STEPHEN COVEY’S 8TH HABIT | SEASON 6 – EPISODE 8 | THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL OF CODEPENDENCY

“What happens when you manage people like things? They stop believing that leadership can become a choice. Most people think of leadership as a position and therefore don’t see themselves as leaders. Making personal leadership (influence) a choice is like having the freedom to play the piano. It is a freedom that has to be earned—only then can leadership become a choice.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Wow! Is that one of the best quotes ever? Most people believe they can’t be leaders because they believe they’re just things. The don’t believe leadership is a choice. See, everyone has the ability to become leaders, but when they do, they often abuse the privilege of being one or they’re just lousy because they believe it’s pure position.

“Even if they perceive a need, they don’t take the initiative to act. They wait to be told what to do by the person with the formal title, and then they respond as directed. Consequently, they blame the formal leader when things go wrong and give him or her the credit when things go well. And they are thanked for their “cooperation and support.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

And this is the predominant Asian culture. This is from the eastern seaboard, to central Asia, to southern Asia and back down to southeast Asia. Too many people wait to be told what to do. Let me give you an example. COVID. When the governments said wear masks in Asia, although most already wear masks, they hopped to it pretty quickly because it was an order. If they were more of the rebellion like western countries, they would’ve been top 5 on the COVID list.

“The more a manager controls, the more he/she evokes behaviors that necessitate greater control or managing. The codependent culture that develops is eventually institutionalized to the point that no one takes responsibility. Over time, both leaders and followers confirm their roles in an unconscious pact. They disempower themselves by believing that others must change before their own circumstances can improve. The same cycle reappears in families between parents and children.”

Excerpt From: Stephen R. Covey. “The 8th Habit.”

Stephen Covey’s 8th Habit | Season 6 – Episode 1 | New Series!

Absolutely STOKED about this book series! If you guys have been following my personal development podcast for a while, you would’ve seen that I dissect a lot of these books. I got scared after Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad because I wasn’t prepared with the next book. But with patience and just sitting back, I found the 8th habit and downloaded it directly to my iBooks (first time doing this since Gary Vee’s Crushing it back in 2018). So, here it is! The content model, the podcast, and prepare yourself for the intro!

  • Chapter 1 – The Pain
  • Chapter 2 – The Problem
  • Chapter 3 – The Solution
  • Chapter 4 – Discover Your Voice
  • Chapter 5 – Express Your Voice
  • Chapter 6 – Inspiring Others to Find their Voice
  • Chapter 7 – The Voice of Influence
  • Chapter 8 – The Voice of Trustworthiness
  • Chapter 9 – The Voice and Speed of Trust
  • Chapter 10 – Blending Voices
  • Chapter 11 – One Voice
  • Chapter 12 – The Voice and Discipline of Execution
  • Chapter 13 – The Empowering Voice
  • Chapter 14 – The 8th Habit and the Sweet Spot
  • Chapter 15 – Using Your Voices Wisely

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Topic: Doing What’s Needed….For Now

I came across a situation (cleared up since then) when I was utterly confused at the reaction of someone. My “boss,” who I speak to maybe once a year, wanted to me notified via agent/me when the renewal of my visa was coming. He said, “you should’ve notified me before you paid.”

So then I quickly jumped to my own defence and said, “wait, so if I had asked you before, would you have accepted my renewal?”

That’s simply overthinking — which it turned out to be. But that’s only my situation. Some of you are in similar situations where people want to have that sort of power over you, and because we’re living in rapidly changing times, our pride says “tell them to fuck off,” but it’s essential to think things through while beating on your craft (side hustle) at the same time. Tune into the podcast down below!

The Global Coaches Podcast| Inspirational Monday | Arsenio Buck | No Net

WOW! Welcome to my new joint-podcast featuring Mira Butler and I. At the time, we started with four but the others weren’t in alignment with the overall purpose of this podcast so now it’s just Mira Butler and I. In the future, we will attract more to us.

Because I’m the first podcast debuting, I need to give a solid introduction behind why I started a new podcast. Mira Butler and I have done a ton of work together, and we’re trying to conjure up ways to expand our reach. We began with the IG lives because we realized they would play a pivotal role in creating our tribe, but having a podcast, too, would obviously push things out there at a far-quicker pace. Our goal is to bring coaches with specialities in a wide-range of areas. Mira being a transformation coach, myself being an inspiration coach, and we’ll find others who specialize in other areas. There’s a lot to be spoken about and there will be an introduction podcast coming shortly, but today is my inspirational message.

Three Questions to Think About Often & Keeps You Focused

Some things you need to keep in your mind that will help you maintain focus. The most important question is: “what is something in your life that death isn’t going to kill?” I’m speaking from a legacy standpoint. What is something that is and forever will be after you leave the body and domain? This is called impact….and if you strive for impact while you’re alive, you won’t count the minutes, hours, days, weeks, months….you will live in the NOW and embrace all things that come to you.

1) If the truth was written on your tombstone, what would it say?

  • Lived, but never felt alive?
  • Didn’t go for his/her dreams?
  • This person died empty because he lived an empty life!

2) If your life ended today, what regrets would you have?

                                   List all your regrets!

3) What is something about your life that death isn’t going to kill?

  • What’s going to live on when you move on?
  • What about you is never going to die?

Honorable Quotes

“Don’t disrespect your life by wasting your life.”

“You are in control of how you live your life between now and death.”

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Wheel of Life: May 2020 Edition – Becoming Mentally Tough

It’s been almost two months since doing the transformation coaching program with Mira Butler, and I can’t express how grateful I am for the development of who I am. It’s now time to take those quantum leaps because the inner-conflict is no longer there. If you haven’t done the Wheel of Life yet, rate yourself on a 1-10 (over the past month) in the following categories: health, wealth, family and friends, physical environment, personal development, career, romantic relationships, and fun and hobbies. Waiting on your scores!

Wheel of Life

10 Ways to make your dream come true

1. Be Yourself

SOME people might say you’re too fat, you’re too short, too straight, too gay. Whatever your sexual preference is, color of your skin, perception of life, values…just know that there will never be another YOU on this planet. In order to make your dreams come true, you have to be 100% authentic about who you are. If you’re even just slightly off, that could have a catastrophic effect on your passion.

Completing The Past Part II

After going back and completing the past, my conscious was now free. Those three individuals that were not only on my mind but also in the subconscious (dreams), they were no more. This was the most free-ing exercise. One of the individuals had responded with her explanation, but it didn’t even matter because it was ME who needed the closure, and perhaps that had given her some closure, too. The other two? One never responded…and that’s totally fine because I did it without expectation. The other one was actually resolved a couple of weeks prior but “dumb me” thought it could’ve been a life-time relationship but it was just a purposeful relationship. Lol. Tune in!

Complete The Past

Yes, this is one of those podcasts that you need to really listen to because I’ve had a number of faces creep into my dreams. Now, it’s very difficult to even recall dreams after you wake up in the morning, but there were about 2-3 people who kept coming into my dreams and I was just confused as to why.

So, I asked myself the question: “did I complete these relationships?” The answer was “no.” So what I did was I took to Instagram, and this allowed me to finally write the final chapter of the book and close it permanently. When I did that, they were no longer in my conscious or dreams….and then I started attracting to me people who I was possibly pushing away because the energy that was surrounding the previous relationships.

Want to know more? Podcast down below!

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Don’t Let People Minimize You

In this episode, I talk about how people get into FAD or PWM (people without money) markets.

For example, Bitcoin was a FAD market. In 2018, the hysteria was insane. You had people making podcasts, videos, etc….and they all fell for it. Sure, Bitcoin still exists today, but the hysteria has gone away and the voices are now silent.

I read a post on FB yesterday that someone I knew once tried creating a business for new grads. Well, if you just graduated from university, more than likely you’re in debt — therefore, you’re in a PWM market. I’m not lucky, but when I entered the ESL space, I knew that this was a billion-dollar industry with a massive opportunity to go to AR/VR in the future with an insane amount of collaborations. So, because I’m worldwide, I’m not reliant on economies that have deteriorated (Thailand and probably have the countries on planet Earth). There are economies that are surging, at the moment, and because I’m a trainer and have specific skill-sets, I attract those individuals because I have assets.

I’m in a People-With-Money market. This is something you need to consider before starting a business.

Tune in!