The Question to Ask Yourself In The Shower Every Morning…

What can I do today that will make me excited?

Just a couple days ago, I knew that I was going to wake up in the morning to go on my city-run. What is that? Well, first 1.5 km is quiet, with only a few passerbys and things to maneuver around. Once I get to the intersection, I cross over a skytrain bridge, make a left, and then it begins. I’m running on the road, weaving through people, rapping aloud and generating crazy energy. By the time I pass the two stations and hundreds of people, I have to go through a narrow passageway, cross another busy street, and go up Saphan Taksin Bridge, one of the biggest bridges in Bangkok. There’s no stopping there. There are tons of cars and people watching my crazy black ass run, so then I up the ante and power over Chao Phraya River. Once I reach the end, I go back down, and then there are even more people, more traffic, and more ways to generate energy. This continues until I go full speed ahead about 1.5 km later and finish off my run with onlookers looking at me in awe.

That — right there — makes me excited. Knowing that I have the ability to inspire people with my grimacing and willing to push myself to the physical limit.

This gets me excited.

Also, planting seeds in the morning. What does that mean? Well, if you plant a seed in soil and water it everyday, it will soon blossom, right? You’re not exactly sure when, but you know the time will come. This could be posting something in a Facebook group to generate more lead clients, having people come onto my podcast, connecting with people on LinkedIn or IG (both two very difficult places to do so), etc. I realized, and through all the books I’ve read, that I need to act on my worries. If I’m worried about money, there’s no use sitting there, worrying about it. I apply for jobs. Just yesterday, I found an awesome tutoring website in which I created an online profile for to become a tutor. Hundreds of students around the world looking for specific tutors to help them with particular subjects. Because I’ve taught for years and I’m the best in my specific fields, I created a profile and I’m now just waiting to be approved. This is going to be HUGE because I didn’t even know a website like that existed!

So, that was in the evening! I know that everything will eventually fall into place, but the mornings are so important!

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Complaints from Consumers? Oh, Please!

So, over the past couple weeks, and if you guys don’t already know, I had been doing free consultations by reaching out to people on a Facebook page. Unbeknownst to me, I had received maybe 100 comments. Half of them weren’t series because I had messaged them, sent a voice note, but no response. Other people booked the calendar but never showed up….but about 30% of them did.

Now, the problem with takers are they are just there to consume. It’s not about receiving an ovation and external validation, but even when you help them and they achieve your score, they wouldn’t tell you that they achieved their score but rather give themselves all the credit for achieving the score without mention.

Again, not so much about external validation, but very disheartening.

This is what happens when you stick your head in places where people don’t know you, right?

So, there was an unruly one who had always booked consultations at 8pm at night. Me, being an early bird, closed my 8pm time-slots a number of times but he was still able to book it. So, here was the second-time-coming and without contacting him, I was already over the consultations. There was no ROI, other than recording some voices and posting them throughout the rest of the year. It’s not that I had expectations — but maybe I did, because I ended up being very disappointed with these people in the end. They would take from me, achieve the score, then post saying they did it on their own.

I had about 2 consultations left, and to be honest, I was just going to cancel them and not show up because I already knew the story. The last consultation I have (although there’s one more from a girl in Nigeria but Africans have a tendency of NEVER SHOWING UP)….I said “fuck it. Who cares.” But when you have a brand and an online persona, it’s very important to cancel.

I had my Whatsapp number on my FB page and got a direct message from my phone, again, from the angry taker, and so there really isn’t much left to be said. But what did I learn from this? Obviously to cancel all remaining appointments with takers. But two, protect the brand. Regardless of my personal feelings, I need to hurry up, cancel, and let him be angry. The scary part about it is perhaps he would tag my page in the group stating “he didn’t give me a free consultation”…..and then in that community, what happens then? I have to be very careful about how I go about things because it could be a disaster.

And what did I learn from the entire process of just giving, giving, giving with no ROI? Don’t stick your head into groups on Facebook that have people without money. I was able to attract people just by sharing my content. If people are interested and serious, my content would speak for itself and they would inquire about services that way. If they’re not serious and are there for taking, just say “offering free……”. All the takers will come flooding in wanting the free.

What did I learn, stop reaching out to the “people with no money” market and help people who are deserving of your services, are super fans, and appreciate all that you’ve done. It’s not about the external validation, but it is infuriating to see people ignore the fact that you helped them for an hour, only to post on their Facebook page the achievements and completely ignore you.

Brendan Burchard’s Performance Prompts

EXCELLENT exercise for a lot of you out there. Performance prompts, which was featured in Brendan Burchard’s High-Performance Habits, is something that everyone needs to consider. This had given me ample clarity on what I was and wasn’t doing, and with my story down below, you’ll see just that. There are four basic prompts to follow everyday….

The activities that I currently do that bring me the most meaning are

Podcasting. That’s to say the very least. After I’m done doing a podcast, I feel like I elevate my level of energy and bring myself a sense of fulfillment. This is very important and also one of the performance shower prompts (next blog coming soon). Working out, and with the mental discipline I have now, I’m able to push myself much further than before the pandemic had started, further bringing me results in my health and satisfaction. Collaborations, interviewees, teaching business, etc…..everything I do in a typical day brings me a significant amount of meaning.

The projects that I should stop doing are….

Now, referring back to a part-time job I used to have for years, although mistreated and devalued significantly. While living in upcountry, I was not happy. Mira, who I’ve made blogs about before, knew that when she was life-coaching me through the process. From the moment I woke up, going to the gym was great. Buying food was wonderful. However, when it hit about 8am, I was like “ughhhh, now I have to speak Thai to these teachers who really don’t give a shit about English.” I went to a job, entered the workplace, and none of the 6 women would say good morning….to be honest, they would either complain or state the obvious (you need to speak Thai) for their own personal enjoyment. The students would then come to class, unenthusiastically, and gossip about how the women downstairs (the bitches is what I call them) are trying to cheat them of their money.

I really felt bad for them and I asked myself, “Arsenio, could you keep work for people who can potentially destroy your relationship?” I sensed a burnout coming for sure. I counted the days staying there for 10….counting them one-by-one because I hated being there so much. When I came back to BKK, I was happier than ever.

Fortunately, I quit the job and terminated the relationship not only because I hated my apartment, noise, poor area, horrible people, being cheated but also because I had core values and principles. I didn’t like being there but I was so focused on the money….dumb me. How happy am I now? I thank myself for establishing that inner-child and faced the music with him. He now has a significant voice.

If I was going to add new activities to bring me more meaning would be…

Do the things that I’m passionate about and give me life. Seriously. We have a tendency of putting other people first but never put yourself first. I’m not sure about you guys, but I wake up every morning with that burning desire to inspire people. Messages and ideas come to me that I need to jot down that could be made into something bigger. Strolls in nature would be phenomenal, and fortunate enough, I live in BKK….a place where I see squirrels running across power-lines, snails strolling slowly across the pavement, cats purring at the base of my condo, frogs leaping around plants, and birds saying “hello” in the morning on my balcony. Upcountry, it was far different with a wider-range of animals, insects, reptiles….but I embrace what this planet has to offer.

Maybe you should add strolls in nature to your daily routine.

When a Negative Thought Comes to Mind, I Will……

Details in my podcast….

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 26 | Developing Mental Intelligence

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  • Continuous, systematic, disciplined study and education
  • Cultivation of self-awareness
  • Learning by teaching and doing

All of which will be covered in today’s podcast.

“What is the impact on the spirit when we stop learning? The conscience first becomes numbed, then dulled, and finally silenced, because it constantly tells us to learn and to grow. We lose both a sense of vision in life and the struggle to find our voice, both of which are primary sources of our passion in life. We find the wisdom literature boring and uninspiring, even irrelevant.” – Stephen Covey

“Self-awareness involves all four intelligences and is a unique human endowment. It’s essentially another word for the space between stimulus and response—the space where you can pause and then make a choice or decision.
Cultivating self-awareness by trying to understand and make explicit our underlying assumptions, theories and paradigms is without any question one of the highest leverage activities we can be involved in. Because we are always making assumptions and because they are very implicit (we are unaware that we are making them), by making them explicit, we can make huge quantum leaps. We can learn to think outside the box.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

Inspirational Monday | The Single Greatest Quote Ever

I desperately needed a pick-me-up. After quitting a job last Wednesday, I was feeling sorry for myself and fear had set in. My mind was hijacked by fear, the fear of not being able to pay bills and financial fears. After this COVID months, there was only one place that had taken care of me during these COVID times, but this place was also notoriously known for forging my signature, lying to me, nickeling-and-diming me, as well as so many other things.

So, when I finally told them to FUCK OFF because I was done playing their racist games “blacks must take tests to prove themselves while whites can teach dogshit,” I heard a quote from my friend, and it forever shaped my life.

No more going small. My business is global.

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Wheel of Life | August 2020 Edition | Be That Butterfly

The Wheel of Life is back! Not sure how many years I’ve been doing this for, but surely sometime 2016 is when the Wheel of Life was officially launched. Guys, I love reviewing my month and seeing what went wrong.

Before I get into it, check out these categories below and rate them on a scale 1-10.

  • Personal development
  • physical environment
  • health
  • wealth
  • career
  • fun & hobbies
  • family and friends
  • romantic relationships

When you rate them, be honest. No lying. Because the only way for improvement is figuring out what isn’t work and what you need to change.

If I had rated my physical environment at the beginning of this month, I hated my job upcountry. The dirt roads, the shitty apartment that was loud, the neighborhood, my job in general, the people I worked with and the work I was doing. Sure, I got a salary to get out of the hole I was in, but that wasn’t passionate work. So, I had to leave, and so I did. My Physical Environment went from a 3 — back to a 10. You have to be honest and confront what’s NOT WORKING.

The rest in my podcast down below!

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 24 | Developing the Intelligence – The Physical

It’s time to talk about the physical! For those of you who already know, I’ve talked about personal development a number of times throughout my podcasts and over the years. I’ve switched my routine up on a consistent basis to find what works best and how I can maximize my performance. Well, let’s get into it!

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Transformation Tuesday | 36 Hours of Destruction – And The NOW Beauty

Wow! Healing Session was super fascinating, but then came the destructive Monday that really set me back. Relationships, terminating work-relationships, and so many other things. But then it was a jab-jab-jab UPPER-CUT and a poster-board that made me realize — I’ve made it.

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Inspirational Monday | The Tibetan Girl

Wow, after posting and lending a hand in various Facebook groups in terms of IELTS, I came across a Tibetan girl, literally.  She went to school in India and now she’s studying to move abroad and learn a variety of different things. Her family is from the north side of the Himalayas, and little does she know that she inspired me to become even a more gracious human being. 

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 22 | Our Second Birth-Gift: Natural Laws or Principles

“Natural authority is the dominion of natural laws. You can’t ignore natural laws, and you have no choice but to operate by them. All actions have consequences. Like it or not, when we pick up one end of the stick we pick up the other. If you jump off a ten-story building, you can’t change your mind at the fifth story. Gravity controls. That is the stamp of nature. Nature has also stamped people with the freedom and power to choose, and, therefore, they have natural authority or dominion over all of the rest of creation. Endangered species survive only by our consent. They don’t have freedom and power to choose. They lack self-awareness. They can’t reinvent themselves. They’re totally subject to humans, who, because they are self-aware, alone have freedom and power to choose and to reinvent themselves. This is natural authority.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

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