Values High-Performance Prompts

Here are some prompts for you to follow throughout your day or reflect on….

  1. The values that are important for me to live are….Ex: freedom, integrity, intelligence, connection.
  1. A situation which I didn’t live my values was…living upcountry and for the past four years, having worked with women who under appreciated me and cheated me on a constant basis. 
  1. The reason I didn’t feel it necessary to live my values was…I felt fear. Fear that if I had quit, I wouldn’t have gotten extra income on the side. 
  1. A recent situation where I felt proud for living my values was…. last month I finally quit that job and told them to **** off. 
  1. The reason I felt it was necessary to be that particular person was…I realized that they had been stopping on my integrity for years and enough was enough. I also realized they were making up 80% of my unhappiness and that work brought ZERO MEANING into my life. 
  1. The topics I find myself obsessed with are…..podcasting, personal development, speaking engagements, bettering myself. 
  1. A topic I’ve found myself obsessing with in a not-so healthy way is….dumb news: election, COVID, racism. 

What small steps can I do to control the amount of negative news? MEDIA FAST!

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New Mental Triggers

Bend thoughts and lead to positive states of mind.

What triggers will remind you to steer you towards positive social interactions.

  • Notification trigger — alarm “bring the joy”
  • Door frame trigger — every time you walk through a door frame, find the good, enter the room a happy person and be ready to serve.
  • Waiting trigger — waiting in line — what level of presence do I have right now on a scale 1-10? Check in on your emotional state
  • 5 or below? YOU’RE LUCKY TO BE ALIVE! Raise your energy!
  • Touch trigger — Hugging and touching is vital to well-being and happiness.
  • Positive trigger — WHAT A GIFT! Become consciously aware of the positivity that comes into your life.
  • Stress trigger — stop manufacturing stress, whenever things feel like they’re getting out of hand, 10 deep breaths, what’s the positive thing you can focus on right now and the next action you can take at that moment — evening journaling — three things that make you felt great during the day, close your eyes, and relive them in reflection.

Here are some great techniques I use as mental triggers.  Bring the Joy is what I use in the morning, thus why I always workout in the morning because that’s a significant portion of joy and growth for me. 

Walking into a room and finding the good is another. How can I serve these people? An example of this would be going to work…there are always 1-2 people sitting at the front desk and I come in, all smiles, saying the same thing that makes them laugh every morning — for two straight years. 

Waiting trigger is critical because I get overwhelmed sitting in traffic, being on a stuck train (happens all too often here in Thailand), and even waiting in line and watching the reception work extra slow. I check in with my level of presence.  If it’s below 5, I always say “YOU’RE LUCKY TO BE ALIVE!

Touch brings happiness, joy, and well-being to people’s lives. Living in Asia is difficult because they have a “no-touch policy”….however, in South America and Central America, it’s all hugs and air-kisses, and because the touch trigger is so important for me, these countries will be excellent suitors….or obviously if you can’t live in these countries, having people around that have the “hugs” policy is crucial, rather than those who always want to steer clear of that because of cultural norms. 

Positive: WHAT A GIFT! If any message comes in, inquiry, comment, EVEN A SMILE downstairs for me…I always smile and say “WHAT A GIFT!” I also replay the event in my head at the end of the day and feel that same wonderful energy I did at the time. 

Stress! Oh, happens all too often, but to stop manufacturing stress, breathing exercises are important and acting on the stress.  I have a fundamental question: “what’s making me feel stressed right now?” I ask a further 3 rounded questions and the stress then dissipates.  I stop stress within a minute because I have a tendency of twisting it around to understand the nature of it. 

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The Arsenio Buck Perspective | Personal Development | Official Patreon Launch!

Yay! For my long-time followers, I’ve finally created a Patreon! This Patreon, priced at $5 a month, will feature Early Access podcasts, exclusive content, interviews, and a community of accountability to help expedite your journey in becoming the best version of YOU! This is going to be great for a lot of you, and since some of you have come to me asking how you can give back to what I’ve delivered, now’s your chance to be part of an amazing community!

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Establishing Peer Groups That Push You – High-Performance Habit

Has more meaning when they’re in a peer group – When you’re around people who will up-level you, this ultimately gives your life a sense of meaning. The self-discovery has a tendency of coming into your life and you start questions the good and the bad. After engaging with people in a peer group that’s full of harmony and goal-setting, you feel the energy and feel more empowered to do more. This is why having peers around you that will RAISE the energy is important.

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Brendan Burchard’s Performance Prompts

EXCELLENT exercise for a lot of you out there. Performance prompts, which was featured in Brendan Burchard’s High-Performance Habits, is something that everyone needs to consider. This had given me ample clarity on what I was and wasn’t doing, and with my story down below, you’ll see just that. There are four basic prompts to follow everyday….

The activities that I currently do that bring me the most meaning are

Podcasting. That’s to say the very least. After I’m done doing a podcast, I feel like I elevate my level of energy and bring myself a sense of fulfillment. This is very important and also one of the performance shower prompts (next blog coming soon). Working out, and with the mental discipline I have now, I’m able to push myself much further than before the pandemic had started, further bringing me results in my health and satisfaction. Collaborations, interviewees, teaching business, etc…..everything I do in a typical day brings me a significant amount of meaning.

The projects that I should stop doing are….

Now, referring back to a part-time job I used to have for years, although mistreated and devalued significantly. While living in upcountry, I was not happy. Mira, who I’ve made blogs about before, knew that when she was life-coaching me through the process. From the moment I woke up, going to the gym was great. Buying food was wonderful. However, when it hit about 8am, I was like “ughhhh, now I have to speak Thai to these teachers who really don’t give a shit about English.” I went to a job, entered the workplace, and none of the 6 women would say good morning….to be honest, they would either complain or state the obvious (you need to speak Thai) for their own personal enjoyment. The students would then come to class, unenthusiastically, and gossip about how the women downstairs (the bitches is what I call them) are trying to cheat them of their money.

I really felt bad for them and I asked myself, “Arsenio, could you keep work for people who can potentially destroy your relationship?” I sensed a burnout coming for sure. I counted the days staying there for 10….counting them one-by-one because I hated being there so much. When I came back to BKK, I was happier than ever.

Fortunately, I quit the job and terminated the relationship not only because I hated my apartment, noise, poor area, horrible people, being cheated but also because I had core values and principles. I didn’t like being there but I was so focused on the money….dumb me. How happy am I now? I thank myself for establishing that inner-child and faced the music with him. He now has a significant voice.

If I was going to add new activities to bring me more meaning would be…

Do the things that I’m passionate about and give me life. Seriously. We have a tendency of putting other people first but never put yourself first. I’m not sure about you guys, but I wake up every morning with that burning desire to inspire people. Messages and ideas come to me that I need to jot down that could be made into something bigger. Strolls in nature would be phenomenal, and fortunate enough, I live in BKK….a place where I see squirrels running across power-lines, snails strolling slowly across the pavement, cats purring at the base of my condo, frogs leaping around plants, and birds saying “hello” in the morning on my balcony. Upcountry, it was far different with a wider-range of animals, insects, reptiles….but I embrace what this planet has to offer.

Maybe you should add strolls in nature to your daily routine.

When a Negative Thought Comes to Mind, I Will……

Details in my podcast….

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Transformation Tuesday | Are Your Expectations Too High?

Because I’m service-minded, I never go into situations with expectations. However, I felt myself feeling very down as of late and wasn’t sure why. I try pinpointing the emotions, such as perhaps the fallout of what had happened at the upcountry job — no. Finances — no. Friends — no….that has improved significantly.

So what was it? It was that my expectations were too high then I felt like I was not only appreciated, but felt like I was giving service with nothing in return. It was a frustrating experience, until I did my Facebook live last night and felt a million times better. Not only that, I woke up this morning with a clear conscience. Then I knew, “ok, you’re back. Let’s get it.”

Here’s the podcast!

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 26 | Developing Mental Intelligence

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  • Continuous, systematic, disciplined study and education
  • Cultivation of self-awareness
  • Learning by teaching and doing

All of which will be covered in today’s podcast.

“What is the impact on the spirit when we stop learning? The conscience first becomes numbed, then dulled, and finally silenced, because it constantly tells us to learn and to grow. We lose both a sense of vision in life and the struggle to find our voice, both of which are primary sources of our passion in life. We find the wisdom literature boring and uninspiring, even irrelevant.” – Stephen Covey

“Self-awareness involves all four intelligences and is a unique human endowment. It’s essentially another word for the space between stimulus and response—the space where you can pause and then make a choice or decision.
Cultivating self-awareness by trying to understand and make explicit our underlying assumptions, theories and paradigms is without any question one of the highest leverage activities we can be involved in. Because we are always making assumptions and because they are very implicit (we are unaware that we are making them), by making them explicit, we can make huge quantum leaps. We can learn to think outside the box.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.” Apple Books.

Inspirational Monday | The Single Greatest Quote Ever

I desperately needed a pick-me-up. After quitting a job last Wednesday, I was feeling sorry for myself and fear had set in. My mind was hijacked by fear, the fear of not being able to pay bills and financial fears. After this COVID months, there was only one place that had taken care of me during these COVID times, but this place was also notoriously known for forging my signature, lying to me, nickeling-and-diming me, as well as so many other things.

So, when I finally told them to FUCK OFF because I was done playing their racist games “blacks must take tests to prove themselves while whites can teach dogshit,” I heard a quote from my friend, and it forever shaped my life.

No more going small. My business is global.

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Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 24 | Developing the Intelligence – The Physical

It’s time to talk about the physical! For those of you who already know, I’ve talked about personal development a number of times throughout my podcasts and over the years. I’ve switched my routine up on a consistent basis to find what works best and how I can maximize my performance. Well, let’s get into it!

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Transformation Tuesday | 36 Hours of Destruction – And The NOW Beauty

Wow! Healing Session was super fascinating, but then came the destructive Monday that really set me back. Relationships, terminating work-relationships, and so many other things. But then it was a jab-jab-jab UPPER-CUT and a poster-board that made me realize — I’ve made it.

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