The Story of My Student’s Anti-Depressants & How Much Reaction Won

That’s right.

Remember the time my student turned to anti-depressants?

After meeting her at the base of my condo, I felt that there was a “aura” of disparity that was surrounding her. What she normally used to be and what she was at that moment.

After going up the elevator, she had a frown on her face and just didn’t see up-beat like she normally was. Upon entering my condo, she sat down and just looked unenthused. I sensed that something was wrong….she wasn’t happy with her life.

How does a doctor, making a significant amount, fall into such a state? Well, 48% of doctors in America are depressed, so that statistic wouldn’t be too uncommon.

After going over her motivations, taking her through a series of things i normally do and figuring out her center, she was completely unmotivated to do anything. She wasn’t living. The personal development category had hit rock bottom, and so were three other categories.

That day she went home and bought some anti-depressants. Luckily, she told me…and I said..

Wtf are you doing? You’ve identified the problem? People on anti-depressants either don’t know (don’t wanna know) or just masking/numbing what the actual problem is!

Arsenio

She felt my emotions through a message and quickly got off of them. She took literally one, and threw the rest away because she knew what the problem was.

Three days later she signed up with a gym and a few other activities to stop being so redundant with her life.

A few months later, she’s full of joy. I saw her again and I felt a radiation of positivity that I haven’t felt since she came back during a semester break 3 years ago (from Australia). She’s challenging herself and looking towards a job at the USA Embassy.

See, for those of you who believe depressants are going to help you, you’re wrong. You’re numbing the pain. You’re not facing what’s not working; whether it’s your shitty family, terrible job, or boorish friends. Once you isolate the problem and create a solution, those depressive feelings will go away….

…..such as what happened with my ex-student.

Thinking With A Clear Mind

Boy, back-to-back emails changed the trajectory of staying in Thailand.

Now, were these two important jobs? One was a blessing in disguise and my EGOISM took control of my thoughts.  The second one was beyond infuriating with ignorant ass women demeaning me for the third straight time, resulting in a FULL RESIGNATION of all services with them.  I mean you can only tolerate so much, right? And for someone to continue to say “oh, this won’t work” when I put in so much work, I can no longer work with assholes like that.  Period.

Sometimes we make hasty decisions and stuff.  There are times that thinking impulsively can ultimately doom everything you’ve ever worked for, but money isn’t even worth the headaches I’ve experienced with suck ass contracts and uppity banks.  It just isn’t. Remember the 80/20 rule with Tim Ferriss? Which job is costing you 80% of your unhappiness? I’ve got a bunch of different jobs, and one of them, which was a babysitting jobs, was unacceptable.  To have little kids sitting on their phones, disrupting the class, and two other individuals completely out of their minds on the other end…it’s not worth 40$.  It just isn’t.

However, that same job and class said the like the new teacher.  I laughed, because my ego got the best of me.  I always believe that I’m better than the sex tourists…and I still believe that today.  Then again, when I heard students liked someone else more than me, I took it personal, as I always have in the past.

This could’ve been the biggest and best blessing in disguise, but I still took it personal.

Then, there’s the email that I was demeaned for the um-teenth time by women.  One woman, who hasn’t spoken to me in three months, said, “you had those games last time. You need to create new games.”  One, that’s a lie.  All the games are new.  Two, you haven’t spoken to me in three months because you’re still acting like a petulant child.  When I saw that…I said, “enough is enough. I’m so under-valued by these women and I just can’t take it anymore.”  I literally sent a resignation message and blocked her.

So, was I overreacting with this? Not necessarily.  I’ve actually been wanting to do that for a while.  Now, it comes down to just one job.  There’s a lone job that’s “probably” going to offer me a position, but the chances of it happening and plummeted significantly.  The second full-time job is the same job where the women completely took me out of three classes.  THREE!  “This student wants to learn with a Thai teacher; these students are happy because they like this pedaphile of a teacher; and these two students want another teacher.”  I mean, this happened at New Education World (the dog house of a language center) a few times in one year (and that was extremely high).  This happened to me within a 4 day period.  Does that show that this potential full-time suitor of a language center has sustainability? Absolutely NOT.  It’s basically given at anytime, they would remove me from teaching a class and give it to another teacher.  These are two (and was) 400 baht an hour (13$ an hour) jobs.  Jobs that pay more don’t have the ridiculous shenanigans take place like that.

Gary Vee’s Infamous – And Then?

Well, am I thinking clearly? No.  Today I suffered a massive failure, so the best way to make any decisions is by first relaxing and then ironing out the details of each specific situation.

Is it really that bad? Well, depends.  It could get ugly.  I will never work at the place that has taken my classes from me ever again. If I don’t, will the 2nd full-time potential suitor give me a full-time job? Probably not.  So that’s gone.

So basically there’s one job.  That job which I’m doing all the paper work for has come to through or I’m absolutely FINISHED with Thailand – and I say that with a great smile.

Second Day & What I Did To Overcome It In The Podcast Down Below

How To Crowd Worry Out of Your Mind – Part II

I talked about this in a podcast a long time ago, but I want to speak how I use this particular technique in a real-life situation.

Long ago, there was a man that lost two children under the age of find.  Him being in a vice/guillotine that seemed to get tighter and tighter, he found himself in a decision whereas he was going to either turn down his boy, who hadn’t died and needed his support, or play with him and create something out of some toys.

So, he decided to play with him.  He didn’t want to be bothered at the time because he was emotionally distraught, as one would be.  However, in those three hours that he played with his boy, there was a sudden mental relaxation that came over him.  How? He crowded his mind by being busy.

So over the past couple days, you guys probably didn’t know, but I’ve been a rut of worry.  If you’ve ever seen a person with rolled-over shoulders, walking with their head down…that’d be me.  I’ve been very disconcert over the past few weeks because of not knowing my future in finding new work.  Last night I hit a new low in teaching one of my students.  I remember looking at the worst-case-scenario “opportunity” go away right before my eyes.  I then said, “oh, man! No friends; no family; no options…..Arsenio, what’s next?”  I kept scanning job boards and none of them were showing anything, although I was applying for virtually all of them out of pure desperation.  So, I decided to apply for this particular job and I was a bit amazed at the response time – 5 minutes.  That’s right, I applied with a student sitting in front of me and almost in an instant, the response came back — in voice form.  I answered, remained composed (even though I wanted to jump out of my skin), was told a story (the opening up of a human being to another human being) and landed an interview, which will prove to be a monumental success.

In an instant, that worry was gone.  Not because of a call, but also because the comments of one of the parents.  He said, “there are plenty of jobs in Bangkok.  Just be patient.”

I was more worried about my personal wants than giving.  This is why so much of humanity fail.

In the following morning (this morning), I was listening to Tony Robbins say, “if you’re unhappy with your workplace, change it.  If you say there aren’t any jobs out there, that’s bull.”

This is something I always tell myself because of victimization.  I know damn well there are jobs out there, but the fact is I keep telling myself there aren’t because of everything that has happened in my life here.

With an interview looming large and opportunities and views coming in from all cylinders, I must keep myself busy.  Sometimes and especially at home, I get caught up in my own thoughts about “money.”  On the other hand, I just checked my bank account for the first time in forever and realized, “omg, wtfffffff am I even worried about?”

The future.

But the future is uncertain for everyone.  Everything can be taken away at the blink of an eye.

Your job today is to keep yourself busy.  Not with survival busyness, but constantly creating and deploying patience.  You will prevail.

Podcast

Napoleon Hill’s Accurate Thought: Part III

The man who knows that he is working with facts goes at his task with a feeling of self-confidence which enables him to refrain from hesitating or waiting to make sure of his ground.  He already knows what his efforts will be.

Also, the man who has learned of the advantages of searching for facts as the foundation of his thinking will go a long way toward the development of one of the most important facets of humanity: accurate thought. On top of that, a man who can separate facts from important and unimportant will go even further.

For instance, John D. Rockefeller was a man who created a habit of dealing only with relevant facts that pertained to his life-work.  When he was young, he was a very poor young men.  However, at that same time, he adopted the definite chief aim of accumulating great wealth.  A lot of people would say that Rockefeller was not always fair with his competitors – which may or may not be true.  On there other hand, no one ever accused him of “snap-judgements” or underestimating the strength of his competitors.  He not only recognised facts that affected his business, wherever or whenever he found them, but he made it his business to search for them until he found them.

Thomas A. Edison was another man who attained greatness through the classification and relevance of facts.  “Mr. Edison worked with natural laws as his chief aids; therefore, he must be sure of his facts before he can harness those laws.” – Napoleon Hill.

Every time you hear a phonograph, remember that Edison is the man that made it happen, through his persistent habit of dealing with relevant facts.  Every time you see a moving picture, know that it was him.

The exact opposite of this would mean you focusing on mere information that you cannot control.  Not being able to separate importance with unimportance will cloud your vision completely.

If you haven’t already seen the important of creating a definite chief aim as the object of your lifework, you will undoubtedly do so by going all the way to the blog at the very beginning of this book or by listening to this podcast down below.

Podcast

The subconscious mind has one outstanding characteristic to which I will now direct your attention; namely it records the suggestions which you send it through Auto-suggestion, and it invokes the aid of infinite intelligence in translating these suggestions into their natural physical form, through natural means which are in no way out of the ordinary.

The subconscious mind accepts all suggestions, whether they are constructive or destructive.  The subconscious mind may be likened to the sensitive plate of a camera which the picture of any object placed before the camera will be recorded.  The plate of the camera does not choose the sort of picture to be recorded on it, it records anything which reaches it through the lens.

Today’s Podcast

The Truth About Affirmations

One of my students said earlier, “why do you always say you’re handsome? That you eat alone? That you love yourself?”

I retorted in the grandest of fashions – stating the hate opinions I’ve received that formulated a pseudo reality that I wasn’t able to escape from for several years.

The pain, which I’ve talked about so many times, was unbearable.  The opinions of Thai people; yes, that “land of smiles” turned “land of hate”……turned into my dominant thought.  Therefore, everyday I went on that pity party; I pointed fingers at everyone saying, “you must hate black men.”  Everyone who gave me an ambiguous look was portrayed as a racist through my eyes.

It wasn’t until I started reading Lisa Nichols ‘Abundance Now’ book…only to realize that those particularly demonic opinions of me became my blueprint.  Every time I had an opportunity, I would go on that “ain’t it awful” whiney b**** party and talk about how bad Thai people were.  What happened after that? I attracted to me some of the worst snakes in all of the free world (the wife and girlfriend tourists) that tried doing everything to ruin my life.

So, I decided to change that destructive habit.  That reaffirming negative thought that I spewed like toxic everyday – even subconsciously.  I needed to reinstill the belief in myself that ‘yes,’ I am a wonderfully handsome man that was put on this planet to bring so much more value and true worth to people across the planes of six continents.  And so it began.  I constantly berate my front office staff everyday about me being handsome….and remember, they might think about it in a conceit way, but it doesn’t matter what they think or say about me.  I was in a battle of my life just 2 years ago.  I had women from Thai Airways threaten to “blacklist” me and also told me that she would “stick the dogs on me” for whatever reason.  This is what happens when you reaffirm negative thoughts continuously over a long period of time.  You attract heinous people into your life with an insidiously malicious agenda.

I’m pledging to you now to change your language.  Tell the world who you REALLY are, not the opinions you’ve accepted from other people-turned vision you see through your own eyes.

Change it, or you’ll be changed.

Self-Confidence Formula

First: I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose, therefore, I demand of myself persistent, aggressive and continuous action toward its attainment.

Second: I realize that the dominating thoughts of my mind eventually reproduce themselves in outward, bodily action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, therefore I will concentrate my mind for thirty minutes daily upon the task of thinking of the person I intent to be, by reading a mental picture of this person and then transforming that picture into reality through practice service.

Third: I know that through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of realizing it, therefore I shall devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development factors that I want to attain.

Fourth: I have clearly amped out and written down a description of my definite purpose in life, for the coming five years.  I have set a price on my services for each of these five years; a price that I intend to earn and receive, through strict application of the principle of efficient, satisfactory service which I will render in advance.

Fifth: I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice, therefore I will engage in no transition which does not benefit all whom it affects.  I will succeed by attracting to me the forces I wish to use, and the co-operation of other people.  I will induce others to serve me because I will first serve them.  I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness and cynicism by developing love for all humanity because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success.  I will cause others to believe in me because I will believe in them and in myself.

I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory and repeat it aloud once a day with full faith that it will gradually influence my entire life so that I will become a success and happy worker in my chosen field of endeavour.

 

Signed…………………………………………………………………

Before you sign your name on this formula (copy and past on microsoft word), make sure you intend on carrying out its instructions.

If you fill your mind with doubt and unbelief in your ability to achieve, then the principle of Auto-suggestion takes this spirit of unbelief and sets it up in your subconscious mind as your dominating thought and slowly but surely draws you into the whirlpool of failure.

However, if you feel your mind with self-confidence, the principle of Auto-suggestion takes this belief and sets it up as your dominating thought and helps you master the obstacles that fall in your way until you reach the mountain-top of success.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/11697320