Stephen Covey: The 7 Low-Trust Organizational Taxes – Politics & Disengagement

In an organization, “politics” is defined as the use of tactics and strategy to gain power. Office politics divide a culture against itself by creating conflict with what author Lawrence MacGregor Serven calls the “enemy within” instead of the enemy without.

Office politics generate behaviors such as withholding information, infighting, trying to “read the tea leaves,” operating with hidden agendas, behaviors result in all kinds of wasted time, talent, energy, and money. In addition, they poison company cultures, derail strategies, and sabotage initiatives, relationships, and careers. The indirect costs related to office politics are estimated at 100 billion per year; some observers put them substantially higher.

Stephen Covey

Remember the story I had told you guys about a colleague by the name of Hubert? Yeah, met him for the first time, worked alongside him, and then I was bit by him, the venomous snake. Why would I call him a snake? Simply because he was the one who stopped taking a taxi with me to a company (lightyears away) so he can cut costs for himself. This was infuriating beyond belief, and I told my boss about his insidious agenda and to never allow him to come inside “this” language center. Of course, I was ignored, he came in and wreaked havoc for several months, creating division and gossip around the office. He finally had quit after trying to get me fired because I had podcasts that called out teachers that “fit the profile,” but this type of malice should’ve never stepped foot inside. Give a man one foot, he’ll soon push the door open and let himself in.

Disengagement

Disengagement is what happens when people continue to work at a company, but have effectively quit (commonly referred to as “quit and stay”). They put in what effort they must to get their paycheck and not get fired, but they’re not giving their talent, creativity, energy, or passion. Their bodies are there, but not their hearts or their minds. There are many reasons for disengagement, but one of the biggest reasons is that people simply don’t feel trusted.

Following the end of my teaching career at a particular place that I had been working at for 3.5 years, I lost my energy, passion, and everything for the job. I would say things to my students that would get me in trouble in the long term. I would shrug my shoulders and not do the mundane tasks. It’s almost as if I put a bullseye on my back everyday and wanted them to take me out, and they did. I had been disengaged from teaching at that place for months (since the dawn of the New Years) and I shouldn’t have stayed past 2016 (always leave when you’re at the peak — which sounds crazy). However, I did….and when one of our best salespeople left, along with a forcible firing of a great head teacher, cancer began spreading rapidly throughout the office and forced the best teachers out….to the most amazing journeys of life.

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Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: Special – IELTS – Improving Fluency & Coherence

Welcome back, my students of the world! It’s time to go over two criteria that the examiner will assess you on in terms of speaking: Coherence & Fluency.

The notes that I recently showed you in the last live coaching will help you organize your ideas in a logical way.

One way to link your ideas is by using words and phrases like after, that, because of this, but, also, etc. We can also connect ideas using pronouns.

Tactic: It is important to use a variety of language.  Don’t REPEAT! I can’t stress this enough.

  • Think about the topic
  • Organize your ideas (improve your coherence).
  • Keep going during your talk (improve your fluency).

Task 2

Describe a person who has been an important influence in your life.

You should say…..

  • who this person is and how long you have known him or her for
  • why you chose this person
  • how this person has influenced your life

and explain how you feel about him or her.

Typical Notes

Who and how long? Les Brown/70 years old/speaker and transformational coach/lives in America/never met him.

Why I chose him: inspired me to get out of my rut in Thailand, made goals, learned about personal development, transformed my life completely.

How he has influenced my life taught me how to keep going/ stop becoming a victim/ don’t give up/ passion in what I do.

My feelings grateful/admiration/proud

Some things to think about. 

When you make notes, how do you write them? List? Scattered? Mindmap? Do you write single words? Long phrases? Whole sentences?

Idea connecting phrases

  • I’ve decided to talk about….
  • I’ve known him/her…
  • I chose him/her because/……
  • I think she/he has influenced my life by…..
  • When I think of him/her, I feel…….

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IELTS Live Coaching PDF – Episode 003

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The Speed of Trust: Season 4 – Episode 1 -Low/High Trust Relationships

So, before we get into the basis of it all, let’s first try outline some of the frustrations we have on a daily basis.

  • I can’t stand the politics at work.  I feel sabotaged by my peers.  It seems like everyone is out for himself and will do anything to get ahead. 

  • I’ve really been burned in the past.  How can I ever trust anyone enough to have a real relationship?

  • I work in an organization that’s bogged down with bureaucracy.  It takes forever to get anything done.  I have to get authorization to buy a pencil!

  • The older my children get, the less they listen to me.  What can I do?

  • I feel like my contributions at work are hardly ever recognized or valued.  

  • I foolishly violated the trust of someone who was supremely important to me.  If I could hit “rewind” and make the decision differently, I would do it in a heartbeat. But I can’t.  Will I ever be able to rebuild the relationship?

  • I have to walk on eggshells at work.  If I say what I really think, I’ll get fired…or at least made irrelevant. 

  • My boss micromanages me and everyone else at work.  He treats us all like we can’t be trusted. 

  • With all the scandals, corruption, and ethical violations in our society today, I feel like someone has pulled the rug out from under me.  I don’t know what — or who — to trust anymore.  

In all of these situations, you CAN do something.  Look, you’ve heard the storm on a number of occasions in terms of what happened between my family and I.  I was the bigger man and decided to message my mother a couple years later.  Did she show any signs of gratitude when she got a message from me? No.  Furthermore, I messaged the siblings, whose relationships are beyond dilapidation, and there was no remorse.  There’s no way they can instill trust in me again and they would much rather have a bulk of anger.  That’s a decision that they will have to live with for the rest of their lives.  I TRIED doing something, but it takes two to tango at times.

SImply put, trust means confidence.  The opposite of trust is distrust and suspicious.

I want you to think right now of someone who you have a high-trust relationship with — perhaps a boss, coworker, parent, sibling, best friend.  What’s it like? How does it feel? How well do you communicate with them? How quickly can you get things done? How much do you enjoy this relationship?

Now

Think of a person with whom you have a low-trust relationship.  Again, it could be any of the nouns above.  How does it feel? How is the communication? Does it flow quickly and freely? Or do you feel like you’re constantly walking on landmines and being misunderstood? Do you enjoy this relationship? Or do you find it draining?

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Could Humanity Share The Same Vision And Coexist With One Another?

Children of all sizes, color, ages, religions, and backgrounds shared a common area in what I was observing just two days ago.  I saw students sharing the same laughs, doing the same things, and speaking the same way without any hateful rhetoric.

How come they understand but the rest of the world doesn’t?

I’m going to deep-dive (my new favorite word) into what could possibly work in terms of ASEAN countries (Indonesia, Philippines, Thailand, Myanmar, Malaysia, Singapore, Brunei, Vietnam, Cambodia, & Laos) accepting each other for who they are and living amongst each other.

First and foremost, I respect what Angelina Jolie and Praya Lundberg are doing in terms of working with the United Nations.  They could be huge activists in pushing what this could be.

If you look at the countries I listed above, could an organisation be developed so that students from different countries can study in other countries?

I’m not talking about agencies who are after the pockets of beings, I’m talking about the governments of all countries choosing a good 1,000 of their highest, most prestigious achievers (or even those with learning disabilities – doesn’t matter) to get a plane ticket and go to another school that works in accordance with the organization?

How about getting schools to work with one another in a collaborative effort (non-international) to send students to and from their schools?

See, these little things – brainstorming ways you could blend with other cultures and coexist could make a massive difference in your town, community, school, state, country, and world.

What I saw just a couple of days ago restored my faith in humanity and gave me a vast array of ideas that could help benefit society.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11299867

Jack Canfield – Mastermind Your Way To Success

“When two or more people coordinate in a spirit of harmony and work toward a definite objective or purpose, they place themselves in position, through the alliance, to absorb power directly from the great storehouse of Infinite Intelligence.” – Napoleon Hill

He wrote that in his book “the law of success” and I still remember the exact page and time when i read it.  Why? Two heads are always better than one, right?  When it comes to problem solving or creating a result.

This process is called masterminding.

Napoleon Hill wrote about this in 1937 about the world’s richest industrialists who harnessed their power together to former a mastermind group.

Andrew Carnegie had a mastermind group.

Harris Ford did, too. Ford would actually mastermind with other brilliant thinkers such as Thomas Edison and Harvey Firestone at their winter mansions in Fort Myers, Florida.

It’s the universal power.  The infinite intelligence.  When a mastermind group, of any sort, is working in perfect harmony, the vibrational frequency is unmatched.  This actually happened to me the for the first time just speaking with a samaritan at 24-hour fitness in Las Vegas.  Eli and I were talking exactly about the laws of the universe, and after the conversation, I remember driving home electrified.  The energy within me probably could’ve been seen illuminating and I’ve never had that overwhelming feeling of joy and bliss before at that time.  I knew then that something special had taken place.

The basic philosophy of this is basically anything that could be achieved in less time.  These people would come together weekly, biweekly, or monthly – to share ideas, thoughts, information, feedback, contact, and resources.

This group can be composed of people all drawn from your own profession, or composed of people from a variety of walks of life.  It could be a focus on business issues or personal issues, or even both.

In my podcast, I talk more about how to assemble a mastermind group, what the ideal size is, and conducting a mastermind meeting – not to mention having an accountability partner. So, if you’re interested in forming this specific group, listen to my podcast down below.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9273105

Jack Canfield – Build A Powerful Support Team & Delegate To Them

The ascent of Everest was not the work of one day, nor even of those few unforgettable weeks in which we climbed….it is, in fact, a tale of sustained and tenacious endeavour by many, over a long period of time.  Sir John Hunt *Scaled Mount Everest in 1953*

Listen, in order to become a high achiever, you’re going to need a powerful supporting cast.  That group of staff members, consultants, vendors, and helpers who do the bulk of the work while he or she is available to create new opportunities.

Just recently I had one of my students create and resize some photos for me on photo shop because I’m not that technically savvy.  Yes, I could’ve learned myself, but if it’s easy to delegate tasks for very cheap, why not?

The Total Focus Process

There’s an excellent process in Jack Canfield’s ‘The Success Principles Book” which helps provide you with clarity in terms of how you should be spending your time, and what you should be delegating to others.

  1. Start by listing those activities that occupy your time. They could be business-related, personal, volunteer work, even things like filing and photocopying.
  2. Next, choose from the list the 1-3 that you’re very good at and that needs your special unique talents that very few people have.  These activities that you’re very god at and that generate the most income are the ones you want to spend the most time on.
  3. Finally, create a plan for delegating everything else to other people.

Another great example is since I’m a teacher, I have a lot of clothes.  I’m not going to spend 3-4 hours one evening washing 9 suits, 20 shirts and pants, etc when I can easily delegate that to the lady down the road for 2-5$ every two weeks.

The Need For Personal Advisors

Too many business owners don’t even have an accountant.  They run their entire business program; however, there aren’t any experts at hand checking the numbers.

For instance, I had a student who became an accountant at a prestigious firm and saw that employees were stealing hundreds of thousands of baths over the course of 5-10 years.  When you run a business, you need to also have people who can keep close tabs on numbers because once assets start disappearing, you have to be 100% responsible and take on the task yourself.  Or, you can pay and have one accountant do the bulk of that dirty work.

Once You’ve Chosen Your Team Members, Trust Them

A great story is one by Raymond Aaron.  He was selling his home to move into an apartment, so he delegated an entire project to his assistant. He told her to find a specific flat. “Find it, negotiate the lease, and bring me the contract to sign,” he said. “Then hire a moving van, get a check from my office to pay the movers, pack up the fragile items, supervise the movers, and drive behind them to my new home.” He even had her hire an advance cleaning crew and arrange a handful of other things.

Where did he meet her? On vacation!

What could a virtual assistant or virtual freelancer do for you? Write up speeches? Reports? Create a radio commercial? Develop a YouTube video?

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9211557