Helping a suicidal student

I wrote this on my 101 goals list about 5 years ago: “help someone NOT commit suicide and get them out of a dark place.” I don’t know why it felt good at the time, but the opportunity had presented itself.

Years ago I met a student who was on fire. She was insecure at the age of 15, but with her level of speaking capabilities, I told her she couldn’t stay here in Thailand because ALL universities don’t know what to do with her level passion. She ended up moving to Singapore to go to school and ended up building an online business at the age of 17. The last time I had seen her in 2018, she was so excited and driven. She carried herself like a 30-year-old business professional.

Well, we lost touch and finally spoke again through video a couple weeks ago — to my shock, she completely changed: tone, facial expressions, discontent, and now suffering from severe depression. She went from Singapore back to Bangkok and now she’s around people who AREN’T driven.

While she was telling me these horrifying thoughts she was having, I was glancing to my left and thought of one person that could absolutely help her….and so the introduction was given and now the ball is on her side of the course — but I’m asking everyone out there that you should NEVER be AFRAID to ASK for help.

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Interviewee #34 – Jazz Pitt on Overcoming Depression, Exile, & Fulfilling Her Purpose

Jazz, who was the third of the three to really “jack me up,” helped me so much. It was a three day process when I went through the depths of hell to figure out what was actually wrong with me. After Richard came Isabel, followed by Jazz — and boy — did she have a story! This is going to hit home for a lot of people dealing with anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts. Here it is!

Get in touch with Jazz Pitt on overcoming depression, exile and fulfilling purpose

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction given by Jazz Pitt and how she started it all?
  • Relationships and family exile.
  • Feeling of abandonment.
  • Mental breakdown and depression.
  • Situation after all feelings had subsided.
  • Unhappy childhood and how memories continued creeping into her present life.
  • Zombie state of depression.
  • Keys to overcome depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts.
  • How she feels looking back on her past.
  • The importance of lifelong learning.
  • The power of love.
  • Sharing about the power of perceptions by other people and the importance of choosing.

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Interviewee #024 – Lewis Raymond Taylor On Overcoming Himself

What an unbelievable story this was.  Lewis started off as a child who needed attention, like all children do, but after screamed at and neglected by his family, the fall of him began.  From drugs, alcoholism, run ins with the authority and even prison time, he changed his mind through a series of moments.  After putting himself back in prison the second time, the change happened.  Tune into the podcast!

Get in touch with Lewis Raymond Taylor

 

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Things we discussed:

  • Introduction by the host with his guest.
  • Unhappy childhood and emotional abuse from his father.
  • The attention seeking disease.
  • Becoming a sexual abuse victim.
  • Wrong people, subconscious, prison.
  • Emotional needs.
  • Rejection, anger and rejection.
  • Being diagnosed with split personality disorder, bipolar disorder and other mental issues.
  • Attempted suicide and a near-death experience.
  • Nearly killing a man because the man’s aggression reflected his fathers.
  • The beginning of the change.
  • What the strategies were.
  • Mentorship in prison.
  • The beginning of being a business coach.
  • Being not responsible, but accountable.
  • 7 steps to make a change.

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The Terrifying Fact of Depression

It’s all……THOUGHT.

That’s right.  Let me superimpose it for you.

THOUGHT

Think about it.  Our mind, which is home to trillions of cells, can and has created everything around you at this very moment.  The environment, relationships, feelings, assets, friends, everything!

When I came to realize this back in early 2016, I literally unfriended every coworker I had because I was becoming them.  They would degrade me, look down upon me, and insult everything about Thailand and I was quickly becoming just that.

Was I depressed? Nope.  I had the conscious awareness to realize I was going down a very dark road. A lot of people don’t have that conscious awareness which then leads to depressive thoughts that accumulate over time and form thoughts on suicide.

The feeling of “not being enough” in the world.  I’ve had those feelings 4 years ago.

But what if I told you it can all be undone with just your thoughts? Literally, your thoughts create everything. Your thoughts have created depression (for those of you suffering) and a lot of people don’t even know what thought is.

I just saw a lady jump 17 floors to her death yesterday.  Two weeks ago a young boy was suffering from depression and hurled himself over an indoor balcony, killing himself in the process and sending people into pandemonium just 30 minutes north of Bangkok.

Get this, one was a student and the other had a 4-year-old child.

So, what is thought? I tried breaking it down in my podcast down below.

 

Some Stories On How You Can Conquer Worry – Dale Carnegie Excerpt

Six major troubles hit me all at once.

  1. My business college was trembling on the verge of financial disaster because all the boys were going to war; and most of the girls were making more money working in war plants without training than my graduates could make in business offices with training.
  2. My older son was in service, and I had the heart-numbing worry coming to all parents whose sons were away at war.
  3. Oklahoma City had already started proceedings to condemn a large track of land for an airport, and my home – formerly my father’s home – was located in the center of this tract.  I knew that I would be paid only one tenth of its value.
  4. The water well on my property went dry because a drainage canal had been dug near my home.  To dig a new well would be throwing five hundred dollars away because the land was already being condemned.  I had to carry water to my livestock in buckets every morning for two months, and I feared I would have to continue it during the rest of the war.
  5. I lived ten miles away from my business school and had a class B gasoline card: that meant I couldn’t buy any new tires, so I worried about how I could ever get to work when the super annotated tired on my old Ford gave up the ghost.
  6. My oldest daughter had graduated form high school  year ahead of schedule.  She had her heart set on going to college, and I just didn’t have the money to send her.  I knew her heart would be broken.

This specific individual went on to say that one afternoon while sitting in his office, worrying about his worries, he decided to write them all down for it seemed no one ever had more to worry about than he had.  He could do nothing to solve them.  So he decided to write them down and file them away.  Months went on and he had forgotten that the list even existed.  Eighteen months later he went through his files and there was the list that he wrote 1.5 years earlier.  Well, the problems solved themselves.

  1. I saw that all my worries about having to close my business college had been useless because the government had started paying business schools for training veterans and my school was soon filled to capacity.
  2.  I saw that all my worries about my son in service had been useless; he was coming through the war without a scratch.
  3.  I saw that all my worries about my land being condemned for use as an airport and been useless because oil had been struck within a mile of my farm and the cost of procuring the land for an airport thad become prohibitive.
  4. I saw that all my worries about having no well to water my stock had been also useless because, as soon as I knew my land would not be condemned, I spent my money necessary to dig a new well.
  5. I recapped my tires and managed how to survive.
  6. Sixty days before opening of college, I was offered – almost like a miracle – an auditioning job which I could do outside of school hours, and this job made it possible for me to send her to college on schedule.

I can turn myself into a shouting optimist within an hour!

One man said when he found himself depressed over his present conditions, he would, within an hour, banish worry and turn himself into an optimism.  How?

He read 20th century history for about an hour.  After that happened, he realized that bad as conditions were at the moment, they were infinitely better than they used to be.  This enabled him to see and face his present troubles in a much more proper perspective, as well as to realize that the world as a whole is constantly growing better.

Here is a method that deserves a whole chapter.  Read history! Try to get the viewpoint of ten thousand years – and see how trivial YOUR troubles are, in terms of eternity!

I was terribly depressed at one moment, and when I was, I forced myself to become physically active almost every hour of the day.  I played five or six sets of violent games of tennis every morning, then took a bath, had lunch, and played eighteen holes of golf every afternoon.  On Friday nights, I danced until one o’clock in the morning.  I am a great believer in working up a tremendous sweat.  I found that depression and worry oozed out of my system with the sweat.

Physical activity – which can involve any type of strenuous activity, allows you to take your mind off the present.

I am a great dismisser

When I turn from one task to another, I dismiss all thoughts of the problems I had been thinking about previously.  I find it stimulating and refreshing to turn from one activity to another.  It rests me.  It clears my mind.

I have had to school myself to dismiss all these problems from my mind when I close my office desk.  They are always continuing.  Each one always has a set of unsolved problems demanding my attention.  If I carried these issues home with me each night, and worried about them, I would destroy my health; and, in addition, I would destroy all ability to cope with them.

I was committing slow suicide because I didn’t know how to relax.

I used to rush through life in high gear.  I was always tense, never relaxed.  I arrived home from work every night worried and exhausted from nervous fatigue.  Why? Because no one ever said, “Paul, you’re killing yourself!”

Every since then I have practiced relaxation.  When I go to bed at night, I don’t try to go to sleep until I’ve consciously relaxed my body and my breathing.  And now I wake up in the morning rested – a big improvement, because I used to wake up in the morning tired and tense.  I relax and now when I eat and when I drive.

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