Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 21 – Quotient Analysis – Part B

We’ve got the second part of this coming up.

I initially separated these into three parts because it’s long and it’s going to take a lot of writing and time.  To get through all 16/17 right off the back, can be overwhelming.

7. Applied faith
(a) Do you have faith in Infinite Intelligence?

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(b) Are you a person of integrity?

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(c) Do you have confidence in your ability to do what you decide to do?

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(d) Are you reasonably free from these seven basic fears:

(1) fear of poverty?

(2) fear of criticism?

(3) fear of ill health?

(4) fear of loss of love?

(5) fear of loss of liberty?

(6) fear of old age?

(7) fear of death?

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8. Pleasing personality

(a) Are your habits offensive to others?

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(b) Is it your habit to apply the Golden Rule?

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(c) Are you liked by those with whom you work?

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(d) Do you bore others?

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9. Personal initiative
(a) Do you plan your work?

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(b) Must your work be planned for you?

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(c) Do you possess outstanding qualities not possessed by others in your line of work?

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(d) Is it your habit to procrastinate?

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(e) Is it your habit to try to create better plans for doing your work more efficiently?

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10. Enthusiasm
(a) Are you an enthusiastic person?

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(b) Do you direct your enthusiasm toward carrying out your plans?

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(c) Does your enthusiasm overpower your judgment?”

11. Controlled attention
(a) Is it your habit to concentrate your thoughts on what you are doing?

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(b) Are you easily influenced to change your plans or your decisions?

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(c) Are you inclined to abandon your aims and plans when you meet opposition?

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(d) Do you keep working regardless of unavoidable distractions?”

 

12. Teamwork

(a) Do you get along harmoniously with others?

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(b) Do you grant favors as freely as you ask them?

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(c) Do you have frequent disagreements with others?

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(d) Are there great advantages in friendly cooperation among co-workers?

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(e) Are you aware of the damage one can cause by not cooperating with co-workers?”

Excerpt From: Napoleon Hill. “Success Through A Positive Mental Attitude.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/success-through-a-positive-mental-attitude/id381618319?mt=11

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Face What Isn’t Working: Part II – Graphic Designer Woes

I love doing these redo’s as a way of showing you guys how to deal with scoundrels.

So, as I’ve mentioned in a few podcasts before, I’ve had problems/issues with this specific individual in the past.  What’s even more head-scratching is that I used to work with her.  Yes.  Everyday I used to see her, and she was very snappy at the beginning.  She would have a condescending tone to her voice and she was pretty rude at times.  Nonetheless, I was looking at taking my business to the next level so I used her.  What should’ve been three weeks quickly turned into four months.  At one time, I even blocked her because I thought she was just lying continuously.

However, three weeks ago she mentioned again that she was almost done with a PDF that had taken more than 4 months to do.  ALMOST = key word.

Finally, after another two weeks and just yesterday, she said “your PDF is done now.  Can I receive the payment first?”  Now, with all do respect, I’ll send the payment, but it’s also a general principle to give what’s the clients to him.  Simple procedure and doesn’t take a mad scientist to complete such a process.

I sent the payment of $225 dollars to her and she was gone for twelve hours.  No reading of my messages and no responses.  I then messaged her with a stern tone, “ummmm excuse me, could I please have my PDF and everything that was agreed upon?”

Her being a snappy human being said, “oh, a little patience would be nice. What I did for you people normally have to pay upfront.”

“Yes.  Understand that.  However, payments are through and everything is done.  I just want what’s mine.”

What scared me a bit was that I had to send the payment to a dutch name in New Zealand’s account.  That’s scary as hell, given the fact that the first payment was sent to her account and the second was sent to an account overseas.  That’s just NOT good.

So I woke up this morning feeling a bit anxious.  Do I know where she is? Yes, at the shit house where I used to work. So given the fact how nasty she is, she knows that I would never go there to try and collect my belongings.

Anywho, the responses came in and she began to blah blah blah.  So, this is a really good sign because I’m more than likely going to get my business cards and PDF at all costs.

On the other hand, what was learned? How can I help you, the reader, understand this process?

  1. NEVER WORK WITH SNAPPY INDIVIDUALS. If you see that someone is very rude, condescending, and just nasty in general…..cut your losses and find someone else.
  2. Written contracts are a must!  She mentioned it in the beginning but it never followed through, unfortunately.  Now, if I had made that payment and she ran away, I would be out of money and everything.
  3. Outline the time-frame of your work.  Four months to complete jobs that can be done in a week is absurd.  Her answers, or maybe other people’s answers were/will be, “oh, I was busy. I had to push your work back.  Sorry.”  Those are all unacceptable.  In the contract should be “if the creator fails to deliver the work on the date, all work will be forfeited.”  You need to have a legitimate timeline, or else they will constantly shove your work aside.
  4. Intuition! I knew she was a rude girl from the beginning.  She said things that were very ignorant at times and made me question her ability.  If you take a look at my logos, although they’re somewhat nice (and I’m grateful for it), it’s not a $450 dollar job and it came with too much baggage.
  5. Be assertive and address the problem from the beginning. The moment they say they can’t get it done in the given timeframe, be very frank and tell them, “look, either you’re going to do this on this timeframe or I’m forfeiting the entire project.”

Napoleon Hill: Cooperation – The Necessary Instructions For Action

Gary Vee kind of s***s on the secret, saying that “if you think you’re just going to visualize sitting in a yacht, thing again!”  He was talking on The Breakfast Club, a controversial show, and shortly after one of the speakers said, “hey, I actually believe that – but you have to follow it with action.”

See you have physical action and mental action.  You can be very active with your mind while your body is inactive.  If you believe that visualizing a billion dollars in your lap will make you obtain a billion dollars without inspired action or a burning desire, think again.

There are some men of action.  One his a dynamo and one is a balanced wheel.

The man who is a “balanced-wheel” who does nothing but compile facts, figures and statistics is just as much as a man of action as the man who goes upon the platform and sells an idea to a thousand people by the sheer power of his active personality.

A good reference is when a man, who has hated me, called for a meeting and almost my ahead.  He sat there showing statistics that were completely covering up the internal problem of the company.  He said, “your renewals are going down.”  I can sit here and justify why my renewals are going down, but the fact and matter is that one of the “top” academic teachers in the company had a 30% lower mark in renewals than me – yet I was being scrutinized heavily for students “not renewing.”

“The world pays you for what you do and not for what you know.”

This statement could be a bit misconstrued.  What the world really pays you for is what you do and what you can make others do.

A man who can make others co-operate and do effective team-work, or inspire others so that the become more active, is no less a man of action than the man who renders effective service in a more direct manner. – Napoleon Hill

The main purpose of this book and what I’m trying to convey is to help you analyze yourself and determine what your native ability.  Figuring out your definite chief-aim is the first part.

Let’s now talk about how action can be developed.

First: Form the habit of doing each day the most distasteful tasks first.  This procedure will be difficult at first, but after you have formed the habit you will take pride in pitching into the hardest and most undesirable part of your work first.

THE MUNDANE TASKS! Remember I’ve been saying this for almost two years.  Completing the most mundane tasks first and free-ing up those attention units are pivotal.  Some people like to brush it aside, but get it done, and out of the way first.

Example, if I have to write monotonously boring reports for students, bet your a$$ I’m going to do it almost immediately.  The philosophy in terms of putting something on paper for a student rather than explaining it to them face-to-face is quite unsettling.

If someone tells me to do something that I don’t want to do…but that I have to do, I’m going to hurry up and do it.

Another example is preparing for a big project.  If my colleagues say: “could you please send this, come in and talk to us about this…blah blah blah” – I’m going to do that immediately.

Second: Place this sign in front of you where you can see it in your daily work, and put a copy in your bedroom, where it will greet you as you retire and when you arise: “Do not tell them what you can do; show them!”

Third: Repeat the following words, aloud, twelve times each night just before you go to sleep: “Tomorrow I will do everything that should be done, when it should be done, and as it should be done.  I will perform the most difficult tasks first because this will destroy the habit of procrastination and develop the habit of action in its place.”

Fourth: Carry Out These Instructions with faith in their soundness and with belief that they will develop action, in body and in mind, sufficient to enable you to realize your definite chief-aim.

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Tough Mudder – Tempe, Arizona

I’ve done Melbourne, Australia (the worst mudder because it was the first with massively massive hills) 2 years ago; Bali, Indonesia last year (extremely rough terrain, but absolutely gorgeous); and now Tempe, AZ in the USA.  I got 2.5 tough mudders under my belt, and I was hoping to get my 3x mudder headband, but unfortunately I didn’t do the full.

Nonetheless, here’s a rundown and a few photos of what the dry, deserted-desert area looked like that hand endless dust-devils and other things scattered across the drylands.

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DUST DEVIL!

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Vendors

To have the likes of Jamba Juice there, Mexican food, delicious hamburgers and other things made it the best out of all three mudders I’ve done so far.  Having protein and even a merchandise tent that sold endless apparel and necessities was just amazing compared to what I’ve seen in the past.

The Course

Now, having ran in Australia already, I was a little bit aware of the dry heat.  However, there’s no way you can possibly acclimate to the inhalation of sand.  By the time the race was over, I was wheezing.  Positive: zero hills and running on pretty stable terrain compared to Bali made the course decent.

Comradery

Ahhhh, I went from being alone and bored the first 1.25 miles, to barrelling through the course and being pushed by someone who asked me, “how you doing, man?” We teamed up and started talking about life overseas and our personal trials and tribulations that vaunted our workout status to unshakable heights.  It’s incredible sharing stories with strangers and seeing miles just drop, drop, DROP OFF.  By the time we can across the obstacles where assistance was actually needed, we had met some wonderfully beautiful German beauties (the Pink Team) whereas the course got much funner.  One girl even claimed that she hadn’t worked out since February…..here I am hyperventilating because of my 5 day hiatus.  That’s the beauty of Tough Mudder; let alone Americans.  The forming of an alliance amongst strangers and putting 100% trust into them makes this an obstacle course to remember.

Going Forward

I have a Spartan Race coming up in Singapore next month, perhaps one sometime during the American summer months that will be in Kuala Lumpur, one in Thailand (AROO!) and perhaps a Tough Mudder to top off the year.  Enjoy the pictures and even my podcast down below!

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11587764

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Donating The Shoes

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Jack Canfield – Have A Heart Talk

“Most communication resembles a Ping-Pong game in which people are merely preparing to slam their next point across; but pausing to understand differing points of view and associated feelings can turn apparent opponents into true member of the same team.” – Cliff Durfee

Jack Canfield said in his book, “unfortunately, in too many business, educational, and other settings, there is never an opportunity for feelings to be expressed and hear, so they build up to the point that people have no capacity to focus on the business at hand.”

This happened at a number of places I work in the past.  A group of people sitting in a group pointing fingers and not taking the blame.  No solutions.  Not everyone got to talk.  Just a lot of arguing and crying.

People just can’t listen until they have been heard. So, I thought making a podcast and describing in detail what a “heart talk” is could help you in your personal lives.

A Heart Talk is a structured communication process in which eight agreements are strictly adhered. It creates a safe environment for communication to occur – without the fear of interruption or being rushed.  It’s also great to release suppressed emotions that could otherwise get in the way of business.

When To Use It

  • Before or during a staff meeting.
  • At the beginning of a business meeting where two new groups of people are coming together for the first time.
  • After an emotionally stimulating event like a merger, a massive layoff, a death, a major athletic loss, or even the terrorist attacks of 9/11.
  • Regular basis at home, office or classroom.

How To Conduct

  1. Size of group between 2-10 people (I think 10 is a bit large).
  2. Example the value
  3. 15-30 minutes per person.

Guidelines

  • Only the person holding “the heart” is allowed to talk
  • You don’t judge or criticise what anyone else has said.
  • You pass the heart/object to the left after you turn, or say “I pass” if you have nothing to say.
  • You talk only about how you feel.
  • You keep the information that is shared confidential.
  • You don’t leave the Heart Talk until it’s declared complete.

Result From A Heart Talk

  • Enhanced listening skills
  • Constructive expression of feelings
  • Improved conflict resolution skills
  • Improved abilities to let go of resentments and old issues
  • Development of mutual respect and understanding
  • Greater sense of connection, unity, and bonding.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9331130