Reignite Your Life | Witnessing Beauty: Evening Routine

The PERFECT way to condition your mind and start appreciating your day is by appreciating the beauty that happened throughout the day.

At the end of the day, take a notebook and run by these questions while feeling what happened throughout the day. You will be amazingly surprised by the things that you run over quickly that are unbelievably meaningful.

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | Habit #2 | Begin with The End in Mind

We’re back with Habit #2 with the self-scoring habits. It’s been a while, but over the next few days, I want you guys to score yourself, down below, on a scale 1-6….where you are.

  1. I know what I want to accomplish in my life.
  2. I organize and prepare in a way that reduces having to work in a crisis mode.
  3. I begin each week with a clear plan of what I desire to accomplish.

So, I know exactly what I want to accomplish in life, but I did know the “how to.” I know I’ve said before that “the how to” is none of your business, but figuring out achievable steps is unbelievably important.

So, organizing and preparing in a way that reduces having to work in crisis mode I scored very low on because my creativity had gone up with Bangkok shut down at the dawn of the New Year. Getting the message “sorry, all tutorial centers are shut down,” was not good AT ALL. But then I doubled-down on what I could do to put myself in a position to win. However, if I started my day with that same urgency without needing a shutdown to motivate me, everything would’ve changed.

And the last one, beginning with a clear plan each week, is not what I have either. However, I do have monthly targets in terms of goal-setting and targets that could be achieved.

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The End of The Most Purposeful Relationship EVER!

This is going to be a long story, so brace yourself.

At the beginning of the lockdown, a friendship was born. Having already met this transformation coach last year through a mutual friend, she took me on a journey of renewal by doing a transformation program, life coaching, and healing sessions. 

This changed everything about who I am in the best possible way, and most importantly, it gave my inner child a voice again. 

This voice allowed me to have those tough/difficult conversations. 

When July had rolled around, I sensed the egoism coming from this individual because now she was doing work for a famous monk by the name of Jay Shetty. Working in his company, she began to cancel appointments, use condescending tones while speaking to me and about others, and really had a “I don’t give a f*** attitude.” 

There were a number of times I just wanted to get away from this individual, but of course Instagram is the main culprit in laying things to rest. 

I have a lot of people who follow/unfollow me, and after checking who unfollowed me this morning, it was her!

Sometimes we clutch onto things that should no longer be. Sometimes we’re scared of these moments actually happening because we don’t value our own dignity and self-worth. You know the purpose had been fulfilled with that particular someone coming into your life to take you to the next level, but you want to keep pursuing a friendship. The problem is, when egoism comes into play, you can either confront it, or just let things be. 

I labeled this my “purposeful” relationship because after everything had been handled in early August, the energy had shifted and took a turn. There was no more empathy and rather ambiguous exchanges. 

Gratitude, is what’s pouring from my heart because I’m grateful to have had such a purposeful relationship that opened the doors for me to bet on me. You should do the same. Stop pursuing things that have ended months/years ago and be an observer to what’s trying to emerge! 

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review – 2020 | Personal Development & Meta-questions

Personal Development score of 2020 is here, but it’s a little different from the 2017, 18, and 19 blog. I made this as actionable as possible for all of you who are looking for NLP style questions to navigate you into the unknown. The place that once you figure out the problem and identify it, then you can begin the process. This is the promise!

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | P/PC Balance

Here’s another great assessment for you to do to figure out if you have balance. Again, is work-life balance a myth? NOPE! It’s entirely up to you to be able to put your schedule together, to clear time out for loved ones, etc.

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | The Emotional Bank Account

Let’s get into scoring ourselves on a scale of 1-6 to see where we rank in these following areas. 

  • I show kindness and consideration to others
  • I keep promises and honor commitments
  • I do not speak negatively about others when they are present. 

Look at your life. In what ways do you show kindness and consideration to others? I’m very quick to think on my feet. It’s all a toss-up. I know that deep down inside, I’m a gorgeous soul, but when it comes to helping women in this country, it’s hit or miss.

In the morning, I helped a woman by getting off the treadmill, walking over to hers and turned it on for her (she didn’t know how to turn it on). She said thank you, and that was an amazing moment because the inner voice within me was like, “oh, look at you!” I quickly silenced him by saying “shut the f*** up.”

However, in the evening, you have a tendency of having hi-so (women who think they’re s*** don’t stink) walk in the lobby area and this lady knew i was behind her when we were both entering the lobby area of my condo. However, she opened the door only for her without giving me any leeway. So, not to get back at her, but I quickly went to the elevator and noticed that there was one at the bottom. Sure, I could’ve been the bigger person and keep the elevator door open for her, just because she was just about 4 meters back, but FUCK YOU.

So, it’s a toss-up.

The other two bullet points are in the podcast down below!

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review | Family & Friends

I think the greatest achievement in my life was to finally let go of my family.  The forgiveness and set in and because of so much internal work, the relationship with my mother has officially changed and the conversations between her and I have become more evident.  As for the others in my family, I’ve finally accepted that there’s no reason to prolong the inevitable, and by overcoming this, the relationships in my life are truly magnificent.

What do I mean by this? Well, because I did so much Chakra and inner work with Mira, producing a crazy amount of high-lows between June and September, the energy between my mother and I changed because of forgiveness. However, in the process, my youngest sister, who I hadn’t spoken to in four years, deleted me from Facebook. When it happened, I was truly fulfilled because I finally accepted that there’s no reason for us to front and act like you do want to speak to me. If deleting me from Facebook gives you true joy and fulfillment, please do. If that’s the only way to become content in life, I wish you the best. And when I did that and released it to the universe, I finally said to myself “I can finally be at peace with my siblings and wish them the best in their life.”

In the process, I don’t want to hear anything. Even when tragedy strikes in years to come, it’s none of my business. Just because tragedy comes, I don’t want to be notified then because I was never notified during the highs. You were never there for me to begin with. I meditate and hope that the universe brings you joy…and that’s all I can do.

When I finally let go of the resent of my family, those who didn’t understand left and the only one who stuck around was my mother. Now, she comments weekly on my posts. This is the most she’s written all year, and it has come in the last several months. Now I’m at true peace.

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Happy Thanksgiving | The Most Purposeful Relationship of My Life

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! I’m going to take my time today to reevaluate a relationship that came and went this year — but it was the life-defining relationship that really cleared my subconscious and made me bet on myself for once in my life. 

There are three types of relationships:

  • Life-giving
  • Life-time
  • Purposeful

With purposeful relationships, these are ones that are placed in your life to achieve a purpose, and once they do, they will forever change. They don’t necessarily end, but the energy goes dormant. Here’s one of them!

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The #1 Thing: Enjoy Connecting

Confidence comes as much from our social settings as our skills. High performers have learned
the tremendous value in relating with others. They’ve discovered that it is by connecting with
others that they learn more about themselves and the world. It’s their connection with others
that inspires greater congruence and competence, and thus confidence.

High Performance Prompts

  1. The main reason I want to become better with people is . . .
  2. I know I’ll become more confident with people when I . . .
  3. To gain more confidence with people

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The #1 Thing: Be Congruent

Practice 2: Be Congruent
At some point—often a major moment in their lives—high performers took control, defined who they wanted to be, and started living in accordance with that self-image. They shaped their identity by conscious will and have aligned their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to support that identity.


Performance Prompts

  1. The person I really want to be in life could be described as . . .
  2. Three things I could do each week to live more congruently with that vision for myself
    include . . .
  3. Three things I should definitely stop doing in my life so I can live in greater congruence
    with my ideal image of myself are . . .

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