Reignite Your Life | Witnessing Beauty: Evening Routine

The PERFECT way to condition your mind and start appreciating your day is by appreciating the beauty that happened throughout the day.

At the end of the day, take a notebook and run by these questions while feeling what happened throughout the day. You will be amazingly surprised by the things that you run over quickly that are unbelievably meaningful.

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The End of The Most Purposeful Relationship EVER!

This is going to be a long story, so brace yourself.

At the beginning of the lockdown, a friendship was born. Having already met this transformation coach last year through a mutual friend, she took me on a journey of renewal by doing a transformation program, life coaching, and healing sessions. 

This changed everything about who I am in the best possible way, and most importantly, it gave my inner child a voice again. 

This voice allowed me to have those tough/difficult conversations. 

When July had rolled around, I sensed the egoism coming from this individual because now she was doing work for a famous monk by the name of Jay Shetty. Working in his company, she began to cancel appointments, use condescending tones while speaking to me and about others, and really had a “I don’t give a f*** attitude.” 

There were a number of times I just wanted to get away from this individual, but of course Instagram is the main culprit in laying things to rest. 

I have a lot of people who follow/unfollow me, and after checking who unfollowed me this morning, it was her!

Sometimes we clutch onto things that should no longer be. Sometimes we’re scared of these moments actually happening because we don’t value our own dignity and self-worth. You know the purpose had been fulfilled with that particular someone coming into your life to take you to the next level, but you want to keep pursuing a friendship. The problem is, when egoism comes into play, you can either confront it, or just let things be. 

I labeled this my “purposeful” relationship because after everything had been handled in early August, the energy had shifted and took a turn. There was no more empathy and rather ambiguous exchanges. 

Gratitude, is what’s pouring from my heart because I’m grateful to have had such a purposeful relationship that opened the doors for me to bet on me. You should do the same. Stop pursuing things that have ended months/years ago and be an observer to what’s trying to emerge! 

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review – 2020 | Personal Development & Meta-questions

Personal Development score of 2020 is here, but it’s a little different from the 2017, 18, and 19 blog. I made this as actionable as possible for all of you who are looking for NLP style questions to navigate you into the unknown. The place that once you figure out the problem and identify it, then you can begin the process. This is the promise!

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | P/PC Balance

Here’s another great assessment for you to do to figure out if you have balance. Again, is work-life balance a myth? NOPE! It’s entirely up to you to be able to put your schedule together, to clear time out for loved ones, etc.

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review | Family & Friends

I think the greatest achievement in my life was to finally let go of my family.  The forgiveness and set in and because of so much internal work, the relationship with my mother has officially changed and the conversations between her and I have become more evident.  As for the others in my family, I’ve finally accepted that there’s no reason to prolong the inevitable, and by overcoming this, the relationships in my life are truly magnificent.

What do I mean by this? Well, because I did so much Chakra and inner work with Mira, producing a crazy amount of high-lows between June and September, the energy between my mother and I changed because of forgiveness. However, in the process, my youngest sister, who I hadn’t spoken to in four years, deleted me from Facebook. When it happened, I was truly fulfilled because I finally accepted that there’s no reason for us to front and act like you do want to speak to me. If deleting me from Facebook gives you true joy and fulfillment, please do. If that’s the only way to become content in life, I wish you the best. And when I did that and released it to the universe, I finally said to myself “I can finally be at peace with my siblings and wish them the best in their life.”

In the process, I don’t want to hear anything. Even when tragedy strikes in years to come, it’s none of my business. Just because tragedy comes, I don’t want to be notified then because I was never notified during the highs. You were never there for me to begin with. I meditate and hope that the universe brings you joy…and that’s all I can do.

When I finally let go of the resent of my family, those who didn’t understand left and the only one who stuck around was my mother. Now, she comments weekly on my posts. This is the most she’s written all year, and it has come in the last several months. Now I’m at true peace.

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Happy Thanksgiving | The Most Purposeful Relationship of My Life

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! I’m going to take my time today to reevaluate a relationship that came and went this year — but it was the life-defining relationship that really cleared my subconscious and made me bet on myself for once in my life. 

There are three types of relationships:

  • Life-giving
  • Life-time
  • Purposeful

With purposeful relationships, these are ones that are placed in your life to achieve a purpose, and once they do, they will forever change. They don’t necessarily end, but the energy goes dormant. Here’s one of them!

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The #1 Thing: Be Congruent

Practice 2: Be Congruent
At some point—often a major moment in their lives—high performers took control, defined who they wanted to be, and started living in accordance with that self-image. They shaped their identity by conscious will and have aligned their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to support that identity.


Performance Prompts

  1. The person I really want to be in life could be described as . . .
  2. Three things I could do each week to live more congruently with that vision for myself
    include . . .
  3. Three things I should definitely stop doing in my life so I can live in greater congruence
    with my ideal image of myself are . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: #1 Superiority

High performers face a unique set of character traps because they are, by definition, outperforming so many around them. When you are succeeding beyond others, it’s easy to get a big head. You can begin to think you’re special, separate from, better than, or more important than other people. Of course, you probably would never say to yourself, “One day, I want to start feeling that I’m better than other people.” So consider these prompts closely.

Performance Prompts

  • A recent situation where I found myself being overly critical or dismissive of others was…

Think of any situation in your life that you felt like you were looking down on someone based on what class you think you’re in versus theirs. This could be you looking down on a street cleaner, maintenance, bus driver, etc.

  • The thoughts I had about myself in that situation and the others involved were . . .

Did you have thoughts of “well, I make this much money and you make a fraction, therefore I can treat you poorly.” This is the Thai mindset, and it could be very disheartening for a lot of people out there. I make sure I always give grace to security and the cleaners at my condo (except one lady because she’s a total crazy.)

  • Had I reimagined the situation from a more humble and appreciative view, I would
    probably have realized that . . .

Go back and apologize. Be different in your next interaction with people you believe you’re more superior too.

  • The best way I can remind myself that everyone is dealing with difficulties in life and that we’re all more alike than we are different is . . .

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Sharing Your Ambitions Performance Prompts

Practice 2: Share Your Truth & Ambitions


The main motivation of humankind is to be free, to express our true selves and pursue our dreams without restriction—to experience what may be called personal freedom. Follow this impulse by consistently sharing your true thoughts, feelings, needs, and dreams
with other people. Do not play small to placate others. Live your truth. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. Something I really want to do that I haven’t shared with enough people is . . .
  • Traveling, starting that business, taking that leap of faith, committing to that passion. Put it out there….
  1. If I were going to be more “me” in my everyday life, I would start to . . .
  • Since living in Thailand, I realized that regardless of what I do, I will always be just “black” or “bad” through the eyes of Thais — not only Thais but Asians on the continent of Asia in general. So, that enabled me to establish me and live ME everyday.
  1. When I put myself out there and someone makes fun of me, I’m just going to . . .
  • Critical. YouTube is troll city. Are you ready for people to judge you? What criticism will you accept? Will you respond to no-face trolls out there? This is why I turned off ALL COMMENTS on my YouTube because it shows I don’t give a fuck about anyone’s opinion. I’ve turned off likes, too. If they truly admire my work, they would click the description and follow me elsewhere. I’m very lucky to also be in a realm where Americans in general would NEVER follow me, so I eliminate about 10% of the trolls in the world.
  1. A major dream I’m going to start telling people about and asking for some help with is . .
  • Be careful with WHO you share your dream with though.

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Honor Thy Struggle – Performance Prompts

Practice 1: Honor the Struggle


When you have the opportunity to learn and serve, you don’t complain about the effort involved. View struggle as a necessary, important, and positive part of your journey so that you can and true peace and personal power. Don’t bemoan the inevitable hardships of self-improvement and chasing your dreams; have reverence for challenge. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. A struggle I’ve been facing in my life is . . .
  2. The way I could change my view of this struggle is . . .
  3. If something great could come from this struggle, it would be . . .
  4. The way I choose to greet life’s inevitable hardships from today forward is . . .

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