The Ramble of Positivity: Episode 033 – Third Travel of The Year is Here!

I think what I might enjoy most, which is actually quite bad, is coming back into the country and shoving my visa in the faces of the dogs that want to keep me out of the country. LOL. It’s not only me, but horrific immigration laws have gotten far worse and they’re trying to kick out most foreigners, rather than bringing them in (which is the only way you can get better as an economy. Nonetheless, this is my third travel of the year. It’s still a bit head-scratching that I was able to do six massive trips last year and still save quite a bit of money. There were some crazy setbacks this year, and a 3-5 month, low-salary giving job really took a toll.

So, I took the bull by the horns. I told myself that I need to create my own assets. I need to create my own finances and not rely on a stereotypical, full-time job to give me ANYTHING. The salary they pay me, is in fact, criminal for who I am. Why do I stay? They give me a work permit…which is the only document that will allow me to stay here longer. This is good for the time being. It provides me not only with a sense of security, but the ability to flinch and look at officials in the wrongest ways (haha).

All negativity aside, I’m now full dependent. I make my schedule. I cancel classes, and now I’m starting to make residual income from all corners. Yes, one, if not two, have possibly come and gone, but it’s all about having multiple sources to protect yourself.

When I went to Malaysia, my salary was sound. Stayed at the Renaissance Hotel and all was well, but during that time, I had to spend 300 USD on my flu. When I spent 25000 baht (equivalent to 800 USD) on my trip to Singapore, I got hit with an exact bill for my visa. And remember, this was during the months that I was receiving next-to-NO-MONEY from my full-time job, covering just overhead expenses. I stopped relying on one woman, and I began creating a number of relationships. I made 4-5 private students, on top of doing big workshops, talks, and more workshops. I’m no longer going to put all my eggs into one basket, and that’s I’m truly grateful for.

Now on the cusp of going on a super cheap trip to a gorgeous country that I adore to do activities that I never thought about doing, TOAST TO IT!

Activities

Trekking, seeing clouds that are super low, gorgeous scenery, white-water rafting, and much more. This trip has my salivating already. Three solid days to document a glorious trip and now I’m beyond elated.

What’s your Why?

“No one had to eat out of Trash Cans!” – Eric Thomas

Everytime I hear that, it gives me goosebumps. Could you imagine eating out of trash cans, homeless (because you ran away because of endless lies) and other things that a homeless child would go through? Yes, bullying, depression, and suicidal thoughts…Eric Thomas experienced this, and his goal now is to help people overcome just about anything and everything.

His why? He felt the pain.

Being who I am today didn’t happen because I saw the light, it was because my back was against the wall and I hated myself because people taught me to hate myself. 2015 I said ENOUGH! I’m not going through this anymore! I’m going to create a platform to help others overcome themselves!

And score!

Not only that, but even creating a number of platforms that will help get my story out there and change lives in regards to not only personal development, but English language communication.

I now have my WHY. I now have my purpose.

And even thinking about The Arsenio Buck Foundation? The ultimate life-assignment of them all….boy, I can’t be grateful enough.

But this isn’t about me. It’s about you. I’m scared for a lot of people out there because they don’t know their why. They don’t know what makes them tick. They don’t know what wakes them up in the morning, and this is why I’m here to spread such a profound message and represent an idea for people to finally go after what is theirs in the universe.

What’s your why?

Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: International Guest Speaker – Actress/Tedx Speaker Ariane del Melo of Brazil

Had the wonderful pleasure of bringing on an amazing human being. International Guest Speakers are back in action! Tune in for some great stuff and the show notes are down below.

Get in touch with Ariane del Melo, a TED Speaker.

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Things we discussed:

Why the move to Germany.

Journalism, cultural differences, racial stereotypes and the flawed education system.

What the interviewee’s feeling about Germany is.

German language.

Sharing about teaching English in German kindergarten and being a salesperson in a German store.

The calling of ambition.

Entering the realm of theatrics.

A bullying victim and an experience in a German school.

What the advantages are of performing arts.

German and American performing arts difference.

Inner voice.

Advantages of facing death.

Her writing experiences.

How did the host earn herself a writing internship and a publishing contract? Learning German.

The beauty of Germany and the opportunities it has for foreigners.

Purpose of self-development.

Being yourself is important.

Being authenticity isn’t being creative but it is who you are.

Thank you for listening!

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When You Realize You Have An Indomitable Will….

I went to my mother’s Facebook page to check on her health and well-being recently.  After the 2013 fallout, my mother and I haven’t spoken on video or by voice in half-a-decade.  Regrets? Absolutely not.  It takes two to tango.  However, the health of my mother is always important.

Her first post was of my brother — an individual who has hated me since I was a child.  Hot-headed, angry, know-it-all/alpha mask possessing individual who’s following similar footsteps of his father.  He was featured on Fox5News in Las Vegas.  Being an avid drummer and always have been for years, music has always been in his heart.  Having taught at high schools, middle schools, and elementary schools, apparently he had auditioned for the Las Vegas Golden Knights hockey team — and got the job.  During one of the openings of last year’s playoff game against I-HAVE-NO-IDEA, I saw someone wearing glowing, neon glasses while drumming who had a beard similar to what my brother normally flaunts.  Indeed, it was my brother.  I was super proud of him.

Two years ago, he had sent me a message, berating me with derogatory slurs and yelling, “don’t come back to Vegas! Mom doesn’t wanna see you! Your sisters hate you!”

I laughed and felt sorry for him.  Since those 1995, Mega Man X days where he would beat me up on the SNES and tell my parents that I did wrong, he still has an impenetrable amount of hostility that’s tormenting him inside.

During the recent interview in the link above, I can still see it in his eyes.  Hearing him speak with the freakish looking smile and saying, “it’s about being positive,” or somewhere on the lines, is what I would always see before he unleashed an unfathomable amount of hell upon me and spew rhetoric at my siblings.  He was a power junkie and always has been — very different from what my father used to be, to be honest.

Nonetheless, I told my siblings, and the last time I spoke with them back in the summer of 2016, that I would never speak to Steven Buck again for as long as I live.  It was time to finally move on.  Wish him the best in his future endeavors, but enough was enough.  Gary Vee says drop your loser friends and family members, and my brother, who was the antagonist of every story, has never been supportive.

But please don’t let this confuse any of you.  Holding a grudge against anyone is ridiculous, and this is why I forgave him from within and sent the rest to the universe.  He doesn’t need to know that I forgave him, nor would he care, but it’s for my own peace of mind.

You know, going through the battles I’ve gone through, especially living in Thailand, it’s perspective.

Do you know how lonely I felt being in a household where everyone hated me? I was the “selfish” one for not saving money.  I was the bad son for not giving my mom 25% of my salary while living overseas by myself.  Going through that dimension of it, and then battling the racial discrimination in these borders? 150 jobs denied me because I was BLACK.

Could you imagine not having anyone to go to in terms of that?

You can’t.  The brute force and nature of it all id unprecedented. But how did I go through it? Was it the motive? The purpose, as Napoleon Hill has said before? How did I flip it from a push to a pull? How did I go from a negative mindset to a positive mindset? How did I go from getting by at the beginning of this year, to becoming financially independent by next year? I’m still trying to piece it together.

One thing is apparent, however, and it’s the fact that I have an indomitable will.

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Special Blog: Arsenio’s Entrepreneurial Journey from 2016-Now

Ok, you guys wanted it, and here it is.

At the beginning of 2016, I started a podcast.  Keep in mind that my followers on Twitter were LOSER sex tourists and my online persona, up to that point, was not very good.  I constantly focused on the negative and the victimization of being a “black” teacher in Thailand.

Then came the man — also known as Napoleon Hill.  Who’s Napoleon Hill? Well, you’ll have to google him, but this man ended up teaching me everything that I either had lost, or was completely unaware of.  Those books became my podcasts in the beginning and that ended up pushing away the majority of those “losers” who followed me online.

Then came the Jack Canfield book, most notably — Principle #5: Believe In Yourself.  While reading this just before my trip to Vietnam, I was reduced to tears.  At that moment, there was a shift in my entire biochemistry, indicating that this victimhood no longer serves you.  Getting rid of it didn’t happen overnight, but this was the beginning.

Lisa Nichols’ Abundance now came next, along with a few others, including Tim Ferriss’ 4-Hour Work Week and a couple of others.  This was the beginning of the new me.

In 2017, I began to rebel.  Hell, it started a couple months before.  My work, which wasn’t suitable for me anymore, wasn’t fair in terms of work allocation.  Some teachers got more work based on pre-conceived notions that they were better than other teachers.  So, I told myself, even in early 2016, that I would start working outside to gain more notoriety and build a brand that I didn’t know I was building at the time.  One after another, projects after projects, and “NO! I DON’T WANT YOUR CLASS IN THE MORNING!” — after another.  This probably was my downfall at the company because I constantly denied work from them, leading to my ultimate plunge and being the “last in line” and the “dark little brother,” however, this was the beginning of my new life.

In October of 2017, I got removed from teaching at Toshiba in Pathumthani, citing me for the most outrageous comments imaginable that were completely untrue and irrelevant to my moving.  Somebody had a bone to pick, and with two other white teachers, one having an insane amount of complaints, I was the odd one out (in a very unprofessional way).  That following weekend, it was the comment “if you want to continue working here we need to have a meeting” that sent shivers of disgust, threats, and “Arsenio, it’s time to get the hell out of here” down my back.  That moment, I made up in my mind that I was too good for these folks.

No one knew, but after learning that I had moved to the other side of town, they knew what was happening.  I cancelled, didn’t want class, and want to be away from that place as much as possible because it gave me chest pains — literally.

At the same time, I was grinding and trying to find work.  There were people saying “oh, this company decided this teacher over you because you’re white” and other deplorable comments. I knew I would scrape the bottom-of-the-barrel in regards to finding suitable language centers, but i kept at it.

Then March came.  Job offers came over the next two months along with entrepreneurs, a content writer, and hundreds of other things.

At the beginning of the year, I made goals list.  I made goals list for each category of my wheel of life, pin-pointing things that I wanted to do and how I wanted to grow.  To this date, I’ve not only achieved those marks, but I think in some categories, like the social circle and personal development, I’m two years ahead.

I have a content writer, social circle consisting of graphic designers, mentors, marketing execs and coaches, double podcasts website that’s sky-rocketing, YouTube that’s climbing, messages and comments saying thank you.

In all of that, do you think this could’ve happened if I didn’t leave that old place of work? No way.  I needed to leave there to create flow of goodness and change in my life.

See, the majority of the time, you guys get stuffed up in the now and personal wants.  You’re control by the mainstream media, dying relationships, loser friends, terrible jobs.  However, if you can just come to the awareness that if you let these things go, you will attract to you everything in life that you need to take you to the next level.

That’s a promise.

Upon the magnificent New Years, I’m literally positioning myself as the top ESL podcaster on the planet.  I’m owning hashtags on Instagram.  I’m teaching people all over the world and people want my services.  See how that works? And this all came because I dumped an employer in F.E.A.R of not getting a new job.

Face FEAR.

Traveling Pod: Episode 8 – Head-Scratching Trip

Boy, documenting means everything because I can show everyone what I see what my own eyes.  Hooves of pigs hanging from shops, chicken feet right there on the sidewalk, an dan insane stench around every corner of the street.

What I just realized is as I’m writing this, I see a puff of black smoke that was let off by a passing by ship.  This relates to us descending in Hong Kong just yesterday.  As we were going down, we were going through a heavy amount of yellow smoke.  I thought it was dirty clouds (lol), but in fact, that was the smoke either from China, or the pollution from these ships.  AMAZING.

I walked into McDonalds (yes, after seeing what I mentioned above, I just want something that’s familiar) to buy some food and they were acting very odd.  I mean you can’t expect much apparently with customer service in any part of HK or China in general, but the cashier was so terrified to touch my hand when I was giving her change.  She pulled back her hand more and more and I was just dumbstruck at the whole ordeal.  After that, there was a man behind the counter who slammed my soda and my bag on the counter before slamming the piece of paper.

Just weird stuff. I’ve never seen any of this happen before in my life.  It’s all very new to me.  It doesn’t make them good or bad people, but after that happened, I sought refuge at my hotel and didn’t leave for the rest of the night.

I’m a little scared to go around at the moment, just because the amount of weird looks and things I’ve been seeing in general.  So, to reset my mind and everything that has happened, I decided to stay in for the evening and just relax. I don’t want to see anyone or anything for the rest of the day, do some meditation and working on me — just as I do continuously out there in my home in Thailand. So, let’s hope the next one to my travel blog is much better.

Interviewee #15 – Moustafa Sano On Fitness, Learning Five Languages, & Fitting In

It was an afternoon when I received a few video messages in my Instagram inbox.  Here was a guy that I’ve never met before sending me videos.  I was a bit adamant in terms of opening those videos, but I’m glad I did because it ended up  being one of the most inspirational guys ever!

 

Get in touch with Moustafa Sano of Malaysia

– About fitting in, learning 5 languages and fitness.

 

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Things we discussed:

  • Rite of passage in our pre – teen years.
  • Different cultures, values and morals.
  • Understanding of other cultures are important.
  • People’s stories because people deserve to be listened to.
  • Different cultures have different ways of communication.
  • Pain turned to sports without realising it was self – expression to pain.
  • Self – image is important.
  • Need to have an empathy.
  • Fitness is important.
  • Don’t keep your pain inside you.
  • Pain is another key to success.
  • Racial tension or racism in Malaysia.
  • Learning Malay language (Bahasa) through playing football within his neighbourhood.
  • Languages are a way to bridge the gap between foreigners and locals.
  • Talking about personal development on “empathy”.
  • Benefits of reading – how you contextualise?
  • Personal development books that change your life and skills.
  • Pain is a good form of motivation.
  • Being proactive vs reactive.
  • Motivation comes from your morals and values and live life through your imagination.
  • The best way to learn a languages is by getting yourself outside — not by writing.
  • Learn about people’s languages.
  • Watching movies and listening to podcasts.
  • Learning different cultural – expressions through watching movies.
  • Talking about paradigm shifting of habits to growth.
  • Read more, talk more and train or challenge your brain to keep yourself fit in terms of spirituality.
  • The power of giving.
  • Believe in your words.
  • Life filled with fulfilment when you give people more.
  • The impact that you try to give to this world and the people.
  • The purpose of suffering and pain.

 

Thank you for listening!

 

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Bizarre Comments Still Lead To Widespread Racism In Pathumthani, Thailand

As one of my ex-colleagues sat in my air-conditioned condo, sipping on a fine black stout, he went on to tell me a story that was quite disturbing.  Make that two stories….and these stories must be heard.

First, the language center I used to work for has two managers: a Thai and a foreign one.  With this comes a lot of issues, but like I said in the past, the lady was always a racist.

She told my colleague, “honestly (insert name), if students don’t want a black teacher, we can’t use your friend.”

This was the story of my life in the racially driven province known as Pathumthani.  The amount of xenophobia in this area, is sickening.  This is what I had to battle everyday of my life, let alone foreign sex/wife tourists that have flocked to this country to pay for a wife.

Moving forward (since you guys know this redundant story), he told me he was drinking a cocktail at a bar recently when there was a sudden outburst of racism from a British sex tourist: “you’re a scammer! Who are you talking to? Let me see your phone! Scammer scammer!”

Wow….a man literally sipping on his drinking in an open-air bar, dressed to impressed is now ridiculed and yelled at by another anglo, spouting “scammer.”

See, all the stories I’ve told you are no fabrications.  What i had to endure in that heinous province is completely true.

But, ok…..sure, “racism is everywhere” commenters will try justifying and shoving these extreme forms of bigotry underneath the rug.  My question is “what can you do to fix it?” That’s my REAL question.

Take The Leap

Honestly, I’m not exactly sure how my ex-colleague can put up with this.  From his stories about moving into an apartment when the landlord didn’t want to let him move in because he’s black, to these recent stories.  When will he say “enough is enough?”  Honestly, it’s a horrendous atmosphere and it just seems like he’s bombarded by hell all the time. If it’s not the likes of Air Asia, who consistently racial profiles blacks; it’s the schools, old sex tourists from England, or other people in the area.

Remember, guys….THIS IS where I lived! If you listened to my podcasts from about a year ago, you will have heard me talking about the same issues.  It’s just a racially plagued area, because since I’ve been living in Bangkok, all that ignorance is GONE.  I don’t have to prove myself anymore to anyone, especially to my students.  The parents don’t give me dirty looks on Saturday, they smile instead.  The students don’t look at me crazy, nor are they terrified when they see me in the hallway.  The front desk love me because I have a personality and the director is AWESOME.

Not only that, but working at the biggest bank in Thailand, teaching regional managers, Japanese students, doctors, nurses, you name it! All of this is unattached to racism.

So, if I saw things such as that continuously happening to me, I would absolutely leave that area.  This is 2018…..blacks shouldn’t have to prove themselves over whites.  Period.

 

Self Control: Episode II – Thainess & How I Get Over The Racial Humps

Here’s the follow up of what I mentioned in the Ramble of Positivity blog.

Situation 1: Check-In Desk Ignorance

This girl was all smiles and started asking questions to the girl sitting on her side.  I heard her mention months June and July.  She was checking the validity of my passport, which has 11 months left (renewing in October), but it’s the simple fact that maybe she was just being newbie (which is completely fine), or maybe she was told to check “blacks” passport rigorously.  This happens to all colored people around the world, and it won’t stop until medias stop the ignorant berating of black people on their news outlets.

Ok, a rant.  Got it.  Check.  Speaking from the heart here.

After everything was done, she asked, of COURSE, if I was checking in a bag.  After all the supposed fuss, there was nothing left to be done and she smiled while giving me my ticket.

Yawn.  Typical Thainess.  Label the black man as the “Nigerian scammer.”

Situation 2: Ignorant Immigration

Yeah, let it be said.  I have no reason to not call out the racial discrimination that WOMEN dish on black people.  Remember, I was standing in line behind an African just last year and the immigration lady labeled the living hell out of her and took her into an office.  I stood right before her and was hoping she said something to me — didn’t.

Anywho, I go to the window (after telling other people that they’re idiots while standing in line).   Guy before me goes in about 15 seconds, I had to wait three minutes.

She looked at the main face of my passport, browsed through my pages, scanned my page — and then she put on her glasses.  I laughed, shook my head and said “calm down, Arsenio, they’re just time-wasters and seeing if you’re a drug dealer.”  After two more minutes of purely nothing and her looking to get a commission, she was FORCED to stamp my passport.  I slammed my hand on the table where my passport was and scampered away.

After all that fuss and wasting my time, looking to see if my passport was real (which reallllyyyyy pissed me off because I’m American and I have an insane amount of rights in this country), she couldn’t do a god damn thing.

Yes, No More Women Immigration Officers!

Today marked the last day that I will ever go to a female immigration officer.  From 2013’s most racist woman at the southern border of Thailand, to what happens with women on a routine basis…..it’s completely sickening.  Let me give you an example.  Last time I left to Laos, the male officer cracked a joke saying, “last day.” Ughhhh, yeah! Last day of my visa! Sorry, no 33 USD for you, buddy.  I winked and left.

Coming back in there was a young guy and he was cooler than ever.  I’ve actually had the nicest immigration officer EVER at that same southern border.

I know how to avoid ignorance now.  Big check.

But what can be learned from this?  You, the reader, what can you take away from this?

Just because one ignorant mindset, opinion, or adjective gets you ticked off DOESN’T mean the end of the world.  In relations to that, if you get mad, they win.  If you let an ignorant mindset win you over, you no longer have control and you make your decisions based on fight-or-flight.  Your blood pressure would start to climb and your nervousness would boil over into an explosion. Not what you want to do.

Looking back at the situation, I can see how it all happened.

  • Malaysians with thousands of luggages before me makes me irritated.
  • Malaysian, who was clogging up the counter, didn’t move her luggage, which forced me to go to the other counter where the girl acted like an asshole.
  • Family at passport control completely disingenuous and Chinese guy says something to me, waving me behind him before I started yelling.
  • After the confrontation, I get into the wrong lane where a woman looked at my passport for five hours.
  • At security check, a Chinese girl had some flatulence and it smelled horrible.

 

When you connect the dots, you’ll notice how it all happened.  From each event, it got worse and worse.  It all could’ve been avoided if I used the toilet before going home,

LOL!

 

How To Deal With Trolls: Ignorant Foreigners In Thailand Backing Racism

Wow, I was getting ready and in the routine this morning when I saw a YouTube comment.  My jaw-dropped, one of my eyes squinted, and then I bursted out laughing.

If only I could’ve used that comment down below to show you the lunacy of this specific individual (likely a 50+ year-old sex/wife tourist residing in Thailand), it would’ve made for a some great comedy.

I was called a MISOGYNIST.

LOL!

Wait, let me get my breath back.

Ummmm, why would I hate women?  Huh?

Why would I hate Thai women? Women who I thought were remarkably open-minded the first time I met them back in 2012 until I saw their true nature in 2013?

How could you even back the fact that Thai women are blatantly and openly racist towards all colored men, especially black?

I was blown away at this individuals lack of empathy, empathic listening, and autobiographical response to a situation.  He took everything literally and got very defensive about something I said two years ago? However, no way would he ever comment on my podcasts today.  So, what’s the problem? What’s bothering this particular individual and what has irked him? He has an extreme amount of intolerance and doesn’t want to stand on my side of the line, so I’m guessing he too, is a sex/wife tourist who’s of the half-century mark and has a Thai wife who’s half his age.

I have the upmost compassion for individuals like this, but it’s time to face what isn’t working. Here’s my rant in the podcast down below.

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/how-to-deal-with-trolls-ignorant-foreign_1