Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 19 | Integrate What You Learn into Your Life

“To know and not to do, is really not to know. To learn and not to do is not to learn. In other words, to understand something but not apply it is really not to understand it. It is only in the doing, the applying, that knowledge and understanding are internalized. For instance, you could study tennis as a sport by reading books and hearing lectures, but until you’ve actually played it, you wouldn’t really know the sport. To know and not to do is not to know.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

An amazing podcast just yesterday morning with an incredible amount of plays is in store for you today. I’ve been doing these blogs for years already, with tens of thousands, maybe even eclipsing that 100k view plateau, helping you all achieve greatness in your walks of life and endeavors. And what I’ve been doing is posting excerpts from books, providing information about those excerpts along with personal examples. This has been the profound journey of self-enlightenment which has guided me into transformation, life coaching and healing sessions. My life has changed exponentially, and it’s because I began integrating what I learned into my life. Listen to the podcast down below!

Complete The Past

Yes, this is one of those podcasts that you need to really listen to because I’ve had a number of faces creep into my dreams. Now, it’s very difficult to even recall dreams after you wake up in the morning, but there were about 2-3 people who kept coming into my dreams and I was just confused as to why.

So, I asked myself the question: “did I complete these relationships?” The answer was “no.” So what I did was I took to Instagram, and this allowed me to finally write the final chapter of the book and close it permanently. When I did that, they were no longer in my conscious or dreams….and then I started attracting to me people who I was possibly pushing away because the energy that was surrounding the previous relationships.

Want to know more? Podcast down below!

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IGTV Podcast Series | Relationship Talk | Mira Butler

BOOM! And just like that, here’s the first of what’s going to be a NUMBER of IGTV live podcasts. I was elated when I found out that I can finally save the live videos to an IGTV series. This was just so much content and so many golden nuggets put into one. I must apologize for the busted audio….it’s IG…just like FB, but there are great things within. Tune into this bad boy!

The Enlightenment Series: S1 – E2 – Carla Trigo on

It’s been a long time coming, but Carla and I finally had the opportunity to connect on a wonderful Facebook live (both in YouTube and podcast format) in a very captivating and enlightening chat about a wide variety of things. You guys are going to enjoy this. The topics, audio and video are down below!

Get in touch with Carla Riago from Spain

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction given by Carla Trigo about her work.
  • What is lifestyle design?
  • How does an individual redesign their lifestyle?
  • How do people breakout from the familiar trend?
  • How can people be more observant?
  • How did Carla start innovating?
  • What are things that help the guest as her blueprint for mind changing?
  • Journaling is a way for you to get rid of negative mindsets.
  • How to ask questions instead of giving statements.
  • How to have a better relationship by asking the right questions.
  • Reading and applying from what readers have read is an important skill.
  • What three steps should be taken by listeners?

Thank you for listening!

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The Story of My Student’s Anti-Depressants & How Much Reaction Won

That’s right.

Remember the time my student turned to anti-depressants?

After meeting her at the base of my condo, I felt that there was a “aura” of disparity that was surrounding her. What she normally used to be and what she was at that moment.

After going up the elevator, she had a frown on her face and just didn’t see up-beat like she normally was. Upon entering my condo, she sat down and just looked unenthused. I sensed that something was wrong….she wasn’t happy with her life.

How does a doctor, making a significant amount, fall into such a state? Well, 48% of doctors in America are depressed, so that statistic wouldn’t be too uncommon.

After going over her motivations, taking her through a series of things i normally do and figuring out her center, she was completely unmotivated to do anything. She wasn’t living. The personal development category had hit rock bottom, and so were three other categories.

That day she went home and bought some anti-depressants. Luckily, she told me…and I said..

Wtf are you doing? You’ve identified the problem? People on anti-depressants either don’t know (don’t wanna know) or just masking/numbing what the actual problem is!

Arsenio

She felt my emotions through a message and quickly got off of them. She took literally one, and threw the rest away because she knew what the problem was.

Three days later she signed up with a gym and a few other activities to stop being so redundant with her life.

A few months later, she’s full of joy. I saw her again and I felt a radiation of positivity that I haven’t felt since she came back during a semester break 3 years ago (from Australia). She’s challenging herself and looking towards a job at the USA Embassy.

See, for those of you who believe depressants are going to help you, you’re wrong. You’re numbing the pain. You’re not facing what’s not working; whether it’s your shitty family, terrible job, or boorish friends. Once you isolate the problem and create a solution, those depressive feelings will go away….

…..such as what happened with my ex-student.

Family & Friends: Goals for 2019!

Some things can’t be changed.  I completely understand.  Last year I saw three significant departures, and going back to my blog, I’m now looking back on my previous self — terrified.

I literally have my best friend in New York and a good friend in Australia.  The others come and go as they will…more labeled as acquaintances.  2017 was a rough year.  There were days of emotional turmoil and even a three-day-period when I fell under a trance of melancholy.  Not good.  I pushed for dead-end relationships and that’s what needs to be cleaned up going into the latter stages of the year.  Sure, I met two friends (before one vanished) and I still have one that’s up and running.  In terms of meeting people around Bangkok, I think it will happen in due time, but I’m preparing for that massive change now.
Family
Yikes! What a disaster of a category this is.  Haha! A brother who has always hated me (thank you), two sisters who don’t speak to me (typical), a mother who has never tried calling me in the last five years of living here in Thailand (why so serious?), and an entire family that’s completely jealous of what I’m doing with my life.  However, they can do the same thing.

January 6th, 2018

As you can see in the link, WOW! That’s some pretty scary language coming from a now mentor/coach.  Just amazing how I was able to turn it around entirely.

What did I do? Well, from my friend Waii (who left in May, came back and left again for a long time), to another girl named Zern (was a relationship then dropped it), and lastly — my friend Alissa (who completely disappeared to the middle of this year).  Looking at what had happened before, I absolutely didn’t want to make the same mistake again this year. So, did I try adding in any friends? NOPE! Only close circle people.

In April, I lost a friend named Nazira, who lives in Bishkek.  I lost another one from Indonesia and one late last year.  I took out everything, and in my mind, I pretty much accepted that friends will absolutely come and go.  I’m my biggest and bestest friend, and that’s the only person I can rely on.

However, who I have around me NOW is utterly amazing.  Great people from head-to-toe.  Life coaches, relationship coaches, mentors, graphic designers, new content writer……this year I did repeat the bullshit I had done in the past (which is just letting people into my close circle).  People who are outside my circle will stay outside my circle.  The great people who are in my circle will never depart because they’ve become my oxygen and they’re not selfish.  The people who I had let inside my circle (closed circle) last year were incredibly selfish.  They didn’t care about the relationship….only their person needs.

One more example would be a friend from Japan.  Yeah, she came into my life as a language exchange buddy who I developed a REMARKABLE companionship with.  After that, she had become distance, which is what women normally do, and then that last message came: “Arsenio, I can’t message you anymore. I’m going to America tomorrow to meet my boyfriend.

“You can’t talk to me anymore but you still have a husband and you’re going to meet a boyfriend in another country?

Arsenio

Yeah, ridiculous. She left March this year, and this happens a lot with my Japanese friends (not holding an entire country accountable for some individual actions, but it’s the last time I’ll ever let someone in my closed circle).

Over to you.

  1. Who do you have in your circle who’s taking, rather than giving?
  2. What new companions and professionals can you add to your closed circle and drop into the outer circle?
  3. Are you able to recognize those who will invest in you?
  4. Is your family too toxic to overcome that you want to distance yourself? If so, how can you start trimming the time that you’re with them?
  5. Are you investing too much into your family that’s not being reinvested in you?
  6. Make a list of the people who are giving and a list of people who are taking.

Listen to “Family & Friends: Goals for 2019!” on Spreaker.

Interviewee #024 – Lewis Raymond Taylor On Overcoming Himself

What an unbelievable story this was.  Lewis started off as a child who needed attention, like all children do, but after screamed at and neglected by his family, the fall of him began.  From drugs, alcoholism, run ins with the authority and even prison time, he changed his mind through a series of moments.  After putting himself back in prison the second time, the change happened.  Tune into the podcast!

Get in touch with Lewis Raymond Taylor

 

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction by the host with his guest.
  • Unhappy childhood and emotional abuse from his father.
  • The attention seeking disease.
  • Becoming a sexual abuse victim.
  • Wrong people, subconscious, prison.
  • Emotional needs.
  • Rejection, anger and rejection.
  • Being diagnosed with split personality disorder, bipolar disorder and other mental issues.
  • Attempted suicide and a near-death experience.
  • Nearly killing a man because the man’s aggression reflected his fathers.
  • The beginning of the change.
  • What the strategies were.
  • Mentorship in prison.
  • The beginning of being a business coach.
  • Being not responsible, but accountable.
  • 7 steps to make a change.

Listen to “Interviewee #024 – Lewis Raymond Taylor On Overcoming Himself” on Spreaker.

 

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Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: International Guest Speaker: Life Coach — Ramona — From Romania!

After a friend request was accepted, I realized that Ramona was a life-coach from Romania and living in Dublin.  From that moment was the inception of a life-long friendship that could bring so much to human beings around the planet.  I’m super grateful for not only telling my story through personal development, but making connections all over the world.  I’m introducing you another International Guest Speaking Podcast today! Enjoy!

 

Things we discussed:

  • Ramona’s love for the English language.
  • Why she went to Ireland.
  • When she started learning English.
  • Her love for Romania after visiting.
  • What her appreciation of Romania was from a different perspective.
  • Problems acclimating in Ireland?
  • Becoming a life-coach.
  • Irish castles and beautiful Irish landscapes.
  • Irish cuisine and Irish soup.
  • Similarities between Romanian and Irish sense of humor.
  • Her visits to other parts of European countries.
  • Bali from a different perspective.
  • Recommendations of well-known places to visit in Romania.
  • The country Georgia and its beautiful language.
  • Her visit to Bulgaria.
  • Subconscious mind.
  • Next adventures.

Thank you for listening!

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When You Realize You Have An Indomitable Will….

I went to my mother’s Facebook page to check on her health and well-being recently.  After the 2013 fallout, my mother and I haven’t spoken on video or by voice in half-a-decade.  Regrets? Absolutely not.  It takes two to tango.  However, the health of my mother is always important.

Her first post was of my brother — an individual who has hated me since I was a child.  Hot-headed, angry, know-it-all/alpha mask possessing individual who’s following similar footsteps of his father.  He was featured on Fox5News in Las Vegas.  Being an avid drummer and always have been for years, music has always been in his heart.  Having taught at high schools, middle schools, and elementary schools, apparently he had auditioned for the Las Vegas Golden Knights hockey team — and got the job.  During one of the openings of last year’s playoff game against I-HAVE-NO-IDEA, I saw someone wearing glowing, neon glasses while drumming who had a beard similar to what my brother normally flaunts.  Indeed, it was my brother.  I was super proud of him.

Two years ago, he had sent me a message, berating me with derogatory slurs and yelling, “don’t come back to Vegas! Mom doesn’t wanna see you! Your sisters hate you!”

I laughed and felt sorry for him.  Since those 1995, Mega Man X days where he would beat me up on the SNES and tell my parents that I did wrong, he still has an impenetrable amount of hostility that’s tormenting him inside.

During the recent interview in the link above, I can still see it in his eyes.  Hearing him speak with the freakish looking smile and saying, “it’s about being positive,” or somewhere on the lines, is what I would always see before he unleashed an unfathomable amount of hell upon me and spew rhetoric at my siblings.  He was a power junkie and always has been — very different from what my father used to be, to be honest.

Nonetheless, I told my siblings, and the last time I spoke with them back in the summer of 2016, that I would never speak to Steven Buck again for as long as I live.  It was time to finally move on.  Wish him the best in his future endeavors, but enough was enough.  Gary Vee says drop your loser friends and family members, and my brother, who was the antagonist of every story, has never been supportive.

But please don’t let this confuse any of you.  Holding a grudge against anyone is ridiculous, and this is why I forgave him from within and sent the rest to the universe.  He doesn’t need to know that I forgave him, nor would he care, but it’s for my own peace of mind.

You know, going through the battles I’ve gone through, especially living in Thailand, it’s perspective.

Do you know how lonely I felt being in a household where everyone hated me? I was the “selfish” one for not saving money.  I was the bad son for not giving my mom 25% of my salary while living overseas by myself.  Going through that dimension of it, and then battling the racial discrimination in these borders? 150 jobs denied me because I was BLACK.

Could you imagine not having anyone to go to in terms of that?

You can’t.  The brute force and nature of it all id unprecedented. But how did I go through it? Was it the motive? The purpose, as Napoleon Hill has said before? How did I flip it from a push to a pull? How did I go from a negative mindset to a positive mindset? How did I go from getting by at the beginning of this year, to becoming financially independent by next year? I’m still trying to piece it together.

One thing is apparent, however, and it’s the fact that I have an indomitable will.

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Coaching Session #001: Figuring Out Where Your Depression is Coming From

It was a coaching session like no other; in fact it was with a significant language barrier in between the both of us.

I first received a message from one of the girls that works at a place I’m part-timing at. She said she wanted to talk to me about something serious, so I immediately thought  something went bad — AGAIN — at work in regards to a student.

However, that wasn’t the case.  Previously i had coached one of my colleagues to snap out of her depression, and it worked.  So, the second staff member approached me and it was time to be the coach.

I made her do the “Wheel of Life” podcast and she became aware of what was going on in her life.  On a scale 1-10, and rating 8 categories, her highest mark was seven, which didn’t make any sense.  So her outer feelings and what is going on in her life is very apparent.  Here’s what she had.

Health – 5 – low blood pressure, dizzy, tired quickly

Wealth – 3 – no car, home, business, can’t take care of mother,

Career – 1 – absent-minded, indecision

Personal Development – 0 – cannot create happiness

Physical Environment – 3 – high competition, selfishness

Fun & Hobbies – 0 – no time or money

Family & Friends 7 – friends are there but not all

Physical Environment – 4

Romantic Relationships – 4 – lots of negative feelings towards love (6 entries)

So, here is what she wrote down (via google translate), and as you scan see, it focuses primarily on what she doesn’t have.  There’s conditioning happening here, which is not unusual, but she’s holding onto a lot of past things that aren’t suitable anymore.

Health revolves around her personal development.  Tired quickly, gets dizzy, etc….there could be a massive deficiency on so many levels in terms of vitamins, nutrients, minerals — but remember — it’s not what you see on the surface.  It’s much deeper than that.

Wealth is a fixed mindset.  She focuses on things she doesn’t have that I don’t have.  I don’t have a car or own a home, either.  It all depends on preferences, and because she believes success relates to materialistic things, she thinks she’s a failure for not having these things.

Physical Environment, in a place where competition is very high and ignorance amongst her colleagues, of course she’s going to hate it.  Little money? Of course! But why do you continue doing something that gives you no ROI? Is she happy doing the job? No way.

What to do?

What are her beliefs? What negative beliefs does she have on the subjects above? She needs to write them down and then write down something outrageously opposite from her belief.  This is when it begins to change.  You have to get rid of all the “have nots and don’t haves” and turn them into positive, reassuring statements because the subconscious doesn’t know what’s right from wrong.  It just takes in everything you feel, and in her case, she feels like complete s***.

Put one good food into her diet a day. There are plenty of mood-boosting foods out there in the world.

Career is a toss-up.  I can’t ask her what she does, but she definitely needs to do the “how to find your life purpose” questionnaire to get somewhat guidance.

Hate your job? Time to change it.  Hate something else? Drop it.  I’m a super advocate for taking out negativity.  My workplace has become an unbearable environment to be in over the last couple of weeks because of petty stuff.  What have I done? Start looking for new work.  That’s the basis.  Is it long-term where you’re working? Ok, you need to pay the bills….keep doing that, but never take ignorant bosses berating you over your sanity.  If that happens, goodbye.  Trust me, you will find something when you stop a herd of negativity from coming into your life.

Listen to “Coaching Session 001: Figuring Out Where Your Depression is Coming From” on Spreaker.