Darren Hardy: Associations – Who’s Influencing You?

Who do you spend the most time with?

Honestly, ask yourself this question because within it lies the answer to all your sorrows.  Are you constantly around negative people? Do I have to bring this up AGAIN? You are who your closest five friends are.  Just do me a favor and drop one loser friend out of your life.  Ok, if you don’t want to expunge the human being because he’s been your friend all your life, just reduce the amount of time you talk to him/her for.  Go form speaking three times a day to him/her – to two times a day.  It will make a difference.

When I first moved to Bangkok, I had no idea that I developed a hell of an intuition for the 11 months I was in Las Vegas (after my Australia visa finished).  What happened was I had a friend.  This friend had a “bad” job….not even sure how I met her (she was a soapy massage girl).  When I met her for the second time ever, I saw the amount of bad energy she had.  The feeling of pain (agony), discontent, anger, and depression that was around her was unbearable.  I recall looking into her eyes at one point and I immediately looked away.  When I left to my main province in job in southeast Thailand, I never spoke to her again.

Later, I had a couple friends by the name of Mook and Ploy who were very nice individuals.  I realized then that I should probably be around nice people; rather than soapy massage girls (comical – I know).

Do you spend time around people who want more in life, or people who are considered “losers?”

Who are the people you most admire?

Ahhhh….the sound of Les Brown’s voice is amazing.  Many of you reading this blog probably admire your parents, your best friends, even the dog down the road.  By all means…we have different means of inspiration, but my parent (my mother…I don’t consider Willie my parent) fueled my inspiration in 2006 when she gave me all rights to my life.  Magnificent human being.  After that, I found my inspiration on YouTube in 2015 – the last year I constantly victimized myself.   Lisa Nichols, Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Tim Ferris, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, and other books and videos disrupted my biochemistry and I began to believe in myself again – oh, most notably – Jack Canfield.

How about you? Do you admire sports stars? Or, do you admire historical figures of the past? 

Are those two groups of people exactly the same? 

They’re all the same in terms of inspiration and what they preach and teach about.

Eventually, over the course of x amount of months, whoever you spend time with most….you begin to eat what they eat, talk what they talk, walk how they walk, dress like they dress, treat people how they treat people, read what they read.  You name it…you become it.

Think of a friend who orders the greasy food or cocktails before dinner (although I love me some oven-baked chicken and long islands from time-to-time), and if you hang out with them enough, you’ll know that it’s a very ugly habit.  Just recently I met a girl who was saying, “I hate working out. It’s boring. It’s not fun.  I’m lazy…and I like being fat.”  Stay around someone like that long enough and you’ll become that person.  Meanwhile, your other friends order healthy food and talk about the inspiring books they’re reading and their ambitions in their businesses, and you begin to assimilate their behaviors and habits. You read and talk about what they talk about, you see the movies they’re excited about, and you go to the places they recommend.

This was one of the biggest deciding factors in leaving America permanently.  I knew if I had stuck around in my families sorrows, I too, would become part of their sorrows.  The 11 months from June 2012 – May 2013 were some of the most difficult months of my life.  The constant nagging, not having enough money comments, complaining about one’s boyfriend, bad-mouthing people from work….it wore me out.  Luckily, I purchased a pair of Bose Headphones, which was one of the smartest purchases I’ve ever made in my life, in Australia earlier in 2012.  Nonetheless, you can’t live a positive life around negative people.

So, ask yourself now: “what’s the combined average income, health, and attitudes of the people you spend the most time with?”

When I was in Australia last year, my ex-friend (yeah, my ex-friend) had become a nurse.  Her income was much more than mine, but it inspired me.  My best friend in New York makes more than me.  That also inspires me.  Those are, or were my closest friends.  I don’t have to worry about this because I’m around my students the majority of the time.  So after a long work day, I don’t go hang out with friends because I have to prepare everything for the next day.

However, you….the reader….you need to write down the names of those five people. Write down the main characteristics.  Look at where they’re going in life, the relationships they have with other people.  Is that list ok for you. Are you heading in the right direction?

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Darren Hardy: Don’t Drink Dirty Water

I worked for a dental office on a temp contract 6 years ago in Coburn (town north of North Sydney, if I’m not mistaken), and this man (the dentist) would look at me crazy and say, “did you drink your water? Arsenio, you must drink your water. The average being needs to consume X AMOUNT everyday.  If you don’t, your body can’t function.”

You get in life what you create. – Darren Hardy

Whatever you’re allowing yourself to hear and see is what you’re creating.  For the people out there who are literal thinkers, they’ll continue recreating the same life every day, week, month, year, and life.  The best part of this is once you realize that you are the creator – it’s life transforming.

Look at your life like a glass.  Your glass if filled with whatever you put it in.  For instance, I had a very uneventful weekend featuring disorganization and people who wanted to see me fail – but I didn’t fail.  Am I going to go home knocking what happened? Absolutely not.  Everything that happened – happened the exact way it was suppose to.

Media Diet

From the tabloids screaming at you in the stores, to CNN being on in the airport and even at the gyms – there’s no running from it.  However, you can cancel the subscriptions and stay away from the news all together.

Just this morning I was running on the treadmill and there were the older folks, walking and staring at the T.V. – all while watching a building burn.  Shortly after that segment, there was a homicide (of some sort) showing the dead body.  I didn’t necessarily see anything, but it didn’t phase me whatsoever because I had a motivational talk in my ear and cardio to do.

What is it with people who just find the need to slow down in traffic, too.  I’m talking about those who slow down to look at the carnage on the road.  Here in Thailand….they take photos.  That’s right.  The literally take photos of all the body parts – which ended up being splattered all over the place so they can gain social media likes.

This is why I go on a Newsfeed purge.  My friend, who I had dinner with last night, was completely against my purge.  She said, “how do you know how your friends are doing?”  I retorted, “they can tell me if it’s great news!”  I stopped following virtually all my Asian friends, especially after seeing one of my Vietnamese friends sharing a video involving a deceased young boy in an ice-chest.

The empathy; the heart; the sympathy and compassion of people, especially in Asia, has gone out the window.  Am I saying everyone? No….but my goal is to see inspirational messages and people doing great things.  My goal is to comment on photos that draw a lot of good attention.

There needs to be a “positive news” channel.  A news channel that just shows how you can overcome the senseless bigotry that’s peddled all over the news.  I can preach right now that there’s so much more good happening in the world than bad.  It’s just an issue because the news outlets broadcast things that can sell.  Good news doesn’t sell.  People don’t want to be happy.  People want to bitch.  You know this – and I know this.

Create A Personal Junk Filter

The majority of news doesn’t have a bearing on your goals, dreams or aspirations anyway.  Can you stop what’s happening in Myanmar? In the Middle East? I remember Joe Vitale saying on ‘the secret’: “maybe you have to be informed, but you don’t have to be inundated.”

Bottomline, things are happening all around the world that we have no control over.  Just like Tim Ferris’ Low Information Diet, Darren Hardy has the same thing, too.

I don’t want to pour mud into a clean glass of water.

Enroll In Drive-Time U

In the morning when I get out of bed, I have a podcast app on my phone ready to go.  Gary Vee locked in.  Also, Hodgetwins….the meaning to laugh, regardless of how ridiculous it is, is essential.  So, I’m standing on the platform in tears of laughter before heading into the train.  When I get inside, that’s when I get to work for the next 35 minutes.  I’m posting things on Instagram, Weibo, Twitter, FB, sharing things, writing things on my notepad.

Some people are probably driving.  Ok, if you drive to work, set yourself up a nice audio the night before.  I would seriously recommend Lisa Nichols, Gary Vee, Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Impact Theory (I love Wyclef Jean’s Story), and so many other videos.  Seriously…drill your mind relentlessly and you’ll be amazed how fast your paradigm shifts.

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Terry Crews’ Section In Tribe of Mentors Struck A Nerve

Voluntary Relationships

Terry Crews, in his excerpt in Tim Ferris’ ‘Tribe of Mentors, said something that really struck me.  He said all his relationships must be voluntary.  If his wife wanted to leave him, so be it.  Grandparents and family members suddenly don’t want to call him anymore, ok.  However, he said the same thing should work for him, too.  If he doesn’t want to be friends with someone anymore, that’s how it should be with no equivocations.

After last year and seeing how so many people have come and gone, I knew I prolonged the inevitable with a handful of relationships.  One girl, who said ‘yes’ to our dating, didn’t even want to date to begin with? But she felt obligated to say ‘yes’ because she didn’t want to destroy the relationship we had before.  That’s something I don’t want the other individual to feel.  Don’t say ‘yes’ because you’re afraid of the future; rather than just living in a day-tight compartment.

Another one is the complete break-up and fallout of what was one of my close friends.  After visiting America and establishing an 11-year relationship, the bond felt damn near impenetrable.  With my own money, I booked another flight to America.  However, leading into the latter months of the year, I saw potential danger – danger in terms of her getting into a relationship and that two-week vacation having the potential of being a catastrophe.  With my money, I cancelled the trip.  It’s my money.  Voluntarily cancelled the trip…so the other party should not be mad – period.

I was wrong.  Not only was the other party mad, but it was a friendship ender.  It’s funny because yes, we see the true colors of individuals through hard-times.  On top of that, it goes to show you how selfish some human beings can be.  If I had a gut-feeling about not traveling to America at the end of the year, so be it.  Who’s money did I blow? On the other hand, because I made it a life-lesson to my listeners around the world, I was told “it’s a damn shame you put it on social media.”  And what does social media have to do with the origin of the problem?

Fast-forwarding to one of the most difficult months of my life just two months ago when I was banished from a company due to racial discrimination, she wasn’t there – just like she wasn’t there in the darkest month of my life in 2014.  So, the voluntary approach to this is that was strike number three.  Because the ego of you and you in search of your prince charming, the friendship is no more.

Another notable story is a student who attended the University of Sydney to become an epidemiologist.  This student would ask me grammatical questions for a year.  Did I answer them? Sure.  When I needed some translations, she helped.  When I needed to talk to her, she was gone.  Literally – she vanished and I never heard from her again.

This then brings me to the story of the extremely-odd-and-bizarre-individual whom I met a few days ago who said, “why don’t you have any friends?”

Well……

I held my tongue.  I didn’t need to explain.  From the beginning of 2009 to the madness that happened last year.  Friends.  What a term, right?

This is why when I believe a friendship is going sour, I end it.  If someone is pleading to make things amend or salvage what little may be left, I have flashbacks of what my ex-girlfriend did almost a decade ago.  I tried resuscitating something that was completely dead.  She didn’t let me.  She then started to say, “stop calling me!”  When that happened, I realized I fell to “wackest” and most pathetic form of a man possible.  When you have to plead for a friendship, it’s already dead.

Terry Crews went on to say that he always imagines his grandchildren.  What they would be saying to him in present time? One example was, “Grandpa, you shouldn’t do this, or you need to leave these people alone because we will be affected negatively, or worse, we won’t exist.”

Think about it next time when you’re around that “grimey” group of people.  Think about what your grandchildren might be saying.

What we go through in our life is always just part of the process.  Learn from those mistakes and look for those “hairs” of people who will make a profound difference in your life.

Tim Ferris’ Ten Questions In Tribe of Mentors – Dare To Try?

What is the book (or books) you’ve given most as a gift, and why? Or what are one to three books that have greatly influenced your life? 

I’ve talked about this a number of times, but Napoleon Hill’s “Law of Success” was the turning point in my paradigm.  I understood the art of clothing, pleasing personality, self-confident, habit of saving (although I already established that a decade ago) and so many other life-changing principles that most people need to read.  After that, Jack Canfield’s ‘Success Principles’ was another massive plateau, followed by Dale Carnegie’s ‘How To Stop Worrying And Start Living.’

What purchase of 100$ or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months (or in recent memory)?  

I’m going to increase that to 300$, because if it wasn’t for my Bose Noise Cancelling headphones, there’s no telling if I would’ve made it out of America, or even Australia (noise disturbances from housemates, to slummy African American communities – lol).  Extremely grateful for them – and only now I realize that it was on a flight from Seoul, South Korea to Singapore where I found myself in a depressive state because the battery’s life ran out of the Triple AAA battery I had in my headset.  DAMNIT!

How has a failure, or an apparent failure, set you up for later success? Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

The story of the 2005 Nevada Sunrise Regional Track & Field Championships resonates and always will.

If you could have one gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it – metaphorically speaking, getting a message out to millions or billions – what would it say and why? It could be a few words or a paragraph. 

Love is everywhere.

Or….

Follow your bliss.

What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you’ve ever made?

Other than my Bose headphones, my soundlink was also a firm investment.  This would take away a lot of the ambient noise (security guards laughing and singing outside my window) where I live.  On top of that, I can literally put a podcast like Gary Vee on in the morning, clean my house, prepare everything and do the morning routine.  This established a very good morning routine for myself.

What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?

Rocking while listening to music.  (Story in the podcast). I’m not ashamed of it, either!

In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

My morning routine dictates how a day will turn out.  For instance, if I wake up looking at trashy media, I will have a trashy morning, which will then spill over into the afternoon and evening.  However, on days, such as today, I can wake up and bang out three pre-recorded podcasts and five blogs.  It all comes from establishing a sound morning routine that involves exercise, priming, meditation and making a gratitude list.

What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the “real world”?

What do you REALLY want? Not what society tells you to want?

What are bad recommendations you hear in your profession or area of expertise? 

“You’re not very academic.  You need to become more academic.”

This is the silliest shit (excuse my French) I’ve ever heard in my life.  How about Elon Musk, Mark Zuck, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mohammad Ali – were they “academic?”  Historical teachers and historical mindsets are a thing of the past.

In the last five years, what have you become better at saying no to?

People who want something from me without giving me a damn thing.

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How To Eliminate 50% of Your Business Worries

“If you are in business, you are probably saying to yourself right now: “The title of this is ridiculous! I have been running my business for 5, 10, 20 years; and I certainly know the answers if anybody does.  The idea of anybody trying to tell me how I can eliminate 50% of my business worries – it’s absurd!” – Dale Carnegie.

Fair enough.  However, to be frank, there’s already an array of techniques out there such as the 80/20 rule, which is basically finding out what’s 80% of your unhappiness and can you get rid of it – that you can use.

Tim Ferris said in his book that there was one particular client he had that was always nagging, bitching, complaining, and gave him an earful on a daily basis.  Since the client wasn’t really making him any money, he broke it down and gave him an ultimatum.  It wasn’t what the client wanted to hear, but what he needed to hear.

I’ve done this with a many of my colleagues over the last 8 years of my life working in three different countries.  Some of them backed away after I blew up, some of them try sabotaging the workplace and turned other colleagues against me, and others unwittingly quit.

Identify:

“Positive friends versus time-consuming friends: Who is helping versus hurting you, and how do you increase your time with the former while decreasing or eliminating your time with the latter?

Who is causing me stress disproportionate to the time I spend with them? What will happen if I simply stop interacting with these people? Fear-setting helps here.
When do I feel starved for time? What commitments, thoughts, and people can I eliminate to fix this problem?” – Tim Ferris

This helped me a lot.  Now, I basically initiate conversations at the workplace because I know 90% of the conversations will bring me grief.  (LOL)

Going back into Dale Carnegie now…..

There was a man named Leon Shimkin, a general manager for Rockefeller decades ago.  He had troubling times at work because he would hold conferences, discussing problems all day with no end line.  The arguing and tension would go around the room for hours and when night came, he would be utterly exhausted because of the ordeal.

Well, after fifteen years of getting nothing accomplished at conferences, he came across this specific technique that would change those troubling associates and conferences to something much more effective.

  1. What’s the problem?
  • I recall reading in Jack Canfield’s book a very important part of a principle called “Heart talk.”  Sitting in a circle, you would be given one piece of paper, sign, or object that you would pass around the room.  The object would be NOT to comment on what others say, but to state what has happened on your end.  No one can interrupt the speaker, either.  This could be very effective for the masses out there.

2. What is the cause of the problem?

  • Always go to the root of the problem.  There was a saying a long time ago that I half remember now in terms of taking off the animal’s head because it can’t return after.  I’ve worked with so many colleagues since being here in Thailand who were parasites.  They had insidious agendas and they were full of question marks (about their past life).  This type of workplace madness (my next blog) is what you do not want to be around.  Get rid of the problem.

3. What are the possible solutions of the problem?

  • In the workplace, it’s better to just part ways.  If you have someone who rants about how bad a country is day in and day out, you can’t change that specific individual.  The parting of ways is best.  However, if it’s a problem that can become undone by a shift in the awareness, do that before.  If it’s an individual who constantly bitches about the world, stay the hell away from them.

4. What solution do you suggest?

  • In order to answer these questions, you’re going to have to get all the facts and think your problems through.

Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/12088150

Tim Ferris’ Rough Patch & The Point

During his 2013 year, he went on a downward spiral for about three months including:

  • Cried while watching Rudy. (lol. Sorry – had to laugh)
  • Repeatedly hit snooze for 1 to 3 HOURS past his planned wake time, because he simply didn’t want to face the day.
  • Considered giving everything away and moving to Montreal, Seville, or Iceland. Location varies based on what he imagined escaping to.
  • Saw a therapist for the first time, as he was convinced that he was doomed to lifelong pessimism.
  • Took his daily caffeine intake (read: self-medication) so high that his “resting” pulse was 120+ beats per minute. 8 to 10 cups of coffee per day at minimum.
  • Wore the same pair of jeans for a week straight.

We all go through this.  Three months is almost the breaking point which someone begins having suicidal thoughts.  I had this point for about 1 day just a couple days ago and I tried identifying what was the root – nothing.  Thoughts were simply wandering.

In that same time frame of about two months, he changed it all around.

  • Increased his passive income 20%+.
  • Bought his dream house.
  • Meditated twice per day for 20 minutes per session, without fail. That marked the first time he’d been able to meditate consistently.
  • Ended up cutting his caffeine intake to next-to-nothing (in the last 4 weeks).
  • With the help of his blog readers, raised $100,000+ for charity: water for his birthday.
  • Raised $250,000 in 53 minutes for a startup called Shyp.
  • Signed one of the most exciting business deals of his last 10 years—his TV show, The Tim Ferriss Experiment.
  • Added roughly 20 pounds of muscle.

    Realized—once again—that manic-depressive symptoms are just part of entrepreneurship.  Came to feel closer to all my immediate family members.

I guess that’s probably what swallowed me just a few days ago.  Not having any schedule blog posts, podcast plays being low, YouTube becoming ineffective….during those ensuing hours, I was pulling what little hair I have left around my head OUT and couldn’t even focus during my gym hour.

Resolution?

  • Wake up at least 1 hour before you have to be at a computer screen.
  • Make a cup of tea (or I take my vitamins after priming) and sit down with a pen/pencil and paper.
  • Write down the 3 to 5 things—and no more—that are making you the most anxious or uncomfortable. They’re often things that have been punted from one day’s to-do list to the next, to the next, to the next, and so on. Most important usually equals most uncomfortable, with some chance of rejection or conflict.
  • For each item, ask yourself: “If this were the only thing I accomplished today, would I be satisfied with my day?” “Will moving this forward make all the other to-dos unimportant or easier to knock off later?” Put another way: “What, if done, will make all of the rest easier or irrelevant?”
  • Look only at the items you’ve answered “yes” to for at least one of these questions.
  • Block out at 2 to 3 hours to focus on ONE of them for today. Let the rest of the urgent but less important stuff slide. It will still be there tomorrow.

“It doesn’t take much to seem superhuman and appear “successful” to nearly everyone around you. In fact, you just need one rule: What you do is more important than how you do everything else, and doing something well does not make it important.
If you consistently feel the counterproductive need for volume and doing lots of stuff, put these on a Post-it note:
Being busy is a form of laziness—lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.
Being busy is most often used as a guise for avoiding the few critically important but uncomfortable actions.” – Tim Ferris

Clean Up Your Messes & Incompletes

If a cluttered desk is the sign of a cluttered mind, what is the significance of a clean desk? – Laurence J. Peter

I really like to say this about a lot of people.  If you walk into a friends home and it’s an absolute mess, what do you think is happening within the mind?  People who can’t properly care for themselves ranging from a simple morning routine involving a shower, to the severely obese beings who continue to saturate themselves with the worst-processed-foods-imaginable.

You ask yourself, “why?”

I personally can’t think if my condo is a mess.  Every morning after meditation, I take a pre-workout before working out, and while it’s kicking it, I literally clean my condo within 2 minutes so when I come back, my clothes are laid out and ready to go for work.

This doesn’t just revolve around the physical world, but also the psychological world.

Look at it this way by bullet points.

  • Decide
  • Plan
  • Start
  • Continue
  • Finish
  • Complete

This is called the Cycle of Completion.  This is a great diagram Jack Canfield has in his book.

Are there areas in your life where you’ve left uncompleted projects or failed to get closure with people?  When you don’t complete the past, you can’t be free to fully embrace anything that’s happening in the present and it surely blocks anything from coming in, too.

When you start anything in life, make an agreement or identify a change you need to make, it goes into your present memory bank and takes up what Jack calls an “attention unit.”  We can only pay attention to so many things at one time, and each promise, agreement, or item on your to-do list leaves fewer attention units to dedication to completing other things.

Another Example of this is Tim Ferris.  He goes to bed on a clean conscious every night by rambling on paper everything that’s on his mind.  It could be that advertiser who pissed him off, the person who didn’t give the correct change back…ANYTHING.  Why? These events that take place during the day rob us of attention units.

A lot of us take on requests, projects, tasks and other things; however, we really want to say no, but we’re afraid of being perceived as the “bad one.” So what happens if you put off responding in order to avoid saying no.

Meanwhile the sticky notes and stacks of paper pile up and distract you.  There may be times whereas you have to make some uncomfortable decisions….but it’s better struggling with discomfort then cleaning up those incomplete.

Some incompletions come from simply not having adequate systems.  Other incompletions pile up due to bad working habits.  Be firm, assertive, and just say no.

 

Tim Ferris – Uncovering Fear Disguised As Optimism

It’s exactly what Bob Proctor has been saying for over 50 years, too.  That paradigm.  That mental barrier that controls everything about us.  Right when we’re getting ready to make that life-altering decision we say, “ahhhhh, I can go next year.  I’m happy with this car now.  Oh, I can save my money instead.  I can go next weekend.”

Most who avoid quitting their jobs entertain the thought that their course will improve with time or increases in income. This seems valid and is a tempting hallucination when a job is boring or uninspiring instead of pure hell. Pure hell forces action, but anything less can be endured with enough clever rationalization.

That particular afternoon after my nap and going through absolute HELL with a bunch of ignorant specimen and a completely shambolic school, I said, “is money worth it? Is this measly 1000$ USD a month worth it? No.  I quit,”  Three days later, after getting my last salary, I disappeared.

There was no future, no visa, no work permit, endless lies, horrific students, bad-mouthing teachers who spoke Thai behind my back to make a mockery of me…..that breaking point was reached.  Once you do it the first time, it makes it a hell of a lot easier.

Do you really think it will improve or is it wishful thinking and an excuse for inaction?  Did I really think my job situation would improve? If you were confident in improvement, would you really be questioning things so? Generally not. This is fear of the unknown disguised as optimism.

Are you better off than you were one year ago, one month ago, or one week ago?”

Probably not.

Nine to five for your working lifetime of 40–50 years is a long-ass time if the rescue doesn’t come. About 500 months of solid work.
How many do you have to go? It’s probably time to cut your losses.

If you are nervous about making the jump or simply putting it off out of fear of the unknown, here is your antidote.  Write and do not edit—aim for volume. Spend a few minutes on each answer.

Tim Ferris’ Rules

1. Define your nightmare, the absolute worst that could happen if you did what you are considering. What doubt, fears, and “what-ifs” pop up as you consider the big changes you can—or need—to make? Envision them in painstaking detail. Would it be the end of your life? What would be the permanent impact, if any, on a scale of 1–10? Are these things really permanent? How likely do you think it is that they would actually happen?”

2. What steps could you take to repair the damage or get things back on the upswing, even if temporarily? Chances are, it’s easier than you imagine. How could you get things back under control?”

3. What are the outcomes or benefits, both temporary and permanent, of more probable scenarios? Now that you’ve defined the nightmare, what are the more probable or definite positive outcomes, whether internal (confidence, self-esteem, etc.) or external? What would the impact of these more-likely outcomes be on a scale of 1–10? How likely is it that you could produce at least a moderately good outcome? Have less intelligent people done this before and pulled it off?

4. If you were fired from your job today, what would you do to get things under financial control? Imagine this scenario and run through questions 1–3 above. If you quit your job to test other options, how could you later get back on the same career track if you absolutely had to?

5. What are you putting off out of fear? Usually, what we most fear doing is what we most need to do. That phone call, that conversation, whatever the action might be—it is fear of unknown outcomes that prevents us from doing what we need to do. Define the worst case, accept it, and do it. I’ll repeat something you might consider tattooing on your forehead: What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do. As I have heard said, a person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have. Resolve to do one thing every day that you fear. I got into this habit by attempting to contact celebrities and famous businesspeople for advice.”

 

6. What is it costing you—financially, emotionally, and physically—to postpone action? Don’t only evaluate the potential downside of action. It is equally important to measure the atrocious cost of inaction. If you don’t pursue those things that excite you, where will you be in one year, five years, and ten years? How will you feel having allowed circumstance to impose itself upon you and having allowed ten more years of your finite life to pass doing what you know will not fulfill you? If you telescope out 10 years and know with 100% certainty that it is a path of disappointment and regret, and if we define risk as “the likelihood of an irreversible negative outcome,” inaction is the greatest risk of all.

7. What are you waiting for? If you cannot answer this without resorting to the previously rejected concept of good timing, the answer is simple: You’re afraid, just like the rest of the world. Measure the cost of inaction, realize the unlikelihood and repairability of most missteps, and develop the most important habit of those who excel and enjoy doing so: action.

My Podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10871359

 

Gelatin – Is It Good or Bad? America Takes The Affirmative & Thailand Takes The Negative

About a year ago, I was engagement in one of those idle-gossip-conversations at work that involved a teacher spewing rhetoric about factories in Thailand.  At the time I was eating candy that contained Gelatin, an ingredient that’s literally put into candy here and in Germany for some odd reason and the British teacher ERUPTED….

“Omg, you know those are made in factories here in Thailand.  Cow skin and bones is what Gelatin is and it’s put into that mess.”

It wasn’t only him, but other staff members were predisposed to consuming candy that had the infamous “Gelatin” in it.

So, I finally did some research and my oh my, this is why you NEVER listen to the opinions of others and you just have to check it out yourself.

Gelatin is a protein made from the skins and bones of pigs and cows. It’s a common ingredient in a number of products, including: medicine, makeup, vaccines, and food.

Why do people take Gelatin?

Many people with arthritis take Gelatin supplements Gelatin contains collagen. That’s a material in the cartilage that cushions the bones in your joints.

The idea behind this usage is that eating gelatin (with collagen)  will add collagen to your joints. However, that’s probably not true. The collagen in gelatin gets broken down when you eat it. It wouldn’t travel directly to your joints.

Nonetheless, there is some evidence that gelatin could help ease joint pain in people with osteoarthritis.

Then came Amanda Boone.  Amanda Boone, who is the first person to win first at the World’s Toughest Mudder, actually takes hydrolysed Gelatin.  She said in Tim Ferris’ book ‘tools of titans’ why she actually takes it….

“I’ve consumed Gelatin for connective tissue repair in the past.  I’ve never stuck with it long term because Gelatin takes on a seagull poo-like texture when mixed into cold.” – Amelia Boone 

 

“Amelia saved my palate and joints by introducing me to the Great Lakes hydrolyzed version (green label), which blends easily and smoothly.” – Tim Ferris

Amazing results from one of the greatest, ultra athletes in the world and a highly sought after writer/entrepreneur.

Interesting when we just go by the opinions of others and let that dictate what we believe at that specific moment.  However, when you actually check things out and do the research yourself, you have your satori moment.

Podcast – https://www.spreaker.com/episode/10544369

 

 

Jack Canfield – Master The Technology You Need

“Technology is supposed to make our lives easier, allowing us to do things more quickly and efficiently.  But too often it seems to make things harder, leaving us with fifty-button remote controls, digital cameras with hundreds of mysterious features, and cars with dashboard systems worth of the space shuttle.” – James Surowiecki

I want to be abundantly clear about how technology works.  When it comes to the gadgets, use them instead of it using you.

7-Day Technology Turnaround

Make a list of your technology annoyances.  I’m talking waking up and staying glued to your phone when you can be much more productive.  Most people have their phones bedside when they go to sleep and it’s the first thing they pick up in the morning.  That’s considered to be an annoyance.

On top of that – TV’s.  Most Americans spend so much time watching TV everyday.  For example, sports enthusiasts on Sunday could sit in front of the TV for up to 9 hours watching artificial events on TV.

Compile your list.  Once you do so, begin tackling the cleanup process.  Example, charge your phone outside your bedroom and put an alarm clock on within your bedroom – set the time, too, for when you want to wake up.

Limit yourself to TV hours.  I’m talking about writing down how many hours you actually watch TV a day and begin taking an hour off as time goes on. Take the micro steps, not macro.

Look at any other annoyances that hinder your production in the morning and the evening.

I know some people can’t even go shopping, out to dinner, or on vacation without their cell phones going off.  I’ve seen people in 5 different countries who sit at restaurants while tapping their phone and not conversing amongst each other.  This trend is growing worldwide.

In addition to annoyances, let’s talk about the low-information diet.  How many of you turn on the news every morning within the first hour of your day? A lot of people would say, “I need to be informed,” but you don’t have to be INUNDATED!

What are your feelings after watching the news? When you get to work, what’s the topic of discussion every morning? Does it revolve around how productive you were, or something that happened over night.  Car crashes, robberies, politics, natural disasters?

Try not turning on the NEWS for once in the morning and see how you feel when you get to work.  Instead of bringing up “circle of concern” type conversations, bring up something you’re grateful for or looking forward to.

Michael Bernard Beckwith once said, “you’re going to have to taking some heavy digestive enzymes to digest what you see on TV.  Instead of watching television, how about “tell a vision.”

Podcast –  https://www.spreaker.com/episode/9626352