Ramble of Positivity: Episode 030 – Kicking off The New Year on Fire

First and foremost, the majority of you need to understand how to be grateful. When I do this particular podcast, I love to outline just how to do that, so here it is!

Actionable Steps

Give me a list of 5 things you’re especially grateful for — unattached to money.

Give two people compliments throughout your day without being told to do it.

How can you develop a positive mental attitude?

From the beginning of last year, I started developing my mind rigorously — day-in and day-out. For most of you out there, development in general is something of the past. Some of you aren’t even into personal development, and you’ll be doing the same things (if you haven’t already started) this year just like you were doing last year. Same people, same irresponsibility, same habits, same everything. You have to train your mind, and it’s one of the most difficult things to do.

I recall going to Australia back in 2017 and a friend told me, “you’ve changed. You mention being black and you have a thing against caucasians like I’ve never seen before.”

Still carrying the weight of how society, as a whole, has treated me in this country….I was still a victim. In order to escape victimhood, you have to to hone in and own up to everything that has ever happened to you. The University of Hardknocks loves giving out degrees to just about everyone in the world; regardless of race, creed, color, religion, etc.

At the beginning of last year, and as desperate as I was, I came across Napoleon Hill’s Positive Mental Attitude and that was the beginning of the change.

From actionable steps, to habits….you have to train your mind. I’m done with the “I will” and I love “I’m going to” more…because that’s a plan. Will is in the future and will forever be in the future.

  • I’m so unbelievably grateful that I’m living in an age where ample opportunity is everywhere.
  • I’m very thankful for the support group I’ve created that constantly gives me feedback.
  • I’m proud of the fact that I’ve been able to develop my mind to the point that I get amazing ideas to improve my business and give back to the society.
  • With all my heart, thank you for the process last year….a process which was so desperately needed.

Listen to “Ramble of Positivity: Episode 030 – Kicking off The New Year on Fire” on Spreaker.

Physical Environment: Goals for 2019!

I was on the fence back in 2017.  I wasn’t sure if I was going to take a long journey to South America, or wait it out and see how it played out in Thailand.  Nonetheless, I was a scared child — AGAIN! I wasn’t sure what was going to happen next.  I’m so grateful I stuck things through and battled out a very toxic old job.  Now? Well let’s somewhat review what has happened.

I think I worked at about 6-8 places.  One physical environment, a potential employer that interviewed me (and pressured me to hurry and get a visa) had a stench to it.  I trusted my instincts and bombed everything at the end.

Of course I’ve mentioned the wheel of life on so many occasions already, but what I will do is talk about how bad my physical environment was suffering at the beginning of the year.  From detoxing from a terribly racist job, to almost accepting another terrible job.  I’m so fortunate and grateful that I went with my heart, and now my physical environment is about a 9.5.

However, the focus is you.

Ask yourself these questions.

  1. Am I content with my workplace? If I am, will it take me to the next level next year?
  2. If I’m not growing in my job, what steps can I take to look elsewhere?
  3. How’s my home life? Am I enjoying myself at home?
  4. Do I enjoy coming home at night? Is my neighborhood safe? Is there privacy and serenity where I live?

My condominium has been peace. Sure, there’s an annoying security lady who eavesdrop when I walk into the lobby and gives my students dirty looks “as if they’re prostitutes — that’s the Thai mentality — I suppose.” Other than that, it’s fantastic and I’m resigning a new contract.

How about my job? Well, after a few cold shoulders and misunderstandings, I’ve been working at this “primary” job for about 7 months already.  There are multiple branches of this place…and some places are not good AT ALL, but I’m fortunate to have landed at a great place to teach.  The money sucks, but it’s just a source of income that will be finished next year.  The other places I LOVE!!

So, it’s your turn…..

Listen to “Physical Environment: Goals for 2019!” on Spreaker.

Ramble of Positivity: Episode XXVI – Number Four + A Resounding Offer

Here I am in the middle of the check-in line, grateful as hell (although the following events will lead to a different podcast on self-control) because this is a record forth country this year alone.  Not only that, but an offer — here’s the story.

Back in 2016, I taught at a company in an industrial estate just north of where my previous job is.  This company got in contact with my company and decided to sign a deal whereas they would send teachers there to teach.   Let me give you a rundown of what my company (and others) do.

When marketing directors advertise a company to another company to promote their brand of learning English, they normally state a massive initial number in terms of the total course cost.  Hardly ever does it stay that number, but the number still remained quite steep.

Some of the companies would be massive Japanese teach companies like Toshiba, and even Austrian companies like Swarovski.  Anywho, The teach gets paid only a fraction of the total cost.

Let’s put it this way.  I got paid 22$ an hour to teach at a Japanese tech company, but the company profited somewhere between 100-300$ per hour.  This is one of the biggest problems because teachers are taken advantage of, but how can a teacher market himself? Let’s go deeper.

An ex student of mine contacted me via Facebook messenger and said, “excuse me, teacher.  How much would it cost ____________ to pay you to come back and teach here?”

Let me put this at a macro scale.

They didn’t call my old place of work back; or maybe they did and realized that I no longer worked there (a really high chance). Therefore, one of the students got into direct contact with me and asked me for my services.

Do you understand how powerful that is? I just took down a 9-year-old language center because of maybe my online persona, charisma, or maybe because I’m just a devoted individual when it comes to teaching and inspiring?

When I got that message, my jaw-dropped.  They didn’t call them; they called ME! They want MY services and they’re willing to pay me in FULL for the work I do.

See, guys, when you get to a stage in your life when you’re building such an incredible online persona, people will start getting in contact with YOU.  Remember, a headhunter recently contacted me that’s stationed outside Santiago, Chile.  I received another email from another guy about 12 hours later, and in the previous two months, and Indian tech company based in Delhi wanted me to teach there team in Bangkok.

It’s patience, people.  I was just in a state of oblivion and despair the first three months of this year because I was trying to break the chains of an old job while trying to search for new ones.  I was turned down by 6 different solo-job-applicants because the color of my skin; and another company disregarded all my emails after sending me six potential job suitors.

Create YOUR BRAND! Create YOUR PRICE! And NEVER give up when times get tough…because the breakthrough is on the verge!

Interviewee #12 – David Mauro – The Author Who Scaled Mt. Everest

Wow! Just a story that resonated with me so much.  This was definitely the most inspiring story I’ve ever heard in my life, and it almost reduced me to tears at one point.

This man, by the name of David Mauro, combatted a number of things in his early forties: divorce, death, plummeting job, etc.  There was a moment he was sitting on the bed in his room and said to some dolls, “I don’t need your f***ing pity!”  Something fell in the kitchen downstairs at the time of the echo, too.

He then went out on a journey to Alaska, most notably, Mt Denali.  This is where the journey OFFICIALLY began.

Each mountain he climbed on all seven continents represented a pillar of “destruction.” Meaning, every time he climbed a mountain, he had to face a problem from the past.  He went to Tanzania after Alaska, after getting approval from his girlfriend at the time, and set out on an expedition where he saw some of the most beautiful, yet lethal roses, thorns and animals on planet Earth — which had its own symbolism.

The part that made me realize a lot about my past (father) was his climb up Mt. Aconcagua in Argentina.  He said it was the worst.  Yes, even worse than Everest.  He had to face something that was lying dormant in his mind for years — his father left him.  At a young age, his father disappeared, but then reappeared when his wife (another) had left him and he had dementia.

As David was climbing this mountain, he began to hallucinate.  The hallucination was basically him seeing his father as a 7-year-old kid with dementia.  At that time, he reached out to his father and put his hand on his shoulder and said some words.  This correlated with the reality that his father, who had left him a long time ago, needed his help.  This hit one of the softest spots of me because I do believe that something is still underlying about my father leaving me when I was a kid.

The rest is in the podcast interview down below!

Ramble of Positivity: Episode XXIII – Wheels Up! Vacation In Malaysia Begins!

First and foremost, I just want to say thank you to everyone who’s listening to my podcasts in Albania, Latvia, Algeria, UK, USA, Germany, India, Russia, South Africa, Austria, Netherlands, Japan and so many other countries around the world.

I want to also say thank you to my ESL Podcast listeners worldwide who have made my podcast a massive hit in only two weeks time! Big thanks to Mexico, Turkey, USA (funny how folks in USA love my podcasts), and China!.

This is a time just to be grateful for all my hardships and success.  This day, April 13th, marks the day of the Songkran festival.  This is the Thai water festival where people celebrate by splashing others with water all up and down the streets, and across the nation as a whole.

For the last three years, on the other hand, I’ve been taking vacations.  I initially took these vacations because I wanted no part of Songkran after being gravely disrespected and seeing Indians racially spewed at by Thais back in 2015.  I said, “I’ll never celebrate this festival again for as long as I live.”

When April 2016 rolled around I went to Vietnam, meeting some of the most magnificent individuals who I still keep in contact with today.

2017 was a trip back home to Arizona and a Tough Mudder.

This year….Spartan Race!

You know, at the beginning of the year, it was pretty bleak.  It was a tough transition and very emotionally exhausting going from one job to another.  Having a slew of emails come into my email box which were threats from my previous employer and removing me as a teacher from multiple classes so he can stop the cash-flow from going into my bank account, was tough to deal with.

However, this is the day that my visa is officially cancelled with that old job, and this marks the beginning of a unbelievably exhilarating lifestyle that’s going to bring so many experiences into my life.

Guys, this morning I’m going to my favorite Southeast Asian country (Malaysia) for a Spartan Race, meeting with a new content writer who’s coming on board my website, and a wedding.  I mean this is probably marking the beginning of “2018.”  All the goals I’ve written down have now come into fruition, and I really can’t wait for the wheel of life episode to let you all know you can claim that life you’ve always wanted.

Oh, on this day is the beginning of what’s going to be the most unbelievable life I could’ve ever imagined.  All these aches and pains of what has happened over the last five years have come to rest, and now this is surely the beginning.

Welcome to my world.

Gary Vee: Authenticity

“I mentioned above that a good chunk of my audience is converts, people who thought I was just a blowhard until they realized that my message was consistent and that I kept being proven right. Even if people don’t like me, few ever doubt that I’m for real. There are three things working to my advantage in this regard: number one, I genuinely don’t give a shit what people think, which allows me complete freedom to do and say what I want; number two, I care immensely what everyone thinks and will spend an insane amount of time responding to skeptics who take the time to tweet or comment their criticism, to help them see where I’m coming from; and number three, which might be more important than numbers one or two, I always respect my audience. I believe in people’s intuition, and I believe that most are very good at sniffing out hypocrisy and opportunism. ”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

I’m one of those people.  I remember seeing him (Gary Vee) sitting in front of a camera, interrupting every word Tony Robbins was trying to say.  I didn’t know exactly who he was, but I was actually there only for Tony Robbins.  Me, being from a world where people don’t interrupt other people, didn’t take it lightly (like most other people).  What did I do? Stopped watching him for a while until I saw another video of his, pleading to the camera about hustling and a few other things.  He then grew on me after his interview with Tom Bilyeau’s Impact Theory and hearing what he was saying.  All of it was factual.

Gary’s number one, which is not giving a s*** about what people think, is spot on.

Here in Thailand (having a restrictively comical culture), people are constantly worried about what “they” may be thinking.  I would walk into the store like a teacher and get treated like a 10th class citizen back in 2014.

Fast-forwarding it to present day, I run up and down the streets near gorgeous office women, rapping and singing to give myself that extra motivation and push.  Do I give a damn? No.

I am creating a brand, a big brand that’s going to take over extremely soon….and the best part about it is regardless of who I am in this country, I’m still “color.” So the best part of all of this is knowing that I’m non-existent in this country, but worldwide known.  There’s nothing I can do in public that’s going to taint who I am – and that’s so rewarding to know.

For my magnificent beings who are reading this around the world, I care about everything you’re probably thinking and saying (although I haven’t raised the temporary restriction on comments because of a spambot), but because what I’m saying is so true, that basically shows that the majority of what I’m saying is indeed – true.  The truth always trumps.

Gary Vee tweets back at the naysayers and the peasants to spew mono-syllabic phrases to destroy one’s dignity and ego.  I remember engaging in a senseless battle back in 2016 with an African American girl about what I’ve been through on a “Is Japan Racist” video.  The funniest part about it is although she was African American, she became absolutely incensed about something and all I remember her saying was, “get off your high-horse.”  I laughed and said, “excuse me, you’re wasting my time. Goodbye.”  Then a Chinese girl said something super ignorant in regards to people of color and I hurried to block them all, leaving them in shambles and their tears while I scratched my head and said, “wtf were you thinking?”

Yeah, those moments make no sense.  A story, which I’ll be talking about real soon, revolves around one of my proud fans and listeners…..I’ll leave it at that.  Tune back in April 1st (lol).

And just like his number three, I, too, respect my audience.  I love the fact that people from Central Asia, Middle-East and Africa are tuning in.  It’s fascinating.  I have wonderful muslim listeners, Africans, Anglo-Americans….etc etc.  I repeat at least once on my podcast that all of them, regardless of religion, creed, or color, are part of my tribe.

“All it takes is a single viral video of a customer getting forcibly dragged off a plane to expose a company’s crooked policies. When you disrespect your customer, you’re one social-media post away from having your whole business tumble down around you. I have no interest in taking that kind of risk, and neither should you.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/crushing-it/id1229850109?mt=11

And this was ultimately the fall of United Airlines.  All it took, in the age of social media, was someone to record the abuse being given from police officers to completely discredit an airline and watch their overall shares drop dramatically over the next week.

Just know that all it takes is a comment, of any kind, being hurled at a no-face troll, which can ultimately take you down and keep you down.  Don’t be that person.

Podcast

Final Book Review: Dale Carnegie’s How To Stop Worrying & Start Living + Podcasts

Ladies & gents, we have reached our last podcast and full review of one of the most awe-inspiring and life-transforming books in the market.  The best kept secret.  A book that was written over 70 years ago has changed the way I approach situations now.  For those of you who have followed me podcast-by-podcast on this extraordinarily long journey, special thanks to all of you! This is the end, and for those of you who are just tuning in, here are my favorite fundamentals + podcasts!

Principle #1 – Live In “Day-Tight Compartments”

“Our main business is not to se what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” – Thomas Carlyle

It’s funny I put that quote because at the time, I was in a relationship.  A relationship whereas we weren’t very sure about the future.  Writing this now that relationship ended, but the both of us did so in an agreement since she’s moving abroad to study piano pedagogy and my future is here in Asia.  She listened to this particular podcast down below and asked me at the gym, “I think we should live in day-tight compartments and stop worrying about the what if.” That what if did become reality, but we’re venturing out on magnificent journeys now.

Principle #3 – What Worry May Do To You 

There was a study done years ago on 15,000 patients which were treated for stomach disorders at the Mayo Clinic.  Four out of five patients had no physical basis whatever for their stomach illnesses.  Fear, worry, hate, selfishness, and the inability to adjust themselves to the world of reality were largely the causes of their stomach illnesses.

Principle #7 – Don’t Let The Beetles Get You Down

Back in 1945, under 276 feet of water, a Japanese mine layer began dropping depth charges on us.  Six depth charges exploded all around us and pushed us down to the ocean floor – a depth of 276 feet.  We were terrified.  To be attacked in less than a thousand feet of water is dangerous – less than five hundred is almost fatal.  And we were being attacked in more than half of five hundred feet of water.  For fifteen hours, bombs went off relentlessly until the mine layer exhausted its supply of charges.  My life was passed by me in review.  I remembered all of the bad things I’ve done as a child.  From my wife nagging at me, to my boss complaining at a job I absolutely hated.  I was worried when I got a scar on my forehead – a nasty cut from an auto accident.

Funny how big all those worries seemed years ago! I promised myself then and there if I ever saw the sun and the stars again, I would never, never worry again. NEVER!

Principle #8 – A Law That Will Outlaw Many of Your Worries

From Bangkok-Phuket, and from Honolulu-Maui, I’ve been apart of some of the scariest plane rides imaginable that literally “up the ante” on how scared I was of flying.

When I was a child, I saw the planes hit the towers.  5 years later, I got on my first ever plane ride from Las Vegas to Phoenix to check out a college and boy, I was in tears while my friend slept.  What am I trying to say, the averages of a plane going down, especially in America, is unbelievably minute.

Principle #10 – Put A “Stop-loss” Order On Your Worries

Two years ago, I had two friends: Mook and Ploy.  These two individuals were notorious for showing up hours late, and I would just sit there, looking like a clown, as if they were actually going to show up.

Two years later I came across this particular chapter and said, “man, if only I had known this at the time! I would’ve given them a 10 minute grace period before taking off instead of hanging around for an hour!”

Principle #16 – Find Yourself and Be Yourself: Remember, There Is No One Else On Earth Like You

Your hair, freckles, weight, color, height, gender, nationality….doesn’t matter.  These are all labels that society has given us.  However, there will never be another Arsenio Buck, and there will never be another YOU! Yes, the reader of this blog….so you have one life, and I dare you to go roaring in the dying of the light ‘Dylan Thomas Quote.”

Another notable podcasts to listen to

  • Don’t Try To Saw Sawdust
  • Eight Words That Can Transform Your Life
  • The High Cost of Getting Even
  • If You Do This, You Will Never Worry About Ingratitude
  • If You Have A Lemon, Make Lemonade
  • How To Cure Depression In Fourteen Days
  • Remember That No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog
  • How To Add One Hour A Day To Your Waking Life
  • What Makes You Tired
  • How To Banish Boredom

And that’s it, folks! This has been a stellar ride filled with ups and downs and lots of chatter. I want to thank you guys so much for staying with me and remember, like it and share it if you find it valuable.

Next Book: Dale Carnegie’s How To Influence And Win People

STAY TUNED!

Chief Factors Which Enter Into The Development of An Attractive Personality

First: Form the habit of interesting yourself in other people; and make it your business to find their good qualities and speak of them in terms of praise.

Second: Develop the ability to speak with force and conviction, both in your ordinary conversational tones and before public gatherings, where you must use more volume.

Third: Clothes yourself in a style that is becoming to your physical build and the work in which you are engaged.

Fourth: Develop a positive character, through the aid of the formula outlined in this lesson.

Fifth: Learn how to shake hands so that you express warmth of feeling and enthusiasm through this form of greeting.

Sixth: Attract the people to you by first :attracting yourself” to them.

Seventh: Remember that your only limitation, within reason, is the one which YOU set up in YOUR OWN mind.

  • If you will cultivate those finer thoughts, and feelings, and actions, out of which a positive character is built, and then learn to express yourself with force and conviction, you will have developed an attractive personality.
  • There is a great power of attraction back of the person who has a positive character, and this power expresses itself through unseen as well as visible sources.
  • Every “shady” transaction in which you engage, every negative thought that you think, and every destructive act in which you indulge, destroys just so much of that “subtle something” within you that is known as character.

For example, I do my banking here in Thailand with KTB, not because it’s the closest, but because the tellers, cashiers, and even people working the door are unbelievably charismatic.

I always eat pizza at a restaurant called wine connection, not only because the pizza is delicious, but because the waiters and waitresses are amazing with service.

The people who I engage with throughout my daily life I’m attracted to because their personalities, character, and charisma is rare.

A Simple Way To Make A First Good Impression

Walking up to everyone, smiling before shaking their hand.  You will be remembered, why? The emotional reaction behind it.

Lily Singh, who’s a prominent Indian-American youtuber, mentioned Jimmy Kimmel in a chapter of her new book titled, “shake what your momma gave you.”

Jimmy began laughing in confusion as to why he was in that specific chapter, given the fact that his hips are definitely a big lie (lol).  Lily retorted by saying he has a tremendous character.  One day, both of them walked into a room somewhere in Hollywood and although everyone had already known who Jimmy Kimmel was, he still walked up to every single person in that room and shook their hand.  That’s a man with class.

Have you ever had a terrible day and then you saw yourself staring at a baby who was in pure joy? This baby ends up establishing a connection with you and either they will stare at you ominously (like in Thailand LOL), or they will smile at you.

There was a day I was walking out of my favorite restaurant (Wine Connection) and this child literally ran right up to me and hugged my leg with a big smile.  I poked his stomach and he nudged at me.  I walked a meter before seeing his parents smiling at me — BOOM! My day was made!  Children have the personality of a dog essentially……huh? Arsenio, what the hell are you talking about?

Think about it…..what other things do you see on the planet that makes you smile instantaneously? Babies and dogs….why? They have nothing to complain or worry about.

Professor James V. McConnell, a psychologist at the University of Michigan, expressed his feelings about a smile. “People who smile,” he said, “tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a smile than a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment.

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then what? Two things. First, force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy. Here is the way the psychologist and philosopher William James put it:”

“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12362134

Conditioning The Mind

“The mind doesn’t know anything about age, your subconscious mind knows nothing about time and space.  And so, I am hanging around young people all the time and I operate like they do.  I don’t think of myself as being old.” – Bob Proctor

That’s how powerful the mind is.  I want you think way back when people had to take ships from one continent to another.  The Berlin Olympics was a prime example of how far the athlete had to go physically to obtain rewards.  Now, or just in the last couple of decades, the Concorde was developed, which was an aircraft that can get from New York to London in three hours.  The mind created that.  You can go so far to say, “oh, well academics created that.” Well, we created academics.  What was before schooling?

Let’s think about conditioning the mind.  If you say, “I’m getting fatter, shorter, older, uglier.” You feel all of those feelings that relate to those comparative adjectives, right? Feeling of depression, stress, sadness – you name it.

Conversely, if you say the opposite and think the opposite by reaffirming positive thoughts, you will believe it.  You will believe anything you feed your subconscious mind.

I told myself that I was “black” my entire life because society labeled me that way.  Coming over here to Thailand, where labelling is taken to the extreme, I started to feel 10x worse here than I did in America until I did away with the societal perception.

I can go back to when I first watched the secret in 2007 and tell you that I started to believe that I can control my life.  Yes, I can control what was going on outside of me.  When the experimental stages were ongoing, I realized that I can save money, go on trips, see beautiful countries and stop using my childhood blueprint of “not having enough” as an excuse.

A lot of people would say, “what about the poor people in Africa? Bangladesh? Parts of Southeast Asia? What about those paces.”  Well, when you’re born into poverty, you don’t know what life is outside of it.  You’re born into the “not-enoughedness.” You don’t have the resources (not educationally speaking, either), to escape that lifestyle because you don’t know anything beyond those barriers.”

Look at the Southside of Chicago, for instance.  This is a place of desolation and hooliganism, killing each other nightly. Where at? AMERICA! African American children not knowing the difference between right and wrong.  Why? Their minds were conditioned at the very beginning when they were born into those impoverished neighborhoods.  Mom & dad were out participating in the worst of activities while they were getting bullied at school until that one day….someone came to rescue.  Someone who is/was gang affiliated.  There’s no other reality.  The outlook is as drab as it gets….but how come Serena & Venus Williams were born in the heart of Compton whereas they had to jump on the Tennis courts, ducking bullets that were being shot by rival gangs?

It’s all about conditioning the mind.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12068050