How You Can Be Proactive in Stressful Situations

I got the message just minutes before noon, “due to the recent COVID outbreak, the company isn’t allowing outsiders on the premises. We will resume activities on May 5th.”

It was a gut-check and an idea that was played with by a friend of mine. “What if they stop?” she said. “No way!”……I retorted. But they did. So now what?

Well, anticipating bad news, bad days, things that might trip you up throughout the day, or even news like this will help you navigate these FEAR storms. Myself? I went proactive and executed follow-ups. Hear how you can allow your best self to show up during stressful times. 


The Desire Map | Inner World: Attitudes

Each Core Desired Feeling is an expression of our true self. When we focus on generating a particular feeling, we’re animating an aspect of our truth. 

This can be a really profound introspection. Essentially, we’re looking at how the attitude we’re holding intensifies or dilutes our desired feelings. We need to choose perspectives that help our Core Desired Feelings to emerge. In today’s podcast, we do just that. 

FEELINGS inform THOUGHTS inform BEHAVIOUR. In this exercise we’re creating thoughts that support our feelings. What’s the “inner attitude” that will help you generate a particular feeling?


I feel Flow more when I’m thinking more optimistically. I feel Luminous more when I’m trusting in God. I feel Expansive more when I let go of my belief that I have to earn my keep . . .

(insert core desired feeling) requires me to be more . . .

(insert core desired feeling) requires me to be less . . .

More in the podcast down below!


The Desire Map | Expressions + Love

So, in today’s episode/blog, we’re going to discuss what brings your Core Desired Feelings to life?

For example, Gaia, who I call the goddess or earth, is one of my Core Desired Feelings. It’s not because of the past, being completely destroyed and building myself up, it’s the fact that when I think of Earth, I feel like I’m absolutely part of it and invested in it.

So, Gaia LOVES TO work out because the feeling of becoming strong is essential to it’s being.

It ADORES nature, hearing birds, seeing giant lizards, communicating with birds, etc.

It feels joy when it’s at warp speed (running) because the feeling of freedom and growth is what it craves.

It REMEMBERS all of the hard times, but it only looks at it as lesson-based learning curbs, not part of it’s complete bio.

It wears things that makes it feel sexy.

It listens to all the molecules through its body and makes sure that they’re firing on all cylinders.

It EATS both healthy food, which is absolutely loves, but also craves the goodness of cuisine such as beef patties and pizza.

It moves with confidence because it knows that it shows up as its best self everyday.

It celebrates when it sees and feels growth, such as going to the gym and seeing the results.

It cherishes the times which it had felt weak for it was a plateau that needed to be left behind.

It protects the entire body by making sure it gets proper food, rest, meditation, and has the ever-glowing holistic spirit.

It gives grace to others who are also out to attain their inner-Gaia

And it delights in basking in the compliments that are ever-flowing.

Now, with that being said, write down your CDF’s and use the subject + verb to create sentences, such as what I did.


The Desire Map | Essential Qualities

If your Core Desired Feeling was a character in your play . . .


Let’s bring more colour and texture to each of your CDFs. The more dimensional and vibrant each word is, the easier it will be to access as a feeling. You want to KNOW and call on that Core Desired Feeling like you would turn to a beloved friend.

What are the ESSENTIAL QUALITIES of each of your Core Desired Feelings?

Essential Qualities are the characteristics or the traits of that feeling—how it expresses itself in the world. Naming just a few qualities can help you root into your CDF.


Grounded = gets 8 hours of sleep. Doesn’t overschedule. Eats organic. Makes decisions with ease. Is deliberate. Surrounds oneself with nourishing people. Loves plants. Hikes. Simplifies.

Vitality = fresh water. Comedy shows. Prana breathing. New bright pillows. Sunday service. Functional medicine. Monthly support group. SMILES, hugs, leans in.

Or! You can write your CDF’s characteristics in a poetic and descriptive way:


Connection . . . is present and open. She’s a good friend. He looks for what’s lovable in everyone. Connection’s favourite word is “resonance.” She shares intimately and deeply—when she feels there is harmony and receptivity. Connection keeps in touch, plans celebrations, makes eye contact. Connection references its body for signals of the truth. He prays. She forms community. Connection plays. Connection thrives with some stillness and silence.

Sacred Feminine . . . is receptive and nourishing. Sacred Feminine receives like a trusting daughter and a graceful Queen. She loves to give her love. She/he is gentle. She is fierce and discerning. She gets to the heart of the matter. Sacred Feminine protects her loved ones. She dances a lot, eats flowers, upholds human dignity. She celebrates her pleasure. She stays close to nature, listens deeply, breathes through the heart. Sacred Feminine is a possibility thinker, feeling deeply, acting with loving kindness.

Ease . . . is the cousin of simplicity. Ease can let it go. Ease chooses the easiest way without compromising its standards. She can be very forgiving. He trusts that life is guiding him. Ease doesn’t give into time pressure—she can be brisk or she can languish, it depends on what feels easy in the moment. Ease is about being close to LIFE, and removing obstacles to that vitality.


In Which Direction is Your Life Heading?

Seriously, ask yourself….a year ago today, where were you? Stress and anxiety levels? Financially? Mentally?

Now, fast-forward to the present day. Please, I hope that you’re able to see the growth within you. Are you in control of your environment? Your mind? Finance? Or are you just WAITING for someone to save you?


The Desire Map | Declare Your Core Desired Feelings

We’re back and it’s time for the declaration of your core desired feelings! I’m not exactly sure if this should’ve gone before or after, but understand that word blessings will be this Friday, so declaring them now is ok, and remember that you can always add and subtract if needed because more exercises will be coming

Live from the heart.

As Carl Jung put it, “Only the dreamer knows the dream.” You know what your Core Desired Feelings are. The meaning of each word or phrase is for you to own and interpret. It does not have to fit a formula. It doesn’t have to be workable or realistic for anyone else—not even your best friend or therapist. Feel your feelings. Aim.


Of your short-listed feeling words, which words make you feel: Expansive and energized?
Grounded and peaceful?
Home and blessed?

Reminder, the definition of a Core Desired Feeling: Your Core Desired Feelings are how you want to feel most of the time—your most preferred states of being. They’re life-affirming feelings—positive and expansive. They’re qualities of the heart—expressions of love and vitality. Your Core Desired Feelings move you toward your Highest Self—to joy, inclusivity, and generosity.

Authenticity: Apply this question to the words you’re most attracted to:

What is [insert potential Core Desired Feeling] really about for me? For example, maybe “confidence” is really about feeling empowered, or elegant, or maybe it’s about respect. Maybe “success” is really about freedom, or love, or being collaborative. Maybe “beautiful” is really about connection or radiance . . .

If you want to keep more than five feelings, go right ahead. If seven is your lucky number, then choose seven words for luck. Fewer words might help you get better results because fewer is much easier to recall, but doing this in a way that works for you is what’s most important.

Make your selections! Choose your four or five Core Desired Feelings— and shine. This is the moment. I’m thinking of you right now, sending love, and whispering into your ear: Core . . . Desired . . . Feelings.


The Desire Map | How to Go Deeper with Your Core Desired Feelings

This is going to be a short podcast/blog, but understand the essence behind it. To go deep with your CDFs is to make them your entire biological make-up. When people think of you, these feelings/vocabulary should/would emerge. When you see yourself in the mirror every day, you will see the CDFs there. So, here’s how to do it.

Go Deeper.

Fun with CDFs!

Compose an affirmative phrase (in the present) or action statement with your Core Desired Feelings.


Purpose. Ease. Adventure. = I’m creating an adventurous life of

Connection. Radiant. Joyful. Vitality. = I experience joyful connection with everyone and everything around me. My vitality fuels my radiance.

Make an acronym for memory recall: Freedom. Receptive. Elegance. Ease. = F.R.E.E.

The Desire Map | Our Inner Selves: Your Inner Child

This is the critical exercise that ended up changing my life as of last year. Our Inner Child is basically the deeply sensitive part of us. This stems from childhood. If you’re unable to have difficult conversations, don’t have values, and people often walk all over you….it’s because your inner child doesn’t have a choice.

I actually gave an example of this last year by talking about my inner child being tucked away in a corner, crying, in a fetus position. This is how I had been for such a long time; and it would be so hard for me to stand up for me…because that inner child was abused verbally for such a long time.

Through meditative practice and so many other practices, I began giving that child a voice. A voice that was needed and a voice that needed to come together with my verbato self. To have both of these together was life-transforming to the point that I had quit so many jobs, terminated relationships that had me pinned down for such a long time, and that’s when I went into an entire new level of consciousness and life in general.

Here’s the practice.

Ask your Inner Child how they NEED to feel in every LIFE AREA. Their answers are likely simple and pure. Add those feelings to your lists.

My core desired feelings in these areas. Alive and sacred. These are two critical words that I mentioned in my previous podcast. Alive because I as if he was in the corner, and sacred because this is a part of us that needs to be treated in absolute wholesome and with care.

Your Inner Superhero: Every day is your best day ever. You have superpowers and are undefeatable. You are full of confidence and make no hesitations. You assume victory.

Here are my core desired feelings in this specific area. Dynamic, Gaia, Majestic, Holistic, Cosmic, Rapture. These are all the words that I had written down. These are also superpowers of some superheroes in the world. So for me to unconsciously pick some of these words and do this exercise…it all makes sense!.

Ask your Inner Superhero how they INTEND to feel in every LIFE AREA. Add those feelings to your lists.

Here are my core desired feelings in this area. Now, given the life areas and the words I have above, I would love to feel Dynamic in my career, Rapture with my mental health, holistic in relationships, erotic in s** (gonna keep in PG13), but you get the picture!

Your Future Self: You don’t need to see the specifics, but let’s say in three to ten years from now, you’re doing something incredible with your life. You’re deeply well, you’re where you belong with people who feel like home, you’re full of Love.

Ask your Future Self how they are ALREADY FEELING in every LIFE AREA. You’re getting their perspective from the future that has unfolded. These core desired feelings will again, pop up in my future self. My foundational work will be especially important holistically. I would love to give bliss as well as feel it with what I do.


Core Desired Feelings List by Danielle Laporte

I do not own the rights to this list, better yet, these are a list of words from people around the world who have contributed to building such a complex thesaurus for people to figure out their Core Desired Feelings.


Thanks to thousands of Desire Mappers in many countries, we’ve noticed a pattern in Core Desired Feelings—fundamental feelings that many of us long for and identify with at some point in our lives. Here are the twelve key themes that have emerged:




Alluring, Balance, Beatific, Dance, Desire, Ecstasy, Embodied, Enchanted, Enthralled, Erotic, Eros, Fervor, Gorgeous, Graceful, Harmony, Indulgence, Intimate, Irresistible, Lush, Luxury, Orgasmic, Passion, Passionate, Pleasure, Pride, Sacred Feminine, Sacred Masculine, Savouring, Sensual, Sensuous, Sexy, Succulent, Wild, Whole, Yoga


Adventurous, Assured, Audacious, Autonomous, Badass, Birth, Bold, Boundless, Brave, Brave Heart, Bravery, Brilliance, Brilliant, Charged, Clear, Confident, Courageous, Curious, Daring, Dominion, Dynamic, Ease, Effectual, Electric, Elevated, Emboldened, Empowered, Empowering, Epic, Expansion, Expansive, Exploring, Fierce, Generosity, Generous, Gumption, Gutsy, Heroic, Holistic, Hope, Hopeful, In Charge, Independence, Independent, Influencing, Influential, Innovative, Integrity, King/Queen, Liberated, Magnificent, Majestic, Mastery, Maverick, Mighty, Open, Openhearted, Outspoken, Phenomenal, Potent, Power, Powerful, Regal, Release, Resilience, Resilient, Sovereign, Sovereignty, Spacious, Strength, Strong, Substance, Superman, Tenacious, Trailblazer, Unleashed, Vocal, Voice, Voicing, Warrior, Wild, Wisdom, Wise, Wonder Woman, Zeal


Alive, Artful, Beautiful, Beauty, Bliss, Blissed, Blissful, Bright, Brilliance, Brilliant, Buoyant, Celebration, Cheerful, Colourful, Contributing, Creating, Creative, Curious, Deeply Well, Delight, Delightful, Delighting, Driven, Dynamic, Dynamism, Eager, Ebullient, Effervescent, Elation, Electric, Encouraged, Energetic, Enjoyment, Euphoria, Euphoric, Excited, Excitement, Exciting, Expressive, Extraordinary, Exuberance, Fecund, Felicity, Fertile, Fertility, Festive, Flourish, Focused, Fresh, Fruitful, Fun, Giddy, Given, Giving, Glee, Gleeful, Happiness, Happy, Health, High, Hope, Hopeful, Illumined, Imaginative, Invigorated, Jazzed, Joy, Joyful, Joyous, Jubilant, Keen, Light, Lightness, Lit Up, Lively, Luminary, Luminous, Magic, Manifesting, New, Nourished, Offering, Optimism, Optimistic, Playful, Poetic, Prolific, Rapture, Rested, Restorative, Restored, Shakti, Spark, Stimulated, Stoked, Sunrise, Sunshine, Thrill, Thriving, Unleashed, Upbeat, Verve, Verdant, Vibrancy, Vibrant, Visionary, Vital, Vivacious, Vivacity, Vivid, Well, Wellness, Wild, Wisdom, Wise, Young at Heart, Youthful

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Abundance, Abundant, Adoring, Adoration, Affection, Altruistic, Authentic, Beauty, Being, Beingness, Belonging, Beloved, Brotherhood, Camaraderie, Care, Caring, Caritas, Celebrated, Cherish, Chosen, Choosing, Close, Collaborative, Commitment, Committed, Communion, Community, Compassion, Compassionate, Complete, Dance, Deserving, Devotion, Devoted, Earnest, Embrace, Embracing, Enamoured, Encourage, Family, Father, Fathering, Friendship, Gaia, Generous, Generosity, Gentle, Genuine, Giving, Grace, Harmony, Heartened, Held, Humanity, In Circle, Intentional, Intimacy, Joy, Kin, Kind, Kindness, Kindred, Lovable, Love, Lover, Lovely, Loving, Meeting, Met, More Than Enough, Mother, Mothering, Natural, Nourishment, Nurtured, Nurturing, One, Partnering, Partnership, Peace, Precious, Presence, Present, Receptive, Recognition, Remarkable, Resilient, Respect, Seen, Sharing, Sisterhood, Sweet, Tender, Thoughtful, Together, Treasure, Trust, Unconditional, Understood, Union, Unification, Unified, Unifying, Unity, Valuable, Warmth, Whole, Wholehearted


Acceptance, Accepting, Accommodating, Agreeable, Aligned, Allowing, Anchored, At Home, Attuned, Authentic, Balanced, Beingness, Bliss, Blissful, Breezy, Centered, Certain, Comfort, Comfortable, Comforting, Complete, Cool, Cozy, Deep, Earthy, Ease, Easeful, Effortless, Embodied, Engaged, Essential, Evolution, Flexible, Fluid, Free, Generosity, Generous, Grace, Graceful, Gracious, Grounded, Harmony, Immersed, Inclusive, Intentional, In My Element, In Sync, In the Zone, In Tune, Lithe, Masterful, Momentum, Natural, On Purpose, Presence, Present, Protected, Protection, Purposeful, Ready, Relaxed, Renewal, Renewed, Resonance, Resonating, Rest, Restorative, Restored, Rooted, Safe, Secure, Soul, Synchronous, Synergy, Tuned-in, Water, Zen


Ablaze, Allied, Amazement, Angels, Anointed, Ardent, Ascension, Awakened, Awe, Awesome, Beauty, Beloved, Blazing, Blessed, Bright, Brilliant, Celestial, Chosen, Communion, Conscious, Contemplative, Cosmic, Dazzling, Deep, Devotion, Divine, Divine Feminine, Divine Masculine, Divinely Favoured, Emanating, Enlightened, Essence, Ethereal, Expansive, Faith, Fire, Glowing, God, Goddess, Gold, Gratitude, Guided, Heart, Heart-centered, Heartful, High Spirits, Holy, Hopeful, Illuminated, Infinite, Lit Up, Lovely, Lucid, Luminous, Mindful, Miracle, Nirvana, Prayerful, Pure, Radiance, Radiant, Rainbow, Reflection, Reverence, Sacred, Sacred Feminine, Sacred Masculine, Satisfied, Shimmering, Simplicity, Spark, Sparkle, Spirit, Transcendence, Transcendent, Truth, Truthful,

Turned On, Uplifted, Vast, Voice, Wakeful

Some cool and quirky CDFs we’ve heard over the years: Agora, Aloha, Atmospheric, Caliente,

Creatrix, Crème de la Crème, Empress, Feral, Firecracker, Halcyon, High Voltage, Hygge, Kali, Kind of a Big Deal, Lambent, Lioness-hearted, Masterpeace, Meraki, Mermaid, Mother, Neon, Ocean, One of a Kind, Quite at Home, Rollin’, Sea, Soul Sassy, Spicy, Sunshine, Supernova, Symphonic, Wanderlust, Warrior, Water, Waves, Welcome, Wicked, Yellow

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-A –

Ablaze, Abundance, Abundant, Acceptance, Accepted, Accepting, Accommodating, Accomplished, Acknowledged, Adaptable, Admiration, Adoration, Adoring, Advancing, Adventure, Affection, Affectionate, Affluent, Agile, Agreeable, Alchemical, Aligned, Alive, Allied, Allowed, Allowing, Alluring, Altruistic, Amazement, Amazing, Ambitious, Ambrosial, Amour, Anchored, Angels, Animated, Anointed, Anticipation, Appreciated, Appreciation, Ardent, Ardor, Artful, Articulate, Artistic, Ascension, Assertive, Assured, Astounding, Attentive, Attractive, Attuned, Audacious, Auspicious, Authentic, Awake, Aware, Awe, Awesome

-B –

Badass, Balance, Balanced, Beatific, Beautiful, Beauty, Being, Beingness, Belonging, Beloved, Benevolent, Birth, Blazing, Blessed, Blessing, Bliss, Blissed Out, Blissful, Blooming, Blossoming, Bold, Boundless, Bountiful, Brave, Brave Heart, Bravery, Breakthrough, Breezy, Bright, Brilliance, Brilliant, Brimming, Brother/Sisterhood, Buoyant, Buzzing

-C –

Caliente, Calm, Calming, Camaraderie, Capable, Care, Cared For, Carefree, Caring, Caritas, Catalyst, Celebrated, Celebration, Celebratory, Celestial, Centered, Certain, Certitude, Charmed, Cheer, Cheerful, Cherished, Cherishing, Childlike, Chosen, Clarity, Classy, Clean, Clear, Close, Cocooned, Cocreator, Collaborative, Colourful, Comfort, Comfortable, Comforting, Commitment, Committed, Communing, Communion, Community, Compassion, Compassionate, Complete, Confidence, Confident, Connected, Connection, Consciousness, Content, Contentment, Continuous, Cool, Cosmic, Courage, Courageous, Cozy, Crafted, Creating, Creation, Creative, Creativity, Curious, Current

-D –

Dance, Daring, Dauntless, Dazzling, Decisive, Declare, Dedicated, Deep, Deeply Well, Deliberate, Delicious, Delight, Delighted, Delightful, Delighting, Depth, Deserving, Desire, Desired, Determination, Determined, Devoted, Devotion, Diligence, Disciplined, Discovery, Divine, Divinely Favoured, Driven, Dynamic, Dynamism

-E –

Eager, Earnest, Earth, Earthy, Ease, Easeful, Easy, Ebullient, Eccentric, Ecstasy, Ecstatic, Effective, Effervescent, Elated, Elation, Electric, Elegance, Elegant, Elemental, Elevated, Eloquent, Embodied, Emboldened, Embrace, Embracing, Emergent, Empowered, Empowering, Enamoured, Enchanted, Encouraged, Encouragement, Encouraging, Endless, Enduring, Energetic, Energized, Energy, Engaged, Enjoyment, Enlightened, Enlightening, Enraptured, Enriched, Enthralled, Enthusiasm, Enthusiastic, Enticing, Epic, Equanimity, Eros, Erotic, Essential, Ethereal, Euphoria, Euphoric, Ever-expanding, Evolution, Evolved, Excellence, Exceptional, Excited, Excitement, Exciting, Exhilarated, Exhilarating, Expansion, Expansive, Explorer, Exploring, Expressed, Expressive, Exquisite, Extraordinary, Exuberance

-F –

Fabulous, Faith, Faithful, Family, Fantastic, Fantastical, Fascinated, Fascinating, Fascination, Father, Fathering, Fearless, Fecund, Felicity, Fellowship, Feminine, Femininity, Fertile, Fervent, Fervor, Festive, Fierce, Firecracker, Fit, Flamboyant, Flexible, Flirtatious, Flourish, Flourishing, Flow, Flowing, Fluid, Flush, Focus, Focused, Forgiven, Forgiving, Fortunate, Fortune, Free, Free Spirited, Free-flowing, Freedom, Fresh, Friendliness, Friendly, Friendship, Fruitful, Fulfilled, Full, Fun, Fun Loving

-G –

Gaia, Gallant, Generative, Generosity, Generous, Gentle, Gentleness, Genuine, Giddy, Given, Giving, Glad, Glamorous, Glee, Gleeful, Glorious, Glory, Glowing, God, Goddess, Gold, Golden, Goodwill, Gorgeous, Grace, Graceful, Gracious, Grateful, Gratified, Gratitude, Grit, Groovy, Grounded, Growth, Guidance, Guided, Gumption, Gutsy

-H –

Happiness, Happy, Harmonious, Harmony, Heal, Healed, Healing, Healthy, Heard, Heart, Heart-centered, Heartened, Heartful, Heaven-sent, Held, Helpful, Heroic, High, High Spirits, Holistic, Holy, Home, Homey, Honest, Honor, Hope, Hopeful, Hot, Humanity, Humility, Hunger, Hygge

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-I –

Ignited, Illuminated, Imaginative, Immersed, Impactful, Important, Impractical, In Awe, In Circle, In Communion, In Flow, In Love, In My Element, In My Full Essence, In Service to Others, In the Flow, In the Zone, In Tune, Incandescent, Included, Inclusive, Incomparable, Incredible, Independence, Indigo, Indomitable, Indulgence, Indulgent, Ineffable, Infamous, Infinite, Influencing, Influential, Innovating, Innovation, Innovative, Inquisitive, Insightful, Inspiration, Inspirational, Inspired, Inspiring, Instinctive, Integrity, Integrous, Intent, Intentional, Interdependent, Intimate, Intoxicating, Intrepid, Intrigued, Intriguing, Intuitive, Invigorated, Invincible, Invocation, Irrepressible, Irresistible

– J-

Jazzed, Joie de Vivre, Joy, Joy-filled, Joyful, Joyous, Joyride, Jubilant, Jubilation, Juiced Up, Juicy

– K-

Karmic, Keen, Kick-ass, Kind, Kindness, Kindred, King, Kinship, Knowing, Knowledgeable

– L-

Laughter, Lavish, Lean, Legacy making, Legitimacy, Letting Go, Liberated, Liberation, Life-giving, Light, Lighthearted, Lightness, Limitless, Lion(ess)-hearted, Lit, Lit Up, Lithe, Lively, Living On My Creative Edge, Loose, Lovable, Love, Loved, Lovely, Loverly, Loving, Loyal, Lucid, Lucky, Lucrative, Luminary, Luminous, Lupine, Lusciousness, Lush, Luxurious

– M-

Magic, Magical, Magnetic, Magnificent, Maitri, Maker, Making a Difference, Manifesting, Masculine, Masculinity, Masterful, Masterpiece, Mastery, Maverick, Meaning, Meeting, Mesmerizing, Mighty, Mindful, Mindfulness, Miracle, Miraculous, Mobile, Momentum, More Than Enough, Mother, Mothering, Motivated, Motivational, Mouthwatering, Moved, Moxie, Multidimensional, Mysterious, Mystical

– N-

Natural, Neon, New, Nimble, Nirvana, Noble, Nourish, Nourished, Novaturient, Nurtured, Nurturing

– O-

Ocean, Oceanic, Of Service, Offering, Olympic, On, On Fire, On Purpose, One, Oneness, Open, Open-minded, Openhearted, Openness, Optimistic, Opulence, Opulent, Order, Organic, Organized, Orgasmic, Original, Otherworldly, Outrageous, Outspoken, Overflowing, Overjoyed

– P-

Partnering, Partnership, Passion, Passion-driven, Passionate, Patient, Peace, Peaceful, Perfection, Perfectly Imperfect, Perseverance, Phenomenal, Philanthropic, Phoenix, Pioneer, Pizzazz, Playful, Pleased, Pleasure, Plenty, Pluck, Plucky, Plugged In, Poetic, Poetry, Positive, Potent, Power, Powerful, Practical, Precious, Prepared, Presence, Present, Pretty, Pride, Primal, Prime, Productive, Professional, Profound, Progressive, Prolific, Prosperous, Protected, Protection, Proud, Prowess, Pulsating, Pumped, Pure, Purpose, Purposeful

– Q-

Queen, Quenched, Quiet

– R-

Radiant, Radical, Rainbow, Rapport, Rapture, Rapturous, Ready, Real, Realized, Receptive, Recognition, Recognized, Refreshed, Regal, Regenerative, Relaxation, Relaxed, Relaxing, Released, Reliable, Relief, Relieved, Remarkable, Renewal, Renewed, Replenished, Repose, Reposed, Resilience, Resilient, Resolute, Resonance, Resonating, Respect, Respected, Resplendent, Rest, Rested, Restorative, Restored, Revealed, Reverence, Reverent, Rich, Riches, Righteous, Rock ’n’ Roll, Rollin’, Romance, Rooted, Rosy, Royal

– S-

Sacred, Sacred Feminine, Sacred Masculine, Safe, Satiated, Satisfied, Savour, Secure, Seductive, Seen, Self Kindness, Self Nurtured, Self-actualized, Self-care, Self-sufficient, Sensual, Sensuous, Serene, Serenity, Service, Sexual, Sexy, Shakti, Shimmering, Shine, Shining, Significant, Silly, Simplicity, Sisterhood, Smart, Soft, Softness,

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Solace, Solar, Solid, Solid Gold, Soothed, Sophisticated, Sophrosyne, Soul, Soul Centered, Soul Filled, Soul Satisfied, Soulful, Soulmate, Sound, Sourced, Sovereign, Space, Spacious, Spark, Sparkle, Spectacular, Spicy, Spirit, Spirit Guided, Spirited, Spiritual, Spunky, Stable, Star, Steadfast, Steady, Steeped, Still, Stimulated, Stoked, Strength, Strong, Structured, Sublime, Substance, Successful, Succulent, Sultry, Sunrise, Sunshine, Super, Superb, Superdeluxe, Supernova, Supple, Supplied, Supported, Supportive, Supreme, Sure, Surreal, Surrender, Sweet, Symphonic, Synchronous, Synergy

-T –

Tadasana, Thanks, Temperance, Tenacious, Tenacity, Tender, Tethered, Thankful, Thoughtful, Thrilled, Thrilling, Thriving, Timeless, Together, Touched, Trailblazer, Tranquil, Tranquillity, Transcendence, Transcendent, Transformative, Transformed, Treasure, Treasured, Treasuring, Triumphant, True, Trust, Trustworthy, Truth, Truthful, Tuned-in, Turned On

-U –

Unconditional, Unconditional Love, Understanding, Understood, Unfolded, Unification, Unified, Unifying, Union, Unique, United, Unity, Unleashed, Unwrapped, Upbeat, Uplifted, Useful

-V –

Validated, Valor, Valuable, Valued, Vast, Versatile, Verve, Vibrancy, Vibrant, Victorious, Vigor, Visceral, Visible, Visionary, Vital, Vitality, Vivacious, Vivacity, Vivid, Vocal, Voice, Voicing, Voluptuous, Vulnerable

-W –

Wakeful, Wanderlust, Warm, Warmth, Warrior, Water, Wealthy, Welcome, Well, Well-being, Well-crafted, Whimsical, Whimsy, Whole, Wholehearted, Wholesome, Wild, Wild-hearted, Willing, Wisdom, Wise, Witty, Wonder, Wonder Woman, Wonderful, Worldly, Worthy

-Y –

Yoga, Young at Heart, Youthful

-Z –

Zeal, Zealous, Zen, Zoetic


-A –

Abandoned, Addicted, Afraid, Aggravated, Aggressive, Alarmed, Alienated, Ambivalent, Angry, Annoyed, Anxious, Apprehensive, Ashamed, Awkward

-B –

Bereaved, Betrayed, Bitter, Blocked, Blue, Bored, Bothered, Broken, Burdened

-C –

Cautious, Cold, Complacent, Compulsive, Concerned, Conflicted, Confused, Contemptuous, Contributing, Contrite, Controlling, Cranky, Crestfallen, Critical, Cruel, Crushed

-D –

Defeated, Defensive, Defiant, Dejected, Depressed, Detached, Devastated, Devious, Disappointed, Disconnected, Discouraged, Disdainful, Disenchanted, Disengaged, Disgusted, Disillusioned, Disinterested, Dismayed, Dismissive, Distant, Distracted

-E –

Embarrassed, Empty, Enraged, Envious, Exhausted

-F –

Fatigued, Fearful, Flawed, Flustered, Foolish, Frightened, Frozen, Frustrated, Furious

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-G –

Gloomy, Greedy, Grief-stricken, Grouchy, Grumpy, Guarded, Guilty

– H-

Heartbroken, Helpless, Hesitant, Hopeless, Horrified, Humiliated, Hurt

– I-

Ignorant, Impatient, Impertinent, Inadequate, Indifferent, Insecure, Irked, Irrational, Irritable, Irritated, Isolated

– J-

Jaded, Jealous, Judged, Judgmental

– K-


– L-

Lackluster, Lazy, Leery, Lethargic, Listless, Lonely, Lost

– M-

Mad, Malevolent, Manic, Manipulated, Manipulative, Mean, Meek, Melancholy, Melodramatic, Miserable, Misunderstood, Moody, Mopey, Morose

– N-

Nasty, Needy, Neglected, Neglectful, Nervous, Numb

– O-

Obligated, Obsessive, Offended, Outraged, Overpowered, Overstimulated, Overwhelmed, Overworked

– P-

Pained, Panicked, Paranoid, Passive, Peeved, Persecuted, Perturbed, Pessimistic, Petrified, Petty, Petulant, Powerless, Preoccupied, Pressured, Prickly

– Q-


– R-

Rattled, Reluctant, Remorseful, Repressed, Repulsed, Resentful, Restless, Rigid

– S-

Sad, Sarcastic, Scared, Scornful, Selfish, Serious, Shocked, Shy, Sick, Skeptical, Sorrowful, Spiteful, Startled, Stressed, Stubborn, Stuck, Suffocated, Suspicious

-T –

Temperamental, Tense, Terrified, Threatened, Timid, Tired, Tiresome, Torn, Trapped, Triggered, Troubled

– U-

Ugly, Unappreciated, Uncertain, Uncomfortable, Undecided, Uneasy, Ungrateful, Unhappy, Unheard, Unimpressed, Unnerved, Unruly, Unseen, Unsettled, Unsteady, Unsure, Uptight, Used, Useless

– V-

Vain, Vacant, Vexed, Victimized, Violent, Volatile

– W-

Wary, Wasted, Weak, Weary, Weepy, Whiny, Wired, Withdrawn, Woeful, Worn, Worthless, Wronged, Worried

– Y-


The Desire Map | Past & Present Feelings

Recall some moments, events, happenings in your life where you felt not so great—IN THE PAST and PRESENTLY. Weighed down, stuck, at a loss. Of course, there are spectrums of what “negative” feelings mean for each of us. That can range from getting a nasty comment on social media to your divorce, or from having your car towed to physical and emotional trauma—from slightly painful to serious impact. It’s up to you what you want to identify as “negative.” You don’t need to drill to the depths of your psyche unless you’re moved to go there. This can simply be about a few times when you just did not feel how you would have liked to in the particular situation. 

As for the present negatives in your life, the simple and evocative question is: What are you tired of feeling? What feeling do you most certainly not want to be experiencing? 

Refer to your What’s Not Working list.


Recall some moments, events, happenings in your life where you felt good—IN THE PAST and PRESENTLY. Joyful, alive, present, loving. What were you/are you doing where you felt/are feeling like your best self? Say . . . getting regular exercise, being in nature, learning about something you loved, spending time with your best friend. What memories and moments of your life helped/are helping you to experience joy and happiness? 

Beside each instance, write down as specifically as possible, how you were/ are feeling.