities that bring you together with evolved and aware people, philanthropies and charities that you establish or support, traditions that you start—the sum total of a rich and rewarding lifestyle that you enjoy and that provides countless opportunities to bring others along with you.

When you complete this life, how will people view the mission, the activities, and the connections that you pursued? How will those you’ve carried along with you use these assets after you are gone to further your work and adopt your dreams as their own?

Have you ever thought about it?

What, if anything, is holding you back from doing so?” – Lisa Nichols

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11373698

 

A Morning Ritual That Helped Me Win The Day (#1)

Here are is one thing that I attempt to do every morning. Realistically, if I hit three out of five (which I will cover more over the coming days), I consider myself having won the morning. And if you win the morning, you win the day. I’m probably not the first person to say this, but it’s how I frame the importance of the first 60 to 90 minutes of the day.

These will probably seem like small things, but just remember: The small things are the big things…kind of like what I talked on my podcast this morning. https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10768288

#1—Make Your Bed (<3 minutes)

If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task and another and another. By the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that little things in life matter.

  • I tried this yesterday, making my bed, doing my mindfulness meditation practice, and my “Tony Robbins” prime. What ultimately happened is I had one of the most productive days of the year just by creating momentum.

What is “making your bed” to me? I use the sweep-it-under-the-rug approach. The goal is visual tidiness, not Four Seasons. I don’t tuck in the sheets. I have a large blanket or duvet, and I’ll use that to cover the sheets, smoothing it out. Then, I place the pillows symmetrically underneath or on top of the blanket, and I’m done. That’s it. It’s very simple. If you work from home, this serves double duty, especially if you work in or near your bedroom. If you see an external distraction (speaking personally), you end up creating an internally distracted state.

These external distractions, especially after a long working day, could doom your evening before it even begins.  You could end up getting home and getting on your phone….an hour later, you realise you need to hurry up and unpack your gym bag, jump in the shower, and you miss out on 4 practices towards the end of the day that you could’ve done to retire for the night.

See, this is just one simple, easy exercise that can create lots of momentum.  I have plenty more coming, so stay tuned for them.  I’d rather not give you 5-10 in bulk, or else you’d just put it off.  So this is number one.

Number two is coming tomorrow! In the meantime, if you’re interested in other personal development books and ideas, tune into my podcast which has over 300 episodes down below.