Sharing Your Ambitions Performance Prompts

Practice 2: Share Your Truth & Ambitions


The main motivation of humankind is to be free, to express our true selves and pursue our dreams without restriction—to experience what may be called personal freedom. Follow this impulse by consistently sharing your true thoughts, feelings, needs, and dreams
with other people. Do not play small to placate others. Live your truth. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. Something I really want to do that I haven’t shared with enough people is . . .
  • Traveling, starting that business, taking that leap of faith, committing to that passion. Put it out there….
  1. If I were going to be more “me” in my everyday life, I would start to . . .
  • Since living in Thailand, I realized that regardless of what I do, I will always be just “black” or “bad” through the eyes of Thais — not only Thais but Asians on the continent of Asia in general. So, that enabled me to establish me and live ME everyday.
  1. When I put myself out there and someone makes fun of me, I’m just going to . . .
  • Critical. YouTube is troll city. Are you ready for people to judge you? What criticism will you accept? Will you respond to no-face trolls out there? This is why I turned off ALL COMMENTS on my YouTube because it shows I don’t give a fuck about anyone’s opinion. I’ve turned off likes, too. If they truly admire my work, they would click the description and follow me elsewhere. I’m very lucky to also be in a realm where Americans in general would NEVER follow me, so I eliminate about 10% of the trolls in the world.
  1. A major dream I’m going to start telling people about and asking for some help with is . .
  • Be careful with WHO you share your dream with though.

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The Question to Ask Yourself In The Shower Every Morning…

What can I do today that will make me excited?

Just a couple days ago, I knew that I was going to wake up in the morning to go on my city-run. What is that? Well, first 1.5 km is quiet, with only a few passerbys and things to maneuver around. Once I get to the intersection, I cross over a skytrain bridge, make a left, and then it begins. I’m running on the road, weaving through people, rapping aloud and generating crazy energy. By the time I pass the two stations and hundreds of people, I have to go through a narrow passageway, cross another busy street, and go up Saphan Taksin Bridge, one of the biggest bridges in Bangkok. There’s no stopping there. There are tons of cars and people watching my crazy black ass run, so then I up the ante and power over Chao Phraya River. Once I reach the end, I go back down, and then there are even more people, more traffic, and more ways to generate energy. This continues until I go full speed ahead about 1.5 km later and finish off my run with onlookers looking at me in awe.

That — right there — makes me excited. Knowing that I have the ability to inspire people with my grimacing and willing to push myself to the physical limit.

This gets me excited.

Also, planting seeds in the morning. What does that mean? Well, if you plant a seed in soil and water it everyday, it will soon blossom, right? You’re not exactly sure when, but you know the time will come. This could be posting something in a Facebook group to generate more lead clients, having people come onto my podcast, connecting with people on LinkedIn or IG (both two very difficult places to do so), etc. I realized, and through all the books I’ve read, that I need to act on my worries. If I’m worried about money, there’s no use sitting there, worrying about it. I apply for jobs. Just yesterday, I found an awesome tutoring website in which I created an online profile for to become a tutor. Hundreds of students around the world looking for specific tutors to help them with particular subjects. Because I’ve taught for years and I’m the best in my specific fields, I created a profile and I’m now just waiting to be approved. This is going to be HUGE because I didn’t even know a website like that existed!

So, that was in the evening! I know that everything will eventually fall into place, but the mornings are so important!

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Complaints from Consumers? Oh, Please!

So, over the past couple weeks, and if you guys don’t already know, I had been doing free consultations by reaching out to people on a Facebook page. Unbeknownst to me, I had received maybe 100 comments. Half of them weren’t series because I had messaged them, sent a voice note, but no response. Other people booked the calendar but never showed up….but about 30% of them did.

Now, the problem with takers are they are just there to consume. It’s not about receiving an ovation and external validation, but even when you help them and they achieve your score, they wouldn’t tell you that they achieved their score but rather give themselves all the credit for achieving the score without mention.

Again, not so much about external validation, but very disheartening.

This is what happens when you stick your head in places where people don’t know you, right?

So, there was an unruly one who had always booked consultations at 8pm at night. Me, being an early bird, closed my 8pm time-slots a number of times but he was still able to book it. So, here was the second-time-coming and without contacting him, I was already over the consultations. There was no ROI, other than recording some voices and posting them throughout the rest of the year. It’s not that I had expectations — but maybe I did, because I ended up being very disappointed with these people in the end. They would take from me, achieve the score, then post saying they did it on their own.

I had about 2 consultations left, and to be honest, I was just going to cancel them and not show up because I already knew the story. The last consultation I have (although there’s one more from a girl in Nigeria but Africans have a tendency of NEVER SHOWING UP)….I said “fuck it. Who cares.” But when you have a brand and an online persona, it’s very important to cancel.

I had my Whatsapp number on my FB page and got a direct message from my phone, again, from the angry taker, and so there really isn’t much left to be said. But what did I learn from this? Obviously to cancel all remaining appointments with takers. But two, protect the brand. Regardless of my personal feelings, I need to hurry up, cancel, and let him be angry. The scary part about it is perhaps he would tag my page in the group stating “he didn’t give me a free consultation”…..and then in that community, what happens then? I have to be very careful about how I go about things because it could be a disaster.

And what did I learn from the entire process of just giving, giving, giving with no ROI? Don’t stick your head into groups on Facebook that have people without money. I was able to attract people just by sharing my content. If people are interested and serious, my content would speak for itself and they would inquire about services that way. If they’re not serious and are there for taking, just say “offering free……”. All the takers will come flooding in wanting the free.

What did I learn, stop reaching out to the “people with no money” market and help people who are deserving of your services, are super fans, and appreciate all that you’ve done. It’s not about the external validation, but it is infuriating to see people ignore the fact that you helped them for an hour, only to post on their Facebook page the achievements and completely ignore you.

Transformation Tuesday | Are Your Expectations Too High?

Because I’m service-minded, I never go into situations with expectations. However, I felt myself feeling very down as of late and wasn’t sure why. I try pinpointing the emotions, such as perhaps the fallout of what had happened at the upcountry job — no. Finances — no. Friends — no….that has improved significantly.

So what was it? It was that my expectations were too high then I felt like I was not only appreciated, but felt like I was giving service with nothing in return. It was a frustrating experience, until I did my Facebook live last night and felt a million times better. Not only that, I woke up this morning with a clear conscience. Then I knew, “ok, you’re back. Let’s get it.”

Here’s the podcast!

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 26 | Developing Mental Intelligence

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  • Continuous, systematic, disciplined study and education
  • Cultivation of self-awareness
  • Learning by teaching and doing

All of which will be covered in today’s podcast.

“What is the impact on the spirit when we stop learning? The conscience first becomes numbed, then dulled, and finally silenced, because it constantly tells us to learn and to grow. We lose both a sense of vision in life and the struggle to find our voice, both of which are primary sources of our passion in life. We find the wisdom literature boring and uninspiring, even irrelevant.” – Stephen Covey

“Self-awareness involves all four intelligences and is a unique human endowment. It’s essentially another word for the space between stimulus and response—the space where you can pause and then make a choice or decision.
Cultivating self-awareness by trying to understand and make explicit our underlying assumptions, theories and paradigms is without any question one of the highest leverage activities we can be involved in. Because we are always making assumptions and because they are very implicit (we are unaware that we are making them), by making them explicit, we can make huge quantum leaps. We can learn to think outside the box.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

Wheel of Life | August 2020 Edition | Be That Butterfly

The Wheel of Life is back! Not sure how many years I’ve been doing this for, but surely sometime 2016 is when the Wheel of Life was officially launched. Guys, I love reviewing my month and seeing what went wrong.

Before I get into it, check out these categories below and rate them on a scale 1-10.

  • Personal development
  • physical environment
  • health
  • wealth
  • career
  • fun & hobbies
  • family and friends
  • romantic relationships

When you rate them, be honest. No lying. Because the only way for improvement is figuring out what isn’t work and what you need to change.

If I had rated my physical environment at the beginning of this month, I hated my job upcountry. The dirt roads, the shitty apartment that was loud, the neighborhood, my job in general, the people I worked with and the work I was doing. Sure, I got a salary to get out of the hole I was in, but that wasn’t passionate work. So, I had to leave, and so I did. My Physical Environment went from a 3 — back to a 10. You have to be honest and confront what’s NOT WORKING.

The rest in my podcast down below!

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 24 | Developing the Intelligence – The Physical

It’s time to talk about the physical! For those of you who already know, I’ve talked about personal development a number of times throughout my podcasts and over the years. I’ve switched my routine up on a consistent basis to find what works best and how I can maximize my performance. Well, let’s get into it!

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Transformation Tuesday | 36 Hours of Destruction – And The NOW Beauty

Wow! Healing Session was super fascinating, but then came the destructive Monday that really set me back. Relationships, terminating work-relationships, and so many other things. But then it was a jab-jab-jab UPPER-CUT and a poster-board that made me realize — I’ve made it.

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 22 | Our Second Birth-Gift: Natural Laws or Principles

“Natural authority is the dominion of natural laws. You can’t ignore natural laws, and you have no choice but to operate by them. All actions have consequences. Like it or not, when we pick up one end of the stick we pick up the other. If you jump off a ten-story building, you can’t change your mind at the fifth story. Gravity controls. That is the stamp of nature. Nature has also stamped people with the freedom and power to choose, and, therefore, they have natural authority or dominion over all of the rest of creation. Endangered species survive only by our consent. They don’t have freedom and power to choose. They lack self-awareness. They can’t reinvent themselves. They’re totally subject to humans, who, because they are self-aware, alone have freedom and power to choose and to reinvent themselves. This is natural authority.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

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The Arsenio Buck Perspective Official Debut!

Super excited! I’ve switched podcast hosting sites to get more exposure, and in just 12 hours, I’m up to 1k plays! I’m grateful for making this switch and even more excited to introduce some new things, topics, etc to this podcast.  So, listen to the debut of this, how it started, and what to expect going forward. Set your alarms for M-W-F!

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