Your Life Purpose In 15 Minutes

Start by making a list of all the times you can remember in your life that have made you feel the most truly alive and joyful.

  • 1999 – Running up the stairs of our new townhouse.
  • 1999 – First day of middle school.
  • 2002 – First day of high school.
  • 2003 – Rancho High School Marching Band received it’s first EXCELLENT rating in a decade.
  • 2004 – First ever first place in a track and field competition.

This is a shortlist of mine.  It’s time to make yours and evaluate it.  Ask yourself what each of these experiences had in common.  Make a note of it.  There’s a common element in it that brings you joy, and the thing that brings you joy is your life purpose!

Now, consider the following questions, and write down your answers.


What are my natural gifts?

  • Making people laugh.
  • Teaching.
  • Working out.
  • Personality.
  • Meeting people.


What are my skills and talents?


What do I love to do?


When do I feel the most alive?


What am I passionate about?


What brings me the greatest joy in life?


When do I feel best about myself?


What are my personal strengths and characteristics


What have others always said that I am really good at?


How do I most enjoy interacting with other people?


What would I change in the world if i could?





Follow these steps and tune into my podcast to hear what I’ve written down!


Jack Canfield – Become A Leader Worth Following

The most dangerous leadership myth is that leaders are born – that there is a genetic factor to leadership. That’s nonsense; in fact, the opposite is true.  Leaders are made rather than born. – Warren Bennis

You need to enroll others to achieve the success you want, regardless if you teach at a school, own a small business, coach an athletic team, etc.

Our success, doesn’t matter what you do, requires the help of others.  The most successful people in the world know how to communicate their vision in exciting and compelling terms.

In the process of leading, great leaders also transform their followers, right?

Not just team based, like Michael Jordan, but look at the hundreds of millions of lives changed simply by non-profit organizations?

Lisa Nichols is an epitome of that, too.  She has transformed the lives of thousands of women in terms of health because she ended up taking control of the health aspect of her life and produced a transformation herself.

When you become a leader, it gives you the opportunity to magnify your impact of the world. Also, knowing how to be an effective one will make you more successful – whether you are climbing the corporate ladder, building a network marketing downline, working as a social change agent, or even coaching a basketball team.

Behaviour #1: Know Your Own Strengths & Weaknesses

It’s kind of like in my podcast in terms of proactive language vs. reactive language.  Understand yourself.  Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses also helps you keep your emotion in check during times of intense pressure or crisis, right? If a problem is announced on the plane in terms of engine failure, are you going to get up and scream when your family needs you to be at your peak? Or, be the one who keeps everyone in check?

Behavior #2: Hold Yourself Accountable…and others, too.

When you consistently take 100% responsibility and follow through on your commitments, you develop a trust between other people. Do you arrive to meetings on time? Deliver your part of the projects? Abide by promises? Consider new opportunities in light goals?

I was give a task to create a conversation curriculum at my present job.  My boss completely delegated the task to me and gave me the deadline – I delivered. Not only did I deliver, but I enabled my specific branch to earn the highest amount in a calendar year because my dedication to this new curriculum for English Language Learners.  Since then, that trust has been cemented in and now we’re locked in for the future.

When you’re give a task, small or life-altering, take 100% responsibility and write it down in black ink because if you fail to deliver, trust ultimately subsides.

Behavior #3: Inspire Your Team With A Clear, Compelling, Continuous Vision

You need to have a compelling vision for the future to inspire others.  What will you and your team ultimately achieve? By when? What will everyone gain when the goal is reached?

To get other people’s buy-in, you’ll also need to articulate who your team will become as they learn and grow.  Believing in this vision must be unshakable.  That means that you must believe it’s not only possible – but also desirable, essential, and inevitable.

When I first started the development of my curriculum, I had the end goal in mind at the very beginning. People began saying, “it looks like you put a lot of work into this. Can you give me a presentation?” Bill gates had a vision of a “personal computer in every home and on every desk.”

Behavior #4: Listen For Possibility

A great leader will listen to his team – not only to hear their thoughts and input but also to make sure they feel heard.  Effective listening is a very powerful and essential skill for leaders.

Jack Canfield – “In a meeting, when you’re talking, you’re merely repeating or reporting what you already know; nothing new is created. But when you listen intently, you can co=create new approaches, new outcomes, and new benefits from the ideas that you hear.”

Behavior #5: Coach Others To Take A Leadership Role

Coaching Questions:

  1. What is a difficult or troubling situation you are dealing with?
  2. How are you creating or allowing it to happen?
  3. what are you pretending not to know?
  4. What is the payoff for keeping it like this?
  5. What would you rather be experiencing?
  6. What actions will you take to create that?
  7. By when will you take the action?


  1. Everyone seems to always come late to the meetings I run.
  2. I have not made it clear that it is important to start on time. I usually wait for the people who are late to arrive so that the people who are there on time don’t see any reason to be on time, and so they start coming late, too.
  3. That people are not going to take the starting time seriously if I don’t.
  4. I don’t have to confront anyone about being late.  I get to complain about how it’s their fault.
  5. Getting the meeting started on time with a lot of positive energy.
  6. Send a memo stating that from now on – the meeting will start on time.
  7. Find a way to reward people for being on time by showing a funny video from YouTube, drawing for money at the beginning of the meeting.
  8. I’ll write the memory today and have a drawing for a 500 baht bill at the end of the next meeting (or 20-50$USD).

Behavior #6: Maintain An Attitude Of Gratitude

Everyone needs to be acknowledge for what they do.  Positive reinforcement. Numerous studies have showed that 80% of employees work harder when their employers show appreciation.

Schedule time and build in systems and rituals to appreciate people more often and consistently!