Wheel of Life | January 2021 Edition | I Am In Control!

After a month-long series of individual Wheel of Life podcasts, I’m back again on the cusp of February, evaluating my past month. And let’s put it this way, I haven’t written this out in blog form, but it looks like the “superstitiously-American-saying-of-fuck-2020” has loopholed over to 2021; and I’ve embraced it! 

Wealth – 10

I literally grabbed my adversary by the horns, picked it up and slammed it 5-feet deep. January 1st was the infamous announcement “we’re shutting down Bangkok — again, and we’re going to further fuck the economy up.” A very reactive way of approaching a dire, economical situation….shut down again and that’s the fall of the economy for at least two more decades. Zero fucks given — and of course, with the company I’m employed with right now, ZERO FUCKS GIVEN.  Out of the 8 classes I have, 1 went online. 

My old self would’ve said “omg! This is bad! I’m in trouble right now! I can’t believe it!

My new self: “ok, let’s be proactive.”

In the next two weeks, I got a new client online whom I hadn’t met going into January 1st, and I was able to secure a Thai client who agreed to pay a lump slump. In addition to that, I got a February client who will literally pay more than my monthly salary at my job that JUST-SO-HAPPENS-TO-BE shut down. Another student had renewed and I did have a couple of clients who were interested. So, I wrote down my financial target at the beginning of the month and I achieved one and I’m a 5th of the way with the other. Also, with this month, I’m not on the defense, but I’m on the attack because I’m now I’ve saved 25% of my new iPhone and a 6th of my new visa stipend which I had a CRAZY problem with last year. 

I went from being reactive, such as what happened last year — to proactive, what’s happening now. 

Rest of my scores are in my podcast down below!

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | Habit #3 | Putting First Things First

The importance of putting first things first gets you out ahead and one step closer to achieving a micro/macro goal. However, we have a tendency of putting ourselves secondary, and when that happens, the slump begins. Here are the questions.

  1. I am disciplined in carrying out plans (avoiding procrastination, time-wasters, and so forth).
  2. I do not allow the truly important activities of my life to get lost in the busy activity of my days.
  3. The things I do every day are meaningful and contribute to my overall goals in life.

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | Habit #2 | Begin with The End in Mind

We’re back with Habit #2 with the self-scoring habits. It’s been a while, but over the next few days, I want you guys to score yourself, down below, on a scale 1-6….where you are.

  1. I know what I want to accomplish in my life.
  2. I organize and prepare in a way that reduces having to work in a crisis mode.
  3. I begin each week with a clear plan of what I desire to accomplish.

So, I know exactly what I want to accomplish in life, but I did know the “how to.” I know I’ve said before that “the how to” is none of your business, but figuring out achievable steps is unbelievably important.

So, organizing and preparing in a way that reduces having to work in crisis mode I scored very low on because my creativity had gone up with Bangkok shut down at the dawn of the New Year. Getting the message “sorry, all tutorial centers are shut down,” was not good AT ALL. But then I doubled-down on what I could do to put myself in a position to win. However, if I started my day with that same urgency without needing a shutdown to motivate me, everything would’ve changed.

And the last one, beginning with a clear plan each week, is not what I have either. However, I do have monthly targets in terms of goal-setting and targets that could be achieved.

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How to Create a Development Plan

Sometimes we go throughout our day being reactionary. Meaning we’re just reacting to situations. This is kind of how I am on days that I don’t have work. I kind of react to all situations rather than coming up with a schedule that will achieve the outcome that I’ve set out on. So, let’s see how we can break this down together. Podcast will debut this upcoming weekend!

Development plan: start with the next 5 books. Why? Because you began with an outcome not just chasing down best-sellers. Example, “I’m trying to develop in public speaking.” So your stack of 5 books would begin with Dale Carnegie’s Art of Public Speaking. 

  • “I’m trying to grow my business.” Your next five books would be on scaling a business. 
  • “I’m trying to improve my marriage.” Next five books on marriage.
  • “I’m trying to improve the relationship with my kids or kids in general.” Next five books should be on Stephen Covey.

Obviously books as a metaphor but again, it could be courses, videos, podcasts, conferences, events, trainings. Who are you mentors. What are the resources and when are you going to consume them. 

Let’s break it down even further. 

  1. Outcome: what are you trying to grow into, improve, make happen. 
  2. What must you learn to grow into that outcome. What must you learn about yourself. What skills must you develop. What can you learn from other people. 
  3. How will you learn it? Engaging virtually? Podcasts? Same rules apply.
  4. IT HAS TO SHOW UP IN YOUR CALENDAR! You don’t have a development plan because you have a full stack of books IN A DAMN GARAGE! (hint: get it?)
  5. When will you read……when will you try…….when will you plan….

It’s all based on scheduling. 

Inspirational Monday | Listening to Negative Thoughts

Negative emotions do not necessarily require a conscious effort for it to be experienced or communicated.  They are merely a symptom of unresolved stress. 

Example, when I moved here to Thailand in 2013, moments that stress that happened to me as a child resurfaced when I began to experience racism here, and then it amplified for YEARS and become my personality.  I was a victim of my thoughts. 

And to be honest, your emotions are not always related to conscious thought and effort. Some of you think you can just switch off negative thoughts, but the subconscious IS THE EQUATION. It’s behind the steering wheel….and this is when things become complicated because although you want to change, your subconscious mind is saying, “no no! Get in the trunk of the car! I control you!”

So, what positive action can you take today to ease old negative thoughts that no longer serve you?

I had to go DEEEEEEP within my subconscious mind and blow everything up in terms of limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns before giving myself unconditional love — the kind of unconditional love I have for my mother. Changing the 2016 image of myself looking defeated on a train to a chiseled specimen (no bs….and it worked!). Now, the “I’m not good enough for Thai women” has completely dispersed, and society has reacted in the exact same way. 

It could be undone, but you have to make the decision today. 

Give your negative thoughts a voice today. What is the deep, underlying message of it?

I had to go all the way back to kindergarten when I was made fun of in my class. I saw the event, subconsciously. I felt the feelings. I put myself in the event. But then the older version of me when up to the 6-year-old version of myself….hugged him, and gave him the power to FEEL again. To REGAIN that confidence. When I did that, that’s when my paradigm shifted.

You have to do the work.

Wheel of Life | Year in Review – 2020 | Personal Development & Meta-questions

Personal Development score of 2020 is here, but it’s a little different from the 2017, 18, and 19 blog. I made this as actionable as possible for all of you who are looking for NLP style questions to navigate you into the unknown. The place that once you figure out the problem and identify it, then you can begin the process. This is the promise!

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | P/PC Balance

Here’s another great assessment for you to do to figure out if you have balance. Again, is work-life balance a myth? NOPE! It’s entirely up to you to be able to put your schedule together, to clear time out for loved ones, etc.

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | The Emotional Bank Account

Let’s get into scoring ourselves on a scale of 1-6 to see where we rank in these following areas. 

  • I show kindness and consideration to others
  • I keep promises and honor commitments
  • I do not speak negatively about others when they are present. 

Look at your life. In what ways do you show kindness and consideration to others? I’m very quick to think on my feet. It’s all a toss-up. I know that deep down inside, I’m a gorgeous soul, but when it comes to helping women in this country, it’s hit or miss.

In the morning, I helped a woman by getting off the treadmill, walking over to hers and turned it on for her (she didn’t know how to turn it on). She said thank you, and that was an amazing moment because the inner voice within me was like, “oh, look at you!” I quickly silenced him by saying “shut the f*** up.”

However, in the evening, you have a tendency of having hi-so (women who think they’re s*** don’t stink) walk in the lobby area and this lady knew i was behind her when we were both entering the lobby area of my condo. However, she opened the door only for her without giving me any leeway. So, not to get back at her, but I quickly went to the elevator and noticed that there was one at the bottom. Sure, I could’ve been the bigger person and keep the elevator door open for her, just because she was just about 4 meters back, but FUCK YOU.

So, it’s a toss-up.

The other two bullet points are in the podcast down below!

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review | Family & Friends

I think the greatest achievement in my life was to finally let go of my family.  The forgiveness and set in and because of so much internal work, the relationship with my mother has officially changed and the conversations between her and I have become more evident.  As for the others in my family, I’ve finally accepted that there’s no reason to prolong the inevitable, and by overcoming this, the relationships in my life are truly magnificent.

What do I mean by this? Well, because I did so much Chakra and inner work with Mira, producing a crazy amount of high-lows between June and September, the energy between my mother and I changed because of forgiveness. However, in the process, my youngest sister, who I hadn’t spoken to in four years, deleted me from Facebook. When it happened, I was truly fulfilled because I finally accepted that there’s no reason for us to front and act like you do want to speak to me. If deleting me from Facebook gives you true joy and fulfillment, please do. If that’s the only way to become content in life, I wish you the best. And when I did that and released it to the universe, I finally said to myself “I can finally be at peace with my siblings and wish them the best in their life.”

In the process, I don’t want to hear anything. Even when tragedy strikes in years to come, it’s none of my business. Just because tragedy comes, I don’t want to be notified then because I was never notified during the highs. You were never there for me to begin with. I meditate and hope that the universe brings you joy…and that’s all I can do.

When I finally let go of the resent of my family, those who didn’t understand left and the only one who stuck around was my mother. Now, she comments weekly on my posts. This is the most she’s written all year, and it has come in the last several months. Now I’m at true peace.

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The #1 Thing: Enjoy Connecting

Confidence comes as much from our social settings as our skills. High performers have learned
the tremendous value in relating with others. They’ve discovered that it is by connecting with
others that they learn more about themselves and the world. It’s their connection with others
that inspires greater congruence and competence, and thus confidence.

High Performance Prompts

  1. The main reason I want to become better with people is . . .
  2. I know I’ll become more confident with people when I . . .
  3. To gain more confidence with people

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