The Terrifying Fact of Depression

It’s all……THOUGHT.

That’s right.  Let me superimpose it for you.

THOUGHT

Think about it.  Our mind, which is home to trillions of cells, can and has created everything around you at this very moment.  The environment, relationships, feelings, assets, friends, everything!

When I came to realize this back in early 2016, I literally unfriended every coworker I had because I was becoming them.  They would degrade me, look down upon me, and insult everything about Thailand and I was quickly becoming just that.

Was I depressed? Nope.  I had the conscious awareness to realize I was going down a very dark road. A lot of people don’t have that conscious awareness which then leads to depressive thoughts that accumulate over time and form thoughts on suicide.

The feeling of “not being enough” in the world.  I’ve had those feelings 4 years ago.

But what if I told you it can all be undone with just your thoughts? Literally, your thoughts create everything. Your thoughts have created depression (for those of you suffering) and a lot of people don’t even know what thought is.

I just saw a lady jump 17 floors to her death yesterday.  Two weeks ago a young boy was suffering from depression and hurled himself over an indoor balcony, killing himself in the process and sending people into pandemonium just 30 minutes north of Bangkok.

Get this, one was a student and the other had a 4-year-old child.

So, what is thought? I tried breaking it down in my podcast down below.

 

TOEIC: Conditionals II

I wanted to do another rundown of conditionals so you all have a more thorough understanding. If you understand conditionals, not only will it improve your score by about 5-10 questions on Part 5, but also improve your writing – enabling you to use complex structures rather than simple structures.

Conditional sentences contain two distinct parts: the if-clause (condition) and result.  In both of these parts, the verb forms change according to the time.

Real Conditions

  • For a real condition in the future, the verb in the if-clause is usually in the present simple tense, while the verb in the result clause is in the future or imperative form.

– We will need to borrow money if taxes go up.

– If anyone calls here tomorrow, please take a message.

  • Will is sometimes used in the if-clause when it is used as a synonym of want.

– If they won’t compromise, we will have to cancel the negotiations.

  • For a real condition in the past, the verbs in both if-clause and the result clause are in the past.

-If they were waiting for a counteroffer, they were wise.

Unreal Conditions

  • For an unreal condition in the present, the verb in the if-clause is in the past form, while the verb in the result clause is would or could plus the simple (base) form.

-He would ask for an application if he wanted the job.

-If I earned more money, I could buy a better car.

  • For an unreal condition in the present, the correct form for the verb to be in the if0clause is were, no matter what the subject is.

-If she were easier to get along with, she would have more friends.

  • For an unreal condition in the past, the verb in the if-clause is in the past perfect tense, while the verb in the result clause is would have or could have plus the past participle of the verb.

-He would have made a better choice if he had listened to our advice.

-They could have finished the project sooner if they had made a better work plan.

  1. I thought by now we would have learned the lesson that if we ignore overhead, we _______ our expenses.
  1. underestimating
  2. would underestimate
  3. will underestimate
  4. have underestimated

2) If the yield _________ up from 2.1 percent, it would have been the highest average yield since 1854.

  1. would go
  2. has gone
  3. will go
  4. had gone

3) They will import 250,000 more cars a year if international quotas set by the ministry ______ lifted.

  1. are
  2. be
  3. will be
  4. have been

4) If the government __________ an import fee, as it has threatened to do for years, prices of consumer goods will increase by at least 10 percent.

  1. will impose
  2. imposes
  3. has imposed
  4. is imposing

5. Their monetary unit _________ strong if they did something about their deficit.

  1. would be
  2. can be
  3. should be
  4. will be

6. If there had been benefits, such as options for savings and stocks, I __________ applying for the position.

  1. could consider
  2. considering
  3. would have considered
  4. will be considering

7) If the wage parity agreement _________ approved, there might be a big problem.

  1. was not
  2. is not
  3. had not been
  4. will not be

8) The boss will offer James a huge promotion if he ________ to be more punctual.

  1. will learn
  2. had learned
  3. should learn
  4. were learning

9) This purchase __________ a poor decision if it had been made for investment purposes only.

  1. would have been
  2. would be
  3. may be
  4. was

10) If he had taken this particular train as was arranged for him in the original itinerary, he ________ on time for the meeting.

  1. arrives
  2. was arriving
  3. would have arrived
  4. arrived

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Conditionals

Napoleon Hill: Lesson Fourteen – Tolerance/Intolerance — The Desperation of Help Needed In Thailand

First: Intolerance is a form of ignorance which must be mastered before any form of enduring success may be attained.  It is the chief cause of all wars.  It makes enemies in business and in the professions.  It disintegrates the organized forces of society in a thousand forms and stands, like a might giant, as a barrier to the abolition of war.

Second: Intolerance is the chief disintegrating force in the organized religions of the world, where it plays havoc with the greatest power for good there is on this earth; by breaking up that power into small sects and denominations which spend as much effort opposing each other as they do in destroying the evils of the world.

Now, let’s see how it affects you, the individual.

In my story, I think the lack of patience and not being able to tolerate even the meaningless situations has plagued me.  For instance, living here in Thailand and seeing how customer service is, I give a particular second/minute threshold in getting service.  If I don’t get the right service, or any in general, I will blow up.

In the workplace, we’ve all had that coworker that is “short-tempered” and get’s tense quite easily.  This is because of their tolerance level.

I remember back in 2007 I took the bus twice within the same week and got the same bus driver.  The first time I saw him, he said good morning.  The second time he was extremely agitated; and at one point, I heard him yelling at a passenger.  I heard passengers screaming, “f*** you bus driver!”  People saying, “oh, I think he’s from New York.” LOL!  These were good times, but it goes to show how the tolerance level on particular individuals is not good at all.

Here’s a story from Napoleon Hill’s book….

One day I was introduced to a young man of unusually fine appearance.  His clear eye, his warm hand-clasp, the tone of his voice and the splendid taste with which he was groomed marked him as a young man of the highest intellectual type.  He was of the typical young American college student type, and as I ran my eyes over him, hurriedly studying his personality, as one will naturally do under such circumstances, I observed a Knight of Columbus pin on his vest.

Instantly, I released his hand as if it were a piece of ice!

This was done so quickly that it surprised both him and me.  As I excused myself and started to talk away, I glanced down at the Masonic pin that I wore on my own vest, then took another look at his Knight of Columbus pin, and wondered why a couple of trinkets such as these could dig such a deep chasm between men who knew nothing about each other.

All the remainder of that day I kept thinking of the incident, because it bothered me.  I had always taken considerable pride in the thought that I was tolerance with all men; but here was a spontaneous outburst of intolerance which proved that down in my sub-conscious mind existed a complex that was influencing me toward narrow-mindedness.

This discovery so shocked me that I began a systematic process of psycho-analysis through which I searched into the very depths of my soul for the cause of my rudeness.

“Why did I abruptly release that young man’s hand and turn away from him, when you knew nothing about him?”

This is especially for every Thai in Thailand.  Just yesterday that was a situation where this lady saw me, gave me a dirty look, and walked almost in the opposite direction, twisting her head over her left shoulder to avoid looking at me at all costs.

The same schools in Thailand that get my resume, look at the outstanding experience I have before turning to my photo — seeing that I’m “color” — and plunge my resume into the trash.

Yes, I’m calling out each and every last one of you.  It’s like what’s happening on the roads here in Thailand.  A country that has the highest fatality rate by percentage in the world because Thais now tolerate the stupendously fast-and-furious type driving without any reconciliation.  It’s time to dive in!

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TOEIC Grammar: Conditionals (For My Students Around The World)

Conditionals

 

Type 0 General truth

If-clause (hypothesis)

Main clause (result)

Use

If + present simple

Present simple

If the temperature falls below 0 C, water turns into ice.

Type 1 Real present

If + present simple, present perfect or can

future/ imperative can/may/might/must/should/ could/have to + bare infinitive

real – likely to happen in the present or future

If he doesn’t pay the fine, he will go to prison.
If you need help, come and see me.
If you have finished your work, we can have a break. If you’re ever in the area, you should come and visit us.

Type 2 Unreal present

If + past simple (were)

would/could/should + bare infinitive

imaginary situation contrary to facts in the present; also used to give advice

If I had time, I would take up a sport.
(but I don’t have time – untrue in the present)
If I were you, I would talk to my parents about it. (giving advice)

Type 3 Unreal past

If + past perfect (had +PII)

would/should/could + have + PII

imaginary situation contrary to facts in the past; also used to express regrets or criticism

If she had studied harder, she would have passed the test.

Conditional clauses consist of two parts: the if-clause (hypothesis) and the main clause (result). When the if-clause comes before the main clause, the two clauses are separated with a comma. When the main clause comes before the if-clause, then no comma is necessary.

Example: If I see Tim, I’ll give him his book.

I’ll give Tim his book if I see him.

 

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Do This – & Criticism Can’t Hurt You

“I discovered years ago that although I couldn’t keep people from criticising me unjustly, I could do something infinitely more important: I could determine whether I would let the unjust condemnation disturb me.  Let’s be clear about this: I am not advocating ignoring all criticism.  Far from it.  I am talking about ignoring only unjust criticism.”

Doing the thing society tells you not to do is a quick way to overcome the jitters.  The jitters that society uses against you in auto-suggestion form.

Close your eyes for one second.  For those of you who live in Japan, China, Korea, and other countries around the world – visualize being on a train.  What do you see? Who do you see? Are they all doing the same thing? 9 times out of 10 – they are.  They’re standing a specific way in fear that someone may be looking at them, video recording them, or even taking a picture of them.  People are terrified of being criticized by others so they conform to doing the same thing other people do.

Back in the south of Thailand, Thai teachers would say, “why do you go running? You’re a teacher. You shouldn’t be seen in public.  Why are you singing? Why are you happy? You’re a teacher! You can’t do that!”

So, I approved of the outlandish “Thai Culture” suggestion, indicating that I need to have a specific character to fit the description of an abysmal teacher.

I broke away from those chains over the last two years.  For instance, on a typical day I go running, I wear a headband (as I do on the bus when I head to the gym), and depending on if people are looking at me in a particular way, I sing/rap to whatever I’m listening to.  Why?  Because I’m literally telling the world that I don’t give a GOD DAMN about them.

Onlookers look at me in awe, shaking their heads – sometimes in disgust because they’ve never seen a runner sweat the way I do.  That’s fine.  They can think whatever the hell they want to think because at the end of the day I always ask myself: are they paying my bills? Are they investors? Do they even respect me? No.  So you don’t even exist to me.

Free-writing & Free-speaking Topics For ESL Students (Downloadable PDF)

Freewriting Topics

FINALLY! Thanks to my man on instagram, I’ve been shown the way to upload PDF’s on blogs for my students, which means there’s a lot of content that’s coming soon for all my South-Eastern Asia seaboard students.

In Asia, ideas aren’t developed as compared to the western world.  Let me give you an example – noise pollution is just as bad as visual pollution.  To what extent do you agree?

In Thailand, my students wouldn’t have an idea, although the visual and noise pollution is some of the worst in Asia.

Well, with the link above, you can download the PDF, print it, and do some free writing every morning to develop not only your writing, but your speaking, too.

This is wonderful for a lot of students who are trying to achieve high marks in their IELTS Writing Task 2’s.

Nonetheless, if you guys have any comments or recommendations, please feel free to shoot them my way.  I’ll be more than happy to answer any and stay informed by following my blog when more content is available!