BEYOND excited about this! Mira Butler and I have put together another mindfulness course for you guys! In this course, you’re going to learn about the benefits of mindfulness through yoga and meditation, developing a routine, the different things both her and I experienced, the environment, developing your mantra, a meditation video and a conclusion. This one is going to hit home for a lot of you and everything will be readily available online for you guys on my links down below. So, with that being said, let’s dive into this! Here’s a short introduction of the course and video. First lesson kicks off a day later!
You know, I’ve talked about this on a number of occasions. How to veer and steer clear of negative human beings, even if they’re your family. This is one of the toughest decisions any human being can make. Did I think I would ever have to make a decision like this? Not in a million of years. However, after an almost-fight with my brother in the living room of my home back in 2007 about the “Law of Attraction,” I realized that there was no way I can talk about these types of things with him anymore. On one occasion, my mother asked if something was true and I said, “how do you think I got to Australia?”
No pun intended, but if I had consulted my family before my trip, I wouldn’t have gone to Australia to begin with. My brother said angrily, “what the hell you going to Australia for?”
In brief, when I came back from actually LIVING in Australia, my older sister’s face had localized swelling. My mother was complaining about work mates, and my brother had three balls in his back, resulting in surgery. My family was in a dark abyss and I couldn’t be rescue 911 this time. I told myself, “it’s either my life, or I will fall into misery for the rest of my life.” That was the action.
I threw my bose headphones over my ears and cancelled out the noise, which brings me to number 1.
Make Positivity In Your Head Loud
It’s easier said than done, and people are often held back on life because memories that they are attached to — memories that are bad and continue recreating a life in the future — also known as having a predictable future. How can you make it loud? Throw your headphones on, don’t take things seriously and read/listen to Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.
If you actually look at your life from your outerself, you will realize that life isn’t too bad. That’s number one. Number two, unless someone is physically abusing you, you are in control of how you react to situations. You’re either positive or negative; reactive or proactive; on offense or defense. Leading up to my departure (to come here to Thailand), my family and I were LIGHT YEARS apart. I would stay away from them as much as possible because I would feel the jealousy, animosity, hate, bigotry, you name it. It was a tenacious force that I couldn’t overcome, but I made a promise to myself that when I leave this native Las Vegas today, I will NEVER return to see them.
On the day of leaving, my mother cried. I thought they were fabricated because she sure as hell didn’t show any of that the entire year I was there. When I first went to university, my mother cried from her heart at the airport with my uncle. When I left this time, it felt as if she was forced to cry to show her feelings. Everything I experienced over the year, especially with the amount of anger coming out of my brother, had to be banished forever — and so it was.
Are They Helping You, or Killing You?
Simple question. Are you growing or dying? If you were to stay around them any longer, would the situations escalate even more? What kind of small steps can you take? Yes, you can try having a heart talk, but if has been perpetuated for years, the conditioning is imbedded into the DNA…..they believe.
Don’t Jump In, Ease In
When I had the ordeal happen with my family, it was a long period of time. It wasn’t just a huge BANG and everything ended. That could be very daunting for a lot, emotional, and neither party wins. If you just ease out of the toxicity on a nightly basis and talk to friends who encourage you to become better, this can go a long way.
Everyone has to understand that goal-setting is the most important aspect of attracting wealth. When I got complacent in 2015, I was just “content” with making the same salary I had already been making the previous x amount of months. I no longer had goals.
It wasn’t until one day I saw Jack Canfield’s book ‘how to use the law of attraction’ on a bookshelf in a shopping plaza that I started setting goals for myself.
101 Goals was initiated — 70 have been claimed.
There was an exercise in that book that encouraged readers to write down their 101 goals….so I did (spoke about it in my podcast). Since then, I’ve achieved more than 70 of those goals, pushing me to the brink of a new list. When you throw goals on the paper and commit to action, those goals will be achieved, unconsciously. That’s what happened one afternoon while glancing over the page. I realized I achieved 10 of those goals a year after writing them down and I didn’t even know it.
Napoleon Hill’s Way of Setting Goals
“(a) Write down your goal. You will then begin to crystallize your thinking. The very act of thinking as you write will have a tendency to create an indelible impression in your memory.
(b) Give yourself a deadline. Specify a time for achieving your objective. This is important in motivating you: set out in the direction of your goal and keep moving toward it.
(c) Set your standards high. Now there seems to be a direct relationship between ease in achieving a goal and the strength of your motives. You have discovered for yourself in Chapter Nine how to motivate yourself at will and in Chapter Ten how to motivate others.”
And the higher you set your major goal, generally speaking, the more concentrated will be the effort you make to achieve it. The reason: logic will make it mandatory that you at least aim at an intermediate objective as well as an immediate one. So aim higher. And then have immediate and intermediate steps leading toward its achievement.
The following question should stimulate your thinking: Where will you be and what will you be doing ten years from today if you keep doing what you are doing now?
(d) Aim high. It is a peculiar thing that no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand prosperity and abundance, than is required to accept misery and poverty.”
The excuses such as “I had an idea but didn’t have money,” are a done-deal. Let those excuses go….because the internet doesn’t care what your circumstances are, it just wants action.
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Harvesting Happiness Show Notes
Things we discussed:
- What is happiness?
- How do you cultivate happiness.
- What is a mid-life crisis?
- Ways to fight depression.
- Signs of depression.
- The real thing of “busy.”
- What is positive psychology?
- Experiencing trauma.
- Psychology of medicine.
- The power of vulnerability.
- The power of failure.
- What is mindfulness?
- How to practice mindfulness.
- The beginning of the Harvesting Happiness.
- Books that influenced her life
- Encouraging people to practice personal development.
- Mental Health – how to practice lifestyle management.
- Practice Spirituality.
- Advice for people who are listening.
The podcast, which is down below, is for you to listen to the entire show. Please do share this podcast on your social media!
Harnessing The Power of The Big Mo
It’s like when in the morning when I wake up on fire, do a podcast, drop clothes off at the dry-cleaning, do my Instagram posts, and a few other things. It’s all about momentum. You guys have experienced the Big Mo one way or another. It could be during your workouts, commute to work (responding to tons of emails), or even using “down-time” as “power-time.”
Isaac Newton’s Law of Inertia sums it up. Couch potatoes stay couch potatoes. People like Gary Vee, who’s always on the run, stays on the run. It’s all about getting in that successful rhythm.
The same thing happens when a rocket is launched off the launchpad. Recently I was watched the beloved Elon Musk shoot off a rocket into orbit on Space X (YouTube). At first, it was ridiculously slow. I said, “that’s how fast rockets are?” However, after a few minutes, that bad boy was traveling at an astounding rate per second. The hardest part was getting off the ground. Kind of like a plane taking off. At first it’s a little bit slow, but after about 800 meters, it’s going pretty fast until the pilot lifts the wheel and up-up-and away!
You’re going to need a lot of energy to break the initial inertia – but once you get going, watch out!
Ever wonder why successful people tend to get more successful… the rich get richer… the happy get happier… the lucky get luckier.
“But momentum works on both sides of the equation—it can work for you or against you. Since the Compound Effect is always working, negative habits, when left unchecked, can build up steam and send you into a tailspin of “unlucky” circumstances and consequences.” – Darren Hardy
Like when you initially get acquainted with the “ugly group” at school. The negative habits, plus the consequences, will come pouring in. This is the law and this is how it works. Also, it’s hard to break out of it. You can’t just “jump-out” a gang without severe consequences.
How do you get “Big Mo” to pay you a visit?
1. Making new choices based on your goals and core values
2. Putting those choices to work through new positive behaviors
3. Repeating those healthy actions long enough to establish new habits
4. Building routines and rhythms into your daily disciplines
5. Staying consistent over a long enough period of time”
When the iPod was initially launched in 2001 (I had no idea!), they had a 30% revenue growth. However, the next year it went to -33%. 2003 was still in the negative but in 2004, and when I started to see it on TV shows on MTV, it went into a 18% surplus. 60%……70%. BOOM! This is momentum.
So, my first podcast (which will be below the first part of this in terms of finding your fight) was uploaded yesterday. I didn’t have time to attach the blog with it, and I also got a real time text message about a job denying me work and see how I reacted to it. Great experience. Lol
And into “finding your fight.”
Now, Darren Hardy talked about using friction, anger and hate to press up against something you don’t like. I strongly disagree, respectfully. It’s like the people who asked Mother Teresa if she wanted to go to an Anti-_________ rally. She never went, but when she said, “if you make a pro-peace rally, I’ll go.”
The more you press up against something you dislike or get back at someone, you’ll never feel accomplished and you’ll be bringing more of that.
Gary Vee mentioned that he does things to stick it back in other people’s faces. Again, people have a way of doing it, but the antagonists, naysayers, and people that want to see you fail will continue dissecting every detail of you to find something else to complain about. It will be a never-ending whirlwind of critcism you’re redirecting constantly over to yourself because you feel you have to do it to prove someone wrong.
I’m telling you now that they will continue to win. Just remember, No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.
Podcast From Yesterday
The compound effect, just like the Law of Attraction, is always working – whether you believe it or not. You can use it for you, or against you. Most successful people in the world have quiet time for meditation, other people say that meditation isn’t for them. It’s all based on preference. However, if you can get to a deeper level of your core, you will find the treasure. I have a particular friend who works at a bank who says she doesn’t know what she loves. Well, try new things! “Well, my mother said I can’t.”
Now’s not the time to be rescue 911. If she doesn’t start now, she’ll look back to now at the age of 70 saying, “I wish I had…..”
Don’t be that person.
Ask yourself: “what goals, dreams and destinations do I desire?”
Honestly, ask yourself that question. If you’re not making progress in life, and shooting aimlessly, it’s because your goals aren’t clearly defined and you just simply don’t have a definite chief-aim in life. How can you learn to effectively to set and achieve goals?
Was Australia on my bucket list back in 2009? No. However, in 2005, it gave me a glimpse of what was to come when I did a convention with a friend involving lots of managers from Australia at the Mandalay Bay Resort & Casino. That wasn’t a clearly defined goal, but rather an insight.
I always wanted to travel to Japan, Singapore, Bali and Maldives…when I put these onto my dreamboard, it happened. It may not work for you, but it worked for me.
You only see, experience, and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. In fact, the object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not the mysterious, esoteric voodoo it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simpler and more practical than that. – Darren Hardy
We are bombarded with visual, audio and physical things everyday. Have you ever been thinking about that person and later get a phone call from them? How about that car you want? You start seeing the car a heck of a lot more, right? Is it realistic? Perhaps. Maybe the cars were there all along and you just weren’t paying attention to it.
When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look into and focus on. This is why our subconscious mind and feeding your mind with what you want one hour before you retire at night is imperative. If you watch bad news, what shows up in your dreams? If you do work on that project, shop for that house, look for flights to Kazakhstan, and look at YouTube videos of travel in Morocco….your subconscious mind will work on it overnight.
When the secret was first introduced to the world back in 2006, I was unaware of it until 2007. I still remember that day like it was yesterday, because I ended up attracting to me my father, who I hadn’t seen in the previous six years of my life, on the bus. Within an hour after finishing the movie, I narrowly got onto a bus where my father entered just two stops later. I snugged my head between my legs and said, “nope, I’m not saying a damn thang to that fool!”
Within an hour I realized how I can attract individuals into my life. About a month later, I got into a shouting party with my brother because he unwittingly demeaned everything about the secret saying, “the universe? Ahh hell nah. That s***s too crazy for me” in dumb downed rhetoric. My friend Ty, who’s attending Harvard’s Dental School at this very moment, came between us and a war of fists.
Why am I bringing up these two situations that coincide with each other? Well, I saw someone by the name of Gary V ranting in front of a crowd about how ‘The Secret’ is bs. Now, you have to remember that criticizing others beliefs, differences, cultural backgrounds and opinions is a gateway to a fierce argument. I always tell my listeners that you can be a believer in god, allah, buddha, or anything you want – what you must do, though….is accept others opinions – regardless if you believe it to be right or wrong.
He went on to say that “being positive is the key”…but being positive is also cultivated from the mind, which has created so much of what’s around us. On top of that, the mind is energy, and energy is the universe. This is exactly what ‘The Secret’ is.
I won’t go on a long disagreement, but remember, never let people use auto-suggestion to dictate your beliefs. If I was weak, I would’ve allowed myself to believe his opinion and do away with what’s written in my essence. This is the destroyer of so many futures because we listen to other people and create our beliefs around it.
Believe in what you believe in and don’t let someone else say otherwise.
I love looking back on my life and figuring out what the purpose was of each relationship. Probably not all, but one’s that left such a lasting effect on my life.
Linda Booker. Ahhhh….just an odd afternoon at the College of Southern Nevada back in 2012 – witnessing Bruce Leroy and so many other interesting characters at a gym while advertising a clinic. There was a lady standing by her booth giving people free water and she had some products on the table for show, but I didn’t pay any mind until the very last moments of the entire segment.
She offered us a free H2O drink (Herbalife), and being as groggy as I was at that particular moment, I certainly didn’t turn it down. Within minutes after drinking it, I woke up and became alert in the snap of some fingers. Full with B vitamins, she gave me a drink that changed the trajectory of the way I view health. We exchanged contact details and went on about our day. I kept telling her, for months, that I would go to her office and visit. It wasn’t until the distasteful taste of a protein bar at 24 hour fitness that I realized, “maybe I should go buy protein from Linda.”
From that point going forward, she introduced me to a side business I have to this day and to products that I use for both inner and outer nutrition.
It wasn’t just the introduction to Herbalife, but I felt she was the mother I never had in terms of positivity. At that time, for the last 2 months of my stay in America (leading up to the May 2013 departure to Thailand), my family and I had a very loud relationship where I tried staying away from them as much as possible (because of the toxicity of them). Linda was my escape pod. Her husband was also a father figure that I never had, either.
Sadly, Linda and I no longer speak because the purpose was fulfilled back in March of 2013. When I finally reached Thailand, we kept in contact just for a short while until I realized we weren’t the same anymore. I removed her from social media for about a year until I tried salvaging the relationship just a short while later. Nope, she unfortunately lost her business and returned back to the hospital, which she resented so much.
What you have to realize people that relationships, such as the one I experienced with Linda, are called purposeful relationships. After the purpose is met, the relationship will take a turn forever. It won’t necessarily end, but it’ll never be the same again.
Linda, being a remarkable cancer survivor, is by far one of the best relationships I needed at that specific time in my life. Going through a range of emotions with my potential employer (in Thailand) and my mother, it just seemed like everything was about to fall apart just shortly before my departure to Thailand. However, this being, along with her grandparents and acquaintances, stepped in and made me realize how much life had to offer.
Thank you, Linda. You’ve changed my life forever.
If and when an angry person starts in to vilify and abuse you, justly or unjustly, it’s your reaction and the retaliation in a like manner where you will either be drawn down to that person’s mental level, or rise above it. If you do fall down to their level, that means that person is dominating you.
On the other hand, if you just refuse to become angry and have that self-composure needed to keep you calm, you will take the other person by surprise. Retaliating with a weapon that the other person is unfamiliar with will catch them off guard and easily dominate them.
Look at the majority of salespeople around the planet. When an angry customer comes in hailing and flailing expletives and adjectives of all kinds, are they going to retaliate in the same manner? Absolutely not. When the outburst subsides, the person who was using vilification will feel like a……douche.
Always remember, like attracts like! There’s no denying this.
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Summary of Self-Control
We’ve learned that our thoughts and actions towards others resemble an electric magnet which attracts to us the same sort of thought and the same sort of action that we, ourselves, create.
We have learned that the human mind responds in kind, to whatever thought impressions it receives. We have learned that kindness begets kindness and unkindness and injustice beget unkindness and injustice.
Everything we put out comes back in a much larger measure. We have learned that the human mind responds in kind, to all sensory impressions it receives.
Now it’s time to go into lesson seven which is an extremely critical one – Habit of Doing More Than Paid For.
Chapter 1 – Live In “Day-tight Compartments”
There’s nothing in the past that will help you with the present or future. There are clues that are left behind, but whatever it is from the past that you needed to learn, you learned. Beyond that, nothing is ever promised tomorrow. Living in these day-tight compartments, especially for relationships, are essential.
Chapter 2 – A Magical Formula For Solving Worry Situations
This three-step process can help a lot of you at work, home, and just about everywhere else in life when things are going wrong. Figuring out the worst case scenario for what happened about three weeks ago in terms of a side project helped me sleep at night. Building upon the worst case scenario will give you such a sense of satisfaction and relief….only to find out that the worst case scenario never happens. This is another useful technique for solving those problems that we deem to be gigantic.
Chapter 3 – What Worry May Do To You
I recall talking on my podcast about a study that was conducted decades ago on 10,000 patients who were suffering from stomach pains. 30% of them had developed stomach ulcers because of the degree of worry they were suffering from. The other 70% didn’t have anything wrong with their physical being, so it came from stress. Another prime example is chest pain – that which coach Urban Meyer suffered from during his tenure as head coach at the University of Florida. Worry can bring pain to the body.
Chapter 4 – How To Analyze and Solve Worry Problems
What am I worrying about?
What can I do about it?
Here is what I’m going to do about it…..
When am I going to start doing it……
Chapter 5 – How To Eliminate 50% of Your Business Worries
If you’re in endless meetings where you going around in circles, complaining about individuals work performance, there are a number of ways you can get rid of that.
Chapter 6 – How To Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind
I didn’t know this back in 2009, but I realized how critical it was to keep myself busy during depressing times. When I was getting over my first ever relationship, I was in complete and utter shambles – holding onto dear life. However, after enrolling into fantastic classes and being around people who stripped away the dark past that lingered over me, life changed — for the absolute best.
Chapter 7 – Don’t Let The Beetles Get You Down
I recently watched U-571 to get a feel of how vicious depth-charges are, and my goodness, just imagine being bombed under 200 feet of water. It makes all of those microscopic worries go away.
And the Law of Averages….
Do you feel that you’re going to crash from being on an airplane? Struck by lightning? Be buried alive? Think again.