Arsenio’s ESL Podcast: International Guest Speaker – Actress/Tedx Speaker Ariane del Melo of Brazil

Had the wonderful pleasure of bringing on an amazing human being. International Guest Speakers are back in action! Tune in for some great stuff and the show notes are down below.

Get in touch with Ariane del Melo, a TED Speaker.

Links:

Things we discussed:

Why the move to Germany.

Journalism, cultural differences, racial stereotypes and the flawed education system.

What the interviewee’s feeling about Germany is.

German language.

Sharing about teaching English in German kindergarten and being a salesperson in a German store.

The calling of ambition.

Entering the realm of theatrics.

A bullying victim and an experience in a German school.

What the advantages are of performing arts.

German and American performing arts difference.

Inner voice.

Advantages of facing death.

Her writing experiences.

How did the host earn herself a writing internship and a publishing contract? Learning German.

The beauty of Germany and the opportunities it has for foreigners.

Purpose of self-development.

Being yourself is important.

Being authenticity isn’t being creative but it is who you are.

Thank you for listening!

Links:

  1. Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/thearseniobuckshow/
  2. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thearseniobuckshow/?hl=en
  3. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIzp4EdbJVMhhSnq_0u4ntA
  4. Podcasts: https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow, https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-arsenio-buck-show/id1181794790?mt=2, https://open.spotify.com/show/0x39CEN5tHvfRtfZaAMTgQ?si=8cpdu1rTTjKHogufXh91Cw
  5. Website: https://thearseniobuckshow.com/
  6. Twitter: https://twitter.com/arseniobuckshow?lang=en

Career Goals For 2018

Well, this is the big one! I mean there’s Tedx, working for companies (on my own contracts), there’s the podcast, Herbalife, YouTube, selling things on my website, business cards, meetings, presentations.  Omg! I mean I really need to thing and plan this one out thoroughly.

Podcast

One of the biggest goals of course for this year is building a bigger audience. Stagnation does happen from time-to-time.  Has my podcast been on the incline? Absolutely YES.  I mean in 2016, I would be excited if I get 1-5 plays in one day.  Now that I’ve enabled downloading on my podcast, everything has taken off.  There are third-party websites picking up my podcast.  I’m on iHeartRadio and Stitcher along with dozens of others.  I bought a year-long subscription on SoundCloud to reach out to people on there and it’s all going very well.  The next big step is obviously Spotify.

I definitely need MORE INTERVIEWS! Since I’ve already established a schedule, there’s a one day void on Monday and I would love to do four interviews a month.  I have two prospectives at the moment.  One person, who I was suppose to do a podcast interview last week until technical difficulties, has gone completely silent.  Perhaps he was frustrated with the entire ordeal – and he had a reason to be. LOL. It happens.

Collaborations are extremely important.  Having people put me on their podcast and provide a link…or even attaching the link to a blog is very important.  Example, there was one particular “hollywood” personality who I got in touch with and I think she was all up for the podcast on my end; however, she then asked for $995.  I laughed because she had just a hair over 1k followers.  Smh.

YouTube

My students, at the company that recently expunged me (I love saying this – lol), looked my educational videos up on YouTube back in October.  When they did this, I realized my plays went from 2k to 3k in a months span.  Since then. My videos are at 4.6k.  I’ve looked at the geographical location and it points basically everywhere: Indonesia, Brazil, Antigua, France, Reunion, South Korea, Morocco, Algeria, Tunisia, Switzerland.  You name it.  I couldn’t believe it because I hadn’t made an educational video in the past two years! So, I decided to make a ton of videos and I make sure content is being distributed rapidly.  I now have my graphic designer working on a new banner and a few other things.

Herbalife

I’m not one of those people that like shoving products or anything down others’ faces.  I did this probably a few years ago in trying to convince some of my friends that they should try Herbalife…and it never worked.  After that, I just didn’t care anymore.  If I could just live it, people will come.  Since then, lots of people, including co-workers and students, have asked me about the products.  No, I haven’t gone up the ranks since 2013, but I do want to take the great leap sometime in the last quarter of this year and start set up a new stream of income.

Book

Grrrrr this is the one! I was thinking of having a ghostwriter do it for me, but no one knows the story of what I went through here in Thailand more than I! I mean I have to tell it very vividly and descriptively.  I wish I had documented everything when it occurred, but I didn’t.  I just recently watched a TedX about a girl saying, “staying silent is the worse thing you can do.”  Well, I need to speak up about the experiences I’ve had in this country once and for all.  Just doing it is the catch…but if I can just brainstorm a couple of pages in the morning and make it my number one priority for the year = BINGO!

Website

The website is going to come into fruition over the next few months (before my anticipatory leave to South America), and on there will be lots of PDF’s templates and other things for my students all around the world to buy and stuff.  Luckily I have a graphic designer that’s doing amazing work at the moment; and what’s even more is I have the savings to pay for it all.  Very ecstatic and grateful for it.  Now, when this website launches, this WordPress site is going to be switched over there.  WordPress hasn’t provided me with much of anything except traffic.  Even the payment button is faulty.  If I want to sell things and plugins, I have to pay an additional 150$, which isn’t even worth it (sorry, WordPress); so I’m going to have a brilliant graphic designer build my website from scratch.  WOOHOO!

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/career-goals-for-2018

Happy New Years + Goal-Setting Time + YouTube Video/Podcast

HAPPY NEW YEARS!

Being on top of my balcony and seeing the amount of fireworks I did last night was just resounding.  I felt the love in the air and now I’m onto the biggest year of my life (as I said last year and it exceeded my expectations).

On the other hand, the majority of people this  morning have resolutions, but they don’t have the proper techniques, skills, and things in place to make their “goals” manifest.

For one, resolutions base-word is “resolve,” meaning you’re looking to resolve something in your life.  You can handle that just by dumping the girlfriend/boyfriends, quitting the s***ty job, and learning how to say ‘no’ more often.

So, let me let you in on some techniques + some of the goals I set for myself in the past and what’s happening this 2018.

Habits

What’s a habit? Something that has turned into a daily party of our routine.  We wake up, brush out teeth, take a shower, get ready — that’s all habitual.  It’s on auto-pilot.  However, we’re oblivious to the bad habits that are happening: eating junk food, engaging in heated online debates, watching television, being around the wrong who bitch all the time.  These are also habits.  So what did I do?

2017 Was The Change

I needed to compile a morning routine that would ultimately help me win the day.  You have what Jim Quik said in terms of brushing your teeth with the opposite hand, making your bed, etc.  These are all wonderfully great things, but I’m still not able to win it.  I’ll give you a nice glimpse at my morning.

Normally at 5:30am I wake up (I sleep the night before at about 9:30), and I go straight into a meditation.  If I have a busy morning, which I normally do, I do the meditation “overcoming procrastination,” which is a guided meditation with one of the apps I use (let me know if you want the name in the comment section).  After that, I would take my vitamins and possibly even a pre-workout, depending on if I workout in the morning.  After that, I post on an inspirational message on my instagram, and sometimes even my podcast (which could’ve been pre-recorded).  I then record or pre-record a live podcast.  Now, depending on if I’m working out in the morning or not, for the bulk of this year, I would workout around 8am.

  • Meditation
  • Posts on Instagram
  • Inspirational message on twitter
  • Podcast
  • Blog
  • Workout
  • Work
  • Grateful List

This was the bulk of my year, but things have changed.  So, if I workout (and now I do) at 6:45am, my podcast has to be pre-recorded and blog done the day before.  During the commute, I would post everything on social media and then hit it hard.  After I workout and before I go to work, I would have my protein shake, rice & pork, and respond to emails, messages and other things for 30 minutes before my students arrive.

This is how I ultimately had such an effective morning for a good portion of the year.

Sure, it’s not always going to work, but a behavior compounded over time becomes a habit.  That’s what you will need to succeed.

Night Routine

Same as the morning routine. Now, night routines are extremely difficult at times because once I get home, I want to get on the news.  This is why I’ve been media fasting on and off.  Reading something that doesn’t pertain to me, my goals, and just revolves around the ‘circle of concern’ is disastrous.  However, on the nights everything did work, this is how it went.

During my commute home I turn off all notifications.  I say what I need to say, respond to emails, then that’s it.  When I get home I make sure I set everything up for the next day.  Clothes are packed, bottles for working out, belts, socks — YOU NAME IT!  This is how it happened.  If I can read before I sleep, it would be a success.  Normally, I always do my meditation.  Now, depending on how the day went, there’s a lot of head trash that gets thrown at me throughout the day at work.  Opinions and ignorance of colleagues, management, and just being in a very “slummy” area where people look down on me.  Those tides have changed though.  But when these things happened, I would do the “detox my mind” podcast so I can wake up fresh.

Goal-Setting

Here’s a list of things to add into your morning routine.

  • Make your bed
  • Grateful list
  • Meditation (20 minutes)
  • Exercise (20 minutes)
  • Read (20 minutes)
  • Inspirational podcast or YouTube video (I listen to Gary Vee)
  • News Feed on all social media MUST have inspirational messages on there.  Follow the people that make you feel better.

Now, onto Goal-Setting.

Now, first thing is first…get rid of these phrases: I wish, if only, I don’t, I can’t, but I don’t have….

These are all doomers.  They’re either in the future or completely denying your ability and mindset of obtaining a goal.

When you figure out your vision, life-purpose, desire, objectives and everything for this year, then you can unleash the power.  Thinking about goals gives you a 43% chance of obtaining them.  Writing them down gives you a 56% chance.  Sharing them with a friend bumps it up to a 64% chance.  And then there’s the weekly progress report to a friend – 76%.  This gives you an idea of how it works.

To make sure the goal is imbedded into your subconscious mind, you must meet two criteria: how much (measurable quantity), and by when (specific time).

Example: I want to travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan.  – Wrong

The conditional “I want” is a killer.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan this year. 

  • Better, but there isn’t a specific time frame.

I will travel to Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan on April 13th by Astana Airlines and come back April 20th. 

  • Now this is sexy.  I have the time, month, and even specific airline.

The universe loves action!

Go online and start looking for the airlines, hotels and everything that relates to your travel.  This is something that my mother was never able to overcome because she always said, “I don’t have any money. I wish I can go, but my finances aren’t straightened out.”  They never will be! There’s never a right time for anything! When you get that intuitive nudge, act!

This is the power of goal-setting.  Visualize yourself being on the snowboarding fields in Hokkaido, Japan by listening to a blizzard and fire crackling.  Look up how much the tickets are, where to stay, and everything that relates to the trip.  That’s where the magic happens.

Podcast

 

YouTube Video

Lewis Howes: Material Mask: Part IV – What Can You Do Now?

When Lewis Howes sat down with Tony Robbins on a few instance, I still remember the story Tony told.  I know this story from the back of my mind, and shockingly enough, Sir John Templeton (who I gave a bad rap on his Tedx for because his on-stage presence and attire – lol!) told him about the essence of giving.

What’s that story?

“I said, ‘Hi,’ I think he said his name was Ronny, and I said, ‘Ronny, you’re a class act. I saw you open the door for your lady, I saw you hold out the chair for your lady.’ He goes, ‘She’s my mom.’ I said, ‘That’s even more classy.’”

Tony commended him for taking his mom out to lunch. The kid looked at him with a serious face the way young kids do who haven’t learned how to joke around yet, and he said, “I’m not really taking her to lunch. I’m just 11 and I don’t have a job.”
Without even thinking about it, Tony gave the kid all the money in his pocket—basically all he had left in the world—so he could take his mother out to lunch. Then he walked out of the restaurant and went on with his life.

Think about that: Tony had no money, no way to pay his rent, and he was going to have to consider going hungry for his next several meals. Yet he was euphoric. He told me he basically flew home, he felt so proud of himself.

The next day, he checked his mail and found a letter from a guy he’d been hounding about a business transaction for months, who hadn’t returned his calls. In the letter was a check for $1,000 plus interest, and an apology.

Tony began to cry. How could something like that happen? Were the two events related? He told me he decided that they were:

I don’t know if it’s true, but I decided that day that this happened because I did the right thing. Because I didn’t have a plan, it wasn’t a strategy, I always felt this little soul beside me, I knew what was right, and I did it. I didn’t do it because I thought I could or I couldn’t, I didn’t even think about it, and that’s the day I became a wealthy man, because I still didn’t have any money, but scarcity left my body. I’ve had plenty of ups and downs since that time, but I never went back to that fearful mindset of, “Oh my God, how’s it going to happen?” – Tony Robbins

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

Lewis Howes went on to say that what Tony was describing at that present time was the Material Mask being ripped off.  It was no longer about him, his indecision, scarcity and being broke on so many levels because of wanting the luxury of things.

When Lewis Howes did the interview in Tony’s private jet, Tony didn’t talk so much about the figures, but more about what his accomplishments and especially feeding people all over the planet.  There was a time that a neighbor gave his family a full thanksgiving dinner – which was too much to bear for his father, whom later walked out on Tony and his mother.  Can you imagine that? Since then, Tony went on a venture to feed as many people around the planet as he can.

Do you hear about those humanitarian rewards with Tai?

What Can You Do Right Now?

“What we need to realize is that we are valuable, regardless of what we have. We need to recognize that, while living behind the Material Mask, there will never be such a thing as “enough” when it comes to a sufficient sense of self-worth as a man.” – Lewis Howes

Here is what you can do to practice gratitude on a daily basis. I do many of these myself, and you can start them right now:

1.When you wake up, take out your journal and write down three things for which you’re grateful.

2.Before you go to sleep, ask the last person you talk to three things they are most grateful for from the day, and in reply tell them what you are grateful for from the day too.

3.My voicemail message asks people to share what they are most grateful for when they leave a message. Feel free to copy the idea.

4.Start meetings with your team or business partners with a moment that allows everyone to share what they are grateful for.

5.Acknowledge people daily with a few words that express what you’re grateful for about them.”

Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/lewis-howes-material-mask-part-iv-what-c

Darren Hardy: Find Your Fight + Goals

So, my first podcast (which will be below the first part of this in terms of finding your fight) was uploaded yesterday.  I didn’t have time to attach the blog with it, and I also got a real time text message about a job denying me work and see how I reacted to it.  Great experience. Lol

And into “finding your fight.”

Now, Darren Hardy talked about using friction, anger and hate to press up against something you don’t like.  I strongly disagree, respectfully.  It’s like the people who asked Mother Teresa if she wanted to go to an Anti-_________ rally.  She never went, but when she said, “if you make a pro-peace rally, I’ll go.”

The more you press up against something you dislike or get back at someone, you’ll never feel accomplished and you’ll be bringing more of that.

Gary Vee mentioned that he does things to stick it back in other people’s faces.  Again, people have a way of doing it, but the antagonists, naysayers, and people that want to see you fail will continue dissecting every detail of you to find something else to complain about.  It will be a never-ending whirlwind of critcism you’re redirecting constantly over to yourself because you feel you have to do it to prove someone wrong.

I’m telling you now that they will continue to win.  Just remember, No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.

Podcast From Yesterday

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-core-motivation-dont-use-it

 

Goals

The compound effect, just like the Law of Attraction, is always working – whether you believe it or not.  You can use it for you, or against you.  Most successful people in the world have quiet time for meditation, other people say that meditation isn’t for them.  It’s all based on preference. However, if you can get to a deeper level of your core, you will find the treasure.  I have a particular friend who works at a bank who says she doesn’t know what she loves.  Well, try new things! “Well, my mother said I can’t.”

Now’s not the time to be rescue 911.  If she doesn’t start now, she’ll look back to now at the age of 70 saying, “I wish I had…..”

Don’t be that person.

Ask yourself: “what goals, dreams and destinations do I desire?”

Honestly, ask yourself that question.  If you’re not making progress in life, and shooting aimlessly, it’s because your goals aren’t clearly defined and you just simply don’t have a definite chief-aim in life.  How can you learn to effectively to set and achieve goals?

Was Australia on my bucket list back in 2009? No.  However, in 2005, it gave me a glimpse of what was to come when I did a convention with a friend involving lots of managers from Australia at the Mandalay Bay Resort & Casino. That wasn’t a clearly defined goal, but rather an insight.

I always wanted to travel to Japan, Singapore, Bali and Maldives…when I put these onto my dreamboard, it happened.  It may not work for you, but it worked for me.

You only see, experience, and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. In fact, the object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not the mysterious, esoteric voodoo it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simpler and more practical than that. – Darren Hardy

We are bombarded with visual, audio and physical things everyday.  Have you ever been thinking about that person and later get a phone call from them? How about that car you want? You start seeing the car a heck of a lot more, right? Is it realistic? Perhaps.  Maybe the cars were there all along and you just weren’t paying attention to it.

When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look into and focus on. This is why our subconscious mind and feeding your mind with what you want one hour before you retire at night is imperative.  If you watch bad news, what shows up in your dreams? If you do work on that project, shop for that house, look for flights to Kazakhstan, and look at YouTube videos of travel in Morocco….your subconscious mind will work on it overnight.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-part-ii-goal-setting

 

My First Tedx – Rundown & Notes

So, today marked the first day of doing my first ever Tedx on my podcast.  Here are some notes.

Separation

I’m trying to create a timeline from the beginning, preface, worst month, the overcoming, and then the resilience.

For example, I started it off with a visualization exercise which pinpointed that sever racial issues that plague this country.  This literally puts people into my state of awarness and make them view the world through my eyes.  This captures the audience (remember I told you about props before) instantaneously and now I have them in the palm of my hand.  After this process, they’re locked in and feel the raw emotion of what I felt.

After that, I pointed out some of the biggest problems I had.  The night I went home and slammed my arms on my bed, weeping.  Seeing the comments: “ewww, black man! Low-class! Pimp!” — and ultimately leading into the darkest month of my life.  I want this to be a journey, bringing people into the catacombs of what I went through.

The goal for a Tedx is what can the audience take from the Tedx? What can you give them? What can disrupt their biochemistry along the way? What could, and will be their breakthrough? That’s what came in the second half of my talk.

Comment From A Teacher

This was the changing point when a teacher, who I used to work with, told me, “Arsenio, you need to utilize all your skills.  You have a radio voice.  Create a podcast.”  I asked him what should the podcast be about and he said, “you’ll figure it out.”

Little did I know my story was being created after all those years, ultimately converting it into a podcast with personal development after a botched trip to Singapore.

Yes, there were still some problems along the way and some racial tensions, but they subsided after I started feeding my mind with texts that have been written in the last 100 years.  That was the beginning.

Would love to hear your feedback in my podcast down below!

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/arsenio-bucks-tedx-round-1-untitled

Tedx – What To Wear

In my personal opinion, what you wear means everything on-stage.  I was referred a Tedx video by one of my colleagues, and although he did crack a few jokes, I couldn’t take his appearance.  He was wearing about 5 different colors, spoke extremely fast, and had one of the most awkward stances I’ve seen on stage.  You just can’t look ridiculous.

On the other hand, there was this video.

Now, this attire is completely understandable because the speaker is apparently still in prison, yet he delivered a speech that resonates so much in the African American community.

Nonetheless, TEDx said there are a few questions worth asking like “who am I speaking to? How’s the audience? Is it on the resort island of Bali or is it in London? That makes a HUGE difference.

Will you be filmed? If so, avoid wearing white or jet black.

Will you be using an over-the-ear microphone?  Avoid earrings that bang into the attachment – ultimately making loud, clanking noises.  Have a clean shave (for men)!

If you’re using accessories, avoid using flashy bracelets that would give off a reflection to those around you and in front of you.

What will the stage look like? Consider wearing something off-colour that sets you apart from the background.  If there’s a red background, choose a color that doesn’t blend in.  The audience loves bold, vibrant colors.

For men’s fashion, be sure your clothes are neatly pressed.  I BEG YOU! If you don’t care about the way your clothes are, I can tell just how disorganized your mind is.  I’ve worked with men before who look downright disgraceful; in addition, those specific individuals have the most personal problems.  True story.

Am I saying wear a suit? Probably not…..if you’re giving a Tedx on an island, but I would definitely consider a vest + slacks combo.  I feel that’s the most comfortable outfit and you can even dress it up or down.  Is a tie essential? In my opinion, no – unless it’s a formal outing.  Again, these little things are very important on top of knowing what type of audience you’re speaking to.

Ray Lewis knew that he would be doing a Tedx at Stanford University; therefore, he wore a gorgeous suit and tie because the majority of the crowd was Gen B.  If you’re going to wear a shirt and baggy jeans in front of Gen B, not only will you lose all respect, but they’re going to label you very fast before even saying your first line.

Just beware!

On Friday the 16th, a business associate and I will be doing an interview in terms of fashion and how it equals success….so stay tuned for that!  Hopefully this helps those out there.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12079066

Dale Carnegie + Tedx = How To Keep Your Audience

So, I’m going to post a variety of videos today in regards to how public speakers can deliver a remarkably powerful message to keep the audience.

We know how a lot of speakers are: monotone speakers, talkers, bores, we have a wide variety.  Dale Carnegie talks in his book about how someone, with the power of conviction and passion, can lure the audience in and keep them.  It’s a combination of using the right emotion while speaking from the heart.  Let me give you a few examples and rundowns of what I think are and aren’t speakers who deliver the power of eloquence.

Regardless of him being Sir Ken Robinson, this monotone type speaking just kills me.  We have all had the professors in our past who can ramble for 2-3 hours and put everyone to sleep within the first 15….Ken is one.  No disrespect to his message, but the hastily speaking and lack of passion made me turn this one off within a few minutes.  Yes, he had some humor and there were some applauses, but you also have to evaluate the crowd he was speaking to.  13 years ago and in a foreign country, people wouldn’t get the majority of his jokes and probably wouldn’t understand half of his presentation because of how fast it is.

Yes, I will say this….having the accent she did with little to no grammatical mistakes was great, and even delivering the message about compassion and how NIST (international school in Bangkok) does separate themselves from just about 99.9% institutions around the world (including the most prestigious universities), if she would’ve spoken with a little more passion, it could’ve been great.  Also, the papers is one thing Dale Carnegie would talk about in terms of a distractor.  People would be glued into what she’s holding….so I say forgo the papers.  If you need to glance at something and get a hold of yourself, then so be it.  It also sounded a bit like verbatim to me, too.

2:09 – 2:38….this is one of the most remarkable storytellers I’ve ever seen.  Don Jose Ruiz….just simply amazing and definitely the most riveting of them all (debatable against Lisa Nichols).  This is how you tell a story, like I’ve mentioned a many of times on Tedx podcasts, with passion and conviction.

One of my favorite speakers of all-time.  The way she describes her stories in vivid detail is awe-inspiring.  How’s she able to make that audience feel everything she’s saying….there aren’t a lot of people like her in the public speaking realm.  This is how you relate completely to the audience.

A combination of remarkable finesse, humor, tears, and rejoice.  Les Brown is someone I’ve learned so much from and that I feel overtime I put him on in the morning.

Listen closely to the audiences.  See how they react.  When you do, you’ll see that some of these speakers merely talk on stage and others take the audience on a roller coaster.

Honorable Mention – Ray Lewis

TEDx – Getting Personal

Audiences could be warm, fuzzy, empathetic and loving; other audiences could be cold and monotonous to the point you lose inspiration in even giving a talk.

If you look at comedic stand-ups (although TED is much difference from hurling jokes at people), they look at people in the audience who’s enjoying their show, not the one’s who are disinterested.  There are tough crowds all around the world.  In America, L.A. and New York could have the toughest.  Across the pacific, Sydney and especially Melbourne would be just as difficult.  Why? Not sure….but a lot of people are apprehensive with letting someone put “thought” into their minds.

Communication

I like to look at my stage at a 180 degree angle and I find someone at the 180, 45, 90, 45, and 180.  When you’re talking and speaking amongst everyone, everyone seems to be interested.  There will be a handful of people who are fully engaged in your ideas, so it’s imperative to communicate with all sides of the audience.

Scientists have said that the act of two people staring at each other triggers an adoption of the emotional state.  It’s kind of like a sync.  What’s the best way to do that? SMILE! In a world where we don’t see a lot of people smiling, this is now a technology that can transform how a talk is received.

Showing vulnerability and opening yourself up is extremely crucial, too.  Looking back at Ray Lewis’ Ted Talk, he wasn’t afraid of showing the audience the pain he went through as a child when his step-father would beat his mother.  He had no shame.  However, it’s also important that you don’t overshare.  Don’t talk about you ex wife or ex gf….that could leave the audience squirming for retreat.

Making them laugh….naturally, triggers one of the best emotional reactions.  It’s kind of like if you meet someone by greeting them…and someone botches the handshake and you guys end of laughing.  Because of that emotional trigger, you’re more prone to memorize that particular person’s name because the laughter you both had.  That’s how you could be remembered on stage, but don’t force it.  If you’re not funny, don’t be funny.  If you’re serious, be serious.  If you’re egomaniacal, adopt a new personality before your talk.

And of course, learning how to become an influential story teller.  I’ll post a YouTube video from A-Fest in regards to Don Jose Ruiz and the wondrous Lisa Nichols.

YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFLWPLS1VzI&t=4363s

01:02:23 Lisa Nichols “Run, Leap, Soar”

02:09:07 Don Jose Ruiz “Expanding Art from the Heart”

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11486300

 

 

 

TEDx – Common Traps of Speakers

There was a famed author at TED not too long ago who Chris Anderson was so excited to see because of his speaking capabilities.

What happened instead horrified him.  This is called the Sales Pitch.

If you go on stage, especially at TED, you CANNOT go on stage with intent to sale a product, especially yourself.  It’s all about giving the idea.  This particular individual said he had an idea worth sharing and it soon turned into an advertisement of what he was selling, himself and his services.  The audience began to get antsy and lost a lot of respect for him in the beginning stages; however, Chris Anderson went nervously up to the stage with his mic slightly on and told the man,

“I have a request here.  Could you actually tell us about the actual type of thinking you recommend, please? Just so we have a takeaway?”

The man went on to say that it would take three weeks to tell them the idea, but after pushing, Chris made him tell them the idea with 18 minutes instead.

Not only is this a greedy approach, but your reputation and respect is also on the line if you take the stage with intent to take away from the audience instead of giving.

The Ramble and Org Bore

Chris said it’s one thing to become underprepared, but to boast that you’ve come underprepared is insulting.  You’re wasting everyone’s precious time.  If you come on stage strutting saying, “I was thinking of what to say when I was coming over here.”  A lot of talks like this are meandering.  They have nothing to say.  It’s almost like a conversation with one’s self in the mirror whereas the audience sits in disarray, polite claps in the end and says, “that was hard to sit through.”

Having the special privilege to publicly speak is inspiring to say the least.  You could change one’s life completely just by inserting an idea within the mind.  If you come to the forefront with absolutely nothing at hand, your reputation is completely tarnished and you have canned a golden opportunity of making a name for yourself.

More on my Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11429555