Day-tight Compartments: Anxiety & “What Am I Supposed To Do” Happened

Touch a button and hear, at every level of your life, the iron doors shutting out the Past – the dead yesterdays.  Touch another and shut off, with a metal curtain, the Future – the unborn tomorrows.  Then you are safe – safe for today!  . . . Shut off the past! Let the dead past bury its dead . . . Shut out the yesterdays which have lighted fools the way to dust death . . . The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried, makes the strongest falter.  Shut off the future as tightly as the past . . . The future is today . . . . There is no tomorrow.  The day man’s salvation is now.  Waste of energy, mental distress, nervous worries dog the steps of a man who is anxious about the future . . . Shut close, then, the great fore and aft bulkheads, and prepare to cultivate the habit of a life of ‘day-tight-compartments.’ ” – Dale Carnegie

When I read this a few days ago, I had weight lift off my shoulders.  It was a vortex of melancholy.  I was sitting on my bed, hunched over, and these thoughts started bearing down on me.  I get worked up when jobs send me jobs, stay quiet for about a week, then I have to ask them, “what happened?”  and when I do, they say “sorry, they chose another teacher.”

This is very infuriating, as what I’ve said a many times before, so I took charge.  I decided to email them back and I went on a clean, concise rant before blocking the email.

I won’t sit around and weight for people to choose me at the end of the stick because of obvious reasons.

I woke up the next morning and said, “what have I done?!”  But, in the end, did I want to work for a place like that anyways? Absolutely not.

So what did I do? I was succumbed by worry – worry that didn’t make any sense.  I look at my bank accounts and say, “I’m actually pretty good right now.”  I look at my income for this month, and I’m actually in a pretty good surplus.  So what the hell is it that I’m worried about?

The Future

I had to revert to the manual.  The future, and thinking about all the what ifs, will drive us insane.  It drives a lot of people to insanity, depression, and death.  As all of you have heard a many of times, we can only control the things that are happening at that moment – nothing else.  We get so caught up in the “what’s going to happen next month? I don’t have anything coming up? Omg. I’m in trouble!” However, this has happened so much in terms of my life even back in Australia.

I was a dental temp and boy, during the Christmas holidays, I was completely out of money.  I had all my money in an account I had no access to and banks were closed for like 2 weeks.  Not only that, but being a dental temp, a lot of offices are on vacation.  It picked back-up (obviously after Christmas), but my life was never in real danger, nor is it here (given the fact that expenses are much cheaper).  I know what I’m doing and I know where I’m going in life right now, so the goal is to stay focused.

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Enthusiasm + Creed

I will repeat again, “the human mind is a marvelous piece of machinery!”

One of the most outstanding characteristics are the impressions which reach it, either through outside suggestion or auto-suggestion.  The negative impressions could be stores away, all in one portion of the brain, while the positive impressions are stored in another portion.  When one of these impressions is called into the conscious mind, through the principle of memory, there is a tendency to recall with it all others of a similar nature, just as the raising of one link of a chain brings up others links with it.

For example, anything that causes a feeling of doubt to arise in a person’s mind is sufficient enough to call forth all of his experiences which caused him to become doubtful.

If I’m engaged in a conversation with someone I met online and my instinct begins talking to me, that’s because my guards are being raised and I ultimately reminisce what happened the last time I was in a situation similar to the one that was taking place.

If a man is asked by a stranger to cash a check, immediately he remembers having cashed checks that were not good, or of having heard of others who did so.

Through the law of association all similar emotions, experiences, and sense impressions that reach the mind are filed away together, so that the recalling of one has a tendency to bring back to memory all the others.

Take the feeling of fear, for example; the moment we permit a single emotion that is related to fear to reach the conscious mind, it calls with it all the relations.

You need to deliberately place in your own mind, through the principle of Auto-suggestion, the ambition to succeed through the aid of a definite chief aim, and notice how quickly all of your latent or undeveloped ability in the nature of past experiences will become stimulated and aroused to action in your behalf.

There are a few things I want you to read aloud and do this daily either before you get out of bed, or before you retire at night.

I do not believe that i can afford to try to deceive anyone, about anything, but I know that I cannot afford to try to deceive myself.  To do so would destroy the power of my pen and render my words ineffective.  It is only when I write with the fire of enthusiasm burning in my heart that my writing impresses others favourably; and it is only when I speak from a heart that is bursting with belief in my message, that I can move my audience to accept that message.

There have been times, and many of them, when it appeared that if I stood by this principle it would mean starvation.

There have been times when my closest friends, and business advisers have strongly urge me to shade my philosophy for the sake of gaining a needed advantage here and there, but somehow I have managed to cling to it, mainly, I suppose, for the reason that I have preferred peace and harmony in my own heart to the material gain that I might have had by a forced compromise with my conscience.

Strange as it may seem, my deliberations and conclusions on this subject of refusing to strange my own conscience have seldom been based upon what is commonly called “honesty.”  That which I have done in the matter of refraining from writing or speaking anything that I did not believe has been solely a question of honor.

Also, read the following law aloud because it embraces a great law that you must understand and apply before you can become a person of influence.

In making these requests, for the sake of emphases, I am not trying to take undue liberties with you.  I am giving you full credit for being an adult, a thinker, an intelligent person, yet I know how likely you are to skip over these vital laws without being sufficiently impressed by them to make them a part of your own workaday philosophy.  I know you weakness because i know my own.  It has required the better part of twenty-five years of ups and downs – mostly downs – to impress these basic truths upon my own mind so that they influenced me.  I have tried both them and their opposites; therefore, I can speak, not as one who merely believes in their soundness, but as one who knows.

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Napoleon Hill – The Power of Habit

Just four months ago, I had destructive habits in the morning.  I would literally get on social networking sites engaging in useless conversations that ended in a racial rant (towards me).  This would be from 6am-8am in the morning, completely throwing off my day before it even began – squandering out of bed with a frown on my face before putting my victim shirt on again.

Then, one day I was watching Tony Robbins ‘I’m not your guru’ and I saw that he would sit in front of the sea of his beachside resort in Florida while listening to a guided meditation.  He would do breathing exercises and also would jump in extremely hot water (manhole at his home) before jumping in the frigid cold (another manhole right beside it).

This is called habit.  When he does this, it shocks the body and stimulates the immune system immediately.  This man would have a ton of energy throughout the day and that’s without taking supplements.

See, I had a lack of understanding of applying this particular principle we call ‘habit.’ Habit ultimately grows out of environment; out of doing the same thing, thinking the same thing, and saying the same words repeatedly.

Just like affirmations, habit is created by literally reciting a statement to yourself or any desire.  This will eventually seek expression through physical, outward bodily efforts.

Henry Ford is the prime example of how it’s done.  Henry Ford, founder of the Ford Motor Company, was just a labourer in a machine shop with little to no schooling and without capital.  He use to work around people who he deemed smarter and more fit than him until he threw off the poverty consciousness and developed confidence within himself.  He’s still amassing millions of dollars each year because he believed he can transform that belief….the belief of confidence…into a definite purpose and backed that purpose with a plan.

Oh, and guess what – the other machinists? All they did was vision nothing but a weekly pay envelop that never got him anywhere.  They demanded nothing out of the ordinary of themselves.

If you want to get more, demand more of yourself.  Notice that this demand is to be made on yourself!

I’ll leave you with a poem written in Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success.

If you think you are beats, you are;

If you think you dare not, you don’t;

If you like to win, but you think you can’t,

It is almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose you’ve lost,

For out of the world we find

Success begins with a fellow’s will –

Its all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclasses, you are –

You’ve got to think high to rise.

You’ve got to be sure of yourself before you can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go

To the strong or faster man;

But soon or later the man who wins

Is the man who thinks he can.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11719416

 

Clean Up Your Messes & Incompletes

If a cluttered desk is the sign of a cluttered mind, what is the significance of a clean desk? – Laurence J. Peter

I really like to say this about a lot of people.  If you walk into a friends home and it’s an absolute mess, what do you think is happening within the mind?  People who can’t properly care for themselves ranging from a simple morning routine involving a shower, to the severely obese beings who continue to saturate themselves with the worst-processed-foods-imaginable.

You ask yourself, “why?”

I personally can’t think if my condo is a mess.  Every morning after meditation, I take a pre-workout before working out, and while it’s kicking it, I literally clean my condo within 2 minutes so when I come back, my clothes are laid out and ready to go for work.

This doesn’t just revolve around the physical world, but also the psychological world.

Look at it this way by bullet points.

  • Decide
  • Plan
  • Start
  • Continue
  • Finish
  • Complete

This is called the Cycle of Completion.  This is a great diagram Jack Canfield has in his book.

Are there areas in your life where you’ve left uncompleted projects or failed to get closure with people?  When you don’t complete the past, you can’t be free to fully embrace anything that’s happening in the present and it surely blocks anything from coming in, too.

When you start anything in life, make an agreement or identify a change you need to make, it goes into your present memory bank and takes up what Jack calls an “attention unit.”  We can only pay attention to so many things at one time, and each promise, agreement, or item on your to-do list leaves fewer attention units to dedication to completing other things.

Another Example of this is Tim Ferris.  He goes to bed on a clean conscious every night by rambling on paper everything that’s on his mind.  It could be that advertiser who pissed him off, the person who didn’t give the correct change back…ANYTHING.  Why? These events that take place during the day rob us of attention units.

A lot of us take on requests, projects, tasks and other things; however, we really want to say no, but we’re afraid of being perceived as the “bad one.” So what happens if you put off responding in order to avoid saying no.

Meanwhile the sticky notes and stacks of paper pile up and distract you.  There may be times whereas you have to make some uncomfortable decisions….but it’s better struggling with discomfort then cleaning up those incomplete.

Some incompletions come from simply not having adequate systems.  Other incompletions pile up due to bad working habits.  Be firm, assertive, and just say no.

 

Keep Your Eye On The Prize

“It’s easy to be negative and unmotivated, but it takes some work to be positive and motivated.” – Donna Cardiollo

It’s difficult to maintain a positive focus on life when there’s so much going on around us.  I know.  However, successful people find a way to do so by staying focused on their past success rather than their past failures.  Taking action steps on obtaining their daily, weekly, monthly and quarterly goals.  Making life excited in general by creating bonds and relationships by being spontaneous.  Just being constantly proaction in the pursuit of all objectives can make a boring long working day exciting.

First 45 Minutes Of The Day = The Most Important

So, remember on my last blog entry I talked about reviewing your successes for the day, reviewing the goals, focusing on the successful future, and making specific goals to accomplish the next day.

Some of you are wondering why at the end of the day? Well, whatever you ready, see, listen to, talk about and experience in the last 45 minutes of the day has a huge influence on your sleep and your next day.  A good example is looking at dreams.  Have you ever watched a video, talked to or about someone (positive negative way), or did something that inflicted any type of emotion – leading to that specific thing showing up in your dream? Have you ever went to bed pissed off and woke up with the same feelings you had the night before?

During the night, your unconscious mind replays and processes this late-night input up to six times more often than anything else you experienced during the day.  This is why cramming for school exams late at night can work and why watching a scary movie before bed gives you nightmares.

This is why even reading good bedtime stories is so important for children.  Those repeated messages, lessons and everything becomes the fabric of a child’s consciousness.

Think how much better it would be to read an inspirational autobiography or a self-improvement book before going to sleep.  How about watching a video about Fiji travel before sleep? Meditating into sleep using a guided meditation? The last 45 minutes of the day are the most important.

Self-Confidence Formula

First: I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose, therefore, I demand of myself persistent, aggressive and continuous action toward its attainment.

Second: I realize that the dominating thoughts of my mind eventually reproduce themselves in outward, bodily action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore I will concentrate my mind for thirty minutes daily upon the task of thinking of the person I intent to be, by reading a mental picture of this person and then transforming that picture into reality through practice service.

Third: I know that through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of realizing it, therefore I shall devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development factors that I want to attain.

Fourth: I have clearly amped out and written down a description of my definite purpose in life, for the coming five years.  I have set a price on my services for each of these five years; a price that I intend to earn and receive, through strict application of the principle of efficient, satisfactory service which I will render in advance.

Fifth: I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice, therefore I will engage in no transition which does not benefit all whom it affects.  I will succeed by attracting to me the forces I wish to use, and the co-operation of other people.  I will induce others to serve me because I will first serve them.  I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness and cynicism by developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success.  I will cause others to believe in me because I will believe in them and in myself.

I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory and repeat it aloud once a day with full faith that it will gradually influence my entire life so that I will become a success and happy worker in my chosen field of endeavour.

 

Signed…………………………………………………………………

Before you sign your name on this formula (copy and past on microsoft word), make sure you intend on carrying out its instructions.

If you fill your mind with doubt and unbelief in your ability to achieve, then the principle of Auto-suggestion takes this spirit of unbelief and sets it up in your subconscious mind as your dominating thought and slowly but surely draws you into the whirlpool of failure.

However, if you feel your mind with self-confidence, the principle of Auto-suggestion takes this belief and sets it up as your dominating thought and helps you master the obstacles that fall in your way until you reach the mountain-top of success.

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Acknowledge Your Positive Past

The sad truth about how we look back on our past is that we all have a lot more victories than failures.  In present day, we count all our negatives rather than the blessings.  That’s a given.  However; if we refer back to the past, we count all the negatives, too.

Yes, my mother and father split up after endless arguing between 95-98.  Yes, I had two step mothers both whom were wonderful. Yes, I switched school four times over a one calendar year period and I never had the opportunity to acclimate.  However, at the age of 11 when my mother took full custody of me, I can seriously count my major successes. This is a good exercise to begin with to start acknowledging your positive past.

BEGIN WITH NINE MAJOR SUCCESSES

Here’s a good way to begin an inventory on all of your major successes.  Start by dividing your life into three equal time periods.

For example, I’m 28, so I’m looking at 3 increments of 9 (although massive success has came in the past year. HA!). If you’re 40 years old, you’re looking at “Birth to 13” and so on.

Here’s a list below of my major successes.

First Third: Birth to 9

  1. Learned how to ride a bike.
  2. Learned how to play basketball, football, and soccer.
  3. Was a Math magician in my 4th grade Math class whereas my teacher (Mr. Parven) said, “multiples of 4” to me and I went on an incredible rant – 4, 8, 12, 16, 20….amazing stares from my classmates followed and then I understood that I was gifted. (Not many people in the world know this story – consider yourself lucky).

Second Third: Age 10 to 19

  1. Got first place in a track & field meet and went to three consecutive Sunrise Regional Track & Field Championships in the Southern of Nevada.
  2. Graduated from High School.
  3. Went to college.

Final Third: Age 20 to 28

  1. Traveled to Australia (and lived there for a year), Taiwan, South Korea, Japan, Hawaii, New Zealand, Laos, Malaysia, Singapore, and Vietnam.
  2. Became a teacher in Thailand.
  3. Now have a worldwide viewed podcast, my own website, working for massive corporations, soon to be Tedx speaker, motivating the masses.

Create A Victory Log

How about this, another way to stack those poker chips even higher is to keep a written record of your daily successes.   It could be doing your morning meditation, making your grateful 10 list, following up on phone calls and so forth.  By recalling and writing down your successes each day, you log them into your long-term memory, which enhances  your self-esteem and builds your confidence.

If a lot of your victories are on the internet – for example, if you’re an athlete, artist, author, or businessperson – you can make a digital scrapbook on Pinterest.

The End of The Day Mirror Exercise

Here’s an example os what my exercise might sound like:

Arsenio, I want to appreciate you for the following things today: First, I was to appreciate you for waking up on time and knocking out that to-do list with grace.  Then, you meditated for twenty minutes before dropping your clothes off at the wash.  You created a couple of podcasts and inspiring instagram posts before going to work and preparing for the next two days.

One of the best things you accomplished was finally you created a website.  You have your own website now! WOW! Who would’ve ever though, ey? You’ve done some maintenance and connected with people who can help you start ironing out the gorgeous platform that will have tons of traffic.

Oh, you got home, prepared your gym bag for the next day, meal-prepped for the next day, and now you’re looking up flight details for upcoming trips.  Today was an absolute MARVELLOUS day, Arsenio.  Now, go get some sleep!

And one more thing, Arsenio  – I love you!

Yes, you might feel awkward, silly, might want to cry, or generally uncomfortable.  There are all natural and normal reactions.  We aren’t trained to acknowledge ourselves.  In fact, we are mostly trained to do the opposite.  Doing this can extinguish that negative internal self-talk

So, try it!  Go on!

 

 

Stephen Covey – At The Center: Who Are You?

In order to write a personal mission statement, we have to begin at the Circle of Influence, that center that’s compiled of our most basic paradigms.

Whatever is at the centre of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom, and power.

Remember, security represents our self worth, self-esteem, and our basic personal strength or lack of it.

Guidance represents the source of direction and decision-making in our lives.

Wisdom is our perspective on life and sense of balance.

Last but not least, power is the faculty or capacity to act.

When these four factors are present together, they create a noble personality, a balanced character, and a beautifully integrated individual.

You’re probably asking yourself, “where do I stand?” Well, that’s what this next chart will indicate for you to find out your influence.  You can trace it back to the centre, the genesis and figure out if it’s actually holding you back.

For example, if you’re friend centered, you are highly dependent on the opinions of others.   You’re also easily embarrassed by other people and you see the world through a social lens.

The best way I can describe Thai society is definitely self-centred.  Everything revolves around, “if it feels good, what I want, what I need, what’s in it for me.”  The view of 80% of the lives of people living within these borders revolves around how decisions, events and circumstances affect you.

Most foreigners who visit Thailand is pleasure centered.  You feel secure only when you’re on a pleasure “high.”  You make decisions based on what will give you the most pleasure.  You only see the world for what’s in it for you.  Security is also short lived.

If you want to know about every category, tune into my podcast down below.

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