Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 15 – Food, Physical & Mental Energy

“Yes, to maintain your level of both physical and mental energy you need to exercise both your body and mind. But there is a third factor. Your body and mind both need to be fed properly. You help to maintain your physical body by taking in quantities of wholesome, nutritious foods. You maintain your mental and spiritual vigor by absorbing mental and spiritual vitamins from inspirational and religious books.

Vitamins—necessary for a healthy mind and body! George Scarseth, Ph.D., former Director of Research for the American Farm Research Association in Lafayette, Indiana, told about a village on the seacoast of Africa. The village is more advanced than a community of similar tribes in the interior. Why? Because its inhabitants are physically stronger and more mentally alert—they have more bodily energy—than the interior tribes-men. The difference between the tribesmen on the coast and those living inland stems from a difference in diet. The village tribesmen in the interior do not have a sufficient amount of protein whereas those on the coast obtain quantities from the fish they eat.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

Health Energy

So, as mentioned before and on so many different blogs (and will possibly reiterate myself in the coming years/decades), there are lots of forms of energy.

I had a conversation with a troll, who was a boss, at my old boss after he observed my package and supplements labled “Herbalife.”

“What do you buy that stuff for?”

“Well, you see there’s _________ and ________”….and when you try explaining yourself to a Gen B, his/her ears are already cut off from accepting anything because they believe their preconceived notions.  He said that if I eat regular food, I wouldn’t need supplements.

Hmmm, that’s interesting. MAYBE in Thailand, a country where there aren’t giant factories in the outskirts of the city producing processed foods to kill people (This. Is. America), there are still essentials and deficiencies, especially in Selenium and Zinc.

How could someone impose their WILL of not knowing wtf they’re talking about on you? Well, Gen B’s always seem to know best, right? LOL.

Nonetheless, I’ve been using Herbalife for a while already and I’m absolutely AMAZED at some of the wonderful products which have helped me with my digestive tract, immune support, and just vitamins in general.

Mental Energy

Mental energy — YES! What are you feeding the mind.  There have been alot of likes on posts I HATE seeing.  Yes, social reform and for good causes, but the amount of negativity, especially in the America community which pushes the narrative that there IS EQUALITY THERE, is too much for me.  How is it allowing me to grow? Just that…it ISN’T!

So, if it isn’t, then what are you going to do about it? Clean your NEWSFEED!

“If you suspect that your diet is deficient in certain vitamins and elements so that your energy level is depressed, you should do something about it. A good cookbook can help you, and there are government pamphlets available at low cost. If the condition persists, have a physical checkup.
Like your body, your subconscious mind will accept and absorb mental and spiritual vitamins without effort. But, unlike your physical body, the subconscious will digest and retain unlimited quantities. Unlike your stomach, it never becomes stuffed! It will take and hold as much as you feed it—and still hold more!”

In effect, the subconscious mind is like a battery. From it, you can obtain tremendous surges of mental and spiritual energy which often transmute themselves into physical vitality. These jolts of energy will go to waste if we permit them to be short-circuited by needless negative emotions. But used constructively, this energy can multiply itself many times, just as a powerhouse generator produces vast amounts of useful power.

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

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Acknowledge Your Positive Past: Part II – Thank Your Family, Job, & Circumstances

My mother, who took four children in all by herself, did a magnificent job at parenting.

My mother, who hasn’t spoken or communicated with me via voice in 5 years, doesn’t really care about me.

Can you see the difference?

We often times point out the negatives of our past, but it’s really time to start looking at the positives.

I’m going to give you some techniques on how to achieve, but first, this is how you can rewire your brain.

Last Job

So, I was taken in by a job and was given work for 3.5 years.  I had the opportunity to work at about 4 different companies, worked at one of the biggest companies in Thailand, worked at a university (tracing back my roots to this country and close that part of my life off) and saw one of my students’ parents (who speaks excellent English now).  I had the opportunity to teach some brilliant students from one of the best universities in Thailand.  I had projects because a lady believed in my ability and I realized my ability while living there, pushing myself to greater heights by resigning and moving onto the biggest projects of my life.

See, that’s called acknowledging your positive past. 

Sure, I could’ve pointed out all the negative, but all of the negatives were character building moments that set me up for this monumental moment right now.

My Brother

in 2003, there was a bone-head taunting the marching band of Rancho High School.  I sat behind these two thug-spewing neanderthals as they berated the band and threw things at us.  I said, “enough” as I was looking at my friend Carlos.  I removed my hat, walked over to the stairs and made my way up before losing it.  There were a cluster of adjectives coming out of my mouth.

My brother, who had gotten injured playing basketball, was in a cast.  He then said, “ughhh you ain’t gon be talking to my brotha like dat!”  He stood up and people started running over — instigators — is what I call them.

At that very moment, it was a family moment.  It was an older brother protecting his younger brother against the wrestling team of Rancho High School.   How about that?!

Thailand

Nakhon Si Thammarat, I’m going to be grateful for this place.  I went to this province in the south of Thailand in hopes to find my alchemy.  I failed, but I met some wonderful people along the way.  So many of my students from a particular school loved me because I was so charismatic.  I went to a wedding and this lady asked me, “hey, you’re always in a good mood, come fishing with me.” I was approached my two sisters who spoke fluent English.  They recently lived in my Native Las Vegas and worked at a hotel that I would routinely pass by when going to work.  They had also lived in Hawaii, a place I visited just 6 months prior.  The women at the gym loved me.  Both had a boyfriend/husband, respectively, but you can see it in their eyes (LOL!).

Guys, I’ve just gone over the simplest way to acknowledge your positive past, and here are some additional ways.

Begin With Nine Major Successes: Based On Your Age

If you’re 21, break it down in three increments (birth – 7; 8 – 14; 15 – 21).  

Whatever age you are, divide it by three.

Mirror Exercise

just before you go to bed, stand in front of a mirror and appreciate yourself for what you accomplished during the day.  Start with a few seconds of looking directly into your eyes.

Any achievements –  business, financial, educational, personal, physical, emotional.

Disciplines: exercise, reading, meditation

Temptations you never gave into: Ex: my eating gummy bears habit.

When you start doing this exercise, you’ll realize that all that junk, negative internal self-talk will totally vanish.

Reward Your Inner Child & Children

Make key deposits into your relationships, friendships, parents everyday.  Fill those bank accounts with positivity and rewards.  If you succeed at something, whatever you craved as a child, take yourself (and even your children) with you to get that craving.

 

The Sexual Mask: Part II

Chris Lee, a brilliant transformational coach, said this in Lewis Howes podcast: “Every boy in America learns by the time they’re in junior high school to associate masculinity with issues of sexual conquest. What’s it mean to be a man? It means you can bring some young girl alongside of yourself and then use her. Use her to either gratify some kind of physical need, or use her to validate some kind of masculine insecurity. That certainly does not make you a man—it makes you a user of other human beings.”

I won’t point at any cultures and not make this religious, but there are certain religions that women are treated as just objects.  They can’t do half the things men can do.  Boys rights, at the ages of 13-15, are much higher than those of women.  That’s the terrifying aspect of I guess “sexism,” but at the same time, Chris Lee is basically saying that when it comes to adolescence, everything begins to change.

I even recall this kid named Jonathan talking about the female reproductive organ in a song he was rapping — in the sixth grade! He was talking about how much he loved it.  He was 12! I didn’t even know what it was, to be honest!

Lewis Howes, hilariously, talked about in his book that he had an uncontrollable erection.  My sweet craving days have been with me for a long time, but like sweets, Lewis Howes had erections.  He would have to walk around the school with his shirt untucked because he was afraid of people seeing it.  I thought it was hilarious, but at the same time, we’ve all been through that stage.  Were there times in high school that I had a staring problem — followed by an arousal problem? Of course!

However, I didn’t have a father figure in my life after 1999.  In the dawn of the millennium, I remember seeing my brother watch a movie that had a sex scene in it.  Because I was so naive, I asked myself “what is he doing to her?”  LOL!

I remember seeing magazines scattered in the park, opening them, and seeing the female reproductive organ before saying to myself, “that’s interesting!” Another “LOL!”

The first time I ever made out was sophomore year of high school.  I had no idea what was happening, but it went on for a long time.  That escalated over a month and it came to me and the same girl being in the middle of the school, at night, and her saying, “LET ME SEE IT!”  I was embarrassed.  NO WAY!

My mom, like most mothers, never sat me down and said, “ok, Arsenio.  This is this…if you do this without this, you’re in trouble.” Hahaha. It just never happened.

This is the same story that revolves around Neil Strauss.

“So what happens is you go through puberty at age 13, and then for the next 8 years in my case, there’s this thing that can make you a man, but you don’t own it or possess it. Someone else either has to give it to you or share it with you, and the longer you don’t get it, the less of a man you feel like. I remember my friend, who was like my only friend in school, we called ourselves the “v-club” because we were both virgins. The whole experience created this incredible gulf between me and women, and me and manhood, and it built up this huge desire.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

Psychologist from two prominent universities in America published an article 10 years ago….

“In the article, the authors recognized that college-age men, especially in fraternities, who failed to meet the stereotypical definitions of masculinity (men kind of like Neil) were more likely to turn to more negative forms of male socialization in order to play catch-up in the male world. That meant binge drinking, fighting, and casual sex with lots of partners.
The problem with this—besides the obvious risk of disease or enraged exes—is if you don’t get past this phase, you end up just feeling empty. Or worse, you get stuck in the cycle.”

Fraternities, with all respect, are the worst.  Sorry.  I’ve seen it first hand (not being in one, but being at parties where they hosted), and it’s all about who can have sex.  I mean let’s even look at it from a clubbing aspect.  Why do women and men go to the club? Honestly, I really want you to think about it.  To drink copious amounts of alcohol while enduring in blaring music? Come on.

I had one friend say a while back, “I go there to dance with my friends.”  Ummm….you would go to a club late at night to dance with friends instead of sleeping?

Possible — if insanity is involved.

Every woman Neil saw he fantasized of jumping in bed with them; if it was in an airplane, or even at the park.  It controlled him so much that he had to check-in to  a rehab center for sexual habits.  The sexual mask had completely taken over his life.

“What I thought was freedom really wasn’t freedom. The freedom was in the commitments. But if you think about it, “Okay I’m gonna be single or unattached, or I’m just gonna be able to do whatever I want,” it’s like a bird that’s not able to land; it gets exhausting. And going through the processes, by which I was actually able to kind of get rid of my baggage and be intimate in a relationship and not feel trapped, just opened up everything.”

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Darren Hardy: Find Your Fight + Goals

So, my first podcast (which will be below the first part of this in terms of finding your fight) was uploaded yesterday.  I didn’t have time to attach the blog with it, and I also got a real time text message about a job denying me work and see how I reacted to it.  Great experience. Lol

And into “finding your fight.”

Now, Darren Hardy talked about using friction, anger and hate to press up against something you don’t like.  I strongly disagree, respectfully.  It’s like the people who asked Mother Teresa if she wanted to go to an Anti-_________ rally.  She never went, but when she said, “if you make a pro-peace rally, I’ll go.”

The more you press up against something you dislike or get back at someone, you’ll never feel accomplished and you’ll be bringing more of that.

Gary Vee mentioned that he does things to stick it back in other people’s faces.  Again, people have a way of doing it, but the antagonists, naysayers, and people that want to see you fail will continue dissecting every detail of you to find something else to complain about.  It will be a never-ending whirlwind of critcism you’re redirecting constantly over to yourself because you feel you have to do it to prove someone wrong.

I’m telling you now that they will continue to win.  Just remember, No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.

Podcast From Yesterday

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-core-motivation-dont-use-it

 

Goals

The compound effect, just like the Law of Attraction, is always working – whether you believe it or not.  You can use it for you, or against you.  Most successful people in the world have quiet time for meditation, other people say that meditation isn’t for them.  It’s all based on preference. However, if you can get to a deeper level of your core, you will find the treasure.  I have a particular friend who works at a bank who says she doesn’t know what she loves.  Well, try new things! “Well, my mother said I can’t.”

Now’s not the time to be rescue 911.  If she doesn’t start now, she’ll look back to now at the age of 70 saying, “I wish I had…..”

Don’t be that person.

Ask yourself: “what goals, dreams and destinations do I desire?”

Honestly, ask yourself that question.  If you’re not making progress in life, and shooting aimlessly, it’s because your goals aren’t clearly defined and you just simply don’t have a definite chief-aim in life.  How can you learn to effectively to set and achieve goals?

Was Australia on my bucket list back in 2009? No.  However, in 2005, it gave me a glimpse of what was to come when I did a convention with a friend involving lots of managers from Australia at the Mandalay Bay Resort & Casino. That wasn’t a clearly defined goal, but rather an insight.

I always wanted to travel to Japan, Singapore, Bali and Maldives…when I put these onto my dreamboard, it happened.  It may not work for you, but it worked for me.

You only see, experience, and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. In fact, the object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not the mysterious, esoteric voodoo it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simpler and more practical than that. – Darren Hardy

We are bombarded with visual, audio and physical things everyday.  Have you ever been thinking about that person and later get a phone call from them? How about that car you want? You start seeing the car a heck of a lot more, right? Is it realistic? Perhaps.  Maybe the cars were there all along and you just weren’t paying attention to it.

When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look into and focus on. This is why our subconscious mind and feeding your mind with what you want one hour before you retire at night is imperative.  If you watch bad news, what shows up in your dreams? If you do work on that project, shop for that house, look for flights to Kazakhstan, and look at YouTube videos of travel in Morocco….your subconscious mind will work on it overnight.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-part-ii-goal-setting

 

Lewis Howes: The Athlete Mask Ending + What Can You Do Now?

Remember my Dale Carnegie podcast on “not winning an argument?” Here’s the link…..Dale Carnegie’s ‘You Can’t Win An Argument’.

“You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

My brother, who I’ve talked about so many times, always felt the need to win.  He would have this overbearing voice while yelling at the top of his voice to shoot a point across.  I would sit back, relaxed, and just retort before he does it again. He was one of the people who thought winning arguments were critical and it made him feel more superior, especially over his younger brother.

Steve Weatherford’s Story In The Podcast

“As athletes we’re obsessed with how we look, with how we perform, and with winning. We’re consumed by competition as the measuring stick for our manhood. But our self-worth has nothing to do with those things. It has to do with our values and principles.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

So, what’s available when you drop this mask?

  • Creativity
    Culture
    New experiences
    Connections with other humans
    Self-worth
    A healthy relationship with your image
    Balance
    Time to do other things you enjoy

Men, what have you been avoiding to focus on your physical appearance? I’m asking this because most body builders are very ego-maniacal, self-centered and anti-social.  These are the factors you can work on to rip this athlete mask off.

1.Health: mental, physical, emotional
2.Relationships: intimate, family, friends
3.Wealth: finances, career, education, business
4.Contribution: making an impact in the world and other people’s lives, being of service
5.Spiritual: connecting to a higher power or your spiritual beliefs.

Rate yourself in each area.  What would you look like in each area? Write these down in a notebook of some sort.

Also, what are your values and principles that you can lean on so that you can figure out how to contribute to the world, and to your own happiness, in each of these areas?”

More In My Podcast Down Below!

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/lewis-howes-the-athlete-mask-what-to-do-

 

Napoleon Hill – Failure – Introduction of My Physical Failure

Let me paint this picture of this life-turning night at Palo Verde High School back in May of 2005.

I was a 300m intermediate-hurdler who was favored to at least make it to the Sunrise Regional Championships.  I remember I failed miserably at the 110HH – not intentionally, but because I was more focused on the ‘endurance’ run that was approaching the next day.  So, here I am sitting on what feels like a frosty field for 10-20 minutes.  Before the race began, I did a fair amount of stretching to keep loose.  However, all athletes were forced to keep seated in the inside of the field until the 800m race had finished – which seemed like for AGES.

Boom, here we go.  Approached the blocks, glanced at the heavy crowd on-hand and I recall glancing at just two random Filipinos, making eye-contact with them.  It just seemed like at the moment, it was time to do WORK!

“Runners on your block!”

I did my usual jump-crunch and backed into my blocks, waiting calmly for the gun to go off and unleash hell.

“SET”

…………

“SHOT FIRED”

I’m flying out the blocks in tenacity so I can get ahead quickly and pace myself.  This track’s 300m race starts in the first curve rather than the back straightaway, which was very odd.  It didn’t throw me off, but I just remember getting to the first and last curve before I felt my legs tighten up on me.  Not to the point that I pulled my hamstrings, but it felt like I had 2-20KG cinder blogs on both shoulders.  The other athletes zoomed by me and I saw my hopes of making finals dwindle before my very eyes.

I finished, fell to the ground, and wept like a baby.  I staggered walking across the field in utter devastation and seeing some of my teammates looking at me with no reaction.  The hardest part was going to my coach and apologizing to him.  Other athletes from my team who were heavily favored to reach the Class 4A State Championship Race also didn’t qualify.  It was a night of misery.

Or was it?

Podcast 

Chief Factors Which Enter Into The Development of An Attractive Personality

First: Form the habit of interesting yourself in other people; and make it your business to find their good qualities and speak of them in terms of praise.

Second: Develop the ability to speak with force and conviction, both in your ordinary conversational tones and before public gatherings, where you must use more volume.

Third: Clothes yourself in a style that is becoming to your physical build and the work in which you are engaged.

Fourth: Develop a positive character, through the aid of the formula outlined in this lesson.

Fifth: Learn how to shake hands so that you express warmth of feeling and enthusiasm through this form of greeting.

Sixth: Attract the people to you by first :attracting yourself” to them.

Seventh: Remember that your only limitation, within reason, is the one which YOU set up in YOUR OWN mind.

  • If you will cultivate those finer thoughts, and feelings, and actions, out of which a positive character is built, and then learn to express yourself with force and conviction, you will have developed an attractive personality.
  • There is a great power of attraction back of the person who has a positive character, and this power expresses itself through unseen as well as visible sources.
  • Every “shady” transaction in which you engage, every negative thought that you think, and every destructive act in which you indulge, destroys just so much of that “subtle something” within you that is known as character.

For example, I do my banking here in Thailand with KTB, not because it’s the closest, but because the tellers, cashiers, and even people working the door are unbelievably charismatic.

I always eat pizza at a restaurant called wine connection, not only because the pizza is delicious, but because the waiters and waitresses are amazing with service.

The people who I engage with throughout my daily life I’m attracted to because their personalities, character, and charisma is rare.

Lisa Nichols: Abundance Now Book – Conclusion

For those of you who have followed me on this wondrous journey (podcast listeners and people on the blog) that features a lot of what Lisa Nichols had said in her Abundance Now book are probably wondering what’s next.

What is the most immediate thing you can do to start living abundantly, building your future, and establishing your legacy? Take action!

It’s time to decide what you want, create a plan to pursue it, then move forward—regardless of your fear, your lack of experience or knowledge, your lack of resources, or anything else.

Those things you’re afraid to do, do them afraid! You will learn along the way.  Remember, the CEO of Spartan Race was going through hell at one point in his life and saw that there was an ultra-marathon and several other “batshit crazy” events approaching in his local area – he signed up. IMMEDIATELY.  What did that do? Disrupted the bodies biochemistry.

Begin by getting crystal clear about what you want in the 12 areas of your life (or the eight categories of life that I’ve talked about in Glenn Harold’s book). Determine the relationships you want, the career or work you want to do, the physical rewards you want to enjoy—all the hallmarks of your abundant life.

Remember the Four E’s I’ve talked to you about.

Enrichment – of your whole Self, not only will you be able to better pursue that abundance, but you’ll enjoy it a lot more as you move into exciting new activities, directions, and opportunities.

Enchantment in your Relationships—the feeling of delight and magic you get from the people who surround you, support you, and encourage you.  Shake off the effects of the toxic people in your space; the energy drainers; and reach out for people who make you stand on your tippy-toes. I want you to become intentional about the quality of your relationships—not just the current ones, but the new ones you want to form. I want you to become deliberate about the caliber of people you spend time with, learning how to seek out those people who inspire you to do better, create more, play bigger, and win more often.

Having people in your life who feel your social circle but do more taking than giving, get rid of them.  If you flock with the losers, you’ll end up a loser.

“Engagement you get from your Work, your business, or your career. I’m convinced that you have a calling in your life, a life assignment that commands your time, talent, and treasures. It’s up to you to recognize whether you’re in that calling now—or whether you need to shift into it, using your current “job” as an investor in your exciting and breathtaking future. There is so much opportunity out there to thrive—but at all times, strive to make it work for you. Strive to achieve harmony (but not balance) between the time you spend on your work and the time you dedicate to family, hobbies, and rest and renewal.” – Lisa Nichols

The legacy, which I’ve talked about, is important.  Stop calling your job A JOB and look at it from an investment standpoint.  Just like sleeping, we spend another 6-10 hours a day (depending on your career field) on your “job”…..so start investing and figuring out what new skills you need to acquire to get to the next level.

Endowment – Eliminating those old-money mantras.  The negative beliefs that was programmed within our minds at a young age whether it was economical, geographical, social, etc….it’s time to create new beliefs about money.  There’s a money affirmation on YouTube that Bob Proctor made in courtesy to Mind Valley which is basically him repeating an affirmation over and over for 30 minutes.  Stop putting money in the same sentence with scarcity.

For anyone who has questions about any of the podcasts or want to leave a comment about the Lisa Nichols segment, you’re more than welcome to do so.

Until then, stay tuned for the next book!

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11445331