BEYOND excited about this! Mira Butler and I have put together another mindfulness course for you guys! In this course, you’re going to learn about the benefits of mindfulness through yoga and meditation, developing a routine, the different things both her and I experienced, the environment, developing your mantra, a meditation video and a conclusion. This one is going to hit home for a lot of you and everything will be readily available online for you guys on my links down below. So, with that being said, let’s dive into this! Here’s a short introduction of the course and video. First lesson kicks off a day later!
Guys welcome back to another Stephen Covey blog/podcast, and today is a follow up from what we’ve already done with the questionnaire (last week).
So, each part in the questionnaire corresponds to one of the “4 Cores of Credibility.” These are the foundational elements that make you believable, both ot yourself and to others.
So, when it comes to integrity, it basically means honesty. It’s walking your talk. Do you live up to your values and beliefs? Or do you do opposite of what you say.
Core 2: Intent
The second core deals with issues of intent. This has to do with our motives, our agendas, and our resulting behavior. Trust grows when our motives are straightforward and based on mutual benefit — in other words, when we genuinely care not only for ourselves, but also for the people we interact with, lead, or serve. When we suspect a hidden agenda from someone or we don’t believe they are acting in our best interests, we are suspicious about everything they say and do.
Both integrity and intent are matters of character.Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust
This happens a lot in my life because I have a tendency of always saying to myself, “is this real?” Came across a lady on the street last night and she was super friendly. It didn’t make any sense, and I truly believed that she had a hidden agenda. She was trying to exploit me somehow, someway, and I was right.
Core 3: Capabilities
The third core deals with issues of capabilities. These are the abilities that have inspire confidence — our talens, attitudes, skills, knowledge, and style. They are the means we use to produce results. A family doctor might have integrity and his motives might be good, but unless he’s trained and skilled to perform the task at hand (brain surgery, for example) he’ll be lacking in credibility in that area. Capabilities also deal with our ability to establish, grow, extend, and restore trust.Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust
Core 4: Results
The fourth core deals with issues around results. This refers to our track record, our performance, our getting the right things done. If we don’t accomplish what we are expected to do, it diminishes our credibility. On the other hand, when we achieve the results we promised, we establish a positive reputation of performing, of being a produce, and our reputation precedes us.Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust
And these are the cores. Remember, everyone, each area is of equal importance. Example, someone who has great integrity, good intent and a great track record my lack capabilities. Another person who has great integrity, capable and produces excellent results may have selfishness and doesn’t care about you.
In any case, you won’t fully trust that person in any situation. So, in order to visualize the importance of all cores is by through the metaphor of a tree. Integrity is the root of the tree which everything else grows. Intent becomes more visible after you establish the character, which is just below the soil. It’s essentially the big trunk the pokes its head out. The capabilities are the branches and the capacities that enable us to produce. Results are the fruits.
So, with the being said, we’re going to have to start going through the cores
So, my first podcast (which will be below the first part of this in terms of finding your fight) was uploaded yesterday. I didn’t have time to attach the blog with it, and I also got a real time text message about a job denying me work and see how I reacted to it. Great experience. Lol
And into “finding your fight.”
Now, Darren Hardy talked about using friction, anger and hate to press up against something you don’t like. I strongly disagree, respectfully. It’s like the people who asked Mother Teresa if she wanted to go to an Anti-_________ rally. She never went, but when she said, “if you make a pro-peace rally, I’ll go.”
The more you press up against something you dislike or get back at someone, you’ll never feel accomplished and you’ll be bringing more of that.
Gary Vee mentioned that he does things to stick it back in other people’s faces. Again, people have a way of doing it, but the antagonists, naysayers, and people that want to see you fail will continue dissecting every detail of you to find something else to complain about. It will be a never-ending whirlwind of critcism you’re redirecting constantly over to yourself because you feel you have to do it to prove someone wrong.
I’m telling you now that they will continue to win. Just remember, No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.
Podcast From Yesterday
The compound effect, just like the Law of Attraction, is always working – whether you believe it or not. You can use it for you, or against you. Most successful people in the world have quiet time for meditation, other people say that meditation isn’t for them. It’s all based on preference. However, if you can get to a deeper level of your core, you will find the treasure. I have a particular friend who works at a bank who says she doesn’t know what she loves. Well, try new things! “Well, my mother said I can’t.”
Now’s not the time to be rescue 911. If she doesn’t start now, she’ll look back to now at the age of 70 saying, “I wish I had…..”
Don’t be that person.
Ask yourself: “what goals, dreams and destinations do I desire?”
Honestly, ask yourself that question. If you’re not making progress in life, and shooting aimlessly, it’s because your goals aren’t clearly defined and you just simply don’t have a definite chief-aim in life. How can you learn to effectively to set and achieve goals?
Was Australia on my bucket list back in 2009? No. However, in 2005, it gave me a glimpse of what was to come when I did a convention with a friend involving lots of managers from Australia at the Mandalay Bay Resort & Casino. That wasn’t a clearly defined goal, but rather an insight.
I always wanted to travel to Japan, Singapore, Bali and Maldives…when I put these onto my dreamboard, it happened. It may not work for you, but it worked for me.
You only see, experience, and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. In fact, the object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not the mysterious, esoteric voodoo it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simpler and more practical than that. – Darren Hardy
We are bombarded with visual, audio and physical things everyday. Have you ever been thinking about that person and later get a phone call from them? How about that car you want? You start seeing the car a heck of a lot more, right? Is it realistic? Perhaps. Maybe the cars were there all along and you just weren’t paying attention to it.
When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look into and focus on. This is why our subconscious mind and feeding your mind with what you want one hour before you retire at night is imperative. If you watch bad news, what shows up in your dreams? If you do work on that project, shop for that house, look for flights to Kazakhstan, and look at YouTube videos of travel in Morocco….your subconscious mind will work on it overnight.
The man who knows that he is working with facts goes at his task with a feeling of self-confidence which enables him to refrain from hesitating or waiting to make sure of his ground. He already knows what his efforts will be.
Also, the man who has learned of the advantages of searching for facts as the foundation of his thinking will go a long way toward the development of one of the most important facets of humanity: accurate thought. On top of that, a man who can separate facts from important and unimportant will go even further.
For instance, John D. Rockefeller was a man who created a habit of dealing only with relevant facts that pertained to his life-work. When he was young, he was a very poor young men. However, at that same time, he adopted the definite chief aim of accumulating great wealth. A lot of people would say that Rockefeller was not always fair with his competitors – which may or may not be true. On there other hand, no one ever accused him of “snap-judgements” or underestimating the strength of his competitors. He not only recognised facts that affected his business, wherever or whenever he found them, but he made it his business to search for them until he found them.
Thomas A. Edison was another man who attained greatness through the classification and relevance of facts. “Mr. Edison worked with natural laws as his chief aids; therefore, he must be sure of his facts before he can harness those laws.” – Napoleon Hill.
Every time you hear a phonograph, remember that Edison is the man that made it happen, through his persistent habit of dealing with relevant facts. Every time you see a moving picture, know that it was him.
The exact opposite of this would mean you focusing on mere information that you cannot control. Not being able to separate importance with unimportance will cloud your vision completely.
If you haven’t already seen the important of creating a definite chief aim as the object of your lifework, you will undoubtedly do so by going all the way to the blog at the very beginning of this book or by listening to this podcast down below.
The subconscious mind has one outstanding characteristic to which I will now direct your attention; namely it records the suggestions which you send it through Auto-suggestion, and it invokes the aid of infinite intelligence in translating these suggestions into their natural physical form, through natural means which are in no way out of the ordinary.
The subconscious mind accepts all suggestions, whether they are constructive or destructive. The subconscious mind may be likened to the sensitive plate of a camera which the picture of any object placed before the camera will be recorded. The plate of the camera does not choose the sort of picture to be recorded on it, it records anything which reaches it through the lens.
“Your subconscious mind does not argue with you. It accepts what your conscious mind decrees. If you say, “I can’t afford it,” your subconscious mind works to make it true. Select a better thought. Decree, “I will buy it. I accept it in my mind.”
Dr. Joseph Murphy –
Like what I’ve said in my Lisa Nichols podcasts, our beliefs, especially from when we were young, really control what’s going on today. It could be beliefs about our own capabilities, belief about what it takes to success, beliefs about how we relate with other people, or common everyday beliefs that we see or live by. Identify those limiting beliefs (Lisa Nichols – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10255673) and replace them with positive ones that support your success.
What Are Some of Those Limiting Beliefs?
- I’m not (smart, attractive, rich, old, or young) enough.
- I’m not worthy.
- I’m not lovable.
- Life is hard until you die.
- Nothing I do is right.
- You can’t get rich in this profession.
- There’s aren’t any good men left in this world.
I recall Tony Robbins talking about how severely paid teachers are in America, and then he went on to speak about a Korean American teacher who went from making 60k USD a year to 4 million…just by destroying that limiting belief of you can’t get rich in this profession.
How To Overcome Any Limiting Belief
- Identify the limiting belief that you want to change. Make a list of all of them that are limiting you. Invite a couple friends over who would also like to accelerate their growth to join you to brainstorm a list of all the things you hear growing up.
- Money doesn’t grow on trees.
- Can’t you do anything right?
- Eat everything on your plate.
- Act like a lady.
- People aren’t interested in your problems.
When you’re finished making this list, pick a belief that is still limiting you and take yourself through the remaining steps of the process.
2. Determine how the beliefs limit you.
3. Decide how you would rather be, act, or feel.
4. Create a turnaround statement that affirms or gives you permission to be, act, or feel this new way.
- My negative limiting belief is Thai women hate black men because that’s what I’ve seen my entire life living out here in Thailand.
- The way this limits me is I put every human being of the opposite sex in the same category and that’s called generalizing. It’s untrue that ALL women hate black men.
- The way I want to feel is I need to love myself for who I am and what I look like. The only person that’s creating this reality is me, and if I continue to say something that’s not true, it will continue to happen. I want to have smiles directed towards me and women talk to me with no race attached to it.
- My turnaround statement Thai women absolutely adore and love black men, including myself.
This is one of the most significant limiting beliefs that somewhat lingers in my mind from time-to-time. This is also an example of what your statement will look like. My colleague and I will do a podcast of this within the next couple of weeks so you can hear how it works.
Original Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9152395
“It’s easy to be negative and unmotivated, but it takes some work to be positive and motivated.” – Donna Cardiollo
It’s difficult to maintain a positive focus on life when there’s so much going on around us. I know. However, successful people find a way to do so by staying focused on their past success rather than their past failures. Taking action steps on obtaining their daily, weekly, monthly and quarterly goals. Making life excited in general by creating bonds and relationships by being spontaneous. Just being constantly proaction in the pursuit of all objectives can make a boring long working day exciting.
First 45 Minutes Of The Day = The Most Important
So, remember on my last blog entry I talked about reviewing your successes for the day, reviewing the goals, focusing on the successful future, and making specific goals to accomplish the next day.
Some of you are wondering why at the end of the day? Well, whatever you ready, see, listen to, talk about and experience in the last 45 minutes of the day has a huge influence on your sleep and your next day. A good example is looking at dreams. Have you ever watched a video, talked to or about someone (positive negative way), or did something that inflicted any type of emotion – leading to that specific thing showing up in your dream? Have you ever went to bed pissed off and woke up with the same feelings you had the night before?
During the night, your unconscious mind replays and processes this late-night input up to six times more often than anything else you experienced during the day. This is why cramming for school exams late at night can work and why watching a scary movie before bed gives you nightmares.
This is why even reading good bedtime stories is so important for children. Those repeated messages, lessons and everything becomes the fabric of a child’s consciousness.
Think how much better it would be to read an inspirational autobiography or a self-improvement book before going to sleep. How about watching a video about Fiji travel before sleep? Meditating into sleep using a guided meditation? The last 45 minutes of the day are the most important.
First: I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose, therefore, I demand of myself persistent, aggressive and continuous action toward its attainment.
Second: I realize that the dominating thoughts of my mind eventually reproduce themselves in outward, bodily action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore I will concentrate my mind for thirty minutes daily upon the task of thinking of the person I intent to be, by reading a mental picture of this person and then transforming that picture into reality through practice service.
Third: I know that through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of realizing it, therefore I shall devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development factors that I want to attain.
Fourth: I have clearly amped out and written down a description of my definite purpose in life, for the coming five years. I have set a price on my services for each of these five years; a price that I intend to earn and receive, through strict application of the principle of efficient, satisfactory service which I will render in advance.
Fifth: I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice, therefore I will engage in no transition which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to me the forces I wish to use, and the co-operation of other people. I will induce others to serve me because I will first serve them. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness and cynicism by developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me because I will believe in them and in myself.
I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory and repeat it aloud once a day with full faith that it will gradually influence my entire life so that I will become a success and happy worker in my chosen field of endeavour.
Before you sign your name on this formula (copy and past on microsoft word), make sure you intend on carrying out its instructions.
If you fill your mind with doubt and unbelief in your ability to achieve, then the principle of Auto-suggestion takes this spirit of unbelief and sets it up in your subconscious mind as your dominating thought and slowly but surely draws you into the whirlpool of failure.
However, if you feel your mind with self-confidence, the principle of Auto-suggestion takes this belief and sets it up as your dominating thought and helps you master the obstacles that fall in your way until you reach the mountain-top of success.
The sad truth about how we look back on our past is that we all have a lot more victories than failures. In present day, we count all our negatives rather than the blessings. That’s a given. However; if we refer back to the past, we count all the negatives, too.
Yes, my mother and father split up after endless arguing between 95-98. Yes, I had two step mothers both whom were wonderful. Yes, I switched school four times over a one calendar year period and I never had the opportunity to acclimate. However, at the age of 11 when my mother took full custody of me, I can seriously count my major successes. This is a good exercise to begin with to start acknowledging your positive past.
BEGIN WITH NINE MAJOR SUCCESSES
Here’s a good way to begin an inventory on all of your major successes. Start by dividing your life into three equal time periods.
For example, I’m 28, so I’m looking at 3 increments of 9 (although massive success has came in the past year. HA!). If you’re 40 years old, you’re looking at “Birth to 13” and so on.
Here’s a list below of my major successes.
First Third: Birth to 9
- Learned how to ride a bike.
- Learned how to play basketball, football, and soccer.
- Was a Math magician in my 4th grade Math class whereas my teacher (Mr. Parven) said, “multiples of 4” to me and I went on an incredible rant – 4, 8, 12, 16, 20….amazing stares from my classmates followed and then I understood that I was gifted. (Not many people in the world know this story – consider yourself lucky).
Second Third: Age 10 to 19
- Got first place in a track & field meet and went to three consecutive Sunrise Regional Track & Field Championships in the Southern of Nevada.
- Graduated from High School.
- Went to college.
Final Third: Age 20 to 28
- Traveled to Australia (and lived there for a year), Taiwan, South Korea, Japan, Hawaii, New Zealand, Laos, Malaysia, Singapore, and Vietnam.
- Became a teacher in Thailand.
- Now have a worldwide viewed podcast, my own website, working for massive corporations, soon to be Tedx speaker, motivating the masses.
Create A Victory Log
How about this, another way to stack those poker chips even higher is to keep a written record of your daily successes. It could be doing your morning meditation, making your grateful 10 list, following up on phone calls and so forth. By recalling and writing down your successes each day, you log them into your long-term memory, which enhances your self-esteem and builds your confidence.
If a lot of your victories are on the internet – for example, if you’re an athlete, artist, author, or businessperson – you can make a digital scrapbook on Pinterest.
The End of The Day Mirror Exercise
Here’s an example os what my exercise might sound like:
Arsenio, I want to appreciate you for the following things today: First, I was to appreciate you for waking up on time and knocking out that to-do list with grace. Then, you meditated for twenty minutes before dropping your clothes off at the wash. You created a couple of podcasts and inspiring instagram posts before going to work and preparing for the next two days.
One of the best things you accomplished was finally you created a website. You have your own website now! WOW! Who would’ve ever though, ey? You’ve done some maintenance and connected with people who can help you start ironing out the gorgeous platform that will have tons of traffic.
Oh, you got home, prepared your gym bag for the next day, meal-prepped for the next day, and now you’re looking up flight details for upcoming trips. Today was an absolute MARVELLOUS day, Arsenio. Now, go get some sleep!
And one more thing, Arsenio – I love you!
Yes, you might feel awkward, silly, might want to cry, or generally uncomfortable. There are all natural and normal reactions. We aren’t trained to acknowledge ourselves. In fact, we are mostly trained to do the opposite. Doing this can extinguish that negative internal self-talk
So, try it! Go on!
One of the greatest strategies in my opinion. This means thinking like, talking like, dressing like, acting like, and feeling like the person who has already achieved your goal. Acting as if sends powerful commands to your subconscious mind to find creative ways to achieve your goals. It programs the reticular activating system in your brain to start noticing anything that will help you succeed.
Back in 2015, I always had an obsession with buying a blazer. One day, before my birthday in Bangkok, I was walking down a busy street and was just looking for a few new ties to wear with my “birthday alfit.” I walked into a place and he offered to make me a blazer for only 50$! Unfortunately, the blazer couldn’t have been done that day, so I had to pick it up a day after. Get this, I was just working a survival busyness type style at my present job, not learning any techniques or skills that would allow me to get more work. Well, one blazer turned into a suit, which turned into a few more blazers with matching suits. After a month or so, I was given a corporate English Teaching position to work at a prestigious company on the outskirts of Bangkok and we were required to wear SUITS! Just imagine if I hadn’t gone down that street on that May evening in Bangkok. Would the opportunity have come?
After acquiring an entire new wardrobe over the course of two years, I’ve had some of the biggest opportunities of my life that required me wearing a suit.
The Law of Attraction simply states that what you think about, you will bring about. The more you create the vibration – the mental and emotional states – of already having something, the faster you attract it to you. this is an immutable law of the universe and critical to accelerating your rate of success.
Jack Canfield talked about having Breakthrough seminars where all participants do a role-playing exercise called the Million Cocktail Party. Everyone would have to stand up and socialise as if they were at the cocktail party having achieved all their goals: the dream house, vacation home, dream car, dream career, as well as if they have achieved any personal, professional, or philanthropic goals that are important to them.
Come As You Will Be……In 2020!
Join us for a celebration that will stretch your imagination and catapult you into your own future.
Arrive as who you will be in 5 years from now. Dress in your very best. Speak only in the present tense the entire evening, as if it were already 2020, all your goals have been achieved, and all your dreams have already come true.
You will be videotaped as you arrive. Bring props to show everyone what you have achieved in the years between, such as bestselling books you’ve written, magazine covers you’ve been on, awards you’ve won, and photographs or scrapbooks of your achievements. Throughout the evening, you will have the opportunity to applaud others in their achievements and to receive congratulations.