High performers face a unique set of character traps because they are, by definition, outperforming so many around them. When you are succeeding beyond others, it’s easy to get a big head. You can begin to think you’re special, separate from, better than, or more important than other people. Of course, you probably would never say to yourself, “One day, I want to start feeling that I’m better than other people.” So consider these prompts closely.
- A recent situation where I found myself being overly critical or dismissive of others was…
Think of any situation in your life that you felt like you were looking down on someone based on what class you think you’re in versus theirs. This could be you looking down on a street cleaner, maintenance, bus driver, etc.
- The thoughts I had about myself in that situation and the others involved were . . .
Did you have thoughts of “well, I make this much money and you make a fraction, therefore I can treat you poorly.” This is the Thai mindset, and it could be very disheartening for a lot of people out there. I make sure I always give grace to security and the cleaners at my condo (except one lady because she’s a total crazy.)
- Had I reimagined the situation from a more humble and appreciative view, I would
probably have realized that . . .
Go back and apologize. Be different in your next interaction with people you believe you’re more superior too.
- The best way I can remind myself that everyone is dealing with difficulties in life and that we’re all more alike than we are different is . . .