Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | Habit #2 | Begin with The End in Mind

We’re back with Habit #2 with the self-scoring habits. It’s been a while, but over the next few days, I want you guys to score yourself, down below, on a scale 1-6….where you are.

  1. I know what I want to accomplish in my life.
  2. I organize and prepare in a way that reduces having to work in a crisis mode.
  3. I begin each week with a clear plan of what I desire to accomplish.

So, I know exactly what I want to accomplish in life, but I did know the “how to.” I know I’ve said before that “the how to” is none of your business, but figuring out achievable steps is unbelievably important.

So, organizing and preparing in a way that reduces having to work in crisis mode I scored very low on because my creativity had gone up with Bangkok shut down at the dawn of the New Year. Getting the message “sorry, all tutorial centers are shut down,” was not good AT ALL. But then I doubled-down on what I could do to put myself in a position to win. However, if I started my day with that same urgency without needing a shutdown to motivate me, everything would’ve changed.

And the last one, beginning with a clear plan each week, is not what I have either. However, I do have monthly targets in terms of goal-setting and targets that could be achieved.

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The End of The Most Purposeful Relationship EVER!

This is going to be a long story, so brace yourself.

At the beginning of the lockdown, a friendship was born. Having already met this transformation coach last year through a mutual friend, she took me on a journey of renewal by doing a transformation program, life coaching, and healing sessions. 

This changed everything about who I am in the best possible way, and most importantly, it gave my inner child a voice again. 

This voice allowed me to have those tough/difficult conversations. 

When July had rolled around, I sensed the egoism coming from this individual because now she was doing work for a famous monk by the name of Jay Shetty. Working in his company, she began to cancel appointments, use condescending tones while speaking to me and about others, and really had a “I don’t give a f*** attitude.” 

There were a number of times I just wanted to get away from this individual, but of course Instagram is the main culprit in laying things to rest. 

I have a lot of people who follow/unfollow me, and after checking who unfollowed me this morning, it was her!

Sometimes we clutch onto things that should no longer be. Sometimes we’re scared of these moments actually happening because we don’t value our own dignity and self-worth. You know the purpose had been fulfilled with that particular someone coming into your life to take you to the next level, but you want to keep pursuing a friendship. The problem is, when egoism comes into play, you can either confront it, or just let things be. 

I labeled this my “purposeful” relationship because after everything had been handled in early August, the energy had shifted and took a turn. There was no more empathy and rather ambiguous exchanges. 

Gratitude, is what’s pouring from my heart because I’m grateful to have had such a purposeful relationship that opened the doors for me to bet on me. You should do the same. Stop pursuing things that have ended months/years ago and be an observer to what’s trying to emerge! 

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review – 2020 | Personal Development & Meta-questions

Personal Development score of 2020 is here, but it’s a little different from the 2017, 18, and 19 blog. I made this as actionable as possible for all of you who are looking for NLP style questions to navigate you into the unknown. The place that once you figure out the problem and identify it, then you can begin the process. This is the promise!

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | P/PC Balance

Here’s another great assessment for you to do to figure out if you have balance. Again, is work-life balance a myth? NOPE! It’s entirely up to you to be able to put your schedule together, to clear time out for loved ones, etc.

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review | Family & Friends

I think the greatest achievement in my life was to finally let go of my family.  The forgiveness and set in and because of so much internal work, the relationship with my mother has officially changed and the conversations between her and I have become more evident.  As for the others in my family, I’ve finally accepted that there’s no reason to prolong the inevitable, and by overcoming this, the relationships in my life are truly magnificent.

What do I mean by this? Well, because I did so much Chakra and inner work with Mira, producing a crazy amount of high-lows between June and September, the energy between my mother and I changed because of forgiveness. However, in the process, my youngest sister, who I hadn’t spoken to in four years, deleted me from Facebook. When it happened, I was truly fulfilled because I finally accepted that there’s no reason for us to front and act like you do want to speak to me. If deleting me from Facebook gives you true joy and fulfillment, please do. If that’s the only way to become content in life, I wish you the best. And when I did that and released it to the universe, I finally said to myself “I can finally be at peace with my siblings and wish them the best in their life.”

In the process, I don’t want to hear anything. Even when tragedy strikes in years to come, it’s none of my business. Just because tragedy comes, I don’t want to be notified then because I was never notified during the highs. You were never there for me to begin with. I meditate and hope that the universe brings you joy…and that’s all I can do.

When I finally let go of the resent of my family, those who didn’t understand left and the only one who stuck around was my mother. Now, she comments weekly on my posts. This is the most she’s written all year, and it has come in the last several months. Now I’m at true peace.

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Happy Thanksgiving | The Most Purposeful Relationship of My Life

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! I’m going to take my time today to reevaluate a relationship that came and went this year — but it was the life-defining relationship that really cleared my subconscious and made me bet on myself for once in my life. 

There are three types of relationships:

  • Life-giving
  • Life-time
  • Purposeful

With purposeful relationships, these are ones that are placed in your life to achieve a purpose, and once they do, they will forever change. They don’t necessarily end, but the energy goes dormant. Here’s one of them!

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Wheel of Life | November 2020 Edition | The Self-Renewal Journey = Achieved!

A day before Thanksgiving, I can honestly say that I’m more level-headed than I’ve ever been in my life. In harmony. In oneness. In a space that I’ve never been before with complete contentment and acceptance. This has been the wildest year of my life, and I honestly believe that now I’m vibrationally ready for when everything returns back to normal.

In this podcast, you will rate yourself on a scale 1-10, 1 being negligient and 10 being completely fulfilled — in the following categories.

  • Personal development
  • physical environment
  • health
  • wealth
  • career
  • family and friends
  • fun and hobbies
  • romantic relationships

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The #1 Thing: Be Congruent

Practice 2: Be Congruent
At some point—often a major moment in their lives—high performers took control, defined who they wanted to be, and started living in accordance with that self-image. They shaped their identity by conscious will and have aligned their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to support that identity.


Performance Prompts

  1. The person I really want to be in life could be described as . . .
  2. Three things I could do each week to live more congruently with that vision for myself
    include . . .
  3. Three things I should definitely stop doing in my life so I can live in greater congruence
    with my ideal image of myself are . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: Neglect

Trap 3: Beware Neglect

It’s easy to neglect the important people and things in our lives when we get overcommitted or overreach. Perhaps that’s why this is one of the most important chapters in the book. Read it twice. Trust me. No one wants to wake up and realize they took their eye off what matters.

Performance Prompts

  1. An area where I am neglecting someone or something important in my life is . . .

Being true to my commitments, would be mine. But how about you? Someone you consistently put off who you love?

  1. An area where that neglect will cause me regret later on is . . .
  1. An area where I can return my focus, reallocating my attention to things that matter, is…
  2. Some areas in my life where I feel overcommitted right now are . . .
  3. The things I need to learn to say no to more often are . . .
  4. An opportunity I really want to chase right now that I could schedule to revisit in few
    months is . . .
  5. The main things moving the needle toward my success that I should be focused on right
    now, despite all the other exciting interests and opportunities I could chase, are . . .
  6. The way I’ll remind myself not to take on too much is . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: Dissatisfaction

Trap 2: Beware Dissatisfaction
Do not listen to those who say, “Never be satisfied.” Satisfaction is something you should feel as you strive, not one day when all is perfect. Being satisfied, then, doesn’t mean “settling.” It simply means accepting and taking pleasure in what is. It’s allowing yourself to feel contentment whether or not a thing is complete or “perfect.” You have to reach yourself to feel fulfilled and enjoy the journey now.

These prompts will help.

  • The areas of my life I’ve felt consistently dissatisfied with include . . .

Think about personal development, health, wealth, career, fun & hobbies, family and friends, etc.

  • Some good things that have also happened in those areas include . . .

Look at the good side of these areas and ask yourself what has been learned. Again, if you’re dealing with year-long dissatisfaction on the job, it’s because it’s no longer providing meaning to you.

  • Something I can say to myself the next time I feel dissatisfied, to get me to notice the good things and continue moving forward, is . .

  • Someone who probably sees me dissatisfied more than I want them to is . . .

  • If I were going to inspire that person to believe you can enjoy life as you work hard and
    succeed, I would have to change these behaviors . . .

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