Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 13 | How to Withstand Cultural Provocations

“Where does a person get such internal strength to swim against the current and to withstand negative cultural provocations, subordinate selfish interests and develop and sustain such vision and determination?

They learn of their true nature and gifts. They use them to develop a vision of great things they want to accomplish. With wisdom they take initiative and cultivate great understanding of the needs and opportunities around them. They meet those needs that match their unique talents, that tap their higher motivations and that make a difference. In short, they find and use their voice. They serve and inspire others. They apply PRINCIPLES that govern growth and prosperity in human beings AND in organizations—principles that draw the highest and best from a “whole person”—body, mind, heart and spirit. Equally significant, they also choose to influence and inspire others to find their voice through these principles as well.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

This is an excellent example of what I’ve overcome at my last job. I literally ignored the noise; just as I ignored the noise with my family from 2012-2013.  This was a critical moment in my life because I could’ve been sucked into a bloodsucking abyss with no way out – although I felt like I was in it and suffocating as is. However, just like my family and my last full-time job from three years ago, I kept that vision strong and the why powerful enough that nothing could blow it down. My voice was always number one over everyone else, and this is how I was able to stave off the monsters from the outside.

This two-part solution—Find Your Voice and Inspire Others to Find Theirs—is a road map for individuals at ANY level of an organization to maximize their fulfillment and influence, become an irreplaceable contributor,* and inspire their team and the broader organization to do the same. Accordingly, the book is organized into two main sections:

1. Find Your Voice

2. Inspire Others to Find Their Voice”

Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 12 | The Solution

“HENRY DAVID THOREAU once wrote, “There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root.”1 This book is dedicated to striking at the root of the significant problems we face.
We’ve started with the pain; we’ve explored the underlying problem—one that has personal roots and that involves a deeply imbedded paradigm and set of traditions in the workplace. Now let’s set the context for the solution and give an overview of how it will be unfolded in the remainder of the book.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Most of the great cultural shifts—ones that have built great organizations that sustain long-term growth, prosperity and contribution to the world—started with the choice of one person. Sometimes that one person was the formal leader—the CEO or president. Very often it started with someone else—a professional, a line manager, someone’s assistant. Regardless of their position, these people first changed themselves from the inside out.

Their character, competence, initiative and positive energy—in short, their moral authority—inspired and lifted others. They possessed an anchored sense of identity, discovered their strengths and talents, and used them to meet needs and produce results. People noticed. They were given more responsibility. They magnified the new responsibility and again produced results. More and more people sat up and noticed. Top people wanted to learn of their ideas—how they accomplished so much. The culture was drawn to their vision and to them.
People like this just don’t get sucked into or pulled down for long by all the negative, demoralizing, insulting forces in the organization. And interestingly, their organizations are no better than most organizations. To some degree, they’re all a mess. These people just realize that they can’t wait for their boss or the organization to change. They become an island of excellence in a sea of mediocrity. And it’s contagious.”

STEPHEN COVEY’S 8TH HABIT | SEASON 6 – EPISODE 8 | THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL OF CODEPENDENCY

“What happens when you manage people like things? They stop believing that leadership can become a choice. Most people think of leadership as a position and therefore don’t see themselves as leaders. Making personal leadership (influence) a choice is like having the freedom to play the piano. It is a freedom that has to be earned—only then can leadership become a choice.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Wow! Is that one of the best quotes ever? Most people believe they can’t be leaders because they believe they’re just things. The don’t believe leadership is a choice. See, everyone has the ability to become leaders, but when they do, they often abuse the privilege of being one or they’re just lousy because they believe it’s pure position.

“Even if they perceive a need, they don’t take the initiative to act. They wait to be told what to do by the person with the formal title, and then they respond as directed. Consequently, they blame the formal leader when things go wrong and give him or her the credit when things go well. And they are thanked for their “cooperation and support.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

And this is the predominant Asian culture. This is from the eastern seaboard, to central Asia, to southern Asia and back down to southeast Asia. Too many people wait to be told what to do. Let me give you an example. COVID. When the governments said wear masks in Asia, although most already wear masks, they hopped to it pretty quickly because it was an order. If they were more of the rebellion like western countries, they would’ve been top 5 on the COVID list.

“The more a manager controls, the more he/she evokes behaviors that necessitate greater control or managing. The codependent culture that develops is eventually institutionalized to the point that no one takes responsibility. Over time, both leaders and followers confirm their roles in an unconscious pact. They disempower themselves by believing that others must change before their own circumstances can improve. The same cycle reappears in families between parents and children.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

STEPHEN COVEY’S 8TH HABIT | SEASON 6 – EPISODE 7 | The Thing Mindset of the industrial age

“The most important, and indeed the truly unique, contribution of management in the 20th century was the fifty-fold increase in the productivity of the MANUAL WORKER in manufacturing.

The most important contribution management needs to make in the 21st century is similarly to increase the productivity of KNOWLEDGE WORK and the KNOWLEDGE WORKER.

The most valuable assets of a 20th-century company were its production equipment. The most valuable asset of a 21st-century institution, whether business or non-business, will be its knowledge workers and their productivity”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Great historian stated that a long time ago. There’s no doubt that industrial age workers are still important, but given the fact that knowledge age workers still have a significant amount of income and have created their own economy (student I just met and her story in my podcast) goes to show you that being an industrial worker is no longer sustainable.

“The main assets and primary drivers of economic prosperity in the Industrial Age were machines and capital—things. People were necessary but replaceable. You could control and churn through manual workers with little consequence—supply exceeded demand. You just got more able bodies that would comply with strict procedures. People were like things—you could be efficient with them. When all you want is a person’s body and you don’t really want their mind, heart or spirit (all inhibitors to the free-flowing processes of the machine age), you have reduced a person to a thing.

So many of our modern management practices come from the Industrial Age.

It gave us the belief that you have to control and manage people.

It gave us our view of accounting, which makes people an expense and machines assets. Think about it. People are put on the P&L statement as an expense; equipment is put on the balance sheet as an investment.”

“It gave us our carrot-and-stick motivational philosophy—the Great Jackass technique that motivates with a carrot in front (reward) and drives with a stick from behind (fear and punishment).

It gave us centralized budgeting—where trends are extrapolated into the future and hierarchies and bureaucracies are formed to drive “getting the numbers”—an obsolete reactive process that produces “kiss-up” cultures bent on “spending it so we won’t lose it next year” and protecting the backside of your department.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 1 | New Series!

Absolutely STOKED about this book series! If you guys have been following my personal development podcast for a while, you would’ve seen that I dissect a lot of these books. I got scared after Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad because I wasn’t prepared with the next book. But with patience and just sitting back, I found the 8th habit and downloaded it directly to my iBooks (first time doing this since Gary Vee’s Crushing it back in 2018). So, here it is! The content model, the podcast, and prepare yourself for the intro!

  • Chapter 1 – The Pain
  • Chapter 2 – The Problem
  • Chapter 3 – The Solution
  • Chapter 4 – Discover Your Voice
  • Chapter 5 – Express Your Voice
  • Chapter 6 – Inspiring Others to Find their Voice
  • Chapter 7 – The Voice of Influence
  • Chapter 8 – The Voice of Trustworthiness
  • Chapter 9 – The Voice and Speed of Trust
  • Chapter 10 – Blending Voices
  • Chapter 11 – One Voice
  • Chapter 12 – The Voice and Discipline of Execution
  • Chapter 13 – The Empowering Voice
  • Chapter 14 – The 8th Habit and the Sweet Spot
  • Chapter 15 – Using Your Voices Wisely

Podcast

Topic: Doing What’s Needed….For Now

I came across a situation (cleared up since then) when I was utterly confused at the reaction of someone. My “boss,” who I speak to maybe once a year, wanted to me notified via agent/me when the renewal of my visa was coming. He said, “you should’ve notified me before you paid.”

So then I quickly jumped to my own defence and said, “wait, so if I had asked you before, would you have accepted my renewal?”

That’s simply overthinking — which it turned out to be. But that’s only my situation. Some of you are in similar situations where people want to have that sort of power over you, and because we’re living in rapidly changing times, our pride says “tell them to fuck off,” but it’s essential to think things through while beating on your craft (side hustle) at the same time. Tune into the podcast down below!

Wheel of Life: May 2020 Edition – Becoming Mentally Tough

It’s been almost two months since doing the transformation coaching program with Mira Butler, and I can’t express how grateful I am for the development of who I am. It’s now time to take those quantum leaps because the inner-conflict is no longer there. If you haven’t done the Wheel of Life yet, rate yourself on a 1-10 (over the past month) in the following categories: health, wealth, family and friends, physical environment, personal development, career, romantic relationships, and fun and hobbies. Waiting on your scores!

Wheel of Life

Completing The Past Part II

After going back and completing the past, my conscious was now free. Those three individuals that were not only on my mind but also in the subconscious (dreams), they were no more. This was the most free-ing exercise. One of the individuals had responded with her explanation, but it didn’t even matter because it was ME who needed the closure, and perhaps that had given her some closure, too. The other two? One never responded…and that’s totally fine because I did it without expectation. The other one was actually resolved a couple of weeks prior but “dumb me” thought it could’ve been a life-time relationship but it was just a purposeful relationship. Lol. Tune in!

Complete The Past

Yes, this is one of those podcasts that you need to really listen to because I’ve had a number of faces creep into my dreams. Now, it’s very difficult to even recall dreams after you wake up in the morning, but there were about 2-3 people who kept coming into my dreams and I was just confused as to why.

So, I asked myself the question: “did I complete these relationships?” The answer was “no.” So what I did was I took to Instagram, and this allowed me to finally write the final chapter of the book and close it permanently. When I did that, they were no longer in my conscious or dreams….and then I started attracting to me people who I was possibly pushing away because the energy that was surrounding the previous relationships.

Want to know more? Podcast down below!

Podcast

Becoming Your Own Superhero: Episode 01 – Understanding The Mind

WOW! We are here with the UDEMY course! If some of you don’t already know or don’t listen to my podcast, I went on an unbelievable transformation course with Mira Butler a week after the beginning of this month. What it brought me was tears (literally), destroyed my negative beliefs, and overcame the limiting beliefs. I now understand the power of goal-setting and my goals and everything has been 10x. I’m BEYOND excited about bringing you guys this on a 1 hour and 56 minute UDEMY course, but on this blog it will feature just a 7 minute podcast in which we dive deep into the mind.

What is the mind? Two halves: conscious and subconscious. If you’re not aware of this, you will definitely find this fascinating and realize that you’re not only NOT in the driver’s seat of the car you THINK you’re steering, but you’re probably in the trunk!

Things that will be learned.

  • Steer the boat
  • What’s the subconscious mind?
  • The beginning of rewiring your subconscious mind.