From top to bottom, this podcast has it all. I’m absolutely grateful to have met an amazing soul in Carla Trigo a couple of years ago — and I’m continuing to see the beautiful benefits that the relationship has brought, including the wondrous Suzanne. Born in Ireland, she has a story…a hell of a story of being a pharmacist…now turned holistic coach. Her story will blend with so many of yours out there from dealing with stress and anxiety, environmental factors, and even overall health and story-telling. You’re going to absolutely LOVE this personal development session!
Man, this was a gut punch. This is similar to the Wheel of Life, but normally with the Wheel of Life, I feel like I’m consistently on cloud 9. However, with this assessment, I realized that there are particular areas that I can be SO MUCH better in. This format will substitute the original Wheel of Life beginning next month, too!
Welcome to the second episode of transformation week! Rate yourself on a scale 1-10 and hear my scores in my podcast down below!
I regularly take care of myself so that I can feel my best. I want my overall physical and emotional health (my well-being) to be primed and optimized to make me feel energetic and strong each day. I strive to eat well, sleep well, and exercise so that I have the physical vibrancy and stamina to enjoy life and deal with its challenges and opportunities.
I keep a positive outlook and attitude. I’m cultivating a sense of joy and peace in my life so that I can experience positive emotions and relationships. I take care of myself by being mindful to the energy, focus, and emotions I really want to experience and generate in life.
If in a relationship: I feel a consistently deep, trusting, appreciative, soulful, loving connection with my significant other. I am patient, respectful, and attentive to my partner’s needs. If single: I live each day through my heart and demonstrate compassion and love for others.
I am present with my family. I am creating deep connection, fun and positive energy with the family members that I keep in contact with. It’s evident that I love my family and I’m doing my best for them. I try to forgive their mistakes and be compassionate with them.
My immediate social circle of friends brings connection, fun, and positive energy into my life. I seek out positive people and I do my very best to bring positive energy and real authenticity into all my relationships. I spend enough time with friends.
I feel clear, energized, and fulfilled by my work and contributions to the world. I believe my work or day’s effort adds real value and is a true reflection of my best efforts and contributions. I am truly engaged and excited by what I’m doing—it feels like a mission, calling, or purpose.
I plan special experiences—trips, adventures, nights out, time to connect or disconnect—so that I enjoy life. I give enough time to the things I love in life, including to my hobbies, interests, and non-work goals and adventures.
I feel connected to the present moment and vitally alive in my spirit. I am congruent with my beliefs and behaviors and I keep my faith and values at the forefront of my decisions and daily actions.
I am being responsible in how I spend my money. I’m saving money for my future. I’m learning the skills necessary to develop my ability to earn even more. I am happy with my lifestyle and allow myself to enjoy what I’ve built and earned.
I am curious and pay attention to the world around me so that I can learn new things. I ask questions. I seek to discover new things about myself and others. I have created a personalized curriculum for myself so that I can develop the skills needed to succeed.
I got the message just minutes before noon, “due to the recent COVID outbreak, the company isn’t allowing outsiders on the premises. We will resume activities on May 5th.”
It was a gut-check and an idea that was played with by a friend of mine. “What if they stop?” she said. “No way!”……I retorted. But they did. So now what?
Well, anticipating bad news, bad days, things that might trip you up throughout the day, or even news like this will help you navigate these FEAR storms. Myself? I went proactive and executed follow-ups. Hear how you can allow your best self to show up during stressful times.
Recall some moments, events, happenings in your life where you felt not so great—IN THE PAST and PRESENTLY. Weighed down, stuck, at a loss. Of course, there are spectrums of what “negative” feelings mean for each of us. That can range from getting a nasty comment on social media to your divorce, or from having your car towed to physical and emotional trauma—from slightly painful to serious impact. It’s up to you what you want to identify as “negative.” You don’t need to drill to the depths of your psyche unless you’re moved to go there. This can simply be about a few times when you just did not feel how you would have liked to in the particular situation.
As for the present negatives in your life, the simple and evocative question is: What are you tired of feeling? What feeling do you most certainly not want to be experiencing?
Refer to your What’s Not Working list.
Recall some moments, events, happenings in your life where you felt good—IN THE PAST and PRESENTLY. Joyful, alive, present, loving. What were you/are you doing where you felt/are feeling like your best self? Say . . . getting regular exercise, being in nature, learning about something you loved, spending time with your best friend. What memories and moments of your life helped/are helping you to experience joy and happiness?
Beside each instance, write down as specifically as possible, how you were/ are feeling.
The PERFECT way to condition your mind and start appreciating your day is by appreciating the beauty that happened throughout the day.
At the end of the day, take a notebook and run by these questions while feeling what happened throughout the day. You will be amazingly surprised by the things that you run over quickly that are unbelievably meaningful.
After a month-long series of individual Wheel of Life podcasts, I’m back again on the cusp of February, evaluating my past month. And let’s put it this way, I haven’t written this out in blog form, but it looks like the “superstitiously-American-saying-of-fuck-2020” has loopholed over to 2021; and I’ve embraced it!
Wealth – 10
I literally grabbed my adversary by the horns, picked it up and slammed it 5-feet deep. January 1st was the infamous announcement “we’re shutting down Bangkok — again, and we’re going to further fuck the economy up.” A very reactive way of approaching a dire, economical situation….shut down again and that’s the fall of the economy for at least two more decades. Zero fucks given — and of course, with the company I’m employed with right now, ZERO FUCKS GIVEN. Out of the 8 classes I have, 1 went online.
My old self would’ve said “omg! This is bad! I’m in trouble right now! I can’t believe it!
My new self: “ok, let’s be proactive.”
In the next two weeks, I got a new client online whom I hadn’t met going into January 1st, and I was able to secure a Thai client who agreed to pay a lump slump. In addition to that, I got a February client who will literally pay more than my monthly salary at my job that JUST-SO-HAPPENS-TO-BE shut down. Another student had renewed and I did have a couple of clients who were interested. So, I wrote down my financial target at the beginning of the month and I achieved one and I’m a 5th of the way with the other. Also, with this month, I’m not on the defense, but I’m on the attack because I’m now I’ve saved 25% of my new iPhone and a 6th of my new visa stipend which I had a CRAZY problem with last year.
I went from being reactive, such as what happened last year — to proactive, what’s happening now.
We’re back with Habit #2 with the self-scoring habits. It’s been a while, but over the next few days, I want you guys to score yourself, down below, on a scale 1-6….where you are.
I know what I want to accomplish in my life.
I organize and prepare in a way that reduces having to work in a crisis mode.
I begin each week with a clear plan of what I desire to accomplish.
So, I know exactly what I want to accomplish in life, but I did know the “how to.” I know I’ve said before that “the how to” is none of your business, but figuring out achievable steps is unbelievably important.
So, organizing and preparing in a way that reduces having to work in crisis mode I scored very low on because my creativity had gone up with Bangkok shut down at the dawn of the New Year. Getting the message “sorry, all tutorial centers are shut down,” was not good AT ALL. But then I doubled-down on what I could do to put myself in a position to win. However, if I started my day with that same urgency without needing a shutdown to motivate me, everything would’ve changed.
And the last one, beginning with a clear plan each week, is not what I have either. However, I do have monthly targets in terms of goal-setting and targets that could be achieved.
This is going to be a long story, so brace yourself.
At the beginning of the lockdown, a friendship was born. Having already met this transformation coach last year through a mutual friend, she took me on a journey of renewal by doing a transformation program, life coaching, and healing sessions.
This changed everything about who I am in the best possible way, and most importantly, it gave my inner child a voice again.
This voice allowed me to have those tough/difficult conversations.
When July had rolled around, I sensed the egoism coming from this individual because now she was doing work for a famous monk by the name of Jay Shetty. Working in his company, she began to cancel appointments, use condescending tones while speaking to me and about others, and really had a “I don’t give a f*** attitude.”
There were a number of times I just wanted to get away from this individual, but of course Instagram is the main culprit in laying things to rest.
I have a lot of people who follow/unfollow me, and after checking who unfollowed me this morning, it was her!
Sometimes we clutch onto things that should no longer be. Sometimes we’re scared of these moments actually happening because we don’t value our own dignity and self-worth. You know the purpose had been fulfilled with that particular someone coming into your life to take you to the next level, but you want to keep pursuing a friendship. The problem is, when egoism comes into play, you can either confront it, or just let things be.
I labeled this my “purposeful” relationship because after everything had been handled in early August, the energy had shifted and took a turn. There was no more empathy and rather ambiguous exchanges.
Gratitude, is what’s pouring from my heart because I’m grateful to have had such a purposeful relationship that opened the doors for me to bet on me. You should do the same. Stop pursuing things that have ended months/years ago and be an observer to what’s trying to emerge!
Personal Development score of 2020 is here, but it’s a little different from the 2017, 18, and 19 blog. I made this as actionable as possible for all of you who are looking for NLP style questions to navigate you into the unknown. The place that once you figure out the problem and identify it, then you can begin the process. This is the promise!
Here’s another great assessment for you to do to figure out if you have balance. Again, is work-life balance a myth? NOPE! It’s entirely up to you to be able to put your schedule together, to clear time out for loved ones, etc.