Who You Have To Become & Behaving Yourself + Exercise

It’s been a couple days since my last blog, and my goodness, I’ve never felt so out of place and out-of-touch with my fellow readers from all over the world! It’s time to get back into the compound effect.

All right, let’s map out the goals that you’ve decided upon.  Just remember that the only thing that stands between you and your goal is your behavior.

Example, the universe loves ACTION!

If I had put off moving into my new condominium, the dream job, which fell into my lap just yesterday, would’ve never happened! I knew I needed to act and it was all predicated on my behavior.  That morning I emailed four different condominiums probably decided this entire process.  My mind and everything is already set in Bangkok.  If I didn’t start by taking the first necessary step, the opportunity would’ve never come.

What do you need to start doing to change your trajectory so that it’s headed in the most beneficial direction? In other words, what habits and behaviors do you need to subtract from and add to your life?

Your life comes down to this formula:

Choice + Behavior + Habit + Compounded = Goals

decision +  action +  repeated action + time

Which behaviors are blocking your life right now?

How many hours of T.V. do you watch everyday? Seriously, I can bet good money you don’t know.  Do you sit in front of the television and watch 2-3 hours of sports (minimal) per weekend when you can be planning out your entire next week and even meals?

How many cans of soda do you drink a day? How many ridiculous YouTube videos do you watch that’s nonessential to the work you’re in? How about drama? Human beings LOVE drama and gossip.  Americans love the reality TV and Thailand/Korea love drama.  Become aware of how you’re behaving is the most important part of this process.  That’s step #1.

Okay, now it’s your turn. Get out your little notebook and write out your top three goals. Now make a list of the bad habits that might be sabotaging your progress in each area. Write down every one.

Habits and behaviors never lie. If there’s a discrepancy between what you say and what you do, I’m going to believe what you do every time. If you tell me you want to be healthy, but you’ve got Doritos dust on your fingers, I’m believing the Doritos. If you say self-improvement is a priority, but you spend more time with your Xbox than at the library, I’m believing the Xbox. If you say you’re a dedicated professional, but you show up late and unprepared, your behavior rats you out every time. You say your family is your top priority, but if they don’t appear on your busy calendar, they aren’t, really. Look at the list of bad habits you just made. That’s the truth about who you are. Now you get to decide whether that’s okay, or if you want to change.

Next, add to that list all the habits you need to adopt that, practiced and compounded over time, will result in you gloriously achieving your goals.

Making this list isn’t about wasting energy by getting judgmental and regretful. It’s about taking a clear-headed look at what you want to improve. I’m not going to leave you there, however. Let’s uproot those sabotaging bad habits and plant new, positive, and healthy ones in their place.”

Podcast

5 Steps On How To Avoid Fatigue

I found a FANTASTIC excerpt in Dale Carnegie’s ‘How To Stop Worrying & Start Living’ book that I promised my podcast listeners I would deliver in writing.  So, here are 5 steps on how to avoid fatigue and continue looking young!

Keep a notebook or scrapbook for “inspirational” reading.  Into this book you can paste all the poems, quotations and other things that appeal to you personally and give you a lift.

When a raining day comes, and it will, you’ll be able to pull this out and use it as a “spiritual shot” in the arm.  Even having that video, like when Wyclef Jean or Preston Smiles spoke on Tom Bilyeau’s Impact theory, would help me.  Have that video, that book, that “something” which will help you snap out of “it.”

Don’t dwell too long on the shortcomings of others! One woman at the class who found herself developing into a scolding, nagging, and haggard-faced wife, was brought up short with the question: “What would you do if you husband die?”  She was so shocked by the idea that she immediately drew up a list of all her husband’s good points.

Things happen in life, and because they do, we’re either too hard on ourselves, or we just sit in a puddle of sorrow, complaining about why THAT person did you wrong.  Snap out of it and write down on a piece of paper why you’re so grateful for it taking place to begin with.

Get interested in people! Develop a friendly, healthy interest in the people who share your life.

Remember I had a recent podcast (I’ll post it below this entry) about how to get over depression in fourteen days?  The biggest key with depressed souls is that they’re too focused on their personal wants; rather than the wants of other people.

Make up a schedule for tomorrow’s work before you go to bed tonight.  The class found that many people feel driven and harassed by the unending round of work and things they must do.

I wake up every morning banging out to-do-lists, but this is a list of things that I absolutely love to do.  If we move forward to let’s say a disgruntled colleague, the best thing to do is to email whoever you have to an hour before you go to sleep and detox your mind immediately following that.  It’s best doing that than losing a full night of sleep.

Avoid tension and fatigue by RELAXING!