Darren Hardy: Find Your Fight + Goals

So, my first podcast (which will be below the first part of this in terms of finding your fight) was uploaded yesterday.  I didn’t have time to attach the blog with it, and I also got a real time text message about a job denying me work and see how I reacted to it.  Great experience. Lol

And into “finding your fight.”

Now, Darren Hardy talked about using friction, anger and hate to press up against something you don’t like.  I strongly disagree, respectfully.  It’s like the people who asked Mother Teresa if she wanted to go to an Anti-_________ rally.  She never went, but when she said, “if you make a pro-peace rally, I’ll go.”

The more you press up against something you dislike or get back at someone, you’ll never feel accomplished and you’ll be bringing more of that.

Gary Vee mentioned that he does things to stick it back in other people’s faces.  Again, people have a way of doing it, but the antagonists, naysayers, and people that want to see you fail will continue dissecting every detail of you to find something else to complain about.  It will be a never-ending whirlwind of critcism you’re redirecting constantly over to yourself because you feel you have to do it to prove someone wrong.

I’m telling you now that they will continue to win.  Just remember, No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.

Podcast From Yesterday

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-core-motivation-dont-use-it

 

Goals

The compound effect, just like the Law of Attraction, is always working – whether you believe it or not.  You can use it for you, or against you.  Most successful people in the world have quiet time for meditation, other people say that meditation isn’t for them.  It’s all based on preference. However, if you can get to a deeper level of your core, you will find the treasure.  I have a particular friend who works at a bank who says she doesn’t know what she loves.  Well, try new things! “Well, my mother said I can’t.”

Now’s not the time to be rescue 911.  If she doesn’t start now, she’ll look back to now at the age of 70 saying, “I wish I had…..”

Don’t be that person.

Ask yourself: “what goals, dreams and destinations do I desire?”

Honestly, ask yourself that question.  If you’re not making progress in life, and shooting aimlessly, it’s because your goals aren’t clearly defined and you just simply don’t have a definite chief-aim in life.  How can you learn to effectively to set and achieve goals?

Was Australia on my bucket list back in 2009? No.  However, in 2005, it gave me a glimpse of what was to come when I did a convention with a friend involving lots of managers from Australia at the Mandalay Bay Resort & Casino. That wasn’t a clearly defined goal, but rather an insight.

I always wanted to travel to Japan, Singapore, Bali and Maldives…when I put these onto my dreamboard, it happened.  It may not work for you, but it worked for me.

You only see, experience, and get what you look for. If you don’t know what to look for, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are goal-seeking creatures. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. In fact, the object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the Law of Attraction really works. It is not the mysterious, esoteric voodoo it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simpler and more practical than that. – Darren Hardy

We are bombarded with visual, audio and physical things everyday.  Have you ever been thinking about that person and later get a phone call from them? How about that car you want? You start seeing the car a heck of a lot more, right? Is it realistic? Perhaps.  Maybe the cars were there all along and you just weren’t paying attention to it.

When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look into and focus on. This is why our subconscious mind and feeding your mind with what you want one hour before you retire at night is imperative.  If you watch bad news, what shows up in your dreams? If you do work on that project, shop for that house, look for flights to Kazakhstan, and look at YouTube videos of travel in Morocco….your subconscious mind will work on it overnight.

Podcast

https://www.spreaker.com/user/thearseniobuckshow/darren-hardy-part-ii-goal-setting

 

Negative Opinions About “The Secret”

When the secret was first introduced to the world back in 2006, I was unaware of it until 2007.  I still remember that day like it was yesterday, because I ended up attracting to me my father, who I hadn’t seen in the previous six years of my life, on the bus.  Within an hour after finishing the movie, I narrowly got onto a bus where my father entered just two stops later.  I snugged my head between my legs and said, “nope, I’m not saying a damn thang to that fool!”

Within an hour I realized how I can attract individuals into my life.  About a month later, I got into a shouting party with my brother because he unwittingly demeaned everything about the secret saying, “the universe? Ahh hell nah. That s***s too crazy for me” in dumb downed rhetoric.  My friend Ty, who’s attending Harvard’s Dental School at this very moment, came between us and a war of fists.

Why am I bringing up these two situations that coincide with each other? Well, I saw someone by the name of Gary V ranting in front of a crowd about how ‘The Secret’ is bs.  Now, you have to remember that criticizing others beliefs, differences, cultural backgrounds and opinions is a gateway to a fierce argument.  I always tell my listeners that you can be a believer in god, allah, buddha, or anything you want – what you must do, though….is accept others opinions – regardless if you believe it to be right or wrong.

He went on to say that “being positive is the key”…but being positive is also cultivated from the mind, which has created so much of what’s around us.  On top of that, the mind is energy, and energy is the universe.  This is exactly what ‘The Secret’ is.

I won’t go on a long disagreement, but remember, never let people use auto-suggestion to dictate your beliefs.  If I was weak, I would’ve allowed myself to believe his opinion and do away with what’s written in my essence.  This is the destroyer of so many futures because we listen to other people and create our beliefs around it.

Believe in what you believe in and don’t let someone else say otherwise.

Purposeful Relationship #3 – Linda

I love looking back on my life and figuring out what the purpose was of each relationship.  Probably not all, but one’s that left such a lasting effect on my life.

Linda Booker.  Ahhhh….just an odd afternoon at the College of Southern Nevada back in 2012 – witnessing Bruce Leroy and so many other interesting characters at a gym while advertising a clinic.  There was a lady standing by her booth giving people free water and she had some products on the table for show, but I didn’t pay any mind until the very last moments of the entire segment.

She offered us a free H2O drink (Herbalife), and being as groggy as I was at that particular moment, I certainly didn’t turn it down.  Within minutes after drinking it, I woke up and became alert in the snap of some fingers.  Full with B vitamins, she gave me a drink that changed the trajectory of the way I view health.  We exchanged contact details and went on about our day.  I kept telling her, for months, that I would go to her office and visit.  It wasn’t until the distasteful taste of a protein bar at 24 hour fitness that I realized, “maybe I should go buy protein from Linda.”

From that point going forward, she introduced me to a side business I have to this day and to products that I use for both inner and outer nutrition.

It wasn’t just the introduction to Herbalife, but I felt she was the mother I never had in terms of positivity.  At that time, for the last 2 months of my stay in America (leading up to the May 2013 departure to Thailand), my family and I had a very loud relationship where I tried staying away from them as much as possible (because of the toxicity of them).  Linda was my escape pod.  Her husband was also a father figure that I never had, either.

Sadly, Linda and I no longer speak because the purpose was fulfilled back in March of 2013.  When I finally reached Thailand, we kept in contact just for a short while until I realized we weren’t the same anymore.  I removed her from social media for about a year until I tried salvaging the relationship just a short while later.  Nope, she unfortunately lost her business and returned back to the hospital, which she resented so much.

What you have to realize people that relationships, such as the one I experienced with Linda, are called purposeful relationships.  After the purpose is met, the relationship will take a turn forever.  It won’t necessarily end, but it’ll never be the same again.

Linda, being a remarkable cancer survivor, is by far one of the best relationships I needed at that specific time in my life.  Going through a range of emotions with my potential employer (in Thailand) and my mother, it just seemed like everything was about to fall apart just shortly before my departure to Thailand.  However, this being, along with her grandparents and acquaintances, stepped in and made me realize how much life had to offer.

Thank you, Linda.  You’ve changed my life forever.

Napoleon Hill: Lawrence Massacre + Ending of Self-Control.

If and when an angry person starts in to vilify and abuse you, justly or unjustly, it’s your reaction and the retaliation in a like manner where you will either be drawn down to that person’s mental level, or rise above it.  If you do fall down to their level, that means that person is dominating you.

On the other hand, if you just refuse to become angry and have that self-composure needed to keep you calm, you will take the other person by surprise.  Retaliating with a weapon that the other person is unfamiliar with will catch them off guard and easily dominate them.

Look at the majority of salespeople around the planet.  When an angry customer comes in hailing and flailing expletives and adjectives of all kinds, are they going to retaliate in the same manner? Absolutely not.  When the outburst subsides, the person who was using vilification will feel like a……douche.

Always remember, like attracts like! There’s no denying this.

Lawrence Massacre Story On Podcast

 

Summary of Self-Control

We’ve learned that our thoughts and actions towards others resemble an electric magnet which attracts to us the same sort of thought and the same sort of action that we, ourselves, create.

We have learned that the human mind responds in kind, to whatever thought impressions it receives.  We have learned that kindness begets kindness and unkindness and injustice beget unkindness and injustice.

Easy, huh?

Everything we put out comes back in a much larger measure.  We have learned that the human mind responds in kind, to all sensory impressions it receives.

Now it’s time to go into lesson seven which is an extremely critical one – Habit of Doing More Than Paid For.