Just For Today…..

  1. Just for today I will be happy.  this assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.
  2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.  I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.
  3. Just for today I will take care of my body.  I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
  4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my min.  I will learn something useful.  I will not be a mental loafer.  I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
  5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways; I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out.  I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise.
  6. Just for today I will be agreeable.  I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regular nor improve anyone.
  7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once.  I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.
  8. Just for today I will have a program.  I will write down what I expect to do every hours.  I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it.  It will eliminate two pests, hurrying and indecision.
  9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself to relax.
  10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

 

TEDx – Getting Personal

Audiences could be warm, fuzzy, empathetic and loving; other audiences could be cold and monotonous to the point you lose inspiration in even giving a talk.

If you look at comedic stand-ups (although TED is much difference from hurling jokes at people), they look at people in the audience who’s enjoying their show, not the one’s who are disinterested.  There are tough crowds all around the world.  In America, L.A. and New York could have the toughest.  Across the pacific, Sydney and especially Melbourne would be just as difficult.  Why? Not sure….but a lot of people are apprehensive with letting someone put “thought” into their minds.

Communication

I like to look at my stage at a 180 degree angle and I find someone at the 180, 45, 90, 45, and 180.  When you’re talking and speaking amongst everyone, everyone seems to be interested.  There will be a handful of people who are fully engaged in your ideas, so it’s imperative to communicate with all sides of the audience.

Scientists have said that the act of two people staring at each other triggers an adoption of the emotional state.  It’s kind of like a sync.  What’s the best way to do that? SMILE! In a world where we don’t see a lot of people smiling, this is now a technology that can transform how a talk is received.

Showing vulnerability and opening yourself up is extremely crucial, too.  Looking back at Ray Lewis’ Ted Talk, he wasn’t afraid of showing the audience the pain he went through as a child when his step-father would beat his mother.  He had no shame.  However, it’s also important that you don’t overshare.  Don’t talk about you ex wife or ex gf….that could leave the audience squirming for retreat.

Making them laugh….naturally, triggers one of the best emotional reactions.  It’s kind of like if you meet someone by greeting them…and someone botches the handshake and you guys end of laughing.  Because of that emotional trigger, you’re more prone to memorize that particular person’s name because the laughter you both had.  That’s how you could be remembered on stage, but don’t force it.  If you’re not funny, don’t be funny.  If you’re serious, be serious.  If you’re egomaniacal, adopt a new personality before your talk.

And of course, learning how to become an influential story teller.  I’ll post a YouTube video from A-Fest in regards to Don Jose Ruiz and the wondrous Lisa Nichols.

YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFLWPLS1VzI&t=4363s

01:02:23 Lisa Nichols “Run, Leap, Soar”

02:09:07 Don Jose Ruiz “Expanding Art from the Heart”

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11486300

 

 

 

TEDx – Common Traps of Speakers

There was a famed author at TED not too long ago who Chris Anderson was so excited to see because of his speaking capabilities.

What happened instead horrified him.  This is called the Sales Pitch.

If you go on stage, especially at TED, you CANNOT go on stage with intent to sale a product, especially yourself.  It’s all about giving the idea.  This particular individual said he had an idea worth sharing and it soon turned into an advertisement of what he was selling, himself and his services.  The audience began to get antsy and lost a lot of respect for him in the beginning stages; however, Chris Anderson went nervously up to the stage with his mic slightly on and told the man,

“I have a request here.  Could you actually tell us about the actual type of thinking you recommend, please? Just so we have a takeaway?”

The man went on to say that it would take three weeks to tell them the idea, but after pushing, Chris made him tell them the idea with 18 minutes instead.

Not only is this a greedy approach, but your reputation and respect is also on the line if you take the stage with intent to take away from the audience instead of giving.

The Ramble and Org Bore

Chris said it’s one thing to become underprepared, but to boast that you’ve come underprepared is insulting.  You’re wasting everyone’s precious time.  If you come on stage strutting saying, “I was thinking of what to say when I was coming over here.”  A lot of talks like this are meandering.  They have nothing to say.  It’s almost like a conversation with one’s self in the mirror whereas the audience sits in disarray, polite claps in the end and says, “that was hard to sit through.”

Having the special privilege to publicly speak is inspiring to say the least.  You could change one’s life completely just by inserting an idea within the mind.  If you come to the forefront with absolutely nothing at hand, your reputation is completely tarnished and you have canned a golden opportunity of making a name for yourself.

More on my Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11429555

 

 

 

 

 

TEDx + Dale Carnegie = The Art of Public Speaking

I was heading down the escalator with one of my students to a general bookstore today to get her some material that would help with her vocabulary, grammar, and basic sentence structuring.  Personal Development, being my absolute favorite section of any bookstore, was the first place we went to.  After about 10-15 minutes of scanning, we grabbed a book enticing enough to kick off her first ever English book reads; and upon leaving the store, I saw Ted Talks by Christopher Anderson.

A few weeks ago, I posted a somewhat controversial comment on a Tedx video featuring one of Thailand’s “superstars.” Shortly after that, I got a response on two media platforms from the director of the school inviting me to the school where this particular woman graduated from and it changed my life forever.

So, given the history of what Tedx has brought me, I decided to buy the book just over 10 bucks and it reminded me of Dale Carnegie’s book “Public Speaking” which I’m still currently reading, or have been reading for the last year. DOPE!

With a combination of these two books, I realized I can deliver some really useful material both in blog form and podcast for regarding speeches, orators, publicly speaking and using fear to your advantage – among so many other things.

Just a few weeks ago I was having a very intellectual conversation with an extremely smart YouTuber about a variety of topics, and he said that public speaking was his worst fear.  Well, you’re not alone.  In fact, public speaking is just as big a fear as flying and even heights.  I’m going to conjure and deliver some great material for those of you who are in high school, college, heads of companies, heads of departments…etc, who desperately need to get over that fear.

I love what Les Brown said (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8mGRToWyf8&t=2093s) about conquering fear in this video from 17:45-18:45.  When death is not an option, what else could you be afraid of? If you have family to feed and a mother and father to take care of, you’re going to do everything possible to face fear head-on, right? Well, join me on this journey!

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11245890