How to Create a Development Plan

Sometimes we go throughout our day being reactionary. Meaning we’re just reacting to situations. This is kind of how I am on days that I don’t have work. I kind of react to all situations rather than coming up with a schedule that will achieve the outcome that I’ve set out on. So, let’s see how we can break this down together. Podcast will debut this upcoming weekend!

Development plan: start with the next 5 books. Why? Because you began with an outcome not just chasing down best-sellers. Example, “I’m trying to develop in public speaking.” So your stack of 5 books would begin with Dale Carnegie’s Art of Public Speaking. 

  • “I’m trying to grow my business.” Your next five books would be on scaling a business. 
  • “I’m trying to improve my marriage.” Next five books on marriage.
  • “I’m trying to improve the relationship with my kids or kids in general.” Next five books should be on Stephen Covey.

Obviously books as a metaphor but again, it could be courses, videos, podcasts, conferences, events, trainings. Who are you mentors. What are the resources and when are you going to consume them. 

Let’s break it down even further. 

  1. Outcome: what are you trying to grow into, improve, make happen. 
  2. What must you learn to grow into that outcome. What must you learn about yourself. What skills must you develop. What can you learn from other people. 
  3. How will you learn it? Engaging virtually? Podcasts? Same rules apply.
  4. IT HAS TO SHOW UP IN YOUR CALENDAR! You don’t have a development plan because you have a full stack of books IN A DAMN GARAGE! (hint: get it?)
  5. When will you read……when will you try…….when will you plan….

It’s all based on scheduling. 

Inspirational Monday | Listening to Negative Thoughts

Negative emotions do not necessarily require a conscious effort for it to be experienced or communicated.  They are merely a symptom of unresolved stress. 

Example, when I moved here to Thailand in 2013, moments that stress that happened to me as a child resurfaced when I began to experience racism here, and then it amplified for YEARS and become my personality.  I was a victim of my thoughts. 

And to be honest, your emotions are not always related to conscious thought and effort. Some of you think you can just switch off negative thoughts, but the subconscious IS THE EQUATION. It’s behind the steering wheel….and this is when things become complicated because although you want to change, your subconscious mind is saying, “no no! Get in the trunk of the car! I control you!”

So, what positive action can you take today to ease old negative thoughts that no longer serve you?

I had to go DEEEEEEP within my subconscious mind and blow everything up in terms of limiting beliefs and negative thought patterns before giving myself unconditional love — the kind of unconditional love I have for my mother. Changing the 2016 image of myself looking defeated on a train to a chiseled specimen (no bs….and it worked!). Now, the “I’m not good enough for Thai women” has completely dispersed, and society has reacted in the exact same way. 

It could be undone, but you have to make the decision today. 

Give your negative thoughts a voice today. What is the deep, underlying message of it?

I had to go all the way back to kindergarten when I was made fun of in my class. I saw the event, subconsciously. I felt the feelings. I put myself in the event. But then the older version of me when up to the 6-year-old version of myself….hugged him, and gave him the power to FEEL again. To REGAIN that confidence. When I did that, that’s when my paradigm shifted.

You have to do the work.

The End of The Most Purposeful Relationship EVER!

This is going to be a long story, so brace yourself.

At the beginning of the lockdown, a friendship was born. Having already met this transformation coach last year through a mutual friend, she took me on a journey of renewal by doing a transformation program, life coaching, and healing sessions. 

This changed everything about who I am in the best possible way, and most importantly, it gave my inner child a voice again. 

This voice allowed me to have those tough/difficult conversations. 

When July had rolled around, I sensed the egoism coming from this individual because now she was doing work for a famous monk by the name of Jay Shetty. Working in his company, she began to cancel appointments, use condescending tones while speaking to me and about others, and really had a “I don’t give a f*** attitude.” 

There were a number of times I just wanted to get away from this individual, but of course Instagram is the main culprit in laying things to rest. 

I have a lot of people who follow/unfollow me, and after checking who unfollowed me this morning, it was her!

Sometimes we clutch onto things that should no longer be. Sometimes we’re scared of these moments actually happening because we don’t value our own dignity and self-worth. You know the purpose had been fulfilled with that particular someone coming into your life to take you to the next level, but you want to keep pursuing a friendship. The problem is, when egoism comes into play, you can either confront it, or just let things be. 

I labeled this my “purposeful” relationship because after everything had been handled in early August, the energy had shifted and took a turn. There was no more empathy and rather ambiguous exchanges. 

Gratitude, is what’s pouring from my heart because I’m grateful to have had such a purposeful relationship that opened the doors for me to bet on me. You should do the same. Stop pursuing things that have ended months/years ago and be an observer to what’s trying to emerge! 

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review – 2020 | Personal Development & Meta-questions

Personal Development score of 2020 is here, but it’s a little different from the 2017, 18, and 19 blog. I made this as actionable as possible for all of you who are looking for NLP style questions to navigate you into the unknown. The place that once you figure out the problem and identify it, then you can begin the process. This is the promise!

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Self-scoring 7 Habits Assessment | P/PC Balance

Here’s another great assessment for you to do to figure out if you have balance. Again, is work-life balance a myth? NOPE! It’s entirely up to you to be able to put your schedule together, to clear time out for loved ones, etc.

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Wheel of Life | Year in Review | Family & Friends

I think the greatest achievement in my life was to finally let go of my family.  The forgiveness and set in and because of so much internal work, the relationship with my mother has officially changed and the conversations between her and I have become more evident.  As for the others in my family, I’ve finally accepted that there’s no reason to prolong the inevitable, and by overcoming this, the relationships in my life are truly magnificent.

What do I mean by this? Well, because I did so much Chakra and inner work with Mira, producing a crazy amount of high-lows between June and September, the energy between my mother and I changed because of forgiveness. However, in the process, my youngest sister, who I hadn’t spoken to in four years, deleted me from Facebook. When it happened, I was truly fulfilled because I finally accepted that there’s no reason for us to front and act like you do want to speak to me. If deleting me from Facebook gives you true joy and fulfillment, please do. If that’s the only way to become content in life, I wish you the best. And when I did that and released it to the universe, I finally said to myself “I can finally be at peace with my siblings and wish them the best in their life.”

In the process, I don’t want to hear anything. Even when tragedy strikes in years to come, it’s none of my business. Just because tragedy comes, I don’t want to be notified then because I was never notified during the highs. You were never there for me to begin with. I meditate and hope that the universe brings you joy…and that’s all I can do.

When I finally let go of the resent of my family, those who didn’t understand left and the only one who stuck around was my mother. Now, she comments weekly on my posts. This is the most she’s written all year, and it has come in the last several months. Now I’m at true peace.

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Happy Thanksgiving | The Most Purposeful Relationship of My Life

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! I’m going to take my time today to reevaluate a relationship that came and went this year — but it was the life-defining relationship that really cleared my subconscious and made me bet on myself for once in my life. 

There are three types of relationships:

  • Life-giving
  • Life-time
  • Purposeful

With purposeful relationships, these are ones that are placed in your life to achieve a purpose, and once they do, they will forever change. They don’t necessarily end, but the energy goes dormant. Here’s one of them!

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Wheel of Life | November 2020 Edition | The Self-Renewal Journey = Achieved!

A day before Thanksgiving, I can honestly say that I’m more level-headed than I’ve ever been in my life. In harmony. In oneness. In a space that I’ve never been before with complete contentment and acceptance. This has been the wildest year of my life, and I honestly believe that now I’m vibrationally ready for when everything returns back to normal.

In this podcast, you will rate yourself on a scale 1-10, 1 being negligient and 10 being completely fulfilled — in the following categories.

  • Personal development
  • physical environment
  • health
  • wealth
  • career
  • family and friends
  • fun and hobbies
  • romantic relationships

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The #1 Thing: Be Congruent

Practice 2: Be Congruent
At some point—often a major moment in their lives—high performers took control, defined who they wanted to be, and started living in accordance with that self-image. They shaped their identity by conscious will and have aligned their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to support that identity.


Performance Prompts

  1. The person I really want to be in life could be described as . . .
  2. Three things I could do each week to live more congruently with that vision for myself
    include . . .
  3. Three things I should definitely stop doing in my life so I can live in greater congruence
    with my ideal image of myself are . . .

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The #1 Thing: Developing Confidence

High performers are confident, in part because they are good at what they do. While most people think of confidence as a general belief in oneself, the kind of confidence that is most tied to performance improvement comes from belief in one’s abilities in a specific task. This means that the more knowledge, skill, ability, or talent—that is, competence— you have at a given task, the more likely you are to be confident and perform well. – Brendan Burchard

Performance Prompts

  1. The competences—knowledge, skills, abilities, or talents—that I have worked hard to
    cultivate in my life include . .
  2. If I gave myself credit for learning all those things, I would start to feel more . . .
  3. Something I’ve learned to do in the past few years that I have not yet given myself credit
    for is . . .
  4. I feel that I can handle a big challenge in my life right now because I am good at learning
    how to . . .
  5. A practice I’ll begin doing every week to help me start feeling more confident is . . .

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