Relationships, Friendships, & Intimacy | Carla Trigo

Amazing podcast with Carla Trigo! I brought Carla on about a year ago today, and now she’s come back on to share some tips and give you guidance in terms of relationships and how to openly communicate. Because the restrictions of movement around the world, not only has domestic violence risen significantly but also divorces. Why? People are at home and they have to face what ISN’T working. In saying that, here is some bulletpoints on what we talk about with the podcast link below.

  • Not forcing friendships
  • Being spontaneous in a relationship
  • Roles within a relationship
  • Face what isn’t working
  • Essential oils and smells that arouse both men and women

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Wheel of Life | Year In Review | Romantic Relationships | 2

As I’ve told you guys before, I’m going to go over every individual category in the Wheel of Life over the course of this month until Christmas. Today, I’m beginning with Romantic Relationships because it’s the easiest category. 

I must say that I made a number of mistakes at the beginning of the year. To kick off the New Year, there was already an argument and someone saying “I need space.” Later on that week, and when the pollution had gotten increasingly worse, we were supposed to meet up a shopping plaza, but because she doesn’t have good awareness, it took more than a half-hour to meet, ending in an argument, me paying for my bill, and storming off. She sent me a message later on that night saying, “I don’t think it’s going to work,” and that was the end. 

It was laughable, but her wish was granted until I let her back in my second time around. Huge mistake. Sure, at the beginning (and before my trip to Malaysia), we had dinner, said our goodbyes and I told her that I would go to Vietnam to visit her. Within a week she said, “I don’t want a low-quality relationship,” ending it for the second time. 

It was frustrating, but I said “good, goodbye.” She came back around three months later and I laughed hysterically. I said, “what do you want?” She thought she could literally just “sorry” her way back in for the third time? My dumbass, let her. Lol. This time I visited Vietnam and got a great insight into what could potentially come for my career. In about a month after that, she was gone again. The best part was I turned to a 1995 film by the name of “Money Train” and used a slogan right out of the money to frankly tell her to “fuck off.” Omg, great times. 

What did I learn? The first time is enough. The second time you’re dumb. The third time you’re desperate. You lose. 

Did I get better? I think I did….through personal development, but because relationships are so topsy-turvy, there’s not much else I can do but grow as an individual. 

How was your year?

Wheel of Life: May 2019 Edition – Weathering the STORM

Perhaps the storm of the century? After being stopped, for whatever reason it may have been (of course — it’s Thailand) at immigration, it threw my life into a whirlwind. I was scrambling to set up what should’ve been done last year. If it had fallen through, my time in Thailand would’ve been up. With determination and the willingness to get things done, I’m on the verge of finally solidifying myself on a visa needed to stay in the country and now I’m onto the next juncture in my life.

Nonetheless, this was the most emotionally exhausting few weeks since living here in Thailand (and certainly since 2014-2015). Take some steps back, reassess the situation, and execute if possible.

For those of you tuning in for the first time, the wheel of life cycle is a way of assessing my life over the last month in eight categories: personal development, physical environment, health, wealth, career, fun and hobbies, family and friends, and romantic relationships.

Wealth – 3

I’m going to cover just the ones that might be of importance for a lot of you. Some of you might be going through the same problems as me, yet you don’t know the solutions for getting over it. So, thi sone is especially for you all.

When everything began falling apart about a week ago, I had to take a step back and ask myself, “how can I make more money?” Robert Kiyosaki says if you say a statement, there’s nothing else you can do. It’s like quicksand that turn into cement.

Following that was a series of different occurrences. A lady, who I hadn’t spoken to in almost a year, called me out-of-the-blue. A few days later, I met with her an she offered me permanent, part-time work that enables me to get a decent, fall-back salary every month in case I don’t get work from my main job.

Ahhh, yes, the main job! On the verge of getting a visa and every salary this year has been head-scratching, to abhorrent. I cannot wait around and believe that people are going to fill my pockets. I had to go out and take, and that’s exactly what I did.

Family & Friends – 3

So, friends are gone. Yes, I met a friend while out there in Singapore, but after I came back, it’s been downhill. I must say that it’s quite funny when people try getting in touch with me again after x amount of weeks. A girl, who I had blocked because she was basically idolizing white men, sent me a message to my Facebook group. My content writer showed me the photo and I laughed. “Why come back now?” Unless it’s pure desperation, I won’t even think about messaging her back because there’s nothing to that friendship. It’s dead, history, archived.

Then, there was the weird situation where I met a samaritan from America at the base of my condo. After a few days, there was a message sent by him that was very…..peculiar. It was odd beyond belief. I didn’t quite understand it….to the point that I blocked him. That was so odd to the point that I was like, “whoa, how am I supposed to respond to a weird rant like that?”

Guys, dump those losers. Honestly, if they’re not feeding your roots or watering your plant, they’re looking for takeaway. When they get it, they’re going to leave anyway, so you might as well drop them from the beginning.

All in All

Let’s just say hypothetically speaking that everything goes the way it should. Now, living here in Thailand, nothing is perfect….but if all goes well today, and then all goes well next Thursday; 99% of my nervousness, anxiousness, and degree of worry will be expunged and done away with. When this happens, I’ll be able to refocus and reaffirm what’s really important in life.

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Wheel of Life with Celina Celeste: Christmas Edition – Full Year Review (2018)

Man! What a year this was! Looking back on all of my wheel of life’s throughout the year, I was a scared boy in the beginning.  I’m super surprised that I made it this far in Thailand, this year, without giving up.  Looking where I was at the beginning, trying to get away from one of the most toxic jobs I’ve ever been a part of (and for a wicked three years), and seeing where I am now?! Just how did it happen? Well, this podcast isn’t only about myself, but it’s about Celina, who joins me on this gorgeous Christmas morning to give grace to what was a life-changing year for her, too! Here are my scores, a rundown, and then the podcast. 

Personal Development – 10

Why am I starting off with one of the highest marks? Well, honestly….if it wasn’t for Napoleon Hill’s Mental Attitude, Gary Vee in my ear, communicating with entrepreneurs all around the globe…no way this could’ve been so high.  From meeting Luke Burrows in February, to Celina (you) in March, and interviewing an author named David Mauro in the early stages of the year — kicking off a spectacular run — no words can describe it.  

Since then I’ve co-host a show with Luke Burrows called Motivational Mentors.  I’ve brought entrepreneurs from Malaysia on and even hired a content writer, Jiun Ting Yong, who’s been doing show notes and write-ups on TheArsenioBuckShow.com.  I got rid of a toxic graphic designer and hired another one from Myanmar who’s done very diligent work for me. I’m not speaking to coaches, mentors, entrepreneurs and others all around the globe, exchanging ideas on a daily basis.  This year, in terms of people individuals, has topped the previous 29 years of my life…and it’s not even close. 

Physical Environment – 9.5

At the beginning, I was shrugging off a toxic work environment, and that’s basically it.  After that, and towards the end of the year, perfect workplace with flexible hours, communicating with big companies all over Bangkok who are asking me for services, and living at a perfect condo. I can’t complain. 

Career – 10

This absolutely correlates with personal development. Yes, I could’ve launched some projects, but now on the dawn of the New Years, I have a course coming out on the Grow2Gether Academy.  I’ll be making a test with Celina, herself, for an English Test Preparation course, I’m launching The Arsenio Buck Foundation and my TOEIC grammar EBook in January.  That’s about 30% of what’s happening.  Honestly, since I dumped that job, my life has completely changed. COMPLETELY!

Wealth – 7

This category remains stagnant.  Grateful, but not much of a change from the beginning of the year.  Why? Literally freelancing and hustling and have been since the beginning.  From the beginning of my new life (after my old job) until now, I don’t have a “legit job,” therefore it’s pretty hard to know what’s coming and what’s not.  Plan for the New Years? Make multiple streams of income, and three of them will be launched at the beginning of the year.  No more working for money….let money work for me. 

Health – 9

Aside from some ailments that weren’t serious, I achieved one of the biggest goals of my life (the Spartan Trifecta). 

Fun & Hobbies – 10

7 countries.  Yes, i had to go based on being pressured by a Thai government, but being able to go to HK (somewhat of a forgettable trip), and my wondrous Singapore twice, was a blessing.  Yes, going back to Malaysia to meet my newly employed content writer in April, and having gone back to Malaysia in July AGAIN for some fun, was another blessing.  I began making my own schedule with my job, and having that type of control means all the difference in the world. 

Romantic Relationships

This was by far, the worst year.  Well, it’s a year that I stayed focused and didn’t want to get emotionally involved with ANYONE. It ended up playing dividends and helping me.  I didn’t let anyone (women — lol) inside my close circle.  I kept it tight with the most reliable people in my life, and I didn’t suffer any massive heartbreaks or fallouts. 

Family & Friends – 4

It’s not a bad 4.  I know, extremely low.  Family doesn’t exist and I didn’t add any friends, but it’s the smartest decision EVER.  I don’t want to add new friends, ANYMORE, to my closed circle.  They will forever being on the outside because I simply don’t trust “friends,” I only trust those that give me oxygen. 

 

Get in touch with Celina Celeste

Links:

Things we discussed:

Personal development and entrepreneurship.

How we connected with people who shared similar values on personal development.

Career and business opportunities together with goal-setting.

Entrepreneurial mindset.

Career pathways and its abstract manners.

Clarity and volunteering.

Relationships (of all sorts).

Inner and outer circle friends.

Vulnerability and outer-layer of support.

Friendships.

Hobbies and fun.

New hobbies and picking up skills to develop when you are facing unhappiness.

Commitments and new relationships.

Self-awareness.

Physical and mental health.

Finances.

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Listen to “Wheel of Life with Celina Celeste: Christmas Edition – Full Year Review (2018)” on Spreaker.

Thank you for listening!

 

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Wheel of Life: November 2018 Edition – Closing Out The Year STRONG!

What a year! I mean, I’m so excited to just dive right into the December version, but I’ll be doing a wide range of those coming up with other people in a “coaching style” consultation (TBD).  I’m super excited about going over another edition, a long standing tradition of evaluating my life on a month-to-month basis.  Here are the categories.

Since I don’t technically have friends, I’ve switched my category from the “friends” category to the “circle of friends” category.  

 

Personal Development – 10

Scribd, which is a site I’m not getting paid from, offers a 3 month free trial of listening, downloading and reading online books and magazines. Brilliant idea that I wish I had come up with in the past.  Ha! Nonetheless, this has enabled me to listen to three chapters of a book which features Napoleon Hill interviewing Andrew Carnegie.  Chapter 3, the chapter I’m on right now, has been life-changing! Guys, check it out and see if it helps you. No more listening to music (unless you’re working out or in the mood) and start listening to books that will enable you to take your life to the next level!

Physical Environment – 9

Because where I live has always been great, the workplace can go up and down.  However, after getting an additional project in the heart of the CBD, two of my week nights are pure glory.

Romantic Relationships – ??

I’m not going to jinx anything right now; therefore, I will not spill any beans.

Health – 9 

The Spartan Beast was a test of will. This was a race that scared the living hell out of me on mile mark 16km, and luckily I was able to finish the race.  The most difficult race, by far, since 2015 and I was able to overcome such a gauntlet.  I’m super proud.  I’ve stopped staring myself down in mirrors and now I’m focused for next February’s monster in Melbourne.

Wealth – 8 

It could be better. Still grateful and consistently consistent, but nothing fantabulous. However, I’m sitting myself up for the greatest 2019.

Career – 10

I’ve connected with just about everyone.  I have people from Jersey, Ireland, and Romania who are coaches and so many other things.  With all the webinars that are being created, Academy that’s being developed and getting ready to launch in early January, and a handful of other things just makes it perfect.  Super grateful for the amount of great characters that have come into my life and partnerships that are developing at a rate that will up-level me and help me achieve my highest of goals!

Fun & Hobbies – 8

This is probably the highest I’ve ever had it.  I’m starting to enjoy my life more, and it’s because I’m working some days in the CBD rather than on the outskirts and until 9pm.  If I can finish work at 9pm, which I normally do a couple days a week, that gives me time to meet people, especially if I’m just outside reliable transportation. However, if I’m working in the depths of hell, which I normally do three nights a week, that cancels out any opportunity of meeting people.  Well, after a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner and two friends coming in from Chiang Mai and Mongolia, December could be the first possible 10, starting off with a trip to Vientiane, Laos!

Circle of Friends – 8

Now, for many of you, this is the family and friends category.  However, for me, you already know this story.  I’m my own family and my best friend. There isn’t a soul that could save me if things fail. My circle of friends, on the other hand, have done some great things for me and have improved my mindset considerably.

Listen to “Wheel of Life: November 2018 Edition: Closing Out The Year STRONG!” on Spreaker.

 

Wheel of Life: October 2018 Edition – Closing Out The Year

Another month, another close.  Yes, it’s been a year with far more ups than downs, but the closing is coming to an end.

How will you leave your mark?

For those of you tuning in for the first time, this is a podcast that’s for people who are willing to identify what areas of life are their strengths and which ones they’ve been neglecting.  Here are the categories.

  • Personal development
  • Physical environment
  • Romantic relationships
  • Health
  • Wealth
  • Career
  • Fun & Hobbies
  • Family & Friends

Rate yourself from 1-10 in each category and be brutally honest about yourself.  Once you understand what areas are suffering, now you’re consciously aware and can make a change.  Here are not only my categories, but what I need to improve in.

Improvement Stages Launch

Normally I’ve talked about my main scores followed by explanation, but I want to see where I can improve.  It’s not about becoming a perfectionist, but improving.

Physical Environment – *3

So, in terms of my physical environment, I believe that it can increase significantly.  First and foremost, my separate projects outside my main place of work are great.  A turning point happened at my job where someone “bitched” at me over something that isn’t even worth repeating (ok, it was about writing on a back of a sheet of paper), but it made me realize “maybe this place doesn’t deserve a teacher like me?”  When she did this, I scratched my head and said, “I’m not going to get my visa until early next year…and that’s if I’m still here.”

That’s called a yellow flag, folks.  Never fully commit when you have nastiness happening.

I’m now cancelling a lot of my availability with the job — because I CAN.  I’m also focusing on my main projects, but that and a couple of blackouts at my condo has hampered the everlasting 10 you would see on a continuous basis.

Physical Environment – *2

I could’ve increased my personal development by a large margin if I just know how to end my day.

I’ve been scuffling and trying to figure out an evening routine that’s suitable for m Because I finish work so ridiculously late, it’s very hard for me to end my day effectively (no excuses.  It all deals with my phone.  If I’m able to listen to affirmations or listen to my “calm” application, which has some nice story-telling to put me in a good state of mind, I win.  However, I haven’t been able to do that.

So, there are several things that I will implement. Tune into my podcast down below for that!

Career – *1.5

Honestly, I’m on the right track.  The comments, the love, the support, the things I’m attracting…but my actions are still not showing that I’m hungry for my ebook and webinar launch.

Wealth – *5

This was the category that made me upset.  I should be making a solid figure per month at my day job, but I’m not — STILL.  So, what can I do to buck the trend? In the podcast!

Because I don’t want to make this long extra long, I decided put everything into my podcast down below to here how I’m able to cope with things that aren’t working.

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Wheel of Life: It’s A Little Foggy + Heart Talk Achieved!

Oh, yes! Welcome back to another edition of the wheel of life, which is coming about 5 days earlier from when I normally debut it.  I’m grateful as hell, regardless of all the things I’ve been through, but I do believe I’ve been looking in the wrong places.

Over the course of this month, it’s been a bit turbulent.  Job offers but no jobs; a woman applying for jobs for me – only to tell me “they chose another teacher;” British language center (not my cup of tea) which said they would use me, but they never did.

These are all just forms in the road and it revolves a little bit around career.  It’s been a bit wild in general, but it’s time to go over the month in it’s entirety!

Family & Friends – 4

Yeah, definitely a bit low from the last time.  Remember the story about the Indian girl who’s a fitness trainer? Yeah, too much baggage, lies, voids and no trust.  Dumped like a bad habit.  I’ve also realized that one of my best friends is an afterthought now.  This category took a ferocious hit this month.

What Now?

Ok, the loose and unwanted baggage has been taking out.  So what’s the next step? Nurture those life-time relationships I already have and don’t take the newcomers too seriously.

Family will always be family.  Not much around but hear some motivating words from my family from time-to-time.

Health – 7

In terms of my healthy living, it’s extraordinary.  I get enough sleep and I haven’t had any allergies whatsoever.  My mileage on my runs continues to go up and I don’t feel extremely tired after my runs, either.

However, I lost my shape 🙁 I’m very diligent now with my funds until something is consistent, so I haven’t been joining my workout class twice-a-week like I normally did last year.

Fun & Hobbies – 6

This is a bit unchanged because nothing miraculous happened over this month.

Romantic Relationships – Hell No

That’s a big hell no, too.

Career – 10

*CLEARED CONSCIOUS*

YouTube hit the biggest peak just a few days ago with people in almost every country listening to me.  It’s unbelievably fascinating and sooooo exciting! People are commenting, suggesting, recommending and speaking about me – on top of sharing my videos.  So grateful!

Podcast hit some massive spikes over the past week.  I’ve gotten some great downloads from countries such as Mauritius, and lots of isolated towns around America are figuring out about me.  I mean it’s finally beginning to promote itself!

Blog/website is very enticing to say the least.  I get sparks from Greece, Mexico, Tanzania and a few other countries, looking for my education blogs and whatnot.

The ultimate project I got could possibly land me residual income for the next 10 years, so now I’m hustling big time in terms of making practice tests and getting ready for the massive herd of people who are about to come in by the thousands – literally.

My graphic designer, who I probably will cut ties with soon, did my Facebook cover art and a few other things.  However, having things put off and attitude is started to make me second guess everything.  I think I will upgrade my wordpress site and install plugins.  MAYBE!

This is probably the immediate things that are happening.  Of course there are probably another half-dozen things that are taking place at the moment.  I’m just TOO EXCITED!

I think what’s happening and what just happened with my primary job, as of today, was a blessing in disguise and made me rethink a couple of things, thanks to someone who cares about me.

Personal Development – 9

Found ET (Eric Thomas) YouTube channel, along with listening to Be Inspired (another YouTube channel) has really changed me a lot over the past several days.  I’m literally on fire.  I’ve been doing a lot of reading and converting so much of it to blogs and podcast.

Physical Environment – 8

Now, I’m dumping the trash out right now.  Once that’s over, my environment should be at a consistent 10 every month.  New jobs all around Bangkok, wonderful women that I work with, big projects and living in a gorgeous condo says it all.

Wealth – 7.5

Worst month in terms of salary in January at the burning trash dump (lol – I love creating nicknames for this place).  However, I got my projects on board, teaching trainer project, and so many others are coming in.  This month I’ll be in a very good surplus, but March, April, and May will determine the outcome of whether I stay or go to possibly Spain or France.

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Wheel of Life – January 2018: We’re Back!

For those wonderful beings tuning in for the first time, this is an excellent exercise that I use on a monthly basis to figure out where I’m standing in different categories of my life; moreover, if I’m creating balance, or neglecting particular categories.  This helps me out tremendously.  Here are my scores for the month.

Personal Development: 9.5

I’m doing work in this realm, and now after having an amazing 3.5 hour conversation with a remarkable human being, I’m so excited of what is taking place inside of me.

Physical Environment: 9.5

This was the best move I could’ve ever done.  Being away from slum mindsets was the stepping-stone to true fulfillment.

Career: 9.5

This was a big whirlwind/spin because I applied for jobs in Chile, and thought I was going to get a job here in Thailand.  How dumb of me.  LOL!  The fact and matter is that I was too impatient.  More in the podcast.

Fun & Hobbies: 9

I’m enjoying myself now.  Every Tuesday and Thursday – sometimes I go running, then I schedule podcast interviews for that time, and there’s just so much happening.  I’m enjoying my life now since living in Bangkok.

Romantic Relationships: ?

Honestly, I just don’t know at this point, and I won’t even be getting into it and jinx myself.  However, there’s true potential….but that’s all I’m saying.

Health: 8

I kind of slacked off the past week in terms of weight training and my classes, but I’ll be back on track beginning next week since I’ll be training for a competition in Singapore.

Wealth: 6

Now, I knew this month would be ugly, but I know I would be setting myself up big for the coming months.  After doing my pay for this month, I was extremely angry at my present job (soon to be past job) simply because I told myself that I would NEVER fall below a threshold.  Once I did, the ultimate rebellion would take place.  More in my podcast down below.

Family & Friends: Family — / Friends In Thailand – 9

From interviewing Rich, to now befriending an awesome guy by the name of Steve Pipe, and now having another wonderful trainer friend who’s Indian but born in Thailand.  This has been the most successful month in terms of friends IN MY LIFE.  Period.

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Monthly Wheel of Life – Purpose Becoming Fulfilled!

Phew, big things and life-changing things have happened.  2 people walked out of my life, but it made lead way for the greatest opportunities to come in.  I hit an all-time high in my career, maxing out for the first time in my life – and the other categories are relatively high for this month…making it probably the best month since initiation 2 years ago.

This is a relatively short blog post because I talk about everything in the podcast down below; however, please make your own and see if you have a nice balance in each category.

There was a time that my career and physical environment fell below 5, so I began to re-evaluate what was important in my life and where the suffering began.  This is extremely important because the majority of the planet is probably below 5 in almost every category, but they decide not to do anything about it – resulting in depression.

Take the actionable step and complete your own person wheel. Would love to hear your feedback and especially in the categories that you might need improvement in!