Darren Hardy: Chapter 6 – Acceleration

First time I did a Tough Mudder in Melbourne, Australia, I was stoked.  I mean I remember the long drive there, the cool temperatures, the enthusiasts at a pit-stop along the way wearing leggings.  I mean the build up was insane.  My best friend, Joy, was just driving casually; meanwhile, the energy going through my body was unimaginable and I was just tapping my feet nervously while gazing away at the gorgeous green hills.  This was that moment of truth.  This was that moment that everything that had taken place in Thailand would be completely disrupted.  This was Arsenio versus Arsenio.  This was literally gathering up all this embattled pain and hammering it on this course.

Well the race had begun and in the first km, I was gassed. LOL! I built up some momentum with the Big Mo, and around the 6km-8km mark, the race got increasingly fun.  Music was on point, gorgeous Chinese-Australian women everywhere ( just saying – lol), and I was rapping and dancing during one obstacle.

However, when the half-way mark came, the wall came.  The mental barrier.  The wall that goes up in the mind of humanity when you just wanna give up.  .

I recall looking up the hill and seeing these ants sprawled everywhere.  Were they ants? Of course not….they were people straggling off in the distance, going up the goliath that towered over me.  I was terrified and said, “I think it’s time to give up.”

That’s when you hit the wall.  This could be in physical exertion, or just life in general.  That point when your mind says, “enough.”

Another instance was in the south of Thailand at a place called Lan Saka.  I thought it was going to be a mellow and cool bike ride with my neighbors from across the street, but without the proper biking shorts, it turned into a painful haul.  Halfway in it we were going up yet again…..hills.  Hills that didn’t make any sense.  Again, I recall looking up this particular hill and saying, “no, there’s no way I can go up.”

I told the other rider, “mai dai krap.”  Which is a proper way of saying “cannot.” He, with just one hand, began pushing me up this hill.  I was yelling in sheer anger, feeling the absolute burn running through my thighs and I was saying “I CAN’T DO IT!”  He kept saying, “pai! PAI!” Meaning “go! GO!”

I reached the “summit” and there it was….ecstasy showered with pain and laughter.

There is a point at which you “hit the wall” and come face to face with your true inner character. Suddenly, all the projections and ideas you had about yourself are stripped away and you’re left with the naked truth.

“When conditions are great, things are easy, there aren’t any distractions, no one is interrupting, temptations aren’t luring, and nothing is disturbing your stride; that too is when most everyone else does great. It’s not until situations are difficult, when problems come up and temptation is great, that you get to prove your worthiness for progress. As Jim Rohn would say, “Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.”
When you hit the wall in your disciplines, routines, rhythms, and consistency, realize that’s when you are separating yourself from your old self, scaling that wall, and finding your new powerful, triumphant, and victorious self.”

Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks.

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Friends & Family Goals For 2018

I literally have my best friend in New York and a good friend in Australia.  The others come and go as they will…more labeled as acquaintances.  2017 was a rough year.  There were days of emotional turmoil and even a three-day-period when I fell under a trance of melancholy.  Not good.  I pushed for dead-end relationships and that’s what needs to be cleaned up going into the latter stages of the year.  Sure, I met two friends (before one vanished) and I still have one that’s up and running.  In terms of meeting people around Bangkok, I think it will happen in due time, but I’m preparing for that massive change now.

Family

Yikes! What a disaster of a category this is.  Haha! A brother who has always hated me (thank you), two sisters who don’t speak to me (typical), a mother who has never tried calling me in the last five years of living here in Thailand (why so serious?), and an entire family that’s completely jealous of what I’m doing with my life.  However, they can do the same thing.

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Wheel of Life: Merry Christmas! The Most Successful Year of My Life!

MERRY CHRISTMAS to ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE AROUND THE WORLD!

Yes, did it in caps because it’s a big deal.

Guys and gals, Christmas is celebrated in some cultures as a religious holiday, but I celebrate it as a day to live, love, and laugh.  I don’t go to church, nor do I have a religion.  My religion is universal (like the universe) unity.  I try to spread as much love into the atmosphere as possible…..so for those of you with different customs, cultures, creed and other things, don’t let people say to you, “you can’t celebrate Christmas because it’s a Christian holiday.”  No, it’s a holiday at the end of the year whereas you can look back and enjoy how much you’ve progressed.

This year has been a year of change, progression, obstacles, and unbelievable rewards.  If I talk about countries I’ve traveled to, it’s been the biggest success in my life.  Personal development has definitely been the best EVER.  Career, although with the current blockage going on for the next couple of weeks, has been on the rise.  How so? Because life doesn’t revolve just around a primary job.  My podcast, YouTube, speaking, writing, etc., has gone up significantly.  Better yet, let me just break down each one by category.

Career – 9.5

I think the majority of this came at around May when I began to rebel against the primary “job.”  I felt that the job had gone stagnant.  It was the same thing happening over and over.  Same bs wage while the upper folks make hundreds of thousands/millions of baht….so then I got a phone call.  That “thing” was accepted, that lead to two projects, that’s leading to two massive projects in back-to-back months (February).  Just get this – everyone.  If I hadn’t accept that job on the weekend, I wouldn’t have gotten all these opportunities to begin with.  That moment they told me they had someone of power….I hurried to say, “ok.”  I accepted it, and I had to battle with this lose-ended, primary job (pretty much finished) to keep it.  That lead to three massive projects throughout the year that lead me to million baht earners.

Enough with that.  Podcast? I think over 100 countries listened to me worldwide.  YouTube? So many countries tune into my videos around the world.  Book? Twitter? Instagram? Interviewing people all over America? CHECKS ALL AROUND!

Hobbies & Fun – 8.5

It wasn’t even the Tough Mudder, Spartan Race (2x), and going to Maldives that made this an 8.5, but it was more of the decision that I made just a few weeks ago, cancelling a morning class to be around entrepreneurs and great people. I’ve been neglecting “fun” in my diet for so long.  I would work 9 hours on Saturday and Sunday, but ultimately make the same wage for the last four years? I mean I had no idea I can work two hours in Bangkok and make the same wage in 2 there compared to 9 in the outskirts.  So, now that my time is free(ing) up, and now that I’m preparing for my new life, I’m definitely going to incorporate “fun” into my life next year on a routine basis.  Now, does that mean going out? Nope. I hate going out unless it’s a business meeting and socializing to make connections.  I’m talking about meeting likeminded people and having time to myself and for my my projects.  No more 8-11 hour days on garbage wages.  It’s time for 2-4 hour days and have the rest of the day to do big things.  Nonetheless, It’s beginning to happen!

Wealth – 9.5

Look, I was able to to go back to America, travel to Sedona, layovers in Korea, Singapore and Japan, Maldives, Malaysia, do two Spartan races while staying at the Sheraton for the first time in my life.  These are massive accomplishments; and with all of with being stated, I still have the most saved up at the end of the year at any point in my life.

Yes, Crypto currency is what I’m going to start looking into to top off the year (so I have extra money on the side), but the wealth will come when I start looking.  Well, that has come and gone.  Why?  I realized that I can get paid 450% more per hour working in Bangkok then my current job.  I want to make more money in less time.  If I can work two-hours a day, amassing a total of a nine-hour work day at my present job, it’s time to go!

Big ideas, projects, jobs, and places to grow is coming up!

Personal Development – 9.5

Dale Carnegie’s ‘How To Stop Worrying & Start Living’ helped the HELL out of me this year.  I’m going to tell you why.  If I think about the current job situation going on – the company having a ‘secret santa’ without me, although they employ some of the most malicious teachers….what’s the worse that can happen? They fire me, and then my work permit automatically cancels and I can begin the new life at the beginning of the year.  That worse case scenario is a golden case scenario.

Physical Environment – 9.0

Because I was able to take the risk of be ostricized at my present workplace, I was rewarded with three massive projects, two unique students, and the teaching of millionaires.  This is what made my physical environment skyrocket.  The things that happened the way they did were suppose to happen.  Because they did, I decided to move to a very gorgeous area of Bangkok.  If I can just sit here and close my eyes, envisioning how it would be spending Christmas at my old condo, I would be depressed.  Same neighborhood, same people, same lifestyle.  Enough was enough…and now I just went running down these gorgeous streets where everyone was smiling.  It’s out there, people.  You just have to search for it.

Health – 8.5

Tough Mudder in Phoenix, Spartan Super in Malaysia, Spartan Sprint in Chon Buri, Thailand.  My body has transformed, I workout at the best gym ever and I’m around a supporting cast of people, and now that I’m living in my new place, I cook more often because I have an AMAZING kitchen.

Family & Friends – 4

This category took a massive hit.  From a best friend completely disappearing on me after cancelling my trip, to two individuals who I thought were developing friends vanishing.  What to do in the new year? In the podcast. 

Romantic Relationships – X

Although I did have a couple of opportunities this year to make something happened, it ultimately failed on me.  Funny stories in the podcast down below!

 

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Was Not Going Back Home Suppose To Happen? How The Universe Truly Works

Late October

Told my friend that I had an ominous feeling about going to America.  Without consulting her, I took the matter into my own hands and trusted my gut-feeling, cancelling the trip and throwing our 11 year relationship into disarray.

November 16th-18th

I received an email from a coordinator regarding my removal from a company where I taught.  I was completely confused by the ordeal, and my students were the one that ultimately suffered the most because of personal preferences.

Later realized that the excuses to my removal were controversial.  I began to believe that I was the epicenter of a racial attack, and then the verbal threats from my coordinator began.  It’s hard to see eye-to-eye when one is Anglo and another is African American.

November 18th – The Evening

After hearing such disgusting remarks, I didn’t look at the insults by face-value, but rather by the emergence of something so wonderful and so magnificent that was trying to make way into my life.  I applied for about 50 jobs in over 6 different countries.

Monday, November 20th – WHOA!

Ten jobs in China, one job in Honduras, another job in Costa Rica and others scattered around the planet — begging for my services.  Unsung hero came into my life the morning of Monday, asking me if I was still working at my present job. LOL! Was that a coincidence?  She told me about a very significant project she would like me to do.  Three hours later, I was given another project.  Three hours after that, around 2pm, I received an anonymous text message from someone giving me the biggest project of my life, teaching people from an embassy.

The week of the 27th…

I was offered a job and now the attachment with my present job no longer matters.  If something does arise, and it will, I can leave without any equivocations.  Just a few days later, I looked for high-rise condos in the heart of Bangkok since that is going to be my next point of living (Costa Rica job never contacted me back after emailing initially).

Today

I will be moving into my new condo the 22nd of December — marking the best present I’ve ever received in my life.  I have four new jobs who will want my services very shortly.  I got new projects, viewership, and so many other unbelievable things happening in my life.

Get this, everyone.  This all came from what? Being removed from a company because I’m African American.

Now ask yourself…….”wait, how? Another racial issue that’s about as common as seeing a bird came roaring into your life, and now you have 6 projects, a job offer, and four other suitors? How do you do it, Arsenio?”

Not only that….if I had gone to America this upcoming December, I wouldn’t have been able to move into my new condo, negating a big move to Bangkok which would’ve resulted in losing some of my projects and possibly even a job opportunity.

Breadcrumbs.

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Turning Points (Finance): Part 2 of 2

Enough is Enough

I was laughed at, talked badly about by Thai teachers (they make examples out of you real fast), students flipping me off in my face, disobedient.  On a number of occasions, I lost my voice.  Regardless of the money, I woke up one morning and said, “keep the 900$ USD….it’s not worth my peace of mind and voice.”  I collected my last check, left, and never looked back.

Testing The Waters

After going full-time at a place (while beating out another teacher for the position), it took a hell of a long time to get respect.  So many “happenings’ took place at this specific language center and there were times that I was as dry as the Sahara Desert — literally.  What I mean by that was work and work allocation.  There were plenty of times when it was very controversial and work would be distributed unevenly amongst teachers.  So one teacher can have up to five-classes in a day and another would have just one.

Towards the end of the year, there would be big arguments with other teachers; teachers holding meetings – pointing fingers at others because they don’t have work; and even my name came along as being an inexperienced teacher.

Well within my rights, I started looking at other places and other opportunities.  There were times that specific individuals looked me dead in the eyes and said, “too be honest, Arsenio, it’s actually difficult to get a company when we model a black teacher.  It’s easier when we have a white teacher.”

I looked elsewhere and found really abominable beings.  I was scraping the bottom of the barrel with the process. There was one specific Japanese individual that literally switched her seats constantly to avoid looking at me.  That was not only harsh, but demoralising.  Another individual said, “Arsenio, I understand.  I saw the looks on my students eyes when you walked by the classroom.”  I can’t make these stories up.  This was not only inexcusable, but simply revolting actions from Thai and Japanese students.

I kept looking — telling myself that my calling would be somewhere.  I knew there were opportunities and money to be made, but it was the bread crumbs that I needed to look out for.  If I didn’t find them, they would pass me by.  Language Center 1 wasn’t worth the racial hatred, number 2 was about proving grounds…..then there was the big shabang.

The Big Shabang

And as the cliché is told: “the third time is the charm.” BINGO! After a phone call on the morning of Sunday, there was an offering that I simply couldn’t refuse and needed to be selfish.  Selfish and Arsenio in the same sentence? Unlikely.  However, I was making other people happy and not taking care of my own self or my own damn pockets.  What stemmed from this were opportunities which will probably lead to my massive calling within the next few months.  Not only that, but throughout this entire process, I’ve been able to travel back home to America in style, Malaysia for my Spartan competition, Maldives, and probably Ho Chi Minh for New Years….all monumental feats and also crossed 15 “101 goals” off my to-do list.  This year….only this year, I’ve worked miracles.  Seeing Maldives on TV, movies, and dreams – became a reality.  Doing a ridiculous difficult competition while befriending the most awesome Malaysians and Pakistani’s ever = accomplishment — all on top of saving so much money.

As I look at my bank account, look at what I’m earning per month, and looking towards the future….all I can really do is cry.  Honestly.

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/financial-turning-points-5-7-plateau-was

 

Spartan Race Looming Large!

This will be the first ever Spartan Race in Chon Buri, Thailand and I’m not even worried.  For the most part, there’s a huge underestimation of the race happening within my mind that will sneak up on me.

Malaysia Was A Rude Awakening

I thought the Spartan Super in Kuala Lumpur was going to be relatively easy.  Even halfway through the course, my legs were sound and I didn’t have any tension in my upper back.  However, things got pretty difficult when I had to carry a bucket of rocks for almost a quarter mile – leaving my back in a good amount of pain.  I had to also carry a sandbag over my head into a ravine and all the way back up.  By the end of the race, my knees were buckling on the outside and it was difficult for me to go down anything.  I recall coming across the 3rd to last obstacle and seeing another contestant who had given up on doing burpees.

Towards the end, it was just pain.  It being in Kuala Lumpur probably didn’t help because there wasn’t a sense of comradery and fellowship between everyone running.  Everyone either just looked out for themselves, or their group.  There was no cheering each other on and no speaking to one another.

Thailand – I’m Just Praying To Any Entity In The Universe

That prayer is simply hoping that everyone will work together to achieve the goal, just like Tough Mudder.  This is what separates Tough Mudder from Spartan, too.  In Bali, Melbourne, and Phoenix (three different continents), everyone worked together to battle it out to the finish.  Australia, towards the very end, people just wanted to finish.  America, given the fact that we’re just so warm-hearted (lol), reeled everyone in, regardless if you knew them or not.  I recall helping an older lady over a Berlin Wall with her daughter and son on the other side.  It doesn’t matter who you are and what background you’re from…..

……The goal is to develop a sense of fulfilment, heart, and help one another.  That’s what this race is predicated on.

So, for those Thais who will read this throughout the course of the week, do something for someone without being told to do it!

Tough Mudder – Tempe, Arizona

I’ve done Melbourne, Australia (the worst mudder because it was the first with massively massive hills) 2 years ago; Bali, Indonesia last year (extremely rough terrain, but absolutely gorgeous); and now Tempe, AZ in the USA.  I got 2.5 tough mudders under my belt, and I was hoping to get my 3x mudder headband, but unfortunately I didn’t do the full.

Nonetheless, here’s a rundown and a few photos of what the dry, deserted-desert area looked like that hand endless dust-devils and other things scattered across the drylands.

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DUST DEVIL!

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Vendors

To have the likes of Jamba Juice there, Mexican food, delicious hamburgers and other things made it the best out of all three mudders I’ve done so far.  Having protein and even a merchandise tent that sold endless apparel and necessities was just amazing compared to what I’ve seen in the past.

The Course

Now, having ran in Australia already, I was a little bit aware of the dry heat.  However, there’s no way you can possibly acclimate to the inhalation of sand.  By the time the race was over, I was wheezing.  Positive: zero hills and running on pretty stable terrain compared to Bali made the course decent.

Comradery

Ahhhh, I went from being alone and bored the first 1.25 miles, to barrelling through the course and being pushed by someone who asked me, “how you doing, man?” We teamed up and started talking about life overseas and our personal trials and tribulations that vaunted our workout status to unshakable heights.  It’s incredible sharing stories with strangers and seeing miles just drop, drop, DROP OFF.  By the time we can across the obstacles where assistance was actually needed, we had met some wonderfully beautiful German beauties (the Pink Team) whereas the course got much funner.  One girl even claimed that she hadn’t worked out since February…..here I am hyperventilating because of my 5 day hiatus.  That’s the beauty of Tough Mudder; let alone Americans.  The forming of an alliance amongst strangers and putting 100% trust into them makes this an obstacle course to remember.

Going Forward

I have a Spartan Race coming up in Singapore next month, perhaps one sometime during the American summer months that will be in Kuala Lumpur, one in Thailand (AROO!) and perhaps a Tough Mudder to top off the year.  Enjoy the pictures and even my podcast down below!

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11587764

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Donating The Shoes

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