Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 17 | Inspire Others to Find Their Voice

To be honest with you, I know that the stats are only a fraction of my unbelievable influence. After getting a number of emails, messages and people linking up with me on Instagram, I’ve realized now that I’m inspiring others to find their voice, passion, and core genius. This is the next segment of this book.

“Once you’ve found your own voice, the choice to expand your influence, to increase your contribution, is the choice to inspire others to find their voice. Inspire (from the Latin inspirare) means to breathe life into another. As we recognize, respect and create ways for others to give voice to all four parts of their nature—physically, mentally, emotionally/socially and spiritually—latent human genius, creativity, passion, talent and motivation are unleashed. It will be those organizations that reach a critical mass of people and teams expressing their full voice that will achieve next-level breakthrough in productivity, innovation and leadership in the marketplace and society.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

Experiences During Meditation | Mindfulness Course

We’re back with episode III of this course and in today’s segment we will talk about experiences that you will possibly have during meditation. The breathing exercise podcast from yesterday was all about breath work and letting thoughts come and go, but in today’s podcast, it’s essential to understand what you could possibly feel during the process so that you don’t freak out. I had an unbelievable experience about 4-5 years ago when I went into a deep state. Hear the experience in the podcast!

Mindfulness through Meditation & Yoga | Mira Butler | Introduction

BEYOND excited about this! Mira Butler and I have put together another mindfulness course for you guys! In this course, you’re going to learn about the benefits of mindfulness through yoga and meditation, developing a routine, the different things both her and I experienced, the environment, developing your mantra, a meditation video and a conclusion. This one is going to hit home for a lot of you and everything will be readily available online for you guys on my links down below. So, with that being said, let’s dive into this! Here’s a short introduction of the course and video. First lesson kicks off a day later!

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What’s your Inspiration?

First time I came to Thailand, I was put in such a crazy, uncomfortable position. Seeing green rivers covered in days/weeks/months old trash, the way people were looking at me (which ended up being a huge foreshadow of things to come); nevertheless, I saw the ultra-gorgeous, lush green vegetation towering over turquoise waters down below.

Was this inspiration? Not necessarily, but this was the beginning of my journey.

Vietnam – 2016

After visiting the Remnants War Museum in HCMC, I saw the absolutely destruction of what the United States Military did to Vietnamese people, also known as “communists.” I stood next to a Chinook (ironically named after a tribe of Native American Indians — a group which that was wiped out by the colonizers), and then switched to a heavy-artillery propeller. A plaque read, “this machine causes mass damage and casualties in Vietnam.” I then glanced up and said, “you’ve killed so many people.”

I took a step back, clicked on the photos app in my phone and deleted all the militaristic garbage from my phone. When I went inside and went up 5 floors of anguish and hell, it caused so much grief. I saw my friend tearing up, who was Vietnamese, and all my life I’ve been told to respect a military.

Not anymore.

I was going to @ Borack Obama and all United States military channels and berate them words of hell. Never again have I saluted, represented or mention the military anymore and I never will again.

Innocent people in Laos are still dying today because the bombs that were dropped 45 years ago.

Americans would say, “look at the brightside,” I would say, “well, with how pooly you treated blacks, and with the Native American genocide, you’re now depicting us as the monsters….but in fact, no one knows about what you’ve done.”

I didn’t make it a mission to expose anglo-America/Europe for their genocides that wreaked havoc around the world, but I did want to give back. Seeing the children, the photos of my friend teaching at poor schools in the war-torn, ravaged middle of Vietnam…..I found my inspiration.

No one deserved to have anyone come in their house and kill them, but in saying all of that, Vietnamese people of BOTH SIDES came together after the war and has coexisted to this day. What I saw was an inspiration for me to give back — to come back to Vietnam, and to help people who desperately need help.

Laos – 2018

I was approached by an amazing manager of a hotel who had sent me a number of whatsapp messages, wanting to know about my arrival. I arranged a taxi and a few other services with the hotel. It delivered (although loud from music), but the hospitality was amazing compared to other places. The manager of the hotel invited me for drinks at night and took me to a wonderful noodle shop before my flight.

He invited me to come back and to volunteer at a poor school about 1.5 hours outside of the main city.

This was my dream. This brings more happiness then making 5k-10k per month. This is true fulfillment.

Finding my inspiration. It dealt with a lot. Seeing poverty, seeing death, but also seeing my soul open up to the masses out there. People need my voice, and that’s why I created it.

Interviewee #024 – Lewis Raymond Taylor On Overcoming Himself

What an unbelievable story this was.  Lewis started off as a child who needed attention, like all children do, but after screamed at and neglected by his family, the fall of him began.  From drugs, alcoholism, run ins with the authority and even prison time, he changed his mind through a series of moments.  After putting himself back in prison the second time, the change happened.  Tune into the podcast!

Get in touch with Lewis Raymond Taylor

 

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction by the host with his guest.
  • Unhappy childhood and emotional abuse from his father.
  • The attention seeking disease.
  • Becoming a sexual abuse victim.
  • Wrong people, subconscious, prison.
  • Emotional needs.
  • Rejection, anger and rejection.
  • Being diagnosed with split personality disorder, bipolar disorder and other mental issues.
  • Attempted suicide and a near-death experience.
  • Nearly killing a man because the man’s aggression reflected his fathers.
  • The beginning of the change.
  • What the strategies were.
  • Mentorship in prison.
  • The beginning of being a business coach.
  • Being not responsible, but accountable.
  • 7 steps to make a change.

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Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust: Season 4 – Episode 3 – The Five Waves of Trust

Stephen Covey posted in the book what I THOUGHT was AMAZING! Let’s break it down.

Five years ago I was working with some associates in a small group and they loved the approach: “We love this leadership content! It’s right on! But our division leaders don’t understand this.  They are the ones who really need to hear it.”

After that, he presented the content to the division leaders: we’re in full agreement with everything you’re saying.  This approach is GREAT! The problem is that the people who really need it are our bosses.”

He went to the bosses…..and again…..”We are enthusiastic about this content! It’s very insightful and helpful.  But our counterparts in the five divisions don’t understand this.  They are the ones who need to hear it.”

It went on and on, as you can see.  Finally, after probably 7-8 presentations, there was the CEO.

“This content is great, but I’m powerless.  I can do nothing.  It’s all in the hands of the board.”

His father once said, “if you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem.”

People, just because there are trust issues in your workplace, to your personal life, it doesn’t mean you’re powerless!  In fact, you probably have no idea how powerful you can be in changing the level of trust in any relationship if you know how to work “from the inside out.”

The First Wave: Self Trust

The first wave deals with us.  Our ability to set and achieve goals, to keep commitments, to walk our talk — and also with our ability to inspire trust in others.

The key underlying principle of this trust is credibility, the four cores we’ll be getting into shortly.

So, when you’re not able to keep your commitments, as mentioned before, you lose integrity, credibility, trust, and so many other things.

The Second Wave: Relationship Trust

Trust accounts. Period.  We will go over the 13 behaviors coming up real soon, and all of these rules can be applied either at home or work.  This can significantly increase the ability to generate trust with all involved in order to enhance relationships.

The Third Wave; Organizational Trust

How leaders can deal with trust.  Gary Vee and Tom Bilyeau were recently speaking on a podcast about trust issues and changing from the top.  If you have trust issues amongst the bottom, imagine what’s happening at the top? I worked for a guy in the heart of CBD and he told the guy below him, “don’t let Arsenio teach TOEIC because the students don’t like black teachers.”  He was against it, ofcourse.  Now I’m writing ebooks on TOEIC because I knew what my strength was.  Sometimes distrust can spell STRENGTH.

The Fourth Wave: Market Trust

This is about your company/personal brand, which reflects the trust customers, investors, and others in the marketplace have in you.

Now that I’m building a personal brand with my ESL podcast and blogs, if and when I start teaching through my business, my name is everything. If my name is attached to thievery and distrust, it’s over. I lose.

The Fifth Wave: Societal Trust

The principle underlying this wave is contribution.  This is why I’m doing my Arsenio Buck Foundation.  We counteract this “giving back” with suspicious, cynicism, and low-trust inheritance. We can also inspire others to create value and contribute, as well.

So, I’ll first talk about restoring trust, seeking, speaking, behaving, and then we’ll kick off the first wave.

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 22 – Quotient Analysis – Part C

Here we go! This is the last part of the quotient analysis!  If you haven’t already done Part A or Part B, I suggest you hit the links on the left and do them before the last part.

13. Learning from defeat
(a) Does defeat cause you to stop trying?

_____ _____
(b) If you fail in a given effort, do you keep trying?

_____ _____
(c) Is temporary defeat the same as failure?

_____ _____
(d) Have you learned any lessons from defeat?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know how defeat can be converted into an asset that will lead to success?

_____ _____
14. Creative vision
(a) Do you use your imagination constructively?

_____ _____
(b) Do you make your own decisions?

_____ _____
(c) Is the man who only follows instructions always worth more than the man who also creates new ideas?”

(d) Are you inventive?

_____ _____
(e) Do you create practical ideas in connection with your work?

_____ _____
(f) When desirable, do you seek sound advice?”

 

15. Budgeting time and money
(a) Do you save a fixed percentage of your income?

_____ _____
(b) Do you spend money without regard to your future source of income?

_____ _____
(c) Do you get sufficient sleep each night?

_____ _____
(d) Is it your habit to employ spare time studying self-improvement books?”

 

16. Maintenance of sound health
(a) Do you know five essential factors of sound health?

_____ _____
(b) Do you know where sound health begins?

_____ _____
(c) Are you aware of the relation of relaxation to sound health?

_____ _____
(d) Do you know the four important factors necessary for the proper balancing of sound health?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know the meaning of “hypochondria” and “psychosomatic illness”?

_____ _____
17. Using cosmic habit force as it pertains to your personal habits
(a) Do you have habits which you feel you cannot control?

_____ _____
(b) Have you recently eliminated undesirable habits?

_____ _____
(c) Have you recently developed any new, desirable habits?”

Rating System

Here’s how to rate your answers. All the following questions should have been answered NO: 3c – 3d – 4b – 5b – 5c – 5e – 6b – 6c – 8a – 8d – 9b – 9d- 10c – 11b – 11c – 12c – 13a – 13c – 14c – 15b – 17a. All other questions should have been answered YES. Your score would have been 300 if all the questions had been answered “No” or “Yes” as shown above. This is a perfect score and very few people have ever made such a score. Now let’s see what your score was.”

Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”:
——x 4 =——
If you answered “No” to any of the meaning questions that should have been answered “Yes,” deduct four points for each one:
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”:
——x 4 =——
Add the subtotals together, and subtract from 300. This will be your score.
Illustration:
Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”: 3 x 4 = 12
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”: 2 x 4 = 8
Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Perfect Score ____________________ 300
Minus Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Your Score ____________________ 280

 

300 points _____ Perfect (Very Rare)
275 to 299 points _____ Good (Above Average)
200 to 274 points _____ Fair (Average)
100 to 199 points _____ Poor (Below Average)
Below 100 points _____ Unsatisfactory

You have now taken an important step to success and happiness.”

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 20 – Now It’s Time To Test – Part A

I’ve been through a heck of a lot of episodes already in terms of this book, and now is a good time to look at your own mental attitude.

“We call it your Success Quotient Analysis. And it is based on the 17 success principles which have been responsible for the worthwhile achievements of the world’s outstanding leaders in all fields. It has many purposes:

To direct your thoughts in desired channels.

To crystallize your own thinking.

To indicate your present position on the road to success.

To encourage you to decide exactly where you want to be.

To measure your chances of reaching your desired destination.

To indicate your present ambitions and other characteristics.

To motivate you to desirable action with PMA.”

It’s time to take the test, and I also have the PDF at the bottom of the page for you so you can print it out and write it down.

Quotient Analysis – Part A

“1. Definiteness of purpose

Yes No

(a) Have you decided upon a definite major goal in life?

_____ _____
(b) Have you set a time limit for reaching that goal?

_____ _____
(c) Do you have specific plans for achieving your goal in life?

_____ _____
(d) Have you determined what definite benefits your goal in life will bring you?

_____ _____
2. Positive mental attitude
(a) Do you know what is meant by a positive mental attitude?

_____ _____
(b) Do you control your mental attitude?

_____ _____
(c) Do you know the only thing over which anyone has complete power of control?

_____ _____
(d) Do you know how to detect a negative mental attitude in yourself and others?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know how to make PMA a habit?”

 

3. Going the “Extra Mile”
(a) Do you make a habit of rendering more and better service than you are paid for?

_____ _____
(b) Do you know when an employee is entitled to more pay?

_____ _____
(c) Do you know of anyone who has achieved success in any calling without doing more than he was paid to do?

_____ _____
(d) Do you believe anyone has a right to expect an increase in salary unless he is doing more than he is paid for?

_____ _____
(e) If you were your own employer, would you be satisfied with the sort of service you are now rendering as an employee?”

4. Accurate thinking
(a) Do you make it your duty constantly to learn more about your occupation?

_____ _____
(b) Is it your habit to express “opinions” on subjects with which you are not familiar?

_____ _____
(c) Do you know how to find the facts when you need knowledge?

_____ _____
5. Self-discipline
(a) Do you hold your tongue when angry?

_____ _____
(b) Is it your habit to speak before you think?

_____ _____
(c) Do you lose your patience easily?

_____ _____
(d) Are you generally even-tempered?

_____ _____
(e) Is it your habit to allow your emotions to overpower your reason?”

6. The master mind
(a) Are you influencing other people to help you attain your goal in life?

_____ _____
(b) Do you believe that a person can succeed in life without the aid of others?

_____ _____
(c) Do you believe a man can easily succeed in his occupation if he is opposed by his wife or other members of his family?

_____ _____
(d) Are there advantages when an employer and an employee work together in harmony?

_____ _____
(e) Are you proud when a group to which you belong is praised?”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

Quotient Analysis – Part A

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 19 – Dump The Guilt

“And the great psychologist Sigmund Freud says: “The further our work proceeds and the deeper our knowledge of the mental life of neurotics penetrates, the more clearly two new factors force themselves upon our notice which demand the closest attention as sources of resistance…. They can both be included under the one description of ‘need to be ill’ or ‘need to suffer.’…The first of these two factors is the sense of guilt or consciousness of guilt…
And Sigmund Freud is right. For feelings of guilt have motivated men to destroy their lives, mutilate their bodies, or injure themselves in other ways to atone for their wrongdoing. Now today, fortunately, such methods are seldom practiced. And they are not permitted in civilized countries. Yet their counterpart can be found. For the conscious mind may not feel guilty but the subconscious mind does.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

A good example of guilty people would be the military, most notably the USA Military.  They have so much guilt on their conscious to the point when they go home, they can’t adapt.  They have PTSD, followed by flashbacks of being in war and they’re never able to get over it.  Sometimes they have to kill children and women for whatever pressured reason it may be (insurgency).  This is a difficult guilt to come across.

However, if you’re dealing with guilt because of what happened in the past relationship, friendship, job or anything…it’s going to kill you — literally.

Living with that particular burden on your chest is something that forms regret.  Regret is poison.  I have no guilt for what has happened with my family and the way things are now.  It’s way out of my control.  I have no guilt for the things I’ve said about past teachers  because it’s all the truth.  I don’t have ANY guilt for words towards Thai women because it’s the truth and what I’ve experienced, first-hand, with my own eyes.

If you’re saying, “I wish I could’ve done __________,”….stop.  Instead, say “I’m glad I did this because I learned by……….”

“A guilt feeling can teach you consideration for others. Consideration for others is a quality each of us has to learn to develop. The new-born babe cares little for the comfort and convenience of anyone else. He wants what he wants when he wants it. So right at that point in his development he begins to learn, little by little, that there are others alive, too, and that, to some extent at least, he will have to allow them some consideration. But selfishness is a common human trait, and it lessens in each of us only through development. When we get old enough to understand that such feelings are not good, we feel a twinge of guilt when we indulge in selfishness. This is good for it causes us to think twice when the occasion arises and we can choose between pleasing ourselves or pleasing others concerned.”

“To get rid of that guilt feeling, get into action! Sometimes people get caught in a web of wrongdoing, and they seem to be unable to free themselves from it. For they give up trying. And then they become more and more entangled, until finally it takes an almost earthshaking experience to set them free.” – Napoleon Hill

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 14 – Rest is VASTLY Important & Underrated

“Dr. Cureton taught Roger Bannister that “the more the body endures, the more it will endure.” Beliefs about “overtraining” and “staleness,” he says, are myths.
But he emphasizes that rest is as important as exercise and activity. The body needs to rebuild in even larger quantities what has been torn down in exercise. That’s how strength, vitality, energy are developed. The body and mind both recharge themselves during periods of rest and relaxation. If you don’t give them a chance to do so, severe damage—and even death—can result.

Is it time to recharge your battery? There’s no glory in being the richest man in the graveyard. You don’t want to be the best scientist, doctor, executive, salesman, or employee lying—prematurely—under the most ornate headstone. A loved mother, wife, father, son, or daughter can bring happiness. Why then, bring grief, instead? Why be confined to a mental sanitarium or lie embalmed six feet under a blanket of beautiful green grass—simply because a needless drain damaged a battery that wasn’t recharged?”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks.

The myth of hustling can really kill some people.  Some people need just four hours, five hours, and six hours of sleep.  So, this brings me to my next statement: Gary Vee does an unbelievable job! For him to NEVER GET SICK and to only get four hours of sleep while having an insane amount of energy — is unbelievable.

I just don’t know how he does it…but let’s just call him immortal for a second.

Your body needs rest.  Your mind needs rest.  We can often get overwhelmed by social media and different things happening in our inner and outer circles.  Sometimes you HAVE to take some time off people, media, etc (as Jim Kwik has said) to recharge your mind.  Tim Ferriss has also left his phone inside his car an entire weekend. Hell, I remember going hiking in 2008 and I was away from all MEDIA for 2.5 days.  I thought I was going to die, and that was in 2008!  YouTube was at its infancy stage and FB was TERRIBLE.

Now, I can do it much easier.  When it comes to working out, there are times I go for a push.  this week, there is the 3 workout classes and an insane jog.  This is because I’m now two months away from a MASSIVE competition. However, because I’m doing this much damage to my body, I’ve decreased my overall workload (teaching) and I teach between 2-6 hours a day during the week (weekends being the busiest days).  I take naps in the afternoon and I’m getting more frequent massages.  Listen to your body!

“When your energy level is low, your health and your desirable characteristics may be subdued by the negative. You, like a storage battery, are dead when your energy level is zero. What is the solution? Recharge your battery. How? Relax, play, rest, and sleep!
How to tell when your battery needs recharging. Here is a checklist to help you determine your present energy level. You can use it whenever you feel that your energy level is slipping. If you are a well-balanced person, your battery may need recharging when you act and feel:
Unduly sleepy or tired
Tactless, unfriendly, suspicious
Querulous, insulting, hostile
Irritable, sarcastic, mean
Nervous, excitable, hysterical
Worrisome, fearful, jealous
Rash, ruthless, excessively selfish
Excessively emotional, depressed, or frustrated”

“PMA demands a good energy level—and vice versa! When you are fatigued, your usually positive, desirable feelings, emotions, thoughts, and actions have a tendency to turn negative. When you are rested and in good health, the direction is changed back to positive. Fatigue often brings out the worst within you. When your battery is charged and your energy and activity level is up to standard, you are at your best! That is when you think and act With PMA!
If your feelings and actions indicate that your better qualities are being subdued by those which are undesirable and negative, it’s time to recharge your battery!”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

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