Final Book Review: Dale Carnegie’s How To Stop Worrying & Start Living + Podcasts

Ladies & gents, we have reached our last podcast and full review of one of the most awe-inspiring and life-transforming books in the market.  The best kept secret.  A book that was written over 70 years ago has changed the way I approach situations now.  For those of you who have followed me podcast-by-podcast on this extraordinarily long journey, special thanks to all of you! This is the end, and for those of you who are just tuning in, here are my favorite fundamentals + podcasts!

Principle #1 – Live In “Day-Tight Compartments”

“Our main business is not to se what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.” – Thomas Carlyle

It’s funny I put that quote because at the time, I was in a relationship.  A relationship whereas we weren’t very sure about the future.  Writing this now that relationship ended, but the both of us did so in an agreement since she’s moving abroad to study piano pedagogy and my future is here in Asia.  She listened to this particular podcast down below and asked me at the gym, “I think we should live in day-tight compartments and stop worrying about the what if.” That what if did become reality, but we’re venturing out on magnificent journeys now.

Principle #3 – What Worry May Do To You 

There was a study done years ago on 15,000 patients which were treated for stomach disorders at the Mayo Clinic.  Four out of five patients had no physical basis whatever for their stomach illnesses.  Fear, worry, hate, selfishness, and the inability to adjust themselves to the world of reality were largely the causes of their stomach illnesses.

Principle #7 – Don’t Let The Beetles Get You Down

Back in 1945, under 276 feet of water, a Japanese mine layer began dropping depth charges on us.  Six depth charges exploded all around us and pushed us down to the ocean floor – a depth of 276 feet.  We were terrified.  To be attacked in less than a thousand feet of water is dangerous – less than five hundred is almost fatal.  And we were being attacked in more than half of five hundred feet of water.  For fifteen hours, bombs went off relentlessly until the mine layer exhausted its supply of charges.  My life was passed by me in review.  I remembered all of the bad things I’ve done as a child.  From my wife nagging at me, to my boss complaining at a job I absolutely hated.  I was worried when I got a scar on my forehead – a nasty cut from an auto accident.

Funny how big all those worries seemed years ago! I promised myself then and there if I ever saw the sun and the stars again, I would never, never worry again. NEVER!

Principle #8 – A Law That Will Outlaw Many of Your Worries

From Bangkok-Phuket, and from Honolulu-Maui, I’ve been apart of some of the scariest plane rides imaginable that literally “up the ante” on how scared I was of flying.

When I was a child, I saw the planes hit the towers.  5 years later, I got on my first ever plane ride from Las Vegas to Phoenix to check out a college and boy, I was in tears while my friend slept.  What am I trying to say, the averages of a plane going down, especially in America, is unbelievably minute.

Principle #10 – Put A “Stop-loss” Order On Your Worries

Two years ago, I had two friends: Mook and Ploy.  These two individuals were notorious for showing up hours late, and I would just sit there, looking like a clown, as if they were actually going to show up.

Two years later I came across this particular chapter and said, “man, if only I had known this at the time! I would’ve given them a 10 minute grace period before taking off instead of hanging around for an hour!”

Principle #16 – Find Yourself and Be Yourself: Remember, There Is No One Else On Earth Like You

Your hair, freckles, weight, color, height, gender, nationality….doesn’t matter.  These are all labels that society has given us.  However, there will never be another Arsenio Buck, and there will never be another YOU! Yes, the reader of this blog….so you have one life, and I dare you to go roaring in the dying of the light ‘Dylan Thomas Quote.”

Another notable podcasts to listen to

  • Don’t Try To Saw Sawdust
  • Eight Words That Can Transform Your Life
  • The High Cost of Getting Even
  • If You Do This, You Will Never Worry About Ingratitude
  • If You Have A Lemon, Make Lemonade
  • How To Cure Depression In Fourteen Days
  • Remember That No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog
  • How To Add One Hour A Day To Your Waking Life
  • What Makes You Tired
  • How To Banish Boredom

And that’s it, folks! This has been a stellar ride filled with ups and downs and lots of chatter. I want to thank you guys so much for staying with me and remember, like it and share it if you find it valuable.

Next Book: Dale Carnegie’s How To Influence And Win People

STAY TUNED!

Some Stories On How You Can Conquer Worry – Dale Carnegie Excerpt

Six major troubles hit me all at once.

  1. My business college was trembling on the verge of financial disaster because all the boys were going to war; and most of the girls were making more money working in war plants without training than my graduates could make in business offices with training.
  2. My older son was in service, and I had the heart-numbing worry coming to all parents whose sons were away at war.
  3. Oklahoma City had already started proceedings to condemn a large track of land for an airport, and my home – formerly my father’s home – was located in the center of this tract.  I knew that I would be paid only one tenth of its value.
  4. The water well on my property went dry because a drainage canal had been dug near my home.  To dig a new well would be throwing five hundred dollars away because the land was already being condemned.  I had to carry water to my livestock in buckets every morning for two months, and I feared I would have to continue it during the rest of the war.
  5. I lived ten miles away from my business school and had a class B gasoline card: that meant I couldn’t buy any new tires, so I worried about how I could ever get to work when the super annotated tired on my old Ford gave up the ghost.
  6. My oldest daughter had graduated form high school  year ahead of schedule.  She had her heart set on going to college, and I just didn’t have the money to send her.  I knew her heart would be broken.

This specific individual went on to say that one afternoon while sitting in his office, worrying about his worries, he decided to write them all down for it seemed no one ever had more to worry about than he had.  He could do nothing to solve them.  So he decided to write them down and file them away.  Months went on and he had forgotten that the list even existed.  Eighteen months later he went through his files and there was the list that he wrote 1.5 years earlier.  Well, the problems solved themselves.

  1. I saw that all my worries about having to close my business college had been useless because the government had started paying business schools for training veterans and my school was soon filled to capacity.
  2.  I saw that all my worries about my son in service had been useless; he was coming through the war without a scratch.
  3.  I saw that all my worries about my land being condemned for use as an airport and been useless because oil had been struck within a mile of my farm and the cost of procuring the land for an airport thad become prohibitive.
  4. I saw that all my worries about having no well to water my stock had been also useless because, as soon as I knew my land would not be condemned, I spent my money necessary to dig a new well.
  5. I recapped my tires and managed how to survive.
  6. Sixty days before opening of college, I was offered – almost like a miracle – an auditioning job which I could do outside of school hours, and this job made it possible for me to send her to college on schedule.

I can turn myself into a shouting optimist within an hour!

One man said when he found himself depressed over his present conditions, he would, within an hour, banish worry and turn himself into an optimism.  How?

He read 20th century history for about an hour.  After that happened, he realized that bad as conditions were at the moment, they were infinitely better than they used to be.  This enabled him to see and face his present troubles in a much more proper perspective, as well as to realize that the world as a whole is constantly growing better.

Here is a method that deserves a whole chapter.  Read history! Try to get the viewpoint of ten thousand years – and see how trivial YOUR troubles are, in terms of eternity!

I was terribly depressed at one moment, and when I was, I forced myself to become physically active almost every hour of the day.  I played five or six sets of violent games of tennis every morning, then took a bath, had lunch, and played eighteen holes of golf every afternoon.  On Friday nights, I danced until one o’clock in the morning.  I am a great believer in working up a tremendous sweat.  I found that depression and worry oozed out of my system with the sweat.

Physical activity – which can involve any type of strenuous activity, allows you to take your mind off the present.

I am a great dismisser

When I turn from one task to another, I dismiss all thoughts of the problems I had been thinking about previously.  I find it stimulating and refreshing to turn from one activity to another.  It rests me.  It clears my mind.

I have had to school myself to dismiss all these problems from my mind when I close my office desk.  They are always continuing.  Each one always has a set of unsolved problems demanding my attention.  If I carried these issues home with me each night, and worried about them, I would destroy my health; and, in addition, I would destroy all ability to cope with them.

I was committing slow suicide because I didn’t know how to relax.

I used to rush through life in high gear.  I was always tense, never relaxed.  I arrived home from work every night worried and exhausted from nervous fatigue.  Why? Because no one ever said, “Paul, you’re killing yourself!”

Every since then I have practiced relaxation.  When I go to bed at night, I don’t try to go to sleep until I’ve consciously relaxed my body and my breathing.  And now I wake up in the morning rested – a big improvement, because I used to wake up in the morning tired and tense.  I relax and now when I eat and when I drive.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/some-stories-on-how-you-can-conquer-worr

 

 

Would You Take A Million Dollars For What You Have?

There was a man a long time ago who was walking in his loathe; completely destroyed and disinterested in life because his family-owned shop completely failed.  He was on his way to the bank to see if he can acquire some money so that he can move to another city to find a “job” until something happened in the middle of the street that changed his life forever.

Back in 1934 there weren’t wheelchairs like there are today.  This man, who had no legs, was trying to make his way across the street with slabs of wood on each side of his body.  Suddenly, both the loather and the wheelchair man locked eyes and the disabled man said, “well, how you doing today, sir? Fine day, isn’t it?”

As this man, who went by the name of Harold Abbott, stood there looking at this man…he realized how rich he was.  He had two legs and he could walk.  He felt ashamed and self-pity.  Later, he made an oath to himself that he would be happy, cheerful, and confident.  Ultimately he went to the bank and doubled up on the money he originally wanted to ask – getting the money in full.  He then moved away and got the job….all because of that incident.

He wrote on the mirror of his home, “I had the blues because I had no shoes. Until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet.”

Why don’t you stop right now and ask yourself: “What in the hell am I worrying about?” In life, about 90% of the things are right and 10% is wrong.  Instead of making that 10% wrong seem like 90%, how about focusing on the 90% that is right?

There are people on the planet today searching for a meal everyday, but you…yes, YOU, have the luxury of reading this particular blog.  This particular sentence.  That’s a luxury in it’s own.  Have you eaten today? Do you have family and reliable friends? Do you have arms, legs, and feet? Then what the hell are you complaining about?

Podcast down below for the stories!