Wheel of Life | September 2020 Edition | The Great Awakening

WOOHOO! Wow. Know that 75% of the year is down. Seriously, if you’re the same person you were coming out of COVID than you were going in, nothing has changed and you really need to consider changing things up. I have to say that COVID has given me an insane amount of clarity. I’ve realized that I’ve been vibrationally wrong in attracting jobs in Bangkok that won’t be viable come next year. I’ve now decided that I’ll be going from Thailand to Costa Rica next May for my birthday and stay for good.

If this is your first time tuning in, what I would like you to do is rate yourself in the following categories 1-10. 1 is negligence and 10 is complete fulfillment.

  • Personal Development
  • Physical Environment
  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Career
  • Romantic Relationships
  • Family and Friends
  • Fun & Hobbies

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Values High-Performance Prompts

Here are some prompts for you to follow throughout your day or reflect on….

  1. The values that are important for me to live are….Ex: freedom, integrity, intelligence, connection.
  1. A situation which I didn’t live my values was…living upcountry and for the past four years, having worked with women who under appreciated me and cheated me on a constant basis. 
  1. The reason I didn’t feel it necessary to live my values was…I felt fear. Fear that if I had quit, I wouldn’t have gotten extra income on the side. 
  1. A recent situation where I felt proud for living my values was…. last month I finally quit that job and told them to **** off. 
  1. The reason I felt it was necessary to be that particular person was…I realized that they had been stopping on my integrity for years and enough was enough. I also realized they were making up 80% of my unhappiness and that work brought ZERO MEANING into my life. 
  1. The topics I find myself obsessed with are…..podcasting, personal development, speaking engagements, bettering myself. 
  1. A topic I’ve found myself obsessing with in a not-so healthy way is….dumb news: election, COVID, racism. 

What small steps can I do to control the amount of negative news? MEDIA FAST!

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New Mental Triggers

Bend thoughts and lead to positive states of mind.

What triggers will remind you to steer you towards positive social interactions.

  • Notification trigger — alarm “bring the joy”
  • Door frame trigger — every time you walk through a door frame, find the good, enter the room a happy person and be ready to serve.
  • Waiting trigger — waiting in line — what level of presence do I have right now on a scale 1-10? Check in on your emotional state
  • 5 or below? YOU’RE LUCKY TO BE ALIVE! Raise your energy!
  • Touch trigger — Hugging and touching is vital to well-being and happiness.
  • Positive trigger — WHAT A GIFT! Become consciously aware of the positivity that comes into your life.
  • Stress trigger — stop manufacturing stress, whenever things feel like they’re getting out of hand, 10 deep breaths, what’s the positive thing you can focus on right now and the next action you can take at that moment — evening journaling — three things that make you felt great during the day, close your eyes, and relive them in reflection.

Here are some great techniques I use as mental triggers.  Bring the Joy is what I use in the morning, thus why I always workout in the morning because that’s a significant portion of joy and growth for me. 

Walking into a room and finding the good is another. How can I serve these people? An example of this would be going to work…there are always 1-2 people sitting at the front desk and I come in, all smiles, saying the same thing that makes them laugh every morning — for two straight years. 

Waiting trigger is critical because I get overwhelmed sitting in traffic, being on a stuck train (happens all too often here in Thailand), and even waiting in line and watching the reception work extra slow. I check in with my level of presence.  If it’s below 5, I always say “YOU’RE LUCKY TO BE ALIVE!

Touch brings happiness, joy, and well-being to people’s lives. Living in Asia is difficult because they have a “no-touch policy”….however, in South America and Central America, it’s all hugs and air-kisses, and because the touch trigger is so important for me, these countries will be excellent suitors….or obviously if you can’t live in these countries, having people around that have the “hugs” policy is crucial, rather than those who always want to steer clear of that because of cultural norms. 

Positive: WHAT A GIFT! If any message comes in, inquiry, comment, EVEN A SMILE downstairs for me…I always smile and say “WHAT A GIFT!” I also replay the event in my head at the end of the day and feel that same wonderful energy I did at the time. 

Stress! Oh, happens all too often, but to stop manufacturing stress, breathing exercises are important and acting on the stress.  I have a fundamental question: “what’s making me feel stressed right now?” I ask a further 3 rounded questions and the stress then dissipates.  I stop stress within a minute because I have a tendency of twisting it around to understand the nature of it. 

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The Arsenio Buck Perspective | Personal Development | Official Patreon Launch!

Yay! For my long-time followers, I’ve finally created a Patreon! This Patreon, priced at $5 a month, will feature Early Access podcasts, exclusive content, interviews, and a community of accountability to help expedite your journey in becoming the best version of YOU! This is going to be great for a lot of you, and since some of you have come to me asking how you can give back to what I’ve delivered, now’s your chance to be part of an amazing community!

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The Question to Ask Yourself In The Shower Every Morning…

What can I do today that will make me excited?

Just a couple days ago, I knew that I was going to wake up in the morning to go on my city-run. What is that? Well, first 1.5 km is quiet, with only a few passerbys and things to maneuver around. Once I get to the intersection, I cross over a skytrain bridge, make a left, and then it begins. I’m running on the road, weaving through people, rapping aloud and generating crazy energy. By the time I pass the two stations and hundreds of people, I have to go through a narrow passageway, cross another busy street, and go up Saphan Taksin Bridge, one of the biggest bridges in Bangkok. There’s no stopping there. There are tons of cars and people watching my crazy black ass run, so then I up the ante and power over Chao Phraya River. Once I reach the end, I go back down, and then there are even more people, more traffic, and more ways to generate energy. This continues until I go full speed ahead about 1.5 km later and finish off my run with onlookers looking at me in awe.

That — right there — makes me excited. Knowing that I have the ability to inspire people with my grimacing and willing to push myself to the physical limit.

This gets me excited.

Also, planting seeds in the morning. What does that mean? Well, if you plant a seed in soil and water it everyday, it will soon blossom, right? You’re not exactly sure when, but you know the time will come. This could be posting something in a Facebook group to generate more lead clients, having people come onto my podcast, connecting with people on LinkedIn or IG (both two very difficult places to do so), etc. I realized, and through all the books I’ve read, that I need to act on my worries. If I’m worried about money, there’s no use sitting there, worrying about it. I apply for jobs. Just yesterday, I found an awesome tutoring website in which I created an online profile for to become a tutor. Hundreds of students around the world looking for specific tutors to help them with particular subjects. Because I’ve taught for years and I’m the best in my specific fields, I created a profile and I’m now just waiting to be approved. This is going to be HUGE because I didn’t even know a website like that existed!

So, that was in the evening! I know that everything will eventually fall into place, but the mornings are so important!

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Complaints from Consumers? Oh, Please!

So, over the past couple weeks, and if you guys don’t already know, I had been doing free consultations by reaching out to people on a Facebook page. Unbeknownst to me, I had received maybe 100 comments. Half of them weren’t series because I had messaged them, sent a voice note, but no response. Other people booked the calendar but never showed up….but about 30% of them did.

Now, the problem with takers are they are just there to consume. It’s not about receiving an ovation and external validation, but even when you help them and they achieve your score, they wouldn’t tell you that they achieved their score but rather give themselves all the credit for achieving the score without mention.

Again, not so much about external validation, but very disheartening.

This is what happens when you stick your head in places where people don’t know you, right?

So, there was an unruly one who had always booked consultations at 8pm at night. Me, being an early bird, closed my 8pm time-slots a number of times but he was still able to book it. So, here was the second-time-coming and without contacting him, I was already over the consultations. There was no ROI, other than recording some voices and posting them throughout the rest of the year. It’s not that I had expectations — but maybe I did, because I ended up being very disappointed with these people in the end. They would take from me, achieve the score, then post saying they did it on their own.

I had about 2 consultations left, and to be honest, I was just going to cancel them and not show up because I already knew the story. The last consultation I have (although there’s one more from a girl in Nigeria but Africans have a tendency of NEVER SHOWING UP)….I said “fuck it. Who cares.” But when you have a brand and an online persona, it’s very important to cancel.

I had my Whatsapp number on my FB page and got a direct message from my phone, again, from the angry taker, and so there really isn’t much left to be said. But what did I learn from this? Obviously to cancel all remaining appointments with takers. But two, protect the brand. Regardless of my personal feelings, I need to hurry up, cancel, and let him be angry. The scary part about it is perhaps he would tag my page in the group stating “he didn’t give me a free consultation”…..and then in that community, what happens then? I have to be very careful about how I go about things because it could be a disaster.

And what did I learn from the entire process of just giving, giving, giving with no ROI? Don’t stick your head into groups on Facebook that have people without money. I was able to attract people just by sharing my content. If people are interested and serious, my content would speak for itself and they would inquire about services that way. If they’re not serious and are there for taking, just say “offering free……”. All the takers will come flooding in wanting the free.

What did I learn, stop reaching out to the “people with no money” market and help people who are deserving of your services, are super fans, and appreciate all that you’ve done. It’s not about the external validation, but it is infuriating to see people ignore the fact that you helped them for an hour, only to post on their Facebook page the achievements and completely ignore you.

The Arsenio Buck Perspective | Interviewee #1 | The Krazy Life of J’Anmetra Waddell

Oh, you guys are in for one of the best podcasts to this date. I’ve done so many podcasts interviews over the year, but this one is going to hit you in so many ways.  
After being abused, locked away in a room, almost died giving birth while having her husband at the time say, “b**** I hope you die” in her ear, Jojo- J’Anmetra Waddell has been through IT ALL. One more, she woke up and tried committing suicide, but the window was locked — and let’s say it was the greatest blessing in disguise because she ended up running away and now she’s an author, inspiring people all over the world. 

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Establishing Peer Groups That Push You – High-Performance Habit

Has more meaning when they’re in a peer group – When you’re around people who will up-level you, this ultimately gives your life a sense of meaning. The self-discovery has a tendency of coming into your life and you start questions the good and the bad. After engaging with people in a peer group that’s full of harmony and goal-setting, you feel the energy and feel more empowered to do more. This is why having peers around you that will RAISE the energy is important.

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Brendan Burchard’s Performance Prompts

EXCELLENT exercise for a lot of you out there. Performance prompts, which was featured in Brendan Burchard’s High-Performance Habits, is something that everyone needs to consider. This had given me ample clarity on what I was and wasn’t doing, and with my story down below, you’ll see just that. There are four basic prompts to follow everyday….

The activities that I currently do that bring me the most meaning are

Podcasting. That’s to say the very least. After I’m done doing a podcast, I feel like I elevate my level of energy and bring myself a sense of fulfillment. This is very important and also one of the performance shower prompts (next blog coming soon). Working out, and with the mental discipline I have now, I’m able to push myself much further than before the pandemic had started, further bringing me results in my health and satisfaction. Collaborations, interviewees, teaching business, etc…..everything I do in a typical day brings me a significant amount of meaning.

The projects that I should stop doing are….

Now, referring back to a part-time job I used to have for years, although mistreated and devalued significantly. While living in upcountry, I was not happy. Mira, who I’ve made blogs about before, knew that when she was life-coaching me through the process. From the moment I woke up, going to the gym was great. Buying food was wonderful. However, when it hit about 8am, I was like “ughhhh, now I have to speak Thai to these teachers who really don’t give a shit about English.” I went to a job, entered the workplace, and none of the 6 women would say good morning….to be honest, they would either complain or state the obvious (you need to speak Thai) for their own personal enjoyment. The students would then come to class, unenthusiastically, and gossip about how the women downstairs (the bitches is what I call them) are trying to cheat them of their money.

I really felt bad for them and I asked myself, “Arsenio, could you keep work for people who can potentially destroy your relationship?” I sensed a burnout coming for sure. I counted the days staying there for 10….counting them one-by-one because I hated being there so much. When I came back to BKK, I was happier than ever.

Fortunately, I quit the job and terminated the relationship not only because I hated my apartment, noise, poor area, horrible people, being cheated but also because I had core values and principles. I didn’t like being there but I was so focused on the money….dumb me. How happy am I now? I thank myself for establishing that inner-child and faced the music with him. He now has a significant voice.

If I was going to add new activities to bring me more meaning would be…

Do the things that I’m passionate about and give me life. Seriously. We have a tendency of putting other people first but never put yourself first. I’m not sure about you guys, but I wake up every morning with that burning desire to inspire people. Messages and ideas come to me that I need to jot down that could be made into something bigger. Strolls in nature would be phenomenal, and fortunate enough, I live in BKK….a place where I see squirrels running across power-lines, snails strolling slowly across the pavement, cats purring at the base of my condo, frogs leaping around plants, and birds saying “hello” in the morning on my balcony. Upcountry, it was far different with a wider-range of animals, insects, reptiles….but I embrace what this planet has to offer.

Maybe you should add strolls in nature to your daily routine.

When a Negative Thought Comes to Mind, I Will……

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Transformation Tuesday | Are Your Expectations Too High?

Because I’m service-minded, I never go into situations with expectations. However, I felt myself feeling very down as of late and wasn’t sure why. I try pinpointing the emotions, such as perhaps the fallout of what had happened at the upcountry job — no. Finances — no. Friends — no….that has improved significantly.

So what was it? It was that my expectations were too high then I felt like I was not only appreciated, but felt like I was giving service with nothing in return. It was a frustrating experience, until I did my Facebook live last night and felt a million times better. Not only that, I woke up this morning with a clear conscience. Then I knew, “ok, you’re back. Let’s get it.”

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