Podcasts or Audio Books? Which Are better?

Welcome back to another blog, people! Today I’m tackling a controversial topic. 

When it comes to podcasts, you want to listen to podcasts that bring you the most value.  Was just listening to Pat Flynn about hosting guests on podcasts, and I believe that 98% of podcasts out there in the world don’t value the listeners time. 

If I look at my podcast, that’s why it hasn’t grown in three years.  I kept scratching my head saying, “how come it’s not getting more popular?” This happened shortly after launching my ESL podcast, which toppled charts and insane amounts of attention within the first few months — still growing as I write today.  

It’s because each podcast has a theme and teaches a specific facet of the English language.  I give an eternal preview, give target vocab/grammar, and sum it up at the end with a blog.  My personal development podcasts, however, doesn’t have that.  Often times I talked about my problems in all of 2016 with very little value.  

Now, I’ve been bringing different podcasts on that have themes, interviewees that speak about specific subjects, and I have actionable steps that I put in at the end, as well as assessments.

And what happened? Well, I’ve made more money on my podcasts the last two months than the previous 18 months (when I first turned on monitization). 

Now that we’ve cleared that up, what about audio books? Well, you heard me recommend scribd, but how am I able to juggle both of them?  Well, if you look at the majority of podcasts, a lot of them are recycled.  Gary Vee, who I very seldom listen to anymore, recycles a lot of his videos that I already know about.  I’ve graduated from that. 

Tom Bilyeu, who I believed peaked at the beginning of Impact Theory, has ridiculous ads smack down in the middle of his podcast.  I think that’s the absolute worst marketing strategy.  On top of that, Lewis Howes’ pre-roll agitates me, just as Jim Kwik’s does, so I find myself speeding through the first five minutes to avoid it.  

I’m telling you not from a complaining standpoint, but a listening standpoint. 

HOWEVER, when it comes to audio books, all you have are the respective table of contents at the beginning and that’s IT.  This puts a huge smile on my face, because I know what I’m listening to.  For instance, there’s a book featuring Napoleon Hill interviewing Andrew Carnegie and I’ve gotten more from the first 5 chapters of that audio book than I’ve gotten from any Grant Cardone, Gary Vee or Tom Bilyeu podcast all year!

Books have an insane amount of knowledge, and without them — the majority of these entrepreneurs wouldn’t exist. 

  1. Find an audiobook that you need help with.  

Example, there are specific blogs that are viewed relentlessly on my blog.  Why? The unbelievable amount of value it has.  It was out of Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits book.  So, from a marketing standpoint, I wanted to review another Stephen Covey book, not only that, but I needed to learn more about myself and trusting people. 

So, I got the Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust, and now those blogs are skyrocketing.  

Find an area of your life that you need help with and focus on that area through audio books. 

     2. Podcasts will become a saturated market, so keywording things you want to learn about online and seeing the figures you like might ultimately help you. 

With Gary Vee suggesting to 10 million of his followers to make a podcast, if you’re not branding the hell out of yourself with hashtags at the moment, you’re in trouble.  But if you’re looking for one, I suggest going for audio books first because again, you will learn a hell of a lot more in books.

     3. Don’t research top podcasts; research top books. 

Think and Grow Rich, Laws of Success, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, How to Win and Influence People, these are just a few.  Find the audio form of these, grab a notepad and start writing.  This is exactly what my sidekick does, Luke Burrows. 

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You Can’t Win An Argument/The Big Secret of Dealing With People – Part II

This book, which I finished doing sometime last year, has really changed my entire perception on what I can do in regards to handling people, especially in ugly situations.  Here are a couple things I’ve encountered in my daily life over the past couple of months.

Now, I’m doing this two months later because I didn’t want to do it at the time.  One of my proud podcast listeners and I, who lives in America, got into a little bit of a dispute with me over a total miscommunication.

Let’s just put this in dumb-down English.  I told her to call me at a specific time and she called me at an opposite time before blaming me.

The conversation went something like this, “ummmmm I already got the information I needed, but I truly hope you don’t treat me like your Asian friends out there.”  That’s in a very nice tone…it was much uglier than that — of course — an eye-opening experience for myself.

This particular individual reached out to me in regards to teaching abroad, and given my charisma, decided to tell her to phone me from the other side of the planet so I can go over some details.  Well, I told her simply not to call me at night time (my time) and rather her time.  She got confused and then jumped out on me saying, “wait, you didn’t answer your phone because you were watching a movie?”  I said to MYSELF, “regardless if I was or wasn’t, you called me at the wrong time.”

Rather than her admitting that she was wrong, she hurled criticism at me.

Given the fact that this was one of my listeners, I reverted to the Dale Carnegie training manual.

You Can’t Win An Argument

“Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save his face? He didn’t ask for your opinion. He didn’t want it. Why argue with him? Always avoid the acute angle.” ”

Excerpt From: Dale Carnegie. “How to Win Friends & Influence People.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/how-to-win-friends-influence-people/id1237723501?mt=11

Regardless if she was wrong or wasn’t, I now have a brand.  This brand is ultimately going to carry me to the greatest heights in my life because of the constant discipline and beating on my craft.  So while I was sitting on the massage table waiting to be ripped apart, I had a glimpse at how wrong this conversation can go.  How bad it can get and potentially dampen my reputation.

At that exact moment, I knew i was going to win the argument, although I was right.  So, I wrote something like this.

? I’m sorry if you feel that way, but I think this has gotten way blown out of proportion.  I do apologize if you feel that I’ve wasted your time, but there was a miscommunication that happened between us.

However, I’m very excited that you got the information needed to go further with your decision in terms of moving abroad.  Just know that the culture shock is all part of the process.  Everything you go through is going to be eye-opening, but embrace every bit of it.  I wish you the best!

After a full-day, she later responded with a four sentence reply.

There’s no way you can respond to a message like that in a incensed, animosity-filled rant.  She was clarified, dealt, and now that’s the end of it.

The best part about this is if I hadn’t read this wonderful book that was written more than a half a century ago, I would’ve gotten into a heated debate and it would’ve destroyed everything I’ve ever built up to this point.

Just recently I stopped working at a job where I’ve been for four years (and I’m so grateful I’ve left), but I remember getting into a heated debate with a British coordinator who is as pompous as they come.  Everything I’ve said, with proven facts, went in one ear and out the other.  This man, who came all the way to this southeast Asian country to marry a wife and escape his past, wanted to see an African American fail (or “black” man for the lack of better term), and he didn’t succeed – even though he sat there with his bland statistics (ancient way of trying to call someone out).

However, who wins in the end? Again, if I hadn’t known about this book, I would’ve went on a full-on rant and probably would’ve gotten fired.  This man, who has a rapidly deteriorating body, is soon to pass – given the fact that he’s almost 80 years old and still working for $13 an hour.  I have empathy for him, and I would be visibly upset with myself, too, for making the actions such as coming to a developing country in my lonesome.  This particular entry refers back to the Remember No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog Podcast.

Anywho, these are the ways I handle situations.  From not trying to lose a potential podcast listener, to overcoming vindictive beings who are out to try and making other people’s lives miserable.

Podcast

Darren Hardy: Associations – Who’s Influencing You?

Who do you spend the most time with?

Honestly, ask yourself this question because within it lies the answer to all your sorrows.  Are you constantly around negative people? Do I have to bring this up AGAIN? You are who your closest five friends are.  Just do me a favor and drop one loser friend out of your life.  Ok, if you don’t want to expunge the human being because he’s been your friend all your life, just reduce the amount of time you talk to him/her for.  Go form speaking three times a day to him/her – to two times a day.  It will make a difference.

When I first moved to Bangkok, I had no idea that I developed a hell of an intuition for the 11 months I was in Las Vegas (after my Australia visa finished).  What happened was I had a friend.  This friend had a “bad” job….not even sure how I met her (she was a soapy massage girl).  When I met her for the second time ever, I saw the amount of bad energy she had.  The feeling of pain (agony), discontent, anger, and depression that was around her was unbearable.  I recall looking into her eyes at one point and I immediately looked away.  When I left to my main province in job in southeast Thailand, I never spoke to her again.

Later, I had a couple friends by the name of Mook and Ploy who were very nice individuals.  I realized then that I should probably be around nice people; rather than soapy massage girls (comical – I know).

Do you spend time around people who want more in life, or people who are considered “losers?”

Who are the people you most admire?

Ahhhh….the sound of Les Brown’s voice is amazing.  Many of you reading this blog probably admire your parents, your best friends, even the dog down the road.  By all means…we have different means of inspiration, but my parent (my mother…I don’t consider Willie my parent) fueled my inspiration in 2006 when she gave me all rights to my life.  Magnificent human being.  After that, I found my inspiration on YouTube in 2015 – the last year I constantly victimized myself.   Lisa Nichols, Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Tim Ferris, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, and other books and videos disrupted my biochemistry and I began to believe in myself again – oh, most notably – Jack Canfield.

How about you? Do you admire sports stars? Or, do you admire historical figures of the past? 

Are those two groups of people exactly the same? 

They’re all the same in terms of inspiration and what they preach and teach about.

Eventually, over the course of x amount of months, whoever you spend time with most….you begin to eat what they eat, talk what they talk, walk how they walk, dress like they dress, treat people how they treat people, read what they read.  You name it…you become it.

Think of a friend who orders the greasy food or cocktails before dinner (although I love me some oven-baked chicken and long islands from time-to-time), and if you hang out with them enough, you’ll know that it’s a very ugly habit.  Just recently I met a girl who was saying, “I hate working out. It’s boring. It’s not fun.  I’m lazy…and I like being fat.”  Stay around someone like that long enough and you’ll become that person.  Meanwhile, your other friends order healthy food and talk about the inspiring books they’re reading and their ambitions in their businesses, and you begin to assimilate their behaviors and habits. You read and talk about what they talk about, you see the movies they’re excited about, and you go to the places they recommend.

This was one of the biggest deciding factors in leaving America permanently.  I knew if I had stuck around in my families sorrows, I too, would become part of their sorrows.  The 11 months from June 2012 – May 2013 were some of the most difficult months of my life.  The constant nagging, not having enough money comments, complaining about one’s boyfriend, bad-mouthing people from work….it wore me out.  Luckily, I purchased a pair of Bose Headphones, which was one of the smartest purchases I’ve ever made in my life, in Australia earlier in 2012.  Nonetheless, you can’t live a positive life around negative people.

So, ask yourself now: “what’s the combined average income, health, and attitudes of the people you spend the most time with?”

When I was in Australia last year, my ex-friend (yeah, my ex-friend) had become a nurse.  Her income was much more than mine, but it inspired me.  My best friend in New York makes more than me.  That also inspires me.  Those are, or were my closest friends.  I don’t have to worry about this because I’m around my students the majority of the time.  So after a long work day, I don’t go hang out with friends because I have to prepare everything for the next day.

However, you….the reader….you need to write down the names of those five people. Write down the main characteristics.  Look at where they’re going in life, the relationships they have with other people.  Is that list ok for you. Are you heading in the right direction?

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Circle of Concern vs. Circle of Influence: Friendship Woes

It’s been a very turbulent year — people (what I would call friends in the past) coming and going.  Some of this could be unbearable for most, but I built up a fortified wall in front of my feelings, telling myself that all of these so-called “friends” are here to fulfill a purpose.  Remember what I said a long time ago: life-time, life-giving, and purposeful relationships.  People are categorized into these three areas.

Best Friends Turned Enemy

I don’t believe it was so much her getting a boyfriend, but me having a life-changing experience happen on the other end just 3 weeks after.  My life went from almost investing and staying in Thailand long-term, to almost booking a trip to Honduras or Costa Rica after a racially implicit event in my workplace and was expunged from teaching at a company.  Yes, if she was my best friend Andre, we would be able to talk it out, make amends, and just move on with our friendship.  With her there was possible miscommunication, but I also saw danger — danger that could’ve bloomed if I had gone to America.  So, I cancelled the trip, and three weeks later my job was on the line.  My hands were incredulously on my head and I was being criticized by an individual who shouldn’t be criticizing anyone, given the circumstances of him being in Thailand.

Almost one month later, new condo, five job opportunities, six projects and so many other things….now I understand WHY I didn’t go to America.

Purposeful Relationship Turned Chaos

I met someone by the name of Zern who I thought had the same energy as I.  I seriously thought that she was me in a completely different form.  However, after two weeks, a nose-dive happened.  The energy between us changed and then the complaints were ON 100% (barely anything coming from my kisser).  This lead to her going out with a friend to one of the most notorious areas in all of Asia where drunk, poor backpackers go to have sex.  That was THE END. 

The Student That Couldn’t Take It

The last episode comes from an individual who I catapulted into the University of Sydney.  After completion of her Masters Degree, she came back (just recently) to Thailand.  Because I’m going through a very pivotal stage in my life, I need her to help me with translations from English-to-Thai.  Granted, I helped her with grammatical structures the past 1.5 years.  She helped me, and then I asked her for a very important favor.  Before I continue, she is a doctor.  Now, let’s get back into this…..I needed assistance taking some luggage and boxes to my new condo.

CRICKETS

After that message, she was gone!

Moral of these stories…..you’re the only person who can be rescue 911.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/circle-of-concern-vs-circle-of-influence

The Ramble: Traveling Next Year, Podcast, GaryVee, My Own Medicine, Q’s & A’s.

I decided to create a podcast on what’s happening in the life of Arsenio Buck in Bangkok, Thailand.  Here’s a rundown of today’s topics in short and what’s been happening since my “Wheel of Life” podcast.

Traveling

I pre-booked some spots in my schedule for next years traveling because, of course, I need to have traveling + Spartan competitions, and traveling just for the sake of seeing wonderful countries.

Kazakhstan/Kyrgyzstan are both an 80% go at this point, unless withdrawals happen because my lack of depositing into a developing relationship.  Honestly, some of you are probably thinking now, “omg! Those countries? Why?” Well, I’ve always wanted to travel to Central Asia because I believe like Georgia and Azerbaijan, its the best kept secret.  I’ve seen how open-minded just about everyone is there just being online and how friendly they are and willing to meet.  My heart is telling me to go there; and on top of that, I have a brilliant friend who’s urging me to visit.  So, expect a April landfall, podcasts, and crazy blogs + videos coming up during that time.

Cairo, Egypt….yes, yes, YES! I went on a day trip when I was in the Maldives to one of the islands in proximity to Hulhumale, and on that boat trip on over…I locked eyes with a specimen.  A gorgeous specimen, but she gave me an unresponsive stare.  However, when we got to the island, she unwittingly grabbed my empty glass and placed it on a plate that the concierge was collecting.  I said, “omg, thank you!” It was the sweetest gesture ever.  10 minutes later – her, myself, and her friend were chatting it up, under the sun, in the most gorgeous, turquoise waters ever.  She’s a soon-to-be dentist and he’s a soon-to-be engineer.  They said Egypt, especially Cairo, is AMAZING! And that I should visit.  They also told me that September was the perfect month to visit, too.  Therefore, September is when I will set air (not set sail) to Cairo!

With those two massive trips looming in the New Year, I still need to fit in America, and my short Spartan holidays (Malaysia, Singapore, Taiwan, Hong Kong and possibly Melbourne, Australia if my friend becomes a friend again between now and February).  It’s an action packed year approaching!

GaryVee Podcast

Boy! I listened for probably 30 minutes last night and about 30 minutes this morning.  The keys and things he said in the podcasts I listened to relate so much to my podcast in general.  For instance, there was a girl talking about, “I’m not thinking so much of the present right now because our business is losing money…I’m thinking more of the future.”  This struck me because just a few days ago I was pretty down on my podcast plays before I made a podcast + blog about not giving up.  Within 24 hours, I got the best back-to-back day in my podcast history in terms of plays with countries such as China, Mauritius, Hungary, Uganda and others coming on strong.  The thing is you’re going to encounter a lot of setbacks, but those setbacks are needed for the process called “growth.” Never forget that.

Two Days Ago & Dealing With Ignorance

Wednesday was a head scratching day.  It first started with going into a 7-11.  There was a man standing just a few steps back behind the counter.  I, unknowingly, stepped in.  After that, this same man took four giant steps back into the middle of the aisle, standing there with a blank look on his face.  What my historical self would’ve said would be something around the lines of, “oh, you’re acting like an asshole. I didn’t know you were in line.  Come up here? You don’t want to go?”  However, I invited him to come before me and he still had a blank look on his face.  I won’t fight with ignorance, so I decided to just pay and go.  I win, he loses.  Done.

However, later on that evening I had some students laugh and make fun of the Vegas massacre.  Ignorance like that cannot be tolerated, and it often happens here in Thailand, unfortunately.  The lack of sympathy, empathy, compassion and heart runs real deep within 90% of the beings here.  I erupted and some of the other teachers in nearby classrooms heard the commotion.  I said, “do you think that’s funny? 59 people dying is funny to you?” One shrugged her shoulders and I went on a rant, threw some paper at them and that will be the last time ever facing those individuals again.  Now, of course I’ve been reading so much on dealing with people, but that’s a whole different level of ignorance that can only be handled by fury.

Inhale……..exhale.  Everything is perfectly fine.  I feel that the situation last night had to occur for a reason.  My guess is something, or someone, is trying to emerge in that time-frame.  It took a comment from a few individuals for me to say, “find someone else to deal with your ignorance.”  These things happen, people.  Despite my reaction and them, words and pettiness comes and goes a dime a dozen with no value whatsoever.  State what you have to say, and when you say it…know the ramifications of what might happen.  Nevertheless, I’m grateful for having yet another opportunity to teach and speak in this country filled with opportunities.  See, you can change your state-of-mind pretty quick, if you want to.

 

How To Criticize — And Not Be Hated For It

Is it possible? Perhaps!

“Charles Schwab was passing though one of his steel mills one day at noon when he came across some of his employees smoking. Immediately above their heads was a sign that said “No Smoking.” Did Schwab point to the sign and say, “Can’t you read?” Oh, no not Schwab. He walked over to the men, handed each one a cigar, and said, “I’ll appreciate it, boys, if you will smoke these on the outside.” They knew that he knew that they had broken a rule—and they admired him because he said nothing about it and gave them a little present and made them feel important. Couldn’t keep from loving a man like that, could you?”

Excerpt From: Dale Carnegie. “How to Win Friends & Influence People.”

Pretty smart, right? How often do we find ourselves in shouting matches with people at our local convenience stories? Working up a sweat and raising your blood pressure only to see that “enemy” smiling while waving ‘goodbye.’  They win, you lose.

As human beings, we’re quick to criticize.  I was recently killing my brain cells while watching useless MMA YouTube videos. While I was watching some of these videos, I would see the MMA fighters not only lacking confidence, but blaming reporters for the “stirring” up of everything.  I like the Marshawn Lynch and Richard Sherman approach of everything.

The lady tries to criticize him and he asks her follow-up questions to question her credibility.  This is an excellent way with dealing with critics in general.

Marshawn just completely ignores them by saying, “yes.” I find it amusing.

“Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word “but” and ending with a critical statement. For example, in trying to change a child’s careless attitude toward studies, we might say, “We’re really proud of you, Johnnie, for raising your grades this term. But if you had worked harder on your algebra, the results would have been better.”
In this case, Johnnie might feel encouraged until he heard the word “but.” He might then question the sincerity of the original praise. To him, the praise seemed only to be a contrived lead-in to a critical inference of failure. Credibility would be strained, and we probably would not achieve our objectives of changing Johnnie’s attitude toward his studies.
This could be easily overcome by changing the word “but” to “and.” “We’re really proud of you, Johnnie, for raising your grades this term, and by continuing the same conscientious efforts next term, your algebra grade can be up with all the others.”
Now, Johnnie would accept the praise because there was no follow-up of an inference of failure. We have called his attention to the behavior we wished to change indirectly, and the chances are he will try to live up to our expectations.”

Dale Carnegie wrote this in his book and it couldn’t have been more true.

 

Do This And You’ll Be Welcomed Anywhere

Some of you wonder why are you even reading some of my blog posts on how to win friends and listening to my podcasts on developing the confidence to win people? Why not just study the greatest man-winner of them all.  The thing that runs up to your leg, tail-wagging, licking you, jumping all over you.  Why not just study dogs?  This is the showing of affection, and you won’t have to sell him real-estate, buy him dinner, or marry him, either.

When I was younger, the first dog I had ever owned was a I-Dont-know-What-Breed called Muscles.  Muscles was the protector.  The warrior that protected us from all evils.  In plain English – the biggest and even sweetest dog you can ever imagine.  Later, snoop dog (yes, just like the rapper), which was a husky,  was inducted into the family.   And the last one was poncho….a ratchet and audacious chihuahua that wreaked havoc on just about everyone.  Anytime we went home, this trio would greet us with copious amounts of saliva.

Dogs are genuinely interested in their caregivers.  On the other hand, we try to win everyone’s interest by doing outlandish things.

The New York Telephone Company made a detailed study years ago about the most frequently used word.  Can you guess what it was? The personal pronoun “I,” which was used 3900 times in 500 calls.  When you see a group picture, whose picture do you look for first?

If we merely try to impress people and get people interested in us, we will never have many true, sincere friends. Friends, real friends, are not made that way.

It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from these individuals that most failures come about.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12332584

Napoleon Hill – The Power of Habit

Just four months ago, I had destructive habits in the morning.  I would literally get on social networking sites engaging in useless conversations that ended in a racial rant (towards me).  This would be from 6am-8am in the morning, completely throwing off my day before it even began – squandering out of bed with a frown on my face before putting my victim shirt on again.

Then, one day I was watching Tony Robbins ‘I’m not your guru’ and I saw that he would sit in front of the sea of his beachside resort in Florida while listening to a guided meditation.  He would do breathing exercises and also would jump in extremely hot water (manhole at his home) before jumping in the frigid cold (another manhole right beside it).

This is called habit.  When he does this, it shocks the body and stimulates the immune system immediately.  This man would have a ton of energy throughout the day and that’s without taking supplements.

See, I had a lack of understanding of applying this particular principle we call ‘habit.’ Habit ultimately grows out of environment; out of doing the same thing, thinking the same thing, and saying the same words repeatedly.

Just like affirmations, habit is created by literally reciting a statement to yourself or any desire.  This will eventually seek expression through physical, outward bodily efforts.

Henry Ford is the prime example of how it’s done.  Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company, was just a labourer in a machine shop with little to no schooling and without capital.  He use to work around people who he deemed smarter and more fit than him until he threw off the poverty consciousness and developed confidence within himself.  He’s still amassing millions of dollars each year because he believed he can transform that belief….the belief of confidence…into a definite purpose and backed that purpose with a plan.

Oh, and guess what – the other machinists? All they did was vision nothing but a weekly pay envelop that never got him anywhere.  They demanded nothing out of the ordinary of themselves.

If you want to get more, demand more of yourself.  Notice that this demand is to be made on yourself!

I’ll leave you with a poem written in Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success.

If you think you are beats, you are;

If you think you dare not, you don’t;

If you like to win, but you think you can’t,

It is almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose you’ve lost,

For out of the world we find

Success begins with a fellow’s will –

Its all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclasses, you are –

You’ve got to think high to rise.

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before you can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go

To the strong or faster man;

But soon or later the man who wins

Is the man who thinks he can.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11719416