Fake It ‘Till You Make It?’ — NO!

As I was sitting on my bed just yesterday evening, I covered my eyes in horror.  What I was hearing and seeing was something so new to me, but yet so frightening.  Millennials, those who are easily swayed into doing certain things, are being sucked into this horrific lifestyle.

Miami, a place where people believe the beaches and nightlife is everything, is actually a place of depression,  Here you have these young teenagers LYING about their life, posting it on Facebook, but in fact, it’s all fake.

This youngster, who went by an alias, apparently had “rented” cars from dealerships, and then he would rent them out to other guys who are/were visiting from outside to take photos.  After doing that, he would post all the pictures on Instagram, claiming that he owns them and that “this” is the type of lifestyle that young adults want: cars, sex, clubs, women, drugs.

This polarizing figure somewhat reflects what Tai Lopez has done.  He repackaged a book and sold it for obscene amounts online.  His target market? The middle east and India.  He displayed his array of super cars in his garage, had women walking around in hi-heels, but it was all show without any substance.  Tai Lopez has now come out with more YouTube videos as ads, again displaying a woman in a red dress walking into a Bugatti before walking away and trying to give the “weak-minded” some advice that would — sway them — into buying his course.

The amount of people who are falling prey to these controversial figures, especially those who showcase their materialistic things, is extremely high.

From Tai Lopez, to the middle school dropouts who saturate the streets at night in Miami; please, don’t fall victim to the trap.

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Sensitivity Breeds Perpetuity

I normally walk over a bridge to go home everyday — a pedestrian bridge.  When I get to the top of this particular bridge, normally there’s someone there sitting on the pavement — holding their hands to their face with a cup in front of them: “I need money.”  On some days, there’s an older lady there with what it seems to be a daughter/granddaughter.  These are the things that really upset me because those children don’t deserve to be included in the chaos.

Homeless.

A word and one of the most controversial topics.  I believe there are different degrees of homelessness.  We can’t compare homeless Americans to homeless Africans or Indians for the sake of governments.  In America, homeless people can get shelter every evening, meals, clothing and other things; in Africa, it’s a free-for-all.  Every man for themselves.

There was an interesting topic on a recent Ted video that sparked a debate (or what I thought was one) from a “therapist” (whatever that means).  A woman told me, “how about some sensitivity?”

Ok, I’m sensitive.

Now what?

Because of a collective and conjunction of bad choices, you’ve landed yourself on the streets.  I will jump in the defence of foster children, which is an incredibly detestable story.  However, everyone has different stories.  I’m not talking about homelessness in the likes of Somalia, India, Bangladesh and other places…..I’m talking about America.  Owning up and taking 100% responsibility for being in your position is the first thing you need to do.  This man on a Ted video said, “we should build homes for all homeless people.”  But, if you put a homeless person into a gorgeous home with a homeless mindset, the individual will still perpetuate a homeless lifestyle because he too, still has the homeless mindset.

In order to change the way someone is….you have to first change the mind.  The paradigm.  The habits.  I remember Charles Barkley made fun of Michael Jordan on an interview one-time — calling him “cheap.”  Michael Jordan didn’t give money to a homeless person.  Oprah Winfrey went on to comment, “well, I do agree because to a certain degree…you’re literally prolonging the hell with the individual.  If you give them money, they will believe that they don’t have to do anything.”

For example, I tried giving a homeless person food on a pedestrian bridge in Thailand — he denied it.  Yes, he denied food. The most quintessential gesture amongst homeless people here in Thailand.  Later, someone dropped some coins in the cup and he thanked them.

What does that tell you? Yes, the arguments such as “only some people deny this.  What about people in this country, and that country.  You’re not very sympathetic.  You’re not compassionate.”  Welcome to the University of Hard Knocks.  You’re homeless and you want other people to give you…..money.  Not food? “Only some people.”  I’ve heard that excuse already.  What if I go to a homeless person and give them….let’s say a book? Will he keep it?  Nope.  Although the book has everything he needs to get out of his rut — he denies that, too.

Napoleon Hill once took a man downstairs in his shop, unveiled a mirror after swiping away at the blanket that was covering it, pointed in the mirror and said, “that’s the only man that can help you.”

If I’m sensitive about the homelessness phenomenon in America, it won’t change the mind of homeless people.  One of my friend’s uncles said, “Arsenio, don’t make fun of homeless people.  They are quitters.”  Giving them homes will do what for them?  Changing their mind, however, can change their reality and the way they perceive it to be.  Clothe them, bathe them, do as you wish….but until the mind is changed, you’re perpetuating a global problem.