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The Science Behind the Breath | Mindfulness Course

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Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Dan of Russia on Limiting Beliefs and Transformation

Amazing podcast with Dan today! We talked about him moving to Russia, but most importantly, limiting beliefs, which will definitely hit home with a lot of my followers from Europe. Tune in!

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Speaker 1: (00:00)
Guys, welcome back to Arsenio’s ESL podcast. And you know what? I brought him onto my other podcast, motivational mentors recently and Ah, I saw him standing before a class and I’m like, boom, teacher, he’s got a story to share. And then I realized, and I heard before that even started, I heard his accent just a little bit and I’m like, Huh. And he said he lives in Los Angeles, but then I realize, okay, born in Russia, went to la, went back to Russia. And so this is a very, very interesting and compelling story that I’m going to take the majority or he’s going to take the majority of us on. So Dan, Matt, thanks so much for coming on. 

Speaker 2: (00:49)
Yeah, yeah. Thank you. Thank you. Um, I’m glad to be here. And uh, as you said, yeah, I’d been, have to have, go back to Russia and uh, it was interesting because I haven’t been there in the wild, uh, great. More specifically, I haven’t been there in like 10 years. So in 10 years. Okay. No time span. A lot of things happens. You come back, people have changed, knew the things look different, the streets look different. And um, I was just shocked to see how much have changed inside of me when I ended up being there because I left when I left. So I was, I was, I initially came here when I was a kid, but then I went to visit a couple of times. So last time I was there was 10 years ago when I was 17. Um, and uh, this time around, um, when I came back I felt, I felt a huge shift inside of me because I came back to all the same. 

Speaker 2: (01:55)
The one thing about Russia, a lot of things don’t really change. Like for example, people there don’t move from house from like they don’t switch houses as often as they do in America. So like some people live there live in the same apartment for like 40, 50 years, you know? And so I come back to my neighborhood and everything looks pretty much the same. It’s the same apartment building. It’s the same house is the same trees and older people, they’re like all my neighbors, they’re still there. It’s just that they’re 10 years older and the, the, the only thing that’s 

Speaker 1: (02:38)
okay 

Speaker 2: (02:39)
prefer is me. So I kinda wet back, 

Speaker 1: (02:44)
okay. 

Speaker 2: (02:44)
It’s my own past. But now I’m looking at it from my present perception. Just that was a really mind blowing. 

Speaker 2: (02:55)
Okay. Happened like that, you know, I was here and then I was there. You get on the plane 14 hours, you walk out new airport, but once you, once you get back to the neighborhood, it’s like you literally just revisited the same exact place that that was there. Um, that, you know, 10 years ago. And other things, I mean in the country things have changed. But on the micro level, you know, for example, uh, just as I described, um, everything was relatively the same and it was, it was crazy because I didn’t know how long I was going to be there for. That’s the thing. Before I would go there, I would get a, I’ll get a round trip tickets. So I know I’m going there and in two weeks I’m back. Okay. Right here. Because the reason that there was fair, my grandparents, um, I didn’t know how long it was going to take, so I could have been there for a month. 

Speaker 2: (03:52)
I could’ve been there for three months and I’d end up being there for six months. And having that uncertainty also, um, puts you in a different mindset because you’re no longer tours. It’s like, all right, like I’m living here, I don’t know when I’m going to get out of here. Um, but I have to maintain myself at [inaudible] at the most like highest potential that I could because I have to be in a good state of mind because he, I’m here for a particular person or a purpose here. I’m taking care of my grandparents, so I have to make sure that I’m, I myself, I’m doing fantastically amazing so I can deliver to them what they need. So I, I can, you know, do, do my best to get them back up on their feet. So yeah, it was, it was definitely a, um, a personal journey. I could tell that I can. 

Speaker 1: (04:40)
Wow. You know what? Okay. So what made you leave Russia to begin with at the age of 11? 

Speaker 2: (04:47)
My mom, she just, um, she uh, uh, immigrant. Great. And so I came with, 

Speaker 1: (04:52)
okay. All right. So when you actually went to America and what year was this? What year was this? Around 

Speaker 2: (04:59)
2000 2002. 

Speaker 1: (05:02)
Oh, okay. Okay. So you came to America around 2002 and so boy, I know it was difficult for you to, how was your Eaglesham and how were you able to adapt to the society? Were there problems that you had to overcrowd them and you know, societal issues and you know, fitting in because again, you’re going into like middle school years, if I’m not mistaken, just about right, right, right, right, 

Speaker 2: (05:27)
right, right. 

Speaker 1: (05:28)
Yeah. And this is, and this is Los Angeles too, right? 

Speaker 2: (05:32)
Well, initially it was Philly actually. Cause what I came center, yeah, I want to, if I felt lived in Philly and then I came to la. 

Speaker 1: (05:40)
Okay. Alright. So tell me what was the mindset? I’m telling you. I know you were like, oh my God, there’s no one here that speaks Russian. I’m gonna feel like this. I’m going to feel like that. What was going through your mind? 

Speaker 2: (05:52)
Yay. You know, it was crazy because, uh, first of all, in, in Russian schools, they teach you English, but they teach you British English. Uh, so I mean, I knew English pretty well until I came here. I hear like, I’m like, all right, God this, you know, like five years all but celebrated English program, like, I can do this, you know, I’ll, I’ll have no problem. And, um, I come here and I get out and I’m like, you know what, like is there’s just something awfully different about this English and then I realize that it doesn’t make any sense to me because it’s American English. Yeah. Look like, wow. Well I guess those five years just went out the window. Um, so yeah, I definitely had to kind of readjust, uh, and the, yeah. Get, get in the flow of things. But I mean, what can I say? Like, I was really good at math because in Russia they have, um, like they started teaching Algebra in fifth grade. So I come here six grade and they’re doing fractions and I’m like, Yo, I did that in my first grade. [inaudible] 

Speaker 2: (07:12)
I’m like, Yo, I got this old day. So yeah, they’re really good at math. But it’s an interesting thing about, about America man, is that like the mentality of people here is very different. Everybody’s, I’m definitely more outgoing, I would say in terms of, um, they don’t, they don’t allow, they allow themselves to dream. You know, in Russia it’s more about, there are very distinct individuals who go and accomplish extraordinary things, but the majority population there, they’re not like, you know, they’re not as crazy about, um, doing something out of like, they’re more of traditional, you know? I mean, they don’t have these crazy notions. I’m about happiness. Let’s say. They’re like, all right, well, I mean like you work, you work, like that’s just part of life. Here we have this whole thing like, oh, well your job has to make you happy. I mean, if you’re, if you’re making money and you’re, and you’re not happy, then you just definitely need it. 

Speaker 2: (08:17)
You’re not in the right fuel at all. Like you should definitely do something that brings you joy because work eight hours a day, if you’re doing something that you’re not happy about for eight hours a day, then that means that one, two thirds of your life is just just wasted on, that’d be, yeah. Yeah, absolutely. What’s was the point in living, but like, I mean, maybe I’m not, I can’t speak for the whole country. Obviously there’s, there’s a lot of, um, they, they don’t have that mentality yet and they do live in Russia. So it’s, it’s certainly not everybody. And it has gotten a lot better over the years because if you look back in like 1990 91, you know, just the collapse of the Soviet Union, I mean, happiness was not on the table like it w that was not, it was more about like, all right, how can we make this, like, how can, how can we like make it? Um, so yeah. And I really liked that. Oh about America, that everybody was like super ambitious and everybody was like very, um, conscious about their, their state of being, you know, uh, and everybody was striving to, uh, not just do the whole American dream thing, but, um, not that that relates mostly to material, um, happiness, but everybody was, it was, you know, uh, more outgoing in general. And I really liked that. Yeah. 

Speaker 1: (09:42)
Wow. You know what? I still, man, every time you turn on the news out there in America, and especially, you know, with the Trump era and everything happening, it’s always like, there’s always a negative connotation, a negative stench of stigma that surrounds rushing China. So most Americans, after seeing the knees over and over and over for years, they believe that there’s always something shady happening with the Russians. You know what I mean? It’s, there’s something shady with the Chinese and you know, they still label people as being black in America, which is just abhorrent. Um, but you know, I remember the first time I came across, this is like four years ago, right? And this family came in and I’m living outside of the outskirts of Bangkok, uh, at my job. And I saw his name and his name was Max. And I’m like, okay. 

Speaker 1: (10:34)
This Day was like Maximilian. And I’m like, okay. So, and I remember they told me, they’re like, oh, he’s a Russian kid. I was like, wow, I get to finally teach a Russian kid. You know what I mean? I was so happy. And so I finally, what is it? I finally met him and I met his family and his mother and how loud and wonderful beings they were. You know, they completely destroyed my paradigm about what I always believe Russia to be through the eyes of ridiculous ass media outlets. And this was just piling on top of what I already learned about Muslims because of course it’s like in America you’re literally taught to hate these specific people. But then when I’d met one hand in hand, you know, face to face in the south of Thailand, she was the most amazing Thai woman I’ve ever met in my life. So it was just me just ripping down my paradigm. One after another, after another change in the program and in my head. So when you went to America and people were saying, where are you from? Russia, was there like, was there a weird reaction with some of your classmates and whatnot? 

Speaker 2: (11:44)
No, not really because we, we did have other questions in the class. Um, and that was, uh, back in 2002 so yeah, not rec back then. Back then, things were I think different politically, first of all. Um, and that’s why it was like totally normal and there’s a lot of, there’s a lot of kids who, I mean, one third of my class. Hmm. Probably even, yeah, like about one third were all Olympic, like they were all kids who like going to speak English also from other countries as well. Um, so I kind just blend it in. 

Speaker 1: (12:19)
Wow. Yeah, that’s a, that’s just like a, what is it, the, at my Alma Mater, I had taught, you know, probably like, you know, like a half to like two dozen hours. Um, and I taught students from Mexico as Salvador, and some of them, they have good functional English, but others had just immigrated. So, uh, but they were just so grateful for learning and I brought a completely new sense and style to teach in versus a woman standing at an overhead projection, which is so 1990s, oh whoa. A overhead projector, which is like super 1990s and try to teach one by one. I’m like, this is garbage. So you went back to Russia and I’m not sure if this is for travel or visit, but here you are standing in front of a classroom, Eh, next. So, so you tell me what’s going on. 

Speaker 2: (13:09)
Yeah, so I w when I went, when I was in Russia, and the other thing I was doing is that I was writing my book called the other side. Okay. Uh, an ultimate guide to a mind, body and spirit mastery and a busy world. And so, which I’m probably in the going to be publishing. I’m doing self publishing, um, probably this September. So I’ll definitely keep, um, everybody posted up to that. But yeah, and because I wasn’t working, I actually had time to work on my book. And when you’re writing a book, it’s a, it feels very natural to talk about it because you know a lot about the subject you’re writing about it. Talking and talking, um, uh, or, or doing talks in relation to it. Oh, definitely helps you to explore it even further because then you get asked questions, you might think about it differently. 

Speaker 2: (14:00)
And so I was doing lectures, I was speaking, um, and schools and universities, uh, and the, it was either be, it was either kids who are about to go to college or are in our freshman year of college. And so I had a chance to want share with them the differences, um, between the, uh, well it started, everybody was really good. The curious tool to see the difference between the American school system and the Russian school system because I went to both, but the majority of all of the presentation was more geared toward our belief system and how we can really, um, facilitate our success from within and how we don’t necessarily need. She have a an unlimited amount of resources. How we need to be living in a different country, how each to have um, different or better mentors in our life or a different environment, how it all truly starts from within us and so that we are the, and therefore that we’re solid, efficient and that, you know, that was really, that was the most ideally perfect speech to give to these kids because a lot of them, they are living in this notion of I need to change my place of living in order to be successful. 

Speaker 2: (15:24)
There is no way that I can make it tool a to be where I want to be if I stay here. And I just told them that’s simply not true because the thing is like I know a lot of kids who went to America and they, you know, they’re, they’re far from successful. Like we started off in the same class we were in in middle school. We’re literally sitting side by side and they are nowhere near as some of my kids have. I saw my friends from Russia where they are right now, you know, like a lot of my friends, um, there that I went to school with or just knew, I mean, they’re really high up. I mean like this, this one kid, he just finished his masters. Um, he, uh, uh, is an architect and the other one, uh, uh, is a celebrator of startups. 

Speaker 2: (16:13)
He has, he has over 22 startups that he’s, that he’s launching in Russia internationally. You know what I mean? She’s not thinking about getting out of Russia anytime soon because he’s having the greatest time in his world right now. I mean, he’s making money like he is making bank. Like if you start, here’s this 28, if he stops working right now, he doesn’t have to work ever again. Wow. And, and so, uh, literally never again until he has his, his days are, he’ll be set, you know, um, Angus 28, you know, and so I a n really focused a lot of my talks on the topic that’s, uh, it really comes from within. It is, it is our mindset that makes a difference. If we have a selfless know there’s this thing right now that’s I just keep on seeing more and more. It’s limiting beliefs. 

Speaker 2: (17:06)
And I like, I like the fact like I liked the expression limiting beliefs, but it goes far beyond that because a limiting belief is a belief that’s limiting your, um, plan as to what you want to accomplish, what you want to do. Because you’re telling yourself like, hey, well I don’t have this and I don’t have that and until I have it that I’m against hard this business. And so that, that you’re limiting yourself. But it goes, the reason why I say it goes far beyond that, it’s because people are neglecting the, the fact of what a limiting belief does for not just not just your viewer mindset, but what does it do for your energy? What does it do for your motivation? What does it do for your outlook on the world around you? Because if you’re constantly limiting yourself with, with thoughts of why something isn’t perfect enough to you, for you to take the first step, you’re not just not taking the first step. 

Speaker 2: (18:07)
You’re seeing this whole world as limiting because then you’re like, all right, well, my environment has not given me the opportunity to take on this task. My parents have not given me the tools to make a good decision of whether or not what I want to do. My friends are, uh, weighing me down. I’m not in the right country. I’m not in the right place. I don’t go to the right college. You see what I mean? So your whole outlook on the world begins to, because to be limiting and it’s like the walls are starting to, to close in on you. And what they’re not realizing is that these walls, you are moving. You mean though? You are, it’s literally you closing the world in on yourself and you’re in full control of it. You can take these walls that you can open in the matter of a week in the matter of a week. This doesn’t have to take months and years. This is a one good week. And that’s it. And, and these kids, I mean, they’re just like, they’re looking at me like, wow. Like we never heard that before. 

Speaker 2: (19:12)
And I’m not surprised. I mean, I had never heard that before. Neither me neither. You know, I mean, like I researched it. I, I put things together and it was very constructed. My book is very, uh, it’s, it’s more like a research paper. I have over 103, uh, sources in it, credible scholarly articles or, um, material from coaches that have been doing this for a lot of time. Brian Tracy or Robin Sharma. Oh, Wayne Dyer. Um, and many, many more. And so my, my book is, it’s a compilation of, of information. It’s not just me waking up one morning and thinking, oh, today I realize this, let me write it down. And so, um, I, uh, was really happy to, to deliver. Uh, and I could see that it was a very, uh, um, mind shifting experience for a lot of kids who are hurting you. You know, when they walked out, it’s like of that classroom, it was the still the same school. 

Speaker 2: (20:16)
It was still the same walls and teachers and kids, but something inside of them film different. And that’s how I felt when I came to Russia. You see, which shows that the world around you could change if you look at it differently in apps because it starts to look different to you. And that is the absolute most key. And that is what I teach. I teach the fact that we are in control of our internal world, that we, we are in full control of how we perceive things of what we focus on because our reality really exists where we’re in the mind creates focus. Um, this is actually from the heart, Sutro of my high and Buddhism. Um, that’s one of the main, main principles. And it’s so true because if you focus on the lack of what you have, if you focus on what you don’t have, then you will continue that having it, I mean there’s, there’s not a single place, not a single country, not a single zip code, not a single anywhere continent in this world where we can focus on the unwanted and receive that. 

Speaker 2: (21:38)
What you do want there is not a single time when if you constantly think about how broke you are that you don’t have my, you can’t afford things. Why are you broke that your salary is not enough. They don’t have enough bank money in the bank. You’re going to become rich. You will never, I mean, I’m sorry like you are, I don’t want to sound like never going to become rich, but just to make the point is you are very unlikely to attract the wealth and the opportunities that will make you wealthy. Because why? Because you are focusing on that what you don’t want. So you continue having, having that. And then same thing with, with, with health. You know, people who are w I mean I, I meet these people at the time, my grandparents were one of these people, they’re always sick, always sick. 

Speaker 2: (22:24)
Why? Because all they think about is how sick they are. The second I went there, we didn’t just have a good diet. You know, we didn’t just exercise every day. We didn’t just go outside for walks. I had to reconstruct their way of thinking. I have to deviate their focus from everything that is wrong in their body. That hurts. That’s okay. Wasn’t to just anything else, you know. And that is when we start seeing big changes. That’s when we started, started seeing results. Um, and yeah, you know, therefore the whole experience in Russia, it was just absolutely trans transformational. I mean, I came back, came back here, I was a different person. 

Speaker 1: (23:09)
Wow. Yeah, I bet. I mean, I’ve been listening to a lot of Bruce Lipton lately and he talks about epigenetics and how, you know, our environment and you know, how a baby begins learning at about six months. So if the father talks to the baby through the wall of, of course the stomach, uh, when the baby actually comes out, they will know of course, uh, who was speaking to them at that time versus, you know, in reality after they come out the womb. So again, it depends if the parents are arguing, if the mother’s arguing six months, seven months, eight months, that will affect, and this is how added to is built into everything. It’s Kinda like when I see a lot of my students out here and some of them, you know, I have one student that said, you know, I’m really afraid of a big black men. 

Speaker 1: (24:00)
And I’m like, okay, so you’re afraid of big black man. This is interesting. So how did this happen? You know, where did the attitude come from? And a lot of it traces back to their parents. So it’s not their fault that they hold such a perception and it’s not exactly, we’ll of course in this case, yes it is wrong, but the blueprints that we hold, it can be a financial group plan. Um, it can be a geographical blueprint, it could be a social blueprint. A lot of these are created probably within the wound coming all the way out. So about seven, eight years old because again, that’s when children are in their Feta Phage, the imaginative side, you know, so a lot of things, this is how children could learn like five languages in one go. Right? You know, when they’re younger, because again, it’s all subconscious mind. 

Speaker 1: (24:49)
The conscious mind is a created a little bit later. Like first, second, third grade or whatever. So I’m like limiting beliefs. I was supposed to have this, another podcast get like uploaded just last week. But then of course wifi problems, tech, technological problems. But this girl coach by the name of Chancla at a Switzerland, she helped me with my limiting belief in my limiting belief was that yeah, her little outtake out of it. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. You know, she was talking about, you know, I was always in tune with what others may be thinking about me. Now I’ve heard with Jay, Jason Silva said that two, three years ago. But it never stuck when she said it. It stuck. And then when I changed that my entire environment changed the way people reacted the way this and that. And it’s not just, it’s not just men per se, age women primarily. 

Speaker 1: (25:47)
You know what I mean? So yeah, just really amazing how, um, those limited beliefs that we do. So because that limiting belief was Thai women hate black men. You know, and I’ve always, I cause me being out here in six years, I have stories for days, but I tell myself this because it makes me feel comfortable. Not only that, but my body gets a high off that type of energy. So it’s kind of like, okay, APM, what am I normally do? And I’m normally judging people by the way. How, you know, how they looked at me on the train when I’m going home or this or that, or the women who grabbed their purses when I walked by. You know what I mean? It wasn’t until I said, okay, this is the belief. I have the belief I’m going to do away with it. And then after that, everything began to change. You know, people were more welcoming. People begin smiling at me. People have started having conversations with me and I’m speaking primarily, you know, through the eyes of Thai women. So yeah, I mean those limited beliefs, a lot of us have that. So when it comes to limited beliefs, 

Speaker 2: (26:59)
yeah. 

Speaker 1: (26:59)
Dan, what is it? What are some techniques that of course, listeners both in ESL room doesn’t really matter about personal development in general. How can they begin to start just chipping away at these beliefs that they have? Is it like identification and then say to themselves, okay, could it be affirmations? What is it? 

Speaker 2: (27:18)
Yeah, no but, and before I answer that I you just want to touch on something extremely or did you said you see how your limiting belief that in just it, it, it’s almost magically changed the world around you. Right? Like that’s crazy. It’s your thinking like but how does that work? How does something that I internally perceive and tell myself that is true? How is that going to change the world around me? And that’s why this this phrase expand so much further then the media portrays it to be, it’s not just about limiting your success, it really is about not seeing, not that, not that are not seen, but it’s really about having them power to manipulate and control the world. Not just in you but around you. Do you see how like your change of perception somehow changed the world that is around you. 

Speaker 2: (28:20)
So the people that you see, the conversations that you have, the reactions that you get, I mean that like people think like, but how does that work? How is that possible in outside help is because whatever you focus, think back to, to what we said earlier, that um, Audi exists where the mind creates focus. If you focus on, on the fact that, um, Thai woman hate black men, you are creating, you’re literally creating reality because, and a physical and metaphysical level. So on a physical level, whenever you see a Thai woman, you look at her differently. You might not notice this, but you’re expecting, you’re expecting for her to hate you or for her to not like you. And so you’re looking at her like, oh, this chick man, she probably hate takes me. You might not have a mirror in front of you. You might not have a mirror in front of you to look at. 

Speaker 2: (29:21)
Yours may hate it, but your body language is, is difference. It’s, it’s more stand offish. It’s, it’s more unwelcoming. You might not notice it, but they notice it. You see that? Yeah. That’s the physical level. That’s the physical level metaphysically is that you are attracting more. You’re literally attracting, because we’re magnetic, we’re magnetically charged. We have the ability to attract. And so whatever you focus on the fact [inaudible] the thoughts that Thai woman don’t like black men, you’re literally attracting both tie women that don’t like black men that actually don’t like black men. Yeah. This there, they’re somehow popping up in your way. There’s somehow finding you, there’s somehow just ending up on the same train at eight o’clock in the same cart with you. Yes. Yes. 

Speaker 2: (30:19)
It’s, it’s like it’s, it sounds magical, but if this is all metal metal, um, well, quantum physics, this is, this is all quantum physics. Um, which I studied in and I write about in my book, but to answer the question of, all right, so we know this information. That sounds great. That sounds good. So what exactly do we do about it? It’s becoming the first thing. It’s like, so you go to, you go to a mechanic, right? Would you car and your car is broken. You get there. The only way, the one only way she can ever possibly fixed your car is if he identifies what the problem is. Huh? Until she knows why is your car broken? He will never be able to fix it. That’s the bottom line. Okay. In order for us to, I did that to get rid of our limiting beliefs. 

Speaker 2: (31:16)
We have to, I realize, what are they? We have to realize that we are having them. We have to become aware all of our thoughts that then create these beliefs. Until we do that, until we identify the problem and so identify where it is, my limiting belief stemming from, we’re not going to be able to fix it. We’re not going to be the fixer. That’s, that’s just the thing and that’s the whole like movement that we have right now is that everybody thinks like mindfulness equals spirituality and spirituality equals mindfulness. There. It’s a branch within a branch because mindfulness is being aware off your thoughts because your thoughts are the ones that then trigger your emotions, your beliefs, and ultimately your mood, your outlook, your perspective. You see it all. It all starts with, with your thoughts. Whenever you have an emotion, it never comes out of nowhere. 

Speaker 2: (32:21)
Whenever you feel angry, you feel angry because of something because you’re angry at something. The reason why you’re angry at it because you perceive, perceive it to be aggravating. You perceive it to be aggravating because of the way you will think about it. See, think about it. Thoughts. And therefore the number one thing that, the number one strategy, um, that I teach to my clients and the, um, I just is to one, become aware of, all right, so let’s for example, say that, uh, I, uh, yeah, I, I can’t, I can’t start this business because I don’t have the proper tools. Okay, no problem. Can’t start the business because you don’t have proper tools. No problem. A lot of people end up in this situation now proper too. What does that mean? So I might not have a fast computer because then I can’t upload my videos fast enough. 

Speaker 2: (33:20)
All right. Sure. Great, great. So is that like not nothing back? So is the reason why you really can’t start this business is because you don’t have a fast computer that can upload the content that you creating in order to do advertising, social media and everything else faster? Is that really the reason? And then you start thinking like, well, I mean, I guess there there’s, there’s like a way around it. Um, and I can figure something out. Sure, no problem. What if it’s something a little more complicated? What it’s like, I don’t have the business mindset. Sure, no problem. Don’t have a business business mindset. That’s all that, that’s not as straightforward as getting a faster computer or finding ways around it. But here you are. You might think, all right, but where is that coming from? Why do I think that I need to have a certain mindset to do this particular business? 

Speaker 2: (34:15)
What is it about the mindset that I have right now? What is it about it that is not enough? You know, what else do I do I need to have. And then often enough, you’ll start when you start thinking about this, you’re like, wait a minute, there’s nothing wrong with my mindset. Aye. I think I can actually very well do this. But that’s will only happen if you big deep inside of yourself and find out where is this coming from. It could be are literally coming. I mean I have, I had clients where, you know, they’re, they, they had this belief because somebody told them that in like seventh grade and now they’re 26 and so the, and the, it happened so long ago. Did that move so long ago? They forgot even happened. Well, one of the happened, it was a very excited experience for them and then it’s sunk into them and it kinda became part of their personality. 

Speaker 2: (35:15)
And so their first job they went to and found a job, they didn’t, they didn’t go and like look, try and start a business. Like, no, I’m just meant to work for Paychex my entire life. That’s what I’m going to do. You know? It wasn’t until they like, think about this, this happens a seventh grade until 26 so that’s 14 years, 14 years of living this this week. That wasn’t there even true. Yeah. You know, that was inside of them that was put inside of them and they, they just realize that as and and uh, and adopted it as their own and allowed it to truly limit them, you know? So being aware, just ask yourself, make a list, make a list of every single thing that is, that is just fucking up your day in terms of your everyday or, or whatever. Just to live you mean? 

Speaker 2: (36:13)
I mean do you mean like five items? Even like five items that you are that are truly, you feel like they’re holding you back? We take one at a time, one by one and be like, all right, just ask yourself a simple question. One question. Where is this coming from? Why do I think this? Why do I think this? And just think about it. You don’t have to write anything down. You don’t, you don’t have to even do anything. Just, just a sit anywhere. And just think about it. You know, that is the very, very first step with until you do that, there’s, there’s nothing to fix. Okay. 

Speaker 1: (36:50)
Right. Challenge accepted for everyone out there. Okay. Dan is going to be waiting for you on Instagram because again, I got such a huge following and whatnot and I got a lot of Russian bugs that [inaudible] too. So I want you guys to message then and post it on his wall. The five limiting beliefs. Five items. He said. Yes, 

Speaker 2: (37:11)
right? They’re in my Instagram. Bang, Ginsburg underscore. 

Speaker 1: (37:14)
Oh, there you go. Oh, that’s awesome. Okay, so you have another TV. That’s really cool. Okay. Okay, so for those of you who are possibly watching this on video, on Youtube, you guys can check that out. I’ll make sure that I try to get this snippet and post it on Instagram too for you guys. And then post is Lincoln there so you guys can go there and do the stories, all that good stuff. Oh, bad dad, this was a dirty, it’s a talk this off. I’m going to give you two words. 

Speaker 2: (37:42)
Suits. 

Speaker 1: (37:45)
What’s the Souk Seuss Hook Seuss mean? What does both, it’s a vinegar. That’s right. That’s right. My student taught, I filled out two words. He taught me vinegar and he taught me so 

Speaker 2: (38:01)
which one 

Speaker 1: (38:02)
sows sows 

Speaker 2: (38:04)
Susan. Yeah. 

Speaker 1: (38:06)
So is it so or about so, so, so yeah. It’s like sauce. Yeah. Right. Wow. I don’t even know how to say hello. I know. I don’t even know how to say hello in Russian. You know what I mean? So as long as you know those two words, you good. [inaudible] sauce and vinegar people come on. Help me here. Oh my God. That’s awesome. But Yeah, bad dad. I appreciate it so much for coming on here. Um, for everyone who’s interested and of course I’m going to Revit, all your links and a lot of taggings and challenges of course. Guys, make sure that you guys are following me on Instagram and you’re going to see Dan’s name and the stories and the photo and this and that and video. Um, where can people get in touch with you if they are interested, especially in that book. That should be, 

Speaker 2: (38:55)
we launch it within a couple of months. Yeah, definitely. A, so then Ginsburg, um, on Instagram you can reach me there from my Instagram. You can check out my, I actually have a free audio book, which [inaudible] so a little deviation from my main one that I released. It’s only an hour long. Um, and it’s very insightful. It deals a lot with unlocking the ultimate state of flow, a state where we can, you can accomplish things very, very easily and not be weighed down by limiting beliefs and other things. Um, so that could be downloaded on my Instagram and the also my website, uh, h s movement.com. As for human social movements, I definitely have a lot of good content there. I have my blog there, uh, so you can check it out and um, yeah, so we’ll, I’ll, I’ll link that in. And uh, so you guys can easily access it. 

Speaker 1: (39:53)
Awesome. Yeah, so again, I see the hs movement.com right there in the background along with their Instagram looking all flashy. You know what I’m saying? But it’s just, I love it because you’re the second, 

Speaker 2: (40:04)
ah, of course like Russian entrepreneur and whatnot that I’ve actually brought onto my, uh, 

Speaker 1: (40:09)
my ESL podcasts. The other one was Veronica. She was from way out there, eastern Russia near the China border. I don’t know if that’s Siberia. Yeah. So you’ve got western and eastern. That could’ve been another topic we could have touched upon, but I’d definitely have to bring you back on for some more conversations. And Man, Dan, such a plum pleasing pleasure, man. 

Speaker 2: (40:29)
Yes, thank you. Thank you. I had a blast. A, I’m really, really thankful that you all brought me on and I had a chance to. Huh. I’m gonna reach out to your audience and hope that’s, um, at least one thing we’ve covered today will be insightful for them. 

Speaker 1: (40:42)
Absolutely. Thank you so much. And guys, if you liked this podcast, make sure you leave a review, get in touch with dad, see what he has going on over there and stay tuned for more. I love bringing these on. And of course this one is in video form. So if you guys want to see the video form of this, make sure you tune into my youtube, which is the r saying me, Yo buck show.com you could just literally find it anywhere. Just put Arsenio, but you’ll find it. And with that being said again, Dan, thank you so much. And guys stay tuned for more. I’m your host as always over and out.

The Enlightenment Series: S1 – E2 – Carla Trigo on

It’s been a long time coming, but Carla and I finally had the opportunity to connect on a wonderful Facebook live (both in YouTube and podcast format) in a very captivating and enlightening chat about a wide variety of things. You guys are going to enjoy this. The topics, audio and video are down below!

Get in touch with Carla Riago from Spain

Links:

Things we discussed:

  • Introduction given by Carla Trigo about her work.
  • What is lifestyle design?
  • How does an individual redesign their lifestyle?
  • How do people breakout from the familiar trend?
  • How can people be more observant?
  • How did Carla start innovating?
  • What are things that help the guest as her blueprint for mind changing?
  • Journaling is a way for you to get rid of negative mindsets.
  • How to ask questions instead of giving statements.
  • How to have a better relationship by asking the right questions.
  • Reading and applying from what readers have read is an important skill.
  • What three steps should be taken by listeners?

Thank you for listening!

Links:

  1. Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/thearseniobuckshow/
  2. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thearseniobuckshow/?hl=en
  3. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIzp4EdbJVMhhSnq_0u4ntA
  4. Podcasts: https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow, https://open.spotify.com/show/7hdzplWx6xB8mhwDJYiP6f, https://www.buzzsprout.com/165390
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  6. Twitter: https://twitter.com/arseniobuckshow?lang=en

TAB Foundation Interviewee #1: Brian A. Street on Impact & Purpose!

What an extraordinary podcast this was. The energy that was bouncing off the walls in this one made me want to run 100 miles at the conclusion. Brian, an amazing PhD student and philanthropist, is looking to leave such a profound legacy that will make everyone go “omg! WOW!” This is a fiery one, so make sure you tune into the podcast down below, along with his links!

Get in touch with Brian A. Street

Links:

Things we discussed:

  • Definition for gratitude and how to cultivate a positive mindset.
  • About ups and downs and transitioning in his new life, academic research and his new business in social entrepreneurship, mentorship, speaking and coaching.
  • The beginning of social entrepreneurship.
  • How he’s made an impact in people’s lives and how he bring changes to children’s lives.
  • Visualizing your life.
  • Reevaluating your life and the secret of the mind power.
  • Power of mindsets.
  • What the ultimate purpose is.
  • What is the purpose of The Arsenio Buck Foundation? What are the social impact the foundation can bring?
  • Work in your passion and money will follow.
  • How you can network and make contacts.
  • Pursuit of Africa.

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/tab-foundation-interviewee-1-brian-a-str

Thank you for listening!

Links:

  1. Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/thearseniobuckshow/
  2. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thearseniobuckshow/?hl=en
  3. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIzp4EdbJVMhhSnq_0u4ntA
  4. Podcasts: https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow, https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-arsenio-buck-show/id1181794790?mt=2, https://open.spotify.com/show/0x39CEN5tHvfRtfZaAMTgQ?si=8cpdu1rTTjKHogufXh91Cw
  5. Website: https://thearseniobuckshow.com/
  6. Twitter: https://twitter.com/arseniobuckshow?lang=en

Podcast

Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 22 – Quotient Analysis – Part C

Here we go! This is the last part of the quotient analysis!  If you haven’t already done Part A or Part B, I suggest you hit the links on the left and do them before the last part.

13. Learning from defeat
(a) Does defeat cause you to stop trying?

_____ _____
(b) If you fail in a given effort, do you keep trying?

_____ _____
(c) Is temporary defeat the same as failure?

_____ _____
(d) Have you learned any lessons from defeat?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know how defeat can be converted into an asset that will lead to success?

_____ _____
14. Creative vision
(a) Do you use your imagination constructively?

_____ _____
(b) Do you make your own decisions?

_____ _____
(c) Is the man who only follows instructions always worth more than the man who also creates new ideas?”

(d) Are you inventive?

_____ _____
(e) Do you create practical ideas in connection with your work?

_____ _____
(f) When desirable, do you seek sound advice?”

 

15. Budgeting time and money
(a) Do you save a fixed percentage of your income?

_____ _____
(b) Do you spend money without regard to your future source of income?

_____ _____
(c) Do you get sufficient sleep each night?

_____ _____
(d) Is it your habit to employ spare time studying self-improvement books?”

 

16. Maintenance of sound health
(a) Do you know five essential factors of sound health?

_____ _____
(b) Do you know where sound health begins?

_____ _____
(c) Are you aware of the relation of relaxation to sound health?

_____ _____
(d) Do you know the four important factors necessary for the proper balancing of sound health?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know the meaning of “hypochondria” and “psychosomatic illness”?

_____ _____
17. Using cosmic habit force as it pertains to your personal habits
(a) Do you have habits which you feel you cannot control?

_____ _____
(b) Have you recently eliminated undesirable habits?

_____ _____
(c) Have you recently developed any new, desirable habits?”

Rating System

Here’s how to rate your answers. All the following questions should have been answered NO: 3c – 3d – 4b – 5b – 5c – 5e – 6b – 6c – 8a – 8d – 9b – 9d- 10c – 11b – 11c – 12c – 13a – 13c – 14c – 15b – 17a. All other questions should have been answered YES. Your score would have been 300 if all the questions had been answered “No” or “Yes” as shown above. This is a perfect score and very few people have ever made such a score. Now let’s see what your score was.”

Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”:
——x 4 =——
If you answered “No” to any of the meaning questions that should have been answered “Yes,” deduct four points for each one:
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”:
——x 4 =——
Add the subtotals together, and subtract from 300. This will be your score.
Illustration:
Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”: 3 x 4 = 12
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”: 2 x 4 = 8
Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Perfect Score ____________________ 300
Minus Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Your Score ____________________ 280

 

300 points _____ Perfect (Very Rare)
275 to 299 points _____ Good (Above Average)
200 to 274 points _____ Fair (Average)
100 to 199 points _____ Poor (Below Average)
Below 100 points _____ Unsatisfactory

You have now taken an important step to success and happiness.”

Podcast

 

 

Interviewee #19: Best-Selling Author Tiffany Okafor & Shifting The Mindsets of Millennials

Tiffany Okafor is a best-selling author, inspirational speaker and mindset mentor based in Los Angeles, CA. As a speaker and mindset mentor, she takes a no-nonsense approach to helping millennials shift their mindsets so that they can lead happier and more peaceful lives. Her best-selling book, BITCHY, provides an even deeper insight into the techniques she believes will allow us all to dive deeper in love with ourselves and achieve success in all areas. BITCHY is currently available on Amazon: http://amzn.to/2EdXOkM.

Get in touch with Tiffany Okafor from California, Los Angeles

– Mindset Coach.

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/interviewee-19-best-selling-author-tiffa

Links:

 

Things we discussed:

  • Introduction of Tiffany and what she do?
  • When did Tiffany start on personal development?
  • What Millennials are battling now?
  • Journaling is a way to write your thoughts to understand who you really are.
  • What about fear? What really makes Millennials fearful?
  • How can Millennials overcome fear?
  • How to be yourself (b*tch)?
  • Being a b*tch is all about being honest.
  • When did you develop self-awareness? How did it happen?
  • How do you apply the Law of Attraction?
  • You have the power to control your sanity.
  • What is your morning routine like?
  • What are some personal development books for easy reading that you will recommend to potential readers?
  • You need to confront your past and be forgiving.
  • What is Tiffany’s biggest failure.
  • Stop focusing on negative energy; the power of perception.
  • What is the ultimate purpose of Tiffany Okafor to the world?
  • Connecting with Tiffany Okafor.

 

Thank you for listening!

 

Thank you so much for joining me for this podcast. Please do write down some feedbacks and comments. Please do share this podcast to your social media.

 

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You’re Either Positive; Or You’re Negative

Family

After going through a journey back home to America in 2012, meeting some of the most magnificent people in Thailand, Japan, and Hawaii, you could imagine how high I was on Cloud 9.  I felt like I had conquered everything.  I was really unsure of my whereabouts over the ensuing months, but I was still elated at the fact that I went to a wild Bangkok/Phuket and I touched down in Japan.

The moment I got home, my mother picked me up at the airport and took me back to that “neighborhood.”  I was in limbo and still in vacation mode, but then slowly I smelled (marijuana) in the neighborhood and in my house – nothing had changed.  For one year I was gone, my family was still circling around in that wheel of life many people fall victim too.

I was lecturing my sister that evening about my travels to Japan, what was happening in my life, meeting people at a bar not too far from my house, and of course, the girl racial comment I got was from an anglo woman making fun of the Japanese Kanji lettering on my t-shirt.  Welcome back to Las Vegas.

My brother had a cluster of bumps on his back and ultimately needed surgery; my oldest sister was going through a TERRIBLE breakup and kept bitching about her BF, and my youngest sister, cleverly, tucked herself away in the bedroom.

Look, either you’re going to be positive or negative.  I didn’t know anywhere near as much as I do now, but I knew that complaining about reality and circumstances were going to get me nowhere.  My mom lost her job because of poor decisions, and I don’t ever recall my mom getting a job until I left (9-10 month period).  So, my brother and I had to pay the bills and it was competition.  If I paid 20$, he paid 30$ and told me I wasn’t doing much for mom.  Every time he came around me, he was always upset and wanting to bitch about something.  I could feel the energy when he walked by, and luckily, just days before my departure, the eruption didn’t happen.  I felt it festering because I wasn’t talking to my family AT ALL, but thankfully nothing ridiculous happened before I left.

Some things I will just never understand I suppose.

Teacher Ray

47-year-old Irishman who I worked with at my first, and worst job (of my life) back in Chanthaburi Thailand, which is located about 3 hours southeast from Bangkok.  Now that I look back at this particular individual, I realize that he’s the epitome of what’s wrong with foreigners in Thailand – and now he’s trapped with a child the government has taken away from him.

He had a wife that barely knew any English, and one of the most wonderful daughters one could ever imagine.  She was delightful and had a contagious laugh; also calling me “Uncle Buck.”

However, Ray would talk about his past life heaps for some odd reason.  There was a particular character he worked with and he just couldn’t let the stories go.  I’m guessing this is what he ended up running away in general.  He would go to bars, have sex with women between 18-30 years of age (in Thailand it’s extremely easy when you’re of a fair complexion), and cheat on his wife continuously.  Every time I was around him, he complained about the world and all the politics.  He never smiled or laughed about anything – just full on rants.  Last time I heard two years ago that his life left him, taking the child.  He began dating someone at the school we worked at and then broke up (super awkward situation).  He then started spewing a lot of hate at staff and then POOF! Just like that…he up and left.  Most foreign men over 40-45 years of age in Thailand suffer from the same thing.

Last Job

40-45 year olds complaining, bitching, having sex with the staff behind their wives’ backs, pointing fingers, saying their students are dumb, alcoholics, drug addicts, whore buyers.  You name it.  This was my workplace.  All of them? Well, about 75% of them.  The other ones I just couldn’t figure out.  In 2016 and after reading Jack Canfield’s book, I realized that being around life-sucking animals was stumping my growth, so I started ignoring everyone and then the “taddle-telling” began.

You had a teacher who was 72 and had a 40-year-old wife, insulting her on a continuous basis and spewing hateful rhetoric about muslims at work.  You had one of the most despicable human beings who was 50 and had a 18-year-old girlfriend.  Apparently he was a neighborhood drunk and constantly argued and beat her, all while smashing bottles out on the streets.  Another one, who was actually the worst teacher and had the worst complaints, had sex with staff, and on a nightly basis, he drove to 7-11, chugged down 3 beers, and went home.  Another one was jacked up on drugs.

I mean, why am I telling you these stories.  One, be grateful.  Be grateful that you’re not trapped in a country you absolutely hate (well, most of us).  Realize that everything you’re putting out is going to ultimately come back.  If you’re a negative, newly divorced old man, southeast Asia isn’t for you because you could be part of the jumping men, which are men who hurl themselves over balconies in Pattaya, Thailand, killing themselves.

If you move to a country because you think women are submissive and you think it’s an easy life, you’re going to find yourself hating that country because you will attract to you the bottom-of-the-food-chain-women who will milk you of all your savings.  I used to see this everyday in Pathumthani, a province north of Bangkok.  On weekends, the play was overflowing with pedaphiles trying to solicit young girls and boys to sex, but of course police did NOTHING because they were “white,” through the eyes of the dumb-beholders.  Seeing this everyday — working at a job where the British head teacher, too, was a wife-tourist — was disheartening and infuriating.

I wanted to be happy.  That area was slum-filled with the worst of mindsets.  So, how I had to infer and look at my life through a strangers eyes.  I was unhappy, terrible health (lots of pollution around there), racism, removed from company, lack of hours and money.

LEAVE.

I was either going to be on the offense, or be defensive. I was either going to surround myself with writers, business owners, trainers, and successful people – or be around men who escaped the past.  It was one way or the other.  I chose to go right.

Darren Hardy: Disassociations, Limited Associations & Expanded Associations

I had to weed out some people in my life who aren’t trying to cultivate the right mindset.  I can’t be around complainers.  This is why I ended up getting scrutinized at work because I was no longer part of the “ain’t it awful” club, which is the older Gen X and B men who literally sit in a circle and complain about the country’s woes.

This was the beginning.  When I started removing the garbage from my life, I had so much more time to focus on the good.  Remember the conversation I had on my podcast when I told you about a particular individual (the snake who tried getting me fired 2 years ago)?  Yeah, finished work at 5pm and left with him back to the other side of town.  The amount of bitching he did for the ensuing 45 minutes made me feel so horrible about life, yet he had a girlfriend was was less than half his age and he was also anglo.  I needed to draw the line once and for all, and when I did just that, everyone began ignoring me.  Shit.  Happens.

Another individual I have to mention is the “apparent best friend” who decided to get into a relationship before I bolted to America.  This individual got so angry at me that she stopped talking to me.  This was mid-October – and later – I had yet another one of those difficult Thailand moments that she wasn’t there to support me and guide me through because of her ego.

I told myself, “it was first October 2014 when she rarely spoke to me.  Now it’s October of 2017? She has failed to come through again? She’s off the list.”

I cancelled my ticket based off instinct.  Days later I got removed from a terrible company and threatened by someone who has never liked me to this date.  Did she shove her personal wants aside to encourage me through the dark clouds? Absolutely not.

I’m quick to remove people.  If I feel someone no longer serves a purpose or becomes very bitchy, I’m done.  You need to also put up those boundaries.

Limited Associations

Gary Vee spoke about this recently.  If it’s very difficult to just remove someone in the entire form, just reduce the amount of time you spend with them.

You have your three minute, three hour, three day, and vacation type of people.

It’s hard for me to go into the teachers room with teachers in there because those are three-second beings (lol).  Look at the three minute people in your life.  When does the conversation go completely south? Have you ever been on a vacation with someone and you wanted to kill them by it’s end? Because they’re not a vacation type of person!

Expanded Associations

Reach out to the people who have or influence you in different ways.  A great example of this would be investor/influencer that I workout with.  She’s an amazing person.  Yes, she’s Thai — and her husband is — too.  However, being around them just makes me so incredibly happy and inspired.  Seeing her successful FB photos of her being in Bali inspires me like crazy.  Another girl, by the name of Praew, has some of the highest energy I’ve seen in five years living here.  I would love to go out with her to a lounge and talk business.  Look for people who have those “attractive” personal qualities.  Join organizations, businesses, health clubs (such as what I joined to meet the above people) and be around these people who can ultimately be mentors.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-disassociations-limited-ass

Three Keys For Developing A Positive Mindset

I saw that not only my blog, but my podcast got an insane amount of plays on my last one about confidence, so I decided to do one about mindset – and honestly this really hits a soft spot in me after the events of two days ago.

Your Tribe

Here I am at a park in the middle of Bangkok, overseeing some of the more gorgeous skyscrapers and seeing people take their health to the next level.  The people begin to pour in for the little get-together/competition we were having on Saturday morning.  Winter WonderLab, in courtesy of The Lab BKK (a gym), was in full-effect.  While I was there, I met a vast array of people from Canada, France, Germany, New Zealand and other places.  The greatest part about it all was here’s a K-1 fighter who’s into cryptocurrencies on my left, to my right is an ultra-marathon runner and CEO of the company, bankers in front of me, personal trainers scattered everywhere and entrepreneurs (just about all of them).  Just four years ago, up until this year (working at the place I do), I was surrounded by complainers, losers, people who have come across defeat as being “permanent.”  One thing that will help you along this journey is putting a “winner” in your life and subtracting a “loser.”

Circle of Influence vs. Circle of Concern: Start Reading!

Honestly, the book that disrupted my mind completely was Napoleon Hill’s ‘Law of Success.’  Yes, I can also agree that reading The Alchemist was wonderful, but it didn’t change my mind.  Napoleon Hill caused the disruption, then Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ made me presume responsibility for all my actions and outcomes in my life.  Then, it was the beginning.

Audiocasts/YouTube/Influencers 

Podcasts, such as Gary Vee, The Arsenio Buck Show (wink wink*), Lewis Howes and others are excellent.  Honestly, Gary Vee is the best one because I get something out of it all the time.  It’s not a podcast about men talking about their everyday life, but more of tools I can apply immediately to my life.  YouTube cannot be taken advantage of. You cannot use YouTube to watch things that will bring bad feelings to you.  Use it also to be inspired.  Once you start your day off with an inspirational video/podcast, read 10-30 minutes, and start removing the toxic relationships from your life – the change will began.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/three-keys-for-developing-a-positive-min