Happy Thanksgiving | The Most Purposeful Relationship of My Life

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! I’m going to take my time today to reevaluate a relationship that came and went this year — but it was the life-defining relationship that really cleared my subconscious and made me bet on myself for once in my life. 

There are three types of relationships:

  • Life-giving
  • Life-time
  • Purposeful

With purposeful relationships, these are ones that are placed in your life to achieve a purpose, and once they do, they will forever change. They don’t necessarily end, but the energy goes dormant. Here’s one of them!

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The #1 Thing: Be Congruent

Practice 2: Be Congruent
At some point—often a major moment in their lives—high performers took control, defined who they wanted to be, and started living in accordance with that self-image. They shaped their identity by conscious will and have aligned their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to support that identity.


Performance Prompts

  1. The person I really want to be in life could be described as . . .
  2. Three things I could do each week to live more congruently with that vision for myself
    include . . .
  3. Three things I should definitely stop doing in my life so I can live in greater congruence
    with my ideal image of myself are . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: #1 Superiority

High performers face a unique set of character traps because they are, by definition, outperforming so many around them. When you are succeeding beyond others, it’s easy to get a big head. You can begin to think you’re special, separate from, better than, or more important than other people. Of course, you probably would never say to yourself, “One day, I want to start feeling that I’m better than other people.” So consider these prompts closely.

Performance Prompts

  • A recent situation where I found myself being overly critical or dismissive of others was…

Think of any situation in your life that you felt like you were looking down on someone based on what class you think you’re in versus theirs. This could be you looking down on a street cleaner, maintenance, bus driver, etc.

  • The thoughts I had about myself in that situation and the others involved were . . .

Did you have thoughts of “well, I make this much money and you make a fraction, therefore I can treat you poorly.” This is the Thai mindset, and it could be very disheartening for a lot of people out there. I make sure I always give grace to security and the cleaners at my condo (except one lady because she’s a total crazy.)

  • Had I reimagined the situation from a more humble and appreciative view, I would
    probably have realized that . . .

Go back and apologize. Be different in your next interaction with people you believe you’re more superior too.

  • The best way I can remind myself that everyone is dealing with difficulties in life and that we’re all more alike than we are different is . . .

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Sharing Your Ambitions Performance Prompts

Practice 2: Share Your Truth & Ambitions


The main motivation of humankind is to be free, to express our true selves and pursue our dreams without restriction—to experience what may be called personal freedom. Follow this impulse by consistently sharing your true thoughts, feelings, needs, and dreams
with other people. Do not play small to placate others. Live your truth. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. Something I really want to do that I haven’t shared with enough people is . . .
  • Traveling, starting that business, taking that leap of faith, committing to that passion. Put it out there….
  1. If I were going to be more “me” in my everyday life, I would start to . . .
  • Since living in Thailand, I realized that regardless of what I do, I will always be just “black” or “bad” through the eyes of Thais — not only Thais but Asians on the continent of Asia in general. So, that enabled me to establish me and live ME everyday.
  1. When I put myself out there and someone makes fun of me, I’m just going to . . .
  • Critical. YouTube is troll city. Are you ready for people to judge you? What criticism will you accept? Will you respond to no-face trolls out there? This is why I turned off ALL COMMENTS on my YouTube because it shows I don’t give a fuck about anyone’s opinion. I’ve turned off likes, too. If they truly admire my work, they would click the description and follow me elsewhere. I’m very lucky to also be in a realm where Americans in general would NEVER follow me, so I eliminate about 10% of the trolls in the world.
  1. A major dream I’m going to start telling people about and asking for some help with is . .
  • Be careful with WHO you share your dream with though.

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Honor Thy Struggle – Performance Prompts

Practice 1: Honor the Struggle


When you have the opportunity to learn and serve, you don’t complain about the effort involved. View struggle as a necessary, important, and positive part of your journey so that you can and true peace and personal power. Don’t bemoan the inevitable hardships of self-improvement and chasing your dreams; have reverence for challenge. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. A struggle I’ve been facing in my life is . . .
  2. The way I could change my view of this struggle is . . .
  3. If something great could come from this struggle, it would be . . .
  4. The way I choose to greet life’s inevitable hardships from today forward is . . .

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Inspirational Monday | The Single Greatest Quote Ever

I desperately needed a pick-me-up. After quitting a job last Wednesday, I was feeling sorry for myself and fear had set in. My mind was hijacked by fear, the fear of not being able to pay bills and financial fears. After this COVID months, there was only one place that had taken care of me during these COVID times, but this place was also notoriously known for forging my signature, lying to me, nickeling-and-diming me, as well as so many other things.

So, when I finally told them to FUCK OFF because I was done playing their racist games “blacks must take tests to prove themselves while whites can teach dogshit,” I heard a quote from my friend, and it forever shaped my life.

No more going small. My business is global.

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 22 | Our Second Birth-Gift: Natural Laws or Principles

“Natural authority is the dominion of natural laws. You can’t ignore natural laws, and you have no choice but to operate by them. All actions have consequences. Like it or not, when we pick up one end of the stick we pick up the other. If you jump off a ten-story building, you can’t change your mind at the fifth story. Gravity controls. That is the stamp of nature. Nature has also stamped people with the freedom and power to choose, and, therefore, they have natural authority or dominion over all of the rest of creation. Endangered species survive only by our consent. They don’t have freedom and power to choose. They lack self-awareness. They can’t reinvent themselves. They’re totally subject to humans, who, because they are self-aware, alone have freedom and power to choose and to reinvent themselves. This is natural authority.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

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The Arsenio Buck Perspective Official Debut!

Super excited! I’ve switched podcast hosting sites to get more exposure, and in just 12 hours, I’m up to 1k plays! I’m grateful for making this switch and even more excited to introduce some new things, topics, etc to this podcast.  So, listen to the debut of this, how it started, and what to expect going forward. Set your alarms for M-W-F!

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 22 | Our Second Birth-Gift: Natural Laws or Principles

“Natural authority is the dominion of natural laws. You can’t ignore natural laws, and you have no choice but to operate by them. All actions have consequences. Like it or not, when we pick up one end of the stick we pick up the other. If you jump off a ten-story building, you can’t change your mind at the fifth story. Gravity controls. That is the stamp of nature. Nature has also stamped people with the freedom and power to choose, and, therefore, they have natural authority or dominion over all of the rest of creation. Endangered species survive only by our consent. They don’t have freedom and power to choose. They lack self-awareness. They can’t reinvent themselves. They’re totally subject to humans, who, because they are self-aware, alone have freedom and power to choose and to reinvent themselves. This is natural authority.”

There are other natural laws that are in play, but this is yet another resounding podcast that continues to build on the self-awareness from the previous one. Tune in!

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 21 | Our First Birth Gift – The Freedom to Choose

“This power of choice means that we are not merely a product of our past or of our genes; we are not a product of how other people treat us. They unquestionably influence us, but they do not determine us. We are self-determining through our choices. If we have given away our present to the past, do we need to give away our future also?”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

When people use their past as an excuse, I have empathy for them…let alone, that was me at one particular point. However, if we allow the past to influence us the way it did for our future, how can we expect change to happen? Here’s the podcast.