Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 17 | Inspire Others to Find Their Voice

To be honest with you, I know that the stats are only a fraction of my unbelievable influence. After getting a number of emails, messages and people linking up with me on Instagram, I’ve realized now that I’m inspiring others to find their voice, passion, and core genius. This is the next segment of this book.

“Once you’ve found your own voice, the choice to expand your influence, to increase your contribution, is the choice to inspire others to find their voice. Inspire (from the Latin inspirare) means to breathe life into another. As we recognize, respect and create ways for others to give voice to all four parts of their nature—physically, mentally, emotionally/socially and spiritually—latent human genius, creativity, passion, talent and motivation are unleashed. It will be those organizations that reach a critical mass of people and teams expressing their full voice that will achieve next-level breakthrough in productivity, innovation and leadership in the marketplace and society.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

Experiences During Meditation | Mindfulness Course

We’re back with episode III of this course and in today’s segment we will talk about experiences that you will possibly have during meditation. The breathing exercise podcast from yesterday was all about breath work and letting thoughts come and go, but in today’s podcast, it’s essential to understand what you could possibly feel during the process so that you don’t freak out. I had an unbelievable experience about 4-5 years ago when I went into a deep state. Hear the experience in the podcast!

Mindfulness through Meditation & Yoga | Mira Butler | Introduction

BEYOND excited about this! Mira Butler and I have put together another mindfulness course for you guys! In this course, you’re going to learn about the benefits of mindfulness through yoga and meditation, developing a routine, the different things both her and I experienced, the environment, developing your mantra, a meditation video and a conclusion. This one is going to hit home for a lot of you and everything will be readily available online for you guys on my links down below. So, with that being said, let’s dive into this! Here’s a short introduction of the course and video. First lesson kicks off a day later!

Podcast

What’s your Inspiration?

First time I came to Thailand, I was put in such a crazy, uncomfortable position. Seeing green rivers covered in days/weeks/months old trash, the way people were looking at me (which ended up being a huge foreshadow of things to come); nevertheless, I saw the ultra-gorgeous, lush green vegetation towering over turquoise waters down below.

Was this inspiration? Not necessarily, but this was the beginning of my journey.

Vietnam – 2016

After visiting the Remnants War Museum in HCMC, I saw the absolutely destruction of what the United States Military did to Vietnamese people, also known as “communists.” I stood next to a Chinook (ironically named after a tribe of Native American Indians — a group which that was wiped out by the colonizers), and then switched to a heavy-artillery propeller. A plaque read, “this machine causes mass damage and casualties in Vietnam.” I then glanced up and said, “you’ve killed so many people.”

I took a step back, clicked on the photos app in my phone and deleted all the militaristic garbage from my phone. When I went inside and went up 5 floors of anguish and hell, it caused so much grief. I saw my friend tearing up, who was Vietnamese, and all my life I’ve been told to respect a military.

Not anymore.

I was going to @ Borack Obama and all United States military channels and berate them words of hell. Never again have I saluted, represented or mention the military anymore and I never will again.

Innocent people in Laos are still dying today because the bombs that were dropped 45 years ago.

Americans would say, “look at the brightside,” I would say, “well, with how pooly you treated blacks, and with the Native American genocide, you’re now depicting us as the monsters….but in fact, no one knows about what you’ve done.”

I didn’t make it a mission to expose anglo-America/Europe for their genocides that wreaked havoc around the world, but I did want to give back. Seeing the children, the photos of my friend teaching at poor schools in the war-torn, ravaged middle of Vietnam…..I found my inspiration.

No one deserved to have anyone come in their house and kill them, but in saying all of that, Vietnamese people of BOTH SIDES came together after the war and has coexisted to this day. What I saw was an inspiration for me to give back — to come back to Vietnam, and to help people who desperately need help.

Laos – 2018

I was approached by an amazing manager of a hotel who had sent me a number of whatsapp messages, wanting to know about my arrival. I arranged a taxi and a few other services with the hotel. It delivered (although loud from music), but the hospitality was amazing compared to other places. The manager of the hotel invited me for drinks at night and took me to a wonderful noodle shop before my flight.

He invited me to come back and to volunteer at a poor school about 1.5 hours outside of the main city.

This was my dream. This brings more happiness then making 5k-10k per month. This is true fulfillment.

Finding my inspiration. It dealt with a lot. Seeing poverty, seeing death, but also seeing my soul open up to the masses out there. People need my voice, and that’s why I created it.

Interviewee #024 – Lewis Raymond Taylor On Overcoming Himself

What an unbelievable story this was.  Lewis started off as a child who needed attention, like all children do, but after screamed at and neglected by his family, the fall of him began.  From drugs, alcoholism, run ins with the authority and even prison time, he changed his mind through a series of moments.  After putting himself back in prison the second time, the change happened.  Tune into the podcast!

Get in touch with Lewis Raymond Taylor

 

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction by the host with his guest.
  • Unhappy childhood and emotional abuse from his father.
  • The attention seeking disease.
  • Becoming a sexual abuse victim.
  • Wrong people, subconscious, prison.
  • Emotional needs.
  • Rejection, anger and rejection.
  • Being diagnosed with split personality disorder, bipolar disorder and other mental issues.
  • Attempted suicide and a near-death experience.
  • Nearly killing a man because the man’s aggression reflected his fathers.
  • The beginning of the change.
  • What the strategies were.
  • Mentorship in prison.
  • The beginning of being a business coach.
  • Being not responsible, but accountable.
  • 7 steps to make a change.

Listen to “Interviewee #024 – Lewis Raymond Taylor On Overcoming Himself” on Spreaker.

 

Thank you for listening!

 

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 10 – Inspirational Dissatisfaction

“Inspirational dissatisfaction can motivate persons from sinner to saint, failure to success, poverty to riches, defeat to victory, and misery to happiness.
What do you do: when you make a mistake? when things go wrong? when misunderstandings develop with others? when you meet defeat? when everything seems black? when it appears that there is no way to turn? when it looks as if a satisfactory solution to your problem is impossible?
Do you: Do nothing and allow disaster to overtake you? Do you fold up? Become frightened? Run away?
Or, do you develop inspirational dissatisfaction? Do you turn disadvantages into advantages? Do you determine what you want? Do you apply faith, clear thinking, and positive action, knowing that desirable results can and will be achieved?”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

This is it!  This hit home in so many ways.  Inspiration.  You know, I finished my Spartan Super in Chon Buri, Thailand, running with fools who had zero willpower.  At the conclusion of the race, I felt so pathetic.  I felt as if I didn’t achieve anything in the race because I walked for the first 4-5km (due to being around people who had zero willpower).  I got so discontent that I hurried up and signed up with a gym, pressuring myself to go to the gym three days a week.  Since then, anytime I go up any kinds of stairs, carry things, or anything involving using strength — has been spectacular.  It’s a breeze.

See, because of my second worst failure ever (in the health category), I got so dissatisfied and angry at myself that I literally switched off my procrastination and got to work.

I talked to Perry Power recently and after he was molested, father passing away just last year, and so many other adversities he had to face head on….that all became inspirational.  His coaching services and WHYPOWER came when things went wrong.

However, human beings just have a tendency of folding, as Napoleon Hill has said.

“It may not be feasible to change your position. You can then make adjustments in your environment to coincide with your characteristics, abilities, and capacities so that you will be happy. When you do this, you “square the hole.” This solution will help change your attitude from negative to positive.
If you develop and maintain a burning desire to do so, you can even neutralize and change your tendencies and habits by establishing new ones. You can “round the peg” if you are sufficiently motivated. But before you achieve success in changing your tendencies and habits, be prepared to face mental and moral conflicts. You can win if you are willing to pay the price. You may find it difficult to pay each necessary installment—particularly the first few. But when you have paid in full, the newly established traits will predominate. The old tendencies and habits will become dormant. You will be happy because you will be doing what now comes naturally.
To guarantee success it is desirable that you try zealously to maintain physical, mental, and moral health during the period of such an internal struggle.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

Interviewee #7 – Celina Celeste On Self-Growth & Confidence

I had the special privilege of interviewing Celina Celeste on Facebook (Gary Vee’s page).  She connected with me and we spoke for a while until I realized she had a podcast.  I decided to reach out and ended up landing the first interview with her (on The Arsenio Buck Show’s FB page) as we talked about teaching and traveling.  Now she’s on my podcast talking about a very turbulent job in the beginning — turned passion.

It’s amazing how she developed the self-awareness and asked herself, “do I see myself here for the next 10 years?”  Working at a job she completely despised, she finally broke away from it and went onto the next chapter.

Now she has an unbelievable art page, organic dog treat business, and she’s creating a cookbook (currently).  This is the entrepreneurial spirit!

Podcast link down below! Along with links to her pages!

https://www.facebook.com/Hanako-Art-942618712515650/?timeline_context_item_type=intro_card_work&timeline_context_item_source=100000347454776&pnref=lhc

https://www.facebook.com/celina.wasson.7

Darren Hardy: Daily Rhythms & Registering Them + Relationships

Preston Smiles fits “fun-time” into his clients’ schedules.

What’s fun-time?

It’s simply when an alarm goes off, that particular individual drops everything he or she is doing and they dance their tail off.  I know, odd as hell, but the incorporation of that, or any other behavior, forms a discipline.

Remember I talked to you about Romanic Relationships and how spontaneity would go a long way in any relationship? Look at it this way…

Darren Hardy, at 6pm, has something called “date night” with his wife.  So when the time arrives, the alarms go off on his spouse and his phone, they drop everything, and they commit to being with each other from sundown — all the way to sunup.  This is from Friday night to Sunday morning, too.  Not just one day.

He also used an idea from Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ book, which he asks his wife, “how would you rate the relationship for this past week?” Of course the wife would give him a number, and he would then ask, “how can I get better?”  The wife will then come up with a list of things that will help him become better.

No one is perfect.  Just remember that.  It would be so overwhelming hearing nagging (which it shouldn’t be – but totally can be) all the time.  For example, when I was recently dating a girl, she wouldn’t ask me something like this; nor would I ask her the question.  Instead, on a two-hour trip back from Kanchanaburi to Bangkok, she was complaining her head off because I didn’t ask her if she wanted anything from 7-11, and because I didn’t carry all four pieces of luggage.

This should be a feeling of validation for both parties.

“Every month, Georgia and I also schedule something unique and memorable. Jim Rohn taught me that life is simply a collection of experiences; our goal should be to increase the frequency and the intensity of the good experiences. Once a month we try to do something that creates an experience that has some memorable intensity. It could be driving up to the mountains, going on an adventurous hike, driving up to Los Angeles to try a new fancy restaurant, going sailing in the bay—whatever. Something out of the ordinary that has a heightened experience and creates an indelible memory.”

“Once a quarter we plan a two- to three-day getaway. I like to do a quarterly review of all my goals and life patterns, and this is a great time to do a deeper check-in on how things are going in our relationship. Then we have our special travel vacation, plus our holiday traditions and our New Year’s hike and goal-setting ritual. You can see that once all this is scheduled, you no longer have to think about what you need to be doing. Everything happens naturally. We’ve created a rhythm that gives us momentum.” – Darren Hardy

Weekly Rhythm Registration In Podcast + PDF

Registering Rhythms Example

Happy New Years + Goal-Setting Time + YouTube Video/Podcast

HAPPY NEW YEARS!

Being on top of my balcony and seeing the amount of fireworks I did last night was just resounding.  I felt the love in the air and now I’m onto the biggest year of my life (as I said last year and it exceeded my expectations).

On the other hand, the majority of people this  morning have resolutions, but they don’t have the proper techniques, skills, and things in place to make their “goals” manifest.

For one, resolutions base-word is “resolve,” meaning you’re looking to resolve something in your life.  You can handle that just by dumping the girlfriend/boyfriends, quitting the s***ty job, and learning how to say ‘no’ more often.

So, let me let you in on some techniques + some of the goals I set for myself in the past and what’s happening this 2018.

Habits

What’s a habit? Something that has turned into a daily party of our routine.  We wake up, brush out teeth, take a shower, get ready — that’s all habitual.  It’s on auto-pilot.  However, we’re oblivious to the bad habits that are happening: eating junk food, engaging in heated online debates, watching television, being around the wrong who bitch all the time.  These are also habits.  So what did I do?

2017 Was The Change

I needed to compile a morning routine that would ultimately help me win the day.  You have what Jim Quik said in terms of brushing your teeth with the opposite hand, making your bed, etc.  These are all wonderfully great things, but I’m still not able to win it.  I’ll give you a nice glimpse at my morning.

Normally at 5:30am I wake up (I sleep the night before at about 9:30), and I go straight into a meditation.  If I have a busy morning, which I normally do, I do the meditation “overcoming procrastination,” which is a guided meditation with one of the apps I use (let me know if you want the name in the comment section).  After that, I would take my vitamins and possibly even a pre-workout, depending on if I workout in the morning.  After that, I post on an inspirational message on my instagram, and sometimes even my podcast (which could’ve been pre-recorded).  I then record or pre-record a live podcast.  Now, depending on if I’m working out in the morning or not, for the bulk of this year, I would workout around 8am.

  • Meditation
  • Posts on Instagram
  • Inspirational message on twitter
  • Podcast
  • Blog
  • Workout
  • Work
  • Grateful List

This was the bulk of my year, but things have changed.  So, if I workout (and now I do) at 6:45am, my podcast has to be pre-recorded and blog done the day before.  During the commute, I would post everything on social media and then hit it hard.  After I workout and before I go to work, I would have my protein shake, rice & pork, and respond to emails, messages and other things for 30 minutes before my students arrive.

This is how I ultimately had such an effective morning for a good portion of the year.

Sure, it’s not always going to work, but a behavior compounded over time becomes a habit.  That’s what you will need to succeed.

Night Routine

Same as the morning routine. Now, night routines are extremely difficult at times because once I get home, I want to get on the news.  This is why I’ve been media fasting on and off.  Reading something that doesn’t pertain to me, my goals, and just revolves around the ‘circle of concern’ is disastrous.  However, on the nights everything did work, this is how it went.

During my commute home I turn off all notifications.  I say what I need to say, respond to emails, then that’s it.  When I get home I make sure I set everything up for the next day.  Clothes are packed, bottles for working out, belts, socks — YOU NAME IT!  This is how it happened.  If I can read before I sleep, it would be a success.  Normally, I always do my meditation.  Now, depending on how the day went, there’s a lot of head trash that gets thrown at me throughout the day at work.  Opinions and ignorance of colleagues, management, and just being in a very “slummy” area where people look down on me.  Those tides have changed though.  But when these things happened, I would do the “detox my mind” podcast so I can wake up fresh.

Goal-Setting

Here’s a list of things to add into your morning routine.

  • Make your bed
  • Grateful list
  • Meditation (20 minutes)
  • Exercise (20 minutes)
  • Read (20 minutes)
  • Inspirational podcast or YouTube video (I listen to Gary Vee)
  • News Feed on all social media MUST have inspirational messages on there.  Follow the people that make you feel better.

Now, onto Goal-Setting.

Now, first thing is first…get rid of these phrases: I wish, if only, I don’t, I can’t, but I don’t have….

These are all doomers.  They’re either in the future or completely denying your ability and mindset of obtaining a goal.

When you figure out your vision, life-purpose, desire, objectives and everything for this year, then you can unleash the power.  Thinking about goals gives you a 43% chance of obtaining them.  Writing them down gives you a 56% chance.  Sharing them with a friend bumps it up to a 64% chance.  And then there’s the weekly progress report to a friend – 76%.  This gives you an idea of how it works.

To make sure the goal is imbedded into your subconscious mind, you must meet two criteria: how much (measurable quantity), and by when (specific time).

Example: I want to travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan.  – Wrong

The conditional “I want” is a killer.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan this year. 

  • Better, but there isn’t a specific time frame.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan on April 13th by Astana Airlines and come back April 20th. 

  • Now this is sexy.  I have the time, month, and even specific airline.

The universe loves action!

Go online and start looking for the airlines, hotels and everything that relates to your travel.  This is something that my mother was never able to overcome because she always said, “I don’t have any money. I wish I can go, but my finances aren’t straightened out.”  They never will be! There’s never a right time for anything! When you get that intuitive nudge, act!

This is the power of goal-setting.  Visualize yourself being on the snowboarding fields in Hokkaido, Japan by listening to a blizzard and fire crackling.  Look up how much the tickets are, where to stay, and everything that relates to the trip.  That’s where the magic happens.

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YouTube Video

5 Steps On How To Avoid Fatigue

I found a FANTASTIC excerpt in Dale Carnegie’s ‘How To Stop Worrying & Start Living’ book that I promised my podcast listeners I would deliver in writing.  So, here are 5 steps on how to avoid fatigue and continue looking young!

Keep a notebook or scrapbook for “inspirational” reading.  Into this book you can paste all the poems, quotations and other things that appeal to you personally and give you a lift.

When a raining day comes, and it will, you’ll be able to pull this out and use it as a “spiritual shot” in the arm.  Even having that video, like when Wyclef Jean or Preston Smiles spoke on Tom Bilyeau’s Impact theory, would help me.  Have that video, that book, that “something” which will help you snap out of “it.”

Don’t dwell too long on the shortcomings of others! One woman at the class who found herself developing into a scolding, nagging, and haggard-faced wife, was brought up short with the question: “What would you do if you husband die?”  She was so shocked by the idea that she immediately drew up a list of all her husband’s good points.

Things happen in life, and because they do, we’re either too hard on ourselves, or we just sit in a puddle of sorrow, complaining about why THAT person did you wrong.  Snap out of it and write down on a piece of paper why you’re so grateful for it taking place to begin with.

Get interested in people! Develop a friendly, healthy interest in the people who share your life.

Remember I had a recent podcast (I’ll post it below this entry) about how to get over depression in fourteen days?  The biggest key with depressed souls is that they’re too focused on their personal wants; rather than the wants of other people.

Make up a schedule for tomorrow’s work before you go to bed tonight.  The class found that many people feel driven and harassed by the unending round of work and things they must do.

I wake up every morning banging out to-do-lists, but this is a list of things that I absolutely love to do.  If we move forward to let’s say a disgruntled colleague, the best thing to do is to email whoever you have to an hour before you go to sleep and detox your mind immediately following that.  It’s best doing that than losing a full night of sleep.

Avoid tension and fatigue by RELAXING!