My First Tedx – Rundown & Notes

So, today marked the first day of doing my first ever Tedx on my podcast.  Here are some notes.

Separation

I’m trying to create a timeline from the beginning, preface, worst month, the overcoming, and then the resilience.

For example, I started it off with a visualization exercise which pinpointed that sever racial issues that plague this country.  This literally puts people into my state of awarness and make them view the world through my eyes.  This captures the audience (remember I told you about props before) instantaneously and now I have them in the palm of my hand.  After this process, they’re locked in and feel the raw emotion of what I felt.

After that, I pointed out some of the biggest problems I had.  The night I went home and slammed my arms on my bed, weeping.  Seeing the comments: “ewww, black man! Low-class! Pimp!” — and ultimately leading into the darkest month of my life.  I want this to be a journey, bringing people into the catacombs of what I went through.

The goal for a Tedx is what can the audience take from the Tedx? What can you give them? What can disrupt their biochemistry along the way? What could, and will be their breakthrough? That’s what came in the second half of my talk.

Comment From A Teacher

This was the changing point when a teacher, who I used to work with, told me, “Arsenio, you need to utilize all your skills.  You have a radio voice.  Create a podcast.”  I asked him what should the podcast be about and he said, “you’ll figure it out.”

Little did I know my story was being created after all those years, ultimately converting it into a podcast with personal development after a botched trip to Singapore.

Yes, there were still some problems along the way and some racial tensions, but they subsided after I started feeding my mind with texts that have been written in the last 100 years.  That was the beginning.

Would love to hear your feedback in my podcast down below!

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Tedx – What To Wear

In my personal opinion, what you wear means everything on-stage.  I was referred a Tedx video by one of my colleagues, and although he did crack a few jokes, I couldn’t take his appearance.  He was wearing about 5 different colors, spoke extremely fast, and had one of the most awkward stances I’ve seen on stage.  You just can’t look ridiculous.

On the other hand, there was this video.

Now, this attire is completely understandable because the speaker is apparently still in prison, yet he delivered a speech that resonates so much in the African American community.

Nonetheless, TEDx said there are a few questions worth asking like “who am I speaking to? How’s the audience? Is it on the resort island of Bali or is it in London? That makes a HUGE difference.

Will you be filmed? If so, avoid wearing white or jet black.

Will you be using an over-the-ear microphone?  Avoid earrings that bang into the attachment – ultimately making loud, clanking noises.  Have a clean shave (for men)!

If you’re using accessories, avoid using flashy bracelets that would give off a reflection to those around you and in front of you.

What will the stage look like? Consider wearing something off-colour that sets you apart from the background.  If there’s a red background, choose a color that doesn’t blend in.  The audience loves bold, vibrant colors.

For men’s fashion, be sure your clothes are neatly pressed.  I BEG YOU! If you don’t care about the way your clothes are, I can tell just how disorganized your mind is.  I’ve worked with men before who look downright disgraceful; in addition, those specific individuals have the most personal problems.  True story.

Am I saying wear a suit? Probably not…..if you’re giving a Tedx on an island, but I would definitely consider a vest + slacks combo.  I feel that’s the most comfortable outfit and you can even dress it up or down.  Is a tie essential? In my opinion, no – unless it’s a formal outing.  Again, these little things are very important on top of knowing what type of audience you’re speaking to.

Ray Lewis knew that he would be doing a Tedx at Stanford University; therefore, he wore a gorgeous suit and tie because the majority of the crowd was Gen B.  If you’re going to wear a shirt and baggy jeans in front of Gen B, not only will you lose all respect, but they’re going to label you very fast before even saying your first line.

Just beware!

On Friday the 16th, a business associate and I will be doing an interview in terms of fashion and how it equals success….so stay tuned for that!  Hopefully this helps those out there.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12079066

Dale Carnegie + Tedx = How To Keep Your Audience

So, I’m going to post a variety of videos today in regards to how public speakers can deliver a remarkably powerful message to keep the audience.

We know how a lot of speakers are: monotone speakers, talkers, bores, we have a wide variety.  Dale Carnegie talks in his book about how someone, with the power of conviction and passion, can lure the audience in and keep them.  It’s a combination of using the right emotion while speaking from the heart.  Let me give you a few examples and rundowns of what I think are and aren’t speakers who deliver the power of eloquence.

Regardless of him being Sir Ken Robinson, this monotone type speaking just kills me.  We have all had the professors in our past who can ramble for 2-3 hours and put everyone to sleep within the first 15….Ken is one.  No disrespect to his message, but the hastily speaking and lack of passion made me turn this one off within a few minutes.  Yes, he had some humor and there were some applauses, but you also have to evaluate the crowd he was speaking to.  13 years ago and in a foreign country, people wouldn’t get the majority of his jokes and probably wouldn’t understand half of his presentation because of how fast it is.

Yes, I will say this….having the accent she did with little to no grammatical mistakes was great, and even delivering the message about compassion and how NIST (international school in Bangkok) does separate themselves from just about 99.9% institutions around the world (including the most prestigious universities), if she would’ve spoken with a little more passion, it could’ve been great.  Also, the papers is one thing Dale Carnegie would talk about in terms of a distractor.  People would be glued into what she’s holding….so I say forgo the papers.  If you need to glance at something and get a hold of yourself, then so be it.  It also sounded a bit like verbatim to me, too.

2:09 – 2:38….this is one of the most remarkable storytellers I’ve ever seen.  Don Jose Ruiz….just simply amazing and definitely the most riveting of them all (debatable against Lisa Nichols).  This is how you tell a story, like I’ve mentioned a many of times on Tedx podcasts, with passion and conviction.

One of my favorite speakers of all-time.  The way she describes her stories in vivid detail is awe-inspiring.  How’s she able to make that audience feel everything she’s saying….there aren’t a lot of people like her in the public speaking realm.  This is how you relate completely to the audience.

A combination of remarkable finesse, humor, tears, and rejoice.  Les Brown is someone I’ve learned so much from and that I feel overtime I put him on in the morning.

Listen closely to the audiences.  See how they react.  When you do, you’ll see that some of these speakers merely talk on stage and others take the audience on a roller coaster.

Honorable Mention – Ray Lewis

TEDx – Presentation Literacy: The Skill You Can Build

That moment you’re standing in front of a class of 15, to standing in front of thousands of people who are waiting anxiously for you to say that first word to captivate them. YES! It’s difficult.  It’s terrifying.  From memorizing verbatim; to not remembering even your introduction.

Les Brown said, “you know what, I get as scared as I possibly can.  I stare fear in the face and make a grunt.  I talk to myself, and not in an ordinary fashion, either.  I  yell at myself and said I’M GOING TO GET OFF TODAY!”

That’s what you have to do.

Does Monica Lewinsky ring a bell? This lady went to TED to meet with Chris Anderson and co, and just imagine how terrifying it was for her to finally come out on stage in wake of one of the biggest presidential scandals in the history of America.  The feeling of trepidation and sheer terror of facing the audience after it happened was the most gruelling moments of her life; however, when your back is against the wall and have nothing to lose, you deliver.

And so….she did.  With a rousing ovation the followed and one of her top critics issuing a formal apology to her. BRAVO!

Anyone know Elon Musk? Spacex? Imagine having two failed launches and the third one a catastrophic failure (explosion).  Having a team of hundreds of people sitting in despair waiting to be addressed.  At that time, Elon Musk, who was never a great speaker, delivered one of the most heart-stopping speeches whereas it went from catastrophe to triumph – just by his words. That’s the power of a single talk.

Ted, too, had almost died in the wake of the DOTCOM debacle in the early 2000’s.  Chris Anderson, who’s head of TED, had to deliver a speech that reasserted the faith into his people whom no longer were on board with TED.  70 employees waiting and again, when all odds are stacked against you, human beings have a tendency of establishing a deliverance.  Something that will restore the faith in their family, group, organization, company.

No matter how little confidence you have at present in terms of speaking in public, you can begin to turn it around.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11406435