Money Talk – Keeping It Slow & Easy

As I said in my last blog, it’s time to track one habit a week.  This is the beginning, so don’t get bent out-of-shape about it.  Pick a habit that has the greatest control over you, and once you start reaping the rewards of the Compound Effect, you’ll want to introduce this to your friends a family, too.

Let’s say you want to lose weight.  Your goals is to track everything you put in your mouth from dawn until dusk.  Pay attention to your sodium intakes.  Pay attention to how many sweets you consume.  For example, I’m a Gummy Bear Type-Of-Guy – meaning I LOVE to eat my gummy bears.  However, I believe this is going to have a very bad long-term effect, so I decided to track how often I eat them and it’s practically everyday.  Two days ago I said NO! However, yesterday I treated myself to a few bags that was about 30g’s in total, which is well under the 75g the American Heart Association requires not to go over.

If you want to talk about beverages, track those sugary drinks and glasses of wine.  Anything you consume in general MUST be tracked.

Again, writing things down sounds simple, but only when you start it.  That’s why I’m asking that you commit to choosing a category and a start date, now.

I am going to start tracking _____________________ on _____________________. day/month/year

Each day you’ll start with the date at the top of a fresh page, and start keeping track.

What’s going to happen after the ensuing week will shock you.  You’re going to realize how much money, calories and minutes have been escaping you.  Track it for three weeks.  Yes, three weeks.  Why? Some psychologists have said that a habit doesn’t become a HABIT until after three weeks.  If you guys can do this for 21 days, and make it a habit to carry around the small notebook in your back pocket, purse, or in your backpack so you can log in everything, you’ll see a massive difference.

You’ll find yourself asking, “do I really need that back of gummy bears?” This question I asked myself last night, and without any sugar cravings, I walked straight to the entrance of my condo and went right up the elevator.  Day 3 is here!

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If You Can Pursue What You Love, You Can Be Happy The Other Five Days of The Week

That’s right.  Americans are rejoicing, drinking copious amounts of alcohol while watching endless amounts of sports on tv – in bars or at home.  This is just the society I’ve grown up in and have seen so much of.  I’ve seen fans fight each other, leaving the others completely bloodied up because their deferring beliefs of one’s team.  All of this is frankly done between Saturday and Sunday.  The tailgating, the burgers, the fries, the hurling of endless insults at strangers…..however, they don’t use that anger towards striving towards their goals?

Some people are creating resolutions rather than actionable goals.  People are looking to resolve problems in life; rather than getting ahead and breaking down their objectives into achievable micro-win steps.  This makes my heart burn…..

I see people drifting through life.  I recall working for a dental practice at the College of Southern Nevada, seeing and hearing all these dental hygienists saying, “I want to become a hygienist because the money – nothing else.”  Immediately after graduating, they have a kid (or kids) and for the next 30-40 years, they’re working scraping teeth for the rest of their lives.

Yikes.

People are waking up in America this morning saying, “oh no! It’s Monday! FML!”  Is that how life is? Because if life is that way, you really need to rethink everything.

Face What Isn’t Working

There was a time last year where I had a wonderful friend who lied to me about her being from Thailand (she was in fact from Myanmar), and in that lie were promises of starting a wonderful, healthy-food catering business that would deliver clean food all around Bangkok.

In this plan, I wrote so many action steps down on a monster poster board and then I suddenly started seeing her slipping.  She was hiding something and I didn’t know what it was because she did a great job covering it up.  I started seeing signs from even Thai people who would speak English to her instead of Thai BECAUSE they thought she wasn’t Thai.  None of these things started clicking until one morning I received a phone call from her asking me for $6 dollars because she didn’t have money.

If you don’t have $6 dollars to your name, there’s a much bigger problem then not actually having $6 dollars.  By that time I scrapped the plane and in the ensuing weeks the big question came, “can I borrow a large sum of money to pay off old debt.”

BLOCKED.

I knew that there was too much problem and not enough action…but I didn’t face what wasn’t working in the beginning until I let it fester to the big question.

If you are going to become more successful, you have to get out of the denial like I was in, and I’m sure you’ve been in throughout your life in certain situations.

Do you defend or ignore how toxic your work environment is?  After reading this particular principle, I made a podcast (which I will still post down below for anyone who’s interested in listening) which a blackmailer went sniffing through some of my dirty laundry, found it, and began implicating and inferring that I was talking about specific individuals in my work place, although I was just stating facts about different age groups I’ve came across here in Thailand.

How about marriage? Do you make excuses for how bad it is?

Are you in denial about your lack of energy, your excess weight, your ill-health, or your level of physical fitness?  Are you failing to acknowledge how bad sales are at work? How bad one coworker is with finishing tasks on time?  The loud music that’s being played late at night that keeps you up 50% of your sleep time?

You have to begin facing these circumstances squarely, heed the warning signs, and take action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it might be.

Don’t Ignore The Yellow Signs

Your child comes home late from school again.  Strange notices start showing up in your mailbox.  You hear noises coming from across the hall and no one is there (ok, that might be a bit over the top, but it happens).  A friend, neighbor, classmate or anyone makes a very odd comment.  We just simply ignore them.

Why? Because to face what’s not working in your life usually means you’re going to have to do something uncomfortable.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11785866

Obesity In America Considered Healthy – HUH?!

My student yesterday told me that when she stayed with her host family, they said she looked very skinny and that she needed to eat more.  However, those particular individuals were actually obese in their own right.

When I worked at the College of Southern Nevada, the vast majority of my colleagues, even in the Dental Hygiene Department, were obese; yet everyday they told me that I had “chicken legs” and I was frailty.

Ummm….really?

I need to put into context what being overweight actually means..

Height Weight Range BMI Considered
                                                                       Source: CDC
5′ 9″ 124 lbs or less Below 18.5 Underweight
125 lbs to 168 lbs 18.5 to 24.9 Healthy weight
169 lbs to 202 lbs 25.0 to 29.9 Overweight
203 lbs or more 30 or higher Obese

If you look at the healthy weight range, you have a 43 pound zone to be considered healthy, and Americans fall right out of that scale and into the 203 pounds or more zone.

What’s even more shocking is that according to the National institute of diabetes, more than two-thirds (68.8 percent) of adults are considered to be overweight or obese. More than one-third (35.7 percent) of adults are considered to be obese. More than 1 in 20 (6.3 percent) have extreme obesity. Almost 3 in 4 men (74 percent) are considered to be overweight or obese.

Wait, did you just tell me that I’m too skinny?

Look at the health risks of being overweight.

Health Risks of Overweight and Obesity
  • type 2 diabetes
  • heart disease
  • high blood pressure
  • nonalcoholic fatty liver disease (excess fat and inflammation in the liver of people who drink little or no alcohol)
  • osteoarthritis (a health problem causing pain, swelling, and stiffness in one or more joints)
  • some types of cancer: breast, colon, endometrial (related to the uterine lining), and kidney
  • stroke

People, it’s kind of like the smokers; they know exactly what the ramifications are of inhaling toxins, but they still do it anyways.

Americans know that eating anything frozen, which most supermarkets consist of (at least 12 aisles in Wal-Mart), is detrimental.  What I don’t understand is when I go to America, people will tell me, “omg you’re so skinny! You have chicken legs! You’re not health!” On the other hand, they’re eating a plate full of lard.

The intent is not to bring awareness of obesity in America, but to bring degrading comments to the surface and notice that what you’re saying to others, pertaining to health, is not your area of expertise.  Before you judge someone about their weight, look yourself in the mirror.  If you want to hand out useful information or offer services of any kind, do so in a kindly manner.  Conversely, if you approach someone and say something that can’t actually help that person, why say it at all?  Are you perhaps a nutritionist and a fitness addict? You look at the majority of bodybuilders in America…that’s actually considered to be overweight, too.  From the people watching American Football games in the stands, to the players on the field…I could go so far to say 70-80% of the people in the stadiums, including the players, are overweight or obese.

Be the change.  If you want to help someone, do it.  If you’re going to tell someone that they’re skinny or fat, you’ve got your own insecurities to clean up.

I love what happened with Lisa Nichols on the Steve Harvey show.  One time and audience member asked Lisa, “what can I do to lose weight?” At the time, Lisa was considered overweight and said, “listen, I can give you any information on that because look at me.” Steve Harvey looked at her and said, “omg, what are you doing?” However, Lisa said, “how about this….let’s walk every morning and talk to each other on this particular day.”  And they did so.

That’s what you can do.