Wheel of Life | November 2020 Edition | The Self-Renewal Journey = Achieved!

A day before Thanksgiving, I can honestly say that I’m more level-headed than I’ve ever been in my life. In harmony. In oneness. In a space that I’ve never been before with complete contentment and acceptance. This has been the wildest year of my life, and I honestly believe that now I’m vibrationally ready for when everything returns back to normal.

In this podcast, you will rate yourself on a scale 1-10, 1 being negligient and 10 being completely fulfilled — in the following categories.

  • Personal development
  • physical environment
  • health
  • wealth
  • career
  • family and friends
  • fun and hobbies
  • romantic relationships

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The #1 Thing: Enjoy Connecting

Confidence comes as much from our social settings as our skills. High performers have learned
the tremendous value in relating with others. They’ve discovered that it is by connecting with
others that they learn more about themselves and the world. It’s their connection with others
that inspires greater congruence and competence, and thus confidence.

High Performance Prompts

  1. The main reason I want to become better with people is . . .
  2. I know I’ll become more confident with people when I . . .
  3. To gain more confidence with people

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The #1 Thing: Be Congruent

Practice 2: Be Congruent
At some point—often a major moment in their lives—high performers took control, defined who they wanted to be, and started living in accordance with that self-image. They shaped their identity by conscious will and have aligned their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to support that identity.


Performance Prompts

  1. The person I really want to be in life could be described as . . .
  2. Three things I could do each week to live more congruently with that vision for myself
    include . . .
  3. Three things I should definitely stop doing in my life so I can live in greater congruence
    with my ideal image of myself are . . .

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The #1 Thing: Developing Confidence

High performers are confident, in part because they are good at what they do. While most people think of confidence as a general belief in oneself, the kind of confidence that is most tied to performance improvement comes from belief in one’s abilities in a specific task. This means that the more knowledge, skill, ability, or talent—that is, competence— you have at a given task, the more likely you are to be confident and perform well. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. The competences—knowledge, skills, abilities, or talents—that I have worked hard to
    cultivate in my life include . .
  2. If I gave myself credit for learning all those things, I would start to feel more . . .
  3. Something I’ve learned to do in the past few years that I have not yet given myself credit
    for is . . .
  4. I feel that I can handle a big challenge in my life right now because I am good at learning
    how to . . .
  5. A practice I’ll begin doing every week to help me start feeling more confident is . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: Neglect

Trap 3: Beware Neglect

It’s easy to neglect the important people and things in our lives when we get overcommitted or overreach. Perhaps that’s why this is one of the most important chapters in the book. Read it twice. Trust me. No one wants to wake up and realize they took their eye off what matters.

Performance Prompts

  1. An area where I am neglecting someone or something important in my life is . . .

Being true to my commitments, would be mine. But how about you? Someone you consistently put off who you love?

  1. An area where that neglect will cause me regret later on is . . .
  1. An area where I can return my focus, reallocating my attention to things that matter, is…
  2. Some areas in my life where I feel overcommitted right now are . . .
  3. The things I need to learn to say no to more often are . . .
  4. An opportunity I really want to chase right now that I could schedule to revisit in few
    months is . . .
  5. The main things moving the needle toward my success that I should be focused on right
    now, despite all the other exciting interests and opportunities I could chase, are . . .
  6. The way I’ll remind myself not to take on too much is . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: Dissatisfaction

Trap 2: Beware Dissatisfaction
Do not listen to those who say, “Never be satisfied.” Satisfaction is something you should feel as you strive, not one day when all is perfect. Being satisfied, then, doesn’t mean “settling.” It simply means accepting and taking pleasure in what is. It’s allowing yourself to feel contentment whether or not a thing is complete or “perfect.” You have to reach yourself to feel fulfilled and enjoy the journey now.

These prompts will help.

  • The areas of my life I’ve felt consistently dissatisfied with include . . .

Think about personal development, health, wealth, career, fun & hobbies, family and friends, etc.

  • Some good things that have also happened in those areas include . . .

Look at the good side of these areas and ask yourself what has been learned. Again, if you’re dealing with year-long dissatisfaction on the job, it’s because it’s no longer providing meaning to you.

  • Something I can say to myself the next time I feel dissatisfied, to get me to notice the good things and continue moving forward, is . .

  • Someone who probably sees me dissatisfied more than I want them to is . . .

  • If I were going to inspire that person to believe you can enjoy life as you work hard and
    succeed, I would have to change these behaviors . . .

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Beware of These Three Traps: #1 Superiority

High performers face a unique set of character traps because they are, by definition, outperforming so many around them. When you are succeeding beyond others, it’s easy to get a big head. You can begin to think you’re special, separate from, better than, or more important than other people. Of course, you probably would never say to yourself, “One day, I want to start feeling that I’m better than other people.” So consider these prompts closely.

Performance Prompts

  • A recent situation where I found myself being overly critical or dismissive of others was…

Think of any situation in your life that you felt like you were looking down on someone based on what class you think you’re in versus theirs. This could be you looking down on a street cleaner, maintenance, bus driver, etc.

  • The thoughts I had about myself in that situation and the others involved were . . .

Did you have thoughts of “well, I make this much money and you make a fraction, therefore I can treat you poorly.” This is the Thai mindset, and it could be very disheartening for a lot of people out there. I make sure I always give grace to security and the cleaners at my condo (except one lady because she’s a total crazy.)

  • Had I reimagined the situation from a more humble and appreciative view, I would
    probably have realized that . . .

Go back and apologize. Be different in your next interaction with people you believe you’re more superior too.

  • The best way I can remind myself that everyone is dealing with difficulties in life and that we’re all more alike than we are different is . . .

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Sharing Your Ambitions Performance Prompts

Practice 2: Share Your Truth & Ambitions


The main motivation of humankind is to be free, to express our true selves and pursue our dreams without restriction—to experience what may be called personal freedom. Follow this impulse by consistently sharing your true thoughts, feelings, needs, and dreams
with other people. Do not play small to placate others. Live your truth. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. Something I really want to do that I haven’t shared with enough people is . . .
  • Traveling, starting that business, taking that leap of faith, committing to that passion. Put it out there….
  1. If I were going to be more “me” in my everyday life, I would start to . . .
  • Since living in Thailand, I realized that regardless of what I do, I will always be just “black” or “bad” through the eyes of Thais — not only Thais but Asians on the continent of Asia in general. So, that enabled me to establish me and live ME everyday.
  1. When I put myself out there and someone makes fun of me, I’m just going to . . .
  • Critical. YouTube is troll city. Are you ready for people to judge you? What criticism will you accept? Will you respond to no-face trolls out there? This is why I turned off ALL COMMENTS on my YouTube because it shows I don’t give a fuck about anyone’s opinion. I’ve turned off likes, too. If they truly admire my work, they would click the description and follow me elsewhere. I’m very lucky to also be in a realm where Americans in general would NEVER follow me, so I eliminate about 10% of the trolls in the world.
  1. A major dream I’m going to start telling people about and asking for some help with is . .
  • Be careful with WHO you share your dream with though.

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Honor Thy Struggle – Performance Prompts

Practice 1: Honor the Struggle


When you have the opportunity to learn and serve, you don’t complain about the effort involved. View struggle as a necessary, important, and positive part of your journey so that you can and true peace and personal power. Don’t bemoan the inevitable hardships of self-improvement and chasing your dreams; have reverence for challenge. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. A struggle I’ve been facing in my life is . . .
  2. The way I could change my view of this struggle is . . .
  3. If something great could come from this struggle, it would be . . .
  4. The way I choose to greet life’s inevitable hardships from today forward is . . .

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Stop Looking Externally/Look Internally

You guys all know the story. I’ve been denied over 200 jobs in Thailand for my skin tone. Over the past week, I had been applying for jobs — and with my resumé, I should’ve at least been called in for an interview. But because this is Thailand — not so. 

My friend Deeptha said, “Arsenio, stop playing small. You have a global business with global listeners!”

I said, “ok, no more looking externally and look internally.”

Over the past 8 days, I’ve gotten three clients off Spotify search engines and lots of praise from listeners. 

STOP PLAYING SMALL, PEOPLE!

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