Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 12 | The Solution

“HENRY DAVID THOREAU once wrote, “There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root.”1 This book is dedicated to striking at the root of the significant problems we face.
We’ve started with the pain; we’ve explored the underlying problem—one that has personal roots and that involves a deeply imbedded paradigm and set of traditions in the workplace. Now let’s set the context for the solution and give an overview of how it will be unfolded in the remainder of the book.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Most of the great cultural shifts—ones that have built great organizations that sustain long-term growth, prosperity and contribution to the world—started with the choice of one person. Sometimes that one person was the formal leader—the CEO or president. Very often it started with someone else—a professional, a line manager, someone’s assistant. Regardless of their position, these people first changed themselves from the inside out.

Their character, competence, initiative and positive energy—in short, their moral authority—inspired and lifted others. They possessed an anchored sense of identity, discovered their strengths and talents, and used them to meet needs and produce results. People noticed. They were given more responsibility. They magnified the new responsibility and again produced results. More and more people sat up and noticed. Top people wanted to learn of their ideas—how they accomplished so much. The culture was drawn to their vision and to them.
People like this just don’t get sucked into or pulled down for long by all the negative, demoralizing, insulting forces in the organization. And interestingly, their organizations are no better than most organizations. To some degree, they’re all a mess. These people just realize that they can’t wait for their boss or the organization to change. They become an island of excellence in a sea of mediocrity. And it’s contagious.”

STEPHEN COVEY’S 8TH HABIT | SEASON 6 – EPISODE 9 | THE Silent Conspiracy

“This silent conspiracy is everywhere. Not many people are brave enough to even recognize it in themselves. Whenever they hear the idea, they instinctively look outside themselves. When I teach this material to large audiences, I often pause after a couple of hours and ask the question, “How many like this material, but feel that the people who really need it aren’t here?” They usually explode in laughter, but most hands go up.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

Here’s a short podcast today on the silent conspiracy. People who constantly look outwardly when they should be looking inwardly. People who should be holding the person in the mirror accountable rather than his peers. This is an important aspect of life.

STEPHEN COVEY’S 8TH HABIT | SEASON 6 – EPISODE 8 | THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL OF CODEPENDENCY

“What happens when you manage people like things? They stop believing that leadership can become a choice. Most people think of leadership as a position and therefore don’t see themselves as leaders. Making personal leadership (influence) a choice is like having the freedom to play the piano. It is a freedom that has to be earned—only then can leadership become a choice.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Wow! Is that one of the best quotes ever? Most people believe they can’t be leaders because they believe they’re just things. The don’t believe leadership is a choice. See, everyone has the ability to become leaders, but when they do, they often abuse the privilege of being one or they’re just lousy because they believe it’s pure position.

“Even if they perceive a need, they don’t take the initiative to act. They wait to be told what to do by the person with the formal title, and then they respond as directed. Consequently, they blame the formal leader when things go wrong and give him or her the credit when things go well. And they are thanked for their “cooperation and support.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

And this is the predominant Asian culture. This is from the eastern seaboard, to central Asia, to southern Asia and back down to southeast Asia. Too many people wait to be told what to do. Let me give you an example. COVID. When the governments said wear masks in Asia, although most already wear masks, they hopped to it pretty quickly because it was an order. If they were more of the rebellion like western countries, they would’ve been top 5 on the COVID list.

“The more a manager controls, the more he/she evokes behaviors that necessitate greater control or managing. The codependent culture that develops is eventually institutionalized to the point that no one takes responsibility. Over time, both leaders and followers confirm their roles in an unconscious pact. They disempower themselves by believing that others must change before their own circumstances can improve. The same cycle reappears in families between parents and children.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

STEPHEN COVEY’S 8TH HABIT | SEASON 6 – EPISODE 7 | The Thing Mindset of the industrial age

“The most important, and indeed the truly unique, contribution of management in the 20th century was the fifty-fold increase in the productivity of the MANUAL WORKER in manufacturing.

The most important contribution management needs to make in the 21st century is similarly to increase the productivity of KNOWLEDGE WORK and the KNOWLEDGE WORKER.

The most valuable assets of a 20th-century company were its production equipment. The most valuable asset of a 21st-century institution, whether business or non-business, will be its knowledge workers and their productivity”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Great historian stated that a long time ago. There’s no doubt that industrial age workers are still important, but given the fact that knowledge age workers still have a significant amount of income and have created their own economy (student I just met and her story in my podcast) goes to show you that being an industrial worker is no longer sustainable.

“The main assets and primary drivers of economic prosperity in the Industrial Age were machines and capital—things. People were necessary but replaceable. You could control and churn through manual workers with little consequence—supply exceeded demand. You just got more able bodies that would comply with strict procedures. People were like things—you could be efficient with them. When all you want is a person’s body and you don’t really want their mind, heart or spirit (all inhibitors to the free-flowing processes of the machine age), you have reduced a person to a thing.

So many of our modern management practices come from the Industrial Age.

It gave us the belief that you have to control and manage people.

It gave us our view of accounting, which makes people an expense and machines assets. Think about it. People are put on the P&L statement as an expense; equipment is put on the balance sheet as an investment.”

“It gave us our carrot-and-stick motivational philosophy—the Great Jackass technique that motivates with a carrot in front (reward) and drives with a stick from behind (fear and punishment).

It gave us centralized budgeting—where trends are extrapolated into the future and hierarchies and bureaucracies are formed to drive “getting the numbers”—an obsolete reactive process that produces “kiss-up” cultures bent on “spending it so we won’t lose it next year” and protecting the backside of your department.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

STEPHEN COVEY’S 8TH HABIT | SEASON 6 – EPISODE 3 | WHY THE 8TH HABIT & The Story of Muhammad Yunus

“Being effective as individuals and organizations is no longer optional in today’s world—it’s the price of entry to the playing field. But surviving, thriving, innovating, excelling and leading in this new reality will require us to build on and reach beyond effectiveness. The call and need of a new era is for greatness. It’s for fulfillment, passionate execution, and significant contribution. These are on a different plane or dimension. They are different in kind—just as significance is different in kind, not in degree, from success. Tapping into the higher reaches of human genius and motivation—what we could call voice—requires a new mind-set, a new skill-set, a new tool-set …a new habit.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

This couldn’t have been written any better. Perfectly put. For everyone who was just “effective,” they’re probably without jobs now. Does that make sense? You have to reach beyond just being effective now.

“The 8th Habit represents the pathway to the enormously promising side of today’s reality. It stands in stark contrast to the pain and frustration I’ve been describing. In fact, it is a timeless reality. It is the voice of the human spirit—full of hope and intelligence, resilient by nature, boundless in its potential to serve the common good. This voice also encompasses the soul of organizations that will survive, thrive and profoundly impact the future of the world.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

“All of us are finding our voices again. Learning how to talk to one another. . . . Inside, outside, there’s a conversation going on today that wasn’t happening at all five years ago and hasn’t been very much in evidence since the Industrial Revolution began. Now, spanning the planet via Internet and Worldwide Web, this conversation is so vast, so multifaceted, that trying to figure out what it is about is futile. It’s about a billion years of pent up hopes and fears and dreams coded in serpentine double helixes, the collective flashback déjà vu of our strange perplexing species. Something ancient, elemental, sacred, something very, very funny that’s broken loose in the pipes and wires of the twenty-first century.
. . . there are millions and millions of threads in this conversation, but at the beginning and end of each one is a human being. . . .
This fervid desire for the Web bespeaks a longing so intense that it can only be understood as spiritual. A longing indicates something is missing in our lives. What is missing is the sound of the human voice. The spiritual lure of the Web is the promise of the return of voice.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Like I’ve said before in my Business English podcast, communications, sales and marketing are the three most powerful tools in the world right now, and these are skills that need to be developed AT ONCE in order to not only weather the COVID storm but also to prepare yourself for a future where you can see ample opportunity in terms of speaking engagements.

I know, “I’m scared. I don’t want to. I hate public speaking.” Again, those negative voices and quotes from the past blogs. You can listen to them, but you must ignore them.

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 1 | New Series!

Absolutely STOKED about this book series! If you guys have been following my personal development podcast for a while, you would’ve seen that I dissect a lot of these books. I got scared after Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad because I wasn’t prepared with the next book. But with patience and just sitting back, I found the 8th habit and downloaded it directly to my iBooks (first time doing this since Gary Vee’s Crushing it back in 2018). So, here it is! The content model, the podcast, and prepare yourself for the intro!

  • Chapter 1 – The Pain
  • Chapter 2 – The Problem
  • Chapter 3 – The Solution
  • Chapter 4 – Discover Your Voice
  • Chapter 5 – Express Your Voice
  • Chapter 6 – Inspiring Others to Find their Voice
  • Chapter 7 – The Voice of Influence
  • Chapter 8 – The Voice of Trustworthiness
  • Chapter 9 – The Voice and Speed of Trust
  • Chapter 10 – Blending Voices
  • Chapter 11 – One Voice
  • Chapter 12 – The Voice and Discipline of Execution
  • Chapter 13 – The Empowering Voice
  • Chapter 14 – The 8th Habit and the Sweet Spot
  • Chapter 15 – Using Your Voices Wisely

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Dealing with Flakers

Over the course of a week, I’ve had these types of fallouts.

  • Mentors/coaches/authors chastising me on social media about an opinion
  • “Coach” not getting back to my voice message
  • Instagram “single & relationship” coach being a complete asshole
  • A “self-love” coach literally bailing on the day of an IGTV live, then completely pulling out less than a week later
  • Another coach disappearing only to say “I don’t want to do this anymore”
  • A “marketing” IG influencer with 22k followers being a complete douche through message
  • Other IG “coaches” not messaging me back but messaging other used-to-be-companions back

Do you see the trend here? The majority of these people are apparent “coaches,” yet their labels don’t speak. It’s odd to see these “coaches” being assholes, not owning up to their word, being blatantly rude, jumping all over you for stating the obvious, and being total dick-bags in general.

I categorized them….

  • They’re all coaches
  • They’re all from IG
  • All but one are white (not that this matters, but it’s just obvious)
  • All but but are female (even the ones that I tried building the Global Coaches podcast with….were all females except one douche who just never got back to me)
  • All through technology

After doing my meditation this morning, I realized that I was in control of everything. I realized that the majority of my happiness was way out of my control. I also realized that i kept checking social media yesterday, likes, views, and if people had messaged me…..only to be a great disappointment in the end. I then began blaming algorithms and fell into a deeper hole. So, this is good news because I identified the source of all my “sorrows.”

If I could shed some light on the situation, I had two of the best ESL podcasts EVER over the past two weeks (amazing guy from the Bahamas and a Chilean teacher)….both of whom are in the same region and are of color. So, I have the Caribbean and South America who’s working to my advantage in terms of IG.

In saying that, what will I do for the day?

  • Check social media only in the evening
  • No news, no coaches, no connections, no messaging female coaches on IG
  • Stay only in touch with my Line application with potential jobs and a couple of close friends
  • Drop all projects (because the last coach went AWOL yesterday, that’s obviously a sign that it’s not going to work long-term).
  • Communication is absolutely key in having a podcast. I had a joint-podcast with a guy from the UK, but there was no vision and why behind it, nor could we make money from it….but it worked as long as it did. When it comes to women, it could be far more difficult because emotions play a significant role.

Topic: Doing What’s Needed….For Now

I came across a situation (cleared up since then) when I was utterly confused at the reaction of someone. My “boss,” who I speak to maybe once a year, wanted to me notified via agent/me when the renewal of my visa was coming. He said, “you should’ve notified me before you paid.”

So then I quickly jumped to my own defence and said, “wait, so if I had asked you before, would you have accepted my renewal?”

That’s simply overthinking — which it turned out to be. But that’s only my situation. Some of you are in similar situations where people want to have that sort of power over you, and because we’re living in rapidly changing times, our pride says “tell them to fuck off,” but it’s essential to think things through while beating on your craft (side hustle) at the same time. Tune into the podcast down below!

The Global Coaches Podcast| Inspirational Monday | Arsenio Buck | No Net

WOW! Welcome to my new joint-podcast featuring Mira Butler and I. At the time, we started with four but the others weren’t in alignment with the overall purpose of this podcast so now it’s just Mira Butler and I. In the future, we will attract more to us.

Because I’m the first podcast debuting, I need to give a solid introduction behind why I started a new podcast. Mira Butler and I have done a ton of work together, and we’re trying to conjure up ways to expand our reach. We began with the IG lives because we realized they would play a pivotal role in creating our tribe, but having a podcast, too, would obviously push things out there at a far-quicker pace. Our goal is to bring coaches with specialities in a wide-range of areas. Mira being a transformation coach, myself being an inspiration coach, and we’ll find others who specialize in other areas. There’s a lot to be spoken about and there will be an introduction podcast coming shortly, but today is my inspirational message.

Three Questions to Think About Often & Keeps You Focused

Some things you need to keep in your mind that will help you maintain focus. The most important question is: “what is something in your life that death isn’t going to kill?” I’m speaking from a legacy standpoint. What is something that is and forever will be after you leave the body and domain? This is called impact….and if you strive for impact while you’re alive, you won’t count the minutes, hours, days, weeks, months….you will live in the NOW and embrace all things that come to you.

1) If the truth was written on your tombstone, what would it say?

  • Lived, but never felt alive?
  • Didn’t go for his/her dreams?
  • This person died empty because he lived an empty life!

2) If your life ended today, what regrets would you have?

                                   List all your regrets!

3) What is something about your life that death isn’t going to kill?

  • What’s going to live on when you move on?
  • What about you is never going to die?

Honorable Quotes

“Don’t disrespect your life by wasting your life.”

“You are in control of how you live your life between now and death.”

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