Fake It ‘Till You Make It?’ — NO!

As I was sitting on my bed just yesterday evening, I covered my eyes in horror.  What I was hearing and seeing was something so new to me, but yet so frightening.  Millennials, those who are easily swayed into doing certain things, are being sucked into this horrific lifestyle.

Miami, a place where people believe the beaches and nightlife is everything, is actually a place of depression,  Here you have these young teenagers LYING about their life, posting it on Facebook, but in fact, it’s all fake.

This youngster, who went by an alias, apparently had “rented” cars from dealerships, and then he would rent them out to other guys who are/were visiting from outside to take photos.  After doing that, he would post all the pictures on Instagram, claiming that he owns them and that “this” is the type of lifestyle that young adults want: cars, sex, clubs, women, drugs.

This polarizing figure somewhat reflects what Tai Lopez has done.  He repackaged a book and sold it for obscene amounts online.  His target market? The middle east and India.  He displayed his array of super cars in his garage, had women walking around in hi-heels, but it was all show without any substance.  Tai Lopez has now come out with more YouTube videos as ads, again displaying a woman in a red dress walking into a Bugatti before walking away and trying to give the “weak-minded” some advice that would — sway them — into buying his course.

The amount of people who are falling prey to these controversial figures, especially those who showcase their materialistic things, is extremely high.

From Tai Lopez, to the middle school dropouts who saturate the streets at night in Miami; please, don’t fall victim to the trap.

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Season 1: Episode 6 – Book Review – Alpha & Know-It-All Masks

These are the last two masks I’ll be talking about, and this is the last episode for Lewis Howes’ Masks of Masculinity book.  There were so many gems and so many things I connected in my past.  Even over the past couple of days, I still continue to see people who are suffering from these masks: both men and women.  So, let’s break down the Alpha and Know-It-All masks.

“When I shut up and let my podcast guests do the talking, only then are they able to share their wisdom and teach me things I didn’t know.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

This was a quote that changed the way I did podcasts.  For example, when I brought Soheir on my show, I sat back, let her speak, and employed close listening.  However, some people who are hosts for podcasts and hosts in general do all the talking.  That could be a problem.

Another instance was my most recent podcast interview with Tiffany Okafor.  I related, but I also asked her some good questions and didn’t want it to be a full-fledge interview.

“Have you ever noticed how people tend to fill the dead time in a conversation or a meeting by rambling on about some random topic? Have you ever watched someone you work with try to impress the people around them by going on a long rant about something you can’t even pronounce? Have you ever seen someone in an important setting suck the air out of the room by making it all about them? They always have a response, they can’t let anything go, and they have to show you how smart they are.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

Welcome to corporate America.  There’s always the manage/CEO that has to have his final say in everything.  There’s always that suit and tie guy that pushes the narrative that he’s better than everyone else because he knows bigger words.

I tried looking for the video, but there was an instance that two hollywood “white boys” (I’m emphasizing this for a reason) came to Gary Vee’s office, and instead of them shutting up and listening, they talked over Gary Vee the entire time, sending most commenters and subscribers into a frenzy of name-calling.  You have to be the student sometimes.  If I ever have the special privilege of bringing Michael Bernard Beckwith on my podcast, I would literally just ask some questions and sit back — just as I did when Sano came onto my podcast.

What’s available when you drop the mask…

People want to be around you
Freedom to not know
Ability to learn and grow
Wisdom from others
Deeper intimacy
Support from others

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Alpha Mask

 

This has already been handled about 10 days ago, so I’ll just post the podcast down below for you guys.

 

Final Review

Being able to finish these books, learn, grow, and teach what I’ve learned, is one of the greatest things I could’ve ever done.  Over the past couple of years, I’ve finished somewhere around a half-dozen books (compared to maybe 2 books the previous 28 years) and I’ve seen significant growth.

I want to thank everyone who’s been with me on this journey and we’re going to continue with Napoleon Hill’s PMA book in the next season!

Lewis Howes: Material Mask – Part II: Does Money Kill?

After accumulating so many riches over the course of years, Lewis Howes is still one of those people who drive a 1991 Cadillac. He went on to say that Tai Lopez’ viewpoint on buying luxury cars was interesting to him.  Heck, I believe anyone who buys cars over 100k$ USD is doing it to cover up what they’re lacking, if I haven’t said that already.

“Tai described the dangers of money quite well. He said, “I think that if you’re not careful, money is like a pit bull. A pit bull can save your life or it can turn around and kill you.”

If I can recall a story which Tony Robbins spoke about in his book about the richest man in Germany, Adolf Merkel.  This man was a billionaire back in his day, and after suffering a huge gamble and losing about 25% of his networth, he was absolutely finished with life.  His identity was so attached to money to the point he felt powerless, and in the ensuing days he threw himself off the building, ultimately committing suicide.

Anyone who believes money can kill them is right – based on face-value.  However, if you’re one of those people who look at money from an “enabling” standpoint, you’ll never think money “has you.”  Look at me.  Sure, I’ll be moving across town to a gorgeous condo and kick off 2018 with the most successfully sound bank account I’ve ever possessed.  But does that define who I am? Hell no.  Quite frankly, I can really give a damn about how much I make all year next year.  What I wanted most from one particular place was respect; then I was delivered racism and threats…so I got up and left because I knew there were six projects aching for my services.  Am I doing to purely because the money? ABSOLUTELY NOT! It’s the handshake after another.  Having speaking engagements in possibly Morocco and even in Bangkok (Tedx) is what I do it for.  Will I buy an Audi to look cool and contribute to the traffic congested roads in Thailand? Ludicrous!

“I suppose that’s why a lot of guys either love or hate Tai Lopez. Some see him as a hero. They want to drive nice cars. They want to be surrounded by models in their enormous mansions. They want to be able to hang out with celebrities who come over to their house. They want to be—or appear to be—the opposite of the invisible, ashamed, anonymous person they might feel themselves to be. Other guys see him as a fraud or a liar. They are convinced he’s making it all up and that he doesn’t actually have any money. They obsessively produce videos that question whether Tai rents his exotic cars or if his house is really his. If I had to guess why those doubters are so obsessed, it’s because, if Tai’s story is true, then deep down, they don’t think they would be able to do the same things Tai has done. And that kind of self-doubt, especially to a man raised in our current culture, is too crippling not to project outward onto others.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

There are a number of videos, Twitter accounts, and Facebook accounts depicting Tai Lopez.  Tom Bilyeu had him on Impact Theory recently, and the majority of his fans swarmed with positive comments.  On the other hand, those same people who feel that Tai is better than them began spewing rhetoric at everyone and everything about Tai.  Personally, I have no idea who Tai’s followers are, but regardless of what aisle people may be on, you do have to realize that Tai has that version of a material mask on.

I love how Lewis Howes put it.  He said, “listen to Tai is to watch his YouTube videos. And to listen to his insight is to watch him dispense it from the captain’s chair of a private jet surrounded by models in bandage dresses. Or from backstage at a concert. Or poolside at a private villa. Or in his giant Beverly Hills mansion. This extra bit of detail is like theater or a costume, and without it, it’s almost like he thinks his ideas will have less value. Or worse, they won’t matter.”

Like Lewis Howes said, all that materialism invalidates the quality of a person’s idea.

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Lewis Howes: The Material Mask & Tai Lopez Excerpt

YIKES! I mean, I can write probably a book on what Americans deem to be happiness – just go to Beverly Hills and see yourself! Yes, I took shot at Beverly Hills, although I stay there with an ex-boss of mine and his wife for a day this past April.  The Material Mask – the most highly sought after mask on the face of the planet.

From Instagrammer influencers posing with six-figure cars, to people flaunting their riches on yachts.  I find it very laughable because deep down inside those individuals are insecurities far beyond what “normal” people have.

For example, the YouTube guru who took the world by storm over a two-year period, Tai Lopez, is deemed as a “scam” artist.  Some people say that he packaged his own course from Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles.”  Others dissected his videos to the molecular level when they realized that some of the people he would be in the video with, at the time, weren’t even listening to him.  Collection of books in the garage; house “rented” out, women wearing 2-piece bikinis and so much more.  Nonetheless, this man amassed a fortune behind a very ambiguous past and everyone to this date is still unaware of his age.

Get this, regardless of what you might or might not like about him, he was one of those people who didn’t have that type of money when he was younger.  So, when he got the money, he lavished himself in it and had to show everyone.  His Tedx, called the ‘Good Life,’ was a bit laughed, in my opinion.  This coming from a public speaker – but this human being by the name of Tai Lopez has still been able to make millions of dollars.  Dollars that he must show to the rest of the world to make them feel inferior.

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