Coaching Session: Episode 008 – Do You Lack Tactfulness?

Lack of tactfulness

  1. Carelessness in the tone of voice often speaking in antagonistic tones that often offend.
  2. Speaking out of turn when silence would be more appropriate.
  3. Interrupting others who are speaking.
  4. Overworking the personal pronoun.
  5. Asking impertinent questions generally to impress others.
  6. Injecting intimately personal subjects into conversation where such actions are embarrassing to others.
  7. Going where one has not been invited.
  8. Boastfulness.
  9. Making personal calls at inconvenient hours.
  10. Holding people on the telephone with needless conversation.
  11. Volunteering opinions when not requested especially on subjects where they’re not familiar.
  12. Openly questions the soundness of opinions of others.
  13. Declining requests from others in an arrogant manner.
  14. Speaking disparagingly of people in front of their friends.
  15. Rebuking people who disagree with one on any subject.
  16. Speaking of people’s physical inflictions in their presence.
  17. Correcting subordinates and associates in the presence of others.
  18. Complaining when requests for favors are refused.
  19. Presuming upon friendship and asking favors.
  20. Using profane or offensive language.
  21. Expressing dislikes too freely.
  22. Speaking of ills and misfortunes.
  23. Criticizing forms of religion.
  24. Over-familiarity of all occasions.

Boy, I heard this in one of the most inspiring chapters in Napoleon Hill’s book recently and I just had to share it with everyone. It’s almost certain that some of you who have read the 24 questions are suffering from at least one. This brings you awareness though.

See what’s happening, send in your questions and let’s follow up in a months time.

When You Realize You Have An Indomitable Will….

I went to my mother’s Facebook page to check on her health and well-being recently.  After the 2013 fallout, my mother and I haven’t spoken on video or by voice in half-a-decade.  Regrets? Absolutely not.  It takes two to tango.  However, the health of my mother is always important.

Her first post was of my brother — an individual who has hated me since I was a child.  Hot-headed, angry, know-it-all/alpha mask possessing individual who’s following similar footsteps of his father.  He was featured on Fox5News in Las Vegas.  Being an avid drummer and always have been for years, music has always been in his heart.  Having taught at high schools, middle schools, and elementary schools, apparently he had auditioned for the Las Vegas Golden Knights hockey team — and got the job.  During one of the openings of last year’s playoff game against I-HAVE-NO-IDEA, I saw someone wearing glowing, neon glasses while drumming who had a beard similar to what my brother normally flaunts.  Indeed, it was my brother.  I was super proud of him.

Two years ago, he had sent me a message, berating me with derogatory slurs and yelling, “don’t come back to Vegas! Mom doesn’t wanna see you! Your sisters hate you!”

I laughed and felt sorry for him.  Since those 1995, Mega Man X days where he would beat me up on the SNES and tell my parents that I did wrong, he still has an impenetrable amount of hostility that’s tormenting him inside.

During the recent interview in the link above, I can still see it in his eyes.  Hearing him speak with the freakish looking smile and saying, “it’s about being positive,” or somewhere on the lines, is what I would always see before he unleashed an unfathomable amount of hell upon me and spew rhetoric at my siblings.  He was a power junkie and always has been — very different from what my father used to be, to be honest.

Nonetheless, I told my siblings, and the last time I spoke with them back in the summer of 2016, that I would never speak to Steven Buck again for as long as I live.  It was time to finally move on.  Wish him the best in his future endeavors, but enough was enough.  Gary Vee says drop your loser friends and family members, and my brother, who was the antagonist of every story, has never been supportive.

But please don’t let this confuse any of you.  Holding a grudge against anyone is ridiculous, and this is why I forgave him from within and sent the rest to the universe.  He doesn’t need to know that I forgave him, nor would he care, but it’s for my own peace of mind.

You know, going through the battles I’ve gone through, especially living in Thailand, it’s perspective.

Do you know how lonely I felt being in a household where everyone hated me? I was the “selfish” one for not saving money.  I was the bad son for not giving my mom 25% of my salary while living overseas by myself.  Going through that dimension of it, and then battling the racial discrimination in these borders? 150 jobs denied me because I was BLACK.

Could you imagine not having anyone to go to in terms of that?

You can’t.  The brute force and nature of it all id unprecedented. But how did I go through it? Was it the motive? The purpose, as Napoleon Hill has said before? How did I flip it from a push to a pull? How did I go from a negative mindset to a positive mindset? How did I go from getting by at the beginning of this year, to becoming financially independent by next year? I’m still trying to piece it together.

One thing is apparent, however, and it’s the fact that I have an indomitable will.

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Special Blog: Arsenio’s Entrepreneurial Journey from 2016-Now

Ok, you guys wanted it, and here it is.

At the beginning of 2016, I started a podcast.  Keep in mind that my followers on Twitter were LOSER sex tourists and my online persona, up to that point, was not very good.  I constantly focused on the negative and the victimization of being a “black” teacher in Thailand.

Then came the man — also known as Napoleon Hill.  Who’s Napoleon Hill? Well, you’ll have to google him, but this man ended up teaching me everything that I either had lost, or was completely unaware of.  Those books became my podcasts in the beginning and that ended up pushing away the majority of those “losers” who followed me online.

Then came the Jack Canfield book, most notably — Principle #5: Believe In Yourself.  While reading this just before my trip to Vietnam, I was reduced to tears.  At that moment, there was a shift in my entire biochemistry, indicating that this victimhood no longer serves you.  Getting rid of it didn’t happen overnight, but this was the beginning.

Lisa Nichols’ Abundance now came next, along with a few others, including Tim Ferriss’ 4-Hour Work Week and a couple of others.  This was the beginning of the new me.

In 2017, I began to rebel.  Hell, it started a couple months before.  My work, which wasn’t suitable for me anymore, wasn’t fair in terms of work allocation.  Some teachers got more work based on pre-conceived notions that they were better than other teachers.  So, I told myself, even in early 2016, that I would start working outside to gain more notoriety and build a brand that I didn’t know I was building at the time.  One after another, projects after projects, and “NO! I DON’T WANT YOUR CLASS IN THE MORNING!” — after another.  This probably was my downfall at the company because I constantly denied work from them, leading to my ultimate plunge and being the “last in line” and the “dark little brother,” however, this was the beginning of my new life.

In October of 2017, I got removed from teaching at Toshiba in Pathumthani, citing me for the most outrageous comments imaginable that were completely untrue and irrelevant to my moving.  Somebody had a bone to pick, and with two other white teachers, one having an insane amount of complaints, I was the odd one out (in a very unprofessional way).  That following weekend, it was the comment “if you want to continue working here we need to have a meeting” that sent shivers of disgust, threats, and “Arsenio, it’s time to get the hell out of here” down my back.  That moment, I made up in my mind that I was too good for these folks.

No one knew, but after learning that I had moved to the other side of town, they knew what was happening.  I cancelled, didn’t want class, and want to be away from that place as much as possible because it gave me chest pains — literally.

At the same time, I was grinding and trying to find work.  There were people saying “oh, this company decided this teacher over you because you’re white” and other deplorable comments. I knew I would scrape the bottom-of-the-barrel in regards to finding suitable language centers, but i kept at it.

Then March came.  Job offers came over the next two months along with entrepreneurs, a content writer, and hundreds of other things.

At the beginning of the year, I made goals list.  I made goals list for each category of my wheel of life, pin-pointing things that I wanted to do and how I wanted to grow.  To this date, I’ve not only achieved those marks, but I think in some categories, like the social circle and personal development, I’m two years ahead.

I have a content writer, social circle consisting of graphic designers, mentors, marketing execs and coaches, double podcasts website that’s sky-rocketing, YouTube that’s climbing, messages and comments saying thank you.

In all of that, do you think this could’ve happened if I didn’t leave that old place of work? No way.  I needed to leave there to create flow of goodness and change in my life.

See, the majority of the time, you guys get stuffed up in the now and personal wants.  You’re control by the mainstream media, dying relationships, loser friends, terrible jobs.  However, if you can just come to the awareness that if you let these things go, you will attract to you everything in life that you need to take you to the next level.

That’s a promise.

Upon the magnificent New Years, I’m literally positioning myself as the top ESL podcaster on the planet.  I’m owning hashtags on Instagram.  I’m teaching people all over the world and people want my services.  See how that works? And this all came because I dumped an employer in F.E.A.R of not getting a new job.

Face FEAR.

Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 22 – Quotient Analysis – Part C

Here we go! This is the last part of the quotient analysis!  If you haven’t already done Part A or Part B, I suggest you hit the links on the left and do them before the last part.

13. Learning from defeat
(a) Does defeat cause you to stop trying?

_____ _____
(b) If you fail in a given effort, do you keep trying?

_____ _____
(c) Is temporary defeat the same as failure?

_____ _____
(d) Have you learned any lessons from defeat?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know how defeat can be converted into an asset that will lead to success?

_____ _____
14. Creative vision
(a) Do you use your imagination constructively?

_____ _____
(b) Do you make your own decisions?

_____ _____
(c) Is the man who only follows instructions always worth more than the man who also creates new ideas?”

(d) Are you inventive?

_____ _____
(e) Do you create practical ideas in connection with your work?

_____ _____
(f) When desirable, do you seek sound advice?”

 

15. Budgeting time and money
(a) Do you save a fixed percentage of your income?

_____ _____
(b) Do you spend money without regard to your future source of income?

_____ _____
(c) Do you get sufficient sleep each night?

_____ _____
(d) Is it your habit to employ spare time studying self-improvement books?”

 

16. Maintenance of sound health
(a) Do you know five essential factors of sound health?

_____ _____
(b) Do you know where sound health begins?

_____ _____
(c) Are you aware of the relation of relaxation to sound health?

_____ _____
(d) Do you know the four important factors necessary for the proper balancing of sound health?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know the meaning of “hypochondria” and “psychosomatic illness”?

_____ _____
17. Using cosmic habit force as it pertains to your personal habits
(a) Do you have habits which you feel you cannot control?

_____ _____
(b) Have you recently eliminated undesirable habits?

_____ _____
(c) Have you recently developed any new, desirable habits?”

Rating System

Here’s how to rate your answers. All the following questions should have been answered NO: 3c – 3d – 4b – 5b – 5c – 5e – 6b – 6c – 8a – 8d – 9b – 9d- 10c – 11b – 11c – 12c – 13a – 13c – 14c – 15b – 17a. All other questions should have been answered YES. Your score would have been 300 if all the questions had been answered “No” or “Yes” as shown above. This is a perfect score and very few people have ever made such a score. Now let’s see what your score was.”

Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”:
——x 4 =——
If you answered “No” to any of the meaning questions that should have been answered “Yes,” deduct four points for each one:
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”:
——x 4 =——
Add the subtotals together, and subtract from 300. This will be your score.
Illustration:
Number of “Yes” answers instead of “No”: 3 x 4 = 12
Number of “No” answers instead of “Yes”: 2 x 4 = 8
Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Perfect Score ____________________ 300
Minus Total Number of Wrong Answers __________ 20
Your Score ____________________ 280

 

300 points _____ Perfect (Very Rare)
275 to 299 points _____ Good (Above Average)
200 to 274 points _____ Fair (Average)
100 to 199 points _____ Poor (Below Average)
Below 100 points _____ Unsatisfactory

You have now taken an important step to success and happiness.”

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 21 – Quotient Analysis – Part B

We’ve got the second part of this coming up.

I initially separated these into three parts because it’s long and it’s going to take a lot of writing and time.  To get through all 16/17 right off the back, can be overwhelming.

7. Applied faith
(a) Do you have faith in Infinite Intelligence?

_____ _____
(b) Are you a person of integrity?

_____ _____
(c) Do you have confidence in your ability to do what you decide to do?

_____ _____
(d) Are you reasonably free from these seven basic fears:

(1) fear of poverty?

(2) fear of criticism?

(3) fear of ill health?

(4) fear of loss of love?

(5) fear of loss of liberty?

(6) fear of old age?

(7) fear of death?

_____ _____
8. Pleasing personality

(a) Are your habits offensive to others?

_____ _____
(b) Is it your habit to apply the Golden Rule?

_____ _____
(c) Are you liked by those with whom you work?

_____ _____
(d) Do you bore others?

_____ _____
9. Personal initiative
(a) Do you plan your work?

_____ _____
(b) Must your work be planned for you?

_____ _____
(c) Do you possess outstanding qualities not possessed by others in your line of work?

_____ _____
(d) Is it your habit to procrastinate?

_____ _____
(e) Is it your habit to try to create better plans for doing your work more efficiently?

_____ _____

10. Enthusiasm
(a) Are you an enthusiastic person?

_____ _____
(b) Do you direct your enthusiasm toward carrying out your plans?

_____ _____
(c) Does your enthusiasm overpower your judgment?”

11. Controlled attention
(a) Is it your habit to concentrate your thoughts on what you are doing?

_____ _____
(b) Are you easily influenced to change your plans or your decisions?

_____ _____
(c) Are you inclined to abandon your aims and plans when you meet opposition?

_____ _____
(d) Do you keep working regardless of unavoidable distractions?”

 

12. Teamwork

(a) Do you get along harmoniously with others?

_____ _____
(b) Do you grant favors as freely as you ask them?

_____ _____
(c) Do you have frequent disagreements with others?

_____ _____
(d) Are there great advantages in friendly cooperation among co-workers?

_____ _____
(e) Are you aware of the damage one can cause by not cooperating with co-workers?”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 20 – Now It’s Time To Test – Part A

I’ve been through a heck of a lot of episodes already in terms of this book, and now is a good time to look at your own mental attitude.

“We call it your Success Quotient Analysis. And it is based on the 17 success principles which have been responsible for the worthwhile achievements of the world’s outstanding leaders in all fields. It has many purposes:

To direct your thoughts in desired channels.

To crystallize your own thinking.

To indicate your present position on the road to success.

To encourage you to decide exactly where you want to be.

To measure your chances of reaching your desired destination.

To indicate your present ambitions and other characteristics.

To motivate you to desirable action with PMA.”

It’s time to take the test, and I also have the PDF at the bottom of the page for you so you can print it out and write it down.

Quotient Analysis – Part A

“1. Definiteness of purpose

Yes No

(a) Have you decided upon a definite major goal in life?

_____ _____
(b) Have you set a time limit for reaching that goal?

_____ _____
(c) Do you have specific plans for achieving your goal in life?

_____ _____
(d) Have you determined what definite benefits your goal in life will bring you?

_____ _____
2. Positive mental attitude
(a) Do you know what is meant by a positive mental attitude?

_____ _____
(b) Do you control your mental attitude?

_____ _____
(c) Do you know the only thing over which anyone has complete power of control?

_____ _____
(d) Do you know how to detect a negative mental attitude in yourself and others?

_____ _____
(e) Do you know how to make PMA a habit?”

 

3. Going the “Extra Mile”
(a) Do you make a habit of rendering more and better service than you are paid for?

_____ _____
(b) Do you know when an employee is entitled to more pay?

_____ _____
(c) Do you know of anyone who has achieved success in any calling without doing more than he was paid to do?

_____ _____
(d) Do you believe anyone has a right to expect an increase in salary unless he is doing more than he is paid for?

_____ _____
(e) If you were your own employer, would you be satisfied with the sort of service you are now rendering as an employee?”

4. Accurate thinking
(a) Do you make it your duty constantly to learn more about your occupation?

_____ _____
(b) Is it your habit to express “opinions” on subjects with which you are not familiar?

_____ _____
(c) Do you know how to find the facts when you need knowledge?

_____ _____
5. Self-discipline
(a) Do you hold your tongue when angry?

_____ _____
(b) Is it your habit to speak before you think?

_____ _____
(c) Do you lose your patience easily?

_____ _____
(d) Are you generally even-tempered?

_____ _____
(e) Is it your habit to allow your emotions to overpower your reason?”

6. The master mind
(a) Are you influencing other people to help you attain your goal in life?

_____ _____
(b) Do you believe that a person can succeed in life without the aid of others?

_____ _____
(c) Do you believe a man can easily succeed in his occupation if he is opposed by his wife or other members of his family?

_____ _____
(d) Are there advantages when an employer and an employee work together in harmony?

_____ _____
(e) Are you proud when a group to which you belong is praised?”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 19 – Dump The Guilt

“And the great psychologist Sigmund Freud says: “The further our work proceeds and the deeper our knowledge of the mental life of neurotics penetrates, the more clearly two new factors force themselves upon our notice which demand the closest attention as sources of resistance…. They can both be included under the one description of ‘need to be ill’ or ‘need to suffer.’…The first of these two factors is the sense of guilt or consciousness of guilt…
And Sigmund Freud is right. For feelings of guilt have motivated men to destroy their lives, mutilate their bodies, or injure themselves in other ways to atone for their wrongdoing. Now today, fortunately, such methods are seldom practiced. And they are not permitted in civilized countries. Yet their counterpart can be found. For the conscious mind may not feel guilty but the subconscious mind does.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

A good example of guilty people would be the military, most notably the USA Military.  They have so much guilt on their conscious to the point when they go home, they can’t adapt.  They have PTSD, followed by flashbacks of being in war and they’re never able to get over it.  Sometimes they have to kill children and women for whatever pressured reason it may be (insurgency).  This is a difficult guilt to come across.

However, if you’re dealing with guilt because of what happened in the past relationship, friendship, job or anything…it’s going to kill you — literally.

Living with that particular burden on your chest is something that forms regret.  Regret is poison.  I have no guilt for what has happened with my family and the way things are now.  It’s way out of my control.  I have no guilt for the things I’ve said about past teachers  because it’s all the truth.  I don’t have ANY guilt for words towards Thai women because it’s the truth and what I’ve experienced, first-hand, with my own eyes.

If you’re saying, “I wish I could’ve done __________,”….stop.  Instead, say “I’m glad I did this because I learned by……….”

“A guilt feeling can teach you consideration for others. Consideration for others is a quality each of us has to learn to develop. The new-born babe cares little for the comfort and convenience of anyone else. He wants what he wants when he wants it. So right at that point in his development he begins to learn, little by little, that there are others alive, too, and that, to some extent at least, he will have to allow them some consideration. But selfishness is a common human trait, and it lessens in each of us only through development. When we get old enough to understand that such feelings are not good, we feel a twinge of guilt when we indulge in selfishness. This is good for it causes us to think twice when the occasion arises and we can choose between pleasing ourselves or pleasing others concerned.”

“To get rid of that guilt feeling, get into action! Sometimes people get caught in a web of wrongdoing, and they seem to be unable to free themselves from it. For they give up trying. And then they become more and more entangled, until finally it takes an almost earthshaking experience to set them free.” – Napoleon Hill

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 18 – Can You Attract Happiness?

There was a particular interviewee who was a best selling author in Australia who was suppose to come on and talk about Happiness.  Obviously that didn’t happen, so here I am in the latter stages of this book talking about Happiness.

Can you attract it?

Happiness, depression, repression, guilt, enthusiasm…they’re all conditions and adjectives that we can inherit at any time. That’s a fact.

Striving after happiness is also about focusing on your core values.  Your belief systems.  What are you around? Are you around all types of positive circumstances? If so, you’ll unconsciously attract great things to you.

“I want to be happy …” A popular song starts off with words that contain a great deal of truth: “I want to be happy, but I won’t be happy, ’til I make you happy, too!”
One of the surest ways to find happiness for yourself is to devote your energies toward making someone else happy. Happiness is an elusive, transitory thing. And if you set out to search for it, you will find it evasive. But if you try to bring happiness to someone else, then it comes to you.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

And then there was this.  Have you ever felt an unbelievable amount of joy when you did something for someone else? Let me put it to you like this.  I had a student who was smiling from one corner of his eye to the other.  He had come into my place of work to surprise me.  In just 6 hours teaching, I taught him how to pass the IELTS examination, catapulting him to England (where he’s going to school now).  I sat down and I was just so overjoyed that I helped someone achieve such an amazing victory in life.

That will stay with me forever.

It’s like the video that Gary Vee recently posted about the lady giving him her gun license, sobbing and saying “I don’t need this anymore.”  That is the moment of true fulfillment.  Stopping someone from committing suicide. Ok, that’s probably not happiness, but that’s utterly fulfilling.

“You are a happy person during a period when you predominantly experience that positive state of mind in which you are happy combined with that neutral state of mind in which you are not unhappy.

And you can be happy, content, or unhappy. For the choice is yours. The determining factor is whether you are under the influence of a positive or negative mental attitude. And that factor you can control.
Handicaps are no barrier to happiness. Surely if ever there was a person who might have been expected to complain of unhappiness Helen Keller was that person. Born deaf, mute, and blind, deprived of knowledge of normal communication with the persons who surrounded her, she had only her sense of touch to help her to reach out to others and to experience the happiness of loving and being loved.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 17 – Alcoholism & Mental Illness

“But a cure for alcoholism is not so easy to come by as education in hygiene. Alcoholism ranks as the fourth largest health problem in the nation. It follows mental and moral disease and is one of the greatest contributors to those two diseases. The economic cost of alcoholism is 25 billion dollars per year. The greater portion of this is loss of time to industry, followed by hospital costs and physical damages—caused mainly by automobile accidents. But the money loss is negligible compared to the loss of physical, mental, and moral health, and the loss of life attributable to alcoholism.
An alcoholic has a mental illness which lies dormant until his first drink. If he doesn’t start the habit, liquor doesn’t have the power of attraction for him. If he drinks, the affinity is strong, and he will drink to excess. If he drinks to excess, the attraction may become irresistible, or seem so. And when he tries to resist and doesn’t succeed, he may believe he cannot be cured.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

This resonates probably within a lot of readers.  This is brutal for me to read because I saw my brother becoming just that.

After coming back from Australia in 2012, my brother had balls in his back.  No one knew what the balls were, but they were hurting them.  He was working for a company called Stanley Steamers, a company that cleans the rugs of citizens’ homes. It got worse and worse over the next month with my brother becoming an irritable, angry, 26-year-old guy who went from being at the pinnacle, to collapsing back down to zero.

He had surgery and was in a tremendous amount of pain for the next couple of months.

Now, his habits were betting and alcoholism.  After he came home from work, he would go out and drink — five nights a week.  Who knows what else he did, but that’s what I saw.  He would always say “I’m hungover,” and again, he was turning more into an animal.  My youngest sister didn’t like being around him because he got angry quickly.  He bossed my mother around and he would always aggravate my sister.

Could it be because of alcoholism? It’s definitely one of the factors.

“What happens to excessive drinkers? Alcohol is known to alter the brain waves as recorded by the scientific instrument known as an electroencephalograph. It has a most potent influence on nerve cell metabolism which results in slow rhythms and eventual suppression of voltage and brings about a change in the level of consciousness.
A human body is alive only as long as its subconscious mind functions. It can be kept alive for a long time without the functioning of the conscious mind. There are degrees of consciousness.
Sanity is that healthy state of mind when the activities of the conscious and the subconscious are in proper balance. And while they work together, each has its specific duties; each has inhibiting factors. While sometimes it is healthful and wholesome for a person to do the things he wants to do but which are forbidden, judgments and actions should be the result of the conscious and subconscious working in balance.
The intellect and other powers of the conscious mind act as a governor regulating the subconscious when a person is in a conscious state of activity. As the activity of this governor slows down, the machine begins to run wild, and[…]”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

In Las Vegas, anytime I would walk down the streets of Las Vegas Boulevard and Owens, there would be a lot of alcoholics roaming the streets, homelessly and wearing USA Veteran hats.  At night, I would be acosted by some angry drunks saying, “ey, man, you got any change?”

“No, I have food though.”

“I DON’T WANT FOOD!”

“Alcoholism is indeed a dread disease. If allowed to control a person’s life, it can render that person physically, mentally, and morally ill and send him to a living hell. Once alcohol has gained control in a person’s life, it does not readily relinquish its hold.
But there is a cure!
There’s always a cure! What’s the cure? Stop drinking! For the alcoholic, this is more easily said than done. The important thing is that it can be done. He can do it!
When you develop a positive mental attitude, you don’t give up trying because you have previously failed or because you know of cases where others have failed. You can be motivated and receive hope from successful experiences. A baby learning to walk isn’t criticized for falling after taking the first three steps. It is given credit for the progress it makes in response to its conscious effort.”

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 16 -You Can Enjoy Good Health & Live Longer

“How PMA aids you. PMA will help you develop mental and physical health and a longer life. And NMA will just as surely undermine mental and physical health and shorten your life. It all depends upon which side of the talisman you turn up. Positive Mental Attitude properly employed has saved the lives of many persons because someone close to them had a strong Positive Mental Attitude. The following incident proves the point.”

This is the bottomline.  If you complain and emanate feelings of negativity, you will die early.  That’s the basis of everything.

Think about it.  Back in 2015, I was constantly berating myself with the “loser sob” stories that created my reality “at the time.”  I lived in a neighborhood where I got dirty looks….that’s my fault (100% accountability).  I was around the biggest losers in my life (teachers at my old job) and the things they said…were uninspiring, malicious and repugnant….I became the chatter.  All of these things, including death threats from Thai Airways’ workers, were coming in by herds.  I needed to breakaway from the ignorance.  I needed to finally cut off the dead weight of losers and free myself to learn and expand on the true meaning of life.

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“The price of ignorance is sin, sickness, and death! What do you know about Hygiene ? Hygiene is defined as “a system of principles or rules designed for the promotion of health.” Social Hygiene often refers specifically to venereal contagion. Ignorance of physical, mental, and social hygiene can lead to sin, sickness, and death.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

HMMMM! Just think about it.  Those people in those “whiney bitch party” groups at work, what ends up happening?

There’s a story.  Her name was Nancy.  Nancy was a worker at the Dental Faculty Practice at the College of Southern Nevada.  She was a very nasty human being.  She mistreated not only the patients, but all of the workers.  She was rude, snappy, and just about everything else in the book.

Not sure how long she was like this for, but it had to be for years.  A year after I left to come to Thailand, Nancy was killed in a car accident.  Four people in the car, and the other three were unscathed.  Nancy was the only one that perished.

Am I saying this is related to her sinning constantly by being unkind to everyone? Could be.  No one will ever know, but I don’t want to be that unfortunate mother/father, brother/sister that gets a phone call saying, “sorry, your _________ has passed away,” regretting everything she ever was.

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