Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 13 | How to Withstand Cultural Provocations

“Where does a person get such internal strength to swim against the current and to withstand negative cultural provocations, subordinate selfish interests and develop and sustain such vision and determination?

They learn of their true nature and gifts. They use them to develop a vision of great things they want to accomplish. With wisdom they take initiative and cultivate great understanding of the needs and opportunities around them. They meet those needs that match their unique talents, that tap their higher motivations and that make a difference. In short, they find and use their voice. They serve and inspire others. They apply PRINCIPLES that govern growth and prosperity in human beings AND in organizations—principles that draw the highest and best from a “whole person”—body, mind, heart and spirit. Equally significant, they also choose to influence and inspire others to find their voice through these principles as well.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

This is an excellent example of what I’ve overcome at my last job. I literally ignored the noise; just as I ignored the noise with my family from 2012-2013.  This was a critical moment in my life because I could’ve been sucked into a bloodsucking abyss with no way out – although I felt like I was in it and suffocating as is. However, just like my family and my last full-time job from three years ago, I kept that vision strong and the why powerful enough that nothing could blow it down. My voice was always number one over everyone else, and this is how I was able to stave off the monsters from the outside.

This two-part solution—Find Your Voice and Inspire Others to Find Theirs—is a road map for individuals at ANY level of an organization to maximize their fulfillment and influence, become an irreplaceable contributor,* and inspire their team and the broader organization to do the same. Accordingly, the book is organized into two main sections:

1. Find Your Voice

2. Inspire Others to Find Their Voice”

Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 12 | The Solution

“HENRY DAVID THOREAU once wrote, “There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root.”1 This book is dedicated to striking at the root of the significant problems we face.
We’ve started with the pain; we’ve explored the underlying problem—one that has personal roots and that involves a deeply imbedded paradigm and set of traditions in the workplace. Now let’s set the context for the solution and give an overview of how it will be unfolded in the remainder of the book.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Most of the great cultural shifts—ones that have built great organizations that sustain long-term growth, prosperity and contribution to the world—started with the choice of one person. Sometimes that one person was the formal leader—the CEO or president. Very often it started with someone else—a professional, a line manager, someone’s assistant. Regardless of their position, these people first changed themselves from the inside out.

Their character, competence, initiative and positive energy—in short, their moral authority—inspired and lifted others. They possessed an anchored sense of identity, discovered their strengths and talents, and used them to meet needs and produce results. People noticed. They were given more responsibility. They magnified the new responsibility and again produced results. More and more people sat up and noticed. Top people wanted to learn of their ideas—how they accomplished so much. The culture was drawn to their vision and to them.
People like this just don’t get sucked into or pulled down for long by all the negative, demoralizing, insulting forces in the organization. And interestingly, their organizations are no better than most organizations. To some degree, they’re all a mess. These people just realize that they can’t wait for their boss or the organization to change. They become an island of excellence in a sea of mediocrity. And it’s contagious.”

Dealing with Flakers

Over the course of a week, I’ve had these types of fallouts.

  • Mentors/coaches/authors chastising me on social media about an opinion
  • “Coach” not getting back to my voice message
  • Instagram “single & relationship” coach being a complete asshole
  • A “self-love” coach literally bailing on the day of an IGTV live, then completely pulling out less than a week later
  • Another coach disappearing only to say “I don’t want to do this anymore”
  • A “marketing” IG influencer with 22k followers being a complete douche through message
  • Other IG “coaches” not messaging me back but messaging other used-to-be-companions back

Do you see the trend here? The majority of these people are apparent “coaches,” yet their labels don’t speak. It’s odd to see these “coaches” being assholes, not owning up to their word, being blatantly rude, jumping all over you for stating the obvious, and being total dick-bags in general.

I categorized them….

  • They’re all coaches
  • They’re all from IG
  • All but one are white (not that this matters, but it’s just obvious)
  • All but but are female (even the ones that I tried building the Global Coaches podcast with….were all females except one douche who just never got back to me)
  • All through technology

After doing my meditation this morning, I realized that I was in control of everything. I realized that the majority of my happiness was way out of my control. I also realized that i kept checking social media yesterday, likes, views, and if people had messaged me…..only to be a great disappointment in the end. I then began blaming algorithms and fell into a deeper hole. So, this is good news because I identified the source of all my “sorrows.”

If I could shed some light on the situation, I had two of the best ESL podcasts EVER over the past two weeks (amazing guy from the Bahamas and a Chilean teacher)….both of whom are in the same region and are of color. So, I have the Caribbean and South America who’s working to my advantage in terms of IG.

In saying that, what will I do for the day?

  • Check social media only in the evening
  • No news, no coaches, no connections, no messaging female coaches on IG
  • Stay only in touch with my Line application with potential jobs and a couple of close friends
  • Drop all projects (because the last coach went AWOL yesterday, that’s obviously a sign that it’s not going to work long-term).
  • Communication is absolutely key in having a podcast. I had a joint-podcast with a guy from the UK, but there was no vision and why behind it, nor could we make money from it….but it worked as long as it did. When it comes to women, it could be far more difficult because emotions play a significant role.

The Global Coaches Podcast| Inspirational Monday | Arsenio Buck | No Net

WOW! Welcome to my new joint-podcast featuring Mira Butler and I. At the time, we started with four but the others weren’t in alignment with the overall purpose of this podcast so now it’s just Mira Butler and I. In the future, we will attract more to us.

Because I’m the first podcast debuting, I need to give a solid introduction behind why I started a new podcast. Mira Butler and I have done a ton of work together, and we’re trying to conjure up ways to expand our reach. We began with the IG lives because we realized they would play a pivotal role in creating our tribe, but having a podcast, too, would obviously push things out there at a far-quicker pace. Our goal is to bring coaches with specialities in a wide-range of areas. Mira being a transformation coach, myself being an inspiration coach, and we’ll find others who specialize in other areas. There’s a lot to be spoken about and there will be an introduction podcast coming shortly, but today is my inspirational message.

IGTV Meditation | Mira Butler

This was our second ever live and it was another HIT! This is the calm before the amazing storm that’s about to erupt. Make sure you stay updated on that, but nonetheless, we have a lot to dive into in this podcast. If you haven’t subscribed to our UDEMY course yet, this is basically all of it in a nutshell, as well as a live meditation for you guys to do with us. I hope you enjoy it!

Podcast

CREATING A MANTRA | MINDFULNESS COURSE

Some people believe that creating a mantra is like what you hear during religious ceremonies here in Thailand — monks chanting and reciting a sacred utterance. However, it’s not. This is something you can create on your own….and this is exactly what Mira and I create in this video for you in a step-by-step process.

Experiences During Meditation | Mindfulness Course

We’re back with episode III of this course and in today’s segment we will talk about experiences that you will possibly have during meditation. The breathing exercise podcast from yesterday was all about breath work and letting thoughts come and go, but in today’s podcast, it’s essential to understand what you could possibly feel during the process so that you don’t freak out. I had an unbelievable experience about 4-5 years ago when I went into a deep state. Hear the experience in the podcast!

The Science Behind the Breath | Mindfulness Course

In this episode, Mira discusses how our emotions are connected to our breathing. Let me ask you a rhetorical question: “when you get frustrated, angry or anxious, how’s your breathing?” When we don’t get enough oxygen to our brain, we have mental lapses and we’re not able to think straight, resulting in make making impulsive decisions. Tune in!

Meditation & Yoga Benefits | Mindfulness Course

We’re back with Part II of this amazing course, and today we’re going to be diving into the benefits of meditation and yoga. Since I started doing yoga religiously, I now have no problems falling asleep. Two years ago, on the other hand, would be very difficult for me because I wasn’t able to control my thoughts. That’s one of the man benefits yoga has; on top of the boosting of the immune system. Listen to Mira break this down.

Wheel of Life: March 2020 Edition – Quarantine

We’re back with another Wheel of Life edition! Big special shout out to the people who have read this for years already, and this is a deep special because this was the life-changing moment I needed.

Who would’ve ever thought that quarantine would be great. Losing my job for about 6 weeks ended up being the pusher for me to transform my subconscious mind. But before I get into that, in brief, here are the categories to rate yourself in:

  • Personal development
  • Physical environment
  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Career
  • Family & friends
  • Fun & hobbies
  • Romantic Relationships

In this blog, I should finally discuss the transformation and leave the podcast down below for you to listen to the other categories. Be sure to share your scores!

Personal Development

Mira Butler had come forth in an idea and we acted on it. She wanted to create a UDEMY course, but even before that, we were having long, hilarious chats about a variety of things until we finally said “let’s do this.” I went through her personal transformation course, and everything that had hindered me in the past finally dispersed. The level of consciousness, the gratitude, and the unbelievable opportunities that are coming into my life is because I no longer have a hindrance. Are you ready for this podcast? Let’s do it!