After going back and completing the past, my conscious was now free. Those three individuals that were not only on my mind but also in the subconscious (dreams), they were no more. This was the most free-ing exercise. One of the individuals had responded with her explanation, but it didn’t even matter because it was ME who needed the closure, and perhaps that had given her some closure, too. The other two? One never responded…and that’s totally fine because I did it without expectation. The other one was actually resolved a couple of weeks prior but “dumb me” thought it could’ve been a life-time relationship but it was just a purposeful relationship. Lol. Tune in!
Tony Robbins said the late Jim Rohn told him, “you have very poor psychology. Makes some statements about the life you want to live. Restate it over and over and over again.”
There was a homeless man asking Tony for some change one evening and all he asked for was 25 cents. Tony then pulled out a wad of cash with a lot of 100$ bills on top of it….the man looked at the money, the quarter, and then Tony. He took the quarter and told Tony, “you’re weird!”
You get in life what you ask for. Sure, entrepreneurs will talk about “hustle, hustle, hustle….affirmations and meditations mean nothing,” but I can go so far to tell you that many of the entrepreneurs out there lack empathy and have rotten personalities. They’re in fight-or-flight mode 24/7 and they always think the “worse case” scenarios. Everyone has bluerprints; whether they’re social, geographical, financial, etc. To get over that negative conditioning, I don’t care how much you hustle, you’re going to have to reprogram your mind.
How to use your affirmations.
- Repeat your affirmations at least three times a day. The best times are the first thing in the morning, the middle of the day, and around bedtime.
- Work in depth with a few affirmations. This is much more effective than working less frequently with a greater number of them.
- Say your affirmations out loud, if possible. If not, read them silently to yourself.
- Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See the scene through your eyes, as if it were happening around you, just the way you would be seeing it in real life.
- Hear the sounds; see the images that would be present when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include any other people who would be there, and hear their words of encouragement and congratulations.
- Feel the emotions that you would experience when you achieve this goal. The stronger your feelings are, the more powerful the impact.
My most powerful affirmation…..
I’m more handsome than ever!
The drop back of this story has to be the fact that I would constantly say, “Thai women hate black men!” So what ended up happening? I attracted to me the most disgusting specimen imaginable three years ago. So, how could I reverse the negative self-talk? By using reaffirming positive self-talk.
Pick a solid three affirmations. I’m talking about affirmations that negative the most common negative self-talk phrases you spew everyday. Example, I asked my students what happened during there tenure while learning English and they constantly said, “I’m stupid” — although they go to the best university in Thailand? That’s absurd. It’s ridiculous. You can’t be STUPID in learning a language, so instead say “I’m brilliant with learning English as I learn 30 minutes in both the morning and evening.”
I’m fat, I’m stupid, I’m black, I’m not handsome enough, I’m not beautiful enough, I’m not tall enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not experienced enough. Enough with the bullshit opinions of others. Reprogram your mind NOW!
“What would it feel like to know in your mind, in your heart, and in the very depth of your soul that you’ll always be prosperous? To know with absolute certainty that no matter what happens in the economy, stock market, or real estate, you’ll have financial security for the rest of your life? To know that you’ll possess an abundance that will enable you not only to take care of your family’s needs but also to delight in the joy of helping others?”
Excerpt From: Tony Robbins. “Unshakeable.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/unshakeable/id1146849403?mt=11
I want you to really sit down and think this through. Think about all the questions above….a deep place within. Ask yourself, “how would I feel if I was completely and utterly financially independent?”
“But the truth is, we’re still living in a crazy world. All these years later, central bankers are still fighting an epic battle to revive economic growth. They’re still experimenting with radical policies that we’ve never seen in the entire history of the global economy.
You think I’m exaggerating? Well, think again. First-world countries such as Switzerland, Sweden, Germany, Denmark, and Japan now have “negative” interest rates. You know how insane that is? The whole purpose of the banking system is for you to make a profit by loaning money to banks, so they can lend it out to others. But people around the world now have to pay banks to accept their hard-earned savings. The Wall Street Journal wanted to discover when the world last experienced a period of negative yields. So the newspaper called an economic historian. You know what he told them? It’s the first time this has happened in 5,000 years of banking history.
That’s how far we’ve come from living in a normal world: borrowers get paid to borrow, and savers get punished for saving. In this upside-down environment, “safe” investments such as high-quality bonds offer such terrible returns that you wonder if someone’s having a laugh at your expense. I recently learned that the finance arm of Toyota had issued a three-year bond that yields just 0.001%. At that rate, it would take you 69,300 years to double your money!” – Tony Robbins
The best part about the uncertainty is the opportunity. A lot of people are wondering if the “end” is “near,” but I believe that’s the window of opportunity. Also, the goal is not for you to predict the future about money. This stems back to the circle of concern vs. the circle of influence. Control what you can and don’t worry about what you can’t control.
Name how many positive radio stations you have in your country. Go ahead, I’ll wait, patiently.
I’ll give you an insight. One of the most popular radio stations in America brings different interviewees on the show to degrade, dehumanize, and criticize them. Yet, their following base is probably the largest in America.
As human beings, we naturally gravitate towards the negative rather than seeing the positive side of everything.
Radio stations, from what Gary Vee has been saying, are almost dead. YouTube is on the verge of trumping cable TV for the first time EVER…..attention is veering away from things that try to control our minds and society in general. So, what can you do?
What can you do if radio is finished? What can you do if you’ve had it with the people talking about the Russians, Trump, Chinese, nuclear warheads, etc? Well, it’s like I’ve been doing. Turning my commute and drive-time into a university.
Let me give you an example. Upon arriving to KL International Airport, I knew that immigration lines were going to be super long. Because I’ve been listening to so much Gary Vee, this was primetime for me. While all everyone was standing in line, giving each other strange stares, I had Gary Vee and Podsessions in my ear, laughing and giving myself brain food. People were looking at me, and some of them men behind me (oddly), were trying to get my attention by constantly staring at me.
This is what I call “downtime.”
Podcasts such as Jim Kwik, MindValley, Gary Vee and others that are out there that can help you in the personal development world.
There’s an App called “blinkist” (not the best) that reads out book summaries (make sure they’re personal development books or you’re just wasting your time – sorry, fictional junkies) for you.
You can buy audio books or even connect to YouTube and listen to Bob Proctor, Early Nighingale, Tony Robbins, or titans of the personal development realm.
Your commute everyday should be enjoyable and you should be able to feed your mind and make it young again.
While waiting at KL airport this morning in a never-ending line, I put on Jim Kwik for the first time in a few weeks and he “WOWED” me to even write a blog such as this one. The information he gives me in terms of making my life better is amazing. Also, one last thing that will lead into another blog.
TEACH WHAT YOU LEARN.
Make your car/commute a university of learning.
First time I saw Gary Vee was in a Tony Robbins video. Like a lot of other people; you either love him or hate him (well, hate it too strong of a word – so maybe dislike). The next time I saw one of his videos was when his opening intro went something like, “the man holding the camera said it was a rough day…..I don’t give a _________.”
From then on…I was sold. The marketing strategies, expertise in terms of social media, and how to build a brand catapulted me to great heights. When my podcast got quiet, I realized that patience and constant content creating would overcome the woes.
The Path Is Yours
While I was downloading a sample of this book, I was listening to a very-angry-45-year-old-male on a news channel rant at Gary about “why” social media has destroyed the world. I laughed. The comments in support of Gary were wonderful: “this guy is completely lost and out of touch with reality.” Yes, the Gen B’s and even what I’m dealing with at my current place of work, are lacking adaptability. For example, English conversation, which is something most non-native English speaking countries don’t give, is lacking in Thailand. I developed a curriculum that would amass millions upon millions of baht. However, there was a change in administration, and here came a out-of-touch-with-the-world Brit who criticized the curriculum, stating that it’s not “academic.” Oh, right…the academics that universities are spewing out to B.A. business students who are ineffective in the world of business – but they have made more money in six months listening to Gary Vee compared to the 4 years in school and 6 years after. Hmmmm…
So then with two shops closing and a huge decrease in work, I’m smiling, knowing the emergence of the Chinese market will land me a job that will never go away while this business will be “out-of-business.”
News outlets, and the people not willing to acclimate around the world, know that if you don’t….the world will continue moving on – whether you like it or not. Social media and the wondrous internet is here to stay. If these Gen B babies knew what was to come in the next ten years, they would put tin foil on their desks and jars of urine would be scattered all around them (Hassan joke).
Building a personal brand is an important aspect….and more importantly, if you’re going to become an influencer (or what to), this is imperative. Gary Vee has some insane stats in his book….
YouTube’s daily viewership is closing in on TV’s 1.25 billion hours per day, as television viewership falls every year.
One in every five minutes spent on mobile is spent on Facebook’s apps and services.
Every minute, 65,900 videos and photos are posted on Instagram.
Over 3 billion snaps are created each day on Snapchat, where over 60 percent of ads are watched with the audio on.
If you look at the likes of Logan Paul and Lilly Singh, they’re on the top of the grossing list, making tons by of course monetization. Look at Instagram. Look how many women are on there posing half-naked. Take a good count and just imagine how much they’re making by wearing or branding other people’s companies?
Although YouTube is a crazy market to break into, look how many views the channel by the name of “Top 5’s” is getting. He’s literally creating videos about top 5 everything around the world, and regardless of the dislikes that pour in, he’s making loads of money. I’m kind of kicking myself in the ass because back in 2012, I created a blog about my travels to Thailand (here), Japan, and Hawaii. Unfortunately I stopped….little did I know that could’ve expanded into a massive money-maker. Know that the opportunity is everywhere around you.
I’m an entrepreneur who built a $150 million media company in part because of my personal brand, which I developed by first creating valuable content that grew my influence. That’s one way to crush it. By all means, though, go ahead and make money over time by running ads, for example by selling ad space to a candy bar company. As your star rises, you could get paid $10k for placing a candy bar on your table while you work. But for God’s sake, don’t stop there. That’s where you start. Don’t leave money on the table because you don’t realize how much bigger you can get. How big? The internet is an entrepreneur’s oyster, and you can use its pearly platforms to build a personal brand so powerful that the world is not only willing to pay you for your products or services or to promote other people’s products and services, but also it might even be willing to pay you to just be you. To me, that is when you’ve become a true influencer. At its heigh, influencer marketing is reality TV 2.0. I want you to think of yourself as tomorrow’s newest star.
Who do you spend the most time with?
Honestly, ask yourself this question because within it lies the answer to all your sorrows. Are you constantly around negative people? Do I have to bring this up AGAIN? You are who your closest five friends are. Just do me a favor and drop one loser friend out of your life. Ok, if you don’t want to expunge the human being because he’s been your friend all your life, just reduce the amount of time you talk to him/her for. Go form speaking three times a day to him/her – to two times a day. It will make a difference.
When I first moved to Bangkok, I had no idea that I developed a hell of an intuition for the 11 months I was in Las Vegas (after my Australia visa finished). What happened was I had a friend. This friend had a “bad” job….not even sure how I met her (she was a soapy massage girl). When I met her for the second time ever, I saw the amount of bad energy she had. The feeling of pain (agony), discontent, anger, and depression that was around her was unbearable. I recall looking into her eyes at one point and I immediately looked away. When I left to my main province in job in southeast Thailand, I never spoke to her again.
Later, I had a couple friends by the name of Mook and Ploy who were very nice individuals. I realized then that I should probably be around nice people; rather than soapy massage girls (comical – I know).
Do you spend time around people who want more in life, or people who are considered “losers?”
Who are the people you most admire?
Ahhhh….the sound of Les Brown’s voice is amazing. Many of you reading this blog probably admire your parents, your best friends, even the dog down the road. By all means…we have different means of inspiration, but my parent (my mother…I don’t consider Willie my parent) fueled my inspiration in 2006 when she gave me all rights to my life. Magnificent human being. After that, I found my inspiration on YouTube in 2015 – the last year I constantly victimized myself. Lisa Nichols, Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Tim Ferris, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, and other books and videos disrupted my biochemistry and I began to believe in myself again – oh, most notably – Jack Canfield.
How about you? Do you admire sports stars? Or, do you admire historical figures of the past?
Are those two groups of people exactly the same?
They’re all the same in terms of inspiration and what they preach and teach about.
Eventually, over the course of x amount of months, whoever you spend time with most….you begin to eat what they eat, talk what they talk, walk how they walk, dress like they dress, treat people how they treat people, read what they read. You name it…you become it.
Think of a friend who orders the greasy food or cocktails before dinner (although I love me some oven-baked chicken and long islands from time-to-time), and if you hang out with them enough, you’ll know that it’s a very ugly habit. Just recently I met a girl who was saying, “I hate working out. It’s boring. It’s not fun. I’m lazy…and I like being fat.” Stay around someone like that long enough and you’ll become that person. Meanwhile, your other friends order healthy food and talk about the inspiring books they’re reading and their ambitions in their businesses, and you begin to assimilate their behaviors and habits. You read and talk about what they talk about, you see the movies they’re excited about, and you go to the places they recommend.
This was one of the biggest deciding factors in leaving America permanently. I knew if I had stuck around in my families sorrows, I too, would become part of their sorrows. The 11 months from June 2012 – May 2013 were some of the most difficult months of my life. The constant nagging, not having enough money comments, complaining about one’s boyfriend, bad-mouthing people from work….it wore me out. Luckily, I purchased a pair of Bose Headphones, which was one of the smartest purchases I’ve ever made in my life, in Australia earlier in 2012. Nonetheless, you can’t live a positive life around negative people.
So, ask yourself now: “what’s the combined average income, health, and attitudes of the people you spend the most time with?”
When I was in Australia last year, my ex-friend (yeah, my ex-friend) had become a nurse. Her income was much more than mine, but it inspired me. My best friend in New York makes more than me. That also inspires me. Those are, or were my closest friends. I don’t have to worry about this because I’m around my students the majority of the time. So after a long work day, I don’t go hang out with friends because I have to prepare everything for the next day.
However, you….the reader….you need to write down the names of those five people. Write down the main characteristics. Look at where they’re going in life, the relationships they have with other people. Is that list ok for you. Are you heading in the right direction?
I was on the BTS Skytrain in the heart of Bangkok glaring out one of the windows just before the evening when I heard Valuetainment talking about the morning rituals of a lot of successful people. Having already made a couple of blogs and podcasts on morning routine, I know this could become redundant until I saw what Napoleon Hill had done for his.
First: I drink a cup of hot water when I first get up in the morning, before I have breakfast.
Second: My breakfast consists of rolls made of whole wheat and bran, breakfast cereal, fruit, soft-boiled eggs once in a while, and coffee. For lunch I eat vegetables (most any kind), whole wheat bread and a glass of buttermilk. Supper, a well-cooked steak once or twice a week, vegetables, especially lettuce, and coffee.
Third: I walk an average of ten miles a day: five miles into the country and five miles back, using this period for meditation and thought. Perhaps the thinking is as valuable, as a health build, as the walk.
Fourth: I like across a straight bottom chair, flat on my back, with most of my weight resting on the small of my back, with my head and arms relaxed completely, until they almost touch the floor. This gives the nervous energy of my body an opportunity to balance properly and distribute itself, and ten minutes in this position will completely relieve all signs of fatigue, no matter how tired I may be.
Fifth: I take a hot shower bath, followed immediately by a cold shower, every day, usually in the morning when I first get up.
After reading through this in Napoleon Hill’s book, the fifth one capture my eyes. Just yesterday I heard Patrick Bet-David talking about Tony Robbins plunge into cold water for one-minute before jumping into hot water. He, unlike most people, is one of the very few people that do the plunge. I had no idea where he got it, but now I do.
He goes on to talk about the importance of keeping his health in tip-top shape, although not laying so much stress upon the importance of keeping the intestines clean. He does it by drinking water.
For more than fifteen years at the time of writing, there wasn’t a day that went by that he got a headache.
I love the way he put it in his book.
You cannot be a person of action if you permit yourself to go without proper physical attention until auto-intoxication takes your brain and kneads it into an inoperative mass that resembles a ball of putty. Neither can you be a person of action if you eat the usual devitalized concoction called “white bread: *which has had all the real food value removed from it and twice as much meat as your system can digest and properly dispose of.
You cannot be a person of action if you run to the pill bottle every time you have, or imagine you have, an ache or pain, or swallow an aspirin tablet every time your intestines call on your brain for a douche bag of water and a spoonful of salt for cleansing purposes.
You cannot be a person of action if you overeat and under-exercise.
You cannot be a person of action if you read the patent medicine booklets and begin to imagine yourself ailing with the symptoms described by the clever advertisement writer who has reached your pocket book through the power of suggestion.
I will reiterate about the enemy which you must conquer before it conquers you – worry.
Worry, envy, jealousy, hatred, doubt, fear….all of these are states of mind that are fatal to taking action.
Any of these can destroy the digestive process and cause physical damage, just as Dale Carnegie said in his ‘How To Stop Worrying And Start Living’ book. Stomach ulcers…ring a bell?
To keep myself in a positive frame of mind, I’ve discovered a very effective “gloom-chaser.”
Five minutes of this sort of mental and physical exercise can free yourself from all negative tendencies.
When Lewis Howes sat down with Tony Robbins on a few instance, I still remember the story Tony told. I know this story from the back of my mind, and shockingly enough, Sir John Templeton (who I gave a bad rap on his Tedx for because his on-stage presence and attire – lol!) told him about the essence of giving.
What’s that story?
“I said, ‘Hi,’ I think he said his name was Ronny, and I said, ‘Ronny, you’re a class act. I saw you open the door for your lady, I saw you hold out the chair for your lady.’ He goes, ‘She’s my mom.’ I said, ‘That’s even more classy.’”
Tony commended him for taking his mom out to lunch. The kid looked at him with a serious face the way young kids do who haven’t learned how to joke around yet, and he said, “I’m not really taking her to lunch. I’m just 11 and I don’t have a job.”
Without even thinking about it, Tony gave the kid all the money in his pocket—basically all he had left in the world—so he could take his mother out to lunch. Then he walked out of the restaurant and went on with his life.
Think about that: Tony had no money, no way to pay his rent, and he was going to have to consider going hungry for his next several meals. Yet he was euphoric. He told me he basically flew home, he felt so proud of himself.
The next day, he checked his mail and found a letter from a guy he’d been hounding about a business transaction for months, who hadn’t returned his calls. In the letter was a check for $1,000 plus interest, and an apology.
Tony began to cry. How could something like that happen? Were the two events related? He told me he decided that they were:
“I don’t know if it’s true, but I decided that day that this happened because I did the right thing. Because I didn’t have a plan, it wasn’t a strategy, I always felt this little soul beside me, I knew what was right, and I did it. I didn’t do it because I thought I could or I couldn’t, I didn’t even think about it, and that’s the day I became a wealthy man, because I still didn’t have any money, but scarcity left my body. I’ve had plenty of ups and downs since that time, but I never went back to that fearful mindset of, “Oh my God, how’s it going to happen?” – Tony Robbins
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
Lewis Howes went on to say that what Tony was describing at that present time was the Material Mask being ripped off. It was no longer about him, his indecision, scarcity and being broke on so many levels because of wanting the luxury of things.
When Lewis Howes did the interview in Tony’s private jet, Tony didn’t talk so much about the figures, but more about what his accomplishments and especially feeding people all over the planet. There was a time that a neighbor gave his family a full thanksgiving dinner – which was too much to bear for his father, whom later walked out on Tony and his mother. Can you imagine that? Since then, Tony went on a venture to feed as many people around the planet as he can.
Do you hear about those humanitarian rewards with Tai?
What Can You Do Right Now?
“What we need to realize is that we are valuable, regardless of what we have. We need to recognize that, while living behind the Material Mask, there will never be such a thing as “enough” when it comes to a sufficient sense of self-worth as a man.” – Lewis Howes
Here is what you can do to practice gratitude on a daily basis. I do many of these myself, and you can start them right now:
1.When you wake up, take out your journal and write down three things for which you’re grateful.
2.Before you go to sleep, ask the last person you talk to three things they are most grateful for from the day, and in reply tell them what you are grateful for from the day too.
3.My voicemail message asks people to share what they are most grateful for when they leave a message. Feel free to copy the idea.
4.Start meetings with your team or business partners with a moment that allows everyone to share what they are grateful for.
5.Acknowledge people daily with a few words that express what you’re grateful for about them.”
Excerpt From: Lewis Howes. “The Mask of Masculinity.” iBooks.
“Twelve years ago I had a wonderful assistant, Kathleen. She earned $40,000 a year at the time. She was tasked to manage the registration table situated at the back of the room during one of my lectures on entrepreneurship and wealth building. The next week she came into my office. “I heard you talk about saving 10 percent of everything you earn,” she told me. “That sounds nice, but there is no way I could do that. It’s totally unrealistic!” She proceeded to tell me about all her bills and financial obligations. After she wrote them all out, it was obvious there really wasn’t any money left over at the end of the month. “I need a raise,” she said.
“I’ll do better than that,” I told her. “I’m going to teach you how to become wealthy.” It wasn’t the answer she was looking for, but she agreed.
I taught Kathleen how to track her spending, and she began to carry her notebook. I told her to open a separate savings account with only $33—just 1 percent of her existing monthly income. I then showed her how to live on $33 less the next month—bring in her own lunch just one day a week instead of going downstairs to the deli and ordering a sandwich, chips, and a drink. The next month I had her save only 2 percent ($67). She saved the additional $33 by changing her cable subscription service. The next month we went up to 3 percent. We canceled her subscription to People magazine (it was time to study her own life), and instead of going to Starbucks twice a week, I told Kathleen to buy the Starbucks beans and other fancy fixings and make her own coffee in the office (she grew to like that even better—me too!).
By the end of the year, Kathleen was saving 10 percent of every dollar she earned without noticing a significant impact on her lifestyle. She was amazed! That one discipline also had a ripple effect on many other disciplines in her life. She calculated what she spent on mind-numbing entertainment and began investing that money on personal growth instead. After feeding her mind with several hundred hours of inspirational and instructional content, her creativity started to soar. She brought me several ideas on how we could make and save more money in our organization. She presented me with a plan that she would implement in her spare time, if I promised to reward her with 10 percent of all the money-saving strategies and 15 percent of all the new revenue strategies that proved profitable. By the end of the second year, she was earning more than $100,000 a year—on the same $40,000 base salary. Kathleen eventually started her own independent contract service business that took off. I ran into Kathleen at an airport two years ago. She now earns more than a quarter of a million dollars a year and has saved and created more than $1 million in assets—she’s a millionaire! All starting from the choice to take one small step and start saving $33 a month!”
Excerpt From: Darren Hardy. “The Compound Effect.” iBooks.
See how it works? It’s the little steps. I’m not telling everyone to save a whopping 20-40% of your salary each month. I’m not even saying 15%….but saving incremental one’s there and one’s here will add up to the significant amount. I always take good care of my monthly subscriptions. I limit myself to going to my favorite Italian restaurant. I make sure I don’t buy anything completely outlandish if I don’t need it. All these little things have added up to a savings account whereas if I look at it — I go “DAMNNNNNN!”
Time Is of The Essence – Tony Robbins Video On Compounding
In This video, Tony talks about starting at particular ages, but what it all comes down to is you can start saving little-by-little now and reap the rewards.
It was a potential trip to Singapore – resulting in a completely botched trip because of a friend pulling a hiatus and me saying to myself, “well, Arsenio….you spent about 300-400$ USD on this trip to stay in a hotel with a “friend” and her apparent boyfriend. Are you sure you don’t want to go?”
“Ok, well I’m going to put something in your life and it’s up to you to find it.”
It was like the universe speaking to me; only then I realized that the keyword was “library.”
I recall getting in a minivan stuffed up with 13 other people and headed into the heart of the city to go to a bookstore. Asia Books, which is one of the most famous bookstores here in Thailand, was a goliath sitting in it’s lonesome at the end of the shopping plaza. I walked in and went straight to the self-development section.
There it was. Napoleon Hill’s Law of Success staring at me. First thing I noticed was that it was MASSIVE. We’re talking more than 500 pages; and the pages were BIG! Just a couple months earlier I heard Will Smith mention Paulo Coelho’s book “The Alchemist,” which was standing unscathed right next to Napoleon’s book. I snagged both off the bookshelf, had some wondrous Mexican food, and booked it home to start the reading.
That was the beginning. Just a few months later, Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles made it’s way into my lap on top of a few others such as Lisa Nichols’ Abundance Now, Tony Robbins Money: Master The Game, and Dale Carnegie’s The Art of Public Speaking.
Since then, my life has completely changed, and it all came from a small shift in my awareness.