First Time Visiting Bangkok & I Saw This

After landing in humidity-filled capital, I was walking through a terminal, gasping for what it seemed like very little oxygen. Was the air-conditioning on at the airport? Highly doubt it. A rush of just hell hit me before going to a taxi rank (and luckily a good one) to get a taxi to my hotel.

Shortly after getting to the hotel, now known as Avani Atrium, there was a disruptive flight attendant (Etihad Airways) giving the check-in desk lady repugnant lip service. While all of that was happening, I saw two “working” women walking out of the hotel lobby to get back to the streets.

This is Bangkok.

The picture, which is shown as the default, was utterly shocking to me. Having just come from gorgeous Sydney, Australia, a place where the harbour is covered in deep blue waters — seeing such a river was soul-torching. The amount of remorse I had, at the time, when I complained about everything I didn’t have, was criminal. After seeing such a river, I walked towards the center of the CBD, and let me just say this, Thailand in 2012 was not a safe place as it is today. Hold ups, ransoms and other crazy ass stories (that the media would never put out there) were rampant.

I recall looking over my shoulder constantly because I thought people were trying to kidnap me. After reaching a junction, I was accosted by a man who was trying to solicit sexual services to me. I walked for another 100m and the man’s pushiness grew — all while passing a man who looked dead underneath a foot bridge. He began to hurl nasty adjectives at me and called me poor, although he was trying to get my money on commission. These types of things I couldn’t change and probably can’t change, but the fact and matter is I saw pure destruction. I saw children walking around with bare feet. I noticed a stench of raw sewage on the streets and people were eating at tables just inches from the bodily fluids.

These people, like other people scattered across India, Africa, Bangladesh, China and so many other countries, are in need of something. They don’t need money at the moment, because if they get loads of money, they don’t know how to save it. Conditioning needs to happen. The mind needs to change, and little by little, it could be done.

I know there are a plentiful charities out there that give food, but it just doesn’t equate to changing the condition. Since then, Thailand has minimized those slums and now they’ve cleaned it up, but where I’m typing this still remains a problem….just under these train tracks are one of the biggest red-light districts in Asia and both women/men don’t own up to the ridiculousness they’ve gotten themselves into. There’s not a man, nor an amount of money that could save any of these people….but conditioning can.

The Arsenio Buck Foundation Official Launch!

There are foundations that I won’t name that do more taking than giving. There are too many “non profit” organizations that ask for money, but then those givers have no idea where there money actually goes. Over the course of so many years of seeing blood donation centers asking for blood and NGO’s asking for money, I decided to do this on my own.

Throughout my life, and having been born in a country is very high (yes, America….and poverty harbours within the mind), I’ve seen what poverty leads too. It’s generational. From the African Americans who sit on generational welfare, to the trailer parks where Caucasian Americans get inundated with drugs like heroin and cocaine, I can make a change.

Having lived in Thailand for five years and seeing the things I have for the last 5 years, my life-work/assignment has always been to give back — to do more than what I’m paid to do just so I can build upon the amazing person I already am.

My Four Pillars

So, The Arsenio Buck Foundation, which has now launched, has four pillars.

Schools, companies, and organizations wishing to book my services (and I do this for free) will have an opportunity to get in contact with me (I do two of these volunteering projects a year — 2020 may change to a handful, though) at ArsenioBuck@icloud.com.

English Language Training

This isn’t your basic, dumb down, open a book and teach. This is for all language learner levels and for people all over the world. This is a very intensive/interactive 2-3 day language/confidence building pillar that will enable students to break away from their shyness, make mistakes while speaking, and develop confidence within a short amount of time. It will also have implements of personal development, too.

Technology

Because I know how important the internet is today, people don’t understand how they’re a profile/click away from being HUGE. Creating an Instagram and finding the correct hashtags is the quickest way to building notoriety. Making pages, communicating with people on LinkedIn (if you’re a business professional) and other grounds, is what this dimension brings to the table.

Personal Development

Because I train business clients all over Thailand in terms of personal development, this is another area that will be accessible for schools/organizations. Leadership, finding your purpose, passion, self control, pleasing personality, etc are available — among so many others.

Victim – Victor

This is the most intense project. This is a lot of in-your-face, being held accountable, and digging deep into the minds of a lot of people who seemingly can’t except the fact about what’s happening around them. The goal for this one is to have everyone alleviate themselves from negative self-talk, physical environment issues, overcoming hardships, bad neighborhoods, horrible friends/workmates/family, and more.

So with these four pillars now intact, please follow my facebook page 

If you have any questions, please let me know!

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Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 8 – Habit of Saving Revamped

“The principle he learned and the one that you also can employ will now be stated in a very few words. In reading The Richest Man in Babylon, Mr. Osborn found that wealth could be acquired if you:

(a) Just save one dime out of every dollar you earn;

(b) Each six months, invest your savings and interest or dividend returns from these savings and investments; and

(c) When you invest, seek expert advice on safe investments and thus you won’t gamble and lose your principal.”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

Oh, yes! The habit of saving, one of the best kept secrets and a principle I went over quite some time ago.  Guys, it was July 3rd, 2017….my brother (as most negative stories from my childhood revolve around him) came home and was yelling at me.  He said I was selfish (although I was a poor college student) because I was allowing my mother to pay for my phone bill.  I remember crying and leaving to my best friend’s girlfriends’ house — Dominique.  The next day we watched Transformers (the original motion picture) before going to a fourth of July party in the evening — where my brother actually greeted me with a handshake — acting as if nothing had taken place a day before.

Over the next year I stood up to him gradually….but all arguments and problems between 2005-2013 stemmed over money.  Either I wasn’t giving my mom enough money, or I should get a job.  From that point going forward, I was an aggressive saver.

Of course this doesn’t relate to investing, but I became self-aware that being broke, was not fun. Yes, I had $10 to my name at one point here in Thailand, but never again was I ever that broke again.

You have to be consciously aware of your spending.  In my Darren Hardy blogs, I emphasized how you can curb your spending or just be aware of how much you’re spending.  I always put myself on a daily budget.  Thankfully I’m working hard throughout everyday; therefore, I don’t have time to buy things I crave (carbing up with pizza or pancakes).  Also, I follow a routine every morning.  I have a fried egg, rice, and chicken (stir-fried basil)….so I’m constantly aware of how much I spend everyday.

Guys, I can’t stress enough how important it is to save.  In my podcast I give you some stories that ultimately lead me to saving.

Wealth Goals For 2018

“Less time; more money!”

That was my motto heading into this year.  After all the events that had taken place in the month of October and November, I was almost sure that I could’ve made 120$ an in two hours with a private course teaching business law.  That 120$ would’ve also been nine hours of work at my present place of work.

Now that opportunity is now somewhere in the ocean, but the fact and breadcrumb is I thought I would have a great opportunity to make superior money here in Bangkok.  Interview, move, I was PRIMED for excellence, until that interviewer never came back around.

Damnit.  Did I make the right move? Did I make a smart financial decision moving to Bangkok, even though there are no job opportunities anymore? I still believe I did.  One section of Bangkok was driving me insane – the same section of Bangkok which a lady walked passed me, bringing her purse closer to her.  Yeah…happens on a routine basis in that “slummy” area. It was enough.  The constant ignorance that I saw everyday from low-class mindsets was just too much.  Sure, I paid a 800$ deposit along with the first months rent to get out of there because I knew and continue to know that the universe loves action.  I sleep with such an amazing conscious every night knowing I’m not in “that” area anymore where women grip their belongings as if I were going to snatch it away from them.

Let’s get back on track.

That was a decision of 2017.  Wealth right now is no longer an area of concern, but it’s something I need to seriously come to grip with because if I was to move out of Thailand, I’ll definitely need to be smart with my money going forward.

Podcast

Lewis Howes: The Material Mask & Tai Lopez Excerpt

YIKES! I mean, I can write probably a book on what Americans deem to be happiness – just go to Beverly Hills and see yourself! Yes, I took shot at Beverly Hills, although I stay there with an ex-boss of mine and his wife for a day this past April.  The Material Mask – the most highly sought after mask on the face of the planet.

From Instagrammer influencers posing with six-figure cars, to people flaunting their riches on yachts.  I find it very laughable because deep down inside those individuals are insecurities far beyond what “normal” people have.

For example, the YouTube guru who took the world by storm over a two-year period, Tai Lopez, is deemed as a “scam” artist.  Some people say that he packaged his own course from Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles.”  Others dissected his videos to the molecular level when they realized that some of the people he would be in the video with, at the time, weren’t even listening to him.  Collection of books in the garage; house “rented” out, women wearing 2-piece bikinis and so much more.  Nonetheless, this man amassed a fortune behind a very ambiguous past and everyone to this date is still unaware of his age.

Get this, regardless of what you might or might not like about him, he was one of those people who didn’t have that type of money when he was younger.  So, when he got the money, he lavished himself in it and had to show everyone.  His Tedx, called the ‘Good Life,’ was a bit laughed, in my opinion.  This coming from a public speaker – but this human being by the name of Tai Lopez has still been able to make millions of dollars.  Dollars that he must show to the rest of the world to make them feel inferior.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/lewis-howes-material-mask-tai-lopez-intr

Sensitivity Breeds Perpetuity

I normally walk over a bridge to go home everyday — a pedestrian bridge.  When I get to the top of this particular bridge, normally there’s someone there sitting on the pavement — holding their hands to their face with a cup in front of them: “I need money.”  On some days, there’s an older lady there with what it seems to be a daughter/granddaughter.  These are the things that really upset me because those children don’t deserve to be included in the chaos.

Homeless.

A word and one of the most controversial topics.  I believe there are different degrees of homelessness.  We can’t compare homeless Americans to homeless Africans or Indians for the sake of governments.  In America, homeless people can get shelter every evening, meals, clothing and other things; in Africa, it’s a free-for-all.  Every man for themselves.

There was an interesting topic on a recent Ted video that sparked a debate (or what I thought was one) from a “therapist” (whatever that means).  A woman told me, “how about some sensitivity?”

Ok, I’m sensitive.

Now what?

Because of a collective and conjunction of bad choices, you’ve landed yourself on the streets.  I will jump in the defence of foster children, which is an incredibly detestable story.  However, everyone has different stories.  I’m not talking about homelessness in the likes of Somalia, India, Bangladesh and other places…..I’m talking about America.  Owning up and taking 100% responsibility for being in your position is the first thing you need to do.  This man on a Ted video said, “we should build homes for all homeless people.”  But, if you put a homeless person into a gorgeous home with a homeless mindset, the individual will still perpetuate a homeless lifestyle because he too, still has the homeless mindset.

In order to change the way someone is….you have to first change the mind.  The paradigm.  The habits.  I remember Charles Barkley made fun of Michael Jordan on an interview one-time — calling him “cheap.”  Michael Jordan didn’t give money to a homeless person.  Oprah Winfrey went on to comment, “well, I do agree because to a certain degree…you’re literally prolonging the hell with the individual.  If you give them money, they will believe that they don’t have to do anything.”

For example, I tried giving a homeless person food on a pedestrian bridge in Thailand — he denied it.  Yes, he denied food. The most quintessential gesture amongst homeless people here in Thailand.  Later, someone dropped some coins in the cup and he thanked them.

What does that tell you? Yes, the arguments such as “only some people deny this.  What about people in this country, and that country.  You’re not very sympathetic.  You’re not compassionate.”  Welcome to the University of Hard Knocks.  You’re homeless and you want other people to give you…..money.  Not food? “Only some people.”  I’ve heard that excuse already.  What if I go to a homeless person and give them….let’s say a book? Will he keep it?  Nope.  Although the book has everything he needs to get out of his rut — he denies that, too.

Napoleon Hill once took a man downstairs in his shop, unveiled a mirror after swiping away at the blanket that was covering it, pointed in the mirror and said, “that’s the only man that can help you.”

If I’m sensitive about the homelessness phenomenon in America, it won’t change the mind of homeless people.  One of my friend’s uncles said, “Arsenio, don’t make fun of homeless people.  They are quitters.”  Giving them homes will do what for them?  Changing their mind, however, can change their reality and the way they perceive it to be.  Clothe them, bathe them, do as you wish….but until the mind is changed, you’re perpetuating a global problem.

 

What Makes 2 Kids From The Same Neighborhood Different

After a very interesting conversation with some of my students, we talked about the best and worst secondary (high schools in America) schools in Thailand.  I wanted to deep dive into the idea of what made them so different.  Was it the environment? The parents? What are the influences?

How come I’m different? Being born and raised in Las Vegas in a neighborhood I heard gunshots ringing every night and gang activity being at its highest around 2001.  My home being robbed twice; myself being robbed broad daylight in 2003 included.  However, I was able to still not be part of all that nonsense.

African Americans who live in the impoverished neighbourhoods around America just cannot escape the idea that they CAN LEAVE.  But what stops them?

Back in sixth grade, my school had a fair amount of whites, blacks, and Mexicans.  When 2007 came around, the numbers of the white community started dwindling and the Mexican gangsters started coming in herds.  By the time 8th grade arrived, some of my friends got held back (didn’t pass to 9th grade), and the school was rampant with gang activity.

Going into high school had to be the difference maker in my life, just because when I was in marching band, I got exposed to different cultures on the outer skirts of Las Vegas.  Caucasian and Asian kids living in gorgeous houses and had something called “ambition” compared to the zoned students who were fighting to stay alive another day.

Can I give all the credit to my mom? My mom did a wonderful job at providing, but when it came to guidance, I had to trust my intuition because that was the job of my father, who ran off years prior.  I literally had to learn what was right from wrong, and being introduced to a vast array of new cultures and identities, students wearing medical scrubs or aviation khakis steered me in the ‘I can be much bigger than I am’ direction.

What’s different from an African American/Mexican/Caucasian living in a wealthy neighborhood versus another family who lives in a lower-class neighborhood? What makes a high-society wannabe in Bangkok different from the slum dogs just 10km westward from their location in Khlong Toei?  What has to happen in the mind for someone to accept their life as it is and there’s no way they can change it?

This comes back to my family.  Meeting a female name Satomi Nakagawa of Kyoto, Japan who visited me in 2008 before I visited in 2009 was the difference maker.  She planted an idea within my mind saying “there’s much more to life than to being in one place.”  To this day, I haven’t heard the voices of any of my family members for over four years because I chose to get rid of the poverty consciousness (as Henry Ford did) and do something bigger.

The psych behind decision making is so hard to understand.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11735293

Lisa Nichols – Diagnose The Problems, Resolve It, & Move Onto Your Abundant Life

I talked about having money blueprints and how they have been such a powerful influence on virtually everyone’s life.  Geographical, Cultural, Spiritual, Gender, Economical, Spiritual…..one of these played a huge part in how we view money.

For instance, when I was young, I remember my mom cooking flower tortillas in vegetable oil just to put some food in our stomach.  I remember wearing water shoes to school everyday and had my “friends” spew hateful rhetoric at me because I was widely known as the “poor boy.”  The days where we couldn’t even afford to have water at my house so my dad had to fill water jugs in the restrooms at his job.

See, you can see how this could’ve ultimately doomed me.  Look at the southside of Chicago, Camden, Gary, Flint, Detroit and so many other places around America where African Americans have generationally lived and continue to live in ravaged cities just narrowly surviving.

So, how come I’m the only person in my family who had the ability to escape that blueprint and create my own?  Moving forward, how come I’ve been shunned from my family because I don’t “act like” them and I’m hated by my brother?

Simple.

I choose NOT to live in the past influences of my life.

There are some techniques and behaviors that you can engage in so you can begin diagnosing and resolving the problems in your life that’s currently happening because of past actions and blueprints.

Here are several podcasts to get you started.

 

https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10255673 – #1: Create A New Relationship With Money
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10273024 – #2: Your Economic Background Helps Draw Your Money Blueprint, Too.
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10287697 – #3: Gender & Geographic
https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10314021 – #4: Your Spiritual Upbringing Can Be A Help Or Hindrance

 

 

Change Your Mindset About Money

When I was 7 years old, I remember watching my brother play Jurassic Park on Sega Genesis while listening to Babyface’s “when can I see you again.”  In the kitchen, my mom cooked flour tortillas in vegetable oil for dinner.  These thin-crusted chip figures was our dinner because my father didn’t come home that night and we didn’t have any food.

2003 – My mother lost her job.  Without a father, we didn’t have any income coming whatsoever, so I recall one night having the power cut off.  My mom called the power company and said, “what about my kids? I have kids at my home! They can’t sleep in the cold!”  It was cut off for a very difficult 24 hours, but more hardships would come when she didn’t have enough money to buy a Thanksgiving Day dinner for us until a long time family came knocking on the door just after 9am and handed us a complete dinner.

She cried.

I didn’t know how powerful that was at the time, but after hearing Tony Robbins story about a stranger giving them a turkey dinner and his father left out of humiliation….I was in awe at the fact that it was a similar situation.

People, who have obviously gone through financial hardships, would grow up thinking “money is the root of all evil” whilst having a very negative perception towards it.

Just two months ago, I stayed at a business hotel in the heart of Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.  This cozy, exquisite, luxury-class hotel was in the heart – just down the street from the gorgeous Petronas Towers.  The turning point was when I was 30 floors in the sky sipping on margaritas, talking to one of my friends in Australia on my Mac and listening to a group of 4 rich Filipino/Malaysians having an absolute blast.

I’ve never, in the 28 years on planet Earth, heard people so incredibly happy and content with where they were in life.  All I heard was the sound of grace.

Rich people have a different language.

What language do you possess?

Podcast – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgZb0ExwYkU