Saturday Motivation | Are You Willing to Be Judged?

There are three types of people in this world. 

Those who are willing to put themselves out there; to show the world who they truly are. 

There are those who DO show the world, but then they quit because of criticism. 

Then, there are the losers who are unwilling to even take the shot because they’re the despicables OF the world. 

Which one are you?

Recently, a player had received death threats from online trolls for missing two critical free throws in the Elite 8 of the NCAA Tournament.  

He said, “what did I do to deserve this?”

I would say, “congratulations, now growth really begins.” You put yourself before millions of people and you failed — but you learned and you will win at life. 

The trolls who threatened you wouldn’t even DARE to take those free throws, to begin with because they’re afraid of their very own self. 


Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust: Season 4 – Episode 23 – The Final ‘S’ in Tasks

The biggest questions of a lifetime for business owners. You know, I was thinking about the time Jack Ma had to fire employees because of the problems he was having with Ali Baba. Through what Napoleon Hill has said, “Applied Faith,” he was able to see things through and work his way out of the rut, making a billion (and soon-to-be trillion) dollar empire. Here are your questions.

The biggest questions of a lifetime for business owners. You know, I was thinking about the time Jack Ma had to fire employees because of the problems he was having with Ali Baba. Through what Napoleon Hill has said, “Applied Faith,” he was able to see things through and work his way out of the rut, making a billion (and soon-to-be trillion) dollar empire. Here are your questions.

  • How effective is your current style in approaching problems and opportunities and interacting with others?
  • Does your approaching facilitate or get in the way of accomplishing what needs to be done?
  • What can you do to improve the way in which you go about doing things?

Lots of ideas came to mind about how well I handle situations. Room for improvement is wide-open, and I need to start feeling things gaps ASAP.

I can get considerably better when it comes to approaching problems. Example, there was an issue at an old job whereas a guy called me out in a number of ways. I shouldn’t have taken that lightly, and even more, I could’ve forwarded the emails and voice messages he had sent me to the owner. Regardless, because he’s white in a very pro-white country, he would’ve gotten a free-pass. But allowing people to get away with unruly behavior is even worse.

When it comes to interacting with others, I’m almost certain that I do an incredible job in that area because that’s one of my strongest points. I pick up energy signals very easily, and this is very important because if people come to me with jobs, I should be able to point them in the right direction of a good teacher, rather than one that would just tarnish my reputation.

An example would be a new employee (or new ones every week) at my job on the weekend. It’s none of my business, but because I’m good at picking up energy, there’s one specific new teacher that has “HORRIBLE” written all over him. If you guys listened/read my blogs from early last year, you’ll know exactly what I’m talking about. I don’t give a second look or anything to these teachers. I don’t introduce myself because they’ve been the bane of my existence here. If they’re not someone who has ideas or anything, why even bother? Most of them complain or say some very sick things that pertains to under-age girls (yeah, welcome to Thailand). So, OQP (Only Quality People).

That’s in the world of business.

When it comes to my entrepreneurial world, I can seriously learn to get better at appropriating time slots for when I should be on social media. I feel if I leave notifications on all day, I can lose maybe 1-1.5 hours. So, as of today, I’ve turned them off and they’ve helped me considerably. The only messages I receive are of importance from my graphic designer. Facebook messages in the morning while commuting (anytime while commuting) is enough. Other apps at the same time. No FB at home or during my core hours.

This is how you can identify what’s working and what isn’t….so I suggest all of you do the same with the questions above!


Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust: Season 4 – Episode 6 – The Four Cores

Guys welcome back to another Stephen Covey blog/podcast, and today is a follow up from what we’ve already done with the questionnaire (last week). 

So, each part in the questionnaire corresponds to one of the “4 Cores of Credibility.”  These are the foundational elements that make you believable, both ot yourself and to others. 

So, when it comes to integrity, it basically means honesty.  It’s walking your talk.  Do you live up to your values and beliefs? Or do you do opposite of what you say. 

Core 2: Intent

The second core deals with issues of intent.  This has to do with our motives, our agendas, and our resulting behavior.  Trust grows when our motives are straightforward and based on mutual benefit — in other words, when we genuinely care not only for ourselves, but also for the people we interact with, lead, or serve.  When we suspect a hidden agenda from someone or we don’t believe they are acting in our best interests, we are suspicious about everything they say and do. 

Both integrity and intent are matters of character.

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This happens a lot in my life because I have a tendency of always saying to myself, “is this real?”  Came across a lady on the street last night and she was super friendly.  It didn’t make any sense, and I truly believed that she had a hidden agenda. She was trying to exploit me somehow, someway, and I was right. 

Core 3: Capabilities

The third core deals with issues of capabilities.  These are the abilities that have inspire confidence — our talens, attitudes, skills, knowledge, and style.  They are the means we use to produce results.  A family doctor might have integrity and his motives might be good, but unless he’s trained and skilled to perform the task at hand (brain surgery, for example) he’ll be lacking in credibility in that area.  Capabilities also deal with our ability to establish, grow, extend, and restore trust. 

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Core 4: Results

The fourth core deals with issues around results.  This refers to our track record, our performance, our getting the right things done.  If we don’t accomplish what we are expected to do, it diminishes our credibility.  On the other hand, when we achieve the results we promised, we establish a positive reputation of performing, of being a produce, and our reputation precedes us. 

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And these are the cores.  Remember, everyone, each area is of equal importance.  Example, someone who has great integrity, good intent and a great track record my lack capabilities.  Another person who has great integrity, capable and produces excellent results may have selfishness and doesn’t care about you.  

In any case, you won’t fully trust that person in any situation. So, in order to visualize the importance of all cores is by through the metaphor of a tree.  Integrity is the root of the tree which everything else grows.  Intent becomes more visible after you establish the character, which is just below the soil.  It’s essentially the big trunk the pokes its head out.  The capabilities are the branches and the capacities that enable us to produce.  Results are the fruits.  

So, with the being said, we’re going to have to start going through the cores


Gary Vee: What (Still) Matters

“It’s not hard to figure out why so many who attempt to do it fail. In general, it’s because they’re putting their energies into the wrong things. They care, but not enough about what really matters. And what really matters is a pretty short list: intent, authenticity, passion, patience, speed, work, and attention.”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

What Gary put into his book is something of some beautiful beauty.

Authenticity – you’ve probably heard me rant about the Instagrammers, like the women, who show their half-naked bodies in pictures, supporting brands.  The motivational speakers on Twitter who never communicate with their followers; even the 100k followers on Twitter who have maybe two likes on each post (although they have 100k followers)?

It’s about being authentic.  The stories I tell you about my life here in Thailand cannot be fabricated.  I can’t lie about the pictures, the racism, the things I’ve seen in terms of sexual occurrences on public transportation, the comments spewed at me like “eww, low-class! Black man! Dirty! Nigerian scammer!”  It’s as real as it gets, but through personal development and learning so much in books, I’ve made my podcasts into a life experience and try relating it to my listeners as much as I can.

Passion is something that can’t be taught.  I love inspiring, instilling, transforming and helping my students, and listeners, from all over the world achieve their goals.  Students need a particular score on a test to get into a university abroad – done.  That’s what I do.  I live vicariously through them, and by creating a website and courses online to help students achieve those goals for very little – this is what I live for.  The passion you hear behind my voice on my podcast…..that’s all authentic.

Patience & Attention coincide with one another.  Some people want things to happen instantly.  It doesn’t work like that.  It takes time, commitment and hard-work — on top of constant and never-ending content creating — to get the world’s attention.  Just recently I saw that Lebanon and Fiji came onto my podcast.  That’s a beautiful thing and I would’ve never thought in a thousand years people would listen to me from those countries.  However, it wasn’t like that in the beginning.  I had the 45-75-year-old-wife tourists eavesdropping on me at my job, and a couple listeners back in Menlo Park, California.  That’s all.  A (what I call catfish friend) back in Denpensar, Bali, Indonesia once asked me, “ummm you haven’t made a podcast in a long time.  What are you doing? Your listeners, however little, need you.”

Don’t expect massive engagements, people.  Your followers, who are loyal, need that attention.  Don’t give up because you have only 10-100 Instagram followers.

Can I ask everyone why they want to become an entrepreneur?

Is it to share knowledge with the world? Help people in general? Build a legacy? Financial security? Create a community?

“With entrepreneurship becoming so trendy, a lot of people are calling themselves entrepreneurs who really aren’t. They should call themselves wantrepreneurs instead, and I wish they’d do this before they ruin the reputation of real entrepreneurs the same way unscrupulous brokers ruined how some feel about real estate agents or the way ambulance chasers and media hounds tarnished our opinion of lawyers. (And I wish they’d rename themselves before they waste a lot of time and potentially money). I promise you that getting into this game for the gold is the quickest path to long-term failure. When your intent is coming from the wrong place, customers may still do business with you if they have no other option (an increasingly rare situation), but they won’t tell others to. ”

Excerpt From: Gary Vaynerchuk. “Crushing It!.” iBooks.

See, he took the words right out of Lisa Nichols mouth.  She said in the interview, “if you’re in it for the money, it’s a short-lived victory.”

I recently stated on either a FB post or Twitter that your goal needs to be bigger than your money and you.  I went to NIST, which is the best international school in Thailand, and I met a couple of students, who are rich, that created a hub for a rural village in Cambodia – giving them clean water and food.  I asked the director, “why do they do that?” He retorted, “that’s their life-work.”

See, if you have any company that’s predicated on the fact that you want money to buy women, buy fame, being in the social circle where women are extremely fit and showing all their skin, show your cars, jewelry, etc…’ve lost the game already. Pack it up.  You’re never going to live a fullfilled life – period.  I currently work with men who are well over 50, 60, and 70 years of age who live paycheck-by-paycheck in Thailand.  Met an Irishmen who’s completely stuck here, saying that he lost his job in Saudi Arabia and married the wrong woman and had two wrong children.

Ok, that’s a little bit different from start-ups and business owners, but don’t live with the same type of regret.  I implore you not to.

  • A commitment to service
    A desire to provide value
    A love of teaching

Gary Vee wrote this in his book, and I’ve now adopted it as my life-work.  My love for teaching, which is unmatched compared to 99.9% teachers here in Thailand, is unshakable.  My desire to provide value both in classroom, on camera, through voice, and anyway I can is considered my life-assignment.  My commitment to service, especially with me starting up a non-profit organization to reach out to rural villages in southeast Asia, is not for fame – but it’s for the love of who I am and my legacy.

My money blueprint as a child was ugly.  My mother fought to put food on the table when my dad let his salary go….somewhere.  My mom cooked flour tortillas in vegetable oil to put some food in our stomachs before sleeping.  I remember paying the game “Real Monsters” and being in the cafeteria of the game, envisioning eating food within the game because I was so hungry in reality.  You can see where all of this comes from now.

Dig deep and find out the true essence of why you want to become an entrepreneur.  If it’s for a quick buck, you’re in the wrong game.