The Enlightenment Series: S1 – E1 – Isabel Hundt on Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

As usual, Isabel Hundt never ceases to amaze me. A very hot topic that most of us struggle with was on point today on be.live tv. I was able to rip the audio from it and put it in podcast form, so guys, this is the first time hearing her on my personal development podcast. I had brought her on before on my English language podcast.

Isabel, who’s an author, coach, sociologist, empath warrior, etc….is one of the most brilliant minds I’ve ever met. In this video/podcast she discusses an array of limiting beliefs, triggers, and a few other things to overcome them. If you’re suffering from intolerance and have a bias against a specific gender, creed, color, this is for you.

Here are the show notes.

Get in touch with Isabel Hundt of Germany

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction given by Isabel Hundt and about her work.
  • Millennials and how they can build a better world.
  • Entitlements and privileges among the younger generations.
  • What are limiting beliefs?
  • What is ‘labelling’? Her experiences growing up in East Germany and about racism.
  • How to overcome self-limiting belief?
  • Subconsciousness of racism and epigenetics.
  • Self-limiting is a form of security.
  • How to develop self-awareness?
  • Emotional awareness.
  • What are the steps to overcoming limiting beliefs?

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Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust: Season 4 – Episode 3 – The Five Waves of Trust

Stephen Covey posted in the book what I THOUGHT was AMAZING! Let’s break it down.

Five years ago I was working with some associates in a small group and they loved the approach: “We love this leadership content! It’s right on! But our division leaders don’t understand this.  They are the ones who really need to hear it.”

After that, he presented the content to the division leaders: we’re in full agreement with everything you’re saying.  This approach is GREAT! The problem is that the people who really need it are our bosses.”

He went to the bosses…..and again…..”We are enthusiastic about this content! It’s very insightful and helpful.  But our counterparts in the five divisions don’t understand this.  They are the ones who need to hear it.”

It went on and on, as you can see.  Finally, after probably 7-8 presentations, there was the CEO.

“This content is great, but I’m powerless.  I can do nothing.  It’s all in the hands of the board.”

His father once said, “if you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem.”

People, just because there are trust issues in your workplace, to your personal life, it doesn’t mean you’re powerless!  In fact, you probably have no idea how powerful you can be in changing the level of trust in any relationship if you know how to work “from the inside out.”

The First Wave: Self Trust

The first wave deals with us.  Our ability to set and achieve goals, to keep commitments, to walk our talk — and also with our ability to inspire trust in others.

The key underlying principle of this trust is credibility, the four cores we’ll be getting into shortly.

So, when you’re not able to keep your commitments, as mentioned before, you lose integrity, credibility, trust, and so many other things.

The Second Wave: Relationship Trust

Trust accounts. Period.  We will go over the 13 behaviors coming up real soon, and all of these rules can be applied either at home or work.  This can significantly increase the ability to generate trust with all involved in order to enhance relationships.

The Third Wave; Organizational Trust

How leaders can deal with trust.  Gary Vee and Tom Bilyeau were recently speaking on a podcast about trust issues and changing from the top.  If you have trust issues amongst the bottom, imagine what’s happening at the top? I worked for a guy in the heart of CBD and he told the guy below him, “don’t let Arsenio teach TOEIC because the students don’t like black teachers.”  He was against it, ofcourse.  Now I’m writing ebooks on TOEIC because I knew what my strength was.  Sometimes distrust can spell STRENGTH.

The Fourth Wave: Market Trust

This is about your company/personal brand, which reflects the trust customers, investors, and others in the marketplace have in you.

Now that I’m building a personal brand with my ESL podcast and blogs, if and when I start teaching through my business, my name is everything. If my name is attached to thievery and distrust, it’s over. I lose.

The Fifth Wave: Societal Trust

The principle underlying this wave is contribution.  This is why I’m doing my Arsenio Buck Foundation.  We counteract this “giving back” with suspicious, cynicism, and low-trust inheritance. We can also inspire others to create value and contribute, as well.

So, I’ll first talk about restoring trust, seeking, speaking, behaving, and then we’ll kick off the first wave.

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Additional Podcast: Motivational Mentors

Yes, the picture of me is pretty bad, but bear with me until I get a new one (LOL).

Many of my podcast listeners have been listening to me on two different platforms.  When I wasn’t creating podcasts on my personal development podcast, they went to my ESL podcast.  So, I think it’s really exciting to tell you guys that there is a 3rd and joint podcast I’m doing with another mentor called Motivational Mentors. 

This particular podcast was thought of by one of my ex-interviewees that I had on back in March.  We flirted with some ideas in April, but nothing was concrete.  On July 3rd, we officially launched the first podcast.  We didn’t have much direction in the beginning, but we kicked it off by doing a Q & A.  So, the first couple of podcasts were by people who wanted to have questions answered by us.  Mild success, but then I thought about bringing on other entrepreneurs and whatnot and that’s when it exploded.

Luke Burrows, who has a great contact list, began asking people all over the world about coming on for episodes.  We set up an official date and on every Sunday, we brought someone on the show to chat it up with us.  So many interviewees later, our podcast plays have spiked significantly (especially compared to my personal development podcast) and we have booked out time slots for the next several months into the new year.

The best part about this is that NO ONE IS DOING THIS.  There aren’t mentors flexing their personal development muscles because it’s a bit risky to do so.  With the amount of experience and me putting in serious work with the things I’ve read, and with Luke teaching his clients and the amount of knowledge he has; this not only creates brand awareness, but it shows that we do know what we’re talking about.

I remember talking about some people recently on my podcast about being afraid of getting exposed — like dog trainers.  If you’re a dog trainer and you don’t have a podcast, videos, 1-minute videos on Instagram or no online presence, you don’t exist.  Moreover, people can call you out rather quickly because they don’t know if you’re real.

This is the important part of business, people.  You need to show the world that you’re competent in the area you’re talking about, because if you don’t, you have no leverage.  It’s about creating those relationships and collaborating with as many people as possible.  So with Motivational Mentors  and my ESL podcast excelling quickly, you can’t only imagine what’s about to happen in 2019!

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The Terrifying Fact of Depression

It’s all……THOUGHT.

That’s right.  Let me superimpose it for you.

THOUGHT

Think about it.  Our mind, which is home to trillions of cells, can and has created everything around you at this very moment.  The environment, relationships, feelings, assets, friends, everything!

When I came to realize this back in early 2016, I literally unfriended every coworker I had because I was becoming them.  They would degrade me, look down upon me, and insult everything about Thailand and I was quickly becoming just that.

Was I depressed? Nope.  I had the conscious awareness to realize I was going down a very dark road. A lot of people don’t have that conscious awareness which then leads to depressive thoughts that accumulate over time and form thoughts on suicide.

The feeling of “not being enough” in the world.  I’ve had those feelings 4 years ago.

But what if I told you it can all be undone with just your thoughts? Literally, your thoughts create everything. Your thoughts have created depression (for those of you suffering) and a lot of people don’t even know what thought is.

I just saw a lady jump 17 floors to her death yesterday.  Two weeks ago a young boy was suffering from depression and hurled himself over an indoor balcony, killing himself in the process and sending people into pandemonium just 30 minutes north of Bangkok.

Get this, one was a student and the other had a 4-year-old child.

So, what is thought? I tried breaking it down in my podcast down below.

 

Lewis Howes: The Athlete Mask Ending + What Can You Do Now?

Remember my Dale Carnegie podcast on “not winning an argument?” Here’s the link…..Dale Carnegie’s ‘You Can’t Win An Argument’.

“You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

My brother, who I’ve talked about so many times, always felt the need to win.  He would have this overbearing voice while yelling at the top of his voice to shoot a point across.  I would sit back, relaxed, and just retort before he does it again. He was one of the people who thought winning arguments were critical and it made him feel more superior, especially over his younger brother.

Steve Weatherford’s Story In The Podcast

“As athletes we’re obsessed with how we look, with how we perform, and with winning. We’re consumed by competition as the measuring stick for our manhood. But our self-worth has nothing to do with those things. It has to do with our values and principles.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

So, what’s available when you drop this mask?

  • Creativity
    Culture
    New experiences
    Connections with other humans
    Self-worth
    A healthy relationship with your image
    Balance
    Time to do other things you enjoy

Men, what have you been avoiding to focus on your physical appearance? I’m asking this because most body builders are very ego-maniacal, self-centered and anti-social.  These are the factors you can work on to rip this athlete mask off.

1.Health: mental, physical, emotional
2.Relationships: intimate, family, friends
3.Wealth: finances, career, education, business
4.Contribution: making an impact in the world and other people’s lives, being of service
5.Spiritual: connecting to a higher power or your spiritual beliefs.

Rate yourself in each area.  What would you look like in each area? Write these down in a notebook of some sort.

Also, what are your values and principles that you can lean on so that you can figure out how to contribute to the world, and to your own happiness, in each of these areas?”

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Stephen Covey’s Begin With The End In Mind

Today is a special feature for my most played podcast on spreaker.com – Stephen Covey’s Begin With The End In Mind.

Not sure about the analytics behind this, but there have been almost a half-a-grand plays on this particular podcast, so I will write a short blog and post the podcast down below if you guys want to listen in!

To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination.  I was just recently teaching how to write business plans for some of my students, and I realized that some articles we came across didn’t coincide with what we were doing.  In fact, people who actually do write business plans don’t abide by them.  It requires flexibility, but you need to know the forecast of the business and what direction it’s going in.

Before you begin anything in life, always have a clear goal at the very end and trust the process.

If you’re a basketball player, what’s the ultimate goal? Do you just want to play your way through high school to keep in shape? What about university? Would you like to play in the NBA? Blue-collar player? Starter? All-star?

How about Track & Field? I wish I had asked myself this question years ago.  I didn’t have an end goal.  I had no idea what I wanted to become in terms of a star.  What times did I want, to how much strength I needed to run the 110 meter high hurdles.

I remember I asked a pseudo-mentor at a track and field meet, “could you please give me some motivation before running?”  What I would’ve told myself was, “Arsenio, who do yo want to become? What do you want? What’s your end goal? Specific times?”  Instead, what I got was, “run fast!”  Yeah…..thank you.

The process will have a lot more “downs” than “ups,” but it’s all part…of the process.  Going through not only those years of track and field in high school, to unwittingly quitting at college because I hated the hate going around the team was all downs….but there was a lot of character building in it.

Work

A lot of people right now are engaged in survival “busy-ness” that isn’t getting them anywhere in life.  They discover towards the end that the “success” ladder was leaning up against the wrong wall for the last 10 years.  It is possible to be busy – very busy – without being very effective.  You can be the ultimate “hustler” but I see people hustling at companies making minimum wage; picking up large containers of cement.  I used to be that person in 11th grade before I quit.

People, from all walks of life including doctors, actors, business professionals, athletes – often struggle to achieve a higher income.  Why? That drive to achieve that particular goal blinded them to the things that really mattered most and now are gone.

All Things Are Created Twice

All things are created twice.  That’s the principle of “beginning with the end in mind.”

You need to first have a mental creation before having a physical creating.  Can you imagine construction workers building a house without a blueprint of it? Where would they start? How does the owner want it to look? It would be impossible to get the “perfect” house because you have to first vision that perfect house.  Having a clear image is vital and the first step.  The carpenter’s rule is “measure twice, cut once.”  You have to make sure that the blue print, which is the first creation, is what you really want, that you’ve thought everything through.

Look at a business.  if you want to have a success enterprise, you clearly define what you’re trying to accomplish.

Seven Ways To Cultivate A Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace & Happiness

I’ve been preaching, speaking about, and dissecting this book for over two months already (Dale Carnegie’s How To Stop Worry And Start Living), and I’m thrilled at how much my life has changed.  There are a range of techniques that you can put to use in your life and here are 7 rules of doing so.

Rule #1: Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for “our life is what our thoughts make it.”

Your dominating thought will create your reality.  This is what has happened with my entire family.  If they’re constantly complaining about not having enough, those more “not enough” feelings will begin pouring in.

Rule #2: Let’s never try to get even with out enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them.  Do what General Eisenhower did: let’s never waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like.

This is extremely important.  After the mass disruption in my life just a year ago at work (employee trying to get me fired), I recently heard today that another branch employed him.  Those feelings of resent began to comeback, but who’s ultimately winning? He would jump up in utter joy if he knew I still talked about him in a derogatory way.  As Michael Bernard Beckwith said recently in his last Agape video, “forgive.  Forgive.  Forgive! Don’t be one of those people who wait for karma to take a toll.”  Since that occurrence, my life has been UNBELIEVABLY AMAZING and it continues to transform on a daily basis.  So, I’ll ask myself again, who’s winning?

Rule #3: Remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude — but to give for the joy of giving.

I’m one of those people who expect a ‘thank you’ at the door if I hold it open.  In a country, such as Thailand, I never get a ‘thank you,’ therefore I never do anything for society.  And what does that ultimately do? It paints a picture of myself and an image that’s hard for me to look in the mirror each day….because that’s not me.  Regardless if they do or don’t acknowledge it…I need to do it for the sake of Arsenio Buck.

Rule #4: Count your blessings — not your troubles!

There was an article recently on Nikkei Asia, and I think it’s best if I just show you the photo.

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Now, what’s the first thing you notice? When I teach my IELTS students, I always ask them, “what’s the key feature or biggest abnormality in the graph?”

See, as human beings we have a tendency of focusing on that one negative.  Some would go so far to say, “well, that’s a big negative!” Honestly, it depends how you phrase it.  Press Freedom? Most restrictive? How most safe instead? How any different types of media around the world spew hateful rhetoric about every country, culture, religion and other things? That “151” should be a “1.”  Look at the amazing travel, tourism, happiness….oh, and America is one of the top 10 most depressed countries on the planet. Just wanted to emphasize that.

Rule #5: Let’s not imitate others.  Let’s find ourselves and be ourselves, for “envy is ignorance” and “imitation is suicide.”

Don’t envy, celebrate! I love celebrating achievements of people who I hardly know, to people who I’m close to. I feel that I’m in their shoes!

Rule #6: When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make lemonade.

I’ve had wagons full of lemons get dropped off at my doorstep some mornings.  I then made one of the best lemonade stands in the world.  Get the metaphor?

Rule #7: Let’s forget our own unhappiness — by trying to create a little happiness for others. “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.

Depression.  Yes, try doing something for someone else.  The podcast for these rules and even the depression podcast is down below!

Just For Today…..

  1. Just for today I will be happy.  this assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.
  2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.  I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.
  3. Just for today I will take care of my body.  I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
  4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my min.  I will learn something useful.  I will not be a mental loafer.  I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
  5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways; I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out.  I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise.
  6. Just for today I will be agreeable.  I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regular nor improve anyone.
  7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once.  I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.
  8. Just for today I will have a program.  I will write down what I expect to do every hours.  I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it.  It will eliminate two pests, hurrying and indecision.
  9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself to relax.
  10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.